Recent Divorce Makes Mother Feel Left Out Of Daughters Dress Shopping | Say Yes To The Dress Atlanta 

not at all how i see it, not at all how it happened in my case either. mom will say shit like "i left your dad, not you" but doesn't actually DO anything to back that up. no shit daughter got sick of it and turned to her new family for the support she should've been getting from mom all along.

Exactly, why can't ppl understand that, and the fact that the mom was trying to brush it off as nothing clearly shows just how much love she has for her daughter and MIL should have respect if she wants it

Yeah, it really hurt to hear the consultant say that. Terrible script/editing of that part of this episode.

@@dietotaku She said that she tried to call her daughter and keep in touch but her daughter kept pushing her away so your point isn’t that credible.

@@dietotaku this weeb again???

Me too

Same here I almost cried

It seems like they have a complicated backstory. Maybe the daughter has good reasons for not involving her mom more, but I also felt for the mother. At least she came around in the end.

Having had a mother from he11, I think that there's probably a really good reason the bride has turned to her future mil for support.

@@AFAskygoddess or maybe the girl is childish and doesnt want to accept her mum's choice of separation and wants a way to get back at her. Her behaviour and smirky smile in this video when the mum was hurt was really condescending,

Exactly 👌 She still a spoiled brat How is she gonna handle arguments with her husband????

@@somebody7070 exactly he will make her want he mother in her life 24/7when reality starts to hit

@@jaleciaconnell3100 yep yep yep I wish them a great life together but when and of she grows up she's gonna regret so much treating her mother like that but she won't be able to turn back time :/

@@somebody7070 I wish them the best too but God doesn't like when we disrespect our parents because she too will be a parent and that's the most trying some part of life and for her sake I hope the other woman stays by her side cause she has broken her mother's heart to the core that in its self is disrespectful

Completely agree.

The mom has kept her mouth shut and the daughter and her mother-in-law still have the nerve to act like a bunch of high school students. Your mother-in-law didn't raise you. Your real mom did that. It might be your special day but act your age and stop being a brat. I hope one day you will read our comments and realize how much you hurt your own mother.

ABSOLUTELY TRUE.

I agree

then she should have made even the slightest effort to understand her daughter's taste in dresses.

@@dietotaku You certainly seem to have an axe to grind. Is this your family? The bride seemed to make comments that were unnecessarily hurtful to the mom. From my own personal history, this reminds me of a situation of grooming before abuse. This bride is coming from a broken home, and the MIL is love bombing her, and also being catty and rude to the mother to further distance the bride from her family. I would not be surprised if the husband turned out to be an abuser in this situation.

“I don’t even know why I’m here.” That hurt too

@@TinaShmina yup

@Truth Seeker I wearing a jumpsuit I made on my own

It’s not about being old. Based on the way her mom said “I left your daddy I didn’t leave you” she very obviously feels like mom instigated the divorce. Divorce is really painful on the kids and it’s that pain that’s making her lash out like this. I hope she apologized later for her poor behavior

She’s 19 💀

@@zohabaig6426 oh I’m pretty, sure she is not, going to apologize to her Mother. Her overbearing, disgusting, mother in law will see to it. Unbelievable behaviour coming from these two people who are supposed to be a adults, smh…🤮.

And MIL is all to happy to step in too quickly

True that! Two months is nothing

I completely agree. The daughter just replaced her bio mom with her step mom. The feeling of just kicking your real mom, who raised you, it really is a slap in the face.

She's not step mom she's future mother in law

@@tejaswinipeeta7615 Even worse.

The girl is closer to her father and even her future mother in law. Mom has not even been in the bride’s life or help her to plan the wedding. Just because she has the title of mother doesn’t mean the poor bride has to chose her choice.

Amen, very well said!!

that is the very basic of it ...you have a lot to learn in emotional dynamics...the mum was in an impossible position as th ML was immature and should have supported the daughter and for he not to take the mothers role in such a silly childish manner....was the mother to see this and not have feelings she needed some time to speak with her daughter and then the TV crew went in an said she ruined it THIS IS TERRIBLE!!!

Omg….right!!!! She tried to say nothing was wrong but they kept asking her and asking her.

