I was a housewife when I first got married and after much time of being pressured and judged by family members I tried to be a woman in the work force...I fell into such a deep depression. For almost 2 years I hardly had anytime for my home or self care, my marriage was strained because of stress. It wasn’t for me. When I became a housewife again I felt so incredibly blessed, I never take it for granted! Love your channel and message! I hope we have many more years of your content🥰🥰
@Harshit Kapoor Now I'm looking for a job. It's not easy but still I'm happy :) I do small side jobs. My wedding was small (4 people including us haha).
Same here!! I finally admitted to myself that going to a job wasn’t for me. I’ve always wanted to be a housewife, and now I have a wayyyy less stressful life. :)
It's all very well and good IF you can afford to be a homemaker. Unfortunately, nowadays, many women cannot afford the luxury to stay home and live well on just one salary, not to mention bringing up a family. It's also part of the reason why being housewife was the norm decades ago, it was much more affordable to do so. Unless you come from a wealthy, middle-class background, the reality of poorer, working-class women choosing to become a homemaker and living a comfortable life is extremely slim in 2020.
One does not have to be wealthy to be a homemaker. My 4 children are grown now, but we raised all 4 with me staying home. I also homeschooled my children. When we started down this road, my husband was making$35,000 per year. Now he is making $60,000. It can be done, if you are both willing to live a modest life. Don't use credit cards or personal loans. These only put you deeper in debt. Live within your means and save for things you want. Don't rule out second hand stores or Craigslist. You can find some really nice things for a reasonable price. It's a common misconception that staying home is expensive. It's actually cheaper. Speaking from personal experience, that is. I would encourage you and your husband to sit down and look hard at your lifestyle and finances and see where you could make do with less. Especially if you have children. When they're grown and you look back through the years, you won't regret the sacrifices made to be there for them every day. An added benefit is the confidence you gain, as you encounter the various life challenges of staying home and making do and raising your own children with your belief system and values, not someone else's.
@@miggy7165 How did you put your children through college? Were you able to take family vacations? Were they able to go on field trips, join sports, and fit in with their peers?
@@ducttapeheart while my 2 daughters decided not to go to college, my eldest son will graduate college this year with a double major and 3 minors with absolutely no school debt. His grades alone qualified him for a full ride scholarship - books, tuition, housing, meal plans, parking permits, anything purchased at the bookstore (including his laptop), everything was covered. All he had to do was put gas in his car. (My youngest son just graduated high school and is yet undecided about higher education.) While we didn't take a vacation every year, and we didn't go to Hawaii or disneyland, we were still able to take trips out of state to visit family on vacation or tag along when my husband had to go out of state for work training (paying for the bigger hotel room and meals and such) and turn it into a family trip. My kids were more interested in theater than sports, so we found a homeschool foundation where they could participate in yearly plays, take extracurricular classes and and learn from people with more knowledge then me about things like public speaking, bioethics and government and constitution. It wasn't always easy. There were things we had to prioritize or do without (like the fancy vacations or getting a pool installed. Or even paying for a membership to the city pool.) But there are still lots of ways to have fun as a family and get out and socialize.
i’m a homemaker right now and i still feel bad sometimes asking for money for things that we need or if i want to have fun with friends even if my fiancé says it’s okay because he said he wants to provide for his family (aka me and when we eventually have children)
The problem is that we are so hooked up on the idea of equality and forget that we will never be equal: we have different hormones, different perspectives and instincts. We are supposed to have the same value, but we must not seek to be equal no one that is in its core our opposite.
THANK YOU! Your life choices really are no ones business. How you run your home is completely up tp you and your husband. I ain't got time for the haters, even if its my mother. We are not lazy or selfish for staying home and serving our husbands. My day planner is full most days and I don't even have kids yet.
I am 31 single woman. I desire to have my own family. I rent apartment and I'm learning how to take care of me and space around me. What else I can do to attract what I desire?
I want to become a doctor but also to be a homemaker. Like it's not possible but... . I am interested on how medicine works and can heal people. I want heal people with my knowledge and interest of medicine. But I am confused cause it won't give me time to be a homemaker . Any advice on this ? (I am still a pre med student )
I plan to be a homemaker when my future children are small. Then when the youngest becomes five and starts school I would like to get back into the workforce at least part-time, maybe full time.
