Dear Lauren, it is a COMPLETE no-no in Germany, too, for a doctor to approach a patient in such a way. As a previous commentator said, it is actually an offense! And 40 voice messages would probably qualify as an offense under German stalking laws for ANYONE! And, Ashton, again, I have a similar story about coming to the US with regards to criminal record (lack thereof!): for my visa I had to complete a form in which, amongst other things, I had to confirm that I would not assassinate the president while in the US (that was 30 years ago, maybe that changed). Very entertaining and informative videos both of you, thank you and kind regards, Nicola
I have to admit, it made me laugh - if somebody would assassinate the president, do they really think they´d have a problem with lying about it on a form? LOL! Thank you for your comment!
@@LaureninGermany Yeah, those were our thoughts exactly! But when my mom made a comment along those lines to some guy who called from the embassy, she got shouted at for quite a few minutes - and poor nineteen-year-old me thought that was it for my USA adventure! We do laugh at this now, thirty years (*shriek*) on but I still remember, it was not very funny back then :)
@@LaureninGermany I love how you mix the two languages - something I do, too. Some things are just not translatable. As for the officials, that reminds me of something so said in one of your videos about having lived here in Germany for a good while: in so many ways, we are more alike than we are different. Shame that includes the bad things as well as the good :)
About 5 years ago, one of our adult, working children (older than 21 years) visited Mexico with a stopover in the USA -> the US authorities wanted to know where and when we were born as parents and whether and what jobs we practice. * I don't really remember it anymore, but I think they also wanted to know if and when we (the traveler's parents) got married.
Hi Lauren! This was SO MUCH fun and you are such a lovely person inside and out. Thank you so much for chatting and for this fun collaboration! We arrived as two RU-vid creators, and left as two friends. ❤
You simply couldn´t have said anything that means more to me, Ashton! Because you are a such a generous-hearted person, and so much fun to hang out with. ❤️
I know the black forest family even longer than Laurens channel, I loooove them and it depresses me, that both of You don't have moooooore followers! You deserve it than anyone else!
Honestly, that doctor should lose his license to practice. It is actually a criminal offense to have a relationship with your patient in Germany because of the dependency of the patient on their physician. I'm sorry that happened to you, but it's completely not the norm in Germany to behave like that for a medical professional.
I asked some student friends at the time and they didn’t think it was so bad, but I agreed with you. It’s really not ok. I certainly felt very uncomfortable when I had to go back for him to finish the treatment. I do think it happened to me because I was foreign. 😢
@@LaureninGermany I mean their opinion is a bit weird, given there are laws prohibiting it. § 174c StGB bans sexual encounters between doctors and their patients. While it's technically not illegal to message a patient 40 times (although it's hella cringe) you definitely cannot enter into a relationship with that patient.
I know right! How funny!!! And honestly, it´s pure coincidence. ALthought, they don´t believe in that at the FBI. We´ll have to ask Ashton to call her contacts there, and find out!
There are various professions that require your personal "police clearance certificate" (small or sometimes large): bank clerks; educators, kindergarten teachers; civil servant candidate; any profession with security related and others.
Das war ein interessantes Video. I am german-american, born in the U.S., but only spent my first year there, so I don't remember anything and haven't been there since. But visited american Elementary school here (then german school), so I'm used to the american overfriendliness...and as an introvert I just don't like it. Smalltalk generally is exhausting for me and I don't want strangers constantly talking to me or asking questions, even though I know they are just trying to be nice. Wenn das passiert bin ich auch nett, aber hoffe, dass das Gespräch möglichst bald vorbei ist. Die Ausnahme ist, wenn es um ein tiefergehendes Thema geht, dass mich interessiert. 🙂
@@agn855 das ist der Unterschied zwischen Deutschen und Britischen, glaube ich. Britische können kurz über tief gehende Themen mit Fremden reden, ohne dass es ausführlich besprochen und durchdacht sein muss. Kurze, nicht im Stein gesetzte Meinungen austauschen. Einfach nur für menschlicher Kontakt, nicht damit ein Thema ordentlich besprochen wird.
