Movie Couple Therapy: THE NOTEBOOK 

It would be a beautiful movie tho, and one that would make you cry multiple times

I am so in awe. Your grandfather deserves just the same. The heavy mass of love and affection he implanted in his wife literally saved her for more than a decade. It is a beautiful and strong love story that your grandparents have. With all the hardships they have stuck like glue. I only wish your grandparents happiness. Rest in peace to Grandma, I'm sure she was a beautiful soul that Pa could love even more than words.

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@@arielruby13 ABSOLUTELY!!

@@badadodgen Thank you so much!! She was a beautiful soul, and so full of joy.

@S.A.M. Art facts. it’s their choice if they do that or not. most likely they are bluffing to get you to do what they want you to do, to control & manipulate you. guilt trip you. if they actually kill themselves it still wouldn’t be your fault. it would be unfortunate but not your doing.

This happened to me too. He was in the hospital after I broke up with him. In another relationship soon after, he went down the same path with less luck. Going to the funeral was hard, to pay respects to the family members I was still close with. But as a teenager it was a constant reminder that how someone deals with things is not our fault. We are all doing our best to make a good life, but if someone is risking their life like that in your name, its not on you. My heart goes out to everyone dealing with this and I hope people can grow past such toxic actions. 😔

It happened to my cousin, his relationship was over and his girlfriend wanted to stay in control of the situation. So she told him that she would kill herself if they didn't continue together, or something like that. My cousin told the girl's parents and tried to get as far away from her as he could. Good decision.

Yeah suicidal people shouldn't be allowed to have relationships

@@painunending4610 uhm… more like manipulative people shouldn’t. someone can be suicidal and not dare say that to someone. so that’s kinda dumb of u to say honestly

NO KIDDING!!!

Urban cowboy 😂

A healthy relationship simply does not exist.

​@@5hanuspeak for yourself 😊

No one wants to watch a movie about a boring healthy relationship

Amazing

I wish she was my mom too 😂

Your mom is so awesome and I agree with her analysis of this movie too!

My mother did that too, minus the explanation I probably turned out better for it, but I was so confused why she hated certain movies so much lol

Massive respect to your mom for giving you a reason why, instead of saying it's a bad movie because she says so.

I was about to say that lmao

Preach, get yourself an emotionally supportive doggie instead of a toxic leading man!

Love to the dog !

Go Gandalf!!

you win the comments section.🔥🔥🔥

Death note has enterd the chat

I’m more of a recent regular, but yes, I feel like I can trust their judgment… and I’m careful with who I trust

Same lol

My feelings exactly

Preach, I knew that I would adore this episode as soon as Alan dropped that bombshell! 😂

Oh that idea is too good

This is 100% what "Passengers" should have been, a dark sci-fi psychodrama. I'm sure someone's done a short film version edited as such.

@@NeggieKnightI also feel remorse when I literally kill, murder, destroy the rest of someone’s life cause I am lonely. I thought about this and if I was in that horrible man’s situation, I would have lived as long as I could until I could not stand the loneliness and then killed myself. There is no Honor or love or joy or romance or anything but selfish, selfish hate in dooming someone to a life of suffering and ever-present, ever-looming death. What can he do to make his horrible purposeful murder better? Nothing.

Good assumption tbh

that’s a damn good idea

At least metalheads have limits with their insanity

😂😂😂

My husband loves geese & I knew immediately I needed to show him the geese tirade. 'They have stolen God's light' 😂 I agree that many geese around my boat in a swamp would feel like a horror movie.

Morticia and Gomez are Couple Goals

I think it says a lot that a family meant to be satire and comedy is actually a very, very good example of an actual healthy family. Not gonna lie-we pattern ourselves after the Addamses.

100% why is it always the normies that get all the positive reactions when they are so full of toxic bull crap.

Sorry, but you expect the movie to be credible when you show 17 year olds love as mature? This is a MOVIE, not a lecture about a mature relationship. It's great that we have the maturity to see that it's not mature. Not every movie has to show "right" behavior. After all, a good movie provokes discussion.

