My Ex Won't Talk to Me Anymore - Why Your Ex Pulls Away

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Clay Andrews (from relationshipinnergame.com) answers the question, “My ex won’t talk to me anymore, what should I do?”
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If you find yourself frustrated and saying “My ex refuses to talk to me… What is going on?” The answer could be that your ex is going through what we call a Positive Pullback.
You see, in order for your ex to actually break up with you, they had to create an image of you in their mind as the kind of person that is worthy of breaking up with.
Now, this image they have of you may be rightly or wrongly deserved. But it often involves them exaggerating or blowing certain characteristics about you or your behavior out of proportion in order to make you out to be the “bad guy” that they had no choice but to dump.
Following along so far?
Okay, here’s where things start to get interesting.
You see, if you start interacting with your ex and you are NOT that person that they thought you were when they broke up with you, then your ex has a very uncomfortable possibility to consider.
They must consider the possibility that they were wrong.
They were wrong in their judgement of you.
And possibly that they were wrong to break up with you at all.
And because of this, they often go silent for a period of time after a positive interaction.
Your ex won’t talk to you. Your ex won’t respond to texts. Your ex will go quiet.
They are trying to come to terms with the fact that they thought you were one way, but you showed up as someone completely different.
And they have to decide which version they are going to put their trust in.
This is the Positive Pullback.
When things like this happen, you may need to give your ex a little bit of space, but more than that, you need to keep showing consistently the fact that their initial judgement of you was completely wrong.
Over time, this will allow them to erase the version of you that they broke up with from their memory and they will start to really understand that you are the person that you are showing them right now.

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@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

Thanks for watching this video. If you'd like to learn more about what's going on in your ex's mind, check out this playlist: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-idFgpCEtdmo.html

@jaimerabbit 7 лет назад

The timing of this video is impeccable

@Isalukich 5 лет назад

This is just insanely helpful! It's a relief to finally be able to understand this from my ex's pov, cos I was really confused. Thanks!

@vegansintonada4436 6 лет назад

Thank you this explains a lot. Now I know the reason why he keeps pulling back to every positive interaction we've had.

@THEDIAMONDLIFE1 6 лет назад

I’m gonna say it...you’re awesome 🤘 deserve way more subs and better than half these run of the mill dating coaches. U really talk about the small nuances that other coaches don’t think to speak upon or bother to help with. I know this is an old video but it IS gold! Thanks man! I gain a lot of clarity watching ur videos. Keep goin!

@ClayAndrews 6 лет назад

Hey THEDIAMONDLIFE, Thank you very much for your kind words. It is truly appreciated. :-) We are happy that our video had resonated with you and brought a lot of value. All the best.

@jaymoore4621 6 лет назад

Damn clay smh this video is right on time... I needed this!

@MrMalibupj 7 лет назад

My ex can fake it for 6-8 months. I stayed with him 2 years after his mask came off during our first relationship. I left him two seconds after history repeated itself during our rekindled relationship. He's not a bad person and I can easily see why I fell in love. That's what is so emotionally damaging. I have been guilty of distancing myself for the very reasons you described. He sent a Facebook friend request after over ten years of no contact. I've ignored it because settling for an unsatisfying relationship in any capacity will re open wounds. The fact the request was sent without a message tells me he hasn't grown or changed. I would consider a friendship with him if he showed more effort. His minimal gesture isn't enough to gain my trust.

@noemeevans7926 7 лет назад

It's crazy but I'm watching your vids to understand and make sense of my own emotions. I was pulling back but couldn't figure out why i felt that way. It was doing my head in! I felt extremely angry and confused when I realized he was just faking being the man I wanted. Thanks for helping me understand what I am feeling too!

@ClayAndrews 7 лет назад

That's what I do. Glad you have a better sense of awareness :)

@thefnaffan2 4 года назад

Thanks for the timing.... She was texting everyday. I ask a question about my daughter and crickets.. this does explain alot though

@carolmaz8675 4 года назад

I think this only works for a certain amount of time after you split up once that window is gone it’s gone !!

@mohinderkaur7867 4 года назад

Thanks have nice day

@ManoloPluas 4 года назад

What if it's been a year already? Evidently we have both moved on. However, the very last time I spoke to my ex was a week after she left Me in such an Evil Manner. At the very Moment she, Ghosted herself. Does this means she has hatred towards Me?

