Thank you, Dr. Shivani! My daughter explained to me that when she was younger, her stepmother became upset with her and punished her by withholding her dinner from her. I was extremely livid and ensured to her that this or any form of cruel punishment would never occur again. My heart and prayers sincerely go out to children, adults, and seniors who are being abused in any form. I pray that God will help people to love and give with a pure heart! God bless you!
Hi Brian, I'm so very sorry and that is not good. I am very, very upset this is happening. Do you have any family members that you could confide in? Have you informed any of your teachers, principals, someone you can trust so that this can be addressed within a positive manner?
I am also picky eater but my mother and father were really understanding,and now I am slowing becoming less picky and trying more food its all thx to my parents that I am trying more food
@@pattiannepascualactually in from 1380 and onwards people have been dying of eating disorders. i’m not sure when you grew up, but i’m absolutely positive that eating disorders did exist.
I'm glad more people are starting to take picky eaters seriously. It's really frustrating when people think that because I'm "picky" I won't be willing to try new foods (not true) or I don't appreciate the food someone made (also not true), making me feel guilty about not eating it for whatever reason. I know there are many people who would love to have the food I have and I would gladly give it to them if I could. I wish people could understand how it feels; it's not just a simple "*snooty turn up nose* I don't like it, go make me my favorite food". It's "if I put that into my mouth and try to chew and swallow, I will most certainly gag and possibly throw up." It would have been nice if the awareness of "sensory issues" was around back when I was little; that's really most of rhe reason why I'm picky I think and it would probably make people take it more seriously. 😔 ~:~
i was agreeing with you untill i saw the "gag and possibly throw up" that only happens because you have such a disgusting and bad view of that specific food but once you stop seeing it that way you wont have those feelings of gagging and throwing up, howevef you will still probably not like the food
She was talking about kids tho. Adult picky eaters will try new foods and be picky with certain foods..but children picky eaters won't try new foods..especially if parents don't enforce the need to eat what is given to you..your parent knows best and if they are feeding you something you think you might not like but you need than you better eat it..bcz some ppl also have issues with their body where need certain nutrients...that are only found in certain foods...you can't raise a picky eater..
@@JBX_Xman i gagged on scrambled eggs. I've gagged on rice. I've gagged on my safe foods when they tasted just tooooooo chickeny. At that level of picky eating it's a psychological battle that doesn't always equate to the food being perceived as disgusting.
@@MamiGarcia2222 I was a really picky eater as a kid, and trust me it’s not that simple as just ‘Eat the food and be done.’ It’s more like how this comment describes it, ‘Try to eat the food but gag or throw up.’ And forcing doesn’t work because then they would try to hide or cry if they didn’t like it. The parents can try to give them the nutrients in a different way, or they have safe foods that have those nutrients. They can also try to make the kid try a different food that has those nutrients.
It's about being a parent over a friend. If you let them control you, you're creating a problem. What if she's picky about her bed time? What if she's picky about showering? Do you let your kid dictate those? No you don't. This is no different. It starts young and you have to be persistent.
@@cronchcrunch7287 Making your kids follow rules is disrespect? Making them appreciate what they have, is disrespect? Get real. Kids need to be raised. Not coddled.
@@shady610 adults are picky eaters and no one freaks out about it. Comparing not forcing your kid to eat foods they can’t stand to letting them stay up all night and not shower is ridiculous.
@@shady610 I have been beaten with a belt every morning as a kid for refusing to drink milk until I drank it. I'm 23 years old now and I still despise milk. As a parent you shouldn't be authoritarian for the sake of it, you should use whatever method to best raise your child. Being friendly, and trying to convince your kid is way better than forcing them to follow the rules, so it should be at least the first method of approach, don't you agree ?
this is a really important message. as a child my mother NEVER forced me to eat anything if i didn’t want to. she always reminded me that i should new things, so i can learn from experience.
Ikr, my sister is a picky eater because she have a problem in her stomach wherein she vomits easily when she eat unhealthy, acidic, too seasoned food. My family keeps on telling her to eat that eat this it won't harm you. Like what the fuck do they know it does to my sister's stomach. Whenever she is hospitalised, they think it's because she's just thinking about vomitting. That the reason why she can't stop vomiting is because it's a mental problem. Like wtf
@@blueberrycheesecake508 oh god, i feel so bad for her :( i actually have a very similar thing as her, but my mom understands that and doesn't make me eat that i can't Hope it gets better mate in there
@@blueberrycheesecake508 I know how it feels cuz I suffer for it to believe it or not it feels like hell the pain is on another level sometimes it's like vomiting is the cure but only for a minute not always am at The hospital right now and I saw your comment it Broke my heart I hope they understand how painful it is 😰💔💔
I'm so glad my mother was like this. Thanks to her, I'm nowhere NEAR as picky as I was earlier on in my life. Sadly this doesn't always cross every parent's mind
Well research shows that picking eating is directly correlated to how much parents pamper their children from birth to early childhood so idk what to tell you. Healthy relationship with food? you eat what's on the table and that's that.
@@pameladeasis8178 everyone’s parents are different get over it you may have been raised to eat what your given and by all means we respect that but stop trying to force it on us if we are picky SO WHAT it’s not something we can fucking change
@@pameladeasis8178 none of us need serious parenting my parents did a hell of a good job with me. I try food all the time and if I don’t like it they don’t buy it. It’s that simple
As a child that was forced to eat things and punished for not eating things, and as an adult who now has food aversion and have had to re teach myself how to eat and love food(which is a hard journey) I really appreciate you saying this🎉👏🏼🫶🏼 you’re doing just fine momma🩵
@@yusra5100 cooking my own food almost everything I eat. Exploring different ways to cook things. I’ve found I prefer things roasted. And also growing my own veg/fruit and gardening and becoming skillful in growing food and all the knowledge that comes with that. It’s a deep rabbit hole so strap in. But in simple form that is how Ive found I’ve been able to overcome food as a young adult.
My autistic brother is a very picky eater and doesn’t have many safe foods, last night we were having Chinese and he tried potstickers egg rolls beef fried rice and he even almost tried some of my sashimi, my mother was oh so very happy
My dad thinks I'm spoiled bc when he tried to punch me & I fought back. 19 years & he never insinuated that I was a brat until that moment. Ppl really don't understand that our kids are not possessions & @ bare minimum should be treated as people & treated with kindness
@@sydneyhay1971 imo even if your parent tries to hit u, u dont hit back or fight back. Just step back keep distance. Like idk how u mfs put hands on your parents even if they start it
@@katiepena3108 na but its just not good being picky, maybe as a middle class citizen(assuming america) the concept of not having anything else to eat doesn’t really exist but that shit hits real hard and being poor for a few years gonna take out any pickiness u ever had 😂
I can't tell you the amount of times I've cried in front of my parents while they yelled at me because I didn't like something. I'm happy to know there are people like you in this world who are understanding and kind with there kids. Thankyou
@@willburgerrotmg2867 love? Love!? That what you want to call it? Last time I checked abuse is not love!? I have had to deal with this crap for the last 14 years and it's hasn't gotten any better! Love isn't yelling at you kid and calling them dumb and self sentered because you didn't like something! Love isn't making your kids hate you because of all the crap you have put them through! This is not love!!!
