Mother Left In Tears After Bride Opts For Dress Chosen By Bridesmaid | Say Yes To The Dress Atlanta 

Exactly.......I felt really bad for her

If I was the mom I would’ve told her friend, YOU ARE GONNA PAY THE REST OF THE DRESS ALONG WITH THE FIXING . Lmao

I agree. She should pay. Worst friend ever.

Definitely the bridesmaids didn't even consider the mother feelings at all. If she's so bent on not liking any dress but that one then you should pay for it.

It totally ruined the experience for the mom. Yes, it's the bride's day, but the bride's mother should also have a very positive experience.

Totally

I agree

I was crying too

Absolutely! At least now everybody watching this will know... Hope her future fiancee watches this first to get how entitled she is.

If the friends really wanted her to have it why don't they make up the difference...ijs

I totally agree she should come up with it since she thinks it's not too much over budget.

Horrible! Her entourage should chip in for the extra $1,000 if they have to take up a collection from all their friends. Spoiled brats, all of them!

My thoughts exactly!

She and the others trying to make the decision of the prospective bride are all WRONG! The notion that a WEDDING dress must show so much cleavage and other measures of nudity is not a thing that the very institution of marriage should embrace. The church where the wedding will most likely take place is supposed to be a holy refuge and those entering it ought to be reverential towards it. All of a sudden those wedding dresses became a thing of decadence and disgust. Pay attention behind those creating those dresses that allows those boops to easily fly away from the chest of the bride. It is subliminal pornograpy which even those so called Christians can hardly discern. Cover up your body on your wedding day. It is NOT an exhibition.

@@dezziliodevellini9533 I agree; it's all become distorted and decadent. Surprisingly enough, more and more young people are simply not getting married. Instead, they are making personal commitments to one another and living their lives just like or better than married people. As long as children are well taken care of it does not matter if the couple are married or not.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one yelling at the tv over this one. That "friend" has some nerve. The only - the ONLY - way she could have saved the experience was to say "I'm sorry I went over budget; I'll pay the difference". Can't imagine that happening with that one, though. Grrrrrrr; so angry right now. That poor, sweet mother; she did NOT deserve that.

Nah.... She wont ever say nor feel sorry. She is a true jerk.

The saleslady should have known the exact price of their budget and the cost of this dress!!! She should have warned the bride before she even tried it on!!! So I blame both the friend and the saleslady!! Her poor sweet mom being put on the spot like that!!

@@katherineleonowski7289 The bride is to blame, the same as the friend. If you go back to the start, her mother says the budget is fixed and the daughter says something along the line of "we'll see about that. I'm her only child". She would have tried it on no matter what.

I hope the bride opened her wallet, she’s old enough to buy her own dress

Exactly...the woman saying this should either take ownership of her words or stop calling herself a "friend".

The mother didn't need to get hysterical that much..She already spoiled her Daughter, she only crying because her daughter loved the dress from the Bridesmaid instead

She should uninvite those girls to save the extra money to pay for it. Problem solved!

@@christopherhope7227 You know the mother personally? You're the only one here jumping to that conclusion.

@@christopherhope7227 nope. The mom said herself that she loved the dress and would buy it if she could afford it.

That's FORTY PERCENT over budget.

The daughter is a brat. No other dress will do..oh please. How stupid. And the so-called friends? Oh my goodness, just go away.

That was terrible 😞.

@@kathyradford7187 & what pissed me off is when her mom went into the room to talk to her, she was smiling & goggling. That was a low blow to her mother

Her bridesmaids were out of line. $1000 over budget is a lot. Keep trying dresses in the amount your mother can afford. When I saw the mother crying, it broke my heart. Not fair to the mother.

She said she was gonna pay for it herself so it doesn't matter.

@@user-xe1nr6er5q no, she didn't. She said she was gonna get those extra funds and come back for it. Didn't say work and save the money. Maybe from the future husband or, most likely, work some more on her mother.

I think she did realize how hurtful her mother was but she’s used to get away with her wants. Sorry, but sweet mommy has created a selfish woman.

I would replace the word "stupid" with "heartless". If that bride let it get to the point where her lovely mother was crying with guilt, then that bride has no heart.

How are you extra hella grown and NOT realize your Mom is tight on a budget...I hope she took a beat to comprehend that she had probably stretched & taxed her mom many times before.