Thank you! Why invite her if you're going to make her feel invisible and treat her like she doesn't matter. The bride and the MIL literally came in with photos but they didnt communicate with the Mom what they were looking at or what they were looking for? If the mother daughter relationship is that strained why bring your mom along?

@@austinuttilie5328 Why wasn't Mom included in advance. She could have been with the bride & MIL while looking online - even remotely, if they don't live close to one another.

i agree 100%

if she's anything like my mom, she would have been even more insulted to be left at home and thrown an even bigger tantrum. i left my mom out of a lot of the decision-making in my wedding because when i tried to include her, she just wanted me to follow her orders and made fun of MY choices - at one point she asked if she should come to the wedding in a costume because i picked a date 3 days from halloween (due to my preferred date being unavailable). i had already decided on a dress when i took her with me to try it on so there wasn't anything for her to say about it, but you can bet your ass i would have heard no end to it if i'd gone alone (or, god forbid, actually taken my fiance with me). as far as mocking the mom's choice, there wouldn't have been anything to mock if she knew the slightest thing about what her daughter liked. mom failed to keep the lines of communication open, failed to make her daughter feel like she was a safe place to come to for input, and then blamed the daughter for getting that support somewhere else.

Because she wanted to hurt her.

Chill guys .. its a scripted show ... n btw how can they have a private moment with cameras in a dressing room

Exactly it was bad

@FAKOKTA Exactly, I was internally screaming "she said nothing is wrong she's supporting your choice even though it's tough for her, so leave her alone why keep pushing???" As for why she kept pushing... I thought the *best* case scenario is that she just has/had low emotional intelligence to not being able to pick up on her mum's reason of frustration and wanted everything to be spelt out for her. She was only 19! Gosh.

True!! I was like WT if my daughter do this to me.. can I live with it...

Exactly. You can tell she is a daddy’s girl and mad at her mom for leaving him, but she needs to understand her mom is not obligated to be with a man she doesn’t love anymore. And like her mom said I left him not you. I feel like she wanted to punish her mom. Smh

I can agree on this

100% agree

Absolutely.

yes exactly what im saying.That makes mom sound bitter when its not the case.the daughter was mad at mum for leaving dad and so she purposely chose her dress with new stepmom knowing mum would be upset..all to get a reaction and her attention.bottom line is,it wasnt really about the dress..they were upset at each other..still unresolved issues.im glad they working through it though.

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Yes that is something to respect her for

Exactly but mom told her the situation she didn't left her and go just so it's just a few months and the mother in law take because of what the daughter said to them shame on her if it was me I would not go to see her in the dress or married it look like the mother in law have alot in her life which should not happen 75 /25

Me too. I wanted to give her a hug :(

True, she crearly didn't want to talk about how hurt she is in front of everyone...and the daughter just smiles and told her like 5 times "Tell me, tell me" 🙄🙄

@@monal3544 That's how I knew that this teenager isn't ready to get married.

Ugh I hope this is fake and they’re just reaching for drama.

@@smritisings97 Amen!

She's the groom's mother, not Dad's new wife

Daughter is waaaaaay too immature to be married.

How though? She has every right to not like the dress, it's not about her, it's about her daughter.

@@cosmosadorabilis7677 it’s not that she doesn’t like the dress, she doesn’t like the feeling of being snubbed by her own daughter in her big moment.

@@killjoyer I don't believe the child was snubbing her. I feel the mother was making it all about her own feelings.

@@cosmosadorabilis7677 No

Completely my thoughts

Exactly, the MIL loved to let the mother know how the daughter Preferred her instead of her own mother.

My thoughts exactly. You could literally see her gloating and rubbing it in! She was so catty and immature. Very disrespectful of her.

Exactly! MIL is immature, daughter is immature, and I'm going to guess that the groom is immature as well.

true

Agree, the correct description would be the “orchestrated daughter/MIL mean girl slap down on the mother of the bride” ruined the moment. Daughter could not resist punishing her mother as part of the dress buying.

Yeah exactly

Yup

Part of it could be that the bride is barely out of high school. She might not even understand what she was doing and her parents split had made her resentful. I seriously don't agree with young marriages like this for many reasons, including lack of emotional maturity. This doesn't even account for crappy timing. If she and her fiance are confident in their relationship, someone could have said "listen, it's a hard time for the family so let's put a pin in wedding planning for now" but of course neither of them thought to do that because they're barely adults..

