Movie Couple Therapy: ETERNAL SUNSHINE OF THE SPOTLESS MIND 

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Something I didn't pick up on until I was much older: Joel is incredibly passive aggressive. He's judgemental toward Clementine throughout the memories he ends up erasing, and he continually baits her into reacting by very softly and quietly dropping comments he knows will hurt her deeply (the remark about her not being ready for kids, the jab about her "constantly talking") and then she takes the bait and he walks away while she reacts and, boom, we have a narrative about her being "volatile and reactive." But he constantly needles her. It isn't until they meet post-Lacuna that he's able to just accept her, and I think that's a big part of the significance of the final scene where he shrugs and says "okay." And, for her part, when she heard the jab in the tape (about her sleeping with people to get them to like her) she just quietly removed herself instead of rising to the bait of his hurtful comment. So, yes, growth! But I just wanted to throw that in as well -- it's a big dynamic of their relationship that's very subtle.

I love how Clementine's hair colour corresponds with her relationship with Joel in terms of seasons. When they first meet, it's green, the colour of thawing, growth and springtime. It's red during their Summer of Love, their most passionate stage, and orange, an autumnal colour, when things start to "Fall" apart between them. In the present day, when they're broken up, it's blue to illustrate the freezing feelings and emotions, common with Winter.

A cool little detail is also on the tapes Joel says that Clem wasn’t well-educated and he can’t talk about books with her but in his memories you see her reading a book a couple of times and she works LITERALLY at a book store, which just highlights that he wasn’t really opening him up to talking to her and wasn’t really seeing her past his preconceived version of her

This movie always makes me think of the quote: "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for." -Bob Marley

“I was the only one who was actively looking for a wife in kindergarten” is a gem

One thing I realized about Joel at the end when he was saying "Wait" was that some people need time to process, they need to process their thoughts, their feelings, and figure out what they want to do. I mean, I feel that myself. When a person like this meets a person like Clemintine who is just "this is what I have, this is who I am right now, it might change, but this is now", somebody who is just speaking every thought all the time, the Processor never gets a chance to process. They have to just keep storing the info the Informer is giving them until stuff just disappears because they never got a chance to process it. This whole movie is about Joel finally processing what Cleminitine said to him for all those years.

I remember Clementine was crying after she erased her memory and couldn't understand why she was upset. Actually, she was experiencing grief, but the real object that she lost was not there anymore. So why she still was in pain? I thought that was a robust idea of how our emotions and brains worked in real.

The thing to keep in mind about her being so defensive is that is what Joel remembers the clearest, fresh with rage and hurt and pain out of the break up. And then the deeper he goes, he remembers the softer, kinder bits of her. It’s more about his perception of her than of her actual objective character growth…

"I was loveable for like the short term but that no one really wanted to spend their life with me" is a very relatable thought pattern for me.

I liked the extra addition of Carrie and Rob, Joel's friends. They're clearly going through some relationship problems, and aren't the rosiest couple, but they opt to work through their problems, as opposed to running off to Lacuna to erase their memories of each other.

Eternal sunshine has my favorite ending of any movie. "Okay 🤷‍♂️" "okay 🙂"

this is one of my absolute favorite relationship movies. Clementine turned the whole concept of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl on its head and threw it right in the trash where it belongs, and i positively adore her for it. 💕

I remember explaining this movie to my dad and he was shocked by the procedure that erases peoples memories. He believed that we should remember at least some parts of others we were involved with, especially if they were toxic. Otherwise if we come across them in the street one day and can’t remember that they treated us like crap we’ll get back into the toxicity. It’s also nice to have fond memories of those we have loved and lost who we had healthy relationships with because they will always be a source of comfort to us when we need it.

Apparently Nicolas Cage was supposed to play Joel but was unavailable at the time, but I'm so glad Jim Carrey did this role, really shows that his acting range isn't limited to his animated comedic performances. This, and The Truman show are my favourite performances. He and Kate Winslet were absolutely pheneomenal, great video guys

Everything Joel went through as his memories were being erased, Clementine went through as well. I would have loved to see those same memories from her perspective. And I like to think she regretted her decision as well and that's why and how they found each other again.