Yes, you go to the emergency not only if you‘re about to die, but when the doctors are closed there is still a doctor available because doctors have to organize a Notdienst, like pharmacies are doing, to ensure that there is a doctor available 24/7. There is also a universal phone number 116117 that connects you to the Notdienst of your area. And often there are also offices where you can go and visit a doctor at the weekends. The Notaufnahme in a hospital in most cases should really be reserved for emergencies that need immediate treatment and can’t be treated by practitioner, like when you broke your leg or cut of a finger. So to add one don‘t to your don‘t list with Ashton, don‘t go to the Notaufnahme if you have a cold or any other non severe infection or injury. 😊
@@LaureninGermany Aber wir; die dort arbeiten; könnten " ein Lied davon singen", wie wir hier in Deutschland sprichwörtlich sagen. Du glaubst nicht; mit was! Menschen in die NOTaufnahme kommen 🙄- manchmal will man auswandern 😄😉. Nein im Ernst; wenn der Arzt geschlossen hat; geht man über die telefonische Zuweisung in eine "Anlaufpraxis". ( Also wenn es nicht warten kann- aber eher nicht lebensbedrohlich ist. )
"Yes I know, but why?" That made my day. 😉 Think about this. Germany's favorite character of Star Trek never was that womanizing slick captain. It was the outwardly dry, rational, and cold, but inwardly passionate and caring Vulcan. But why, indeed?
Mr Spock, the vulcan, is also my favourite. Maybe that´s why I married one. I mean a German, of course. Oh, there I go, joking for no good reason...again...! LOL
@@LaureninGermany You know how beautifully things can develop when one lonely little theme gets company in Freiburg. 😊 I cannot post links, so you have to enter this into the search field (without quotation marks): "sYIb0ldt424 582". 😊
@@wizardm absolutely, it’s part of our training. But I also make an effort with pronunciation when I am speaking, which is different to whilst singing.
Peter! I‘m so glad to read this! It’s funny isn’t it- sometimes it’s like we‘re from different planets 😆 So generous of Ashton to have me on. I wanted to tell you, I will have to have more eye-catching titles and thumbnails from now on. I just can’t justify the time input unless the channel grows. I hope you, and the others who I think of as the guys, will stick with me.
@@LaureninGermany I hope this collab will give you a lot of new subscribers. And changing the subject of the channel will surely not make me unsubscribe. You mentioned the change briefly and i'm sure it will be of interest for many of your existing subscribers, too.
About the "criminal record". In Germany it is quite easy to get this document. So it doesn't cone to mind how difficult it could be to get this document in another country or system.
Yes, I gave up part of my driving rights because it is so difficult to get one from GB at the moment. And we were sooo shocked that Ashton had to phone the FBI!
@@LaureninGermany 😁 it looked like a lit of fun - and comparing impression and stories is always helpful. Germans can check their biases and assumptions - and newbies to Germany get a better insight on what makes Germany tick. I want to yell at that doctor.
In 1957 as an American, my German fiance and I wanted to get married in her small home town in Westfalia. She was setting things up for us to do that at the Rathaus - a civil marriage. Everything was going smoothly until she called me and said the Rathaus is asking me to give them a "Marriage Eligibility Certificate". I had never heard of that, so I went to the US Consulate in Bonn, and told the woman I spoke with what was being requested. She grinned; said, no problem; put a sheet of paper in her typewriter and began.... Name, age, address, father's name, mother's name, etc. Finally she asked "Are you single? Have you ever been married? If yes, do you have your Divorce papers, etc. At the end, I had to sign the statement, and she put the Consulate stamp on it and made it official. Now I had my "Heirat Faehigkeits Dokument" . We could get married. Later I asked what is it all about, and why did I need such a document? Apparently Near Easterners convince German girls to marry them, and when they arrive at their new location they find that they are wife No. 5; their passport is taken away and the grooms mother is running the multiple wives show. A Paris acquaintance ( German) told me her story. She become such a victim but eventually escaped and sought shelter at the German Embassy. They took care of her and then put her on the next diplomatic flight back to Germany. This is how European Countries tried to protect their citizens. Ciao, Connie
Hi Connie! But what I don´t understand is why you just answering the questions was enough proof? And signing. I mean, if someone is criminal enough to do that to a woman, then they wouldn´t mind lying, surely? Or have I misunderstood?