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This comment deserves all the likes in the world 😂😂😂

@@genevievelussier5608 agreed

Lol

😂😂😂

This made me snort lol

It basically promotes cheating on your man if he's boring

It goes to show you how many people are brought up in abusive family units lol 😆 I bring one of them lol YAY!!!

​@@samuraijosh1595not only that but it excuses manipulating the women to feel bad whenever you decide to show up

^^^ This was me too!! Always hated this movie.

Threatening to unalive one’s self if they don’t go on a date with you is sick. And not in a cool way.

That's why I like 27 Dresses.

@@starshake8998 i'm happy he finally got the girl but i'm like her? ha

I liked him in Sonic the most. I bought it on dvd, even

For real James Marsden is the man.

James Marsden is the real victim in the Notebook

The geese were just the ornamentals on top of this hellcake of romantic doom.

@@jackielinde7568 Mood. 😂

Me too. Watched the film last week and hated it. I love Jonathan and Alan but I've never felt so connected to them until this day 😂

I'm so glad they did an episode on this awful movie! I was gifted this movie on DVD by my cousin who told me it was "the BEST MOVIE EVER!" I hated it. Absolutely hated it. He manipulates her into going out with him and after she falls in love, he breaks up with her because he decided he's not good enough for her. WTH? He knew at the beginning that she was from a wealthy family, so where did he think their relationship would go after the first date? I guess he wasn't thinking about that when ruined her date with Ferris wheel guy to get her to go out with him once and then... what? What was the point of that whole outrageous stunt? Then it made me so angry that they both tossed aside people they were seeing (she had her fiancé and I remember he had some woman he was sleeping with, but they didn't show her in this video), but it's romantic because they had this dramatic, passionate kiss in the pouring down rain and that makes it ok! I'm yelling at the screen: "Fiancé and f@$&-buddy have feelings too! Have the decency to end it with them first!" But, we know they were destined to be together because he wrote their "love story" down in a book and it miraculously makes her Alzheimer's disappear for 2 minutes. Plus, they die at the same time! So romantic! 🤮 I have never, and will never, watch another Nicolas Sparks movie!

I cannot WAIT for their inevitably angry analysis of The Kissing Booth, which they said in a recent livestream is one that’s in their ever-growing queue of movies they’re making videos on

Lord, yes! He was the absolute best part of the movie. I hope he ended up with an amazing life with an amazing woman in the fictional universe!

James Marsden’s character was the ONE good thing about this movie.

True

Oof if I walked out and see a handsome charming, respectful man in uniform just waiting for me after being complete vulnerable and harmed in war… I’ll be dumb ass hell to say no to him lol

James Marsden is also a perfect Corny Collins in Hairspray!

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I'm a nurse in long-term care, and that was my exact reaction.

My grandma has Alzheimer's and it's gut wrenching. You can't really understand when she speaks, and she doesn't remember my grandpa anymore. It's tragic...

Same reaction here. My great grandmother had Alzheimer's, my grandfather just started having it, and I've done high school co-op working in the dementia ward of a nursing home where literally on my first day of being there, trigger warning, one of the resident's asked me if they could die. It's a scary disease I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, and their portrayal of it here revolted me.

Hey, they didn’t have David Fincher (fight club) telling the story. They got what they got.

I once dreamed that my grandma woke up one day and remembered everything again. The fact that this movie makes it this way, even if only for a moment, is a punch in the gut. It would be a kick in the nuts but I don't have those...

Yeah that's one of the most toxic things a person can do, I remember being with my ex and being afraid to leave because I was worried he'd harm himself. It was awful.

Oh my god, I’m so sorry for you that happened!😮 I had a similar situation happen

OMG I had the same thing when I was back in high school. I was at a religious weekend (toxic as hell). Met a guy and that same weekend he threatened to kill himself if I didn't date him. We knew each other less than 72 hours. I stopped replying

I had a similar situation, but it was with my father. My parents divorced when I was a tween and my father said to me during one of my and my siblings' visitation with him that if we ever decided not to see him anymore (once a child turns 12 they are able to decide if they see the parent) he wouldn't have anything more to live for and would kill himself. Not a great thing for a kid whose parents are in the middle of a divorce to hear.