@@candyxoxo19 thank you 💕 I will give the exam next year 😄 and I asked my fiance , he said he will be out too if sometimes I am not able to do some work at home . Blessed to have him 🥰 Thanks alot again dear ❤️
Any other teens that desire this sort of lifestyle? I often feel alone in my generation, I'm pretty sure that not many traditional guys my age exist :(
@@MrsMidwest that’s what has carried me through! @Rachel Cabrera Do not settle for less than you want in a man and a life long relationship because you only need one. My current boyfriend is absolutely everything I could ask for in a traditional man and he is only 23, they are out there and it takes some patience but you are worth it
You are not alone, I’m not a teen, I’m 22 but I really desire to find a traditional husband who would love for me to stay at home. A lot of my friends don’t have this desire and a lot of my peers too. So I understand the feeling so deeply of feeling like an outsider and almost as if it’s taboo. This shouldn’t be taboo. It’s sad the stigma that comes with being a stay at home wife/mum. I pray all those looking for a traditional husband find them in good time
I think C. S. Lewis said it very well: "The homemaker has the ultimate career. All others careers exist for one purpose only - and that is to support the ultimate career."
Homemaking and becoming a mother is my calling..I "just" need to find a traditional man to marry 😂🤪 Edit: thanks for all of the likes! Girls we ALL deserve a nice, traditional husband! I will pray for all of you ❤
Same! While I love being a performing artist and going to open mics and pursuing that dream, I know that can't pay the bills long term and I would love to meet a traditional man who wants more than a hook up. I would love to meet a man who wants to marry and have kids. It's really difficult to meet traditional men.
"It doesn't matter what your Mother in law thinks. If you, your husband and the Lord are on the same page, BLESSINGS TO YOU." Wow shed a lil tear at that moment
I'm a single mother with a toddler, zero debt and I have a 6-figure salary. I want to be a stay at home wife/mom, but so many people tell me I cannot because I have a child. I'm great at budgeting and saving, I pray that God will allow me to have a great husband thats ok with me being at home.
When I met my husband I was a single mom. And now we are expecting our 3rd child together and I’m becoming a stay at home mama. Don’t believe the lie you can’t find someone because you already have a child. There are so many men who respect single moms and motherhood and you’ll find someone who will love you and your child and have the same values as you❤️
I never knew I wanted to be a Homemaker, I grew up career-driven, and then I got sick. I had to leave my career and focus on battling cancer. I have been cancer-free for 9 months and me and my partner have decided that me being a homemaker is important for our lives to go smoothly. yes, I truly enjoy it. I love being at home. I can provide a much healthier lifestyle than we could have if we were both working our careers.
Congrats on your hard fight. My father had cancer this year and was able to win his battle too. I’m so happy for you and your family and I hope everything goes well from here on out.
New housewife here!! 🙋🏽♀️I’m so happy i have a big sister like you to help guide me on this journey, every woman in my family is that “strong independent black woman who don’t need no man” type and it’s so refreshing to hear you speak for us!!!💕😊
My fiancé and I are so much happier now that I stay home and I am making the house a HOME! He is so happy to come home from work to me and our home. I am so much happier being able to slow down and care for my home, my man and myself. I NEVER want to go back to regular work, I am working from home and I am way more happy. I am an artist, an expecting mother, a future wife, and an amazing homemaker, this is definitely the happiest I've ever been.🥰
I feel really privileged to be a homemaker as well. I've met so many moms recently who say "I wish I could stay home" and I feel sad for them. I get to be in my cozy house all day (or leave if I choose) and raise my children (instead of sending them to daycare and missing them all day).
Coming from A women who became a Housewife/homemaker in the late 70s, I can tell you that all my friends were putting off having babies. They wanted the career and The big house. Making the choice to stay at home with Our children meant we delayed the second car and the purchase of our first home. 40 years later I hear from old friends that they were actually envious of me all those years ago! Nice to hear
My goal is to live in a simple European cottage with a garden and work part time from home, tutoring/teaching online, with 2-4 kids. My background is in psychology and I eventually want to achieve a PhD and have my own practice when my future kids are grown. I’ve had to overcome this fear of not being “young and successful” that I’ve developed from comparing myself to my colleagues. I’ve realized I’d be happier spending my younger years at home enjoying family and living a healthy lifestyle so that I can eventually go back to school and become a cool successful grandma 😎
I don’t know anyone who is a homemaker but myself. And I’m constantly shamed and judged by other WOMEN for being “lazy.” Never once have I been shamed by a man for choosing to be a homemaker.
My husband’s subordinates are always jealous of his lunches - homemade bread, slow cooked stews, baked treats. We’ve converted several of them over the years to have their wives stay home after the baby is born. The power of a good brownie is real! 😂😂
LOL! Yes!! Every time one of my husband’s friend’s wives becomes a homemaker or a stay at home mom, we celebrate. It can be such a relief for mama, child, AND hubby! :)
Hahaha Yes!!!! It’s so rarely discussed what a relief it is for the man to have his wife at home focused on keeping the ship steady and directed. He can focus only on work at work!