@@LaureninGermany das ist weil....die deutsche B ü r o k r a t i e 🙄😄...you know... für a l l e s ein Dokument will. Bedeutet; mit Deiner schriftlichen Attestierung; wie es jetzt in diesem Moment ist und zuvor war mit Deinen Lebensverhältnissen ; bist Du mit dem unterschriebenen Papier juristisch belangbar; wenn sich später herausstellt; es entsprach nicht den Tatsachen. Deshalb genügt dem Staat Deine Unterschrift unter solch' einem Dokument.
a "polizeiliches Führungszeugnis" (or "certificate of good conduct") is necessary when applying for a public service job - and in germany that's also jobs at a university - or when working with children. I think it's fairly self-explanatory for the working-with-children part, the public-service part may be a bit harder to explain. I think since public service jobs are government payed jobs, it is assumed that one may become aware of some privileged information. Which, I'm pretty sure, every gardener working for the municipal landscaping department can agree.
funny to see a colaboration of you 2. I live also in Baden-Württemberg and i find it quite interesting what differences are you aware of. Thanks for the insights and love in your life! Go(o)d bless. :)
@@LaureninGermany Oh, it is... but i have quite the problem with the CSU and some of Bavarias quite special political situation. :) I also do some youtube videos, i have stopped for quite a while but i want to start again. Maybe there`ll be some space for a colaboration someday! Have a great week, best regards, Max!
Howdy Lauren, I can finally play catch up on your videos. I have been a traveling horse for the last couple of months lol. Awesome conversation Lauren. It is great to talk about the differences between countries for sure. Thank You for sharing :)
@@chkoha6462 oh wow! You are so lucky! I have to go back, there was so much more to see. Here’s the video link: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WDXXDbeWRlQ.html
It really is frustrating, isn’t it?! And then, when it is possible to do something official online, it’s very very complicated and doesn’t work well. Like in my Brexit video, I stopped even trying to explain how I activated my Persi…! Lol!
Lauren, I had t show my American Passport, and explained that I was working for a major US Company and was living in Koeln; but the Consul official just took my word for being single and had never been married. She was aware of this Germen "Heirat Faehikeits Zeugniss. My guess is if you were from a Near East, or North African Country, German officials would demand a lot more assurance.
Very interesting conversation. Just a comment: If a Scandinavian Medical Doctor called a patient 14 times for a date he would be stripped of his licence immideately. In Denmark it is frequently demanded by an employer to get a fresh copy of your criminal record. If i need to do that i just order it from the police digitally, and sign my request with my digital signature. It comes to me by a secure mail right away. It usually states i have done nothing wrong the last two years. For people working with children they need to get confirmed from the police they never have been convicted for any form of child abuse. It is a good system, and very easy to use for the citizens. Thanks for another good video. 👍
There is a similar system here, it‘s a good thing. But he didn‘t care, ugh! And it wasn‘t 14 times, I must be honest… it was 40!!! Yes, really. What a maniac! Thanks, Hans! Takk!
That yellow vaccination certificate is not a German thing. I lived my entire childhood and adolescence in Latin America and always had that little booklet issued by the WHO. I was quite shocked to learn from my BIL that he had never seen one nor knew that there existed. Instead he had a flimsy piece of paper that any copy shop could have issued without any major problems saying that he was vaccinated and to my surprise it was accepted nearly everywhere.
@@LaureninGermany Hi Lauren. Just noticed that I didn't mention where my BIL lives. The fingers were quicker than the brain. He lives in New York but he is actually German what surprised me even more. Apparently he either never was vaccinated or never was issued such a certificate.
@@dunga61 yes, it isn’t mandatory to be vaccinated. I suppose that’s why the certificate is not particularly official. It’s more for your own records if you choose to be vaccinated.
criminal record. My daughter is studying to be a kindergarten teacher. To do this, she had to show her criminal record. She got it at City Hall. The document just said "no entries" They had never kidnapped children or anything like that.
Lauren, I saw the video at Black forest family, and the one point about the motorway in Wales... for about roughly 1,5 to 2 years there is no bridge toll anymore at the 2 bridges to Wales. That was a political decision, because of corruption again, because the toll protected Wales from rising prices. By the day the toll was fallen, the housing prices shot up into the sky in Wales (near Bristol) because people from the overpriced Bristol now looked for houses in Wales. But it was not the people but the real estate companies, the landlords who put up the prices like... That's why my friends had to leave Chepstow. Maybe last time you flew directly to Cardiff or so and didn't notice that the toll staions were gone. Surely it is good to safe money if you come from Bristol...
I haven´t been back to Wales for a long time, Mattes. I did not know that. I know Chepstow well - what a shame your freunds had to leave. Housing prices in Wales have been ridiculous for years. Nice housing, at least.