@paulk2684 4 года назад

thank you for this Clay. definately what i am going through right now. i was naughty yesterday.. went over to her house! but kept to the social distance rules! lol. Took her some flowers and a giant easter egg because i found out it was the 2nd aniversary of her having a misscarrage! our chemistry was there for definate! we were both smiling and happy! she passed the dog over the fence to me so i could have cuddles.. lol... we chatted a little later on that day.. but today?..... Nothing! Its was 100% natural chemistry! i have made so many changes since we split! we split because of my mental health, but that was down to Low testosterone! i am excersising daily and have been now for 4 weeks! i am a 100% different person! definately getting my alpha male charicteristics back! i am no longer the wimp she finished with... i guess, im just going to have to keep giving it time. She has told me shes talking to someone else... and in the past i would have been really jealous over that, but now... its like it doesnt even matter! i know i am the right guy for her! i know i am better than any other guy she will ever meet.. I think i am definately at the riding the dragon stage with her now.

@ClayAndrews 4 года назад

Hi Paul, that's great to hear that you are having some progress. yes, that can be possible the Riding the Dragon phase. :-)

@huntersego6582 4 года назад

Thanks for the advice Clay, but I need advice on how to handle my situation moving forward. My ex and I broke up many years ago but have kept randomly contacting each other. The past few months I made the most headway I have had with her since dating. I tried to take it as slow as possible and over the past 2 months had some great connections with her. We went on two drives to catch up and talk. I did most of the reaching out although she would find silly ways to contact me when I didn't respond for 3-4 days or a week. I finally asked her if she would like to hangout because when are together we have so much fun and can fully be ourselves around each other. She said "We can 100% do that but said she didn't know when she would be available when I tried to get a set time. This is her finals week and I offered to help her with her papers if she needed it and I told her we could do something fun later. I snap chatted her last night asking her how her finals week was going and she left me on read. I was not expecting that at all. I don't know if she got scared or what, but how should I handle this, and if I should reach out how long should I wait and what should I say? Please I don't want to lose this momentum, I really need your help.

@christinadupont6929 3 года назад

Finally what happened?

@tehrzky 7 лет назад

so what to do? i love your thoery about they still have positive image of you in their mind but she keeps the reason why they break you. how can i switch that? im still contact with my ex. but shes distant and end the conversation immediately.. thanks.

@ClayAndrews 7 лет назад

Cultivating Advanced Relational Skills is how you change the dynamic between you and her. You can't MAKE her change her feelings (her internal experiences are valid to her) but you definitely can inspire how she responds to you. It takes a deep level of Awareness, Acceptance and Empathy and Composure (part of what the ARS are about) to change what you're wanting.

@MsLinzoo 4 года назад

I don’t hear from him all day and all night until three in the morning it really makes me feel really sad I’m always crying! (Not just because of that but because he was my best friend and we were so close.)I don’t know if it’s because of his family or just because of him, I’m pretty sure I’m a secret from his family because he wouldn’t answer my question about that so that really hurts!! Also he said he would give me a chance to prove to him I can be trusted, well I’m just wondering how can I do that since I only get to talk to him around 3:30 and the lockdown.. please give me some advice on what I can do I really want him back so bad!!!😭😭 I have tried so hard for so long I also very insecure he’s going to talk to other girls 😢😢😢😿😭

@sshuteandrew 5 лет назад

And my avoidant ex has seen the changes in me and we’ve had positive interactions for 10 months and he’d still rather stay alone and just see me 2 times a month than get back with me. How long should I have to do everything his way? He said he has a hard time w trust, but it’s starting to feel like one excuse after another. I feel like saying choose us or lose me for good!

@carolmaz8675 4 года назад

Well he doesn’t have to change anything does he he knows your there !

@michaele.channel605 7 лет назад

Exactly what is happening to me, but now I decide to cut any contact to her. I ignoring her now and never answer her call and message, do you think I'm doing right?

@ClayAndrews 7 лет назад

If you want to burn bridges with her, continue ignoring her. I suggest a different approach of letting her know that you need some time and space away from her and that you hope she can understand and that when you're ready, you'll reach out to her. (hint: during this time apart, be sure to do ANC).

