Right? Healthy legs don't have a gap... unless you're genetically gifted with very wide hips. The key to being happy and healthy is to compare yourself to how far you've come, rather than other people.
i've literally never ever ever met a dude who likes a thigh gap. ever that was a fucking weird ass thing girls made up for no reason except to fuck themselves mentally lol
I was a body builder and athlete from age 15-22. I then got pregnant, got scared to lift the way I used to and started to get lazy, I stopped completely. I developed an eating disorder much like you, and I also developed a drug problem for about 10 years. It was bad. I lost all of my muscle, you could see outlines on my body like you could tell I used to be fit, but I became skinny flab. I am now going on year 5 of being clean and sober, I’m 31 years old now, and I picked up lifting again 3 weeks ago, and I’ve literally never felt better. I feel like I have even more discipline than I ever did when I was at my body goals back in the day. In the process of finding the perfect workouts for me I found you on RU-vid shorts, and something about you really pulled me in. I immediately subscribed and watched this video. You’re like… a huge inspiration to me and I appreciate all of your content. It’s been very beneficial and helpful, very motivational. Thank you! I hope to resculpt and look better than I ever have. I have a goal of getting my booty and abs back by July. I can’t wait to see what happens!
@@username3723 thank you so much! It’s going on 6 months of me lifting 6 days a week, I’m healthier than ever and I transformed myself. It’s incredible what lifting has done for me. I’m never going to stop 🥰
@@bikerfirefarter7280 it’s going so well. I’m in my 7th month of lifting 6 days a week one rest day. I sometimes will do a couple days off now that I’m really happy with my body, just trying to experiment and see what will make me recover and grow quicker you know? I still watch lean beef patty and she is still my biggest inspiration! It’s changed my life in alot of different ways but aside from my self esteem and confidence it’s made me very consistently happy. I’ve always been a fairly depressed person.
I'm 65 years old. I was a fat kid that was picked on all the time. Had trouble with my legs when I was young. I started lifting at 13 years old. It saved my life. I got bigger and stronger and more confident over time. Like you I didn't have a clue what I was doing. We didn't have internet or even gyms...Parents bought me my first 110 lb weight set. I improvised a lot. Then I bought a weight lifting book by Bill Pearl and followed his work out. Over time I found out what worked and what didn't. Eventually I met other weight lifters and powerlifters and started really training. Now that I'm old, I don't lift heavy any more. Mostly functional training with Kettlebells, Dumbbells, Bulgarian Bags, Heavy Clubs and Steel Mace....but I'm still doing it 5-6 days a week. Keep with it Patty, its a wonderful journey with a great many lessons to teach. There are Sooooo many rewards. The best advice I could share is always keep it fun. Love your personality, and the energy you put into your videos. I enjoy watching. Best to you in 2023.
In a world of shitty influencers/role models for young girls you are a true gem. This is what a strong woman looks like. A lot of girls I teach could gain a great deal from watching this.
THANK YOU for not dropping pictures of you in your active ED ❤️❤️❤️ So many people do that as "proof" that they were once dangerously thin. You're fucking awesome for not feeling the need to do that
My story Speedrun: Grew up the fat kid, got made fun of, decided to change, lost 80lbs, developed an ED, gained a lot of weight from binging, forced myself to throw up food after binging, went to therapy, got on meds, started loving myself, gained the most muscle i ever had. I'm still learning and overcoming personal issues regarding my body but I'm so proud of how far I've come.
I was always the fat outcast kid then the homeless twig with a drug problem. But then I met the love of my life I got my first home and started hitting the gym and she was always there in my corner cheering me on. I was the happiest I’d ever been whenever we where together but as the wise Wade Willson once said “life is like a terrible tv show with only brief commercial breaks of happiness, and this had been the ultimate commercial break, and now back to our regular schedules shitshow”. In September 2022 my beloved fiancé lost her year long battle with cancer and just like that my whole world fell apart I was ready to die… and it is still hard it will never get easier but I am back to the gym and when I get down I feel her cheering me on from above. I’ve made so much progress and I’m just getting started my life’s purpose is now to win mr Olympia one day in honor of Izzy’s memory if it’s the last thing I do idc. -sorry for the trauma dump y’all but that’s my story Stay Strong 💪🏼 Stay Pretty 🤩 Stay Resilient😈 I love you Izzy ❤️🌻
No need for apologies my friend it’s ok sometimes we all need to talk about something on our minds. I’m sure your love is smiling down on you now seeing how great you are man you got it :)
Yo, you are not alone - Stay strong, and when you can, try to enjoy the moment because you are earning it. She is cheering you on but not just at the gym brother. You got this!
My daughter is 13 and has a similar gymnastics/thigh gap/eating issue story... to the point where she hated her body and thought she was ugly despite looking rdiculously athletic... im going to show her this video in the morning so she can be proud of herself and see shes not alone! thank you for sharing!
My sister whos 24 now was a victim of the thigh gap trend, she was a champion cross country runner and our family naturally have big thighs and tall bodies, I wish I still lived with my family throughout those years instead of packing off to go to university, maybe she could have confided in me more as my mum wasnt good at that kind of talk. Anyway 3 relapses later, shes now in one of the best universities in the world to study her subject and I cannot believe how far she has come! I first saw your mobility video and something about the way you present your workouts, your humour and general self really remind me of the way my sister is. Then I saw this and when the eating disorder part came past, jeez it cut me deep! There isnt many YT workout things I find I can gel with, too fake or artifiicial but I really like that you just keep it real. Big loves from Yorkshire, UK!