@@willburgerrotmg2867I understand what you're trying to say but dude, this isn't the time. When someone talks about a very stressful situation with a parent u dont say to a stranger that their parents obviously love them. Its a nice thing to say but there are appropriate situations to say this and right now is not the right time.
I used to be a picky eater. My parents tried the starving method and the “you’re eating whatever I made method” and it never worked because I never had an appetite anyways and would very much be okay with starving. Kids don’t worry about being sick or health problems like parents do
This is so true 😂 I’ve learned to introduce new foods to the one who is not picky, when the picky one is not home or not in the same room. The constant moans, groans & graphic responses from the picky person would greatly impact everyone at the table & influence the non picky eater. However, introducing the new things to everyone else 1st has had the inverse response where they all gather around excited to experience the “new thing again & the picky sibling is then introduced to it with positive feedback before they try it! Thank you for posting this!❤
It’s stupid that not beating or mentally abusing kids anymore is seen as spoiling them I remember throwing up every time my dad would force me to eat something or force me to eat more than I could and making me not like dinner time and now I’m trying to branch out and try new foods but it’s difficult tell your daughter I’m so proud of her for trying a new food
@@yddyhrxhtfxgfhxtfh3986bro as long as its like one or two foods you don’t like its fine but people that just dont eat half of the foods there are are just annoying
I never did this to my kids and regret the times I withheld treats or insisted they eat 3 bites of broccoli. I never went as far as many parents go or what my parents did, but I was still wrong. I quit using food as a reward or insisting they eat something they don’t like. They get a treat no matter how much dinner they eat, and honestly they eat everything I prepare them most of the time. All of my kids are now eating all kinds of foods and my oldest aren’t afraid of food. As adults, they eat so many things they turned their nose up, so parents should try to relax. Things change, kids don’t stay kids forever. With autistic twins (14), they will not eat foods they dislike. One will not even tell you he’s hungry. Because he’s anxious around food and people trying to force foods upon him. I always prepare his food according to his preferences and don’t force him to eat certain amounts or try new food if he doesn’t want to. He’s eating better now and gaining some weight. He became a much better eater when I stopped making it a battle.
for sure. my mom always tried to make food a good thing for me; she'd never shame me for whatever i decided to eat or what i didn't decide to eat. recently, i've been struggling with food. my mom told me to promise her i'd take care of myself and eat good foods, and to be honest? i accepted so fast. she did so much for me and i can't ruin myself at her expense. luv my mom
“Starving them is not the answer” hit close to home. I’m a picky eater and some of my earliest food memories are sitting at the dinner table for a long time after everyone already left with a plate full of food I never ate because my parents didn’t let me get something else. Thank you so much for making this video!
I only discovered that I'm autistic at the age of 22. I was one kid that was a very picky eater, due to my disability that my mom or I never knew. She tried punishment, beating, nothing would work. For me some food textures was terrible, I would prefer to die instead. My mom after seeing me sobbing "I can't mommy, I'm sorry", she cried with me, she asked what bother me about the food. She did prepare vegetables in different ways to see what I prefered, she did put fruit in the blender and did shakes because it was the harder. Time after time, she tried, and today I eat a lot of different foods, almost everything, I just know what kind of textures I prefer, I know that temperature of the food matters. Smells matters. As a mom of an autistic girl that nobody prepared her for it, at a time with little to no information, she didn't gave up on me. You are an awesome mom. My mom tried the tradicional approach more because people said to her she was a bad mom, that I was disrespectful. When she followed her instinct things changed.
My brother was labelled the ‘picky eater’ of the family Since he’s gone off to Uni he’s been trying more things and seems to enjoy food more I think being able to explore new foods at his own pace has really helped. It’s so nice to see that’s what you’re doing for your kids.
Same! I considered myself picky, but in college I started doing those meal boxes (Hello Fresh) & started getting bases that I knew I liked (chicken mostly) & they would have sauces that you make. I decided I’d at least make it as is (except for spice since I physically can’t handle it) & see how I like it before adding everything together. Turns out I LOVED the sauces (even the jam based ones) & use them still. I realized after being free to make my own food choices with no judgement that I have safe food bases & there are dozens of possibilities from there. Years ago my brother would only eat spaghetti & pizza (not the bread), so I told my mom maybe he just likes tomatoes & she could find more foods with that🤷🏽♀️
Right, my family always talks abt me not eating a lot and being picky, but if i do decide to try smtn theyd be like "omg YOU eating THAT thats crazy whats come over u" and so on so forth, it really affects me and bothers me, they are the only reason i dont try more food rn
that's the same situation with me too...I don't like food which most of my family definitely include in thier plates or even in general but when I start exploring the food with my own pace that really helped me and I can enjoy food now that I didn't before. and of course for this my mom help a lot by experimenting with food by adding my fav ingredients.
Me too. My mom only cooks the same 5 meals every time. They're very bland and have no flavour. But I eat almost everything new I try when I eat out because they add spices and stuff to make them taste good. My mom sucks at cooking
I wanted to leave a comment actually saying thank you for being so kind towards a picky eater. I myself am one too, not because i'm spoiled but because i have sensory issues and a lot of food is too strong or has textures i just cant really handle. People arent picky eaters because their parents spoiled them like so many people seem to think, some people are just like that. And it's great that youre trying to help your child slowly instead of forcing her to eat things she can't/doesn't want Edit: the amount of people that act like they've never heard of neurodivergent issues is concerning 😬 no i did not get sensory issues for fun, i was born with them
Same I have so many texture based sensory issues around food, also recovered from an eating disorder because of food insecurity as a child, abusive parents, bullying and learning my relationship with food from my mother, so I went veggie at 11, then vegan at 16 (it was for the animals and all the normal reasons but it’s helped my food issues so much)
Some people are unfortunately. I know an obese child, he didn’t dislike other foods just preferred some to others. He got spoiled as an only child and food was just another way of doing it, this child is 11, is 18 stone and his mum is currently in the process of losing custody because he chokes her out now if he doesn’t get what he wants. People like you exist, people like him exist, you denying his existence actually hurts yourself, the more people who ignore him and don’t acknowledge these people as part of the larger community, they see them as the whole community. You are the majority though and that’s great.
true! i’ve never been a picky eater but as of late i’ve been developing problems (mostly sensory) wit food that i once ADORED & now can’t eat too much of it without wanting to puke, if any at all. i’m trying to work through that by trying different cooking methods to alter the texture, or adding toppings that can mellow out the sensory overload. i still love food, but sometimes i feel like i need to take a step back and i can’t help it😭😭😭
As someone who has a massive food texture problem where I will gag and continuously gag until it is out of my mouth and it has alway been that way since almost as long as I can remember. I would love to have a parent as understanding as you.