@hsiurui4079 5 лет назад

Hi Clay, i want to ask if “pulls away” means it's in the riding the dragon phase? because i've had pretty good interaction, and the next day his positive feelings is getting lower and lower and we didn't chat for 3 weeks (because we have a mid semester exam) and when we talk again it's like back to the 2nd stage ??? i was wondering where are we in the 5 stages? i literally did nothing, are we in test drive or riding the dragon? thank you!

@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

Hi Sherlin, Pulling away can be a part of Riding the Dragon phase and any phases. Like what you said, your positive feelings is getting lower and lower probably because of the stress caused by your coming mid semester exam. People's emotions are affected not just by their internal beings but by external factors as well. Sometimes you have to look at the bigger picture why things happens. All the best.

@frankfortjuggalo5936 4 года назад

You all are forgetting one thing. Just when you think you figured out a women think again.

@learnhowtomakemoneyonlinef7991 3 года назад

My ex pushes me away...still after 5 years...Findout she seeing someone but yet they called it steady friend....we all know she laying down with the guy...Yes it still bother me...She said she couldn't comeback bc of pain...Does anyone stop to think how the pain was for me...But yet I went and work on myself..I didn't go get a steady friend and all she doing is to hurt me more n more. I get push away n punish by her for then pain.. Have I lost my ex girlfriend now for good...I have zero idea where or what to do now..

@nenitajones4985 5 лет назад

I broke up with my bf i didnt realized what i was saying to him ..two days later i went to see him to fix it but he refuses to work it up..He wanted to just let go..so gave it him the break up...

@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

What do you mean by "I didn't realize what I was saying to him"?

@rosegratton7568 3 года назад

I was trying to get closer to my ex emotionally but he pulled away since I said I don't want to be Fwb and moved towns :( we live nearby in small towns though and he often said he couldn't find anyone like me in that town.

@ClayAndrews 3 года назад

HI Rose, it's okay to stand on your values, especially if being friends with benefit is something that you are not okay with.

@mb-bw7so 6 лет назад

Whoa i think RU-vid is watching my texts, this video is litteraly just what happens over the weekend. She reached out early last week during radio silence, then a day later a quote at 3 am "ignoring her just shows her she can live with our you" all while she's in a relationship. Then the discussion of what went wrong again, this time I handled it better she and her mom see the difference in me, her mom and I are close still, then after we both agreed that our past relationship had issues which we both have fixed in ourselves she dissapered for about 2 days now.

@ClayAndrews 6 лет назад

Hi MB, It's great that you and your ex had come into conclusion that you have to let go and heal from your past relationship. It is important that we have to heal and learn to love our own self so we can bring love as well for the other people. From there, both of you can grow the new relationship organically with less pressure of getting back together. :-) All the best.

@StefanieCronin1 5 лет назад

Hi Clay! I've been watching your videos and following your advice. I've gotten my ex to come back around. We've gone on 2 dates and after the last one this week, I posted photos of us and the awesome scenery of where we went that day tagging him. I tagged him on the first date in a fun post and he left it and even liked it..... Well, the 2nd date, we had a great time but he untagged himself the next day and I sent a light text asking why or whatnot, telling him I took the post down since I thought it wasn't private and he responded saying "ya it felt so public" , I asked how his day was after that and didn't get a response. Now obi I seemed to have spooked him. What do I do now? Pull away? Thoughts on if I scared him again for good.

@gigi8528 6 лет назад

My ex broke up with me a week ago through text. He refuses to talk to me. I even went over to his house and waited outside. When he saw me, he backed his truck up and drove away. He didn’t have my stuff packed prior to this but after he avoided me, he packed my things and put them in his living room. I know this because I have a key to the apartment and I went while he was at work. He still hasn’t called me regarding picking up my stuff.

@ThatKidBryan 6 лет назад

Gee Cee whoa. The behavior you described is boderline..I hope you're in a better place mentally and emotionally now

@nenitajones4985 5 лет назад

christmas i asked him if he still loves me? he said he does mot know about him self. what is that mean?

@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

It likely means that the positive emotions between the two of you are not high enough for him to feel comfortable telling you that he loves you or really how he feels about you in general.