Its not much over, budget-2500....dress-3500....friend-spiteful bitch, you think this is ok? You frickin pay it, I bet she wont even help towards it

@@SupportMensMentalHealth Exactly! That had to be one of the most entitled statements I have ever heard. And no matter how much she she liked the dress, going on and on about how much better this dress is only makes the mother feel worse. What a bunch of assholes!

She’s cruel

At 34 she should buy her own dress instead of making her mother pay!

It’s a different world now.. making your mother cry is fine these days

i am an olnly child too. i would never try to push my parents into buying something over budget. also, my parents made it clear that once you are 18, you are off the family pay roll. at 34 she should at the very least make up the difference in price herself

I totally agree with your wise comment. Ciao from Italy 🇮🇹

She said she is goin to work on the extra money to get the dress she wasn't asking her mom to do anything more, she understood her mom couldn't go over budget that's why she said "When I want something I work to get it" then said at the end "Mom it's say yes to dress but not yes to the dress today" how do y'all watch these videos and don't understand them

That's weird Cultur they have why tf the mom pays for the wedding. In our culture if the guy wants to marry the bride he pays and she helps with the cost and actually the family of both side from (uncle, cousin friends) they all pay what they can even afford for the furnitures and the wedding party. It's like teamwork.

Totally agree. In this case this bridesmaid should pay extra 1k as she picked this dress and didn't care abt the budget or both bridesmaid and bride should pay not only ab extra 1k but for the whole dress.

@@MJ-xk2nk Ur so right!!!!

Amen to that!

L it

Or get the friend to pay on it.

Omg that’s what I said. She should just pay for it herself.

@@jmpresco yes, and she wasn’t even considering her mom’s budget even after her mom cried

That's what I said too, 34 years old acting like that... shame on her and her friends.

My exact thoughts!

I was 27 and I paid for my own dress. I never once even considered asking my parents.

Exactly!!!! Poor mom…😢

The daughter said that she would come up with the extra money to pay for it and come back and get it

But the daughter is going to work for the extra money. Mom is still doing the majority of it but the daughter realizes she has to work for the rest. Which I think is why she looked at mom and said not today.

She's going to pay the balance

I agree@ She should not have put the dress back on, knowing how upset her Mom was about not being able to afford it. She hadn't tried on that many dresses yet. They could have found another less expensive one she liked a lot.

That would be a lottt of coins

I only asked my parents to help me decide on my first and second wedding dresses. I had my own money and I paid for the dress because they paid for the first wedding and helped with the divorce. The second time I did it all; dress and wedding. I invited my parents to enjoy the wedding and not stress. My second marriage has been wonderful - all 26 years together.

EXACTLY or AT LEAST cover the difference!! Crazy

She’s going to. That’s why she can’t say yes today. She’s going to come up with the difference. Beautiful relationship

Agree...

For real. $2,500 is a LOT to spend on a dress for most people, and the mother probably felt like she was spoiling her daughter already. Picking something way out of budget made her feel like her best wasn't enough.

You’re a good daughter. Your mother should be proud to know she raised such a smart and beautiful woman!

@@angrydonutface7420 that’s how I saw it too. Mom was giving $2,500. That’s a lot of money! For a dress! You wear once! It seemed like her “friends” forgot the budget and went a little over board. They “bested” the mom, they should pay the difference. I thought it was kind of tacky for her friends to do that.

@@jennifermurdock945 You are so correct and the bridesmaid saying $500 isn't a lot. They didn't say they would add the balance for her to get it. From the time I saw the caption and then the bridesmaid, sorry, I didn't like her.

Well said. That mum told the store that it was $2500 limit and she should have stuck to that despite the bridesmaids.

I have a feeling that she was going to "get those extra funds" by guilting her mother into it. Such a sad story. The poor mother has given this child too much over the years, it looks like, and now she's got a monster on her hands. Also, I'm a teacher, and I could certainly swing the cost of that dress on my own or I wouldn't get it!

@@josi4251 Exactly I would have thought the girl would have said, I will be happy to pay the difference. So sad for the mum.

as an only child too, that daughter gives the rest of us a very bad rep. that so called friend was no friend. she was rude, disrespectful and didn’t even offer to pay the difference. so called friend meet Karma.

