My dad clearly loves my half brother more than me, and I'm tired of being second place, so I'm... 

I think OP is learning that.

You think either son was planned?😂

Basically we only get to see OP’s side. In the dad’s side, he’s probably getting harassed constantly by the two he lives with. That doesn’t give him a pass but that’s probably what’s going on.

Yeah, well i have three daughters... and it is also not easy for a dad. Becayse all siblings are razor-focussed another one dousn't get a drip more. Say i was at an event and got as present two blue and one red pen. And then try to devide them over the three daughters, each get one... not easy 😅

​@robroodenburg8051 I mean it's his dad's own fault for getting 2 women pregnant at the same time. Meaning he was cheating with one of the women.

I was thinking that too. if he alternated events then this ultimatum would never have occurred. even if the dad had attended golden child's graduation over him, it would have been because it was his turn and not pure favoritism.

Maybe, but I doubt it. People like that don’t change until it’s too late

​@@arielrife3792 how is he supposed to change that he has two children in separate households and one child is bonkers over his weird petty hormones acting like he doesn't have a whole mom and step dad at home and wants to make drama with his father's marriage.

@@WillianyAmill I’m mainly talking about how he’s choosing one son over the other and treating them way better. I get that op has a mom and stepdad, but that’s not an excuse for the biological father to ignore op and choose his other son. You’re supposed to love ALL your kids equally, not pick favorites. That’s only going to sow the seeds of resentment between the siblings and hatred towards you. And if treating your kids equally is “making drama” in the father’s family, then maybe the father shouldn’t have married the other person, or at least he should put his foot down with them. It’s not OP’s fault his father allowed for this kind of behavior from his father’s wife and son.

The fact that you thing a child wanted to cause issue in a marriage over his OWN father not treating him fairly is a misunderstanding of the story. Op didn’t know that until he gave his dad an ultimatum. The dad was a shitty father to allow his WIFE to put him in that position. It has nothing to do with OP.

@@arielrife3792 Pay attention! The father lives an hour away from op, with his younger son. The father lives an hour away with his younger son. AND FINALLY IN CASE IT DIDN'T GO THROUGH.... The father lives an hour away with his younger son. That's not FAVORTISM. HE JUST LIVES WITH HIS OTHER SON, HIS CURRENT WIFE AND THE OTHER CHILDREN HE HAS WITH HIS CURRENT WIFE. HE EVEN HAS TO GO TO WORK EAT SLEEP, ENGAGE WITH HIS WORK FRIENDS AND NEIGHBORS AND DO HIS PORTION OF HIS CHORES AT HOME WHERE HE LIVES. HE HAS TO WALK HIS DOG WHERE HE LIVES, HE HAS TO TAKE CARE OF HIS AGING MOTHER WHERE HE LIVES. HE HAS TO BE A DOTTING HUSBAND TO HIS SOUL MATE WHERE HE LIVES, HE HAS TO OBVIOUSLY DO THINGS ASIDE FROM JUST EXISTING WITH HIS OTHER SON WHERE HE LIVES. Realistically Nothing but ops attitude as a child or ops mother, or the fathers work schedule was stopping op from staying at his father's place an hour away or during the summer or the weekends. To make it even. All this nonsense that the father spent more time with the younger son basically applies to the fact that they fkn lived together. For fk sakes of course they had the conviniece of watching a movie together or playing a video game or making mother dad brunch for the women on the fathers side of the family. Is the dad supposed to also obligate op over his toddler children too if he has them?

Well appearantly he is rich, I assume the wife is the sidechik since her son is the spoiled one.

He was testing the field with women he wasn't even in a commitment with yet and then initially he picked one so it's different from cheating. There's a variety of the term "Dating" that can mean just hooking up. That means even doing that can result in pregnancies. It's not cheating, he just decided then and there he had to pick one cause with two pregnancies I highly doubt there was an option for hitting it off with a whole third woman cause by then, his dating value fell a few standards of a woman's expectations.

Then your mom straight up put him in jail for not paying child support when you're not his son? All that nonsense cause your mom wanted you to have a last name. 🙄

@@WillianyAmill it was my "dad's" brother. Lol. I would have had the same last name either way! Just a trainwreck of a family, I am glad to be as far away from it as possible. They would need a private investor to find me.

​@@geraldbouvy1222 I think it's because most parents don't pay attention to "The good one" because you don't squeak.

But your dad is a workaholic like in the song. That's different from having multiple kids with different women. If your mom grabs herself a paycheck to contribute, things would be different for your dad.