@jaimeestrada9627 2 года назад

I asked her, and told me because she dint want to give me false hope

@michaelaferrar3927 4 года назад

What if we were building emotional connection and he was FINALLY willing to meet with me one on one, and we had a blast....but then I brought the breakup up at the end of the date? He was very back and forth with his emotions, saying we could possibly get back together in the future, then changing to, "but you should date other guys." He said it felt like I had planned the date just to put him in a corner, and was making him feel terrible. That is NOT what I wanted to do. But we had also not talked about the breakup at all for 5 months, so I had a lot on my mind that I needed to express to him. Now he isn't responding to my phone calls and turned down an invite to an event. I feel stuck, things were going well.....how do we bounce back from this? Also he is hanging out with another girl a lot, and I'm afraid of a relationship happening between them.

@ClayAndrews 4 года назад

It sounds like a positive pull back for me. You may want to check this podcast as well. >> www.lovetalkfm.com/lt030-why-your-ex-pulls-back-after-positive-interactions/

@slyfly4829 4 года назад

its been a year and a half or more, there isnt a day that im not thinking about her all day, there isnt a day that im not searching the web for help , my brain is getting tired. of this endless repeating cycle. i just wish she would just tell me why she sabotaged our relationship

@TheALLYISLAME 5 лет назад

video starts at 4:00

@marvintorvic615 5 лет назад

Everything was going fine with my ex we had spent time together and we also had kissed and everything. It seemed like we were on the right track. Until we had a little disagreement on something that she said that maybe I should not have reacted to, but I thought that we could talk about everything. She then said my reaction reminded her of the old me. Of not know when to choose the right moments to approach a subject. Now she is being distant and I don’t really know what I should do, because she said that she needs time and that she does not want to rush back in our relationship and make the same mistake as before. She said that she wants to see if the changes that I’ve made are going to last. Now she is being cold and distant. Can I get some advice please

@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

Did you behave like the "old you"? If so, why do you think that happened? And what would it take to make your changes permanent?

@marvintorvic615 5 лет назад

The thing is that she kept saying that if we don’t get back together, well at least we learnt a lot together. So me I told her that it might be a chance but why talk about that. Lets just stay positive. But my timing was not good because she was having a shity day at work. we spoke that night and she said that my choice in timing was not good like when we use to be together and that I was being impatient. That she know she is not perfect also. That she sees all the changes that I’ve made but i can not be impatient. So now she has been distant because she said she needed time to see if my changes are genuine and not just to get her back and go back to being the same. Because in the past I neglected her in the relationship. So I don’t know if I distance, because the last 2 weeks have been so go. I also don’t know if I ruined my chances by what I said

@marvintorvic615 5 лет назад

Clay Andrews I wonder if I ruined my chances by doing so

@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

Let your actions speak for itself. You have to listen to what your ex's need. Not just on the things that you wanted to achieve.

@marvintorvic615 5 лет назад

Clay Andrews so should I give her space and let her come back towards me. Because after the little disagreement I tried to call the next day and she did not pick up nor call me back

@nenitajones4985 5 лет назад

was saying horrible stuff hurtful words .just so much going in my head and he also contribute some of the cause

@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

Yeah, he has contributed his share to your dynamic. But if he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and you do want to be in a relationship with him, then it is your responsibility, not his, to change things.

@rebeccajohnson5658 4 года назад

I can relate to this too.

@alishagreen2757 5 лет назад

My ex and I got back in contact and were texting for about a month, we met up a few times and it went okay. Now he began turning cold and angry towards me, I held composure and told him if he wants to ever open up to me about what is bothering him, he can trust me. He carried on getting annoyed at me about things that were not in my control such as me meeting up with our former work colleagues ( we used to work together) and although I invited him, he got angry towards me because the other colleagues didn’t invite him and he felt pushed out. He then said a few days ago we shouldn’t speak any more and he isn’t ready to be friends with me ( I want to get back together) so I just sent a text saying I respect your decision and I’m here if you do decide to want to talk about your feelings. What now? I’m very confused

@emiliohernandez4615 7 лет назад

this is happening to me, even though we did not act like we were together again, we were getting along just fine, but last couple of weeks, she's being really cold, it's been over two months. keeps avoiding me, keeps ignoring me, big time, I even feel like she's crossing the line, I'm about to give up clay, help please.

@emiliohernandez4615 7 лет назад

+Ahmed Mamundzai Maya I don't want to, even though she's been acting I'm a way I don't like, I know this isn't her, because while together she was a great wife,mother, friend. but to be honest I'm not sure if I could chase for that long. I mean ppl actually gets back together after several years but I honestly don't think I'll wait for her that long, it doesn't mean later on in life we couldn't get back together, but as for now over two months it's driving me insane. and I just can't take it anymore.