29:55 “every relationship requires a high level of tolerance and forgiveness” That’s the good stuff right there

Honestly, I interpreted Clementines rebuke of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope as a key reason how Joel failed in their relationship. He just assigned this woman to give some type of purpose or meaning to his life and she had her own stuff going on and she was incredibly upfront about that, he just slotted her into this role anyway and it wasn't fair. Also, all of Clementine's character arc takes place in his head. Just because he made her a manic pixie dream girl in his head, does not mean that aligns with her real character.

"I was the only person Who was actively looking for a wife in kindergarten" MAN I LAUGHED AND THEN I CRIED

Huh... interestingly, my wife is the "chatter" in our relationship who tells me everything she's feeling all the time; and I am a more quiet type who only speaks when I feel I have something important to say. This doesn't cause any conflict between us. Sometimes she apologizes for talking so much, and I usually reply "well, the alternative is awkward silence, so go ahead and talk!"

"When people feel unconditionally loved and safe, they are actually more likely to grow and change." --- Most profound statement ever!!! But yeah, I love this movie so much and I'm thrilled to see you two talk about it.

Speaking as a man who is extremely identical to Joel I can tell you something for matter fact which is Joel didn't trust anybody and it wasn't fair to Clementine because she trusted him even though most of the time he didn't even meet her needs or even want to understand her fundamentally. He never opened himself up to her because he never opened himself up to anybody and she started to internalize that separation which manifested itself as a negative view of Joel as a boring or uncaring man. As we can see in the conclusion it's the exact opposite of her own perspective. Joel would give up anything for her because he loves her he was just too afraid to let her know that. He wanted her to wait because he wasn't ready to heal and to open up to her and she said, "okay", and since she finally accepted him for who he was he felt he was able to finally accept her for who she was and also replied, "okay". This was extremely cathartic for me my dudes. Thanks for everything.

I remember watching this film for the first time on a plane because I wanted something soft and easy, and ended up almost crying on a stupid ryanair flight because of how good this film is. All the characters are so well fleshed out, not only Joel and Clementine but the side characters as well. And it all feels so real, and leaves you with so many questions. It's one of my absolute favorites if not the favorite.

The manic pixie dream girl discussion is so relevant and Necessary! Movies still push this trope, and young men still look for it. Throughout my teens and 20’s, I took on that expectation and tried to live that role. I was a young undiagnosed Autistic woman. Trying to be the chameleon for the sake of others. A lot of MPDGs are modeled off of our stereotypes- and it rebounds off of how we understand the world in very complex ways…

Three years ago my Partner of (today) 8 years and I had an "Okay." - "Okay." moment, during an especially hard episode on both our mental health states and therefore ofc also very difficult state of our relationship. But after figuring out what our love is and what we want from the relationship and ourselves, we had an "okay". And it was the greatest okay of my life. Never been as understanding for each other as we are today.

Some movies that I would LOVE to see you do in the future: -When Harry Met Sally -The Truman Show -The Pursuit of Happyness

I love when Alan gets to talk about all the film-making techniques. It’s a real pleasure to see him light up about his passion, plus I invariably learn something new!

As a fellow INFP who is a woman who would get a crush on any guy who showed me the slightest bit of kindness, this gave me hope. It's really hard to make that transition from wanting to be saved by someone else to telling yourself that your needs, likes, dislikes, desires, wounds, matter even without outside validation. For me, all my crushes were unrequited, and that's also really hard. It's easy to believe the lie that you're unable to fill your own void simply because you've been looking to other people your whole life to do it for you. It was a game-changer when I realized there were people in the world who didn't look to other people to meet their needs, and were healthy people emotionally, which meant I could do the same thing too, and in many ways I already was. Still working on myself step by step and have come a long way in the last five years. Love your channel and this was the Perfect movie to add to your list of film commentary videos.

Am I the only one who finds it so sweet how Jonathan is being so vulnerable, talking about his trauma without fear? Pure bravery to me!!

24:45 he does EXACTLY the sad puppy eyes she complained about. I love this film.

I love the way the memory loss is portrayed, it’s lovely, and disturbing… which is why it’s so LOVELY!

I like that you guys touched on how "you will never get all of your needs met from one single person" because i think this movie shows codependency pretty well - including the fact that they wanted to erase each other from their memories. It's hard to move on from that kind of relationship, and sometimes you want to just erase everything to be able to move on. I would never actually, because I've grown so much from my messy relationship, but i completely understand the urge.

I remember watching this with my father when it came out on DVD and he said something I'll always remember: the person Joel was at the beginning of the movie wouldn't have gone after Clementine, and the person Clementine was at the beginning of the film wouldn't have come back.

