The Brutal Truth Every PEOPLE PLEASER Needs To Hear 

"You're all a bunch of scammers wearing masks!" - says the guy wearing sunglasses inside while charging how much for this seminar?

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@@solastalgia4716 it's ok the glasses help him with his anxiety

Whole video please?

I’m a bit confused how your saying everyone wears a mask totally agree but your wearing sunglasses … you can’t even look them in the eyes?

Nice

​@@lacidrainl5192I think most of us can relate. Everything happens in due time! We needed to gather enough mental strength and insight to change he course of action.

True words. As a recovering people pleaser I relate. I've spoken myself into all sorts of trouble. This has made many people lose respect for me. Silence is gold, taking time, not answering immediately. Tends to lead to more genuine answers.

Does a people pleaser just top people off at will?

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​@@AlexanderPalermo-WyldeWhat is the difference? Between them if I was always authentic then I wouldn't even talk to people 80 percent of the time.

​​@@sans4124he difference is kindness is an act done out of genuine nature that extends goodness to another person. Being nice is just an expression with no heart behind it.

​@@sans4124Thats my take at least

​@@themysteryofgodliness6574that makes no sense. Most "people pleasers" are genuinely like that. I genuinely treat people well, I just accepted that mental illness is real so most people abuse good people. Now I'm a loner and feel better about myself... except when I get horny, so I'll deal with a woman until she becomes abusive then I'll cut her off like everyone else. I still don't understand this concept of being a popular shitty person enjoying the company of other popular shitty people. It's just counterintuitive to me.

@@losgryfog Just because you don't like being around people doesn't mean that they don't deserve the same amount of kindness if you would deserve. I never said anything about pleasing people. Nice people are people pleasers, kind people are people who empathize with other's struggles, and treat people with the treatment they themselves would want. I do agree society so whack right now it's hard to even be around most people, but personally I would still treat them with kindness.

julien would destroy the Bottom bunk G

Or Jordan Peterson and this guy xxx

I love Tate, but Julien would eat him for lunch. All it would take is one boastful comment and he'd immediately unpack it right in Andrew's face. He'd either tone down or leave the conversation.

​@@blakejames9743it doesnt have to be hostile. Tate is very smart most he does is for jokes

That would be funny because Andrew Tate is unauthentic. He admits to taking advantage of men with his famoos the goose spiel but he mascarades as a man leader. Pushing porn is simply profiting from taking advantage and damaging men and little boys. He's pretty funny tho.

exactly!

What do you mean by the universe responding to you, I always hear people saying that and never understood it once. Is it like life changes for you and you start seeing it? Why does the term the universe be used, like as if outer space is controlling this or something

@@YWFilmProductions thats a good question, i do believe outer space controls everything in a way lol! Here i just mean the universe as in, everyone everywhere i go. I get what ur saying tho, a lot of ppl use it to describe how they believe this incarnation will respond as a reflection to your inner state, beliefs etc. "As within so without". As u feel inside, so the universe starts to respond.

@@aroguereptilian the "universe" doesnt exists. The earth is flat, space is a hoax

@@DanielGonzalez-tg7qg sweet💚

It's called zanax

no its not@@copperhead954

Yawn 🥱

The Theatrics helps. He does speak the truth though, you got to get them hooked somehow.

Your message is so resonating with me that I'm gonna copy past it and put it in my notes to remember it, you just helped someone today!

​@@shensad2195it really is a powerful message 👏

​@@shensad2195same!

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@@shensad2195 Wow. I just saw your reply 9 months later and the likes it got. I'm really glad that my words helped you/others.

Thank you! Glad my content has been so insightful! 🙏

So....how's that been working for you?

Same, the difference is I don't have a husband or a kid so I talk to my dogs

I find that people like real people until you are real with them

​@@ether9533I am you

Not everyone deserves your Kindness, so keep it for the one's that do, those Rare, yet Humble Gems🙂

Yup I've gotten some dead eyed stares at retail stores from not saying "good" back to people.

That makes me not walk to talk to anybody. Theres always hidden meanings to everything? Then nothing is real bruh.😂

I do agree but you also need to give people the chance, to become someone more close to you in the first place. maybe you'll get surprised. by letting your mask fall infront of others, they might react in a similar way and you could bond over that a little.