Great work. Generational blessings will result. I am a single person but I support homemakers and grateful I can find more jobs and married men can find jobs with less wives working.
@@sheaannakulus Yes, so exciting !! And like Sarah said, its good to know we're not alone. :) Im just so blown away by the fact that by fully pursuing God everything will work out. (Ps. 37:4, phil. 2:13.) Such a dream.
YES!! I love this video. I totally agree that women should be able to choose which lifestyle they want to live. YOU are one of the strong, wonderful, wise, intelligent woman. I look up to you so much.
That is so sweet. And you are bringing up one of my favorite points: you can totally homemake even while you do other things in life! While you’re still in the family home, or while you have a career. We can all incorporate it! :)
I have no intention of ever being a homemaker or a mother, but I 100% respect other womens' choice to pursue a traditional life. I am a real feminist, and that means that women can make their own choices!
I used to hate homemakers in the name of feminism-that in itself is another form for of internalized misogyny. At the time i didn’t realize that. Now being 29, finally letting go of all that hate that stemmed from nowhere. Is such a good feeling. If a woman wants to only be a homemaker and mother, i support that and dont think its an unfulfilled existence.
I was home for 7 years when my children were young and then worked full time as a teacher for 16 years. All I ever wanted to be was at home. I walked away from my job because of the pandemic and now only work 8 hours a week at a shop. It feels so good to be where I am most content and it has been wonderful to have a husband that supports homemaking💗 Thank you for your wise words and encouragement!
Congratulations Leslie! That must be such a relief after a long time away from homemaking. I am so pleased for you. I truly feel that homemakers and mothers like yourself are such a wise and helpful beacon in our community! :)
Leslie I also walked away from my job - the pandemic offered me the opportunity to leave my work where I was terribly unhappy. I had never considered homemaking before, but the last six months have led me down a path to a life I never knew was possible. I feel so blessed to spend my time taking care of my home. I'm happy to know that I am not the only one who has experienced something life-changing and positive from this situation!
Any other moms out there raising good boys who value traditional femininity and will be fantastic providers, husbands, and fathers for their own family one day?? Let's make some more traditional men, ladies! 😄 The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. Raising my children right 🙌.
I served in the military, I have a degree, I worked until I hit pregnant with my first daughter, we traveled the world and we are back in US and I CHOSE to stay home, have a mother baby and now homeschool, if your budget allows and it’s your dream to be a mom no one else can tell you it’s wrong. I’ve wanted to have a home and a family since I was 4 years old. Everyone’s dreams are different and that’s the beauty of life 🧡
Honestly, homemaking doesn't mean staying home. How many aspects of society fall apart because society can't afford to employ someone for the work. Even if you are only stay at home part time, so many important jobs aren't full time work and can't support a household. Working as a part time librarian, or volunteering in local schools with your kids and other kids, or helping organize a food bank or teaching English as a second language at a local community center are _so important_ for a community, and in many ways can be best done by somebody who doesn't have to "bring home the bacon." *Stay at Home* is community building.
@@gracewaterlilly8023 That's great. Nice to know we have such loving men in the world. I'm 27 :) When you know he is the one, trust yourself ^^ To find love is great blessing.
I really want to hear more of your husbands perspective on things, I think that would be helpful for both aspiring homemakers and their husbands to hear
Me: applying to a naval school, and planning to major in civil engineering, hoping to double major and get involved in law or politics. Also me: I wanna be a trophy, stay at home wife. Be a traditional woman and provide for my husband and kids. While having tea parties and wearing gowns everyday. Oh, to find balance.
Lol!!!! So many people struggle with this. How privileged are we that life offers so many different opportunities!? The answers will come in time. Sending you love. :)
@@MrsMidwest wow, your reply made my whole week! It truly is a privilege to be able to have options and opportunities to find one's path. I definitely know I want to be a traditonal and feminine woman. And you have helped me so much in that Thank you! Thank you Caitlin, sending love to you and your family♡
I got an international relations masters degree from a prestigious university (while already married), then went on at getting an internship at a diplomatic institution. Did random jobs here and there and became a housewife after my first child was born, now pregnant with the second. To me it makes much more sense putting my energy into my family. Benefitting my children is also way more rewarding than working for a pervy boss who borderline sexually harasses you. BUT it is mentally taxing because my environment is largely women in the workforce, so you're stuck constantly defending your life choices. It's nice to therefore have this youtube community :) (sorry for my English, not a native speaker)
@@MsBella-qb9gc definitely time will only tell! Congratulations btw, you're doing amazing things prelaw and diplomacy? You're my dream to be, lol. Wishing you the best!