Agree

Same. I felt so bad for the mom, because the other three were simply awful.

Absolutely.

Gosh glad you said that as they way they are behaving is like the mom left her as a baby and she was raised by her dad!!! Shes a grown girl, 2 months is hardly anything in the grand scheme of things to an adult.

Same here!

Same! My heart broke for her! 💔😭

I feel you. I lost my mom 6 years ago and my dad 4 months ago. I would give anything for them to be at my bridal appointment in a few days.

Or or the mom is actually a toxic person and we don’t know what goes on behind close doors?

@@leedle2ly555 this. We don't know. From everybody's comments I thought she insulted her mom or something. She just didn't like her pick cause it was nothing like what she said she wanted. And the mom acted as if her daughter liking someone else's pick (cause they actually listened to what she was looking for), was a direct attack against her

@@jhope9991 not necessarily, she felt like she was getting replaced by a woman that isn’t even her mom. Personally I believe that was a bitchy move from the daughter

@@jhope9991 I’m pretty sure she didn’t like it because it was chosen by her daughter and MIL instead of her and her daughter so she feels left out but idk

Yes. I'm glad I'm not the only one that thought that about the MIL. I got the feeling that if it had been the MIL and SIL in that same situation, the MIL would have caused way more drama than they had. I feel like maybe the MIL's influence goes way beyond the dress. 🤷🏻‍♀️

man y'all are projecting hard on MIL. i don't see anything but a self-absorbed mom gaslighting and DARVOing all over the place and MIL doing her best to stand in as the bride's support system.

@@ElenaV.1314 Yes I agree with that man, she should have thought of how the mom felt and how she would feel to be in that situation I mean she has a daughter too

@@dietotaku I am so glad you are not my daughter.

That was the strange part. I had to remind myself that she’s the Groom’s mom, when she was acting spiteful, as if she was Daddy’s girlfriend.

To me it seems she is the one who started the drama caz she seems to know something

yep

@FAKOKTA which one?

Exactly! For her to say “that was a bad pick” to the mother’s dress that she picked was a bitchy catty thing to say! I deal with this shit a lot with my daughter and stepmom!

She was absolutely gross.

i dont think so... the mother-in-law seem to be nice... se wasn't rude to anybody... we don't know what is going on in the mother-daughter relationship... in my point of view, i think that the mother-in-law was more mother for the girl then her biological mother... who knows if she was really interested in spending some time with her daughter when she got divorced...

She literally told the mom that her pick was horrible. The MIL definitely wants to be better and take the mom's place.

@@austinuttilie5328 cuz it was...

MIL's there to actually support the bride, she's basically had to be the bride's surrogate mom while mom was off getting spray tans and doing crossfit or whatever the hell. i could see MIL didn't want to bring up the fact that she had picked out that dress because it was just going to rub it in that she knew her DIL's tastes and had a better relationship than mom did, but mom wasn't gonna let it drop.

@@dietotaku you don’t know anything about her mother. And your judging her by her stay tan?

Flo’s often rude. She should be fired. Probably only worried about making a sale

The mil and the daughter were horrible . I think the girl only invited her Mom to make her miserable. If the mil is like that now, the bride end up paying for it later. The Mom shouldnt bother to go to the wedding. They will only use it as another opportunity to humiliate her. The assistant was totally unprofessional. When you see a bad situation, you shouldnt make it worse. The bride was just cruel.

The mother in the law needed to step back..she was flouting that it was her pick

You can tell that the bride is a Daddy’s Girl that is mad at her mother for leaving him. You actively involved the MIL and actively left your mother out. It’s fine to estrange yourself from a parent, but don’t play this childish game of “you left 2 months ago, I’m mad and want to punish/humiliate you”. And dad sitting there puffing his chest out and smirking as the mother is going through this shows why she left.

This girl was so disrespectful I just feel bad

I get a feeling the mother-in-law has something to do with that too not just the father.

@@essiethehippiechild You're absolutely RIGHT!🎯💯💯😠😡😤🤔🙄😢😔🤦

🤔🙄Yep EXACTLY!!I agree!🎯💯💯💯😡😠😤🤦😔

When it is all said and done she is going to need her mother when the mother-in-law get finished with her!! Cause she going to be all in their Marriage!!!