@@WillianyAmill actually my dad was an alcoholic womanizing piece of shit. So much so that to get at me , he gave the other 2 kids he had with another woman some kind of variation of my name down to the initials. My mom called him out on it and all he could say is "what's done is done." Luckily my mom did not get arrested when she pulled a gun on him for saying that to her in her house. Now he sees the error of his ways and wants to spend all this time making up for it, but I'm grown now and do not have or make time to do so.

@@justinstephens6890 well then why in the heck would you imply that he resonate with cats and the craddle song? He is nothing like the man in the song. Don't tether that song to some deadbeat sperm donor then expect people to not get the wrong assumption.

Why attack Cameron all because op is an insecure little ego maniac that admitted he doesn't care about his dad and pushed his dads affections away when the dad came all because of his fa**** little raging hormones and his hate boner over wanting a victory over Cameron. Ffs op has a whole full time father figure that could teach him to drive at home.

Does it really matter? It’s not just some guy that’s flaking on OP - it’s his FATHER.

The fact ops dad each time picks Cameron when there's a conflict is not solely explained by not living with his dad. His dad has a responsibility to take care of both his children and of there's a conflict, the outcome shouldn't be so standard that op already knows what it's going to be each and every single time.

I don’t like this line of thinking. It’s like telling the son of an abusive and alcoholic father to not complain because at least he has a father, unlike other people. Everyone has their struggles, feeling your parent loves his other kids more is always traumatic for any child. So what if it isn’t as bad as having a deadbeat dad? It’s still hurts him and it’s his reality.

I hate this line of logic. If you want to compare suffering, then almost no one can complain as you can ALWAYS find someone who has had a harder life. Think of all the kids in Africa who spent all their life starving and then get something like Ebola which kills them in one of the most painful ways or people who started out with evil parents who prostituted them out. "Your Dad beats you when he drinks? Well MY DAD let strangers sleep with me WHILE beating me every night, so yeah, you can't complain about how bad your life is when you haven't suffered like I have."

I went no contact with my parents for a while. They were so toxic that I had to recover a couple of days after a two hour visit. I wasn't lucky that I had parents then. Since we've been in family therapy and things are better. They finally are sincerely trying. I count myself lucky they make so much progress and that in a way I get to have them in my life. However, should they turn toxic again in the future, I won't hesitate to cut them off. If my mental and physical health is better off without them, that's what I'll do. It's called self care. My situation however does not negate the hurt someone has over a or both lost parents. I return the fact someone has pain over lost parents, does not in any way have a bearing on someone choosing to cut their toxic parents out of their life. What you're doing is the same as saying that someone who has gotten accidentally pregnant but wants to be child free, should be happy, because some women are infertile. Each and every one of us has our own story and our own path. Hardships on your path are no reason to force anyone to accept their hardships as blessings.

Hardly. Can’t say people who are getting beaten and SAd by their dad every day is winning.. I know that’s not what this is about but that’s an example of why having a dad involved isn’t always some amazing thing.

No dad >>>>>> Shitty/abusive dad.

He is not the dad clearly put the wife and the second son first every time op did the right thing

Op's dad chose one over the other (almost) always. Op says that whenever there was a conflict of interest, the choice was always the other son. I had my suspicions it was (partially) due to the wife. That he might get in a fight for choosing his first wife's son, while in reality alternating would've been most fair. These suspicions even got confirmed when the dad said his wife would not appreciate his choice and his home life would've been more difficult. I do think that since he clearly knows his dad loves him and would do almost anything for him, the dad deserves a chance. But listening to op's story, op has given his dad multiple chances. And sometimes love doesn't negate all wrong doing. Especially if it's systemic.

​@@tamoeri op is petty and has a hate boner cause of his own self loathing that he's pulled out of nowhere. Everything suggests that he definitely ignores and undermines his involved step father all day everyday just to waste energy trying to drag his bio dad away from Cameron like he needs both father figures for himself 24/7 like some greedy ahole that wants to prove something. He spent the initial full day ignoring and pushing his dad away like he had to punish he dad for showing up! He pulled his dad away from Cameron just to keep treating him like crap? The dad could have been with Cameron not being treated like crap. Op is a mental case and he only just because a fkn adult that won't require money from his dad anymore.

@@WillianyAmill What's a clue he undermines his stepdad? The fact he barely talks about him? Because that's farely normal when you're focused on one thing to not focus on another simultaneously. Any other clue I can't find, so please enlighten me. Needing your father to sometimes pick you is normal. A stepdad is no replacement for an actual dad. Would you say the same to a kid missing their deceased dad when they have a step dad that loves them? No, you wouldn't. So it's okay for a kid to mis their bio dad, especially when the bio dad always picks the half brother when there is a conflict. That's not unreasonable. Never did he even say he needed his dad all to himself, just that when there is a conflict, it hurts the dad always chooses his half brother. He didn't spent the day punishing his dad. He spent the day feeling neglected and refused to put his very fair boundary aside to please the one he felt neglected by. When they talked, he even explained it to his dad. The funny thing is, while you didn't get it, op's dad did. So all is well that ends well. However, you calling someone missing their dad and being clear on his boundaries a mental case is very degrading. In fact, that compounded with a few instances where you exaggerate his behaviour actually suggest you could benefit from talking to someone. That doesn't make you crazy, that makes you strong and healthy btw.