@@einom1236 you're a whole super woman, I don't think i could find the energy or create the skills to do half of what you do! Thank you for the advice. It sucks as woman we still have to constantly prove or capabilities! Congratulations on all your accomplishments and ofc your baby, i hope your pregnancy and birth go very well! Wishing you the best in this never ending train of family and personal goals! (BTW your English is amazing, dont apologize for it!)
There are more traditional guys out there than you might think, sometimes they need you to start the conversation. My first time dating an American man who is now my husband, I felt the need to start the conversation to say that if we married, I wanted to focus on homemaking once having children. Let me tell you, he was so relieved I brought it up, it allowed him to be comfortable in his traditional masculinity that he was afraid to express to former girlfriends from being mocked.
Hope you are taken it easy with your pregnancy! Lots of love from Texas ❤️ When will we be getting a Q & A video? I'd love to hear how pregnancy is treating you Mrs.Midwest😃
In the middle to middle-lower class, it's no longer possible for women to choose not to work, the two salaries are necessary. That's the issue we're dealing with. My dream is to be a housewife but it's just not financially possible.
I'm not sure I agree with you there. If two incomes are needed today there would be no stay at home moms.. I stay at home and many of my friends stay at home
@@stayathomemarine it could be your partners salary or you live in a place where cost of living is fairly cheap. My particular situation and most people I know is that both have to work to maintain a comfortable lifestyle and be able to save a bit
Yeah Bit it also Depends. I feel like a lot of people think they Need More money than they actually Need. When i Look at my Friends i See so many who Need over 3000€ a month so they can buy extensive Clothes and eat in fancy Restaurants.
Video idea - have your husband do a video with you to talk about the perks of having a housewife :) We aspiring housewives can show it to our partners!
Hi Caitlin. I am a big supporter of your channel. However, today I came across a concerning video making some pretty heavy accusations about you. I am never one to instantly cancel someone because of some far-fetched claims but since I am a Jew (anti-semitism was mentioned somewhere in that video), I want to make sure I am supporting someone who also supports me. I'm sure your other fans who saw that video would like the same. So, I was hoping you could provide an explanation for the accusations made in that video so that I don't just have to write you off. In your defense though, some of the claims that girl made were a little ridiculous. The thing I loved most when I first found your videos was how respectful you were and the diversity you showed in your videos. I hope this all gets cleared up! Xx.
Mrs. Midwest has the best pregnancy glow! I love that you talk about tips for housewives. I love being a housewife! It is such a dream. You are right, forcing women into the workforce or into the home or to do anything is so wrong. We need to let women do what makes them happy!
When I first decided to be mostly a homemaker I felt kinda guilty for my partner making all the income. Since then I started working from home so I can bring in a little income (although not nearly as much as him) and it has helped put my mind at ease a bit. I am first and foremost a homemaker and I absolutely love that it helps me keep more traditional values. For instance I make everything from scratch when I cook and feel so accomplished when I'm done and feel great knowing I don't put unnecessary chemicals and preservatives into our bodies. I even make my own bread. I don't have kids yet but if and when I do I know that they will greatly benefit from someone who has time to prepare healthy fresh meals from scratch. There are certain things that women who work all day can't or find it very hard to do and I wish people talked as much about that as they do about women being degraded because they want to stay home.
Yes it's unfortunate that in today's age, with inflation, a lot of the time 2 incomes are necessary! Plus I think the man has to be 100% on board with wanting to support a housewife/kids. My husband would totally be a house husband if he could, so it's not fair to him for me to make no income 🤣... I'm rambling, just saying I hear what you're saying. If I could start over, I might have looked harder for a man who really wanted a housewife.
“Do you get lonely in your cubicle” lol 😆. Love how you stated that most of us will not be marrying millionaires. I think this tone in the femininity community is jaded. It’s true, most will marry average income men and there is nothing wrong with that. It can work. I knew I didn’t want to continue working outside of the home so I made sure to keep our family finances at my husbands income. This way my departure from the workforce would not be a financial blow to my family. I left my six figure career in March and can’t even begin to describe the freedom and joy I feel. I still “work”, but I now work for myself (and family) doing projects that light me up.
People really value going to nice restaurants and taking pictures of the food...but we can do that at home for far less money and it is cooked in a more nutritious way
Thanks for your advice Caitlin. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because we could not reconcile: I wanted to have a traditional relationship, and he did not. I felt like I was too open about my beliefs and wants, but your video made me realize that it was good this was put out into the open: we just didn't want the same things. I was really sad that we broke up, but good that I found that out before I invested more into the relationship. Hopefully I can find a special man that wants the same things as me someday. I would love to have a slow life and a traditional marriage. Thank you for being the voice of women who feel this way! It's very refreshing. Sending you much love from Canada.