As a guy, I never found a large thigh cap attractive. Quite the opposite. That one seemed to come out of the blue. Never got a proper explanation of this phenomenon.
@@markn3936 yeah bro, I don't even like when girls have that, who actually did gave that idea a good thing? Kinda look more unhealthy than healthy to me. Well....i mean like looking at it in a physical perspective tho....
My daughter is 13 now and it is such a tough time. I just try to support her, but there is so much pressure and self-doubt at that age. It is so hard watching her go from a happy-go-lucky elementary schooler to a miserable teen.
My biggest advice is to just listen and pay attention to her. Observe how she’s feeling and acting then act accordingly. But most importantly, listen to what she’s telling you and try your best to be encouraging. It’s a hard time for both of you, good luck ❤
A lot of that is hormones too, the best you can do for her is to be there for her and be understanding. Do what you can to make her feel loved and accepted
I was that way too. 🥲 My mom was always so supportive and loving and was so affirming in my looks, personality, and my abilities (she was also realistic too and kept me in check). When I was at my worst, I would sometimes take it out on her but we got through it together. I’m so thankful for my mom.
When I was in first grade, this boy would flex in front of me everyday. I was determined to make my muscles bigger somehow. Being a kid, I had no idea how to do that. So I asked him how and he showed me how to do push-ups, pull ups, and sit ups. So I did those everyday after school and improvised by using our tree for pull-ups. After a while I stopped, but then puberty and severe depression hit me. I went to several mental health facilities for self-harm and learned about coping skills. I remembered how much I enjoyed exercise and now I’m back on that grind to get stronger, physically and mentally. 💪🏼
thats a pretty cool story about the fellow kid teaching you!! im glad you've gained some new coping skills as well as rekindling your love for fitness 🙌
@@mh-qv5tv started with knee push-ups and would practice on the monkey bars for pull-ups. I could only do 1 at first and eventually got to 3 and so on..
Everyone is sharing their experiences soo here's mine. I'm 19 (a girl) and still currently improving my overall health. I'm not in any sports when I was a kid, but definitely an athletic type. I want to join in sports at that time (even now), but my family didn't have enough money to afford me joining in sports. I didn't have any eating disorder but I was diagnosed with PCOS and still taking my meds to this day. My current goal this time is to be strong, not just to lose weight to better my condition. It's hard for me, but I'm trying to be better. I don't have enough money to go into the gym so I workout here at home, plus I am busy with my school things and saving for my tuition, etc. You are one of the peeps that inspired me to do workouts and I was really aiming to be muscular too. As the time pass by, I am starting to enjoy and learn more about different workouts. Hope y'all well and wish you guys a goodluck (including me) in your future journey.
Great stuff But you didn’t explain how you got so many followers in such a short amount of time. 3million on insta and almost a 1M on hear. How’d you do it Thanks again
@@ezetella5691 Clips of her gained massive viral attention on TikTok and basically were the starter of a whole new "massive fit girl" trend and she managed to build a "brand" around that short term success. Before people like her the female fitness scene was mostly "beauty" and being slim, and she hit a sweet spot with her timing for women also being able to look jacked. It's sort of a typical modern day social media career, a lot of the TikTok-grown influencers started to also do RU-vid, Instagram and so on because it pays much better and gains you a new audience to grow.
Thank you for Patty for all the content and inspiration you have given many people (including myself). You are the most genuine influencer I have seen in a long time and while talking about your life may not always be comfortable, the people of this community appreciate it because it’s easier to relate to. Also you’re editing is batshit insane 10/10
Seriously impressed by your honesty and transparency. Thank you for being brave and telling your whole life story. Sharing things like this takes courage AND confidence. I believe it also contributes to the healing process when you're open and honest. I started lifting and managing my nutrition when I was 18. At one point I most definitely had body dysmorphia. Looking back, I was in INCREDIBLE shape. Everyone else saw it, but I didn't. After about a year of lifting, I ended up tearing my labrum in my left shoulder and having surgery to repair it. LITTLE DID I KNOW that this one simple surgery would CHANGE MY LIFE FOREVER. After surgery, I was sent home to recover with a cryo-cuff and a METRIC SHIT TON of prescription painkillers. It didn't take long for me to realize how much I loved the feeling that hydrocodone gave me. My labrum repair turned into a 9 year struggled with opioid addiction. I lost everything to it, including my physique. BUT I am back in the gym, managing my nutrition, and making gains again. At 30 years old I'm ALMOST in as good of shape as I was when I was 18 and I've been sober for almost 3 years now. So when I say Thank you for your transparency, I want you to know I truly mean it, and that I also truly mean it when I say you inspire me to be a better version of myself.
thank you! it took me a looooong time. much of it just being from being embarrassed (or still in my disorder) but once i started being more open, i realized alot of people can relate and that helps us create some sort of connection which is pretty cool. your story is incredible! addiction is no joke and still so many people dont realize how easy the slip can be from presciption to addiction. congrats on the 3years of sobriety! thats a huge accomplishment (and congrats on the come up back with your physique💪💪)
...so one day I woke up fat af at 33. So I went to town for 7 months and got down from 222 to 171. Then.. I blew my back out just as the pandemic hit and couldn't get in anywhere soon so I rode out the recovery at my house. It screwed me. Permenant nerve pain. No doctor could help and no pain meds. I am a disabled vet and this made me about lose it. I was drinking and getting fat again. Then it hit me. No one is coming to save me. So now I get up everyday and do the workouts my back and left shoulder allow. Then right to a scorching hot shower for my back so hot it makes my skin so red it's almost purple. It's constant pain, but ya know what? I'm starting to like the fire this injury has put in me. I reminds me that I'm fighting for my life once again, and that puts my mind at peace. Much love and congrats on the well over 1 mill subs 😊
you should look into building up your rotator cuffs. this could help you out with your shoulder pain also focus on your sleeping position. i had shoulder pain also at 33 and these two things helped me a lot.