Love your video and the nice conversation you had. Had a big laugh about your fear to really get shot by those radar boxes or traps in case you are caught speeding. On the other hand your experience with the doctor truly shocked me. At first I thought, oh - you must be very sick if your doctor is trying to reach you multiple times to save your life. But then... for a date? What? Just awful. Now I understand how this experience influenced you in your further decisions to protect your privacy. No one should have such experiences and such a doctor should face consequences - and if caught more than once in doing so even lose his license. At least that is my opinion.
Yes, it really did affect me. It´s not the only unfortunate experience I have had with Drs here, and I do tend to avoid them as much as possible these days. I´m so glad you liked our gemeinsame Videos! It´s been such fun!
@@LaureninGermany If I may give you an advice: Don't give up! I feel it is very important to have 3 doctors that you can trust: Hausarzt, Zahnarzt, Frauenarzt. I am in a lucky enough situation to have found those who I can trust, and I feel that it does make my life easier. I have to worry less. I get regular checks and I feel they are honest with me. But I have also made the experience with some black sheep. Also: I love your content and the black forest family's one. If you ever think about doing another video together: Count me as fan number 1
@@LaureninGermany I wouldn't think this to be bad of him to do that specifically to someone new in the country. For me he is crossing a red line, independent of your specific situation or any other woman. It's just a no-no, period.
But thanks again you both for speaking out your culture shocks! I am aware much more what's going on around here and what happened to me, while I came back from the States and when I later returned from Britain to Germany. I absolutely had 2 reversed culture shocks in total! 🫢
I have never had to get a "Proof of NOT having a criminal record" in Germany and neither have any of my family members. We found that quite awesome and "unbureaucratic" because we got asked for that in Spain every time and was so annoying to get one from Venezuela. In Germany you just have to declare and sign you have never committed a crime and your word would suffice.
She didn’t, actually- my husband has had to do it for teaching and I needed one when trying to transfer my bus driver’s licence (see my latest video). I think you just didn’t need one for your job.
Don´t miss the video of the top 10 things NEVER to do in Germany over on Ashton´s channel: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-vOczxHaO_S4.html and let me know if you like seeing the two of us together! Wasn´t it fun?!
@@LaureninGermany Dear Lauren, geht zurück! Euer lovy Talk hat mir viel Spaß gemacht! Morgen bin ich mit Tochter in der MINIATUR WUNDERWELT in HH! Freu mich schon sehr! Und nachmittags schauen wir uns eine Mietwohnung an. Drück uns mal die Daumen, scheint von der Beschreibung und den Fotos genau richtig für uns zu sein! XXX Ben
@@LaureninGermany Moin Lauren, Thx, hat geholfen! XD Waren gestern über 3 h im MINIATUR WUNDERLAND. Meine Tochter hat mir die ganze Zeit alles beschrieben! Bis sie zum Schluß schon Fusseln am Mund hatte! LOL Wir haben beide den Papa-Tochter-Tag genossen. - Und wir haben wohl die Wohnung! Müssen nun nur noch unsere Papiere übermitteln. - Heut Abend singt Meinfrau im WEIN AHRENS. Ist natürlich schon furchtbar aufgeregt. Ich freu mich schon sehr auf den Abend! Darfst also wieder die Daumen drücken! Liebe Grüße Ben
For any job in Denmark, where you handle money or people, you usually have to show a "clean" criminal record. Thankfully, we're so digitalized, that you just "log on and click print" 😥 I'm surpriced, it's not the norm in the US and UK. How about teachers? Don't you check if they've got a "clean record" 🤔 Wonderful and enlightning video 🤩
Yes, we do check teachers, Ane-Louise, absolutely. My husband is one, that´s how I know. Ashton and I were just absolutely shocked that she had to phone the FBI to go to study in Germany! Thank you so much for watching!
