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Jordan Peterson answers the question "my girlfriend is quite overweight but I really love her… Should I attempt to help her lose weight?"
Original source: • Developing your Shadow
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@defenestrationstation5771
@defenestrationstation5771 7 лет назад
Instructions unclear I cleaned my carbs and ate my room
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
sefenestrating dpoonerisms I love this
@SubiWatson
@SubiWatson 5 лет назад
Why did this make me laugh so hard?
@Slendermən
@Slendermən 5 лет назад
These types of comments are never funny.
@stateenforcedsoy5972
@stateenforcedsoy5972 5 лет назад
yeah... the day he gives a normative prescription
@user-zu1ix3yq2w
@user-zu1ix3yq2w 5 лет назад
Metabolism burns a lot of calories/fat, however.
@biplav32
@biplav32 7 лет назад
First . Get Fat. Then tell her. We really need to lose weight.
@davidmarshall3683
@davidmarshall3683 7 лет назад
Biplav Shrestha No because then she'll cheat on you. I'm sort of convinced it's always better to be the one who has a higher sexual market place value in the relationship gives you more power and the other person is likely to compliment you more and criticise you less because they know it's more likely you can get someone better or just replace them it does mean you have to keep reaffirming that you love them and that they're worthy of you and all this stuff but meh it's a fair price to pay in my mind anyway and the person is likely happier with you then without even if they where self conscious with you.
@bretts8070
@bretts8070 7 лет назад
We're gonna need a bigger burqa.
@miketython6554
@miketython6554 7 лет назад
Biplav Shrestha lmao nooo you gotta start goin to the gym everyday, and when you go out to grab groceries or something wear your nicest clothes. She will start to become very insecure and take it upon herself to lose weight, without you even asking her to! And thennn you start gettin fat.
@krowa1010
@krowa1010 6 лет назад
hahahahaha perfect xd
@88yaz88
@88yaz88 4 года назад
Yes
@danielclee1
@danielclee1 7 лет назад
The sigh said it all.
@yonkokaidokingofbeasts2553
@yonkokaidokingofbeasts2553 5 лет назад
'Do you understand what I am saying?'
@lawiwis882
@lawiwis882 4 года назад
Butters Scotch you’re grounded get back in your room.
@PwnZombie
@PwnZombie 4 года назад
IMMMM A BAAAAAD MAAAAN
@72dew
@72dew 7 лет назад
Be like "yo lardio, do some cardio"
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
72dew 10/10 works always
@Cybraxas
@Cybraxas 5 лет назад
that cracked me up :D:D:D
@downfromkentuckeh
@downfromkentuckeh 5 лет назад
"Why upsetti, eat some spaghetti"
@tomfoolery8100
@tomfoolery8100 5 лет назад
exercise doesn't burn as much calories as people think it does.
@masterticcu
@masterticcu 5 лет назад
@@tomfoolery8100 It does burn a lot. How do you know how much people think it burns?
@rockspoon6528
@rockspoon6528 5 лет назад
Never enter a relationship with the idiotic idea that you are going to fix your partner.
@petrus7977
@petrus7977 2 года назад
Best underrated comment
@motasemsalih5200
@motasemsalih5200 2 года назад
At the same time I'd add "never expect to find a partner who is totally perfect for you"
@garethjackson6187
@garethjackson6187 Год назад
She didn’t need fixing when we started off 😂 she was athletic and driven. Now she’s overweight and lazy.
@Kennan_Davis
@Kennan_Davis Год назад
@@garethjackson6187 that part
@Halgame99
@Halgame99 Год назад
But you are tell your partner if they are ruining their health and relationship
@hineko_
@hineko_ 7 лет назад
"Don't marry hippopotamuses unless you are into them" Ancient Chinese wisdom.
@atheneus
@atheneus 5 лет назад
I swear to god, ancient Chinese were so wise
@MrJimmy3459
@MrJimmy3459 5 лет назад
Or unless you want one for Christmas
@decatessara5029
@decatessara5029 5 лет назад
It's hippopotami
@D3w10n
@D3w10n 5 лет назад
@GoodISnipr If dogs were mentioned in Chinese proverbs, I am pretty sure they refereed to food.
@smhashimnasser5619
@smhashimnasser5619 5 лет назад
Don't marry hippopotamuses but eat dog
@Molotov49
@Molotov49 7 лет назад
Scroll down to see a dietary debate.
@whosthere8658
@whosthere8658 5 лет назад
Its been pretty good lol
@mariusciobanu2025
@mariusciobanu2025 7 лет назад
I was in thia guys shoes and ended up getting married. I really loved her too and didnt want to make weight a big deal but it became a bigger deal after we got married and she gained more weight. We just got a divorce recently, it wasnt about her weight but that sure didnt help me want to stay with her. I thought myself noble and good but I was stupid so dont be an idiot like me. If you are questioning it now you will be tearing your hair out later.
@zehjello
@zehjello 7 лет назад
:O looking back, how would you deal with it now, if given another chance?
@declan7551
@declan7551 5 лет назад
@@fmbmrtjdpcmrtb8030 That's a stupid question.
@ozymandias8523
@ozymandias8523 5 лет назад
fmbmrtjdpcmrtb to be fair ir she lost weight for other and not for him, she didn’t loved him too.
@ukko8457
@ukko8457 5 лет назад
@@fmbmrtjdpcmrtb8030 you can affect your weight gain by a lot, being overweight alters you to for example diabetes and other bad sicknesses, and it also doesn't look attractive at all, if getting a nice dopamine spike eating junk food is more important to a person than their own wellbeing they don't even love themselfes.
@magik97
@magik97 5 лет назад
It became a 'bigger deal', eh? Lol.
@itchykami
@itchykami 7 лет назад
Invite her to come to the gym with you. If she won't do that, there are more problems than just her weight.
@MyArgylesock
@MyArgylesock 24 дня назад
Make sure you are accounting for circumstances. If she just had a baby for example and you’re going to the gym at 5:30 in the morning. She’s not going to go to the gym with you because she doesn’t have a good option for childcare and she’s already not getting sufficient sleep. She’s not being obstinate, she’s trying to survive.
@yaboighandiyo6510
@yaboighandiyo6510 4 года назад
In my previous 8 year relationship I (18 at the time) asked my girlfriend if she wanted to work out with me at the gym. She accepted and we decided we'd go for 3 days out of the week after school (highschool). I brought it up very casual and didn't focus on anything like "because itd be good for you". I simply asked if she'd like to join me as I was a pretty avid goer at the time. Perhaps this would be some good advice.
@garethjackson6187
@garethjackson6187 Год назад
Tried this approach, but she ‘doesn’t like the gym’ at my wits end now after 6.5 years in a relationship. I’m getting close to calling it quits..
@TheFunktipus1
@TheFunktipus1 Год назад
Tried this. Many times. Ends up her pd off at me. Saying i should love her for who she is etc. Tried the direct approach yesterday. Shes not talking to me now. I dont regret it tho.
@righteousmasculine
@righteousmasculine Год назад
@@TheFunktipus1 man people use that term too loosely yes you should love a woman or man for who they are but that person gotta be something to look at. If a person let themselves GO by not taking care of themselves and don’t try to revive themselves then they don’t care about their life let alone yours Idc what nobody says
@wcp4jc
@wcp4jc Год назад
@@righteousmasculine can a man or woman who isn't the most attractive themselves expect more? I think this is probably the case 9 outta 10 times. Just because the man woman isn't fat doesn't mean they're automictically attractive.
@righteousmasculine
@righteousmasculine Год назад
@@wcp4jc who said that tho ?
@AussieZeKieL
@AussieZeKieL 5 лет назад
If someone can’t disciple themselves to eat healthy then they have other issues as well. No one is perfect, but I’m just saying overweight is manifestation of a more deep rooted problem.
@hudsondunn8385
@hudsondunn8385 4 года назад
This
@badconnection712
@badconnection712 3 года назад
Yeah can agree on this
@spolch9482
@spolch9482 Год назад
Not all people who are skinny/normal eat healthy.