Left my job in social work in May after being burnt out for over a year. I’m literally never bored at home though, and I get to see my family and hubby so much more
Hello from a fellow Michigander! I find your lifestyle so interesting and appealing- I am a working woman. Can you do a video on how to incorporate more homemaking tips for working women? Things you do that set your day off right for you and your family? I think that could be applicable to anyone watching. Thank you so much for sharing your life with all of us!
Thank you so much for this video. I have been a stay at home mom/homemaker for 13 years already. When all my kids entered school, I went through a crisis because it's only okay to be home when they're 5 and under, right? I quit grad school to be home with my daughter because it was the right thing for me...2 more kids later and I'm positive that being home and available to them is 100% the only way I want to live. Homemaking has always suited me since I was very young. It's difficult to find women/people who are like me and so this year I turned to RU-vid and have found women who are gracious enough to share this content for people who like me who have no close examples. So I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for putting up with the pushback and negativity of some people because having these channels with like minded women lifts me up and reminds me that I'm not alone or lesser than for just following the homemaking profession that I've always been suited for.
Ladies, share your your desires! When talking to my now boyfriend, i was nervous to say that staying at home was a desire. Then on our first date, we were talking about goals and I said that i wanted to be a stay at home mom. And he was shocked because that’s EXACTLY what he’s always wanted but didn’t think any women our age (21,22) wanted it. And now we’re moving forward with our goals, God willing of course. And single mommas, they have men out there for you who are traditional. I have a 3 year old whom he has treated like any of his nieces or nephews (he doesn’t have any kids). Continue trusting the Lord, if that’s what you believe.❤️
I wouldn't advise anyone to convert for love, but that is true! My boyfriend introduced me to Catholicism (for which I am very grateful). He says modern Protestantism has very little for young men.
@@sofiabravo1994 what you describe is the teaching of sola scriptura (scripture alone). Catholics believe that scripture is the word of God. However, we also believe there are other sources of knowledge, such as the Holy Spirit. The Bible itself does not teach sola scriptura.
It's ignorant to say the Catholic Church has manmade rules when it's been here since the time of Christ and had St Peter as it's first Pope. The Catholics also put together the books of the Bible and preserved sacred scripture faithfully before printing presses were even invented. Looking at the Catholic Church as a manmade and evil institution is like biting the hand that feeds you. By the authority of the Catholic Church, given it by Jesus Christ Himself, we have the Holy Bible. It didn't just drop out of the sky during the Protestant reformation I'm pretty sure.
I’m 15 and I really want to be a housewife but my mum keeps putting me down and feel bad for wanting to be a housewife :( I just want to be there for my future husband and kids. She says things like “look at all the people your age getting ready for their futures but look at you all you want to be is a useless, worthless, dumb housewife” it makes me so upset but I’m still going to be a housewife because I’ve always dreamt of it
Hi sweetie I am 21 and a stay at home mother it is the best thing to ever happen to me , keep having that dream do not give it up just because you Mother says so . Being housewife and stay at home mother is the best thing for you . You will Love it . When I use to work before I had my baby I was depressed an feeling something was missing. It is also nice to b home instead of leaving your baby to be cared for by someone else because so many people today could hurt your baby while u work and even Murder them . Also your husband would really love it to to come home to home cooked meals and a Lovely , caring wife like You. Keep having that dream it is so nice to b home with our loved ones instead of burnt out working for other People that could care less about us Point blank period🐥🐥🐥
Also housewife's and stay at Home mommy's are not worthless they are quite the opposite and do a lot , do not Listen to her just smile and be like yeah and Keep your head up 😊
Idk if you’ll see this but my mother said very similar things growing up. I’m 35 now and have been a happy housewife to a good man for 10 yrs, we own our home and a tiny farm, and have a healthy child with plans for a second via adoption this year. My mother is divorced, bitter, and alone. Sometimes our moms do not have our best interest at heart. If you think you’d make a good wife you should follow your instincts.
Thank you for this. My marriage of 13 years didn’t make it because I struggled with trying to make money for my husband and family when I really wanted to be home with all 4 of my children. I didn’t want to work just to pay for daycare. I have been made to feel lazy, unmotivated and even stupid for not having a ‘real job’. It’s caused depression and low confidence in me, just because I craved being home with my children and having the home ready for when my husband came home from work.. My children almost grown (teens) and grown. Maybe one day I’ll find a man that appreciates what I can give and not make me feel like I’m nothing.