Dad cheated and knocked up two women at once. Not OP’s fault. Good for him for standing his ground.

You divorce the wife ,not the damn child .OP isn't being a brat .What do you mean that he was lucky that to even have him in his life Screw You HE IS OP'S DAD .Of course OP Dad isn't obligated to place or OP as much as cameron EYEROLL .Same as Op ,He can choose his relationships as well .He doesn't need to love his dad as much then too.

Not really

@@krazykrazy8513 Everyone has parents, everyone is loved, just one is treated a bit better than the other.

​@@Rorschachqpah yes, there are people who suffer more so his suffering and the way it has affected him doesn't matter. I'm not sure that's what you meant but it certainly sounds like it. I know plenty of people in this world are ungrateful for what they have, but problems are problems, and they don't stop being problems just because it's a little better than some other unrelated situation. Having a dad who prioritizes others, even other siblings, over you is a legitimate problem

@@logantidwell7698 Legitimate problem…but is it a YT story-worthy problem? Because the latter is the real question, not the former.

@@Rorschachqp not everyone has parents and not everyone is loved. we have a word for when one kid is being treated better than the other and that word is favoritism!! favoritism can cause tons of mental health issues, especially when dealing with it for so long. it's good that this kid knew his worth, knew that he was loved by his father. but his father loved his half brother more, his half brother was the favored sibling and it did fuck up OP to an extent as seen by when he went off on his dad and set the ultimatum

Please don’t be a parent your kids will suffer from you having a golden child

Your trauma doesn't negate someone else's hurt. That you've learned to live with neglegt and don't view it that way, in a way makes you strong. But don't go around and calling someone spoiled just because they had it better than you when they still dare to call out the unfairness of it all.

Don't compare your experience with other people just to prove you're better than other people. You're not them, they're not you. None of them are. Solutions to problems are never the same with everyone.

Just because you feel like you had it worse than OP doesn’t invalidate their experience.

@@retrojordans5 op got stepfather and mother. at least OP got 2 father, his half bro only have one. if that one go to OP first, he only have mother, while OP still have mother and stepfather. so yes, it a pathetic childish tantrum. OP is fortunate that his bio father still care about him and not live as single parent family. lots of father neglect his child when getting married to other woman. his experience as emotional teenager is immature. one day when he got married and have a children, and have to chose between sibling, then he will knew his father struggle. being fair is the hardest because equal is not always fair. Remember, OP can have stepfather if bio dad neglect him, but his half bro don't. unless his stepfather is deadbeat or abusive then there are no excuse to put his father in that predicament.

@@ariffkhalid9473 OP’s father put himself in the predicament by fathering two children at the same time with different women. His kids are the same exact age, experiencing the same life milestones. Why should OP have to erase the thought of having his father care about him bc he has a stepfather? Stepparents being present doesn’t absolve a parent’s responsibility to at least ‘act’ like they care.

@@retrojordans5 imagine if OP father did like what he want, his half brother would be the one post on reddit that the father prioritize OP despite OP having loving family of mother and new father. he would said OP got money from his bio father and step father. he need to "share" his dad but OP get both of them. OP dad is responsible, just a bit prioritize his child with his wife as he living with that one and he knew OP is being cared and loved by then family. its just OP being pathetic child that being jealous without understanding his bio dad situation. basically, OP said if he and his bro in death situation will save his bro because his bio dad knew OP have step dad to save him thus saving his both children. if dad save OP, then his other child will die as none would save him. i'm sure if OP mother and step is deadbeat bio dad will save him. because he in safe place that +1 for the brother, not OP. OP did say he knew his dad is good guy and love him, he just being jealous being second. being neglect and being second is different, and its not worth to cut the ties at all. OP just hormonal teenager that bit emotional rather than rational. if OP being considerate and compromise, to understand his dad and try other date and time to make up with dad with holiday vacation, go watch movie,game etc, his dad will allocate his time to make up. it just unfortunate situation bad time.

@@ariffkhalid9473 imagine if OPs father did right by both of his sons their entire life. OP nor his half bro would be complaining. Imagine if OPs half bro wrote in to tell us how he hated watching their dad treat his brother like this?

Yes it would be interesting to hear the dad's side.

Sounds like it was a long time in coming. Good for OP.