@@joycedavis9996 Agreed! The bride is the kind of only child that gives the rest of us "only's" the reputation of being spoiled brats. "I'm an only child, so I usually get what I want" - she said that at the very beginning of the appointment, so that was a big red flag right there.

And she can’t do math. She said “what’s 500 more dollars?” Then how come she didn’t have the pocket change that is 500-1000 dollars to give? It’s so easy right?

1500 more I don't know what she was thinking

Exactly!

And on top of being over budget you have to figure on the veil and alterations costing and extra bundle. If her friend thought "what's and extra $500" maybe she should have volunteered to pay for the overage. That sweet little momma was so heartbroken, how could someone put her in such an uncomfortable spot?

@@debstrout1844 yep. I've only seen maybe 3 people step up and pay the difference

Das sehe ich ganz genauso. Die Freundinnen sollten sich schämen. I live this mom.👍

Yes, but you sign up for that if you agree to be on a television show… some people ( usually introverts) are very sensitive…

@@molliwilson5639 as an introvert myself, I would be in shambles. I have social anxiety, so I could never subject myself to this kind of pain.

​@@molliwilson5639 I really don't think the mother expected this turn of events. I "assume" she expected her daughter to stick to the agreed upon budget. I don't think they should have filmed that scene. There was no purpose for it to be aired except to show a mother in a very vulnerable & private moment. They should have given mother & daughter a few minutes of privacy to discuss the financial matter. Whether you are an introvert or not, subjecting a mother to what must have been an embarrassing and hurtful situation was cruel. I'm not sensitive, but I guarantee if I was in that exact situation the minute I started to cry, I would have left the room, gone outside and not had that conversation with my child on a televised program. I think they were totally disrespectful to that lovely woman. A woman that would have loved to be in a financial position to afford that dress. I can imagine the fear that rushed through her knowing she could not come up nor save another grand in time. I would also never hurt my mother by putting on the dress she couldn't afford and walking back out in it knowing that when she looked at me during the wedding or my wedding pictures even 20 years down the road, this would be her memory. I would have searched every bridal shop, in every county near me until my mother and I found a dress within the agreed upon budget that I loved just as much, if not more. Apologies for the novel but as a single mother I felt this woman's pain.

Yep! I was 27 when I got married- and I paid for everything except the reception.... I paid for dress, flowers, car, drinks, invitations, photos...

In discussing the budget for the dress that bride and her mother and the group should have figured out how much each was going to contribute to the more expensive dress and if the group did not want to do that then the bride should have going with the dress that fit the budget.

I’m 18, and single female. But sometimes parents do offer as a wedding present to pay for the dress. I’ve jokingly have talked about weddings with my mother and said had said she is more than willing to pay. So maybe that’s what the mother did?? Idk though..just thought I should put my opinion and outlook on this situation. I’m sorry. But my heart does break for the mother.

@@EH23831 I agree and did the same at 18. If I was old enough to get married, I was old enough to pay for it.

@@nineiza8602 its lovely that your mam has offered to help pay towards your wedding (mine didnt pay a penny, I was 25 though) but you're 18 and this is a 34 year old woman with a professional career. She knew the budget, her bi**h of a friend knew it but they literally broke that poor mothers heart for a dress that looked tacky. I hope when you do get married you have a wonderful life 🧡

Above is a link and the bride wore a different dress at her wedding.

Annette Malaski There is a link somewhere here and a photo of the girl at her wedding and she wore a different dress. At her age she should have had enough money to buy her own dress.

That bridesmaid was snd is NO friend!!!!!!!!!!!

That daughter deserves the friends she has.

Horrible daughter

And to be honest, that dress didn’t suit her, it made her belly look big

She’s clearly spoiled!!! C L E A R L Y!!

She wasn't really smiling in that kind of way, maybe she didn't know any other reactions. But yes, wtf, the poor mother was falling apart that the dress was over budget!!!

Disgusting daughter your mum is crying x

I think you meant 'prerequisite," something that is required as a condition before something else. A 'perquisite' is another name for 'perk,' a bonus, an extra, et.

@@jb6712 OMG. That is what I meant. Thanks!

@@jb6712 he did say prerequisite and not perquisite

I like how she’s going to make the extra money. Mom obviously adores her.