@benblexbenblex 5 лет назад

What if they stop asking you questions. And it is always only you having to ask questions?

@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

Sometimes we just have to be okay with it. Conversations tend to stall at times.

@alysehiltbrunner9448 4 года назад

I’m in this boat now. We even have talks about being together again. He says he is on the same page. We hav amazing times together.. then he goes cold ;(

@maddi8600 3 года назад

^^^^

@ieva4987 4 года назад

How to make positive interaction if ex doesn't reach out to me anymore?

@chonkybenetgods 3 года назад

Yeah same here.

@LindaD7317 4 года назад

Our relationship began with a big lie on his part which damaged my trust in him. In turn he broke up with me. Has gf but sends texts and lovesongs to me. Told me they broke up. We had great connection. Things began heating up until he began to pull back. I thought it odd. He confessed they actually had a huge fight. Were not talking but still together. I got upset. Felt used. He pulled back all the way. I handled it wrong, I guess. Should have been friend zoned but my pride kicked in. What to do?

@ClayAndrews 4 года назад

Hi Angie, I'm sorry to hear about what happened. Don't let your pride get in the way but instead, try to assess the person that you are trying to get back with and the quality of your relationship if it matched your personal values or not. If you feel that he has more of "deal-breakers" than the "must-haves", then it's time to focus on healing. All the best.

@LindaD7317 4 года назад

@@ClayAndrews, my intuition is screaming. I guess I needed validation. Thanks.

@ShawnGoodmanJazz 3 года назад

But what do we do when they pull away?? Do we give them space? Do we text them something positive?

@ClayAndrews 3 года назад

Hi Shawn, It is important that we are sensitive to their possible emotions. Giving them the needed space to process what they think and feel will allow them the time to understand what they feel. You can always check back after a few weeks with them.

@ShawnGoodmanJazz 3 года назад

Clay Andrews thank you for your advice. My wife (we’re currently separated) is now at about 20, going between crisis point and new beginnings. I’m thankful for all of your videos as they have helped me to get this far! Her block now is that she’s still trying to figure out how to let go of the pain she still feels and she’s still worried that she might get hurt again. She asked for patience so that’s where I’m at. I’m focusing on having positive interactions. After we have a great time together, she often has a positive pullback. I know I shouldn’t worry too much, but it’s still scary when she does it. We still talk Every day though, but the hours I don’t hear from her are like torture.

@lauramci22 7 лет назад

that's so unfair that they have this false image of you and we have to prove that it's bullshit.

@ClayAndrews 7 лет назад

In the end. The only person we have any control over is ourselves. If you want someone else to view you in a different light, you'll have to INSPIRE that to happen--Not expect it will happen on its own. *Not saying you should ever "prove" your worth to someone** But if they see you in a certain way that you don't like (like they think you have an awful temper when you were really just having a bad week), we either accept their perception or do something to change it instead of thinking they'll change their thoughts about you over time.

@alysehiltbrunner9448 4 года назад

Would you suggest pulling back????? No contact? Or just be myself and stay positive. Because i have changed.

@mandaamanda5512 5 лет назад

Hi Clay, my ex and I have been speaking to each other after a month of no contact. We had so much fun times, but also there are times where my ex gets really mad at me if I ignore him. He claims that he cares and worries too much that when I don't reply, he is worried where am I or if I'm home. Yesterday, he was in a bad mood, and was being a little rude so I stopped replying, and he called me and got really mad saying that I ignored him, and so i lied that i was doing something, but he saw me online on FB, so I admitted that I was abit put off by his previous text, and he got really mad that I lied about that, and asked me why I had to lie and that we broke up because I was lying and claimed that I had not change. Today, we texted again, but he seems different. Is he still mad? What should I do? Also, we have been going out together almost all the time, and text everyday, and in fact he calls me everyday, but he ends up saying he does not want to give me hope and get me attached in case things did not work out, and we dont know what's going to happen in the future. What exactly is going on?

@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад

Hey Manda, it seems like your ex is still in the riding the dragon phase. You can check that over here >> ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-_kkoGM1Vid0.html I noticed that both of you needs to work on your communication skills as well. It is truly important so you both can communicate thing effectively without leaning to any form of arguments.

@rebeccajohnson5658 4 года назад

He is using you. Playing mind games trying to manipulate you.