@@LaureninGermany I understand. Seems way more serious (almost criminal 🤣) having to call the Fed's, rather than just "log on, click print" looking forward to learning more from the two of you
Problems because of Brexit doesn't sound good. I am keen to hear what you will tell us. I was quite deep in this topic, because I tried to help out my friends in UK with understanding what to do. The whole Brexit rules are and were such a nightmare, it was weeks of stress and when done the applications, then weeks of fear while waiting for answers. I am talking here about the settlement scheme. And the settlement scheme- authority didn't do what they promissed..., so... my German friend thinks now, everything is clear now, but I doubt that her status is really clear because there was a weird phone text or something from the authority... Official media don't spread the truth what is going on in countries, but I guess there are still thousands of tragedies around the "settlement scheme" for kids or partners of split or criminal partners or parents or orphans and students and artists and sports people and others who live more worldwide... This UK gov is pure cruelty (although many authorities are at least better organised than the German ones). Some similar horror started then for the German friend when she arrived in Germany, her way of living for a while in UK was not within their categories, so she was in parts kind of not existing or not welcome in her own country. The German authorities e.g. wanted a British document from my friend, that she has not married anyone in UK 🤔🤔🤔 of course there is in UK not such an authority who gives you a paper where is written, that you have NOT married somewhen in the UK. Etc., etc. And we had such a problem with the moving goods to bring from UK to EU, with the customs etc.
nice video, lovely collab imo :) 9:30 afaik there are certain jobs or job fields where its just standard to provide a "criminal record". if you wanna work at the airport, or as security while carrying a weapon for the job (plus a certificate to be able to handle a weapon) for example. when born here for applications its just an email away and you have the record in your mail a few days later. i guess no1 thought it through what happens if some1 is from somewhere else 🥴
Yes, I remember being really surprised when my husband needed one to work in a school. I think it´s good. But it was sooo shocking that Ashton had to phone the FBI! ANd thank you, we both really enjoyed the collab!
To the topic of criminal record : now I understand why it is so hard to enforce stricter gun laws in the US. If there is no centralized criminal record how would you even do a background check? It would be super complicated. And How do the law enforcement agencies do that ? I would assume that they at least do background checks before employing a person ??
In Germany, if you chose to do "civil service" (Zivildienst) instead of serving in the military, you were required to present said criminal record (polizeiliches Führungszeugnis), and it really should be a clean sheet of paper with the sigil of the Bundesamt für Justiz on it. If you chose military duty, however, no such thing was required. So apparently soldiers are welcome to have a criminal record.
Speaking aloud in public is considered rude. When I go out and my friend and he shows me funny video clips on the phone in a restaurant, I beg him to turn the volume down. I then observe the people around me and yes, they already are looking annoyedly....
hi, if you need an ambulance in germany , please call 112 (for ambulance and fire department) 110 is just the police. they help you too, but it is less comolicated , if you in need of an ambulance
40 voicemails !!!! Appalling!!! Australians are also well known for being loud ( I am one) and for some reason people think that talking louder will make others understand them better - lol. When I was going to live and work in the UK I had to get a document saying I didn't have a criminal record and the agency I work for here in Brisbane requires me to get one every five years.
Lol, yes the talking louder thing is always really helpful- not! Well, it’s good to know my comment section is certified non-criminal. Yiu poor thing , every five years. I wonder if the dr ever had to prove himself, or if patient harassment didn’t count?
You can't generalize German social roules an behaviour because it sometimes differs extremely between the diferent areas. - E. g. in contrast to many parts of Germany, in Wuppertal people are very loud and friendly❣️
Very well, here is the other half of your conversation with Ashton about culture shocks in Germany. It was not directly your topic, but what Ashton says about the underdeveloped digitization in Germany directly contains the problems for which the digital industry has not yet found any real solutions that will last for a long time. Software is constantly changing and often so are the data formats. For one thing, Ashton's vaccination history was only available to her previous doctor in the USA, why didn't she have this data herself? Everyone complains about paperwork, but there are areas that have not yet found an adequate digital replacement.
Well, I don’t know about Ashton, but in GB we were not allowed to see our doctor‘s notes, for many years. We wouldn’t expect to have them because they are sent from doctor to doctor.
Funny thing vice versa: my 20 year old doughter will do a semester at an American university. Next week she will have an interview at the American embassy!!! She was told, to be dressed proper and not (neuer, never) tell the officer, that she maybe will stay longer than one semester.
FYI Actually it used to be proper etiquette in America to not speak so loudly - but that started to change in America with the 1960s and each generation became more lax until proper etiquette was no longer taught from parents to children (it basically became total lack of respect for any Authority).
