I laughed so hard I was in tears & it’s been a long time since I laughed like that!! Thank you @hooraymae for being so honest & sharing your hocus pocus story. @handsomepod brings me guaranteed laughter every week & one of my favorite podcasts! Keep being you & bringing joy & laughter into our lives ❤
I was watching The Parent Trap the other day and came to a realization of what I had already known since childhood but hadn't yet fully admitted - that I'm a big bisexual gal. Rewatching the movie while in a comfortable, committed, heterosexual relationship allowed me to recall the thoughts and feelings I had when I watched it obsessively as a kid (wanting to kiss every single character in it) and instead of denying or repressing, I accepted them, and accepted that little girl who was bullied for "dressing like a lesbian" in school. I think listening to this podcast's backlog all in one week had gently guided me to that discovery about myself, and this episode was perfectly timed and comforting to listen to. For the record, I understand the Hocus Pocus dream entirely. I worshipped Bette Midler and saw her in concert at 11 (wtf) and I definitely wanted her to kidnap me and like, laugh at my virginity or something. I also get the water thing...for me, it's being spoon-fed soup as if I'm an injured soldier in a hospital, and I don't THINK it's sexual but man who knows. Anyway, thank you for sharing, and thank you for helping me start to come out to myself and to my partner, and maybe someday soon, others as well - starting with strangers in youtube comments :)
How does Tig always look so tiny on the sofa? Happy Pride Month everyone; another excellent episode. You three are so generously honest and are helping others more than you even realize 💖
Mae wanting to be Ferris Beuller is so spot on, because they really do give 80s Matthew Broderick vibes. Never thought of that before, but I see it! We need to get Mae that vest he had on. Happy Pride!! 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜
My wife and I had the great honor of being the Grand Marshals of the first ever Pride Parade in our hometown in 2019. I hope one day Fortune gets that honor in her hometown
The hocus pocus dream reminds me of the tom petty music video for “don’t come around here no more” where the actor playing Alice in wonderland has a body made of cake and the other characters are just slicing it up and eating it…I also found this fascinating as a kid.
Can't believe Mae's the only one here that knows about Mothman! We're not talking some obscure small town cryptid here, Mothman is one of the rock stars of cryptozoology! Another great pod, love you guys.
I just really need to say that this weekly conversation brightens my day! You all would probably empathize that our beautiful wonderful dog is fighting cancer and it’s been so stressful and the good endorphins from smiling and laughing during this podcast truly make me feel better.
I’m feeling extra gay…happy pride month everyone!!! All LGBTQ+ & allies get to gather to celebrate our freedom to choose who you love. 🖤🩶🤎🤍💜💙🩵💚💛🧡🩷 Big hello from the land of Phoenicia here in sunny Arizona. 🏜🕺🏻🐕🏖 🏳🌈🏳⚧🇺🇸❣✨
Great episode! I grew up in a rural community in the 70/80s. I remember seeing Charles Nelson Reilly on MatchGame and feeling a particular kinship but not fully understanding why. Later when Dukes of Hazard was popular, all the boys were hot for Daisy. I just remember quietly thinking she was an unnecessary character and trying to work out if I preferred Bo or Luke. One recurring Handsome moment I always enjoy is Mae freaking out at the famous people Tig casually mentions knowing.
The *dirt pile* is such a southern childhood experience, just had to watch for the dirt clod that had a rock inside it when playing War. Leaves a rather huge bruised egg on the head when on the wrong side of the dirt clod, thanks for reminding me a throw back memory. OMG, Le Femme Nikita series!!! Soo damn hot!
I know it’s been mentioned before but is there anything more ironic than Allstate insurance (not available in California or Alaska)? Makes me laugh every time! …. No biggie though as I adore this poddie xxx
Thank you, Handsomes! This is a soul journey to watch along with you as you share your stories! I feel so seen and loved!!!!! Also def had a crush on my kindergarten teacher and was SO angry and confused when she got engaged to her boyfriend ❤🩷🧡💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤🩶🤍
SJP in Hocus Pocus is a large part of why I do frequent “am I still straight” check ins with myself. I am. But her singing to call out the children, yeah I get it Mae. And I was an adult when that movie came out ❤
Long time pod listener, trying to like these so yall keep em coming. I am part Tig, part Mae and part Fortune. I grew up in MS/Nola, I get Tig's humor. My lbs fluctuated as a child, I totally get Fortune's swimming story. On a family camping trip my Father stuck me in a tent with all the groceries, alone. I was scared and mad so I ate all the moon pies... That showed them... My panties were soiled cause I ate all the moon pies... I lived overseas until my mid teens, I think it would have been easier to discover my sexual identity overseas. I went to my first Pride parade in my late 30s because I served 15 years under DADT. It was so liberating, until I came across all the going to hell people. Tks Tig, great observation.