I know this comment is 10 months old, but I can't help but comment how scary this is. I, as a disabled veteran, pretty much suffered from the same exact issues. Two back surgeries and a left shoulder surgery. Almost at the same time too. I was a healthy 210-220 during most of my time in the service, I was at my peak. Then, after the aforementioned injuries and navigating the pandemic, I quickly jumped up to 242 pounds. The heaviest I ever been. It sent me spiraling down an endless void I never thought I would come back from. However, I am now back in the gym, losing weight and even back to 3 plates on every compound lift. I NEVER thought I would achieve that again. There is hope, just keep grinding and persevering! I hope you are in a better state of mind and health compared to 10 months ago!
I am in my "gym" era because all my life I was told, I was FAT, then now that I am 21 and 85 kg, I look back at picture of myself when I was young and I realize that I was no fat, I was average, but because I grow in the 2000s era of thinness I didn't realize, and possibly the fact that I was called fat most of the time make me thought I was actually fat and that I would never be skinny so I stop trying, I just accepted that I would always be fat. Another factor was that in that era, the "gifted kid" was a thing, like you have to be naturally good at something to even try it, so I wanted to be a singer as a child cause Disney right Lol, but I didn't have "natural" talent and my parents were poor and I always was afraid of being ridicule so I didn't even mention this to my parents. The first thing I was good at was being flexible, but people don't see being flexible the same way they see being good at singing so I was never ask to go to gymnastic classes or sh1t. And I knew about ballet but I thought for what I understood as a child, that they pressure you to be skinny and eat healthy, and I was a peaky eater and I still I'm. So I was ask if I wanted ballet classes at 14 and I said no, because the way my mom told me was like "they accept people fat like you", like thanks mom. I put all my effort in high school to be good at english, english is not my 1st language as you can tell and I succeed. at my first job I gain so much weight (9kg) because I was in a office all day, and to lose weight I would dance, because I have try to follow routines before and it have never work, is just boring and it feels like forever when is just 10 minutos Lol. A year ago, I watched a video of a contortionist so I am still flexible in my back, but I can't do a split anymore so I was trying to get it but I forgot about it. Like a weak ago I accidently watch a ballet rehearsal, and I was like "fuck I wish I can do that" and until this point I have been miserable without a job, thinking what I going to do with my life, I have no passions, i mean I have hobbies but nothing that is a burning passion if you know what I mean. But I am currently thinking ballet is the key, like I never have experience this feeling in my entire life, like I really want to be able to dance in pointe shoes, like I wanted so bad is painful. So wish me luck because I have been the past 5 days doing ballet exercises and it hurts so much, am sore but I don't want to give up again.
I moved to a different country and left all my family behind and got super depressed, couldn’t leave bed for around 2 years and became a real chonkadonk. I was scrolling through youtube shorts one day and came across Patty’s “bro, just tolerate it” tiktok. My mind was blown, I thought Patty looked amazing and from that moment I quickly felt an overwhelming desire to get healthy and get myself to a gym. I looked up some different beginner programs and eventually I built up the confidence to start actually entering the gym. Although it’s only been 2 months of consistently eating better and working out I am so much happier and I’m so extremely grateful that I came across Patty’s videos 🥰
Oo when you said you missed school for three months and only one person asked...I felt that in my soul. I was only gone for a whole week and was actually sick, never got an eating disorder, and only one person asked where I went. Not even the teachers asked. I feel like three months is an even bigger deal.
My story. -Raised in unhealthy family with a lot of addicts -Bullied in school for being fat -Mom passed away from overdose 😔💔 -Relized I never want that life for myself -2020 going on lots of hikes/walks outside bc nothing better to do on top of working a job where I was on my feet all day🏃♀️💨 -Started doing at home workouts specifically ✨MadFit✨and learning more about nutrition -Finally got a car and now am gym rat that works at nutrition store 💪🐀 Win win
my (22m) 14 year old sister has been struggling with her looks and eating habits and it's been really hard for me as a brother to know what to do in this kind of situation. Your videos really help bridge the gap, I honestly thank you ;)
@@an05bootyslayer73Your Comment Implies He Shouldn't Care Too Much Because It's Something Most Girls Struggle With Nowadays.. I'm Glad Her Brother Is Not Like You
Holy shit your entire childhood is exactly like mine. The whole experience of puberty as a young girl was terrifying and confusing. Really turned my life upside down.