She's not being out against her mother by the father don't lie about that. She's being pit against her mother by the grooms mothers.

Yea Flo has done several things in other episodes that has pissed me off..

Flo usually does good but this time she goofed. The daughter is a beast brat same with the mother in law. Very disrespectful

MIL is such a snake

In all honesty, the daughter's appointment is not the best time to hash things out so the mom could have waited but I agree the daughter egged her on and MIL is just as immature as the daughter.

I wholeheartedly agree with you slow contributed to the problem if I was Laura or Monty flow would have been pulled aside and flow would have been reprimanded

i'm sure she would have if mom had actually been willing to listen. from my experience with a mom like that, though, she didn't want to hear what her daughter wanted unless it was "yes mommy whatever you say, you know best." so big surprise, daughter gave up and turned to FMIL for support instead.

@@dietotaku OK what's your problem, I've seen all your comments so far and its total bs the mom is the victim here not the bride or anyone else she wasn't included and was getting bashed in the wall for her choice to divorce, like are you blind or just heartless tell me like really tell me now?

@Leonie thanks I just got tired of reading those bs comments uk

@Leonie Sometimes the mom knows what's best and she just wants to protect you, some kids just too emotional and don't want to grow up, if anything fathers are worst

@Leonie not like that, and most fathersake the moms do things or the moms do things to protect you from the father, my dad is just another level of on need of help but not all fathers just some

In that age and as the mother of a 19 yo bride and in such an occasion, to have this perception&stance tells the mom has some poblems with her self.. she cannot drive herself it seems, which is one of the basic problems in human relations..

I haven't cared to watch Flo in this series. When I used to binge watch during the original seasons I saw her smile in brides faces then roll her eyes and complain about them behind their backs too many times.

She saw her commission walking away.

@@bettinaallen5782 damn I didn’t know that

I hate to say it because I think she's the only POC consultant so I want to root for her, but she really gets on my nerves. She has unreasonable complaints about the brides and sometimes even says catty things to the whole group.

Atleast someone gets what I'm saying and seeing.

I agree. The part in the dressing room with Joshula was disgusting. She’s trying to explain how she feels and the bride’s so rude

She really does.

@@ilovejadenyuki Her daughter seems angry with her mother for leaving her father. She's childish.

If it was that the mum hated the dress maybe her feelings count but when it's based on who picked it. It's obvious there's something deeper going on there but the mum made it about her in a moment that should have been about the daughter.

@@cassidy435 her mother from the time her daughter was born most probably dreamt of the moment of picking a wedding dress, you can understand why she wanted it to be between them both instead of her mother-in-law

She said her mom hasn't been involved in the planning til now. If she's not close with her mom she's not close with her mom. Not everyone has a good relationship with their mom.

True true true true 100%

The daughter is old enough and clearly it showed that her daughter picked her father over her and didn’t consider her at all the daughter should of made an attempt to get her mother involved. The poor mother wasn’t valued at all and was dropped into something she was never even apart of which was clearly out of guilt for not including her but still hasn’t included her properly

I hope Monty and Laura looks back at this video and see that flow was not encouraging at all and realize Flo was in the wrong for stating the fact that the mom ruined this girl's day and it's clearly not the mother who ruined the day the daughter her father and her mother-in-law are the Three Musketeers in this situation I believe she invited her mother to intentionally humiliate her

Flo was definitely in the wrong for saying mom "ruined" the moment. Don't involve mom and then say she ruined a moment. She's been ostricized by her daughter for two months.

Yeah, flo should be publicly humiliated AND fired!!

Hehehe...true!!!!

Needs to gain empathy and relationship skills

So true, this birde needs to grow up

Interesting take, agreed

Well said

Agree with you 100%

maybe you should ask yourself why mom has earned herself a one-way ticket out of her daughter's life. there's nothing disgusting about refusing to let narcissists manipulate and abuse you.

Same I can't even believe the never of those ppl, and the morther-in-law should have used her brain to think of how the mom would feel, I mean she has a daughter too

And so immature and hurtful

You don't know what truly is going on in this situation

@@lindalester7878 definitely immature...after all she's only 19😬

She’s still 19, I can’t say I’m surprised

EXACTLY!!I agree!!Smdh!🤦🤔🙄🎯💯💯😠😡😤Yeah!She going to regret this!