That was awesome! As a straight woman with several gay and trans love ones, I enjoy hearing you handsome ladies sharing all you stories. You have a way of sharing personal info with so much humour 🙂 Did Mae notice my spelling of humour? Hello from a fellow Toronto peep! This podcast makes my week always.
As a kid in Utah in the 80s, I remember our family had a float in our little town’s Pioneer Days parade. We had a big white boat of a car (a former cop car from the 70s), and my carpenter dad cut up these two big circles out of plywood, probably 4’ in diameter. My mom painted them to look like the smiley faces that were also what you’d have seen in the 70s, and attached them to each side. Then we kids wore pale yellow t-shirts with the same iconic smiley face on the fronts, with white pants, sat on the HOOD of the car, and drove through town waving our little hearts out.
Again, as a kid in Utah, my mom worked at a funeral home, and after that, we weren’t allowed to ski either. Too many people needing their services from skiing and hitting trees.
This podcast is the just the absolute best thing. I laugh out loud often and heartily on the bus while listening to this, and also react as if I'm listening to a friend who left me a voicemail, "hmmm"... "mhhmmhh." "Oh man, you don't know mothman?" delightful. I'm that person on the bus, and I love every minute of it. And I have bus related trauma. This podcast has allowed me to enjoy an environment which is the most triggering thing for my PTSD (CW: Abduction) I survived an abduction off a bus, but I rely on them daily for transportation, so this is a huge life changer and also power bringer. These three comedians. The best trio. And my asexual, panromantic, agender self feels like actually comfortable and heard. I gotta get myself a Handsome tank top. I'm trying to email some fan mail, but I wish snail mail was still a thing. I mean, now it's about messaging on instagram, but I don't have one of those at this point. Maybe someday again. About 90% times in the two against one, I'm the equalizing force. I definitely played in dirt piles. I grew up in a gravel pit. When Tig said that I was like "as you do" and then was taken aback that Fortune and Mae hadn't experienced it, or knew it was a thing. We gotta get them to the gravel pit. We had part we called "the circus pit" that was fine sand, and it was dug out so that there was an optical illusion, even up close, that the sand kept going flat, and then it just dropped off, and you fell down the bank, but it was soft sand, so you would just fall against it and roll or continue to jump down it. I was always sculpting chairs in the bank and just sitting in the actual dirt pile while my cousins threw themselves down the sand banks, laughing. We got a lot of bug bites and we brought most of the pit in with us when we went in at night. The best place to play.I remember feeling so tired and good and full of sand after a day there. Sliding there in other parts of the pit was a bit more dangerous in winters and I did dislocate my knee a few times, but turns out I have generalized hypermobility disorder, so it probably was gonna do that anyway? I do have chronic pain and dislocations from the hypermobility and I really want to try Tig's (and Fortune's) treading water thing, but I have lichen sclerosus, so it's a challenge. swimming is the best thing for everything except my pawntie area greatly suffers. i still want to try. Water relaxes me. The treading reminds me of a thing I used to do when I was little (which reminds me a little of something Mae might have done lol, it's Mae adjacent I think), where I would pretend I was in a shipwreck or a plane crash or something, and I had to keep going in the ocean and hope I got found and rescued, but one or two of my appendages were broken. So I would see how long I could tread with one arm and one leg or just my legs. Dark, but yeah. My brother would be like "oh are you playing 'broken limb shipwreck survivor again?" When he'd see me treading weirdly. "Want to play Water Chat with me instead?" (the name was inspired by Cawfee Twok", Mike Meyers' SNL sketch). We had a game that I'm sure is a thing with other kids, that we would go underwater and try to say things to each other, and then come up and try to guess what the person was saying. It got pretty ridiculous. Thank you to everyone in this episode for sharing their stories about realizing they were gay and Mae's feelings around gender and not quite fitting with the lesbian crew / identity entirely. I really appreciate hearing all the stories. I knew I was just romantically attracted to any age of consent human, I didn't know I was asexual until recently and I'm 40. I wish I had known because I thought things about myself like "why am I incapable of loving fully in the way other people need and in the way other people enjoy on a level I don't" and "I like how people