@BrandonSneed9623 10 дней назад

😅

@sshuteandrew 5 лет назад

Yes- my ex pulls back after every positive meet up we have. Last week he sent very warm, positive and encouraging texts like he sent 9 months ago when we were together. We saw each, had a wonderful time and then he went cold over the weekend. He ignored two texts and declined seeing me. He’s a fearful avoidant and recently admitted he has a very hard time trusting. My goal has been to build trust- like you said, after positive interactions he tends to be confused and pull back. Discouraging but I try not to take it personally. How long should I pull back after we meet up to inspire trust?

@devin_leary 5 лет назад

Stacey Swope lol what happens if she blocks you? 😅

@sshuteandrew 5 лет назад

Devin Leary Not good!!! 😏 Then you have no choice but to go NC. Were you arguing w her?

@devin_leary 5 лет назад

No we were having a blast. We were caughting up and reminiscing. She's still in her rebound relationship but now is going to my college. She was texting me fast and A LOT.

@sshuteandrew 5 лет назад

Devin Leary Hmmm...maybe she was feeling conflicted or her rebound caught wind of you texting w her!! Strange but then again my ex and I will have great text exchanges and have good nights and then he gets short and cold on me. In my case I think he’s still too full of fear and doubts to believe in us and doesn’t want to give me the wrong idea...or invest in us. I always say that guys do whatever they want...if he wanted to see me or call me- he would!! Someday I should go cold turkey and see what happens. He’d probably miss me eventually but I think it’d take a very long while for him to admit it- if ever.

@carolmaz8675 4 года назад

We split up March 2019 we stayed in touch after a bit of rocky ness .. then July 2019 he got closer texting and messaged me to say he wanted come up for weekend all was good then I think his son interfered and stopped him coming up .. we had words about it he pulled away I chased a bit prob communicated too much was hurt all over again now he has me blocked on everythng and won’t speak to me it is a shame ..

@martinemaryhernandez729 4 года назад

It’s not a shame it’s a fact you said his Son interfered NOBODY can ever stop anybody from love EVER...

@sxylala74 7 лет назад

push pull theory...

@nicolebrowne3632 6 лет назад

This is what my ex is doing to me , he reached out , we met up , we had a good evening and the first few weeks was contact then it was like he would only respond if i texted him . The last text i got from h was a week ago and I have not replied . This is making me feel confused 🤷‍♀️. Why do they do this?

@ClayAndrews 6 лет назад

HI Nicole, You and your ex is going through the test drive phase. Try to look for that particular video of ours in our Channel as we talk about it as well. :-) All the best

@nicolebrowne3632 6 лет назад

Clay Andrews - yeah it seems that way . I want my ex back , I miss him and i believe he does too . He said he wanted to take it slow but how do I deal with that ? Since two weeks and i haven’t responded to his last text what do i do ? Should I reach out now ? I feel these are games .

@nicolebrowne3632 6 лет назад

Clay Andrews - can you send me the link for this video to watch please ?

@ClayAndrews 6 лет назад

HI Nicole, You can watch the video over here. -- ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tMV9NiR8e2U.html Also, maybe you can send an email to our team so we can pick things up from there. Our email address is hello@modernlove.life All the best.

@fuzzyOGchinchillas 6 лет назад

The ex who broke up with me broke no contact after 4 weeks. He initiated all conversations for a week, followed me on social media, flirted with me and admitted he still loved me and missed me dearly. A week later he asked to meet up as he was in town for a conference. I was going to catch a game nearby & made it clear I was not going to go any earlier to see him but for the game. He waited 3 hours for me. He nearly teared up for a second staring at my face. Everything was great, didn't talk about the BU. Nothing negative. Romance in the air. We both admitted that we saw positive changes in each other and he said I impressed him throughout the night. Well, I changed genuinely to learn to be happy for others. All of my texts have been within boundaries and are not 'needy' and 'pushy'. The next day, we were texting for hours and then it stopped. Next day, silence. I reached out for the first time to initiate small convo asking about his interview and a movie I saw, responses were dry. I stopped responding. I noticed he looks at my IG stories later and not as quick as he used to. He said he didn't want a relationship as he was focusing on himself but apprehensive about my insecurity of the breakup. I don't know what I did wrong. Maybe this video is what he's going through, inner conflict. If he didn't want a relationship, waited for me for hours to see me, emotions showing , why reach out?