Stop walking

felt.. /:

I used to be like that too. What you need to realize is that you're not responsible for how people think of you. I used to worry that if I didn't smile just right or say something with the right tone that people would think I was being rude. Be real with people. Be kind, patient, and respectful, but make no apology for being you and setting boundaries for yourself. I know you can do it because I did it, and I used to have zero confidence in myself. I'm also 28, and you reminded me of myself. Never give up. God bless!

In 70 years none of this will matter, you will be dead and so will everyone you worry about so much. Live your life, your time is short.

It’s definitely very similar to psychotherapy

Let me know if you'd like my help with this... I'm a parent, and it's something I went through as well: application.julienhimself.com 🙏

Be your own style of mum ❤ authenticity rock!

There's nothing inherently inauthentic about considering another person, that's maturity, it's what you do with it that determines authenticity. Do you mask up, repress, or be authentic.

Just remember, you know what is best for yourself and your baby.....other people are well meaning but so many times they have no idea of what is good for you yet they insist that you forsake your own intuition. This brings problems later on in life if you cave into them. There is a fine line to walk sometimes.

In other words, you regret having kids. Probably shouldn't have gotten drunk that night huh.

Thanks! Glad this resonates! 🔥👊

​@@JulienHimselfit might resonate with soy boys who wear sunglasses and scarfs inside but the rest of us laugh at this infomercial

This resonates, I’ve seen it so heavily in my life that at times I communicate negative things in hopes the person leaves me alone/never speaks to me again. It’s good to know I’m no longer the source of others feel good but at times I try to consider that others have helped build me up in dark times and no one in this world is meant to live this life alone. There is a balance but how do we mitigate it to reflect the life we want outwardly?

Very interesting. I think this has a lot to do with why addiction is so prevalent. I'm just starting to learn these things in 12 step rooms. That is also the only place I've seen people be honest about how they are actually doing recently or at the moment

I agree. I'd always been an "energizer bunny", "supermom" until 6 years ago when I developed sudden and severe Type 1 narcolepsy (currently receiving disability). I lost everything I'd worked for (just 4 years out of school and in a new career) except for the clothes on my back and a few knickknacks (home, car, career, 4 animals, both my kids moved away, meds caused me to lose 30lbs- now just 93lbs - and all my hair to fall out ...) and after 6-ish months of me being completely devastated (and homeless) my dad said, "I can't take this negativity anymore" and refused to speak to me for 11.5 months. Being real didn't go well for me at all.

Same!!!

That's because those areas are hard wired defense mechanisms. If we try to shut off that defense mechanism we feel unsafe and our body tells us that by doing things like raising our heart rate. My defense mechanism was alcohol and when I thought about not having it my heart rate would go up.

Cause deep down, we all know that if we're more "real", a lot of who we know, maybe even our jobs, go away. Haha.

I agree, but its also kinda hard to tell whether people mean it or not.

I never respond. I ignore those people

Damn. You actually just blew my mind.

sometimes its just to start a convo, to say how are you, and honestly who cares if they mean it or not, i believe we are all narcisissts at the end of the day just some people choose to embrace it more

how u doing?

you forgot to add: " for me "

You're welcome! 🙏

It's self esteem and you should build it up so you can always turn inwards when you need recognition and validation. Dont get it from other people get it from within yourself because you know your flaws and self worth. From time to time it's good to get it from other people but if not you can always get it from yourself.

I personally think hes just making a point by wearing this attire to show that its not what u wear or how you appear its whats inside of you. I too was bit suspicious initially but after a few videos i get it

The only way is to make them part of WHO YOU ARE! 🔥👊

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Damn true, hes the only one person i seen that says the things how the are, its amazing being able to listen to him

Great Owen!!! -speech

@@Sixsoul haha what?

@@Sixsoul 😂😂😂

that's deep, "mindless replay of responses" it's scary how robot some people are

To be fair when most people ask how you're doing they don't really care so the "good" response is just an empty reply to an empty question. I'd rather say nothing at all than ask someone how they're doing if I honestly don't care so when they ask to me it kind of pisses me off.