look but it doesn't make me think of or want sex particularly." I found out when my therapist had assigned me homework to fantasize, and I just don't. I never have. For one, I have aphantasia and I can't visualize. But also I generally think of it as a chore I need to do every now and then. I get in there, get 'er done, and i'm good. And I make a point of trying all my therapy homework so I was disappointed in myself and confused s to why I found it impossible (this was the overarching thing about not knowing I was ace). And I came back to him and said " I tried, I just couldn't. I just don't, I'm so sorry. How can I try?" And he was like "oh no, I'm so sorry. I had been counselling you like I was trying to encourage you to realize you were attracted to women" and I was like "I already know I crush on women, I've had relationships and experiences with girls and I think they're great. I think any gender identity of human is crushworthy." And he was like "yeah, have you heard of asexuality?" And I said "yeah but that's not me right? I have had sex, I'm sex positive." And he was like "do some reading about it (I'm a library technician and I don't mind a good research project), and it turns out that's what I am. It's been helpful in me understanding that I was fully loving before, that this was how I fully loved, it's just different. and now that I'm not trying to force myself to try to enjoy something on a level I don't, I'm able to be freer with what intimacy and connection actually is for me without entirely defining it around my chronic pain, my self perceived coldness, my trauma, and mainly around what other people needed me to do with them for them to be fulfilled. Before I understood my identities, I would describe myself as both "pansexual but without the sex part somehow." and "my orientation is that I feel like I'm a kid." The thing I could liken it to was before you learn social gender norms and before you develop a sexuality. That's where I felt I was. And I thought that's cool, kids are awesome. And people would react by saying "don't be so hard on yourself, you're attractive" or whatever. But I was like "I'm not being down on myself, I like who I am, it's just how my gender and sexuality are." It's better to be able to say "I'm agender, asexual, and panromantic" instead of "I'm like how kids get to be sometimes for a while". I'm glad this is a thing that's talked about and that kids know this about themselves so that they don't shame themselves or try to force themselves to have sex in different ways or inebriated to see if that makes it better, that they don't have to ever think that they are incapable of fully loving people. And I never felt like a girl, but I also don't feel like a guy. I feel as much like a girl as a guy, which is to say equally neither. But for my life I've just gone with girl because it was as incorrect feeling as guy, and it seemed easier to just go the social norm. But yeah, I have never really identified or felt like I was either. I do feel better when people use "they" referring to me and I actually wasn't expecting how much better it felt, as well as having an Mx. instead of a Ms. or whatever. I have mast cell activation, along with other conditions, so I wear loose cotton mostly and jeans, and since i'm allergic to all makeup and hair products, I just use my hypoallergenic bar soap (that's right, a bar soap because the additives that make soap liquid make my skin very angry. Also I learned that Sarah Silverman and I wash our butts in very similar ways. I would add I try to give both a good rinse, and then I pat dry very gently after. And then I apply my two topical meds very awkwardly on the floor lol this is nothing compared to my eye care routine to prevent chronic marginal keratitis. How am I still here? No one knows but we're stuck with me.), and hypoallergenic sulphate, paraben, etc. free shampoo and conditioner. And I'm 5 feet tall. My aesthetic is very 10 year old boy, but I dig it. If I have to wear a dress it bothers my neurodivergent sense sensitivity thing. I'm distracted to the point where it often feels as distracting and undesirable as pain. I'm like "urgh, get it offa me". Same with turtlenecks. lol! I love the Mitch Hedburg bit where he says "wearing a turtleneck while wearing a backpack is like being strangled by a very weak Little Person" (I'm paraphrasing). The only representation I had was while watching Bojack. I heard Todd and I was like "that's me! That's exactly how I feel!" It was really powerful and I hope for more representation like that for all orientations and identities. lol I'm putting other youtube clips in my comment. Sorry y'all. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ltmP6vvQAII.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-R9NNNapsP-I.html Thanks for reading my long comment lol! If you could make it through. Long story longer, What. A. Podcast.