@@morningcupofcyanide Honestly I don't know if I have that, I love food always have, just certain textures I cannot handled. One is sadly mashed potatoes. Mostly mushy, but thick foods I can't stand.
growing up, if i refused to eat something, my mom would grab me and force it into my mouth or take away my food privileges until the next meal (or the next day if it was dinner). she would grumble about how i'm so lucky, i didn't deserve her hard-earned food, and when she was my age, she didn't get to complain about her food or else she'd starve. turns out i have both very intense sensory issues and a fucked up relationship with food now. you are doing the absolute right thing, and i'm begging you, please do not ever resort to harmful ways.
“There are people out there STARVING, be grateful!” “Honey, here’s the little detail you forgot: *im not those people”* Could’ve been the best comeback if you wouldn’t have been drilled in the cheeks by a steaming hot belt
@@Whydoiexisthere-same honestly I’m grateful I have a good relationship with my parents and all, but sometimes my mom would still bring up this argument when sometimes I would feel jealous of others who have better things than we do and all, or other things. I know that in moments like those I can sound really ungrateful, but being compared to those who are less fortunate makes me feel even worse. I know I’m being ungrateful, I don’t need to be told it. I need comfort and understanding to get over that pain of jealousy before I can think rationally again like I know I should.
Bottom line: she is your daughter and you are raising her in a positive environment. People can give to others what is inside them. Unfortunately, there's a lot of miserable people living today who refuse to do the necessary inner work. Sending positive vibes 💓
So true, it's very unfortunate. But thankfully, social media is helping create awareness of how to behave and think in a more healthier way that helps heal and nurture ourselves ❤️
I’m a picky eater, I’m not the pickiest, but my parents have been able to get me to try things through my own will, I can safely say that I now enjoy Pizza, and Tacos a lot, two things I never believed I would say a couple years back. Traveling with a picky eater when they are older helped me, I went to North Carolina where I tried pizza for the first time when I was 11, then I went to Europe, where I didn’t want to be disrespectful and tried way more food than I thought I would, these two trips helped me expand my pallet immensely, so I am grateful for how my Parents dealt with my pickiness.
You are so right! I was a picky eater myself when I was a young. My mom often said,'making dinner for you is like a challenge' but nevertheless she made me whatever I said and however I want it be. Now I'm eating everything as an adult! I'm picky something but not as picky as before. I'm proud of my mother now, she is the best mom i could ever wish for. ❤❤❤
Exactly same, because of my mother forcing me to eat foods there were so many foods that I would not try. Because they had my hated Ingredients in them. It took me till my 20s to try and see which ones I like and which ones I don't. That actually cabbage is not that bad if it's thinly sliced and not over cooked. If I ever had kids the rule would be "just try it. And if you don't like it you can spit it out" instead of "you are not eating anything until you finish eating this"
my parents as ive been growing up, knew i had sensory issues from the age of two because of how i am with tempatures snd textures, hearing that not everyones parents tried to accommodate them with sensory issues breaks my heart. i dont know how my life wouldve been different without my support systems
Your mom sound AWESOME, I’m a picky eater and I don’t like potatoes or yams, or anything like that, it would take me hours to finish it cause I was disgusted by it but had to eat it, and when I would go visit my grandparents, my grandpa would only cook mashed potatoes with boiled eggs and I felt obligated to eat it bc I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Sooooo when I told my mom I didn’t like potatoes for the first time she kept telling me “are you sure? Just eat a couple bites. You’re just saying that cause you don’t want it.” I also don’t like avacado, I’ll eat it if it’s not plain but if it’s straight up avacado I will throw up, and most of the time I was forced to eat it. Idk where I was going with this but, I’m glad your mom didn’t force you to eat stuff like my parents did 👍
Thank you for mentioning reintroduction of food!! People often don’t realize that foods aren’t just automatically safe the first time we can tolerate then
Absolutely. 💯 You never force anyone to eat unless they in danger and need to be!!! I don’t effing understand ppl these days. Don’t got a sense in their words or actions
@@GingerSnapy Depends. A lot of people are picky eaters because they refuse to try new foods. I can understand parents who get frustrated at the kids who refuse to eat anything but chicken nuggets. It’s neither healthy nor sustainable
Yep plus a lot of ppl are jealous and threatened bc they either weren’t treated good as a child or feels a child should not be living better than them……sad asf
OH MY GOD, THANK YOU! I am a picky eater myself and my parents never really understood me and when I was a little child, there were times when my mother forced me to eat what she made but I didn't like. I became insecure about it and when I was out eating with friends, I was so scared to refuse their suggestions on what pizza we would share, but they were understanding and how we looked at this meal sharing matter, is "Okay so who's the pickest here? If they agree as well to the suggestion, we get that." and they asked it in such a kind and caring way. Since then, I became comfortable about this matter around them.
Why is it a crime these days to spoil your kids anyway? What do you have kids for then .You can’t help it being a picky eater. Everybody’s different. I wish people would realise this. You carry on being a good mum and ignore these haters. Just jealous❤❤
As a picky eater (that now eats most things except sauces), being shamed, starved, or forced dosen't help at all. That is what made me have a bad relationship with food and stops me from eating, even now that I like most foods. I'm really happy for your daughter, you're doing it right!
Lol I'm such a picky eater too once as a child I sat with oatmeal which I hate for 12 hrs I even missed school after that my mom never made it for me again 😂
I would like to know ( for future reference if I ever have a picky eater child) what you think cause you to be that way? Is the texture of some food? certain flavours? What can be done to help you as someone that can't understand why you don't want to eat certain things when for others is really delicious food?
@@notsure4876 I understand that feeling. Is impossible for me to take any kind of pills or medicine, is like my throat close and I can't force myself to take them. So I guess is similar in that regards.
I once read something that said “in a couple years you wont remember the time they didnt eat there food, but theyll remember how much you yelled about it”
I remember when i was 6-7 being forced to sit at the dinner table until i finish a think slice of pizza i absoloutly hated the taste of and still traumatised to this day (im almost 22)
When I was around 9-10 I was forced to eat a LOAD of pumpkin if not I was punished, I ate almost anything at that time but I ate so much I threw up mostly pumpkin that night and haven't eaten pumpkin since that day
Absolutely true. My mom forced me to eat foods I found absolutely disgusting or starve until I was willing to eat them multiple times as a kid. I have autism and find a lot of food textures abhorrent, so this was a pretty regular occurrence when I was young. I was and still am willing to starve myself for days rather than eat some certain foods.