I have seen this sort of thing before, and I find it SO DISGUSTING, that I made the decision, decades ago, that if someone pulled that on me, I'd say, "OK. Do that, then." And I wouldn't feel at all guilty, even if they DID go through with it, because THAT is how disgusting I find it. Am I a horrible person? I should probably just call 911, instead. I should probably do that. I hope I never get faced with that. The guy in the chair below them, calling out to just date him, already, really TICKS ME OFF.

100% agreed! She should've stayed with the other guy! 😭

I have a similar view with the Phantom of the opera..when I was younger (middle school) I wanted Christine to go with the Phantom. When I was in my late 20s/early 30's, I felt like she was right to go with Raoul..now that I am in my 40's I think, "Girl dump them both and follow your career."

You know what? I’ve watched this a few times and I thought Noah got her by default. She wanted lan and he turned her down, so she went to Noah.

She physically hit him though, which could be called abusive behavior.

Yeah, that's not a straight man's reaction to that. I'm also sure it's not the first crush Alan's had on a man 😂

He is ALWAYS the one in these vids to point out how hawt a male character in any given movie is 😂

I mean James Marsden IS hot.

hahaha wow that is hilarious

That might be my personal relationship hell. I am so, _so_ sorry for you.

Omg, I’d of lost my damn mind. My mom’s extremely ADD (and won’t admit it), and one thing she does is she gets focused on doing something for a few minutes, realizes she’s missed part of what she was watching, and rewinds to whatever the last part she remembers. When she’s having a really bad ADD day, she will legit rewind to the same scene 10 times in a row. Most of the time it doesn’t bother me, but every once in a while I just have to get up and leave bc otherwise I’ll pitch the remote off the balcony and watch it smash on the pavement below.

That's one of the few things I've ever read that made me laugh out loud. I feel your pain.

And I thought babysitting a 3 year old girl who only wanted to watch The Little Mermaid over and over was Hell. 😅

Ummm WHAT?! 😭 time to find a smarter therapist

I mean, i think Dear John was a pretty okay and realistic love story. Not all of them are toxic

I really enjoyed The Choice, The Last Song and A Walk To Remember. Most of his stories are actually okay. The Notebook, however, is not.

3 red flags

Soooo, just about everything they talked about when they did "Coraline"

That's not the notebook though..

Also holds true for like 99.9% of teen "relationships", let's be real

The D.E.N.N.I.S. system.

i had to pause the entire video and just take a moment to laugh at that lmao

same

Yes! I choked.

My God yes please give this the appreciation it needs it made my day 😂

I cracked myself up too🤣

There were too many geese tbh

Are you familiar with American religious people where they don't allow their kids to live with a significant other or have intimate relationships before marriage? I had three couples as friends who got married right after college in order to be together. Their parents even said "they're too young to get married" and it's like, well if you didn't restrict them so much they probably would've waited a couple more years.

There are trashy and/or hypersexual people in every culture. America just happens to have a larger population this technically more people, but if you look percentage wise it's not that big of a difference.

@@HouseMDaddict I knew couples who got married right out of HIGH SCHOOL for the same reasons. Some of them it was very clearly just "oh, you want to have sex" and not anything to do with actually loving the other person. The saddest part is the people who take no-sex-until-marriage seriously are also the most likely to take no-divorcing-ever seriously.

@DarthRayJ, wouldn't that mean they also have the most reason to make the relationship work though? I don't see a taboo around divorce as a bad thing, especially when children are involved.

​@@DarthRayj I am one of those people who take no s*x until marriage seriously and if the "saddest" part about that is I take commitment and responsibility seriously and even when it's tough I will fight to not take an easy road out so that I and my spouse grow as individuals and as a couple and can have someone to utterly trust, respect and love until the day one of us dies... I'm okay with that. Also never have to worry about STDs or pregnancy before I can afford or have time for a child so that's cool. I'm not worried about increased cancer risks or other fun side effects from birth control either. Now I do think divorce is okay in situations like abuse. But our culture uses it far too often as a scapegoat. And choosing marriage just to have s*x is a very unwise decision. I'm sure some people do it and I'm sad they thought that's what marriage is all about. Also sad for the people who feel trapped in abusive relationships. Not okay.