I watched this movie countless times and I NEVER noticed the pole that disappeared when Jim Carrey grabbed it. Jeepers...

YES YES YES I'VE BEEN WAAAAITING FOR THIS. Clementine and Summer from 500 days of summer are the anti manic pixie dream girls in the disguise of mpdgirls.

My view on Joel's "okay." is that even knowing it might lead to chaos and not work out... He still thinks it's worth it, to be with her and see where it goes. And I absolutely love that about this film. If they knew how it would end... They would still think it was worth it for the journey they get to share together

09:11 - The crucial thing about Clementine's : I really want to have a baby- is that she said that To Joel. It's Joel whom she really likes. So actually she says- Joel I love you so much that I want to have a baby with you. It doesn't particularly mean she actually wants to be a mother NOW. But those are her huge feelings for Joel that she has and wants him to know. So the best way would be just accept her feelings and say something like, I love you Clem, it's wonderful. And probably fantasize about child's name or what it would be to have it with her. This wouldn't mean that you right away would have an actual baby. But this would mean for her that you appreciate her feelings and accept them. Not everything woman says needs to be rationalized, you know))

A question I have always pondered in this movie is that if we were able to remove painful and traumatic memories, wouldn’t the triggers and trauma still exist? And in that case how scary and confusing would it be not to know where those feelings come from? Or how to process?

This is one of those movies that gets harder to watch the older you get. I was 16 the first time I saw this movie. I liked it but I couldn’t understand it to the full extent cause I had never experienced love like that yet. And now almost 20 years later…I get it. This film has and will continue to always stick with me cause it’s a reminder that love comes with pain. But to always have an appreciation for the start of things with someone cause there was a time when you did love one another.

Yes insecurity is a relationship killer everywhere, not just for couples. Love this movie and again good insights!

My ex-wife showed me this and "As Good As It Gets" when we started dating, but I only understood why with the benefit of hindsight. I wish this had been a thing way back then, but maybe it'll help some other couples understand each other. You're doing the Lord's work, fellas; keep it up. Also, y'all should do "As Good As It Gets" for an episode; there's a lot of therapy-meat on them bones.

OMG I'M SO HAPPY THEY FINALLY DID THIS MOVIE😭 this is one of my favorite movies of all time. The relationship between Joel and Clementine and the progress they both went through as well as the memories you see just 🤧🤧 Also I would LOVE to see them watch Everything Everywhere All at once. That movie is added to one of my favorites and gives me the same kinda feel as this one

My fiancé and I (if I can even still call him that) are really struggling in our relationship right now and I sent this to him, to hopefully make him see that couples go through really difficult patches but they can make it through and find their way back to each other. I just hope we can do it without erasing each other from our memories.

Eternal Sunshine is why I love indie films over standard Hollywood crap nowadays. It's such a beautiful and intimate glimpse into the relationship of these two, topped off by an interesting vibe reminiscent of social science fiction. It's far more captivating as a character study into romantic love. It's probably one of Jim Carrey's best films. I couldn't think of any other 2 amazing actors to bring this great flick to life.

I would love to see them cover Her (2013). Really want to see what they can say about Joaquin Phoenix falling in love with an IA.

One of my favorite movies!! My biggest take away from it has always been, "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" some relationships can be painful, but every one of them is an opportunity for growth.

I love this film. Even after their memories have been erased, they still look for each other.

I'm the talkative one in the relationship, my husband is largely silent. My mom has given me grief for answering questions directed at my husband, but she doesn't know him like I do. I can tell when he doesn't want to answer her question, and I'm redirecting her unwanted attention back on me. Which my husband is always thankful for.

My favourite moment with my husband was when he accurately identified how I was feeling. Growing up, I was always told "this is how you feel" and it was always wrong. But my partner knows me like my family never has.

Your opening monologue is great, I just can't always agree with that. Narcissists will use your unconditional love as a tool to never grow or change and keep you devoted to them. Different identity disorders need different love styles.

Fascinating to consider how lovers gravitated back towards each other after memories were erased. Kirsten Dunst's character understood that it was best not to interfere with the inevitable pull.

We need a whole video about how comedic actors make incredible dramatic actors! Jim Carrey, Steve Carrell, Lily Tomlin, Robin Williams...and on and on

I can relate way too much to "I get bored of you and then I feel trapped, because that's what happens to me". Overall the couple reminds me of me and my boyfriend a little bit.