@CallMeGaffer
@CallMeGaffer 5 лет назад
I remember my ex girlfriend was overweight and it did cause issues without me even saying anything. She'd often get upset about her peers being more attractive than her and one night she cornered me in a phone call asking me if I thought she should lose weight. of course, I HAD TO ANSWER CAREFULLY. So I said "I love you the way you are, but if losing weight will make you happier then i'll support you". This was an answer to get her thinking about doing something positive about herself. Instead, of course she took the other route and started arguing with me for "not being honest". Her low self esteem didn't help the relationship no matter how supportive or good to her I was. So my advice is, don't go for fat chicks. They're self destructive.
@SuperKnowledgeSponge
@SuperKnowledgeSponge 5 лет назад
Advice - don't go after fat chicks if you didn't already like fat chicks, dumbass. I swear to god that the guys that are whiny bitches after the fact that they chose her when she was fat have the audacity to expect her to lose the weight after meeting you. LOL Do you guys think your penis is made of solid gold? xD Or are you really just that stupid?
@Blodia1990
@Blodia1990 3 года назад
@@SuperKnowledgeSponge triggered much?
@nka9135
@nka9135 2 года назад
The fact that u said "fat chicks" just says it all
@dennisthe-menace2898
@dennisthe-menace2898 2 года назад
😂🤣🤣🤣
@shikreally2365
@shikreally2365 Год назад
Oh hell no girl has no love for herself tf
@C05597641
@C05597641 7 лет назад
Eat assloads of vegitables. It works. They are low in calories and fill you up. I have actually found my performance in work to have improved by only eating carbs at breakfast and eating veg or lean meat for the rest of the day.
@health-gadgets
@health-gadgets 7 лет назад
nice
@biplav32
@biplav32 7 лет назад
That's easier said than done for everyone. I am a vegetarian but I hate vegetables.
@robertfennis6088
@robertfennis6088 7 лет назад
AKA, go vegan
@TheDoctornaut
@TheDoctornaut 7 лет назад
Robot HandLove nutrition is highly individualized. Get a good allergy test, then track your macros. Or don't
@robertfennis6088
@robertfennis6088 7 лет назад
Biplav Shreshta, you hate vegetables? Thats interesting, when I became vegan I started suddenly liking all the vegetables because, I guess, I had to.
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
My husband tried to get me to lose weight, but I was not ready (I eventually made up my mind and lost 40 lbs). I resented it even more because I knew he was right. But in all fairness, he used the truth like a sword, so lessons to be learned for both of us. Great answer from Dr. Peterson.
@johnnonamegibbon3580
@johnnonamegibbon3580 7 лет назад
I'm always *very* careful with how I talk to my bitches.
@Therevolution7
@Therevolution7 2 года назад
Any advice on how you lost the weight?
@wcp4jc
@wcp4jc Год назад
why would you resent your own husband trying to help? why do women think this way? it makes the relationship 10 times harder. 😤
@FantasyWrestlingFederation
@FantasyWrestlingFederation Год назад
plz lose more than 40 for your hubby
@bobbyjohnson5637
@bobbyjohnson5637 9 месяцев назад
Yea well his truth got you to lose weight no matter how much it hurt your feelings it ultimately benefits you because you have someone in your life to call you out and not just let you get fat
@cwaigasaurus
@cwaigasaurus 7 лет назад
Losing weight is difficult enough when it's something you really want to do for yourself.. I can't imagine tricking someone into doing it enough to make a difference.
@StephJ0seph
@StephJ0seph 5 лет назад
True.
@Koeras16
@Koeras16 5 лет назад
Doesn´t have to be difficult though. Takes a bit of a learning curve. People are proud and that learning curve is usually poorly done. Loosing weight is not a difficult thing once you understand your body a bit better. Just takes time. Getting results in two weeks is impossible. But yes, its impossible to help someone else losing weight if that person isn´t the one wanting it. You can only help those who want to help themselves.
@roz067
@roz067 5 лет назад
Losing weight ain’t difficult only difficult if you’re a bitch
@sarmadghafoor1484
@sarmadghafoor1484 5 лет назад
your 1005 right but just saying this to a person who is incapable to understand they need to speed up their metabolism ie by excersizing and eating a lot of quality food can benefit them. not about dieting but trying to keep it for months on end is important
@lestergreen6489
@lestergreen6489 2 года назад
It's not a matter of "tricking" but encouraging
@FairPlay0007
@FairPlay0007 5 лет назад
I once had a friend who was skinny and his girlfriend loose weight (she wasn't overweigt, but had some extras) to match him. Then my friend got really though and muscular like in a year. They're married know.
@kalebvinh
@kalebvinh 7 лет назад
Everyone in the comments is suddenly a nutritionist. Solution is lift.
@hybby
@hybby 7 лет назад
I'm going to go to sleep, and begin lifting on Monday.
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
Yes it is. Not CARDIO. Lifting. Praise the lord.
@johnnonamegibbon3580
@johnnonamegibbon3580 7 лет назад
Exercise doesn't actually burn shit. (It can raise you're metabolism, though. In the long run.) It's all diet.
@worsethanjoerogan8061
@worsethanjoerogan8061 7 лет назад
John NoNameGibbon Lifting weights isn't great for burning fat, but if you think exercise doesn't burn fat you probably haven't done serious exercise.
@kalebvinh
@kalebvinh 7 лет назад
Dude, you have no idea what you're talking about. Exercise is just as important as your nutrition. If you are a beginner at weightlifting/calisthenics and you do the exercises regularly with sufficient intensity, you will 100% build muscle AND lose fatty tissue. Hit the gym buddy.
@Kagemusha08
@Kagemusha08 7 лет назад
Best way to do it in my opinion is to reframe it: talk to her about how you value physical fitness, about how if your body is fit that you will think better. Talk about how changing your body for the better is incredibly empowering and will benifit her life in more ways than she can count. And live what you say. Don't be like the average skinny fat male who mocks fat broads online and with his friends yet can't do ten pull-ups. I think that's key: if you expect a girl to be in banging shape yet aren't willing to put in the work yourself then you're selfish. If you explain it like this and she really loves you then she'll be much more receptive than if you say "Well it's hard to get it up for a fat chick."
@jumullyett1258
@jumullyett1258 4 года назад
Very true, my girlfriend has been getting bigger and just eating what she likes and not knowing when is enough! She’s a picker! Will just keep snacking and not realising how many calories she’s consuming. I go to the gym and do a lot of cardio, trying to do my first pull up ! 😂 so I’m not the fittest but I’m trying. She unfortunately doesn’t even like running and laughed at the fact when I mentioned we should do it together 😔. When I got with her she was beautiful inside and out but I believe she was in decent shape because she was preparing to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and now she has nothing to work for. Tough situation and I could do with some advice. I don’t want to be a dick but I need to solve the problem otherwise it will just get worse Also I eat a lot about 2500-3000 because of me going to gym but it’s not right that she eats the same if she’s not exercising
@charlesahweyevu
@charlesahweyevu Год назад
​@@jumullyett1258are you still with her?
@michaelhart1072
@michaelhart1072 7 лет назад
His initial sigh made me laugh so much.
@nothinglikeburntvag
@nothinglikeburntvag 7 лет назад
Pick a fun activity that you can do together! Back when I was childless and single, I started rock climbing. I didn't have to diet at all and I lost a good ten pounds just from climbing a couple of times a week. Plus it's exhilarating!
@travistarp7466
@travistarp7466 5 лет назад
Gym or Rock
@TOMMY-WANT-WINGY
@TOMMY-WANT-WINGY 3 года назад
Mine can't even ride a bike far. I always have the kids doing outdoor activities.
@nothinglikeburntvag
@nothinglikeburntvag 3 года назад
@@travistarp7466 Rock. I was actually pretty bad at the gym because I didn't like the ropes and I didn't have enough upper body strength. Outdoors it was easier for me to depend on balance and leg strength. Being in nature helped substantially.
@mr.d.572
@mr.d.572 5 лет назад
If something about the other person bothers you, and it's a reasonable thing, and you communicate that to him/her, and he/she's not willing to work on finding a middle ground, then the relationship is doomed from the start.
@williambaker7181
@williambaker7181 7 лет назад
Just insist on prioritising health in your relationship. Don't tell her she's fat and needs to get thin because that says she's ugly and you want her to be prettier. Tell her you are both living an unhealthy lifestyle and you want to get healthy. Everyone can get behind that kind of reasoning. Cut out sugar first!