SAME to the validation

This movie was the first (I think) Nicholas Sparks movie I ever saw (might have seen one more and I’m not sure which was first). I hated it. Probably not the worst movie I’ve ever seen, but it’s up there.

As a fellow 37 year old woman, hard agree! I have never understood why people like this movie so much.

Yesssss! Hate

You're not alone I always thought this movie was full of 💩💩

Even CinemaSins called out the film for having too many birds

It definitely is an irresponsible number of murder birds.

Nobody’s going to talk about how a baby goose is a gosling? Okay…. 😅

@@mistermarkeys OMG I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE LMAOOO

I am freaking cackling at this

Hey, don't be so mean to geese. They can be very good parents that take good care of their young and unlike Noah, who tries to run around stealing people away from the ones they are dating, swans are monogamous and mate for life. Let's just say Noah is Satanic and leave geese out of it. God made geese and they are good and a gift from Heaven as all animals are. :)

Geese are cool though, Noah is just bleh

@@chaoticdetectivepeach Geese are the spawn of Satan.

Having worked with and handled geese before, I can definitely second the notion of them being hellspawn 😂

Made me chuckle; need to tell my mum about this since she's had bad experiences with geese

What do you think love is?

@@Sophie-vw5ol Not treating your significant other like garbage, threatening suicide, pushing emotional abuse and mental abuse as if it's a good thing?

@@Sophie-vw5ol I think love is deep and multi faceted. I think it's seeing someone happy, delighting in their joy, and feeling weightless if you're apart of it. I think its showing someone how much you care and seeing a light in their eyes when they look at you. I think love is something special that, when you're with someone who loves you in the same way, little moments they share with you feel immense. It's deep, and takes years to curate but when it is, it's more grand than you ever imagined. I love a lot of the times is a yin and yang, push and pull, you give and take, and in the process you build each other up. Rambling, but thats how I feel.

I agree. Some people think drama=romance. Intense feelings aren't necessarily love. I have an old friend who never grew out that belief and she's never been in a happy relationship or one that lasted longer than a few months. She's just always chasing intensity over quality of feelings. And things like anger, lust, and insecurity can be really intense feelings but they don't make you feel GOOD or safe.

@@spinthepickle1244 It's hard and again we should be bringing healthy relationships to light. I know some won't like it, and will argue, "it's too perfect that's not realistic." They get "perfection" and healthy mixed up.

yeah, it's kind of funny how much they keep nodding to the other side--the chemistry! the acting! the charisma! of course people are going to fall for it!--when some of us watching never liked this movie to begin with. (tbf, I don't know whether the reason I hated it as a preteen girl was that I picked up on the toxicity of the relationship or just that I thought it was schmaltzy and stupid)

exactly. At least wait until the date is over. Interrupting someone's date is a really rude and low blow. He then basically uses emotional abuse to get a date. I mean, putting yourself in danger to get someone to stay or say yes is not romantic. it is not a healthy way to start a relationship.

The relationship in this movie makes twilight look healthy. And that’s not an easy task to accomplish

@@godzillasimpson8357 agreed

That scene turned me instantly against the rest of this movie the first time I saw it.

Are you Canadian? Apparently their geese are violent.

Chicken cobras.

@@Du-Masses all geese are aggressive!

Geese are like the hot psychopath in movies: Cute through a sreen _TERRYFING IN REAL LIFE_

Geese are assholes. I agree with your sentiment.

But you have make up sex AFTER you make up. You must still be pissed or something to not want it.

Agree 100%

Lol right.. f**k off is more the answer at that point. There's a place and a time for everything and it is not when you just pissed me off..

yeah, I don't understand make-up sex... After a fight, even if both make peace, you're just sad, and you get emotionally exhausted. You just want to cuddle

Make-up sex after you've patched things up and have calmed down can be a healthy way to reaffirm your love and affection. Do others think make-up sex happens right after a fight?!

You're welcome! Thanks for watching!