@@andrewjennings7306 It was pretty awful. You're still playing in the dirt before you have the ability to recognize that creeps have their eye on you in a very different light. Unfortunately many of us realize this happened long before our bodies began to change. Your body looks nothing like it did before. You look down and nothing looks right. You don't know who you are and now you're in a body you don't recognize. Now you have to wear uncomfortable garments because the world tells you that you need to. They are constricting and leave itchy lines across your torso. None of your clothes fit. You have all of these seriously turned up, confusing emotions and you're shamed for having them. Your PMS is constantly blamed for depression and other conditions that start popping up around that age, even with pediatricians, leaving many girls with explainable, validating, and sometimes treatable disorders to remain undiagnosed. Many girls that are put on birth control to lessen symptoms and/or protect from unwanted pregnancy are not warned that many of them can also cause depression. Then you're told you are going to bleed once a month until menopause. You calculate it- a few days to a week of pain on average, bleeding for days straight. That is basically half of each month of your life where you feel fatigued, run down, heightened emotionally, and in pain and that's IF you fall into what an average woman deals with. You see how much feminine products cost and you calculate that- your head starts spinning. You're consistently worried that you are bleeding through your pants because you haven't gotten a hang of when to expect your period could start. You are very much aware that you can now carry a child which is a very strange thing to wrap your head around. Any pain you experience can be brushed off as normal even if it definitely isn't, but you aren't old enough to represent yourself and have no idea what "normal" is. Many girls have growth spurts before boys which can make us feel like freakish giants when we already want to crawl into ourselves instead of standing out. Not to mention what you see in the media looking nothing like you. Feeling that you want to go back to being little while also having external pressure to look older. We really need to do a better job at bringing up our girls in a world that doesn't demonize them for going through very normal, yet drastic, changes.
@@andrewjennings7306 Definitely. I'm in the boat that doesn't want kids so it was definitely a slap in the face to go through most of that for no practical purpose. lol I envy you guys.
I thought I was alone in being at the peak of my ed whilst being active in the gym, and then entering into a borderline horrific relationship right then 😭 People never really understand how messed up it is that your focus on how you look just completely shifts to a person and it takes a hold on you like nothing else, but yet it can be a blessing in disguise??? Idk 😭 But your story is so inspiring, keep up what you’re doing patty ❤️
Yeah hearing that in this video really opened my eyes. I actually laughed in disbelief. It is definitely messed up that Patty/you had to go through emotional trauma in order to regain power and confidence in yourself. I was also in a toxic relationship and once I got out I felt so refreshed and was ready to devote all my energy back to myself again.
Dear Beef, you were one of my role models when I was in recovery from my ED and developing a better relationship with my body and the gym (2021). You helped me shift the focus from shrinking myself to getting stronger. Now I gained around 20lbs mainly of muscle and feel so much better, stronger, and happier. Hearing your story makes me admire you even more. Abraços do Brasil 🥩
honestly ms.beef , daddy noel , and so many other fitness people really moved me into the jim community. i always wanted to feel better about how i look and having these people to watch to sort of motivate me just really pushed me to be better. thank you so much ms.beef
@@Danuxsy yeah i understand but after working out and actually staying consistent at least for me my confidence has gone up and my self image has gotten better imo. im not saying im trying to “fix” anything but more of a confidence thing if that makes sense
When I was 16 (a year ish after my dad had passed and I had been SAd) I started kinda finding meaning in my life again and started looking at how poorly I was treating my body, and how just bad I felt constantly and I just decided to do something about it since I am almost an adult (something I wasn't sure I'd be one day) and if I wanted to be an adult for a long time I had to take care of myself, my dad had actuality died at 40 from liver failure which I'm sure contributed to the fact that I couldn't handle the thought of not taking care of myself and I just changed my life in basically a day cause I wanted a better future than what my life was leading to at the time.
You were actually one of the first creators I started watching and taking inspiration from! You've helped me sm along this journey! Though I only started watching your channel recently I've followed your stuff on Instagram for longer than the year I've been going to the gym for
@leanbeefPatty you are awesome. From a An ADHD dude who was also a child athlete who has always struggled with food and exercise relationships. Now I am married to a wonderful person and somehow I was able to just lose 110lbs because I was happy and able to not just eat everything. Now I am getting back in the Gym. Have planned some splits to see what my Rusty self can handle. Anyway found a video of yours and thought I would say thank you for inspiring me to get moving again as well.
One of the things I am grateful for as a Latina growing up in a Latin community is that in high school we never felt pressured to have a thigh gap or be crazy skinny because our curves were always appreciated by others. However this was a few years ago not sure what it’s like now
En mi caso no. Al parecer actualmente lo delgado está de moda de nuevo, entonces algunas personas (yo incluida) nos sentimos horribles por piernas rellenas. Actualmente las amo, pero amigas mías odian las piernas gordas y se llaman gordas constantemente (lo triste es que no son gordas, tengo miedo de que caigan en un trastorno alimenticio... otra vez)
this is strong shit! I do relate to a lot of it, the eating disorder chapter, the horrible relationship (s), the transformation physically and mentally thru sports... for me it was and is and ever will be JiuJitsu, but I also love many forms of movement. Thank you Patty for the inspiring story!