That’s one big reason I don’t work Rn as a mom cuz you’ll basically just be working to pay for childcare when you can do it for “free” yourself, make it make sense … unless you make like crazy money to actually have a lot left over . I’m more of a modern woman that just turned into a stay at home mom/ house wife from one day to another but I want to be more traditional I’m working on it I’m trying to be better
For 2 years, I hid who I was and my traditional beliefs from my progressive boyfriend. After we broke up, I was honestly far more relieved than heartbroken just from the sheer pressure of feeling like I had to put on a mask and aspire to be that "boss babe" that I knew I didn't aspire to be. Watching you helped me come into who I've always been, and now I look forward to my future with no shame and tons of excitement. Thank you for giving us tradtional women a voice!! :) Always praying for you and baby!
The reality of being a homemaker is thet u will be financially dependent on your husband....u need to ask him money if want to buy a bra even....that's not a good feeling girls....the same is not true for this woman she probably makes more than her husband from youtube.
@ I agree, it's not my intention to discourage young women from becoming a homemaker. I respect women who sacrifice having a career to be a homemaker, but to a lot of women to be completely dependent on their husbands negatively affects their self respect. That doesn't mean they are not feminine or insecure.
@ but being dependent makes you crippled in a way. I am from India and I know a lot of housewives (almost all). You can't walk off easily with the toxic behaviors of your husband since you are dependent on him for even your food.
What's wrong with that? I have a part time job but my husband still buys me everything I need. I only put away my money for emergencies or use it for dates/gifts on holidays for family.
@@fiestyfox2207 everything depends on the personality of your husband. Some guys may have a good character overall but also have an irritant attitude u won't see while you are dating him. An just when u think u can depend on him, he will say something like "do you think I grow money out of my butt??" . That can really hurt your morale.
It’s devastating watching our modern society tear so heavily a part the nuclear family, men (especially masculine) and push women to work for taxes (so the government gets more money) and the children then getting indoctrinated into whatever the government wants them to be. Your disclaimer was spot on too. Thank you for articulating it so well 🌱🤍
11:27 yes!!!🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 and please stop bothering Muslims women too, it’s their life let them live it their way, we DO NOT need to be ‘freed’ by getting our head scarves pulled and forced to work and kept getting insulted by saying we are oppressed, it’s honestly so upsetting
Always support housewives! 💖 It's only deemed controversial in the West..😑 This role dynamic of a providing man and a homemaker as a wife runs throughout many cultures around the world, and those men and women are incredibly happy because they know what is expected of them and are in tune with their masculinity and femininity. Keep up the great content Caitlin 💐
What a great video Caitlyn! I naturally fell into becoming a homemaker this year when my Mother passed away and I took some time off; and then my work place limited shifts, so I'm working even below part time now...my man doesn't mind at all and we're making it work. It feels so natural to both of us, and he says almost everyday how much he appreciates how I cook and run our home! I've been at home now for 10 months and we're both loving it. Like you said however, family members have very strong opinions. I get those questions of, "what do you do all day" and I'm always so shocked in the moment because these questions are accompanied with a rude tone. I don't know if it's because I'm 25 and they think I should be climbing up the ranks - but they definitely think I'm lazy. And I feel so bad for them, that they feel that way. Because my man and I don't have a problem with our lifestyle at all. Anyways, I really appreciated this video! The comments here are so comforting, and it makes me feel confident in my decision to stay at home
I love this video so much! The debt thing: I'm trying to work on RU-vid so I can eventually (hopefully) pay off my loan through RU-vid but then be a homemaker, especially when we decide to start having children. It's really silly to get into debt and never use the degree after that, I wish I knew I wanted to be a homemaker earlier. It's okay though, there's always a solution!
I hope everything works out for you. But I have to say, it is nice to find others who are in similar situation. For a long time thought I could never become a homemaker, because of my student loan. I thought I'd be stuck at work paying it off forever! But now I've realized, I can still achieve my dream, I just need to be patient. I love this community 💕😊 I never had anything like this in "real life". In my country/culture, everyone including women, are very work oriented. I don't know any homemakers and it really isn't a thing at all in here. But after I found this channel, I started to feel like my dream can become true as well!
I just got engaged! My fiance and I have discussed a while back what we envisioned when we live together in the future. He prefers a stay at home wife and mother, but if I do desire to still work or go back to school he is perfectly fine with that too. I'm eager to study your videos in depth as I prepare myself for that type of life style! Love your videos 🥰😍
I think another misunderstanding of being a housewife is that we can’t or don’t make money... we do! We just do it from home AND our primary focus is our husbands, children and homes. I agree with everything else! It is critical to know if a man wants a traditional house wife while dating. I would NOT recommend trying to convince and “strong arm” a man into seeing the value of having a housewife, if he doesn’t see the benefit in having a house wife then move in to the NEXT!