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I don't know if it's a reference to anything, but what I understood was... Who are you?: It's important to know each other in a relationship. Also, the question assumes that the person developed their own sense of identity, which is vital in general. Where are you going?: It is also important to look at the goals and dreams of the other person, as well as the context of their current life and what do they plan to do according to that. Why are you here?: If someone is with you, that means you have something to offer to them. Is that something stable enough for them to stay? Is it worth it to keep trying? I'm not good at expressing myself and I tend to live inside my own head, so I'm sorry if I actually missed the point 😅

@@Vivian2043 Great sci-fi show, Babylon 5, four questions reverberate through all 5 seasons. The first, and most obvious, is "What do you want," asked of a rather shady character to some prominent players, over and over, until he figures out what they *truly* want and if his "associates" can help them with that. . . and if what they want is helpful to his "associates." The second, slightly less obvious, is "Who are you?" asked by an Inquisitor to one of the major players. Two others are more subtle, but even more important in their own ways: "Where are you going?" and "Why are you here?"

Sounds like you spend all those years of learning psychology only to repeat "toxic this toxic that" over and over again.

Talking about toxic relationships glorified Just yesterday I was attacked on the comments for criticizing an old soap about a psychiatrist who fell in love with his patient who had a mental age of eight I was just saying he was a monster he should be in prison but because a lot of people had nostalgia for the old show they kept attacking me for criticizing the nice doctor who kept fighting to treat his patient not because it's his job but because he loved her And if I wasn't clear she was in a coma since she was eight so she was at little girl in a woman's body

@@pianorelaxingmusics why are you triggered someone is recognizing toxicity?

@@thekatprincess simply pointing out that men who do the bare minimum always get triggered by romance of any kind. Guess when they were teenagers they were only fucking on their girlfriends and straight up telling them they will move on quickly or did not date anyone until they were in their 30s. Imagine being a grown man and bitching on YT with another man, about how you are annoyed by a romance based on a true love story.

@@pianorelaxingmusics you missed the point so hard

I thought the same thing! 😂

Or that grandma yelling "NO SINGING" from coco

Or the “ i ate my grandma” from Moana

@@fanatomic24 N n I

I thought I was the ONLY one!!! I’ve seen it once and I was like…hmmm okay, nice movie prob won’t watch it again.

Exactly. I didn't get it either.

In my defense, I didn't know any better.

Yes ! Agreed 🙌🏼

I was 12-13 at the time and I didn't get why people love it so much.

Lol! This made me laugh. 😆

Yup!

Hmmm some of them are quite healthy. Also yes take these lessons to heart. The hardest part is catching yourself and checking your emotions, which you can only learn by experience.

Also, if you do find someone, don't eat them. Pro tip.

Yes

He must felt so guilty/ scared and that's not love that's feeling responsible for someone. 🤨☹️

Best way to deal with that is to just call for a wellness check on said person. That usually shuts them down cause u know, feeling humiliation cause they know what they’re doing.

Ive had multiple friends who have stayed in abusive relationships because the abuser threatened suicide. It's abuse. Plain and simple

Ex from my ma in her youth actually killed himself. She was 16 and it took lots of therapy to really understand that it wasn't her fault...

As someone who went through the same thing with my ex I understand why he wouldn't and also understand the initial fear and guilt that if you did leave then would they really go through it. I talk about mine so that others know the signs and that no matter what it's ok to leave or else it could turn nasty quick with people like that and to cut ties immediately. Luckily for me i read domestic teen aritcles before even having a relationship just because i didnt want to be in those situations but was still naive. I like to tell people that it's never their fault because at the end of the day the people threating themselves don't love nor care about your well-being and its best to get help quick for both parties sakes. I never told my parents until years later.

Only if you are a woman. But if you are a deranged sociopath and love the twiligh movies ... thats love.

I've never understood why women liked this garbage movie!!

@@luv2charlie Many of us do not.

I would like to see this get re-cut AS a horror movie lol. That would be fantastic.

i always hated their relationshop but i always felt like i was alone since everyone seemed to love this couple. Glad i'm not alone

W+ Based wife

Codependency at its finest.