@marlonmoncrieffe0728
@marlonmoncrieffe0728 7 лет назад
William Baker That makes sense.
@AnimePropaganda
@AnimePropaganda 7 лет назад
"that says she's ugly and you want her to be prettier" that is actually the god honest truth, no matter how much you try to deny, humans are humans
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
Sloof so? Why is she ugly? Because she's fat. She looks unhealthy. That's literally why she looks unappealing. She looks like she'll die young. She looks like she will get sick. Like she won't be a good mother. Aesthetics in humans ARE a matter of health.
@coreycox2345
@coreycox2345 7 лет назад
Too late now. He already intimated that he finds her unattractive. This seems a bold move when they have never even met.
@ST-yc7uj
@ST-yc7uj 4 года назад
No,you can't. Men and women have completely different cravings. Men crave salty food, women the sugary, and especially so if a man is emotionally unsupportive, distant, dismissive. .which can occur if a man has no idea what his woman is doing every day to keep him satisfied, whilst dismissing her own wants and needs. There are so many stories of women losing weight after dumping their husbands. In many cases men were rageaholics, alcoholics which makes them narcissistic, so somebody has to suffer in silence with their cookie jar to avoid the abuse and find some kind of satisfaction in life.
@dreamcore
@dreamcore 5 лет назад
If you accepted and committed to her fat self, and then you get her in shape, she'll consider herself on a new level over you and want to see what she can now attract and acquire you'd have to lead and make at least as much of a positive jump in SMV to hold her in enough dread to not try it
@ChrisGossTheBoss
@ChrisGossTheBoss 5 месяцев назад
Sometimes big girls are insecure when they lose weight and really unknowing of what they look like on the attractiveness scale. But yea, there are some that jump on that high horse when they shed a few pounds or get lipo and a bbl lol.
@prisonmike3605
@prisonmike3605 5 лет назад
These comments are ruthless 😂😂😂
@SlimThrull
@SlimThrull 5 лет назад
You can't do it. Actually, you can, but nothing good will come of it. 1.) She either knows she's overweight and would like to lose the weight or she has no idea she's overweight or she simply doesn't care if she's overweight. 2.) Regardless of whichever part of #1 is correct, any attempt to get her to lose weight (even if the most gentle benign way possible) is going to blow up in your face. let's go over the options: a) If she knows and is trying anything you say will most likely come across as shaming her (even if it isn't meant that way). Most overweight people understand that they are overweight. They've been told it all their lives. Hardly a day goes by when someone, perhaps well meaning perhaps not, has let them know they are overweight. Any attempt on your part to be helpful is actually going to be very hurtful. b) If she's overweight but oblivious or in denial, you're not going to be able to convince her. c) If she doesn't care or simply is okay with her weight then she doesn't want to change. I had a friend who was a big guy. He had tried everything to lose weight. Nothing worked. He loved to eat. He loved food. It's what got him up in the morning. And when he was on diets her was miserable. One day, head had enough with it. He accepted he was going to be fat because he enjoyed food. Sure, he was likely to die young (and he did, which is why all this is in the past tense), but that was okay. He'd rather live life happy even if it was shorter than live life thin but unhappy. Accept her for who she is. If you can't, you should probably end the relationship.
@jumullyett1258
@jumullyett1258 4 года назад
This is sound advice. Sorry about your brother :( but it’s true if he was happy that’s the main thing! I think I will personally change habits with my girlfriend and go down that route if she won’t change then I’ll just be straight up with her and call it off
@028TuvaluanHero
@028TuvaluanHero 5 лет назад
Just tell her we need to get healthier baby. Then she will understand.
@IslandPoinsetta
@IslandPoinsetta 4 года назад
I wouldn't say cut out the carbs completely but cut back on them heavily. Swap um out sometimes for more natural ones like baked potatoes and sweet potatoes or corn. And on occasions when you do eat them balance them out with a sizable portion of fruits and vegetables so that you have energy.
@BarbaraRuiz
@BarbaraRuiz 6 лет назад
Take the journey with her and I don't really mean get fit with her (although it could be the case), it also doesn't work if your are already fit. But I mean anyone wanting to lose weight has to sacrifice something whether it's food, or friends, sleep etc, and that's what's hard. So if you sacrifice something at the same time-something that is either really difficult for you or a significant preference for her (games, weed, guys night, alcohol or exercise). It could be easier to have input this way. Maybe it's my preference but I strongly dislike someone picking at my appearance and habits and urging a change without being willing to do the same. It would give me the impression that my partner sees me as inferior somehow and increase my insecurities despite the logic of how the journeys are different.
@downfromkentuckeh
@downfromkentuckeh 5 лет назад
0:10 explains it all.
@minduniverse5260
@minduniverse5260 5 лет назад
If the woman in question truly loves herself and her partner; she will lose weight not only for him, but for herself and their future they may have together. If one is respectful and genuine the overweight person will try and lose the excess weight. If they chose to not lose the weight, don't stay just to please her. Relationships are a two way street, and that's what most don't understand. If her weight bothers you, tell her. If he or she can't take the comment, politely tell them you want to just remain friends. Don't ruin your lives to try and be nice.
@whitehairedbadass3475
@whitehairedbadass3475 5 лет назад
You mentioned crash dieting near the end....that is pretty dangerous.
@chaz9808
@chaz9808 4 года назад
im in the same boat i love my gf so much but shes overweight and i have no idea how to bring it up to her that its making me less attracted to her.
@josephdugdale4150
@josephdugdale4150 4 года назад
You never have to bring it up, all you do is slowly change yours and her life incrementally until her lifestyle makes her thin. For example you start doing all the cooking and only make healthy meals. Buy yourself some running shoes and really hype up how much you want to get into the sport, ideally she will then be persuaded to start exercise too and then BOOM a few months later the problem has gone away and you never had to do anything
@StephJ0seph
@StephJ0seph 5 лет назад
Does anyone have a problem where you could motivate yourself to do something mentally but as soon as someone else tells you to do it you lose interest? Sometimes I have motivation to do something and then I tell myself to do it and then automatically rebel or lose interest...
@whosthere8658
@whosthere8658 5 лет назад
Because one is a choice then the other is a responsibility. You like it more when its just something you want to do, but right when soneone tells you to do it. Its almost like disinterest and then rebeling away from it. Until its just your own thing again.
@whosthere8658
@whosthere8658 5 лет назад
Im the same way
@user-zu1ix3yq2w
@user-zu1ix3yq2w 5 лет назад
Then again, you could just be selfish.
@StephJ0seph
@StephJ0seph 5 лет назад
@@whosthere8658 I agree full-heartedly thank you for taking your time to write out this comment :-)
@jeffreyvega7260
@jeffreyvega7260 5 лет назад
I believe that’s normal, at least for me. But one thing that is true is it’s still a Responsibility at the end of the day
@robgoren8628
@robgoren8628 7 лет назад
My girlfriend got fat, but I never cared, loving her just the same as when she was thin. Then I got laid off from my job, and she left me within a month. Women have no problem income-shaming men, so why is it wrong to fat shame women? I would never do it, but I, and the whole world it seems, have finally grown sick to death of female hypocrisy and privilege.
@leonabrawne200
@leonabrawne200 7 лет назад
Men income shame women too... all the time.
@robgoren8628
@robgoren8628 7 лет назад
Leona Brawne Human beings will shame laziness and indolence. Men do not lose respect for women or value them any less if their income drops from 90k to 30k, as long as she's not lazy. If that happens to a man, though, the woman's packing her bags immediately. Sad, really. Female nature.
@leonabrawne200
@leonabrawne200 7 лет назад
don't know what guys you know... but Millenial men are pussies who expect women to support them
@davidmarshall3683
@davidmarshall3683 7 лет назад
Leona Brawne Bullshit. Don't know what "men" you know. Some men expect women to treat them fairly and pay for a fair share of things but will often let things go but never met a "man" who wants a woman to pay everything for him or even more than her fair share it's women who pull that shit.
@user-vr7ib7jp9c
@user-vr7ib7jp9c 7 лет назад
Robgoren If that is the case then she never loved you. Whether it's because she's a person either incapable of loving anyone or just not you, I don't know.
