My MANIPULATIVE GIRLFRIEND invited my ABUSIVE and NEGLECTFUL DAD who ABANDONED ME 20 years ago... 

This guy dodged an absolute bullet with this woman! If she lied about that story about his abusive dad, imagine what she could have made up against him!

No wonder the girlfriend lied about what happened, she knew that her family wouldn't be on her side when they found out the truth!

Not everybody deserves forgiveness. I’ll never understand people try to force trauma/abuse victims to reconcile with abusive family members. Op made it very clear he wanted nothing to do with their father yet the girlfriend violated that boundary anyway. The fact she also used religion to excuse the dads behavior is just gross.

She's very religious and a stickler for forgiveness, but she lies easily about her partner and his father? I thought lying was also one of the sins in the bible.

I would honestly sue her just for the simple fact that that man would now know where I live.

It's ironic that she uses the forgiveness card to try to guilt trip the OP, but she lies to the family about the OP's father. One of the Ten Commandments even says "Thou shalt not bare false witness." Hypocrisy at its finest.

That daughter needs to be disowned.

2:06 and then she used his trauma that he shared with her against him….. wow

I really hope the girlfriend experiences EVERYTHING op had to experience so she knows what it feels like. If anyone deserves that, she does.

TL;DR Broke up with girlfriend because she tried to reunite me with my abusive father

Man, I really wanna know what that dad did to his daughter. I found the full story, and I sincerely hope he knocked some sense into her. I can't believe she lied like that to her entire family. Poor OP.

That gf needs to focus on not lying and minding her own business! She knew what the dad did and how hurt and still damaged the bf is but she didn’t care she wanted to play saint save the day not caring of the trauma she would be causing her bf! It’s great that he kicked her out and ended that mess!

My ex tried to get me to reconnect with my abusive family. I listened because she made me feel like I was broken for not having a family. I hate people who don't listen.

She is a liar, she knew that even her own family would turn on her 😂😂😂

gf''d dad is pretty sensible at the end there icl

I should not have laughed so hard at “stick Christ where the sun don’t shine”💀

Even though we can forgive people, it doesn't mean we have to let them back into our lives. I can forgive someone for wronging me while still prefering to never see them again. Also, forgiveness is a personal journey. Not to be forced on by others who don't understand the hurt. This woman has missed the mark on the whole faith and instead of using wisdom to approach problems like Christ taught, threw wisdom out the window and made knee jerk decisions based on her feelings. I hope she learns from this experience and OP gets some peace of mind.

"she is very religious" That's when you know you should stop

Honestly i normally don't agree but i hope her family goes nc with as well because this here is plain unacceptable and can't be excused, She is a threat to her own family with her actions, she lied to her own family about everything that happened, And most of all she talked to a man she clearly knew abused and sa op (and for all we, know possibly others.), and brought him to op's home, and since she didn't tell her family the truth, she made them think this predator was a good man when he's worse then a monster, so no she needs to face consequences and honestly not be near any children in her family if she wants to hangout with people like this pos man, op dodged a bullet because i can't imagine if he had children with this woman.

There a far larger issue at play. An issue that effects us all. And that is people in general dont take the abuse men suffer seriously. Its always: "You're just beinhg dramatic ." Or "Why didnt you defend yourself?" Or "What did you do to deserve that?" And while men are guilty of not caring it you ladies that take it up a notch and use a mans pain against him. Sure I seen men shrug their shoulders, but it women who really drill in the pain. Weaponize it and use it as a tool to manipulate. We are too concerned with the suffering of one sex that we fail to relise that the other is suffering equally. Truly I cant be upset with OPs ex, she lives in a society that literally makes fun of men suffering in all media 24/7. She is just a result of having a good father in an environment that tells her her bf is just dramatizing his plight. If the scars on his body wasnt good enough proff for her to listen nothing will. And dont get me wrong there are men who do the samw to women. But our society makes it a sport when it a man who getting beat down.

Yeah if i was the GF dad i would disown her....

She's gonna be in a world of trouble, 😅

At least his ex's dad apologized.

Girlfriend sounds like a narcissist with a savior complex. Because op said no she couldn't let that go and need to prove him wrong. Because she couldn't be wrong. But then doubled down by getting her family involved. She didn't even realize how her lies would be exposed. I wonder if the dad actually got their life together. Girlfriend probably fed him some story about wanting to reconnect/bury the past and move forward. Op will need to get security or move since their dad knows where they live now. But maybe after that reaction he will just stay away.