Thank you for emphasizing choice! I do recall several videos where you clearly stated women having the freedom to choose. Hope everyone is having an amazing day❤.
It’s so hard finding traditional men like this, I live in the south and many of the traditional men get married young but I’m 31 and have always dreamed of being a homemaker and mom, but these days if you say that you want to be a homemaker when speaking to eligible men they see it as a less than, they think you should have to work outside the home along with taking care of all homemaking activities. It’s hard to find like minded people who are single and not in their early twenties
This is SO TRUE. When I was young, I was in the military for 5 years and then in college for 4 years, then working. Then dating and everyone else was already married. The traditional guys get taken up quick. It is really unfair. I have always wanted to be a homemaker, just like my mother but I am in my 50's now and the culture of marrying is just gone.
@@spunkycat6144 Do not ever lose hope in marrying a wonderful traditional man! Have faith, seek, & pray and I will keep you in my prayers as well!🙏🏾✊🏾💙
@@spunkycat6144 really because my mom is 55 and divorced, and is dating a 60 year old widow. They spend a lot of time together and do hobbies/take trips on the weekends. They’ve spoken about the possibility of marriage or moving into together sometime down the line. Each individual sets their own limitations. If you think your age is holding you back from any dreams of love/having a partner maybe it’s your negative mindset, not your age. 🤷🏽♀️
i'm not in favor or against traditional lifestyles. the only thing i could see as an "issue" is that if god forbid something happened with the husband, the woman is left in a pretty difficult spot to support herself. however, you seem very happy with your husband and your baby on the way, so i am happy for you! i wish you happiness 🤗
Yes! This is true, but you can make plans that will help take away those risks, such as insurance plans, trusts, etc. You just need to be intentional - whether this is your life path, or not - being intentional about your financial security is important.
I agree that things happen and you can get divorced and I think it is important to think about that. No one thinks there relationship can break down till it does so I would always make sure you have a good education, work experience and a nest egg. However, I don't think you should let the fear of a relationship breaking down stop you from being at home if that is what you want but I would encourage people to be smart about it :)
I have a degree and work experience. If something happens to my husband I would be able to get a job relatively easily. That is how we prepared for me staying home.
@@annarocha3254 exactly. If you prepare while single it is really fine. For example being educated, experienced, debt free and my home half way paid off by the time I get married.
My dad recently died and he was the "breadwinner" of the home. My aunt and friends came in and made sure she did the right things to get things stable. She also has insurance. But I'll admit we're mostly grown so she doesn't have to worry about small children when her older children are grown adults who can afford to feed themselves with jobs.
After being furloughed during this pandemic, I finally managed to show my boyfriend how amazing our life would be if I ended up becoming a housewife as I was at home and testing the waters! We are now making the steps on making that happen. Honestly my ultimate dream is to be a wife and have children 💗
I’m a traditional guy but basically no one knows about it because that’s something I can’t show to people without being viewed as a misogynist. There is no way someone who believes the modern narrative of patriarchal oppression will understand how I believe in family and marriage and the balance between masculinity and femininity.
I loove your content🍀 Personally, I want to be a homemaker but I would loove to adopt, I think that maybe is my calling: provide a sweet traditional home to kids that their biological progenitors don't desire to/ can't have in their lifes. I am educating myself in the economic field, because I want to be able to multiply what my family is earning. I recommend you Robert Kiyosaki's books to read. 🍀🍀
Hey, I have a femininity/homemaking Instagram blog called @mrs.refined and it's similar to Caitlyns! 🌸🌸🌸 I post often mostly everyday. I would appreciate it if you could check it out. I cover a variety of topics ❤❤
I have been with my man for 10yrs (since we were 15) and when we graduated high school i was a raging feminist- i wanted 50/50 and now that im older i realize that’s actually not what i want. I had a conversation with him and said “i dont wanna do 50/50 anymore” he said “i didnt think we were 50/50😅” implying that he brings more money to the table as is (which he does) now he is on track at his job and said when he gets promoted i may not have to work anymore. I am so happy i am giving into my desires to be a traditional wife and he is allowing me this opportunity. Next step will be getting a house then kids! 😍🥰
I'm 18 and engaged and we have an understanding that we believe in traditional gender roles and responsibilities but my family isn't as supportive of his and I am recieving major critism from my mother and siblings and it deeply hurts. Any suggestions on my situation.