@@SLCSM734 When I was eleven my brother and I were forced to eat this octopus soup AND I HATE SEA FOOD so my dad made me drink it and I almost threw up- I was crying cause if I didn't eat it my dad would hit me. I cringe at that memory
As someone with autism who's struggled with being a "picky eater" when i was little i can confirm that fighting it only causes more problems. Every time i would sit with my plate and be expected to eat certain foods that either were too thick, or had too many combatting seasonings, or just were otherwise sensory overload for me, it would always end up with me hungry and frustrated and my parents just as fed up. Thankfully i can say that my mom and I came up with a compromise pretty quickly to where if i found something i WOULD be able to eat with my dinner, i could have that instead (as long as it was something with protein) and honestly this made ALL the difference for me and my relationship with food💜 Even though a lot of my adolescent "meals" were made up of pb and j sandwiches, my mother never hindered my ability to try things on my own, either. If i found something i liked and i asked for it, my mom would do her damndest to get it for me. Like apple chips and granola, for example. We weren't always the best off financially, but she always did try her best to figure out where to meet me in the middle. Even if neither of us had the words to explain what was going on at first. I'm grateful that parents like that exist. Especially for kids who are different and need more help and guidance. You're doing great💜
This was awesome. I have a 4 yr old that is so picky. My parents are always telling me to let her starve or force her to eat. I don't do this. I introduce new things and reintroduce things in waves. I want the positivity.
This is how it should be done 👏👏 introducing something new every now and then, without pushing, and in a safe environment is the best way to expand the food horizon
I ty for doing this , i myself used to be forced to eat food as a child i used to throw it up and if my uncle found out about it i would be spanked with a belt. DO.NOT.DO.THIS.
Thank you. I'm a picky eater and my dad would force me to eat food I HATED and it got to the point where after I ate I'd go to the toilet and (TMI) throw it all up, I now also have an eating disorder from it. I wish my dad could've had that mindset tbh.
I have ARFID, have since i was a child, the absolute hatred and vitriol thrown towards kids and adults who have severe food aversions is just straight up disgusting. Its so much deeper than what people make it out to be. Thank you for understanding your kids and willing to work with them instead of punish them.
There’s literally nothing wrong with making sure your daughter is comfortable with trying new foods, and having the ones she likes. I was not a picky eater, but my little sister was. My mom had the same mentality of “if you didn’t eat what was there, then you weren’t really hungry.” But as I got older and started exploring and cooking for myself, I started to teach my mom ways to incorporate veggies and healthy foods in a way that would make my sister comfortable with trying them.Even now, in our late 20s, I still go to my sisters home and teach her how to cook varieties of food for herself, and my nephew, so that he’s open to trying new foods. It’s all about the approach, in my opinion.
That’s awesome and I genuinely wish I had someone like you in my life. I’ve been a picky eater my whole life, but I’m trying to fix it by eating new foods and such. It’s just hard lol
I'm a picky eater, my mom used to get angry w me when I don't eat my food so I just force myself to atleast eat a small amount but after knowing I don't like that food, she separate a food for me to eat whenever she cooks that food, she doesn't always do that but like she will encourage me to try it & if I rlly don't like it she said I shouldn't eat. My dad, grandma, & grandpa also do that to me cuz they understand me, I'm so grateful to have them around growing up
@@Viv165 awe you’re so sweet. Try smoothies and juicing for Fruits and veggies.. you might like them. My sister loves veggies like potatoes so one day I did a pot roast and substituted potatoes for parsnip and she actually liked it. Kept things like carrots and roast that are familiar but switched one veggie.. Also, it’s okay if you don’t like something! At least you can say you tried💕
Dude. Picky eating isn’t just because a kid is being stubborn. It’s sensitivity to temperature, texture, flavour profiles. I used to be super picky and I had no idea why until I understood myself and then I became more adventurous and willing to push my boundaries and developed a love for food. Now I’ll eat anything that’s actually good. (Frozen meals yuck but I’ll make my own shit instead). People need to learn more empathy. So proud of your daughter for going out of her comfort zone and trying something new!!!!!! ❤❤❤
THANK YOU!! I wish my mom understood this I'm a picky eater and she says my little siblings are better than me- She will make me eat the food even if I gagged, puked or even if it burns because it was too hot/spicy (she says I'm being dramatic cuz it wasn't spicy FOR HER)
Exactly! Especially when it comes to children they’re more sensitive towards textures and such. It sucks that so many parents failed to realize that and it really goes to show you need to do heavy research and be prepared before having a child or even getting a pet.
Meeeee. My kid and I often eat different meals because I just can't do mac n cheese and hotdogs every day. But she IS expected to try nearly everything I make, sometimes she even asks to try it. The main goal is that she eats.
That’s what my mom did she never force me to eat her cooking cause she knows I’m a picky eater she will give me like baby size to see if I like it and if I don’t she will let me pick/make my own meal if I want I’ve never been forced to eat anything I don’t want and. I’m very grateful for that😊
I remember that my mum used to slowly introduce new foods to me, but would put so much effort into it, like she would make homemake ice-cream for me and would make it such a fun experience, that I began to like the fruits they were made of. And would ask what I didn’t like about the certain thing, and change how she cooked it accordingly. And now as a 16 year old I am open to trying new foods, and like most foods.
My mom and family would get so excited and after proud when I'd eat a new food, so I eventually got out of being picky through my mom just being sweet and loving her kid
Perfect example of good parenting and adapting to a situation…some of the parents here are mad their child won’t eat certain foods, yet it seems like they never tried adapting to the matter, they call what she’s(mom in the video) doing bad parenting, I call what they’re doing being closed minded
As a picky eater throughout my childhood,I can completely relate! My mom never forced me to eat everything. She understood my concern,and took creative approaches to feed me. Thanks to her,now I'm a person who's not that picky now😀
I don't think I'll ever stop being a picky eater. Sometimes my mom gets so annoyed, she just tells me to go crazy in the kitchen and luckily I haven't burn it down yet while sometimes, she loves spoiling me with world class cuisine 😆
I’m still sorta a picky eater and my mom made me try new things all the time but once I made for sure that I didn’t like something or I couldn’t eat it without gaging, she didn’t make me eat it anymore. My stepdad said he would have starved me but I’m so thankful my mom was more understanding when I was growing up.