Oh she gonna eat this decision. NO ONE has your back like your mother. That MIL will turn in her in a flash. Babygirl you are about to learn a life lesson. Both bride and MIL should have included mom in the online browsing.

Agreed

If I was that MIL I would talk to her about including the mom and what the mom can be going through not sabotaging the appointment

She sure did and was way too happy while doing so. It was a nasty move, but the bride will see the true colors of her mother-in-law soon enough.

I hope the bride reads these comments so she knows what an ass she was

Completely agree. This was uncomfortable to watch 😐

Agree 200%.

This little girls laughing now wait till she has a daughter and Karma comes back on her 10 times fold parents out there should know what I'm talking about however you treat your parents when you were growing up as how your children are going to treat you

I also hope as a wedding gift someone should give this video to her so she can see just how much of a butt-munch she is plus the fact that when her daughter treat her this way she'll realize why

Exactly!! MIL could communicate with mother, give a hints, chose together, include her!!

My jaw dropped when she said “ THT was a horrible pick!” While laughing

@@Moomoo-oq8zk I'd have punched her yeah no one talks to my mom like that no matter what

@@ligasinica6109 thats what I've been saying

@@diamondcrystal9308 yeah exactly I would not have a good relationship with my MIL if she treated my own mom like that. She’s bitter about her mom leaving the house two months before but she’s super close with someone that hasn’t even been there for half her life

ABSOLUTELY TRUE! That MIL is going to stab her in the back and she won't even know what hit her...

I have a toxic parent and there isn't a moment were I wish I had the support and kindness her mom had given to her

God bless you now, on your special day, and always sweetheart♡♡ I will go with you to find your perfect dress when the day comes!!

Truth.

I agree..my mom died when I was 12. My aunt who was my only true connection to my mom died right before covid. My father's health is degrading rapidly. Now I'm 25 and getting married, I've cried so many times bc I can't do these things with my mom or dad and they can't be there to give me input/approval.

my god it's amazing how many people i see in the comments falling for mom's act! do you get duped by narc drama often? that "i'm fine" meant "please continue to fixate on my IRL vaguebooking and giving me the attention i crave because i lack the maturity to just say 'i'm sad that i don't know you as well as i thought i did but it's a beautiful dress and i just want you to be happy.'"

Ikr I mean how can ppl be so blind and stupid to not see that

@@dietotaku oh my God what's your problem like really? Who hurt you man stop making a fool out of yourself please

@@dietotaku yo shut up already and get some therapy done cause clearly you need it from all the harsh shit you've been commenting, go get some help with whatever anger you have boiling inside you dude.

Yes I felt like she was trying to hold it all together to not ruin it

Ikr 😡🤬

narcissists are good at making it look like they care when they only really care about how it reflects on themselves.

The daughter seemed to be very childish and butthurt over her parents split but her mom was trying, they even had a small convo and the daughter was just smiling while her mom was crying, bruh I'd cry if my mom cry thats one thing I hate

@@diamondcrystal9308 same, the moment i see her eyes getting red even because of a stupid show, i feel awful. There was nothing to smirk about with that lady

@@jemmaj2919 and the MIL too ughhh like she has a daughter she wouldn't want someone to do that to her

I think the daughter has a grudge for leaving.

I'm not surprised

Do you have the link?

Why are not surprised, do we know if the daughter still in contact with her Mom

@Kyrstin Kinnaman lol

This comment made feel me all tingly inside 😌

Her mom is the ONLY person who will always have her back. That MIL is just a snotty brat like the bride.

She'll get what she DESERVES. Trust me I know from experience!

Being with her daughter for 18 years doesn't she have to know about her daughter's likes and dislikes??

