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Definitely agree on the childhood friends and the rivals to lovers dynamics. They are my absolute favourites. 🥰❤ Also, love seeing you and your mom's videos. They are always so cute and fun to watch. 😊
Her takes are really funny and actually quite accurate 😂 Edit: maybe not all of them but a few I definitely think I agree with and are accurate. Just wanted to clarify that
Some, I definitely agree with. A few others, I have my reasons for appreciating them more than her. But rivals to lovers and childhood friends, DEFINITELY YES. 💗
I don't know... Some I agree with (like optimist x pessimist and good (but evil) x evil (but good)), but others I just totally disagree (like hero x villain or cop x criminal). And then there's also the ships I literally can't put in any bad tier (but your mom did) because I'm included in them (polyamory ships or exes that still have feelings)
I could never do this with my mother, she would not understand me and would think im absolutely crazy. this is going to surprisingly wholesome to watch
One time my mom found out about my shipping tendencies, we watched an episode starring both characters in the ship (to preface, the episode where I went “I ship it!”). And when we get to that moment in specific, I kid you not, she blurts out with full confidence in the middle of a cute one-off scene: “HE ASSAULTS HIM???”
As someone who moved to America with a mom that doesn’t speak English all to well, it’s always interesting to me hearing what it’s like being able to have full blown conversations with them and them knowing what you’re talking about without having to simplify.
I dare say people understood that delightful cauldron of chemistry all the way back when Mr Darcy initially had no intention of dancing with Elizabeth at a ball. ☺
I get the feeling Coley's mum would love Good Omens😂 "different sides" "angel x demon". You could also argue the "good but evil, evil but good" im there😂 also "best friends with sus behavior"
GOOD OMENS S2 SPOILERS shed be hit by the s2 ending tho, they broke up but clearly still love each other. i wonder if shed change her mind if she understood that sometimes circumstances can change (such as aziraphale coming to realize heaven cant be changed / crowley would never want to come back to heaven no matter how much was changed) that make it so that they really can work through the issue that tore them apart
Everyone else go home, Coley's mom has made the definitive tier list! I love how she loves angst, and contrasting couples, but has no tolerance for relationships dynamics that are just bad for one or both characters, I feel that in my soul, and agree so hard.
I do like her list but I despise bully x bullied because it pushes the "he/she bullies you because he/she likes you" trope. Unless the bully isn't the one bullying the bullied, then it's fine
Ya know, your mum is very wise. She's allowed me to have a new perspective on some of the dynamics that apply to my previous relationship. Mainly "Exes that still have feeling for each other". My ex broke up with me because he wanted to work on himself a bit, and in the beginning I was fantasising, and even now I've been fantasising that he'll realise what he's missed out on and come asking to get back together with me. And part of me wants to take him back. But, she makes a good point - if we really cared about each other, we would find a way to work things out between us. And She's right. Our chapter is over. We need to start a new one with new people. Thank you, Coley's mum, for helping me confirm my decision of not chasing after him anymore. I need to find someone new who is willing to work through things with me there to support them. I was so willing to support my ex in any way, but he really wanted to break things off between us while he worked his own things out. Plus, he's currently ghosting me after he said we can still be friends. So yeah. SCREW HIM! I'M GONNA FIND SOMEONE ELSE! Again, thank you, Coley's mum. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! ❤❤❤
The most recent nightmare I had was a "Life Is Strange"-esque one, in which I tried to repair broken friendships, including with the last ex. However, it led to losing my best friend and current nesting partner, as well as an alternate reality version of myself getting into severe trouble with the law. Coley's mom has some damn good wisdom that can certainly be applied to RL relationship dynamics. Just further confirming that former relations don't deserve any more of my headspace.
A family member of mine broke up with a serious girlfriend, and while he was in the midst of getting over his feelings for her and having a really hard time, I remember him explaining that even if she decided she wanted to get back together, he wouldn’t do it, because she had already broken his trust in her, and even if she fixed the issues she had that caused the situation (she never took initiative to get therapy for those problems), he would never be able to have that trust for her again. She may one day fix those problems and have a healthy long lived relationship with someone else, but the two of them could never go back after that break up (and no, it wasn’t a cheating situation, just that the break up was essentially her throwing him in the trash, as he described it)
I had a scarily similar situation happen to me. A guy I dated broke things off barely a month after we went on a date that wasn't supposed to be a date. I had wanted a reason to escape my house for awhile because of personal reasons, and that "date" ended with me asking if we were dating. I realize it was a foolish question to ask, but I was wary of his intentions when he kissed me. Turns out, I had been right, cuz a year later, he confessed he had been using me as a distraction from his life. In all honesty, I couldn't blame him for that, since I was doing the same thing kind of. Anyway, he said he needed to work on some things, and I didn't try to talk him out of the relationship. I didn't want to seem clingy, and I thought it was wise of him to better himself so he could pursue the kind if relationship he wanted, preferably not with me. I agree with Coley's mom; once you're out, you're out. I didn't know how to feel about him anyway, especially after feeling pressured by a mutual friend between him and me to date each other since we _clearly_ had feelings for each other 😒
Coley's mom was so right to put rivals to lovers in god tier. It's devastatingly underrated imo Edit: OKAY OKAY I'M SORRY I SAID UNDERRATED!! It's just that ao3 has lumped rivals to lovers into the enemies to lovers tag when that's not what it is, and when people talk about liking rivals to lovers they usually describe what I see as enemies to lovers! So what I consider rivals to lovers is underrated! The way I see it, rivalries are not *inherently* malicious (though they *can* be if you want) and can quite often be lighthearted and all in good fun, it's a trope where the characters can be competitive and maybe a bit mean with eachother but still friendly, whereas enemies are...Enemies. Hostility towards eachother is inherent in the trope, it's what it's *built* around. TLDR; rivals to lovers and enemies to lovers can be very similar but rivals to lovers is often times more like enemies to lovers more easy going and flexible cousin.