Thank you for opening up to us , I hope you felt a bit lighter after making this ❤ #farts I was beaten up on a night out and needed two brain surgeries, wheelchair bond etc etc lots of rehab to get me back on my feet and the other day at the gym I ran on the treadmill for 25 minutes!! F the bas tards in their bums 💪
I just started going on my fitness journey and it’s really hard for me because I have a binge eating disorder. I’m glad to have someone to look up to and someone who I know overcame their own obstacles. It helps knowing that there are people in this world that are not afraid to share their experiences in order to make others like myself feel comfortable. I love u mom, and I won’t stop until I am as great as you:)
i know the pain of bingeing ...both physical and mental...so you're not alone. there is life beyond it..the path isnt always easy but its worth it! daily battle that get's easier over time. im super glad my stuff helped you feel comfortable 💕 i wish you the best on your journey
I’m a binge eater too! I always said wouldn’t give up my love of eating but I needed something to coexist that cancelled it out. Now I run marathons and eat the same xD
My path in fitness began and continued with the sole purpose of improving my self-esteem, in 2019 I played soccer and they beat me in strength, until I decided that that would change, on the other hand I had low self-esteem accompanied by the thought of "a trained body compensates an unattractive face. Currently I have been training calisthenics for 4 years, with ups and downs, but I keep improving and trying to change my self-perception. Thank you Patty for inspiring me and so many people.
Everything for me started in april of 2019, when on the end of a family gathering my brother said he was heading to the gym, then out of nowhere my mom said “go have fun with your brother, distract yourself from these video games”. So from that day i slowly i got into lifting. At this time i felt for the first time in my life the joy of putting so much effort into something really hard and painful and really felt it meaningful. And until this day I still feel the gym as something that gives me life. Every workout of mine is an emotional feeling for me… Now both my brother and I are going to prep for april, can’t wait to see what future has stored for us!👀🦍
Father died when I was 8 .Left school in 1985. Went to a stone carving college for 5 years. Joined a gym. Put on 3 stone of muscle. Completed in strongman events with my last when I was 50. Still carving stone.
Awesome. I, personally was a tiny kid that competed in gymnastics for a bit, quit and then graduated high school at 5' 9" and 110 lbs soaking wet. I joined the Army and learned a bit about lifting during deployments. One deployment I got up to 170 lbs. but I was around 6' tall by then. After the military I contracted and found out a ton of contractors did steroids. I spent 6 months researching test, steroids, estrogen blockers and more importantly... nutrition. I found out exactly what my body needed naturally and then started a very small cycle. I got tremendous gains from the small cycle to the point where it really pissed off a workout buddy. (He'd been taking steroids secretly for months with less gains, hehe). I stepped up my cycles as I cycled on and off over 18 mos. I got to 200 lbs after fighting my genetics and was a beast! I quit my contract right after a bulk cycle due to a bunch of factors and surprised my family for Christmas. Once back in school, working etc. I dropped 50 lbs. I had a 5 month semester where gym was an option and gained back 15 lbs in about 3 mos but have never been able to maintain the strict diet and routine I could when I contracted in Afghanistan. Since then I've been trying to get back into shape to help my girls with their tumbling for dance (areal, back handspring etc.) and about to get back into climbing and repelling along with bodyweight stuffs on rings and floor with some macebell training mixed in there (never be the reason your shield wall breaks!!) Useful fitness is the only thing I almost have time for so keeping up with my kids is my fitness routine! lol. I love watching your story and videos. It's awesome seeing fit happy people and you defiantly motivate me to make more time for fitness. Keep being you, telling your ongoing story and motivating people!!!
When I was at elementary school one of the girls (very skinny) disappeared for months. Everybody was like wtf, and our main teacher (teacher responsible for our class) told us that she is ill. There were a lot of gossips guessing what type of illness it was, but no one knew for sure. When she came back nobody was asking her about it because it was too cringe to ask.
and I think when kids don't ask at all it makes people like Beef here wonder, am I just that insignificant? Yet it's not that Beef, as you see... it's that even grade school kid's are trained and don't feel like wading in uncomfortable water. ..... Beef, just about every kid realized you weren't there after week one, especially when gym class happened each week.
you made me think of a girl in middle school, popular, very pretty, and for some reason we knew she had bulimia. why would we know that? no idea. but, i was surprised i could access her name and even her last name out of my memory. hope she's doing well. M.Z.
I just turned 21 this past November and if it wasn’t for you and a handful of other influencers/icons, I wouldn’t be in the shape that I am in at the moment. I lost 35lbs and building a decent aesthetic physique. Thank you for sharing this story I can relate so much to it.
To be honest I just wanted to keep reading all the great life stories shared in this coment section. You Patty and all this great people that follows you makes my heart gratefull and motivated. Thank you guys for being so honest and kind. Hope we all have a great new year growing as persons and as community. I've got back to moving my body last year, as 33yo mom of two little girls and now even them have bright eyes towards dance and muaythai. Following you on TikTok last year was one of the things that reminded me of how much I liked being active and felt that I could have that back, that I deserved that again. And here we are! Together for the next chapters for sure!!! And to keep learning, because there's so much marvelous stuff out there to discover
everyone is definitely very generous sharing their stories as well and i appreciate that!! you definitely deserve to do things that make you happy! im not a mother but personally i think that would be a great example for your daughters 🙌 seeing their mother take care of herself and doing things that make her feel good 💕 keep up the great work
@@theleanbeefpatty Thanks, Patty! When I started muaythai last september I felt so much guilt for taking time for myself, but I was in desperate need of it emotionlly and physically, so I kept going. Now, my oldest daughter Saphira (4 and a half yo) almost everyday say that she will eat well and get stronger and bigger so she can train with mommy. It bursts my heart with joy, honestly 🥰
About 3:25 I went away for cancer treatment for several weeks around 16 years old. I think teenagers are just overwhelmed and avoid anything reeking of trauma like the plague. Understandable, but doesn't feel great if you're the one being ignored. Especially when you end up hearing rumours about why you've been gone (apparently I secretly birthed a child).