Oh this is great! I could have made it longer, but I wasn’t sure if people would be interested, as it’s my first video of this kind! Thank you, that’s boosted my confidence 🤗
@@LaureninGermany You came across as two people being "honest" and not trying to make a good impression (Is that English or did I just do a literal translation of a German phrase?). Anyway, I think most of your or Ashton's viewers appreciate that. We generally appreciate an honest opinion of open minded people, no matter whether we agree or not.
@@wora1111 yes, that’s exactly right- both your English and what we were doing. We wanted to share honest experiences with you all. The community we have on RU-vid makes us want to keep going, because of the authenticity.
I guess the different perception of “loudness” is probably due to the population density in Germany. Being loud will probably automatically affect more people on average. Same goes for the “personal space” issue that Germans are famous for. It’s a crowded country and Germans have adjusted their habits i guess…
But the funny thing is that Americans (actually, I´m referring to @nalf ) say that Germans are much less aware of personal space than Americans... He says they come too close! I always feel that Germans think I want attention when I´m loud. But I am honestly, hand on heart, excited about something nice I am seeing or a nice person I am meeting. And I´m not even American!
@@LaureninGermany I actually meant the lack of personal space or awareness thereof. Weirdly two contradicting ways of dealing with a crowded country… being noise sensitive but getting too close…
On the first view it seems odd to request a negative criminal record, but better save then sorry. It is still a cruel World sometimes and bad, unimaginable Things happen.
Brits - at least from certain educational background - tend to whisper to the German ear. I can't recall how often I had to ask my wife or her friends to speak up because they didnt want to be a nuisance in public. Many Americans on the other hand often seem to be shouting, but actually they rather stick out because of the - to the German ear - overpronounced intonation or emotions. Germans are loud but reserved in emotions and intonations. Abroad it is very easy to acustically identify the Germans.
Well, I don´t know what you mean about the certain educational background, I think you get all sorts from everywhere. As to the rest, I agree, good analysis! You have me intrigued: I am loud enough in public and British, so where would you place my educational background.
@@LaureninGermany I was trying to be polite and not say privately educated, mostly middle and upper middle class. In the video (I'm new to the channel) you are very clear and easily understandable. But let's face it: you are stage-trained and you have an ear for linguistic differences which clearly shows in your command of German pronunciation, that makes it very hard to assign any background. Plus, I would never dare to enter the minefield of openly assigning an educational background to a Brit.
Germans actually joke about being unmoved by jokes. There is the anecdote of the entertainer going on tour. In a small Mecklenburgian village, he's on stage, and he tries all his tricks and jokes, he tries political jokes, racy jokes, dad jokes, jokes making fun of other parts of Germany. The audience is silent. Finally, he ends his program, flees the stage and feels devastated. The mayor of the village comes into his changing room, shakes his hands and says: We've never been this entertained before. We had to try really hard not to laugh and disturb your performance.
😂 that’s absolutely hilarious! I’m a performer by profession, and sometimes I have actually experienced this! Not quite as extreme- but I have been completely shocked after the show, because of similar behaviour. They do say there’s a bit of truth in most humour!
@@gweisa899 The USA is a wonderful country. For a visit. People are friendly (as long as you don't dive into politics), the landscape is great. One can have a very good holiday over there. You couldn´t pay me enough to live there, though.
@@gweisa899 well, nowhere is perfect, and I‘m glad you love living in America. The health system in GB is not something to be proud of anymore, either.
40 calls from your doctor, to go on a date???? That’s not culture shock, that’s stalking. That would definitely merit a call to the kassenärztliche Vereinigung to register a complaint.
Yes, I wonder if he only risked it because he knew I wouldn’t be able to make that call. He spoke English and my German was very limited at that point.
@@LaureninGermany Because of my hobby I had to get a "Große polizeiliche führungszeugnis" And that was a problem, because during military service I disappeared from that face of the earth as far as civilian powers were concerned.
After almost 25 years of living in the US i can say that americans are not "fake" when they are friendly and welcoming to strangers. What colors our (german) experience is that it is out of sync with how we are. by the time we are so friendly and chatty with people, we have well progressed into some sort of relationship. A relationship like that will then come with certain expectations. Americans are THAT friendly when they first meet you, without that relationship, and without this expectation that it has to go somewhere. i have grown to quite like it. i wish we germans could be friendlier as a whole. I personally am quite chatty if i find someone "interesting" or casually overhear a conversation while standing in line. even in germany. In summary: americans often are perceived as acting in a way germans would be acting after a week or 2 of regular contact, when meeting for the first time. but the relationship is not there yet for us germans. make sense?