So, as someone who also falls in love with every woman who shows me the slightest kindness this starting conversation has punched me in the gut and we’re not even five minutes in, that’s a new record.

I've watched this movie 100 times and I JUST noticed when they are listening to Joel's tape, the soundtrack is playing "oh my darling clementine"

The thing I loved most about this movie is the theme of your heart remembering who you love, even if your mind doesn't.

Can I just say... the subtitles are exquisite, like there's punctuation, and the little dashes that make it seem like you're reading a play. Thank you.

I love this too. Jim Carrey can do drama extremely well and Kate Winslet is a great actress. I want to watch this masterpiece again now

I really think that if your videos were translated into more languages, it would help so many more people. More people really deserve to know this amazing channel

3:40-4:48 I can identify with everything Jonathan is saying here. That is the exact journey I am on right now. Having been alone all of my life at age 28, it is hard to gain that self love as I have watched everyone around me fall in and out of love more than once and sometimes it seems I'm destined to remain alone. But I'll keep working on it by myself and hopefully soon with the help of a therapist as well (currently looking for one).

This was my husband and my movie about our relationship. In the first 6 years, pure trauma, toxicity, passive aggression, irresponsible mess until we finally began to listen

Charlie Kaufman's one of the most brilliant writers of our time. Glad his work has really resonated with the wider audiences

Since you're also covering series now with Arcane, please talk about Avatar: The Last Airbender sometime. Particularly about Zuko.

This movie gives off a feeling that I never experienced before,like a sense of nostalgia,I can’t even explain it.I don’t know if it’s the location,the characters or how it’s shot etc etc..all I know is that I love this movie

Honestly, something that has really resonated with me over the past month is that idea of "You can't get all your social needs from just one person." In my case, it's not because that person doesn't exist, because she does, and I love her madly, and I recognize I'm extremely lucky to have found someone that I really can click with in every way to some degree- But to sort of open up a bit about my situation, in case anyone else can learn from it or empathize, I'm in a long distance relationship with a wonderful person, and have been for almost 2 years now, and we've finally gotten to a point where we're ready to move in together to close that physical distance, but something happened on her end to where I can't talk to her until I can reach her (not to get too into it but she has a toxic family that she's also trying to get out of), so for close to a month, and soon to be over it, we've had no contact, I can't speak to what she's going through because I know it must be much worse than what I am, but it made me realize, I HAVE depended on her for basically all my interpersonal needs, and she's depended on me, and it's opened my eyes to the fact that, one way or another, while this will (hopefully) be temporary, there WILL be a day, hopefully far into the future but I know we can't really control, where more than likely, one of us will pass away, and the other will have to live with that, and I honestly hope that I'm the one who grieves because I don't wish that on her, so I've come to realize, friendship is very important, as is having a wide variety of good people around you that you can build healthy relationships with, because no one lives forever, no matter how much we want them to, and that's why it's important to have as good of relationships as you can possibly develop, so that when the storm comes, even in the worst case scenario, you won't go down with the ship alone. I'm very grateful for this channel and this community, and even if this is just me talking to myself, that's okay, but if there's someone out there listening, that's even better, and I hope you have a good life with good people, and that you can develop a practice to be grateful for that, and that if you're not, you can build yourself to a situation where you can start, and know that, even if you may not be fortunate in this moment to have someone right next to you, you can still love yourself, and find people who love you too, we're all out here, and we're all human, you just may need to take a few leaps to find us. Have a good day. 👍

I think of this movie as a sort of Rorschach test for how one views romantic relationships. To the more optimistic, Clementine and Joel need to not just forget about their problems so they can grow together. To the pessimistic, they need to not forget so they can stay the heck away from each other.

One of my favourite films! I think Clementine isn't the "manic pixie dream girl " trope for many reasons but mainly she has a character beyond "quirky " it's interesting how many times I've watched that film and always interpreted the end as they don't get back together and the loop at the end is bittersweet.

It's crazy to see Jim Carrey in a more serious role, he doesn't even seem like the same actor. He doesn't often get the opportunity to showcase his range but wow is it amazing when he does!

The ending of this movie makes me SO happy. I was surprised to find that a lot of people find it depressing. That they are "doomed" to repeat a cycle. To me, it's clear that they're going into the relationship with a little more realistic expectations and acceptance that it may or may not work...they just want to experience it for what it will be.