@chrisk9613
@chrisk9613 7 лет назад
As long as it isn't an issue, seems like it should be fine...right? I guess it also depends on why it's an issue. Health? Appearance/attraction?
@turboZ3
@turboZ3 5 лет назад
The best way to change someone else is by example, therefore live a healthy lifestyle yourself, look great, dont eat junk and workout, and she’ll eventually get inspired and make that change.
@peterpiper47
@peterpiper47 5 лет назад
Your relationship could come apart at the seams. Not unlike your clothes 😂
@Laurian21
@Laurian21 6 лет назад
every school should have a basic nutrition course for teens or young adults. you don't need to be fat even if you are fat and healthy. you can still enjoy your food cravings just be moderate. many people don't know anything about nutrition and they neglect eating healthy meals which causes them to have all sorts of problems later in life
@vendictum
@vendictum 5 лет назад
It's not gonna happen coz consumption stimulates economy.
@aleksiezkeksic9213
@aleksiezkeksic9213 7 лет назад
The main problem with carbs is that they digest quickly and give you energy fast but your stomach feels empty much faster then when eating protein or veggiey, so you are motivated to eat more often even though you dont need to
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
John Smith he's actually right. Sorry. Carbs are a bad short-term investment.
@Soccasteve
@Soccasteve 7 лет назад
I agree with John smith. Yes simple carbs digest quickly and lead to insulin spikes (which is bad). The problem with carbs is that people don't eat the right ones. They eat shitty processed, simple carbs instead of carbs with a lot of fiber. Honestly if you just stick to as many whole food as possible that's your best bet. I swear people try to make nutrition so complicated for no reason. The less processed your food is the better off you'll be.
@RonCecchetti
@RonCecchetti 2 года назад
it also depends if she wants to be skinny. if she wants to be skinny then you should encourage her and she will thank you for that. if you're not happy and she has no desire or ability to change then that's going to be difficult to contend with. don't make any rash decision. feel it out.
@Dericelas
@Dericelas 7 лет назад
start improving yourself first, get some results and get her curious enough to try what youre trying! if both of you get on the same health boat, it could benefit the pair of you and help the relationship by opening up new doors and possibilities
@adriantomole1019
@adriantomole1019 7 лет назад
This approach rarely works with women in practice.
@coreycox2345
@coreycox2345 7 лет назад
He may have already done that. She is reacting in a responsive, adult manner. Sadly, It is unlikely that there will be new doors and possibilities if she does not know who he even is.
@coreycox2345
@coreycox2345 7 лет назад
Especially when he started with "skinny person genertics" and she did not. But this does not feel like a competition. She is impressed that he appears to have improved his health.
@Dericelas
@Dericelas 7 лет назад
All of my girlfriends in my past that lasted long term worked out with me several times a week and on their own. I can only speak for myself, but it did help the relationship dramatically with making you think about each others well being out in the open with being physically fit and active, while still making healthy food choices together post workout or even day to day. That right there opened plenty of conversation topics ranging all over.
@essennagerry
@essennagerry 7 лет назад
Dericelas Absolutely! Get passionate about health and let her see it. Don't talk about it all of the time, but make sure that whenever you do your eyes light up and whenever she asks you something - talk too much about it, lol. Show passion, but make it seem like you're trying to contain it and sometimes it just slips out. That gets people intrigued and also shows you're genuine and don't have an ulterior motive. I mean you _kind_ of do, but....you _kind_ don't, too.
@krowa1010
@krowa1010 6 лет назад
Fuck this, the main problem is why is someone asking him every possible question? it is nothing more than an authority shift, nobody can know everything best, and putting too much trust in one person leads to blind imitation of crowds, this guy isnt popular enough to influence many people, but in general blind imitaion is a powerful force of humanity, and we need to be aware about it and see it its bud, for us it should be as horrible to see blind imitation as it were to see following an extreme leader, its ridiculous, some people just cant figure out things on their own and will always ask their Moma
@jainee4507
@jainee4507 16 дней назад
If she truly loved you she wouldnt have let herself go.
@shadyworld1
@shadyworld1 5 лет назад
- First: Base Logic of any “Sane/Healthy” relationship is, to accept the partner positives and negatives as well from day 1, and when it comes to changing each other, that one is “Ladies First” rule, it should come from her side First and then it’ll be 2 way street, and it’s related to the subject (Health, Lifestyle, Fashion, Career...etc) - Second: NEVER Criticize the following for any Female Unless you Really Want to Hurt her.. Her Weight (NEVER) Her Dress/Wear Size Her Style Her Age (Big No No) Her Mom (RIP If Gone there) Her Food (If She cook) Way outs: - Her Dress/Wear (Gift her New Wear you feel them Good on her, and ask her to show you and keep complimenting if you really liked it, after while she’ll notice without Single word) - Her Style (Show her Makeup, Hair styles..etc that you thinks would look good for her, also challenge her if you did that look and Her Friends Like it you’ll pay her the make over charges as Gentle man support his brave partner) - Her Food (If you know cooking you’ll probably be in charge of that task from now on, hope you like it 😂) - Others: Just Avoid these areas and you’ll be just “alive” 😂😂😂
@deamo78
@deamo78 5 лет назад
Is this a real person asking this question or is this just an interesting delima to try and solve? Bill Bur had the exact same question recently.
@ML-nj8fq
@ML-nj8fq 7 лет назад
I have this same problem. She has been getting upset at comments i make regarding food or exercise because she's thinks im trying to hint at stuff (i'm not). I finally tried to tell her although she is overweight i dont care about her look and i support whatever she does. It exploded and has nearly broken us up, I dont know if we'll recover from it. It's a really frustrating really hard topic. I want her to lose weight for for her health and her esteem but of course im the bad guy for talking about it.
@hotcoffee6911
@hotcoffee6911 7 лет назад
Micah L you should told one of her female friends to hint it,,,,,,,
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
Micah L hey, dude, stop. Seriously. Get healthy yourself, for you. Your habits will rub off on her. But in the end, SHE MUST CHOOSE what she's going to do. You can't make her. How do men like nagging wives? Not at all. Even less do women like being told they're fat.
@DenisG631
@DenisG631 5 лет назад
stop lying to yourself first. "i dont care about her look" - YOU DO. you do care. you want an attractive partner beside you. there is nothing wrong with that. stop this DESIRE-SHAMING. There is nothing wrong with that
@salvatoredali4384
@salvatoredali4384 5 лет назад
@@DenisG631 How do you know what he wants or is attracted to?
@DenisG631
@DenisG631 5 лет назад
@@salvatoredali4384 males are attracted to healthy females which have higher chances of giving birth to healthy children Being obese is not seen as healthy. Again, there are exceptions, but for the vast majority, this is the rule. And since he asked Jordan Peterson this question, he is not attracted to obese/fat individuals
@watertower1
@watertower1 5 лет назад
Anytime I hear his voice I get the urge to clean my room
@SKU11CRU5HER115
@SKU11CRU5HER115 7 лет назад
There's loads of difficult nutrition plans you can entangle yourself in, but the tried and true method to losing weight is the simplest thing ever. Consume less calories than you're burning. Don't overthink it. Look up your resting metabolic rate and add a bit depending on how physically active you are. Now take that number, start calorie counting, and don't consume any more than that. It might be hard but it's possible, and it's simple. If you're a bit confused about your resting metabolic rate and your level of activity, just take in less than 1700 calories a day. That's a pretty good lazy estimate. Do this for a month and you WILL notice results.
@roaddogg800
@roaddogg800 5 лет назад
Interestingly enough I only date full figured women
@skinny4070
@skinny4070 5 лет назад
I married same kind of thing. She wasent the kind of person who wants to lose weight. We are divorced.
@berend_simons
@berend_simons 5 лет назад
Username checks out
@nosoupforyou3984
@nosoupforyou3984 5 лет назад
@@berend_simons lol
@hdhdhd-4935
@hdhdhd-4935 5 лет назад
Your user name tho🤦🏼‍♀️😂😂
@AmirKetabi
@AmirKetabi 4 месяца назад
I got this exact problem and I dont know how to deal with it. Thank you for your advice Jordan!