You obviously never heard of a dowry...

If the dress was not too far over budget the brides made should have coughed up the difference maybe then she would have learned about sticking to a budget and the real cost of things. Growing there was a lot of things i wished that my parents could have had to buy. But they were raising 3 kids and making sure the house payments were made so we could keep the house. and car payments that there was not enough to pay for frills. My parents said if you wanted to by liquor, cigarettes or own a car you would have to pay for the price of the car, the gas, insurance and any car repairs that are necessary you would have to pay for.

She said she was going to work for the rest of the money and buy the dress at a later date. Geesh... chill out. She also told her mom that it was okay.

@@boparks3204 I bet she gets more money off her mam though (just my opinion) they all knew the budget and after seeing her mother sob like that over the dress I couldnt bear to put it back on, the image of my mam crying like that would have ruined it for me personally. She knew it upset her mam yet she put it back on 'jacked up' with veil etc adding to the cost. I think she could have kept looking and found something beautiful and in budget if she tried, and again, personally, the bride moment would have been spoilt by my mam being so devastated and I would have to find another dress. Plus 34 years old is not a child, you are not a child at that age, she has a professional job with a reasonably good income so I'm not sure why she has her mam paying anyway and if it's a wedding gift she should respect her mothers budget, that friend should be ashamed of herself "it's not too much over budget $500" no lady its $1000 over and if it's not much then you pay it!

Just what I would have told her. . .

@@boparks3204 but went & put 9n the dress. Anyway!& look to her mother when the question was ask are u saying yes to the dress! Bet she did not add a PENNY to the dress. She said ok & did the opposites! grace to all.gh

What's her fb ?

In the end, she probably can’t afford the dress 😂

and a child?

Do you know if the bridesmaid ever apologized?

@@HK-ny8pr No I don't.

& the so-called bride was laughing like she was laughing all the way to the bank. She got me so angry

I told my bridesmaids up front , no going over budget! I wouldn’t even try it on. I

Nasty. Your mother is paying for your dress and there's a budget.... you stay within that budget.

I think it was wrong for the bridesmaids to even bring out a dress over budget, even if they were willing to pay the difference. It was MOM'S gift; it should not be a gift from mom + some others. $2500 is a huge amount of money, enough to buy a beautiful wedding dress. Stick to the budget.

Agreed

Especially in Public!

The bride is 34 years old, she should pay the difference herself!

I'm with Kylie! The bride picked the dress she should be the one paying for it. It's not the friend's responsibility.

On tv with some hungry camera man dancing around you like that too...

pshaw! That 34 year old is acting like she's ten! Find something in the budget--I would be SO ticked if my daughter did this and DIDN'T plan on at least paying the difference!

Couldnt agree more

The "friend" was very disrespectful of the bride's lovely mother. Shame on her.

yes.

Let’s see if they feel the same about their bridesmaid attire!

This! SPOT ON!!!

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!

The bride said she would work to get the additional funds which is the perfect solution. The bridesmaids were ridiculous.

Too true cough up missy x

i think thats what the bride ment at the end that she's going to work for the rest and "come back"

With that much love, it's not possible to let her down.

For the cameras. Over-budget dresses are a sure way to delicious drama, which seems to be Atlanta's schtick. The consultants are very good at not suggesting over-budget dresses (except as a last resort) but if it's picked by a friend or relative, their hands are tied (at least that's how they act)

They want money. THey usually pick over priced dresses themselves.

I didn't actually see the so-called "friend" approach the Consultant to ask or mention that she' was going to pick out another dress. Did she even ask anybody before she went looking? I'm just saying. If not, then can't blame the Consultant if the bridesmaid went rogue. I'm just asking...

Great question! It was in the consultant's power to control the whole situation before it even happened. Let's get the money straight, before we proceed in trying on dresses we cannot afford.

I can't believe the staff wasn't paying better attention to the pricing! Look at the mother's face. That is the look of total devestation!

And, you don't KNOW how much TIME you're going to have with her either. Is a dress worth having that memory forever etched in your memory what you want when your mama's gone? NO!!

Ms. Lefin , say that again! Thank u .grace to u & all.

Some friend, to put the brides lovely mum in that embarrassing position, if she can't respect the budget, she should pay the extra. So selfish, and thoughtless, 😥

I agree- really sad for her to be in this position.