I've always wondered what Clem confronted when her memories of Joel were being erased. I assume she fought just as hard to keep those memories of him (I assume everyone did, like the woman who wanted to forget her dog who died), but I wonder what her projection of him would have told her. How would those conversations play out in her mind that allowed her subconscious growth?

I definitely needed this, since I'm going through a hard break up myself. Thanks John and Alan for the wonderful content as always.

Ohhh, wish you could also do The Before Trilogy 😊

4:18 Jonathan talking about the need for acceptance made me tear up, because that's my life right now..

Yes! I adore this film. Thank you for covering it. It’s wonderful to explore the idea of erasing unwanted memories - as painful as they may be, they are our foundation and a source of growth 💙

Would LOVE if you guys did a Family Therapy episode about Little Miss Sunshine. Hilarious movie with really interesting family dynamics across 3 generations. Such a great movie.

I am Johno. My parents have been married for over 50 years (to each other), and I always wanted that. However I had one relationship, got dumped for someone else, and no offers of relationships since. So, I feel ya, Johno. I'm glad it worked out for you.

I love this movie, I was so depressed over a break up watching this yet felt healed after watching this. It teaches that love whether good or bad teaches us important lessons and is worth the risk

Thinking back, I always have grieved my relationships in reverse. Angry and resentful. Then looking back how it got so bad. Eventually while I'm used to being single for awhile, I look back and remember the first date, fondly. I'm friends with a few exes now and we have a deep respect and appreciation for each other. I just hope I can maintain that perspective while in a relationship.

I would love to see your takes on Stranger than Fiction. Has a lot of interpersonal discussion about self. It's similiar to Eternal Sunshine in that it's a comedic actor that took on a drama role and blew it out of the water.

This movie completely destroyed me at the time. I cried my eyes out when it was finished and hated the movie because I could not understand how someone who's in love could want to ever delete the memories of their love. It still pains me to think people experience this. How would you forget all the experiences and growth you've have with that person. I'm not talking about extremely abusive relationships or trauma inducing ones, but a relationship like this one where people just aren't seeing eye to eye and satisfying each other's needs. It's what they said that those experiences were not just affecting the relationship but the people in it. It's part of who you are. Wanting to erase someone you love is like wanting to erase a part of you... I really enjoyed your perspectives on the movie and it was great to see it in another light though, so thank you for sharing it with us!

Watching this as i am going through a rough patch in my marriage. It is easy to start over when you have no memories, to forget the pain and the resentment, a complete do over..not all of us are that privileged.

This movie got me through a painful breakup shortly before this came out. My ex was a lot like Clementine and I was definitely like Joel.

"When a person is loved unconditionally, they're more likely to grow and change than if they're going to be dumped if they don't grow and change." That is SO good. You put into words something I've been trying to explain to my boyfriend. And it makes total sense. Change comes from within, it can't be forced by another person really wanting you to change. Also, when a person feels secure, they have that ROOM to grow and change rather than the pressure of "'well, if I don't, he's gonna dump me.'

every time i write a romance i ask "would cinema therapy approve of this?" if it's "probably not" i do not write that relationship

What Dreams May Come might be one of the best couples going through things type of movie, like to see this in the future. But Eternal Sunshine might be the best period.

I saw Eternal Sunshine in the theaters for my birthday one year and I definitely was not in the right space, either emotionally or mentally otherwise, to appreciate it at the time. Immediately afterwards, I snuck into Kill Bill: Part 2 even though I hadn't yet seen Part 1 before it and I enjoyed the heck out of it.

my parents met in kindergarten and then dated at 16, married at 21, had me at 25, and are happily still together. i relate to wanting that but just not having it lol

This movie is so much like my husband and I. We met in high school, liked each other, but we were in very different places. We met up again 6 years later and have been married for 22 years with two children. Timing definitely plays a part. He’s the love of my life now, but he wasn’t when I was 16.

I thought Clem was willing to drop the conversation after she said “we’ll YOURE not ready”. He could’ve either ended it there or like they said engaged the topic with her without committing to anything. Instead he straight up says he doesn’t think she’d be a good mom, which is support hurtful.. they’re what I’d define as a high conflict couple and the book of the same name was so good at me and my husband not going into downward spirals over stupid conversations.