That’s so smart and brave of you 👍🏻👍🏻

@@Elisa-006 thank you 😊

A friend’s ex does that to her as a manipulation technique from time to time. I told her that she should be calling 911 every single time. You never know when someone is serious, but it should be always be taken seriously-even if it’s an inconvenience for the person.

@M Kuti-Childress as a suicide survivor I never take suicide threats lightly, turns out he did that to his previous ex but at the time I didn't know that. Getting people help and leaving if necessary is better then staying and getting abused.

If this happens again, after you drop that person off, call law enforcement and have them do a welfare check saying that the person threatened suicide to get their way. Seriously. That needs to be documented and it STOPS the toxic behavior.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

we stan james marsden

James Marsden is one of my favorite underrated actors. Sonic guy *and* Prince Charming in Enchanted??? THE RANGE!

@Don’t burst my bubble -Hey, don't forget Kovu and Max Goof!- EDIT: Wrong J. Marsden. Oops! They're both underrated, though.

@Don’t burst my bubble Enchanted is a seriously underrated movie, though.

This movie was terrible on many levels and I remember thinking the way they portrayed her illness was so stupid.

So it is actually different from the film?

Spot on! The high emotion, the tension is fun to watch. Much like a bad boy, they are a lot of fun to watch on screen and not a lot of fun to interact with in real life.

It’s always a good thing when one can tell the difference between fiction and reality. Reality may not always be what we want, but it’s real and one can have the power to change their life however they wish; so long as they work hard for it.

Or it’s just more relatable. Humans fight and things can be messy but that doesn’t take away from the fact that there is also love and happiness.

But there's ways this trope can be done well, tho. Not in the case of this movie unfortunately 😭

@@MoonBeamLight I don't find domestic violence and threatening suicide relatable.

AMEN.

YUP. 100x over. Yet don't let Hollywood hear you. Overall they think that you should all be screaming and crying then screwing within the span of 5 minutes. Talk about warping the public. I have seen it done differently onscreen ONCE. I don't watch Outlander, so i can't speak for the series as a whole, but i once saw a clip where the main character hadn't seen his...wife? girlfriend...? in years due to some time travel nonsense, and the first thing he did was ask permission to kiss her. Now while i don't think we need to go THAT formal, it was one of the sexiest deliveries of line that i've seen in a while. The actors were selling the crap out of the passion in that scene while still modeling being respectful. Again i don't think we need to do that every time you want a snog, but for a first kiss....that was pretty steamy. Also they seemed like a couple that would equally be happy just having a chat and hanging out. Again, don't watch the show, don't know anything about it. Perhaps 2 episodes later it devolved into the typical hollywood passion screaming sex setup, but for that one scene i thought huh...so it CAN be done.

​@@story3877 Nop, that's not the only TRULY romantic moment they have. Outlander's is one of the best couple I have ever watched, I recommend it to everyone!

You sound like an incredibly emotionally mature and wise person. I thoroughly respect that! I just wanted to compliment you, there are so many people who would've dragged an ex like that through the dirt but you have the empathy and nuance to understand and also say out loud that he wasn't abusive, and enough self-love and respect for yourself to choose to end a relationship like that. So here, take my compliments! ^^

@@MerelvandenHurk Thank you!! It definitely was frustrating at times, especially when I saw his lifestyle in his home, but I knew he was a good guy and he came from a good, loving family. He did have rage issues which made it hard for him to keep a job but he never released them on me and when I ended things he was very understanding and respectful and we both went our separate ways without hurt feelings

I know so many women who get caught in that trap of doing all the domestic labor as well as working outside the home, and it sucks so bad. Good for you for side stepping that

I get that. I literally stayed in mine because socially I was told that if you love someone, you should love them regardless of money. Unfortunately, some man, especially immature man will take that as a opportunity to relax and not do anything. My partner turned literally into a child I had to take care of and no one wants to date a child.