@cernanwinterfox85
@cernanwinterfox85 5 лет назад
So? This really isn't a hard one. If she wants to change then help her if she doesn't either accept it or leave. There might a bit of grey area like maybe shes in denial or maybe leaving isnt easy at the tine for whatever reason but essentially its a accept it or move on situation.
@Onajourney519
@Onajourney519 3 года назад
My husband told me to lose weight, it upset me but because of our love for each other, it's worth the weightloss. He's worth it.
@Macheako
@Macheako 7 лет назад
I date women I'm attracted to. Not really attracted to fat women. So uhhhh....that's that. This REALLY isn't a conversation, it's just a matter of "What do YOU want in your relationship?". Now, admittedly, I think there are SOME rules to follow that you should WANT things from her that ARE GOOD for her, but they also have to be "within reason". Lemme say this as clearly as possible: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG OR BAD ABOUT WANTING A SEXUAL PARTNER TO HAVE A REASONABLY HEALTHY LOOKING BODY. Now we gotta get into what's reasonable, but really I just mean someone who isn't a model lol. And it's funny too, cause most men DONT want or need their girl to look like a model, but we DO want our girls to look like......things that DONT resemble a mr potatoe head, is that descriptive enough? Don't EVER let a women shame you men into thinking HER way is the ONLY way. Don't forget, we have OUR way of handling shit too. And if we're gonna take care a this woman, love this woman, and continually fuck this woman....like HELL am I gonna feel bad for listing one of her requirements as "Dont be a heffer". The ONLY kinda woman who is gonna hate on you having self-respect is the kind of woman you DONT want around.....so having the standard does all the work for ya ;)
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
Matthew Morton that is... Not unfair. Especially considering men tend to be the breadwinners.
@Macheako
@Macheako 7 лет назад
Louise thank you. For the record, I absolutely believe in taking care of "my women" in my life. I was raised by a handful of aunts and my own mom, and I know just how priceless the emotional comfort of a woman truly is, I don't ever mean to demean her value or place in this world. With all that said though lol that doesn't mean we don't, the genders, have our own special, unique God-given talents. And it's my desire to utilize those talents in the best possible way which will benefit BOTH of us, not just me, not just her. I really ain't that different from most men, it's just....I have expectations of a woman if I'm going to be with her lol. That little thing alone is missing from 85% of men these days :( I pray they find their way out of that prison.
@toddconnell8324
@toddconnell8324 4 месяца назад
I’m 42, been through the attraction issue several times with girlfriends (and several traumatic breakups) and my wisdom for you young men is this. You are not going to like it but test my words: If her gaining weight causes you fear and dread, and leaves you feeling trapped or ripped off, you are not attracted to her enough to endure her changes and fluctuations in appearance. You will not be happy, and will cheat or fantasise about other women. You are a man, and you are human. I’ve watched family members, friends (even long time Godly people) leave their spouse of decades because of weight gain and/or loss of attraction.
@hurrifanc.3434
@hurrifanc.3434 5 лет назад
I laughed at this so hard!! Because those are two things id never say in the same statement!
@LarryPanozzo
@LarryPanozzo 5 лет назад
“If you’re in a long term relationship, it’s pretty much necessary to address all the things that are making you unhappy with one another.” My girlfriend for some reason does not believe that this is necessary and in fact is adamant to not tell me when my behavior is making her unhappy. I wish I knew the source of it. What do I do?
@alanlumi310
@alanlumi310 5 лет назад
Chain her to the bed while she's sleeping and ask her if your behavior is making her unhappy.
@ST-yc7uj
@ST-yc7uj 4 года назад
Patriarchy on one side and the fact that at this point you should be aware of her emotions without her telling you much. You clearely love her and want to help her,but there is a certain cultural blind spot that has to be personally understood to be able to open up the new relational paradigm between a man and his woman. On her family dynamics, check if her father was authoritarian..in some cases daughters and sons of authoritarian father(or mother) figures become emotionally numb in a sence that they can't identify their own issues which later in life causes them to feel violated if someone else tries to dig deeper on their behalf.
@brianbarbour2531
@brianbarbour2531 7 лет назад
It is necessary to know if she is overweight due to crappy eating habits or diet. I live in the south and many people eat fast food 3 times a day, does he or she only eat Meat, Cheese, Bread and Ketchup? To many foods have carbs in it and your body only uses a given amount every day, the excess will convert into stored energy aka FAT. If you want change, you will have to make the first step and lead and show how it's done. and hope she will follow your lead. Having Pizza Night 3-4 times a night is not a good thing. Need to start doing fun things on a regular basis, like Zip Lining, Hiking trips, Bike rides and eat more veggies. My Girl lost 65lbs in 15 month, she quit drinking Booze, eating much better and we try to do fun shit all the time. Now People are giving her shit at work for being to skinny but people don't realizes that she has not done anything drastic just small consistent changes.
@thunderhound294
@thunderhound294 5 лет назад
The only thing you mentioned in that list that had carbs ( or at least a substantially large amount) was bread, and Pizza
@OB.x
@OB.x 5 лет назад
i eat fast food 3x a day. I used to be fat. I still eat 3x a day, all i did was remove grains, fruits, carbs, and especially sugary drinks. Low carb, dropped 40 pounds in a month. Still eating everything i want.
@russkiball3350
@russkiball3350 7 лет назад
I mean it has its dangers like killing your children or contracting gastrointestinal disturbances, inflammation risk, thinning hair/hair loss, kidney stones, muscle cramps or weakness, hypoglycemia, low platelet count, impaired concentration/cognition, impaired mood, renal tubular acidosis, nutrient deficiencies, disordered mineral metabolism, poor growth in children, skeletal fracture, osteopenia/osteoporosis, increased bruising, sepsis, infection, bacteria overgrowth, pneumonia, acute pancreatitis, long QT intervals, cardiomyopathy, shift towards atherogenic lipid profiles, heart arrhythmia, myocardial infraction, menstrual irregularities and amenorrhea and last but not least death.
@foxontherocks7793
@foxontherocks7793 6 лет назад
Of course, there are plenty of ways to get fit, like diets, exercise, but the most important thing is motivation. If your girlfriend has already considered loosing weight, but is just lacking a bit of encouragement, go for it. If it's not in her plans or if she's really lacking motivation, you can no way control her behaviors, not even try. The only thing you can do is to show her a good example, by doing healthy living (diet, exercise) yourself and maybe (but no high hopes) she'll get interested and involved in a long.
@dancehouston
@dancehouston 7 лет назад
Take ownership and set a good example. Tell her nothing tastes as good as healthy feels. You need care for her body as your own. Stop doing anything you are doing to contribute to her unhealthy state. Stop taking yourselves out to eat. If she doesn't need as many calories as you do to survive, eat your extra calories on your own time. Don't test her limits or willpower by offering goodies or eating more than she can when you eat together. Start cooking healthy meals or buying healthy food for her to cook, or asking her to make you healthy meals. Get her excited to be active with you. Ask her to dance or take a walk or play a sport with you. Give her a massage and your attention to help her relax and connect with you. As you make these efforts, have faith in the body's ability to one day be able to process food normally once it is in a healthy state, and in her ability to live longer and love you more actively when she is fit.
@jumullyett1258
@jumullyett1258 4 года назад
Truth
@kevinarzola4781
@kevinarzola4781 5 лет назад
If she doesn’t want to lose the weight, just leave. You think you love her because you’re with her and it hurts to let go. I will never understand why men and woman get in a relationship with problems that bother them when the other refuses to change.
@davidmarshall3683
@davidmarshall3683 7 лет назад
Her weight is probably making her unhappy too make it clear to her you love her and care about her no matter what you need to break down the emotional problems she has because those could be causing vicious cycles of comfort eating, with that in place encourage her if she says she wants to lose weight and feels fat be honest with her tell her that it doesn't bother you except with the potential health problems but if it's going to continue to bother her then say to her maybe she should do something to help change it. Make her healthy meals and suggest joining something like slimming world my girlfriends lost around 2 stone from it. Suggesting shared activities might be a good idea it's something I've never really embraced with this as I'm not one for communal sports and my girlfriend over exercised when we went to the gym together because when you have problems with your body it's hard to exercise at the right level because you want to change it so badly.