Love you guys! Great episode. I remember doing the statistics too!!! But always came short since there were way more students than 20 students in my class year. I was always looking out for who the others might be. Later on I found of some others but still until today, apparently I am the only lesbian. Great show. Very funny and open as always. You guys help make so many people feel much more comfortable in our gayness, even if you don‘t go to the parades. 😂
I took my 5 year old son to the Toronto Pride parade. I’m from Ottawa where everyone is boring and asleep by 8 pm so our pride parade is pretty tame so I didn’t think anything of bringing my son. First three minutes he had his first eye full of a naked man and got so panicked. It was our fault, we shouldn’t have breached a safe place for expression with such a young kid. I was so afraid he was going to equate such a traumatic experience to gay people in general but as we walked home the most HANDSOME and kind lesbian woman talked to him and explained how silly this whole thing was that he realized how amazing most people are in the community. And not to say that Mr Naked Man wasn’t wonderful, I shouldn’t have brought my 5 year old to his celebration. lol, I now stick to the kid friendly events.
Happy Pride month. And I started treading water today. 30 min in Lake Erie 🇨🇦 where the water temp was 60F. I was the only one in the water today with the exception of a few dead mud cats and some algae that floated by. Tomorrow, weather and water temps permitted …40 min.Love this podcast!
Mothman is a humanoid creature in West Virginian folklore that is said to have been seen in the Point Pleasant area from 1966 to 1967. The first reported sighting was by two young couples in November 1966 who claimed to have seen a terrifying creature with human features, 10-foot wings, and glowing red eyes. The creature became even more well-known in 1967 when it was reportedly seen near the Silver Bridge in Point Pleasant just before it collapsed, killing 46 people. Some West Virginians still debate whether Mothman was responsible for the collapse or if it was a warning sign. The Mothman is celebrated annually in Point Pleasant with a free, family-friendly festival that includes storytelling, hayrides, and appearances from Mothman experts. The 2024 festival will take place September 21-22. There is also a Mothman Museum near Point Pleasant that features historical press clippings, photographs, movie props, and other artifacts related to the legend.
I love the show Tig did with Taylor Dane I love Taylor's voice also. Thank you Tig for that show. It made me smile I am dying with Cancer and I have no family left. God Bless you Much love Jean from Hollywood California
When I was in high school back in the 80s, I had this friend that I was so attracted to. Her name was Skye. She was raised by hippies and she had this really chill confidence about her … she was just so comfortable in her own skin. She played the cello and she would drag me to the music rooms during lunch so she could practice and it was a whole vibe that I was really into lol. She convinced me to start learning an instrument and I thought yeah, I’d be into that. So she got me to talk to the music teacher. He was a crotchety, old guy, completely lacking in any charm, and he insisted he needed a tuba player and that’s the only instrument he would teach me. There could not possibly have a been a less cooler instrument that he could’ve offered me! He really didn’t get what I was trying to do 🤦♀️😂 I had like two lessons and gave up.
god this podcast is so FUCKING healing. made me remember how when I was really little I'd kiss my friends on the lips, and then when we got older like seven it either stopped or I learned that shame to not do that 😭 Poor little baby me. Anyway now I kiss all my friends again. But I don't get to see them often so just stuff like listening to this is the best ever. ♥️
LOVE the podcast. The sound seed muffled. I was trying to read lips, Mays mouth is.covered by the microphone Tigs mustache is covering her mouth. Fortune was the most clear.
In case no one else has mentioned it, the weirdest small-town gay parade that should be witnessed is on July 4, in Gay, Michigan, in the Upper Peninsula. Gay has a tiny population (named after a mining baron) but sports The Gay Bar, which features specialty hot dogs and great Michigan beer! The Gay Parade is full of locals who create weird little acts -- old men riding a tiny tractor pulling a trailer with a home-made marionette playing one-man-band style or a small group of people twirling giant Yooper Scoopers (massive snow shovels). After the parade, head to the church parking lot for the local charity flea market. HIGHLY recommend.
Hahaha the vibe is exceptionally great on this one! If you sell tickets for your pontoon with your paper maché b00b on top for a gay pride somewhere, I'm IN!
39:14 Mae, you are not alone! It wasn't Hocus Pocus for me (although that is an all time favorite), it was actually the witch from the Bugs Bunny Looney Tunes. Don't know why, but at 6, I had a reoccurring dream of her eating me. I really wonder if there is something of a trend of AFAB folks having dreams like that, cause I know others! Happy Pride!🎉
At 11 I was oddly obsessed with that Hocus Pocos and even recorded her song and would listen to it on cassette tape over and over again. I didn’t understand why it gave me the tingles until maybe 3 years later even though I was experimenting with a close friend in my middle school group. I would tell her I was pretending to be Twiggy from Marilyn . Bwahahaha we are still friends even though she’s married with kids now.