@@GetOfflineGetGood I wouldn’t have minded doing my share of the housekeeping and earning an income, especially in this day and age with rent and food and gas prices going up, but the fact that I would come from my third or fourth job to find the house a complete mess with him watching tv and eating snacks without having done a lick of work would have been upsetting. He had trouble focusing and understanding responsibility, he also didn’t have a degree of any kind, but he was still a good guy. I just didn’t want to take care of him and only get grey hair and wrinkles at age 23 as a result

I mean on the one hand it’s an escape. People fantasize about these sorts of scenarios precisely because they are absurd. Most people know that in real life, stalker behavior is an absolute no-no. It’s fine to critique movies and all, but let’s not pretend that the people who enjoy them are somehow intellectually or emotionally moronic. That’s like saying people that like slasher films want to be serial killers, it’s not true and it’s a very unfair assumption. Just like slayers films, romance movies and books are just an escape.

@@gothicMCRgirl Not many people can imagine themselves going around murdering people so I'd say that's a poor comparison. Whereas anyone can imagine themselves falling in love and sadly to many this is what it looks like. There are a lot of people out there with bad or no examples of what a healthy relationship looks like but they have to get an idea somewhere. Most get these ideas from their parents/parent, movies, music, social media ect. and their environment in general. This makes perfect sense when you look at peoples relationships these days and many of the red flags presented in them. Mostly it's selfishness and fantastical delusion but a lot of that stems from media especially the (my abusive relationship will work out because we love each other -everyone fights) from movies and media. The one I notice that seems to sabotage a lot of long term relationships or marriages, particularly for women is "There wasn't any passion anymore" and "I fell out of love with him". They confuse comfort and peace for boredom and assume that there is no longer any love because there isn't that "thrill" they had before and start to yearn for the days of excitement and movies like this don't help. They are reminded of what "passion" is like and seek that like an addict honestly. If you throw out a concept long enough people will start to apply it on some level especially if its glorified like this is. It would be remise to assume that the type of influences we are surrounded by don't play are part in how we think and operate. Watching serial killer movies won't necessarily turn you into a killer but it certainly can make people more paranoid about them.

I liked the movie and the book, but not because I think their relationship is super good))

Watching toxic relationship is much more interesting than watching good ones

@@KateeAngel you need therapy

@@KateeAngel there aren't enough healthy movies/tv shows out there to make that statement.

What about Love Actually? My bf found out her husband loves Love Actually after they got married. She says she never would have married him if she knew, and I 100% believe her.

Agh! I remember watching this and I honestly felt they had better chemistry than Noah and Allie. I hated how easily she threw it away - and now that I'm older and have a little more experience, I want to shake the crap out of her.

@@dreamsinmonochrome He didn't deserve her. I'm sure he found another woman who appreciated the healthy relationship he brought to the table.

@@starsun6363 u mean she doesn’t deserve him

@CatD *slaps head* yeah. Whoopies Typo.

@@starsun6363 In a way you’re right though. He didn’t deserve her, he deserved better

Stick with this feeling. I've been married 5 years. I find my husband attractive and he is absolutely the best person I know, but those infatuation feelings aren't there even most of the time. But I love him all the time, and I'm so happy with him, especially compared to living in my parents' home. I don't have to worry about being attacked over my mistakes, and every single day I see how he gives everything he has for me and our kids. Don't fall for the Hollywood hype. I feel happy and safe, and I hope the same for you someday soon!

I doubt there is a married couple who never fought. After 10+ years of marriage, you will argue for the sake of arguing. lol

@@whysosrs5534 lol I never said that there are couples who never argue. And that's not the case for us; we do disagree. Even when he is upset with me, he deals with it calmly and doesn't attack me. And thanks for the prediction, but I've dealt with those before, and in my experience it says more about the person making the prediction than about my relationship. 😄

@@enviritas9498 Unless they're talking about something that's more like a debate. My brother will play devil's advocate just because he's bored.

@@whysosrs5534 my husband and I will not argue something for the sake of not arguing.

I am so sorry for your loss. 💕

You made me cry, please continue to cherish this memory

That's beautiful and so sad at the same time :( may she rest in peace.

Thank you for that. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Ive heard that music is something that helps trigger memory so doing that one hundred percent helped. Im sorry you had to go through that though.

I read the book, which was different from the movie.

jESUS CHRIST

​@@mariegarside8830Really?