My parents are divorced and as a kid I was a really picky eater and my twin was a little more open with food and the rest of my family ate anything they were served. The thing with this was my mom would not make me eat food I didn’t like but instead of not giving me new stuff she would make different foods and the have one dish that she was sure that I liked and that developed into right now where I only don’t eat really spicy foods or certain meats. But my dad as I remember would make some food for the whole family that I hated and I was gagging out my food the whole time while my dad stood hovering over me as he made me eat a big pork chop with cheese that I hated and for like 2 hours he just stood there until I hesatently ate it all. I don’t think parents understand that the kids don’t choose to be a picky eater but just can’t eat certain foods without gagging also my brother was not supportive in this aspect as he would always say that I liked only half of the food in the world because I don’t like spicy food and that he can’t eat at any Indian places anymore because I don’t like it
I was the picky eating kid. The dont like it dont eat mentality didn't work. I would starve myself just to avoid trying new foods my family tried forcing me to eat. It got so bad I would only eat bread and nothing else. My mom was so happy when I started eating toast with jelly and her being happy and excited about me trying new things got me to try new things. Positivity in parenting like yours is awesome. Thank you for being such a great mom.
sometimes i think ppl from 1st world countries should just shut up bc it's annoying. bro some kids in my country eat once a day and u guys be like "omg i dont like what my mom cooks, i'd rather starve myself 🥴" --- what??? u guys r so annoying lmao shut up and eat what ur given. i understand if u have an eating disorder or whatever mental disorder but other than that i'd rather let ppl like u starve lol. if u cant appreciate food that's handed to u then u dont deserve it.
@Hot Coco I could be wrong, but I think they meant that their relationship with food became so bad that they eventually just started eating bread just to stay alive
@Hot Coco I would actually eat a lot of things as a toddler. But it really quickly turned into not wanting anything my my favorites and then turned into me convinced I wouldn't like it therfore wouldn't eat it.. Not liking/refusing to eat stuff I used to. I wouldn't eat pizza because I was convinced I wouldn't like it so my mom had to take the cheese and sauce off or I wouldn't eat it. I would starve myself rather than eat something I "didn't like". Picky eaters are picky for different reasons. Mine was a weird control thing made worse if my family tried to force me to eat but I've had friends with texture aversions who will throw up if they eat certain foods. I would be fine if my mom could force me to eat something. But my mom got tired of every meal being a wrestling match or beating my ass to get me to eat and just letting me starve was me actually starving because I refused to eat something to the point I would go days without. I think the longest was a week when I was 5 until my mom caved and just gave me some toast. Its a parenting challenge not many expect to happen.
I got a concussion and my whole diet changed: I wouldn’t eat any red meat or pork only some fish and chicken, i wouldn’t eat dairy unless it was icecream. I had to have one of these fruits with every meal or I wouldn’t eat (cantaloupe, honeydew, watermelon, or strawberry). My family eats a lot of red meat so when my diet changed like that my brother said I should just starve since he considered me unamerican because I won’t eat hamburgers or hotdogs anymore(don’t know why he’d say that it doesn’t make sense). It’s been almost 4 months since my concussion and my diet is still the same and probably will stay like this for the rest of my life which I don’t mind. (I got the concussion because I forgot to wear a helmet and got bucked off a horse and landed on my head, a few doctors said I should’ve died or been in a coma but I never slipped into a coma just got a bad concussion.) People need to accept there are picky eaters and help make sure those eaters still get the food they need. Before my concussion I never was a picky eater so I didn’t understand why I changed so quickly.
When my youngest daughter was younger, she was the pickiest of eaters. I tried everything to get her to eat. I truly appreciate what you and your daughter are up against.❤❤
Yeah, forcing and being more outwards about it in a way that could cause trauma related to food could cause stuff like anorexia and i’m glad that there’s someone that understands that you need to help them branch out at a pace they’re comfortable with rather than forcing them to eat or starving them.
People get so hurt when they see what they lacked as children. You’re encouraging a healthy relationship with food with your child and exploring what she likes together. You are doing a great job❤
Yeah but imagine living in low income family and being forced to eat ramen noodles every day. Sometimes you can't afford to be picky and you need to eat what given to you.
I remember learning at school that tastebuds lifespans are about a week so after a couple of weeks your tongue is basically completely new. My 7year old brain concluded that this was why adults can like things kids don't, because their taste buds have changed so many times in their eternal lives that they don't work the same as kids taste buds. It also made me consider if my own taste had changed over time, and I realised a few foods I thought I liked, were no longer favorites, but it also made me more open minded about trying foods that I'd already rejected as horrible in my mind. My parents already had a deal with me that I should try everything once, but after that I decided that if half a year had passed since the last time I tried something, I should try it again. It really expanded the way I relate to food, and made me so much more open minded to taste. (no idea how accurate the tastebuds lifespan is, it's a childhood memory, but because it resulted in some positive growth for me I've never felt the need to confirm the accuracy).
I can’t believe people actually starve their kids because they are picky. Your words touched my heart. Keep doing what you are, you are an amazing mom ❤😊
I did go to bed hungry a few times because I didn't like whatever my parents made that night (especially if it was hamburger helper). There were even a few times where I said "I'll just make myself a sandwich" and my mom told me no. It was so confusing to me because it's not like I was making her do more work?
If you're not doing well finically then u have no choice but to have things u don't enjoy....most parents aren't rich enough to give their kids nice foods but they try hard to provide for them.
@@debrapillayi understand where you're coming from but that's not always true if a parent is aware a child of theirs doesn't like a certain food shouldn't they avoid getting it?
It sucks man. As someone who doesn't like watermelon(or many vegetables), it legitimately SUCKS and I really dislike that because for one, watermelon is such a commonly held fruit for outdoor days and a good source of eating and hydrating!
@@debrapillayYk most picky eaters actually prefer cheaper foods right? One example is most picky eaters I know just like stuff like kraft Mac n cheese, chicken nuggets, pizza, that kind of stuff. It’s more common for picky eaters to prefer simple comfort foods and actually dislike expensive meals.
Your exactly right! No one created a picky eater. Why would we want that for our kids. I have one that struggles with foods. And he feels sad and anxious about it. My job as a parent is to be all that you said, supportive, patient and keep introducing foods in a positive way. ❤
I recently traveled to Denver for a training and had dinner with people from all over the U.S. and there was a younger dude there who is very picky and we touched on the subject and he said “I tell people all the time that I’m picky but I don’t want to be a picky eater, you don’t think I want to eat all the foods you do and enjoy them, I try it but it doesn’t sit well with me and that sucks”.
My parents made my picky eater sister stay at the table until she ate everything. It bothered me so much as a kid. I can still remember it to this day. I'm in my 60's. After I started cooking, I realized that both my parents were picky eaters and it made me more upset that they treated her that way. When we were older I asked my sister what she thought about it and she said "I was more stubborn than them, I was not going to eat something I didn't like". When I have guests over for meals, I make multiple entrees so everyone can enjoy it.