@radicalgreek99
@radicalgreek99 5 лет назад
Secretly replace all the shit food in the house with sugar free and grain free shit.
@jayfaisa6016
@jayfaisa6016 5 лет назад
Let her be overweight... you can hide within her belly and guts during an ice storm.
@brandonramirez6404
@brandonramirez6404 5 лет назад
Genius
@chickennuggetsonastick2388
@chickennuggetsonastick2388 5 лет назад
FAYZA there’s a difference in being overweight and obese lol
@adarsh6448
@adarsh6448 5 лет назад
@@chickennuggetsonastick2388 which one's worse
@chickennuggetsonastick2388
@chickennuggetsonastick2388 5 лет назад
Adarsh being obese
@snowwhite7677
@snowwhite7677 5 лет назад
You should "weigh" you options. lol.
@longlive1722
@longlive1722 5 лет назад
Seems like an oh yeah yeah moment
@just-some-menace6138
@just-some-menace6138 5 лет назад
so yes, you should tell her to lose weight you do not need to be the only one making sacrifices to maintain the relationship.
@johnnyrebel4267
@johnnyrebel4267 5 лет назад
I'm no Dr. I've been with my wife for 12 years. We communicate well, and love one another. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY NO WAY, to communicate or encourage ur gf or wife to lose weight wo having major issues. At first, it might be, "ok, I will try". But once u bring it up, every time u see her eating some bullshit, she shouldnt be eating, it will sear u from the inside out.... all I wanted was 30 lbs... learn to live with it, or move on. I miss that petite, tight little body, FOR SURE. but, it's not that bad, in my case. The attraction, passion, ripping panties off days may be gone. But having a woman you can trust, love, support, and be loyal to you, outweighs testing the waters in today's world.
@ST-yc7uj
@ST-yc7uj 4 года назад
Wow, this is so insightful. Missing the days of the passion of the honeymoon phase...loosing weight can't turn back the clock. One think it might,but it can't,not for the long run anyways. There are men whose wives don't change weight, but the initial passion is not attainable anyways because it has nothing to do with weight.
@elvenfay
@elvenfay 7 лет назад
I am overweight, my two partners were both attracted to me even when I gain weight. but what they were more concern with wasn't the way I looked (i was critical of that) they have always approached it as I want you healthy if you can't do XYZ that you love then you should work on that for health reason. they didn't push for me to perfect weight or size. or look for a certain way. They pushed for me to do things that I should be able and want to to do. Now, I have physically condition that makes it hard to even work on it. ( i am ) my point is. their approach was about my happiness, my health, my well-being. And that has helped a lot. but also guys you want her to lose weight when she starts that new weird diet. it helps that you will eat it with her.
@belvinnadar5782
@belvinnadar5782 5 лет назад
Mr Peterson looks like Raul Menendez from BO2 in the thumbnail 😂😂😂
@SevenRiderAirForce
@SevenRiderAirForce 5 лет назад
I used to be the kind of person who would really try to hang on. I would care more about fixing their problems than they did. And that's a recipe for disaster. You end up indulging their problems and making them worse. What's more, they won't respect you if you're constantly trying to help them. Why? Because it cuts both ways. You don't respect yourself enough, either! Why should they? If you did, and you left, either they'll realize they fucked up and fix their problems (or at least have a major change of heart about it), and come running after you, or they weren't good enough for you anyway.
@Mahaveez
@Mahaveez 7 лет назад
People with more relationship experience than me: What would you say about breaking the ice with this question? "Do you have any problems with yourself that you wish you could solve?"
@theashengoose5515
@theashengoose5515 7 лет назад
Don't. Comes across as a little nosy.
@DenisG631
@DenisG631 5 лет назад
Direct is the way to go. If it was bothering her, she would have told you and have started doing something, otherwise, she doesn't care. She won't like it, but she will appreciate your honesty. At least you are sincere with what is bothering you and not being a pussy
@jemperdiller
@jemperdiller 5 лет назад
EMBRACE THE THICC
@colejames423
@colejames423 5 лет назад
THICC = fat
@dizzyprotos262
@dizzyprotos262 5 лет назад
fat = overweight
@ST-yc7uj
@ST-yc7uj 4 года назад
@@dizzyprotos262 fat=curvy
@jumullyett1258
@jumullyett1258 4 года назад
FAT= unattractive
@JesuisParte
@JesuisParte 7 лет назад
nice video ! I like the way you are open minded ! good answer :)
@JesuisParte
@JesuisParte 7 лет назад
ah this isn't his channel right haha
@dennisjacob1081
@dennisjacob1081 5 лет назад
What really matters is her principles in life
@MrLoowiz
@MrLoowiz 5 лет назад
Are you saying that appearances don't matter? Or even health?
@SuperSlavonski
@SuperSlavonski 7 лет назад
Let's stop with PC, fat shaming is good
@attiasprouse682
@attiasprouse682 7 лет назад
What if it is out of her control?
@blueshue
@blueshue 7 лет назад
you sound like a cave man whit that narrow presentation. how about making fat people/over weight people see there inner demons on why they stuff them-self whit so much bad food and make them consider if there food intake is a form of self-love or perhaps it could be closer to self-loathing. why is that, how is this serving you? but i guess you cant see this sins all you idiots dont see your own flaws sins you are do damn dumb to do that. oh i am shaming you to think. did that work?
@MrCmon113
@MrCmon113 7 лет назад
No. You are a bully and you are worse for fat people than any body-positivity quack. You are actively discouraging people from making positive changes and at the same time harassing them.
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
SuperSlavonski no. It doesn't. I as bloody far from an SJW as you can be and I know this does not work. I was fat. My husband tried to fat shame me. It made me angry and resentful and hurt and embarrassed. Know what it didn't make me? Skinny. /I/ had to decide that /I/ was better than a BMI of 28. When I did, I changed in a flash. It's down to the individual. We should not try to force people to be what we want in any regard. Why is weight different? (disregarding the socialized healthcare factor)
@thefalseheroold7460
@thefalseheroold7460 7 лет назад
Louise, weight IS different from trying to force someone to be something they're not. If you try to force an introvert to be an extrovert, that's wrong because being an introvert is a part of their personality and is different but not worse than being an extrovert; the world needs both. However, being fat is a physical condition with no benefits; it's not different from being skinny, it's just plain worse with no positives attached to it. A lot of the cases that stand out, such as the one in this vid, are when the partner was skinny when the relationship began and became fat as the relationship developed. In these cases, the other partner is 100% justified in feeling cheated by the fat partner because fat people are not physically attractive and physical attraction is a HUGE part of a stable relationship (speaking form the perspective of a guy). As a woman, think of it like this: You date a man with a nice car, expensive apartment and great job. Awesome catch right? Well, after you get serious with him, he quits his job, lays around doing nothing, sells his car and moves to a crappy apartment. Would you stay in a relationship with him? That's how men feel when women get fat after the relationship gets serious. It shows a complete lack of care for your partner's needs and desires. Even fat shaming strangers is acceptable in my opinion, because like it or not humans are social creatures and being fat shows a lack of self control. Being fat is basically telling the world "I have a complete lack of self control, to the point that I am severely endangering the health and well-being of my body to indulge in all the food I want to eat." If someone isn't able to control themselves in such an obvious and simple manner, imagine what else they will lack in other areas which require self control.
@johnnonamegibbon3580
@johnnonamegibbon3580 7 лет назад
Men are extremely visual, so it's almost impossible for them to hide what they're attracted to. Just be honest with yourself and to other people of what you find appealing and why. It's all you can really do.
@SquatSimp
@SquatSimp 5 лет назад
True, address the issue or let it lurk and build up with the other unaddressed “issues” until the shelf falls from the weight it bears
@callc7719
@callc7719 2 месяца назад
you could frame it as a bonding thing and ask if u wanna work out together or go on a run together
@miriamdiedrich7524
@miriamdiedrich7524 7 лет назад
The girlfriend should lose the weight in general. Being overweight is bad for the health. But yes, being attractive for your partner is one of the duties and one of the beauties of being in a relationship. If she can't do something as simple as keeping a healthy weight, her (at least seemingly) caring boyfriend is just too good for her.