@@LaureninGermany not sure i can answer that, but i find that interesting things make people interesting. a good in depth conversation goes a long way. My favorite thing is to get people to talk about something they had no idea they would be talking about...... something light, something funny, once we are engaged we like a conversation as much as the next guy :)
@@uliwehner interesting is definitely not the problem. I’m foreign, a Künstlerin. I feel more that my natural personality, which is friendly in my British way, is met with distrust.
@@urlauburlaub2222 I think you are right and your analysis is very good. Thank you. One thing though, from my point of view, the friendliness is difficult to see for foreigners. I see it now, but you need to know the Germans to see it.
@@LaureninGermany this is an interesting dilemma. being interesting, and finding what makes other people interesting are 2 different things. people engage better if THEY are perceived as interesting. we don't want to attract stalkers but rather friends now don't we?
What this doctor did there is totally inapropriate. If you had reported him to the clinic administration or the Krankenkasse, he could be in deep trouble. And the 40 voice mails could even be seen as stalking, unless you encouraged him. But in a way I can understand why he did it - you are very attractive and you have a lovely voice. I've been always thinking you should speak audio books for children, like fairy tales or so, it would sound absolutely perfect. Well, may be you already did...
@@LaureninGermany Well, introduce yourself to some publishers of audio books, I'm sure they will notice your special voice, too. Not that they pay lots of money for such jobs, though...
@@petebeatminister I think it´s not well paid, so I´ll keep playing the roulette that is RU-vid! Maybe I´ll get famous and an audiobook with me would be something special lol!
@@LaureninGermany Yeah, concidering the time and effort needed for recording a audio book, the pay is not that great, I think. Unless you are someone famous perhaps. About YT... well, if it works for you, very well. But I'm a bit uncertain if its a reliable income scource on the long run. May be you should rather start something solid. Like a Jodel training.... :) Do you know that old Loriot sketch? It absolutely brilliant.
@@petebeatminister no, I don’t know that sketch- I‘ll have it look, it sounds funny! Maybe you’d like to watch my Bremen video, see what I do apart from RU-vid!
@criminal record: Back in the monarchy days IT was forbidden for convicted people to Work. Up to this day many employers practise this as good Tradition.
@@LaureninGermany 😊. I am a person which is also more open, having small talk with anyone. Some think I'm flirting, others I'm insane. Luckily in Berlin there is so much subculture that I don't have to be ashamed.
so ist das in Deutschland - you have be friendly no records no crimes Sittsam Anständig Gehorsam Demokratisch, sehr wichtig. Achtung - Still gesessen. ja so sind die Deutschen, die wir können nichts dafür :-)
Well, you weren’t quite so friendly in your comment about my drinking habits… aber jeder kriegt eine Chance bei mir, vielleicht habe ich ein Witz dahinter nicht kapiert.
@@LaureninGermany Entsetzlich! Es ist wirklich absolut! verboten; medizinische Daten samt Tel/ Anschrift/ persönliche Umstände usw. privat zu missbrauchen. Du musst das bei der "Ärztekammer" melden. Der Arzt hat danach ein echtes Problem. Das geht mitunter bis zum Entzug der Approbation. Und Du sollstest es >> immer
so - just to point that out - asking you for a date 40 times is not the usual physicians job description in germany ;) Even in germany, doctors are human, and humans can be creeps. Or really desperate. hmm, that's not very flattering... let's go with fascinated ;)
Americans ARE to loud,fact.And it is disrespectfull in Germany.I experienced this very often.The last time an American family was louder than the whole Kölner ZOO.
criminal record, i had to show it to get my ham license..... you represent Deutschland and nobody is better for it if you are a good citizen... i never got stopped by our cops and ask for ID outside of traffic stops... i never been ask by any cop in the world for my ID, only at border crossings outside the EU single market!
How funny! I do sound German, these days. And I am sometimes not sure if I am mixing the languages. Since doing RU-vid, my English has become better again!
@@LaureninGermany I thought the accent of Welsh people who have learnt English over centuries have made it the way it is. Like Indian English speakers have their English accent.
@@SchmulKrieger I don’t sound very Welsh in this video. I only sound Welsh when speaking to people from Wales. My mother is English, so I grew up with both accents. But you are right, Welsh people have a very specific sound when speaking English, and it’s Indian English often sounds very similar, actually.