That was the best lore that i have heard from an influencer. I admire how strong you are (mentally and physically hahaha). Being able to talk about problems in the past, is not an easy task. When you talked about your teenager days, i couldnt stop thinking about how in these days, teens end up comparing themselves with unrealistic filters. Thank you for the video, and the message!
thank you 🙏 im not sure how much others really open up (which is fair, not everyone is ready) but id love to hear more from others..helps us connect, i think
Always scrolled past your tiktoks cuz I just never was a big fan of so called fitness influencers but you bring a great vibe to the table and have a bubbly and entertaining personality. Good stuff
good story. my story is... work acident in 2011 sick on bed , physical therapy for 12 years, 4 hours per day, much pain. very slow recovery. girls laughing at me. only 3 years ago I could move my shoulders again. Since then I decided to put my dreams on pratice on art. Art education. Now I'm walking with stick , making physical therapy and 4 educational games and give some lectures on some schools. I watch your videos and Jasse James to give me strenght to keep moving . You and Jesse inspire some people. Keep pushing!
Speaking of being body conscious; I will always remember the day when at the gym two of my classmates came in. They were brothers a year and a half apart. To say that they were built like Adonis is an understatement. Not bulky but picture Charlton Heston in his youth. We didn't know each other well but we're working out together when the younger of them said that he was jealous of how I looked. I was so scrawny and he really did desire to be something else than what he was. He taught me one of the greatest lessons of my life because out there is someone who admires your appearance no matter what you think of yourself at the time.
Honestly if I didn’t find you on tiktok I don’t think I would’ve truly started caring about my health. For the past 2 years I’ve been off the deep end with addictions to alcohol and smoking, and eating very unhealthy with minimal exercise. I was over depressed and doing nothing about it, around august is when I noticed I need to make a change in my life as my doctors were worried about my health at such a young age. Putting me on medication that my parents didn’t need to take till their 50’s! I quit smoking then and started eating healthy but wasn’t really pushing myself. Then I found you and your content and realized as a female I can push myself in the gym and achieve the dream of be healthy and built. In November i started going to the gym and tracking my food to make sure I’m actually getting protein in my diet because like you, I sucked at eating enough protein. I’m hoping to continue this fitness journey, and revamp my channel to be a video diary of my fitness and over health journey! (Of course I had to start 2023 of with a cold after traveling, but I’ll be back on track once I’m better!). I just want to feel happy in my body again and be able to do the things I used to do to my full capacity. Thank you Patty for being an inspiration for people, but especially women who want to get fit and jacked. Thank you and happy 2023!
Go girl 💪🏼 Patty is my inspiration, I also started going to the gym because of her. I just did exercise with my body weight and bottles, I don't know how to count calories yet, what do you recommend me?
@@vin_rouge180 I recommend using the MyFitnessPal because it’s easy to look up different types of foods from restaurants and brands! Plus it gives you an outlook of how much macros you are eating too! Plus the app fluctuations how many calories you should be eating when you add your exercise in the app so it’s not to restricting. Of course be cautious with counting calories because if done in an unhealthy way could lead to problems and a potential ED. In the end, it’s what I use and I love it! OH and you can track how much water you drink too!
Dear Beef Patty, thank you for sharing your story amd encouraging others to try new things and in a healthy way. Im glad that you are eating and well and hopefully i will soon enter my demon arc. It really helps me cope with some of this generational trauma- it do be hurtin'❤😅
3:24 Your peers were probably caught up in their own issues. A lot of times, its not that people don't care, its just that they're knee deep in their own problems.
i was obese monster that weighted over 160kg, I started to run 4:00am daily. after 3 months I lost around 20kgs, went to the gym and started lifting, didn't care about the weight training as much as I cared about the cardio, which is a mistake that I did not notice until a year after. then I started to cut had a lot of mistakes and did not know what to do so I went searching online until I found what suited me the most. after 3 years I became 90kgs was kinda skinny because of my height, so I bulked ate 5000+ calories daily with steroids tbh, had no choice became so strong that they called me a powerlifter not a bodybuilder. after 4 months of bulking and lifting very heavy weights I injured my back, was squating 6 plates things went smoothly after that I legged press over 20 plates and after that crazy leg day my back started to hurt, I went to more than 7 doctors turned out that I had herinated disc in the 4th and 5th lumbar spine. stopped training because I couldn't not because the 7 doctors told me you are prohibited from weightlifting . after a 9 months recovery I gained a lot of fat and lost 90% of my muscles I started from 0 looked very bad and fat weighted 120kgs with 0 muscles and now i am cutting and i look very good but what i want to say is to never give up, do not listen to anybody who tells you that you cant. trust the process and keep going its a long road but, eventually you will achieve.
Hey, Patty! Stumbled upon your channel and so glad I did. I'm 43 so we don't have a lot in common generationally, but I find you super duper inspiring for my own strength journey. I appreciate your silliness, frankness, and genuinely stoked attitude. Keep up the great work, and thanks for the content!