I love that your mom is very invested in the character development in a ship. It shows she really looks at them like, "But is the story around them going to be good?" Which really makes ya think about "hm, I wonder why I like the ships that I like?"
Man I WISH I could have a family member rank shipping dynamics but the only one who even knows what shipping is is my brother and he doesn't really care about shipping even when its a canon relationship.
FINALLY! Someone GETS IT with bully x bullied. I don’t necessarily want them TOGETHER together. I WANT to see the dynamic play out. I want the psychological impacts. I want CONSEQUENCES. I want THINGS to HAPPEN for REASONS related to those psychological ISSUES. It’s not about the ship necessarily. It’s about the potential. It’s about the human psyche. It’s so much more than just ‘I wanna see em fck’. I could NEVER explain it before
I love how cerebral and deeply thought-out your mom gets with her choices and reasoning, super intriguing! She's definitely got the Elder Fandom mindset well in hand. If I asked my mom, she'd go purely based on vibes and not put nearly as much care into it. (No shame, we all love the vibes in this house!)
Coley’s mom just gets it about the exes trope. Like, you two broke up for a reason! What makes you think things are going to be any different the second time around? Pro tip for real life: if you ever find yourself tempted to get back with your ex, remind yourself of exactly why they’re your ex.
Lmao Colley’s mom talking about monster x human Reason why they like it Mom: “I want to see how it works” Colley(what she thinks) “I want to see how “it” works😏”
Your mom is actually on point with a lot of these tbh. She’s got the balance between the couple having enough differences to make it interesting but not wanting pointless fighting or drama. Also she could not be more right about rivals to lovers GOD TIER
I love how your mom gave reasonable explanations to a lot of her choices. She really gave this some thought. I could literally never do this with my mom. 😅
Damn I love her! Even the ones I disagreed on, she was making points! Love seeing parents who are able to have fun like this, mine would not want to play along and/or be very concerned lmao
Your mum is adorable and makes a lot of sense. I find myself agreeing most often. It was wonderful "meeting" her, and you're right, she explained herself well and it wasn't weird at all. Chin up Mama Coley, you were a joy to watch and hear your thoughts on. I'd love to see you on more one day.
I guess the liking of "Monster x Human" is genetic. I've also got the thought that your mother might be into Lumity if you showed her it knowing her tastes.
I think it's interesting how the reason why your mum doesn't like hero/villain is exactly the reason I DO like it! I love that fallen angel, dark side, corruption stuff, it's so complex and angsty and paints a really great story where they both influence each other in one direction until they're both morally grey (😙👌). Enemies to lovers? no! Enemies AND lovers!
I like the distinction between "bully" and "villain" made here. The bully doesn't understand themselves fully, and might want to be changed but the villain is likely a better schemer, and could drag the hero down to their level.
Your mom is great fun to watch doing this. She adapted to the game right away and had interesting reasoning for her choices. It’s sweet your mom could do this with you.
This was great! I loved listening to your mother's reasons, and it was fun seeing how she went from "Let's go off of if they will work out or not IRL" to "Hmm.. But will this be Interesting?". Her and I have very similar tastes lol
Love the wholesome insights in this video. As an author it’s always instructive to see audience reactions to ship dynamics! Thanks for enriching the wider author sphere! ❤
My second favorite dynamic is the two people you weren't expecting to date at all just up and going "oh yeah haha we're married" and everyone's just staring at them like "SINCE WHEN" My favorite dynamic is forced proximity loud annoying person x snobby annoying person
I've watched a video this style before and it was the funniest shit ever, I'm so excited to see your version of such a hilarious video prompt, also I love your mom she's nice edit: the hype is amazing when she moves something when already placed into a higher tier lolz
Now I know what to write to capture your mother. It's all over for her. Rivals to lovers or childhood friends in a K-drama fandom. Hell, I'll write both in the same fic if I can get away with it.
As I get older I find my tolerance for toxic relationships wanes as well. I want the bundle of love to be happy, not stuck with someone who hates them.