@123bathinapes
@123bathinapes 7 лет назад
Thank you! I don't understand how people can even disagree with this (well the reason is quite evident, admittedly). If a guy all of a sudden decides he's going to ditch his well paying job, move to Australia to live on the beach and become a surfer, does his wife HAVE TO be okay with that? When your (lack of) action affects not only oneself but others as well, other people have the right to be displeased.
@vadimpanibratets962
@vadimpanibratets962 7 лет назад
If keeping a healthy weight is "simple" everyone would do it.
@123bathinapes
@123bathinapes 7 лет назад
Keeping a healthy weight is very simple.
@miriamdiedrich7524
@miriamdiedrich7524 7 лет назад
Vadim Panibrates It *is* simple, a lot of people just find it easier to get fat and stay fat. Shame on them, not people who promote Calories In/Calories Out.
@Hannah.2125
@Hannah.2125 7 лет назад
Laura Icahn I'm sorry, but being attractive is not one of the "duties" of being in a relationship. The boyfriend says he loves her even though she is overweight. If you don't want an overweight partner, maybe don't date someone overweight. Don't be in a relationship with an overweight person and then expect them to lose it just for you.
@RayonConmar
@RayonConmar 5 лет назад
Fat shaming works. I was 5'9 230 lbs with very little muscle tone. I felt bad about being fat and other people let me know about it. I lost 75 lbs over a year and I feel way better about myself.
@shamicentertainment1262
@shamicentertainment1262 5 лет назад
Doesn't work for everyone
@randomoneguy
@randomoneguy 5 лет назад
depends on the person, if you are ignorant and can only take offense to it then of course you wont do anything about your body. but in the case when the person is self aware and takes the criticism as motivation then they are willing to work hard to fix the problem. works for a lot of other aspects in life
@MrLoowiz
@MrLoowiz 5 лет назад
@@randomoneguy That's not all there's to it. Some people eat when they're depressed, and it's not something you can always control with willpower. Some people also have physiological issues that require medical aid. Generalizing people might lead you to shame the wrong person and embarrass yourself.
@randomoneguy
@randomoneguy 5 лет назад
right, and these people with depression and physiological issues in the end are still insecure, which cause them to take fat shaming only as a insult. I didn't specify why they may be ignorant to the issue, doesn't matter the reason, in the end result, you are still ignoring the issue. Unfortunately, reasons like depression may be more severe and just when it comes to issues regarding body image. But, telling them oh, its fine, you are depressed so you should be 500 pounds or you should have eating disorder is wrong. In fact, i think in the cases where the person have these psychological problems, it would be even more important to actually help them professsionally rather than telling them oh you have an excuse.
@MrLoowiz
@MrLoowiz 5 лет назад
@@randomoneguy You're wrong. Not always are depressed people ignorant or take offense of shaming. You're being irrational and treating sickness and disorders as something that can be treated with mere reason and willpower. I'm not making an excuse to them, just exposing the fact that your narrow view is wrong and you're trying to put these people on the same category as lazy and ignorant individuals.
@m.d4375
@m.d4375 5 лет назад
Fats are much more caloric dense than carbs by the way, it's about the amount that you eat... Also hormones play a much larger role in weight gain/loss people think, cortisol/insulin will make you put on weight, and other hormones will favor fat loss.
@syaoranoni54326
@syaoranoni54326 5 лет назад
did this guy seriously recommend stopping eating carbs?
@MrLoowiz
@MrLoowiz 5 лет назад
No, he said you will lose weight (which is true), and then he said that he doesn't recommend it because it's unhealthy (which is also true). I don't see the problem in what he said.
@circlesinthenight3141
@circlesinthenight3141 7 лет назад
If you love her stay with her .
@matthewharrison2317
@matthewharrison2317 5 лет назад
I loved a woman, who sent me into a daze when she kissed me. When we had sex, I loved her, and I was attracted by her love for me. She was a bit chunky, but I found her to be beautiful. The only times when I was turned off, is when she would do things like covering us in blankets or turning the lights off, or not wanting to get entirely naked. I simply was unable to perform because I KNEW WHAT SHE WAS THINKING. "You won't want to have sex with me if you are looking at my body". No. It was your perception of yourself that made me unable to perform. The only reason I wanted her to lose weight was because she wanted it, and I wanted US to be healthy and live a long time. It had NOTHING to do with my attraction to her. Her freckled chipmunk cheeks, her dark hazelnut eyes, her chunky bottom and voluptuous waist. I loved you the moment you kissed me. My sweetheart. My kitten.
@saturatedneowax
@saturatedneowax 5 лет назад
voluptuous fupa
@olechristianhenne6583
@olechristianhenne6583 5 лет назад
I love you to sweet blue birde
@EmperorHerpes
@EmperorHerpes 5 лет назад
My little sex kitten
@GBSZ12
@GBSZ12 5 лет назад
this is deep wow
@matthewharrison2317
@matthewharrison2317 5 лет назад
@@EmperorHerpes Sex was not the only thing I wanted from her. I wanted to build a life with her. I just don't know why she thought I would view her as unattractive. I wanted to be hers if she would be mine. For now and forever.
@bigfellamike1913
@bigfellamike1913 2 года назад
My girlfriend is severely overweight she's five three and about 300 lb but she's got the prettiest face out of all the women I've seen walking around daily. I'm seriously worried about her future health and her ability to do things in the future... On top of that I'm also not sexually attracted to her much... But she's literally the most caring and supportive kind-hearted sweet woman I've ever met. Yesterday after dinner she asked me if I was in love with her or if I just loved her. I really honest to God don't know but I know I don't want to lose someone so loving and supportive
@JeromeV
@JeromeV 2 года назад
I don't know her, but suspect she's been poisoned by the bad "food" and bad advice. Seed oils are poison, as are processed carbs, in my opinion. The overweight people I see around me are all suffering from "metabolic syndrome" induced by these poisons marketed as foods. In my opinion. Fasting is a potent way to detoxify and return to health (again, in my opinion).
@whycantijusthaveausernameo3993
always park in the farthest spot from any destinations parking lot. Use the excuse it has less traffic. Make her walk more without know it. Go out more.
@scorch6208
@scorch6208 5 лет назад
Exercise, eat less shit, have discipline. Simple as that, but can be pretty hard
@MrLoowiz
@MrLoowiz 5 лет назад
The exercise in itself is not hard, the hardest part is to convince your mind to stop being lazy. The second hardest part is convincing your brain that you shouldn't eat like a sumo wrestler. It's so simple, I can't stand how people go out of their way to find extremely complicated diets and spend thousands of dollars in 'shortcuts' that rarely work.
@scorch6208
@scorch6208 5 лет назад
@@MrLoowiz just like you said, the exercise routine can be very hard to maintain for long periods of time, but its necessary. Miracle solutions are just bullshit. Its simple in theory, but not at all when you try It. Took me a lot of effort to get my shit together
@robertfennis6088
@robertfennis6088 7 лет назад
another dirty way to solve these kinds of problems is by sort of Pavlov induced dieting. Just complimenting her every time she does something that would lower her weight. Give her something amazing, maybe sexually. The other solution could be to convince her to go vegan.
@stingrae789
@stingrae789 7 лет назад
My landlady was accosted by a Vegan in a shop the other day. She was FAT and yet stated she was 'healthier than my landlady'. My landlady is about 70 and in good shape for her age. She's certainly not got any apparent health issues. Just because you go Vegan, won't make you healthier (or anything for that matter). Given the requirement of additional B12 I would never recommend going Vegan. Especially since it and strict vegetarianism really cut you off from exploring different foods and severely limit you when going out with friends. I was strict vegetarian for 7 years and I still mostly eat vegetarian (because good quality meat is expensive). I will still generally choose a vegetarian option even. I just don't really like the taste of meat especially if it hasn't been seasoned or transformed. Caloric intake is all that really matters, sure eating good food is GOOD but if you eat too many calories you're going to be fat. Portion control, eliminate snacking and progress can be made.
@robertfennis6088
@robertfennis6088 7 лет назад
I'm sorry Stingrae but a lot of what you say is bullshit. Limiting options is not reason to murder animals that want to live. Caloric intake is not all that matters if you get your calories from fats that severely increase your LDL cholesterol that leads to heart decease. Just because there are vegan cunts on this planet doesn't mean that a vegan diet isn't healthy. And with one point I agree; a vegan diet is not by definition healthy. However, its much more difficult to eat unhealthy on a vegan diet than on a omnivorous diet.