I was just watching old Patty videos to pump myself for this years gym goals thinking, “man I could use a new video right about now”. The beef gods smile on us all today 😎
4 hours a day, running, working out, that's awesome, that's the secret, huge difference. I feel like 2 hours is a lot for me, I guess we have to keep pushing our limits. Keep moving forward 🐱
I struggled with Alcoholism and addiction. I got sober, three years ago and Got myself into the gym. This journey has been amazing and I have seen variety of ups and downs. I love hearing peoples share and seeing their solution to overcoming life problems. Thank you for this awesome video.
Feeling lost at some point in life is more common than it seems, but that is why it is so important to keep walking, keep going, trusting yourself and you will end up finding your way. That little push from your dad towards the gym was quite significant and relevant, I think, he did it at the right time :') In the end, I think you've done amazing! :D I mean, you're here, we've met you, you're super powerful and healthy, it's admirable uwu oh, and the days are happier with your videos :3 My fitness story is rather sad and fleeting, I've been skinny all my life, despite the fact that I have loved training since I was 12 years old, I have trained very little time all these years. Now I'm 32, but I hope I can change that very soon, after achieving other personal goals. Thank you for sharing a little more of your life with us :D Good wishes to you, blessings. Oh! and, also, if you read this, where did you find so many memes? XD I love them. Arios! :v
Child athlete Wanted to be in the military 90lbs in high school Injury prevented me from joining Now i do security and im twice my high school weight and doing 3 mile ruck marches for fun. Just gotta find what you love and stay active. Weightlifting has definitely been a lot of fun and that feeling you get just feels amazing.
Thank you for explaining the LeanBeefPatty anime arcs. I think we can all relate to not understanding nutrition and the gym, and how it is a learning process that takes time. Wishing 2023 to be everyones best year at becoming their best self physically and mentally. Much love 💜
“The moment you feels tho you’ve learned it all, and you’re not open to learning more, and growing more, and accepting you don’t know anything, is the point in which you stagnate.” ~ Patty 10:41
I went from Chloe ring workouts, running, 1200 calories a day, no knowledge of protein to weight lifting, eating 100g+ protein a day and cardio twice a week. Feel and look so much better. Thanks for sharing ur story
Thank you for sharing your story Patty. My story is a bit different. I also grew up a child athlete and kinda chubby but stopped playing sports in middle school because of other personal problems.. gained a TON of weight. Like 100+Lbs. I stayed over 100+Lbs for years until age 20. Around that time I got fed up with being depressed all the time so I decided to see if eating vegetables and exercising would "Cure My Depression".. it didn't. But it did help a lot. It taught me how to be honest with myself and take accountability. Fast forward to a year and a situationship heartbreak later, I'm down 130Lbs. But I didn't like the way I looked because all I did was walk and began to restrict calories beyond what was reasonable. I don't want to give specific numbers but it was low enough that my hair was falling out. So I stopped tracking. The pandemic hits and my mom gets very sick towards the beginning when catching COVID was a bit more serious. She makes it (thankfully) but I put on 20Lbs due to stress. I then struggle to lose those 20lbs for the next year or two. I begin to not care though because I try lifting weights and hire a powerlifting coach. After this, I enter a relationship with a really unstable person. Gain 10Lbs from the depression the relationship gave me and much like mentioned in your video, I didn't have much desire to lift when worrying about someone else's BS. Lose the 10lbs very fastly after the break up and almost going homeless (no food to eat). Finally get a secure housing situation and a decent job so I go back to the gym to get my lifts back up. Immediately sent to the hospital. Cheat meal from Chipotle triggers a gall bladder attack. Had to wait 6 weeks before I could lift anything heavier than a milk jug. I use these 6 weeks to walk more and try to find discipline in my eating again. Discipline to not go too low when I don't see results and discipline to not have anymore cheat meals. Instead create a meal plan to where you don't feel the need to "cheat", know what I mean? 6 weeks hiatus ended last week. I tried to lift light weights but even that hurts my old incision sites. So I texted my bodybuilding friend to teach me how to grow more muscle using even lighter weights and correct form. Yesterday was the first day I ran in a while. Yesterday I also had an upper body workout with no pain. My form probably looked like shit and my weights were laughable but at least I'm not in that hospital bed. I am kinda thankful for it though because now I have an "excuse" to not care what people think and leave my ego at the door since I physically cannot lift too heavy. Learning mind muscle connection is hard when you're used to training for explosiveness though. If you have a favorite exercise for a good chest pump, I would love to hear it. Shoulders take over everything nowadays.
I don't know who caused "Patty's heartbreak" but I want to thank him because without him we wouldn't have LeanBeefPatty. I hope I can feel your company on my way forever.
This is weirdly similar to my own lifestory lol. Now I'm almost 32 trying to get back into working out after a few years of inactivity due to illness and a surgery, and it's been depressing to see how weak I am after being so fit my entire life. But after finding your videos I'm absolutely getting pumped up haha!
2019 was weird and I too got into a toxic relationship that catapulted me into finally taking my body, health and fitness more seriously after total heartbreak. Coming across your content is one of the greatest things to ever happen to me and honesty has been what I've been looking for to help me in embarking on this journey. Thank you for being you LBP!!
Never realized I had the same story til you said it like that: - child athlete: played soccer from 4 to 16) - Eating disorder: depression, stopped eating 16 to 18 - Gym: started with push-ups and pull ups at home 18-20, and now I’ve been going to the gym every weekday since may. 11 weeks strong!