@@stoiccrane4259 I get that its more of a "none of your business type of question". It's kind of a shame we live in a world where people's genuine concern for others, even complete strangers can be faked. But I generally try not to make assumptions of others. Because what if that person happens to be the kind that would give they're shirt off they're own back to someone in the middle of a blizzard? (Metaphorically of course) We need more people like them and by acting out in a way to discourage them only makes things worse for everyone including ourselves. I don't so much believe in the spiritual side of karma, but I am a firm believer and to a lesser degree a practitioner of its principles. There might come time when we can truly talk to people and not be a indifferent to everyone without reprocussion.

@@IIIISai I'm not sure it's people being "robot"-ic. I think it's more of people trying not to be invested in the well being of others to avoid what they believe to be unnecessary responsibilities. Unfortunately too many have had that forced on them at an early age so we arm ourselves with indifference and fear of the unknown to compensate for our lack of preparation. It's the lack of concern that is partially to blame for generations of introverts. We all have some preconceived notion of how people should think and act which when we find those who aren't common for how they act and think so we gang up on them. People who suffer from aspergers or those who legitimately suffer from bpd can easily be targeted for hazing instead of being accepted and we don't even stop to consider the reason they are the way they are, either out of fear of being left out or by not being consideredcool becausebeing indifferent has become a trend. So we usually are faced with 2 kinds of adults. Ones that avoid everyone else and those that are considered social but they're minds never left high school. I hope at some point we can all just do away with false notions of normality and just allow people to be people without worrying about they're taste in trivial things like clothes, music, entertainment, etc so we can start focusing on what's more important. Such as how we can make life more livable even for people of lower class. Or those who was raised in unorthodox environments. PS: please forgive my rambling. It's my day off and I might have had too much coffee 😆

i mean you can just be like "meh" just anything that isn't "good" you know

i couldn't get past seeing that scarf and those sunglasses on a consious level let alone that deep observation you just made.

@@cameronbartlett6593 Cry harder. No one cares.

Yess I agree.. it’s like a child like innocence. The personality you had as a kid is now gone, because we care what ppl think. growing up we realize that. if we tap into this mindset and get away from our negative/ trauma trigger then we can totally be free!

Amazing to hear!! Keep crushing it! 🙌

Also to Let Go and Unlearn The BS you believe that you negatively believe about yourself

Bec he just simply wanted to? @ 9:00 he took it off shortly

I totally agree with what you said Here. I do that for the same reasons and I think it is totally fine. Do you!

i just say "mmm" or "meh" to that so that people don't get the wrong idea

I think there’s truth in this. I had an amazing friend once who was very authentic and very honest but I know a lot of people found her intimidating. I personally found her refreshing until the last time we had a disagreement and she was a little too frank with me! Not easy when you’re struggling with mental health issues! Sadly our friendship never recovered after that so I think being careful with how honest you are is important as well. I still miss her tho authenticity like that is rare 😢

Be your definition of "nice". Not what you think theirs is.

Be nice when necessary. Be kind by doing courteous actions. Be real whenever you want especially when someone needs it. To hear the truth.

? Really?? Why that?! Which country?

@@8all8at8once8 Uk - he used to do dating stuff which was a bit edgy. Shame as I would love to see him speak live

@@CrocPit uuhh, like pick up artistry?

@@8all8at8once8 yeah I think so, didn’t really watch it but he does refer to those days sometimes

Exactly this. Nowadays being real is a quick way to get cancelled and have people trash talk you behind your back even more.

You just have to be selective. But its true alot of people dont know how to reach to honesty.

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Yes! Glad this was helpful! 🔥👊

Sometimes you need to socially calibrate and understand the social cues to ease people in. Other times it's them. Ask yourself if you are hanging with people who naturally get me or do I have to explain me to them. My advice would to find your lane and it's ok if it takes time

If you are “trying so hard to be authentic”, is it authentic or are you still in an internal struggle? I ask this question fully admitting I’m still inauthentic so it’s also a question to myself I guess. Also what makes more friends, lying or being honest? Would you rather be lied to?

Better to be friendless and authentic than put on an act and be surrounded by a myriad of strangers. Friendship is how you define it and if people don't gravitate to the natural you they weren't compatible with you to begin with.

Most ppl can't handle truth.

Don't try. Normally ppl have like 2-5 close friends, that's it

Thanks Dr Phil you really nailed it with that one.

You can't fool yourself either man

@@cosmicgiggler1044 feeling adressed, huh?