Now you gotta do Truman Show.

This movie holds a special place in my heart, I watched it with my girlfriend for our anniversary. At the time we were having intimacy and insecurity issues. After we watched the film, we just asked each other if we'd ever want to erase each other's memories if we ever broke up. We both immediately said no, because even though it'd hurt, there was just so much more joy and happiness than there was sadness. It was our "Okay" moment. I'm not sure why but it was probably the most intimate moment we ever had. We embraced each other like never before.

I haven't watched this movie in years and forgot how amazing it is! The final scene of "Okay" made me suddenly burst into tears! It's so well acted, written, and filmed and has such a lovely story of growth in a relationship. I really appreciated the move making insights that I never noticed before lile the library books and lighting changes. SO COOL!

Was that a freaking Homestar Runner (Strong Bad) tie-in joke?! +100 points!! I also super-relate to the "Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention" line.

This was my boyfriends movie before we met, and it has slowly become my favorite movie over the past few years. It’s weird because we are very much similar reflections of Joel and Clementine. Right down to the “no jokes about my name” 😂

This is such a more positive take than I left the movie with. I really left the movie thinking they didn’t remember the mistakes of their past, so they were doomed to repeat it.

„When people feel unconditionally loved, when they feel like they can be themselves, they’re actually more likely to grow and change, than if they feel like, I’m going to lose you if I don’t.“ I wish I had had that quote several months sooner. Before I threatened my boyfriend that one day I would break up with him if he didn't get a hold on his health (mental and physical, he could do a lot of things to improve both) because I couldn't live with that fear of losing him (by death or just by worsening of his problems so that he would suffer immensely). I really thought that would help because he didn't seem to have that healthy fear of a heart attack or depression or burnout that gets you to live healthier to prevent those things and I thought "well, if he doesn't have this fear, maybe I can give him another that will have the same effect". And it was the truth, at the time I really thought I wouldn't be able to handle it to see him suffer and thinking all the time that it would have been preventable, that he could have done something against it. I still don't know if I would be able to handle it but I know now that I was so afraid of my future feelings and that that's not a way I want to live my life. And in any case, after I said it I immediately realised that it was a mistake, likely the biggest mistake I ever made in our relationship, because he was so incredibly hurt and didn't see the "I love you so much and I care for you so much, I don't want to lose you, I don't want you to suffer unnecessarily and I am so scared for you"-part but only the "I want to change you"-part. I apologized and I "took it back" but of course I can't make it unsaid. I wish I had known this psychological principal sooner. Because without knowing it I knew that it's wrong to say such a thing for a lot of areas. Like "I'll break up with you if you don't change your career" or "I'll break up with you if you don't give up this hobby". But with health I thought it was different because I didn't want to change him as a person, only his health issues (I didn't see that he has to change as a person at least a bit to address his health issues) and he had already said that he theoretically wanted to live healthier, he just didn't do anything about it. But with this principal I would have known that this was also wrong.

This doesn’t really have anything to do with the movie, but I just wanted to thank you guys so much for making this channel. I love watching your videos, they’re so much fun to watch and I love learning more about the filmmaking of movies that I love. The way that you guys talk about therapy, mental health struggles, psychological issues, etc. has been really helpful for me and coming to terms with my own issues and actually helped me to decide to start doing therapy. So thank you all so much to you and your wonderful team, wishing you all the best in the world and all the love! 💕💕💕

Probably the first time I really connected to a character in a movie, almost forgot it was fiction. I see a lot of myself in Joel. The way Joel and Clem seem so perfect together and yet are almost each others exact opposites is just heartbreaking.

My favorite scene ever since I was a teen and the movie was new is the first attempt to go to a memory off the rains - the 'row, row, row your boat' scene. At the time I didn't really have the words to explain why that scene always made me emotional, but as an adult I know why: Joel was extremely closed off, and barely talked to Clem about his life or his emotions, saying it wasn't that interesting. But now, here he is trying to save his memories of her by opening up; literally letting her into his history, and it starts with just a simple happy memory of playing in the rain as a child. It's small, it's nothing earth-shattering, but it's a little treasured moment that he had never shared with the real Clementine.

I thought they would include the 4year old scene where his mom didn’t give him attention, it really told a lot about his character. Also I wish they made a sequel to this movie from Clementine’s perspective so we could see how she dealt with the emotions and her childhood trauma it would be very interesting.