I know I'm not alone in how much I appreciate you being open, genuine, and staying relatable in your content. Also love that this shows how fitness journeys are long and never really "complete" per se.
thank you 🙏🙏for me its pretty much a lifestyle so i guess its really never over as long as im still kickin 💪 (even if it changes back to running or doing yoga or something else).
She has such gifted proportions and bodyfat distribution that she always looks good no matter she's + or - 15kg, I mean 99.99% of girls and women are dreaming about looking like her at any stage of her transformation. The fact that she faced body dismorphia and eating disorder with obviously ZERO reason is frightening about how medias and even more social medias can destroy people, even more young people and kids.
I laughed so much during this video, but like, nervous, awkward, deeply relatable and heart-wrenching laughter. This actually reminded me of my own story a little, and I've been following you on TikTok since the Jojo Pose + phonk trend...? So knowing that you had a story so similar to my own is kind of comforting, as well as the fact that I'm not the only one who speaks like that about their own story with their ED's. Because, you know, it's my trauma, I already suffered because of it, let me have fun with it now. I honestly feel so inspired whenever I look at your videos. I'm overweight, but now I'm not that worried about it. Furthermore, I feel fine, I can run, I nourish my body, and it's a body, a sack of matter that allows me to feel because it has a nerve-processing-clump at the top of it, I exercise because I genuinely like to! I exercise because I like to be able to do so much stupid shit and feel proud about it. So, thank you for this, for being you and for sharing your story. 💖
Awesome video Patty and genuinely very relatable. Since you asked here is my story: I never had an eating disorder but I did grow up with a parent that was battling their own issues with food an weight. Sadly, those problems we`re projected onto me and I grew up thinking I was fat (I wasn`t) and shouldn`t eat bread OR do any physical activity, cause that was for muscles and those are not for women (fml). Anyway, fast forward to 2019, I too was in a friendship with a less than stellar person who treated me like garbage and fell into a pit of depression and anxiety that forced me into therapy. Which was one of the best things I did for myself. During the pandemic, I started doing body weight exercises at the encouragement of my therapist and started counting my calories. I lost 26 lbs (12 kg) and felt amazing, I also started running as well. In October 2020, I joined a gym and kept going ever since. Second best decision of my life!!! Since then, my therapist told me I am doing way better and don`t need to come to therapy anymore, I gained loads of muscle mass and even convinced my partner to join me at the gym! Much love and looking forward to the next video!
thank you for sharing your story 🙏 i think its so difficult when the traumas of our parents are passed onto us (intentionally or otherwise) because sometimes they genuinely think theyre helping but it leaves us with a lifetime of things to unpack 🙁..and i am sorry about the bad friendship...being treated poorly to the point of being sent to therapy....i know that was rough af..but glad you've found some things to help you!! (the therapy and the exercise).. youre a strong person taking control of your life like that! much love and respect for you
@@theleanbeefpatty aww shucks, thank you Patty this genuinely means a lot to me! It was rough indeed but to a certain extent I`m glad it happened. Trauma is never our fault but always our responsibility to deal with it, and I`m glad I cared enough about myself to pull myself out of that hole. Thank you for being an awesome role model and inspiration and for just being on this Earth! Much love and respect to you as well >:D
When I was a developing infant child baby small human. I was extremely neglected :,( nobody ever really taught me that I should care for my body or that I was worth anything. I later had some health condition where half of my muscles decided to not work no good no more. So now I’m watching you! I’m really trying really hard to stay active in my recovery and your videos have helped me sm! I love your being and enthusiasm about fitness. I always needed someone like you in my life, RU-vid is such a great platform for finding people you need.
talking about EDs in the bodybuilding community is something I rarely see and seeing you do it is just so brave. I've been struggling with an ED for years now, I used to be a kpop cover dancer, for like 4 years? my objective in gym was to get as small as I could, spending a year barely eating and overtraining made me terribly ill. Nowdays is still a bit hard to eat properly but I'm getting better! there's about 2 or 3 months I started actually recovering and having a better relationship with food, your content always helps
i think alot of people in bodybuilding get touchy about it because theres an EXTREMELY thin line between a disciplined eating style (needed to succeed within a short time in a specialized sport (bodybuilding)) and an eating disorder...a TON of people have disordered eating and i most definitely developed a full blown ED... the childhood sport to ED path is also sadly very common 🙁 the road to recovery isnt always easy but its definitely worth it!! im glad youve already improved some💕 wishing you continued healing
@@theleanbeefpatty I've seen a lot of people with similar paths to yours, being dancers, athletes, fighters, its sad to see it has almost become a culture of "if u don't do this or that you're a failure"... thank you very much 💞 wish the best for you!
MY FITNESS STORY started in march 2020 (age 17) when I went home from boarding school because of covid and I was bored and depressed at home I went for a run. I had been a VERY active kid but then as a teen I got very depressed and stopped moving my body and lost all my strength and endurance. On that very first run (which was 1 km and walked half of it) I decided I would run 10 km that summer- and I did. It was a huge factor of healing my mental health and feeling better after spending my teen years feeling shit. Both running and strength training is always very emotional and important to me. It's often the only time of day when I focus on myself and I clear my mind. Running is my favorite but later that summer 2020 I also started weight lifting and started taking weight training seriously in 2021 and stared eating better in 2022. Although I struggle a bit with emotionally eating since I stopped using nicotine :/ I only train at home- I live on a farm and there is no gym😂 Thanks Patty you're a great inspiration and I learn a lot from you