I always ask my friends and those coming over of they have allergies or aversions to food so I can better accommodate with what I'm making. (This is difficult to do when I'm living with my parents but I still try. Lol)
That happens to me to when I was younger I would cry for a hour and they would say if I didn’t eat it all they would take my phone away. And to this day it still happens
this made me tear up because when i was a child i was an extremely picky eater and my mom used to tell me "you either eat the food i made you or starve." so i was naturally just extremely skinny and lower than the average weight of my age for a long period of time until uni where i started to try foods at my own pace. I just wanted to say thank you so much for doing this, your an amazing mother💕
Similar when I was younger, there were many foods I didn't eat or a certain way I would eat certain foods. And I can also understand I grew up in a big family and there was SO many specifications and details to remember them all but at the same time this doesn't justify the fact that my siblings or I would get lectured at or forced to eat a certain food(s) and using the "ungrateful" card doesn't make the situation any better but label food in a negative connotation when eating food w family is meant to be joyous and enjoying...If only this video was there when those occurrences were happening 🙁
@@catelynnes8377 Holy moly. It is very nice of a mother to care so much for her child. But especally in a family with many kids and with not so much money it is impssible to care for everyone. For example there is only one meal I don't like, my mother still made it because my siblings were fine with it and it is healthy. So she just expected me to eat a bit of it and I did. People who can always eat what they want have to be rich... Remember there are also ppl who would do anything to just get something to eat....
No hate to your parenting, because it genuinely seems like a good way to deal with picky eaters. I just wanna share my experience as the 'good' sibling of the picky eater who didn't complain and ate everything. My younger brother was always picky about food. He didn't touch vegetables, fish, eggs, fruits or anything nutritious. For most of our childhood, he survived off mostly plain rice, snacks and Candy. While my mother always called me a good sister for showing him to not be picky with food, she also enabled him by spending extra time cooking things for him, experimenting and introducing different foods. As a result, me, mum and dad ate the everyday food that my mom cooked, which was delicious most of the times, but it was still regular home cooked food. Sitting on the same table with us, my brother munched on some really fancy sandwich, specially prepared stir frys with things that he liked. The special recipes my mom saved for us for special occasions, were made for him on a daily basis. I took to school, the same boring lunchbox full of vegetables like my dad did. And my brother got fun cartoon lunch boxes, decorated lunches with things he actually would eat and a piece of Candy for encouragement. If I left anything uneaten in the box, I was scolded. If he finished a small portion of it, he was praised and mom would say to dad "He finished all the peas today, that's so good" In the beginning, I didn't mind it much ang thought, 'at least he's eating'. But then slowly I was filled with resentment. How old was I? 5? 6? My brother got to eat chocolates and French fries if he threw a tantrum but me? If I ever made a slight comment about disliking food, I was made into a terrible person. I think this is what ruined my relationship with my brother. I became jealous of him, his tantrums were answered with "That's how he is" and my slightest complaint was seen as "not you too"... Today I'm almost twenty, and because of my mom's gentle parenting with my brother, he's come to eat a lot of foods that he wouldn't touch as a child. Now he's the good kid. And I've come to see food as a competition, I can't stand eating vegetables, and since I'm so much older now, my pickyness is answered with "Then make yourself what you like" and even if I do make myself some different food, I'm judged and hated for acting picky when I'm supposed to be mature now and that even my brother is better, because at least he's Mature for his age. I don't know whom to blame, maybe I was just petty as a kid, maybe I was greedy I don't know, but now food has become a bother to me. Family meals are frustrating. Sometimes I wish I'd been the picky one.
I don't think this is about picky eaters, I think this is a more deep rooted issue with your parents that this situation is only a bio product of. Either way, I'm sorry you had to go through that
...... I dont think ur brother was a picky eater if he only eats rice n sweets. Because either ur parents raised him like that since birth n it created a psychological conditioning/problem. Or he has some health issues. And u should definite have him checked.
I’m a very picky eater myself and I think what your doing is great! When my mom forces foods on me it just pushes me away. Letting your daughter explore is a great tactic!
@@Dominik189 yeah but I bet they'd hate your fucking dad and would never call them again. Sick of that bullshit mindset and y'all wonder why most y'all grandparents and parents ending up in unloved nursing homes begging for their children to see them and why so many of us need therapy. Kiss my ass you stupid cunt
As a picky eater myself that was forced to eat everything my parents gave me when little, I really appreciate the fact you simply try to introduce new food to your daughter without forcing her into anything!
@@user-uk8uo7wv5bI'm sorry. My kids tend to be picky sometimes. Like one time they will want to eat something and another time they won't want to eat it. (Probably more of what sounds good at the time). But I never force them to eat what I cooked. I don't make them a separate dinner but if I know they usually will eat something, I will cook it and if they decide against it then they can make themselves a sandwich or some noodles or something. They are teenagers so very capable of feeding themselves if need be.
Ty for addressing negative comments as the content creator. Standing up for yourself💯 & providing the INTENT of the subject presented. Seeing your daughter enjoying her meal while you explain is satisfying😊
im autistic and have a lot of sensory issues with food, my dad and my stepmom used to forced me to eat food i didn't like and didn't let me eat dessert or other things if i didn't eat what they cooked, now i have a very complicated relationship with food, i'm so happy you're doing this for your daughter, it heals my inner child
@@patriciahaywoodfoley7927 yesss I hate eating fingerfood meat off the bone like wings and ribs its so gross to me i wipe my hands every bite and burn through tens of napkins in the process…
i can be pretty picky about food for sensory reasons, as certain textures will just make me throw the food back up. my mom’s rule was always that if i tried what she was making and couldn’t eat it, i could make something else for myself as long as i ate at the table with the rest of my family. i was never made to feel badly about it, and while i had an unhealthy relationship with food for a while and am in recovery from an ed, she was never the reason why :)
Am like that too one of my aunts never shamed me for it she even made food that I will be able to eat plus I have food allergies and am lactose intolerant so when ever she’s throwing a party she makes extra food for me if she’s making something I can’t eat she always says that as long as she’s alive I won’t have to question the food she make in her home as am one of her kids
The father of my daughters traumatized our youngest by strapping her into a high chair at three years old for hours and screaming in her face that she needed to eat what he gave her or she'd be there even longer. I got home from work and saw her red-faced, hysterically bawling her eyes out, still in the chair. When I learned what he had done, I lost my absolute shit on him, grabbed my baby, and left. Still, to this day, nearly six years later, she still has issues caused by his behavior towards her and it has made the both of them scared of him still.
as a former picky eater, my taste has changed so much since i was younger. what helped me the most is reintroducing foods. for me, when i tried tomato soup for the first time i didn’t like it. it was too sweet. then, i tried homemade and i loved it. its now one of my favorite soups.