This may seem weird, but do you know of any websites, forums, dating sites, etc specifically aimed at feminine women wanting to be future housewives and mothers?
the natural and most fulfilling roles for women and men is apparent in the behavior and desires of very young children. Boys want to be the builders and protectors. Play with legos, play with tonka trucks, knowing how things work, hunting and camping, playing with action figures beating the evil villain. Girls want to be be the nurturer, the home maker, the caregiver, the bearer of life. The play with little baby dolls pretending to be mommies, they play with pretend tea sets, they like decorating, and play with toy houses. The children show us what the truth is about what our natural desires are. Thats because this is the natural order of things. There isnt anything wrong with this! Doing these things fulfills you at the most fundamental level. But feminism would have you believe its all a a lie. Young girls and boys get programmed by the public school system and our media to turn the natural order on its head. Being young, we want to trust that our elders are telling us the truth, but the ideology that we are programmed with leaves us in a confused state as to what our roles should be to achieve the maximum level of satisfaction in our lives.
This is beautifully stated. Men and women have been pitted against each other by feminism and many have fallen for this false narrative, creating yet another generation of confusion and broken homes. So glad to see so many people in this more traditional community trying to swing things back the other way.
I've commented before, but I love that you openly acknowledge that different lifestyles are for different people. I enjoy watching to work on cultivating the areas on my life that I'm not quite as strong in a place where I dont feel judged that my aspirations aren't the same as yours. 💛
Thank you for not being afraid to speak truth!! Why as a society do we push women to resist the God given desire for home and family and to see it as an inferior choice to a career outside the home? So sad! I am so glad for you as a young woman resisting the BIG lie and being an influencer and encourager to many women, young and old!!
i love how contradicting modern feminism is. the ones who actually care about women WILL respect every path in life. supporting women is supporting femininity. We are not supposed to be men, femininity and the different paths that come with being a woman is so beautiful. Thank you so much for this video
Is it okay for me to be a house wife with no kids? Previous cancer treatment made it hard to conceive so my husband and I just enjoy each other’s company but if I’m a house wife I wonder if it’s still valid.. Hubs is perfectly fine with my becoming one but I feel guilty
My opinion doesn't matter but if you want to be a stay at home wife then that's absofreakinglutely valid. You have nothing to feel guilty about, children or no children.
I have been a stay-at-home--mom/ housewife for over 6 years. I have always said I would start working after my youngest child goes to school which right now gives me 3-4 years. To be honest, I'd rather stay as a housewife so our home and responsibilities can all get done. I hope my husband will accept that when the time comes.
I have already been criticized for wanting to be a stay at home mom and I’m not even married yet 🤦🏼♀️ thankfully most comments have come from people that aren’t close to me.
I want to be a house wife. I don’t know… part of me feels guilty like I’m being lazy for wanting to stay home. But it sounds so nice to be able to go to the store at whatever the time of day and buy decorations for the holidays. To clean the house and decorate it the way I want, to have the time to learn new cooking recipes and impress my husband with it. To wake up at whatever time I want… just sounds like the dream life.
Being a housewife is far from lazy. Granted, we won’t be working as hard as our grandmothers of course but being a mom and a wife is a full time job. Trust, you’ll definitely have your hands full 😂 me and my man don’t even have kids and my hands are full with just him
It's funny to me that some feminists talk about the Mrs Midwest channel in a negative way, saying that Caitlin's traditional beliefs are bad. Feminism is supposed to be about a woman's right to choose, a woman's right to live her life her own way. At the beginning of every video, Caitlin ALWAYS stresses that she is not forcing her lifestyle on anyone. She always encourages women to act, dress, and live however they choose to. Kinda seems like feminists should applaud her, not bring her down. 🤔 Keep it up, Cait!! Your videos are gentle, kind, and supportive towards women who want to live a more traditional lifestyle, and I am so grateful that a traditional woman as inclusive and welcoming as you are exists on RU-vid! ❤️
Thank you for being courageous in your decisions and so happy to see all these people support you and your message...Like the hand poses in your video stills too! Great pics!
Hey, Make sure you graduated from a good university, have a good job then!!! You will find a good husband that take care of you👍 you can’t just don’t study, jobless and expect to find a good husband!!!
I cannot wait to be a housewife!! My husband is still in university and I am working AND pregnant! I hope he will make good money haha so I can stay at home :)
I wouldn't say I chose to be a homemaker but life lead me "here" and like everything that life leads me to, I choose to make the most out of it. I feel now, that it has been a calling that I've "put off" because "I wanna be an independent woman" but so so glad that as God has a plan for me, and I let Him lead, this can't feel more right. My husband is VERY grateful that I was willing to embrace my new role as many (according to him/his friends) struggle to "choose" home making when required (ie. moving to a new country; lacking work opportunities, language skills etc..).