Okay the fact that she lied to her family about what kind of person his father was proves that she knew what he did was unforgivable, but she just wanted her way to feel some kind of moral superiority

I’m religious. A Christian too of the Catholic denomination. I forgive everyone even those who have really ruined parts of my life, but that doesn’t mean I have to reconcile with them. Forgiveness does not require reconciliation.

She's going to get a massive reality check when she gets home and her dad tears her a new one about her lying about everything

WOW!!! not only she gangs his entire family against op and not telling all the details, but also destroying all his trust using his trauma against him to reunite with this POS of human being....clearly the family is going to do 2 things... 1-revaluate all their beliefs and have the complete proof of the other side of the story. 2-disowning her and throw her out immediately for using their beliefs for the evil.

Rumors has it that OP reembraced the bachelorhood, and stopped dating for the next 5 years. His EX-girlfriend, was removed from her parent's will, and that of her grand-parents, and was banned from dating.

They don't know what trauma is.

As much as i am angry about what the dad did in the story and what the girlfriend did, I couldn't stop laughing at what OP said about his girlfriend's family defying the laws of physics.

Some optomists think they can make the world better by manipulating people regardless of their right or not to do so. My advice though is keep in touch with the family at least and explain everything that happened so they know the extent of her mistake. Who knows. You may not have them as future inlaws but friends who can understand your pain is a lot better. As for her, its time she sought therapy or a medical exam as clearly she is so deranged she would try to attempt a reconciliation. As for the father, if he tries to contact him then tell him the only time you want to see him again is when they put him in a casket and bury him so you can do unmentionable things on that grave.

There are some things that are unforgivable for a reason, you did well to drop them both out of your life

There's red flags, and then there's inviting your partners childhood rapist into your home to get your partner to forgive them. Wtf is wrong with people!?

"No reason?" - Bill Burr

What can anyone say? How dare she! I'm truly sorry for your life experiences. First, with your father and second with that bozo of a former fiance. What a doofus! Whether she is religious or not, she had no right to put you into that situation. Why do people do that to their loved ones? She is just as abusive as your father. Red flag!

Surprised the OP's ex wasn't disowned

Well she can't be to Religious if she has to lie about the story just to get her family on her side...💔💔💔

Should have given them 24 hours to return the money or you'd call the cops and have them all arrested

Can't swear, can't get too uppity talking about religion, she doesn't listen. Even without the dad, who the fuck would want a relationship like this?

"very religious" means OP isn't, which is probably the worst combo possible ... this kind of behaviour is just insane.

Well, at least the stupid GFs dad turned out to be a decent person.

Seen too many story of narcissistic (and oftentimes religious) people trying to reconnect what never should be brought together again. Whenever someone tries to talk you into forgiving or even just meeting someone you really don’t want to, you need to stomp down on that. Hard! Give an ultimatum. „This is not up for debate, you know why I feel that way and I personally don’t want to change that. I like/love you, but if you go over my boundaries this way just to feel better, we are better off going different ways. And if you actually go through with it, I will make sure to expose you to all who care…since in the case of those events, their approval means more to you than my feelings, wellbeing and approval.“ Never settle for someone who can’t have your back in this way. It’s easy to not do all that detective work, to not play sharade, to not set up a meeting between all parties. It’s easy because it requires to do no work other than not being a narcissist busybody who „needs to do good“. If that is hard to you, please BE offended! Seek help. Or don’t (and suffer potential consequences).

People its fine to be religious but don't push it on people who has a valid reason to not talk to a specific person

Forgiveness doesn’t mean hanging out

Stick christ where the sun dont shine 😂😂😂😂

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Thats messed up

Welcome to women folks. Theyre all like this

Sheesh you let your daddy walk around to this day knowing he got away with it... Nah see id take my time with a chomo like that

So she is very religious but wants op to reconnect whith his dad who did a plethora of things that would have gotten him executed under the old testament?

I'm glad the story is well read as I have to scroll down where I can't see the screen. The video used is just too distracting to watch.

Slow the freak down damn

Bring religious is a massive red flag

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