My parents used to starve me, make me go to bed empty stomach if I didn't want to eat something. And now at 23 years old, I can't eat for days sometimes. Forcing myself to eat ends up in me puking violently immediately. I'm still forced to live with them due to covid circumstances, haven't eaten in 3 days, my dad won't talk to me. I cried hearing you. You're a beautiful mom ❤️
I was a picky eater myself and never really have an appetite still as a 30 year old. I love pizza and my mom constantly criticize me for my love for bread
In some regions food is not entertainment, but fuel. The people there generally have only one or two things to eat each day - and cannot afford anything else. Picky eaters do not exist in such places.
@@oscarbenigsen4538 while that is true, in places, environments, and religions that do allow other and more variety of foods, will be able to find what they can eat. it's not always about not wanting to eat something else but feeling disgust towards some foods or the taste (and textures!). everybody's taste buds are different, you're just going to have to learn to live with that, hun. 😐 edit: and picky eaters do not see food is entertainment, it is fuel to them as well, but certain foods they will not eat. everybody learns and grows and once you find the foods that you like and know what foods to avoid it's not much of a hassle.
@@oscarbenigsen4538 I'm sure if I was born into circumstances where I couldn't afford to be picky, I'm sure I wouldn't be. But I wasn't. I grew up in a household where I had to clean everything off my plate no matter how long it took. And unfortunately for me, my pickiness stems from sensory reasons. Despite eating meat, I can't stand the texture of ground beef, for example. The same goes for beans. And it's still hard to try new things because of that, my parents literally forcing new things down my throat as a kid, and a sensitive gag reflex.
This is super important. People have to remember that you can’t choose what foods you do and don’t like. It’s not something worth punishing someone for. As long as they are fed and healthy, if you have to make accommodations here and there it’s okay and it’s something your kids will appreciate you for as they get older.
I was shocked by the negative comments under that video. I thought people were going to talk about the beautiful roasted tomatoes or the creamy final soup. Instead I was horrified to see people blatantly and uncaringly proclaim that starving or beating their children will “fix those spoiled brats” I’m so happy you responded so calmly and confidently to those horrible parents. You are doing an amazing job raising your children
Skill issue those parents are probably just a shit cook (aside from being an abusive parent that will traumatize their child into not wanting to eat any food ever again)
As someone who was a big picky eater when I was kid when I saw the video about the tomato soup I thought two things “what a sweet story” and also “that looks delicious I wanna make it” but never once did it come across my mind that this was spoiling her. To be honest I do not know how my parents kept up with me for like 10 years 😅
People don't realize it's not how a used to be. I know when I was a kid my father was big on if you didn't like what was served I guess you're not eating tonight. That was me and my husband's time. We're not like that with our kids
I remember being 9 and my parents forcing me to eat certain foods i hated, I later found out i have sensory issues around certain foods but that experience really deteriorated my relationship with any food they made at home
I have a sensory processing difficulty and until recently I didn’t realize how much effort my mom put in so that I ate good and complete meals without stressing myself. And even now in highschool we celebrate little things like tasting shrimp.
I think it's amazing and healthy you guys celebrate every little and big achievement. You deserve it and you and your mum are doing a fantastic job ☺️ be patient and kind with yourself :)
Me too I’ve always had difficulty with specific food textures and my family for a good part of my life just called me dramatic and still just forced me to eat the same foods :(
An occupational therapist can help immensely in the early years for children with sensory processing disorders. They can help parents figure out exactly what the problem is and expose children to different textures/smells/temps/sounds in a fun and safe environment.
some people just hate when parents treat their children like human beings and not like simple toys you're a very nice and dedicated mom, your daughter is very lucky to have you
@@rishikeshshine4783 yeah that’s what they’re doing dummy. She’s creating a healthy relationship with food for her kid so she can enjoy it. Since it’s a necessity Punishing her is only going to make eating not enjoyable and likely lead to an eating disorder
A friend of mine has a terrible time with vegetables due to past experiences.. when he was young he had a lot of trouble with vegetables due to texture sensitivity (he's autistic, so quite a few sensory issues). Parent's solution? Holding him down, restraining him, and forcing the vegetables into his mouth while yelling at him. It's hard to get him to even consider trying anything veggie related because it's actually quite triggering now. He's slowly starting to be more open about certain vegetables if they're prepared in a way that the texture doesn't bother him. He was happy about being able to enjoy carrots in beef stew recently! It was like a little victory. I'm proud of him for trying. He's an amazing person. ❤ I wish he'd had someone like you raising him. He deserves so much kindness. Thank you for treating your children with the kindness and patience they deserve. ❤
I thank my dad for introducing food to me in a fun way. He has a funny way of telling me tales about eating food with his stories and so Id eating anything that is edible. I love my dad.
"starving her is not the answer, forcing her is not the answer" GOD BLESS THIS MOTHER ❤ Edit: oh- ok, 👁️👄👁️ um, could I interest all you lovelies in joining me for a spot of tea? ☕ Idk 😶👉👈
As a picky eater, I can confirm that starving them isn’t the answer. My grandma never once said “you won’t leave the table until you finish the food” she would adjust the recipe and slowly add things. It’s because of her I love foods. And though I may not always like the foods because they are not for me, it’s I do give them a chance.
@@Atwan82837 Yes and no. If something such as a very hot salsa or mustard is placed in I can usually detect it before eating. No amount of hunger will suddenly allow me to eat something I can’t handle.
@@Ms421twilightgirl eh, you get used to it and build your spice tolerance. I grew up broke and always ate what my mom made because we couldn't afford to waste food. If you are seriously experiencing hunger, you will eat. Only people who have gone really hungry will truly understand the value all of the meals that they are blessed with
@@Atwan82837 i could build my capsaicin tolerance, however I usually find hot sauce masks bland tasting food. If the food depends on the hot sauce is it then good food? I like to taste food, not be in so much pain I can’t focus on anything else. Then there is the other issue with having a high tolerance with chile. As my grandparents got older, they noticed they couldn’t continue eating chile because it would cause them pain on their side. So now they eat food without their desired spice level and the food sucks because of it. As I have chosen to not take that route, I won’t miss what I don’t know and the years of pain to build a spice tolerance won’t go to waste.