My wedding dress taste at 16 years old was way different than my wedding dress taste while I was engaged 🤦‍♀️. And it’s not like the mom is ready to bust out some catalogues after going through a divorce, while the (evil) stepmom who just got married is all eager to show off the wedding photos. She has the most recent positive view of weddings, while the mom went through the reality check of marriage. Which imo is more important for newly engaged individuals to see

@@tejaswinipeeta7615 nope not everyone knows what their children is into hell I don't even know what I'm into half the time cause it changes. All my mom knows is I prefer certain colors when it comes to clothes and what type of shoes I like and that's it. The only time she learns more is when we actually go out together on shopping trips or just strolling through shopping centers.

i have basically been in this bride's shoes and trust me, it's not about the divorce. that mom has been sabotaging her relationship with her daughter for years and the only reason why they're just now getting divorced is that dad has finally had enough of mom's toxicity, and so has the daughter. and MIL wasn't trying to rub mom's face in anything, she was just doing the job the mom was SUPPOSED to be doing if the mom wasn't more focused on her looks than on her daughter.

@@dietotaku OK stop projecting your family drama like bruh not everyone is like that and the mom didnt even want any attention like seriously grow up, you've made it very clear that you hate the mom we get it now move along oh my gosh

@@dietotaku From the video, it looks like the mom felt that she had to leave the dad, and not the other way around. All my assumptions are based on conversations from the video, and I'm not sure where you're getting your info from.

@@diamondcrystal9308 I know this person is everywhere commenting the same thing 🙄

@@kirsteinbeck1622 ikr 🤦🏻‍♂🤦🏻‍♂🤦🏻‍♂🤦🏻‍♂its like they blind or something

I think she invited her because even though they aren't talking or anything, she still want her mother to experience the moment where her child gets married. No parent especially mothers would wanna miss their daughters wow moment

Agree also seems like she's rushing into marriage to get away from her broken home.. and getting close to MIL to hurt her mom for leaving.. seems more like a child than a bride

I put a lot of the blame where I’d never expect to. Flo and Lori and Monte will usually pick up the reality in the situation and ease the tension. Mom didn’t want to make the decision for her daughter. She just wanted to feel that it mattered that she was there and not completely ostracized. Maybe they edited this video to death?

It's mother in law actually But she's really immature and has a war mongering characteristic

@Leonie u r right....

@Leonie I agree

@Leonie agree 👏🏽👏🏽

then you missed the red flags. that mom is a narcissist 100%, i saw all the signs. she cares more about her looks than her relationships. she cares more about her involvement with the dress than how the dress makes her daughter feel. she doesn't accept any blame for the fact that her daughter feels more comfortable dress-shopping online with her FMIL than with mom and she tries to guilt her out of a dress the bride loves because of it. no wonder her marriage is dissolving and she has no clue what her daughter's tastes are.

Not every kid is perfect.... Maybe there is something wrong with the girl too..... Idk am just saying..... AND her mom is going through a divorce.......which hurts BTW plus WEDDING DRESS is a big thing....and everybody feels insecure it's just human tendency I've seen worse moms who literally spit real rude comments body shaming n all.... She didn't do that........ AT LAST..... EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN WAY OF THINKING GOOD DAY /NIGHT TO U 🤗

No joke

100% agreed. The girl was being a brat and playing the middle of her parents. At 19...I'm disappointed at her behavior

I know right! My heart absolutely broke for the mother. She was so sweet and kind and she didn't even care about her own opinion, she cared about her daughter! She just wanted to be in her daughter's life. They always realize this when the person they've been pushing out of their lives, doesn't exist anymore....

Agreed except for one thing.. it’s fine to disrespect your parents if they’re also assholes, let’s be honest.. they don’t automatically get respect just because they are family

The mother in law and daughter are being deliberately evil and spiteful. It will come back on her one day. Wish we could see that footage on there. The daughter is just being hateful. Very sad episode

@@anxietyoverload3087 Thank you! I wanted to point that out too! Comments like this can be really unhelpful or misguiding for children from abusive and toxic households

Yes Flo, badly done. 😢

And that would have made you in the wrong as a mom, not to mention immature. When you're an adult, you have to be the example to your kids as a parent- even when you don't feel like it or else you'll raise a brat and your adult kids will see it's okay to act immature even as an adult too. You don't want that.

Bride is really too young for all the complicated emotions, it felt more if she was playing dress up with her newest BFF (MiL) and unfortunately said lady used situation to one up the mom. Mom's probably not completely without blame here. They could do with some family therapy, hopefully before the wedding.

I felt like the daughter was rubbing it in her mother's face for already dress shopping with the mil and didn't like the fact that her parents are getting a divorce. Poor mom looked soo miserable and sad

@@nunya978 😂😂what a twist