​@lancethefilmguy9392 Have you read the book? Some plot parts from the book were in the movie. However, Hollywood took a number of liberties with book.

Omg he outed himself so hard 😂😬🤦‍♀️

@@Fingerscrossedout those that think it's normal will not see it as red flags

never been so happy to hear someone say "ex" holy shit you dodged a bullet there

Actually same! It was his favorite movie 🤮 I can't believe I didn't realize how awful it was at the time, but "we accept the love we think we deserve" and are blind to its faults. I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I'm glad you're out of that situation now!! 💜

@@jessicazimmer1644 omg that’s hilarious that it was his favorite 😅 Thank you, I assume you must know how happy I am not to be involved in this anymore!

Yes! I’d love to see them look at Heartstopper for a more positive example. I just finished it a bit ago and I wish I could watch it for the first time again.

@@erenyeagerist7681 I do watch K-dramas and a lot of them aren’t very healthy either, some of them are but a lot of them aren’t, similar to American. But I’ll check out Marry Me, thanks for the rec!

The idea that good people are boring but horrible people are interesting and exciting is really unhealthy. There's plenty of good interesting people out there. Good people who happen to be boring are boring because they're boring not because they're good.

@@erenyeagerist7681 Ugh, most Asian dramas are melodramas that are not only toxic, they sometimes portray things that would be criminal as romantic.

Our Flag Means Death also has beautiful and adorable couples. It’s a great pick if you’re a fan of Heartstopper, it has excellent queer representation.

Bluey is a GIFT. My kids are 7 and 5 and watch it non stop and I don't mind. I love watching it along with them it's so Damn good.

Oh my gosh yes, it’s one of the only shows my nephews watch that I don’t mind watching with them

Yes to this comment and the replies made before me. Bluey is my jam... I mean, my son's jam.😉

I saw an ad that was just a clip of Bluey and thought “huh, this is actually nice.” And it was one of the few times i havent skipped a skippable ad

Bluey is amazing. Some people say that Bandit is treated a bit like a doofus. But it's a good portrayal of the laid back Aussie father figure. We all joke around and most families have 1 joker and 1 traditional parent figure. But both Bandit and Chili swap those roles as needed for their girls.

Everyone has a same-sex celebrity crush. They don’t count.

@@andreponniah9900 uhhh dude… who’s gonna tell ya

@@andreponniah9900 oh boy do we have news for you

so?

@@Kieru88 so it's funny? lol

Ohhhh man, that didn't even occur to me. The gosling among all the geese.

Lol! Wow👌

'I want you to meet my family.'

His first name should've been Joey lol

💯

Another tidbit: in the book, Noah wrote the notebook that he reads to Allie, in the film, she writes it herself to have him read back to her, don’t know why they changed that

Thanks for clearing that up. My sister read the book and loved it. Then she saw the movie and came back super angry (they changed everything!!). It's good to hear this wasn't the original story.

@@CreamIceMs yeah, I recommend listening to Nicholas Spark’s audio commentary to the movie. You can tell he wasn’t thrilled about changing the relationship dynamic to being toxic af but just kinda accepted it? Like “oh well, I understand why they make changes, I’ll let them do their own thing, even if I don’t like it”. He explains that Lon AND Noah are both genuine GOOD guys, Allie has two good men to choose from, which is what makes her decision so difficult to make. One was not necessarily “better” than the other

Thank you! I've been saying this for YEARS

y'know, I honestly want to have somebody make a movie that *is* legitimately completely true to whatever book it's based on...and then make one that's *not* completely true to the book but is "adapted to film" and then see which one actually turns out better. Because like, it would probably depend on the book, for sure (imagine trying to make a film that 100% follows everything that happens in The Silmarillion, for instance...) but books like Percy Jackson? I distinctly remember thinking when I was reading PJATO that the book practically read like a movie script in and of itself.

Did you forget?? NOAH TREATED THE WIDOW LIKE SOME TRASH!!!!!!! YOU DO NOT DO SUCH BULLSHIT AND GET AWAY WITH IT!!!!

Nice

🤣😂 AMAZING!!!

Well, that is the only sweet thing to come from this movie.

That's the perfect description of those psycho birds