I'm probably the exception 😅. I was super picky as a kid and I wouldn't even try new food I was also very stubborn so my dad told me you can eat what's prepared or you don't eat so I didn't eat for awhile and then I realized I wasn't winning that battle so I started eating what he served. Now I'm the most adventurous eater in my family. Im also a good cook and have studied at culinary school. I am forever grateful that my dad made me eat foods I didn't want to try because I wouldn't be the person I am today without it
My brother used to be a picky eater, and he's also a pretty adventurous eater. Parents accommodated, slowly got him into a few new foods, and the rest he did on his own. No starving needed
There are so many adults who view themselves as more of a Better or Authority to children And while, technically, you are an authority, you're also meant to be a care taker. The authority part is only meant to come when they're misbehaving and with setting rules. Your child having their own likes and dislikes is NOT challenging your authority, it's them being their own person and having different tastes from you. In that situation, you are a caretaker where you ensure they get all of the nutrition they need without making it a miserable experience
Thank you for this video. I grew up in an environment that was negative around food. Starving, punishing & physically/financially forcing me was common. I later learned I had physical health problems that affected my eating habits extremely & being treated like that as a kid only worsened it. I say all this to encourage adult caretakers to be kinder to children. Kids are humans too
Peoples lives are apparently too good and boring, so they feel the need to add drama by picking on a child and her mother, who is trying to help her daughter develop a good relationship with food. I was a picky eater as a child, and now I literally eat/at least try anything because my mum didn’t force me to eat things I didn’t want to. Instead, she encouraged me to try new things and make food in a way she thought I would like.
It's not about being upset, it's about being entitled to manipulate your parent bcoz they soft. Ppl are not upset sir, it's that we can't relate as a child telling ur parents they don't eat this or that. My Mom could care less what I didn't like....Dinner is on the stove, you can eat or take yo picky Blk arse to bed. That choice is yours.😁👍🏿
@@ttmoore4447 nah, they were definitely upset 😂 if you can't relate then keep the negativity to yourself. The mom is happy, the daughter is happy, everything is good. 👍🏾
I think people get triggered when it comes to pets and children. Especially mothers get a lot of shit online. Suddenly everyone is an expert and you're doing it wrong. I've seen it happen a lot. I'm not even sure if they are parents themselves, or where the intensity is coming from. Maybe something in their personal life.
My older sister is a really picky eater, she doesn’t like any fruit. At all. My parents used to make her sit at the dinner table in front of an apple and would scream and scream at her to take a bite of it. She usually wouldn’t, and when she did she would throw up immediately. She’s still scared to try any fruit to this day and she’s 30 years old. None of my siblings and I really talk to our parents anymore for lots of reasons… Thanks for doing what you’re doing for your kids 🖤
I am a picky eater and because of the environment around food because of it, it creates an ED. I'm so grateful to parents like you for being able to be patient with your kids💜
People act like kids are not complex beings with their own reasons for doing things (that are not always what their parents “taught them”). A healthy relationship does not always mean being willing to try anything or liking every kind of food. I think you’ve demonstrated a good technique for adapting to what your child needs. ❤
I wasn’t a “picky eater” as a kid because I didn’t know you could be. It wasn’t an option. There was no other food than what was prepared, and if you didn’t like what was served you had to take the same number of bites as your age. This morphed into bulimia for 4 years and a problem with disordered eating off and on to this day. I didn’t have any ability to decide if I liked something. Encouraging your kids to have autonomy over their food choices is part of a healthy relationship with food.
More often than not this is a conflict around autonomy that manifests in the relationship with food. I was a picky eater until I moved out of my parents house.
Bro, thanks for not treating your kids like shit, my parents get so mad when I’m not hungry or I don’t like what they make for dinner cuz I’m a picky eater, once I wanted a quesadilla for dinner because I didn’t like the food my mom made and it made my dad so mad that he smashed our big box tv on to the ground. It was in like 2015 and my sister and I had one of those huge box shaped tvs in our room.
They did overreact, but also I do have some frustration towards picky eaters, especially when they refuse home cooked meals, because you’ll never know when and if it’s the last meal your mom or dad will cook for you, and you will regret it your whole life.
To be fair when someone spends an entire day cooking for you and ask them for to make something else instead of making your own shit and making do the extra labor because you wanna be picky kinda makes you seem like a jerk
@@stickysquad9914 I was 5 and she made grilled cheeses and canned tomato soup soooooooo, when I was younger I hated soup, she had the stove on and she was making something in a pan, she didn’t even really go out of her way to make it
Same like what I get called picky and a brat cause I can’t handle the texture of stuff and forced to wear or eat it I have a mental breakdown (I don’t want to have a mental break down btw)
I have AUDHD so I understand you so much 🩷 don't force yourself, it's ok if you can't eat certain foods. Gather compassionate ppl around you, it will help 🩷
I live with two picky eaters. One is my husband, the other is my son. I feel you on this! I’m constantly trying to help my son grow to love trying new foods but I understand that if he doesn’t like something then he just doesn’t like it and that is perfectly okay because even adults don’t like certain foods.
I was very picky growing up and didn’t need to be punished by my parents, I faced the consequences on my own: embarrassment at bday parties when I couldn’t eat anything they were serving, no options at restaurants, distress when my food was touching, etc. From those consequences I learned and began making the decision to try new foods as I became a teenager. Now as an adult I’ll eat just about anything. My parents neither forced nor coddled me, but instead just let me figure it out on my own
Ugh, not being able to eat food at social gatherings like parties is the worst. Everyone else gets to enjoy this random food that you find disgusting or just unappealing and they're all having a great time, but you're starving. It still happens to me and I absolutely loathe it, to the point where I'll just eat my own dinner/ lunch beforehand so I don't starve or have to wait until late in the night to eat.
Precisely. I HATE when specific foods touch. I can really tick me off. After an avocado touches my food, I especially don’t want it anymore. I just never liked avocado.
I think it’s important to teach your kids to give foods a chance. Encourage them to try foods they don’t eat. If they don’t like it, that’s okay. But don’t force them to eat it. Just encourage them to take one or two bites. If you never try it you can’t know if you like it. Also it’s important to know that people’s preferences can change. If they don’t like something you can try again in a few years.
That's pretty much what my dad did, but sometimes you do know if you don't like something or not. I had to try coleslaw once. Never again lmao! Probably because I threw up instantly.
My parents didn't understand sometimes. I don't like butter, unless it's involved in cooked meals..the taste is great but not if it's on plain bread, because of how greasy it is. Well, mom made me jam sandwiches for school and dad suggested i try with butter, but i refused. The next day my dad must have packed my lunch because once i took a bite i felt the butter. I spit it out and didn't eat for the day. Don't be sneaky about it.
My mom continues to make dishes I’ve told her I dislike. For example, boxes taco pasta. Or just taco pasta in general. I was never a fan of taco pasta, and I’ve told my mom this before. She keeps making it sometimes, and if I don’t eat it, then she says I get nothing for the rest of the night. So I basically go to bed hungry if I don’t eat my food even if I don’t like it.