@stingrae789
@stingrae789 7 лет назад
Caloric intake is ALL that matters with weight loss, I never said anything about other aspects of health. A vegetarian diet in most cases with milk and eggs is superior to a vegan diet. The places which are 'blue zones' are mostly vegetarian with some fish in their diet. That's the healthiest way for humans to live without a degree in nutritional science and a fortune to spend on scarce nuts and seeds. I live in Africa and you can get all the 'vegan foods' but they're very expensive. If you want a diet that'll make you poor and unhappy a vegan diet is a great thing. Bread intake is too high in the west, meat intake in the west is also far too high but in order to decrease it all vegans/vegetarians would be better off spending the extra money on organic meat to encourage more humane farming practices (and campaigning against Halaal). Live and let live, eat what you want and enjoy life. That's the best way to live. We're humans we're not herbivores, we're far more complex and some of that complexity has to do with Racial genetics e.g. black and asians have significantly more cases of lactose intolerance.You should ideally eat a diet which causes no harm to your body but that's a lot harder than it sounds because each person has different reactions to certain foods. Some people feel sick after chicken, others after brinjals and some after bananas. There's no one diet for the human race but a whole heap of preferences.
@robertfennis6088
@robertfennis6088 7 лет назад
Still not true, the amount of energy it takes for the body to break down calories differs between refined foods, fruit and fats etc. There is no humane way to kill animals. And yeah, live and let live, does that count for animals too? We should eat a diet that causes also no harm to other animals if possible. You don't need to eat shit tons of nuts and seeds to survive on a vegan diet. Just eat normal as a vegan and you are fine. How is a vegetarian diet superior to a vegan diet? Because you are consuming large amounts of dietary cholesterol? Because you are raping cows to get milk and then stealing their calf after they are born only to kill the male calf and feed them to their mother? Or are those billions of male chicks that get thrown into a meatgrinder the superior side? Nothing about milk and eggs is particularly healthy. Only milk shows some potential to lower the chances of breast cancer but it increases others.
@stingrae789
@stingrae789 7 лет назад
"the amount of energy it takes for the body to break down calories differs between refined foods, fruit and fats etc." You can lose weight by calorie counting eating solely junk food. edition.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/11/08/twinkie.diet.professor/index.html "There is no humane way to kill animals. And yeah, live and let live, does that count for animals too?" Why? under what obligation are we to not eat animals? This line of reasoning results in idiots feeding obligate carnivores 'vegan cat food'. There are of course humane ways to kill animals. "Because you are consuming large amounts of dietary cholesterol?" Not once did I state consume large amounts of anything. > egg consumption has been shown to increase circulating HDL-cholesterol > apoA-I was significantly increased following egg consumption (p < 0.05). ApoA-I is the primary apolipoprotein associated with reverse cholesterol transport (RCT), the transfer of excess cholesterol from extrahepatic tissues to HDL for clearance. jn.nutrition.org/content/early/2017/08/08/jn.117.254193.abstract www.fasebj.org/content/31/1_Supplement/431.7.short I'm sure I could find more sources but your understanding of cholesterol is about 10 years out of date. The moral argument is inconsequential, all those practices will be improved with technology. Humans do need meat, at the very least eggs and milk because B12 is essential for cognitive development of Children. Fish and meat also contribute towards brain development because they are essentially packed with nutrients. Is it moral to encourage people to introduce Nurture as a negative effects on the intelligence of Children? Most people make dietary mistakes, vegan dietary mistakes are downright dangerous though. I don't think the moral argument stands in light of the possible negative effects on human progress. To quote my meat eating friends: "Eat some bacon, it's good for your brain".
@GiiftiHair
@GiiftiHair 3 месяца назад
What if it’s the opposite way wrong I am fit and my boyfriend is fat and it’s really getting to me
@FierceMakeupChick
@FierceMakeupChick 4 года назад
You just hit it on the nail
@iberian1580
@iberian1580 7 лет назад
She doesn't care about what you're attracted to. In fact, she'll make you feel like you're a horrible person for simply not being attracted to her at every weight size. Dump her.
@chickennuggetsonastick2388
@chickennuggetsonastick2388 5 лет назад
Hernán Cortés your just making assumptions dumbass
@luisal269
@luisal269 7 лет назад
Condense your eating window. It's the ONLY thing that works, and I've tried it all. High carb, low carb, vegan, paleo. Whatever, it doesn't matter.
@JeromeV
@JeromeV 7 лет назад
+Luisa L good point! Works because it puts one's body into fat burning mode during the non-eating window. Many benefits, including decreased insulin resistance. Breaks the cycle of carbohydrate addiction!
@agirlfriendatheart3403
@agirlfriendatheart3403 7 лет назад
Jerome V. What does condense your eating window mean? I'm not an English speaker, if you've got time, I'd appreciate your replay.
@JeromeV
@JeromeV 7 лет назад
"Condense your eating window" = limit your eating to a shorter block of time during the day. Example: eat only between 12:00 and 18:00 means you have a 6 hour eating window. Compared to eating between 6:00 and 20:00, which is a 14 hour eating window. Google for "Intermitent fasting" for more.
@123bathinapes
@123bathinapes 7 лет назад
Although I happen to like and apply intermittent fasting, that's a bit of a ridiculous statement, don't you think?
@agirlfriendatheart3403
@agirlfriendatheart3403 7 лет назад
Jerome V. Thanks a lot!
@ricsmusicchannel6547
@ricsmusicchannel6547 6 лет назад
I see we have another low-carber on our hands!
@dragonbeast9318
@dragonbeast9318 5 лет назад
Love is a burning thing
@mgtowdemon8831
@mgtowdemon8831 5 лет назад
Leave the whales in the ocean.
@freshlyvegan1404
@freshlyvegan1404 7 лет назад
I normally agree with most of what Peterson says, but that bit about cutting carbohydrates to lose weight is so wrong and irresponsible. A distinction needs to be made between complex carbohydrates and simple carbohydrates. Simple carbs are junk. Complex carbs are some of the healthiest sources of calories and nutrients on this planet. Cutting complex carbs from your diet, especially just to lose weight, is idiotic.
@JeromeV
@JeromeV 7 лет назад
+Freshly Vegan maybe complex carbs work for you, but for some of us they feed the glucose > insulin > fat storage (via lipo-neogenesis) > crash > cravings for more "complex" carbs, Repeat ad infinitum cycle. I'm guessing you're still young.
@SourPatchLyds
@SourPatchLyds 7 лет назад
Freshly Vegan oh hush. You're a damn vegan.
@johnnonamegibbon3580
@johnnonamegibbon3580 7 лет назад
Vegans don't make sense. We have canines. We didn't evolve to only eat fruit.
@Soccasteve
@Soccasteve 7 лет назад
I'll agree with the vegan even though I am neither vegan nor vegetarian. There's no denying the health benefits of a mostly plant diet (incidentally these diets include higher carb intakes). If you can't lose and maintain a healthy weight eating mostly whole grains, beans, legumes, vegetables, and fruits (with small amounts of animal products) then you're doing something wrong.
@marcelroberge5011
@marcelroberge5011 5 лет назад
Really the simplest of activities can get you into shape. You won’t get ripped but you will put yourself in a position to get ripped or toned or whatever. And that beginning activity is walking. Go for a half hour walk after every meal and increase the amount of walks or amount of time as you get healthier. Do little things that make good habits like put your alarm clock across the room so you have to get up to shut it off. Little tiny shit like that goes a long way. But Jordan is right about not having the details. You have no idea how good of or how bad of a person she is, and maybe the guy is missing details about himself.
@Benaddicted11trkfbal
@Benaddicted11trkfbal 5 лет назад
I guess it depends on your position and how much you care about her or don't. You can say something, don't be confrontational, just say this is how I feel and I think its best for you, me and our relationship if you were healthier. Or if you are more willing to bargain I would say the track this is on right now is not sustainable for me yadadada. You've got to stay in shape if you are worth keeping. Imagine down the road how much worse it'll get if you don't say something.
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