Same

She did understood her mom after she realize how much it hurt her mom that is why she said she was gonna work to get the extra funds

Amen i was. The only girl. And felt 1000 was to much. I planned on buying it myself...but my parents did. As a gift...

Same

I don't think I could enjoy my wedding knowing the dress had upset my mother so much- and for a good reason

And the way she said "I haven't let you down?" between her sobs had me in tears. That mother is the kindest, most loving, sweetest woman on the planet and I would give anything for her to be my mother. If I had the PRIVILEGE to have a great mother in my life, I would NEVER make her cry like this. Not ever.

@@carmendebenedictis-larue6250 yes me too, she has such a big heart and beautiful soul, she didn’t deserve to be treated like that

@@carmendebenedictis-larue6250 Amen!

Right exactly

Agree

Exactly

Yeah... she also said "it is little over budget".

They even kept saying "a little over" budget. $1000 is not "a little"😑

No doubt! What an inconsiderate "friend". And all quiet when Mom is struggling. She should have fronted the "little over budget" costs!

She said she was going to work and save to make up the difference .

I agree

Exactly. The bride & the bridesmaid should pay the difference.

I also wondered that too. It’d be just a reminder of what she can’t give her daughter. She should have never put it back on and come out in it.

I felt like she was punishing her mom. Selfish.

I think the Bride's plan is to save up the extra $1,000 and pay the difference, based on how it ended.

How was the bride disrespectful? She didn't know it was over budget and when she found out she said she's gonna pay herself.

@@user-xe1nr6er5q I noticed you defending here in multiple comments, so let me try to answer your question from my POV. There were several moments that I consider disrespectful behavior by the bride to her mother. 1) overriding her budget because you're an only-child. She meant it, when she said it, it wasn't said in a funny way. 2) her mom was so happy with her pick and even though the bride was in every right to try a different one, she should've appreciated her mother more for choosing an almost perfect dress. 3) when her mom poured her heart out the bride just stood there with a facial expression of "umm what u doin? Ewww are you crying? Please just stop." Even when she embraced her mother her face was cold. The viewers (myself included) however were all in tears as well because this was such a heart-beaking moment to see the mom being solo loving and disappointed in herself. 4) when she had the chance to put on a third dress, she didn't even try to find a different dress or prepare her mother in private for the fact that she will choose the overpriced dress nonetheless. It was a kick in the face to come out in the dress like this again. You could tell by the fact that mom didn't know what to make of it, after she had just calmed down. It's cool the chose to make up the difference on her own but it wasn't what her mom wanted and it should've been discussed to consider her mom's feelings. But that is the key point of this episode and what the viewers criticise: the bride is to self-centered to consider her mom's feelings. Or at least that's how she comes across here. There.. I hope this helps you understand.

@@piippiixD she didn't purposely go over budget her freind did and the bride said she's going to pay the extra money on it anyway. And did you want the daughter to cry with her mom? Not everyone is emotional like that.

@@user-xe1nr6er5q I never said she purposefully went over budget. I only said that she was prepared to do so despite her mother having set a boundary and at least in the beginning expecting her mom to be ok with it and pay up. That the dress was over budget in the end clearly wasn't her fault. And yes she did take responsibility and payed up herself. I never denied that. And no, I didn't "want" her to cry, to me and apparently to a lot of other viewers, it just seemed cold, despite her claiming in the beginning that they were so close. Might have only been the editing of the video, but you asked what we saw and I tried to answer from my POV.

WHY did they put her in it? They are the professionals- they know better!

Exactly. It bugs me that the consultants continually do that. It's all about the commission. Plus they must pay for alterations!!

Imagine guilting your mom for an EXTRA $1000 for a dress you'll only wear for one day 😒

I know! I'm the only girl and the baby of the family. At 25 I paid for my own dress out of pocket. And even if someone decided to pay for my dress as a gift, I would still respect the budget. I really don't get why people have a hard time respecting other people's wallets.

@@amidthephantomsrose exactly

Ms. Ruth. Say it! Grace to u & all. gh

I've seen a number of similar comments about this particular shop. Thieves they are. Shameful.

Exactly, the uk one with David Emanuel always does the same…. It’s just rude! Gok never does that!

How did her daughter treat her? She was gonna pay for it