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My mom wanted me to marry another person - who had a good career and would have lots of $$$. But he was a jerk - very abusive. My boyfriend at the time was so nice - but from a poorer family. My mom stopped talking to me, and refused to go to the wedding. In the end, we did get married by ourselves. It’ll be 30 years married this June!
@@marianaaleman1814 - it took about 7 years. She stopped talking to me for my university graduation, my marriage, etc... my son was born and I came very near dying due to a blood clot. She saw how wonderful my husband was looking after the baby, doing all the housework, and still going to work, while I was so ill in bed. She came around then to the fact that he’s a great husband.
I'm gonna show this to my parents before wedding. Coz I really wanna do a pure Muslim wedding. Pray for me so that I can have a blessed married life when it's time ❤️
Most Muslim weddings are definitely about families, not just the couples. Western cultures are more about 'this is all about me' but Muslim weddings are definitely about the union of two families. At the same time, what sidra is saying about families having lot of cultural expectations about what the wedding should look like is also true and annoying for couples trying to adhere to their religious principles at their wedding.
@@nav33ra THIS is the most widespread myth that a muslim wedding is about union of 2 entire families. No, it is definitely not a union of 2 families but Just the 2 individuals who're getting married. Definitely the families extend & relationships build but it's not thier union. I highly encourage you to go through the history of islam from the times of prophet Muhammad saw & see how the sahabas got married. It's truly an inspiration.
@@butterflybubbles3165 wait I thought those are given to the families of the couple who got married? Do they really throw away the chocolate cakes??? 😳
I cried at the part where her husband first saw her and said mashallah 🥺 so pure💗 I aspire to be like you, I’m working so hard on being a decent Muslim
Tell me about it! I’m the only Muslim in my family. I’ve wanted a simple wedding for years now and I’m dreading my family saying “That was such a boring wedding.” Because they expect drinking alcohol, dancing, music, dressing immodestly and intermingling with the genders to be a given. I kind of like the idea of a house wedding but I’m afraid people will not listen to me and bring alcohol and start playing music. I think having it in the masjid would just incur a certain sense of respect and they’d be too embarrassed to be caught with cigarettes or alcohol. And now with Covid the masjid is under lock and key. May Allah make getting married easy for us and help those who are struggling against their families for the sake of Allah swt and what He wants from them. Ameen.
I am also struggling with these kind of thoughts at the moment. Me and my husband have done our Nikaah while we lived in 2 different countries. Now he finally got his visa and is with me. But of course everyone is expecting a wedding. For now I am kinda pushing it to a couple of years later giving the reason of still being a student. However, a wedding without music and mixed gender is not something they are expecting. You know I was just like younger Sidra until a year ago, always dreaming of a big fat wedding with music and dancing. Now, everything is so different, I am different, but our families didn't change. This is gonna be difficult but we will pull it off In Sha Allah with the help of the Almighty. May Allah give our families the understanding of our deen🤲🏻🕋
The best thing we can do for ourselves is to make dua for Allah to facilitate the halal. You are trying to do something right for the sake of Allah and He will not abandon you. I tried to cut out a lot of cultural traditions at my wedding and I was so relaxed and happy that day, not worrying about the little details of making my wedding "perfect." Which ruins the day for the bride and they don't even enjoy the wedding because they're so worried about everything going right. People also aren't happy if they attend the most extravagant of weddings. Even there, something isn't to their liking so we can't begin to please people. Just Allah's pleasure is what matters the most and He will make it easy for you inshaAllah!! Stay strong! 🙂
I know it's hard but you're the bride. Lay out your rules guys. "No music, no alcohol and no dancing." You don't have to feel ashamed or depressed or nervous. If they don't listen to you girl make a stylish poster and hang and enjoy the way you want it. It's your day and you've all the right to spend it the way you want. You're not entitled to entertain people so they don't get bored. If they love you they'll respect your wishes.
Same for me... I’m the only religious person in my Jewish family. They still don’t understand why I do what I do. I wish you lots of love and support on life’s journey 😊
Since I discovered your channel I've really been trying to learn a lot more about Islam and more recently I've been trying steadily to practice Islam more frequently. I know I need to do a lot more work to get there but I can't wait to continue my journey
My whole wedding including bride and groom attire, cakes, decorations, rehearsal dinner....everything, less than $3,000. My dress took up most of that. It was simple. The ceremony was what I wanted. The reception had a line of guests that went past us, so we got to see everyone. There was cake, mints, nuts and punch. Everyone talked for a bit and then it was over. We took some pictures and we were done! Nothing super fancy. So I wish we'd had something fancy, some days but most days I'm glad it was a simple affair and no one was out anymore money than they could handle easily. Plus we were so young, 19 & 20....honestly we were just happy to be married. Gah, going on 14 years of marriage and I still love him.
I'm so sorry but I get sick to my stomach when I hear this😑. It not only make me nauseous but hate all the judging people. But in the other hand, I've to keep thinking about this on daily basis literally.
@@zfchaudhry1302 so true! To people who ask why doesn't Islam evolve according to time it's because islam is based on right and wrong and not changing trends trends are famous but can be right or wrong, can be beneficial but mostly harmful and Allah never harms us
@@_Maryxmkhan09 the Islamic naseeha is ok, when done respectfully BUT poking ur nose in everybody's business is not good at all , when u aren't even right in the first place!
Interesting! I am a Punjabi as well (Indian Punjabi. I am not religious, but my family is Hindu). The Punjabi wedding customs you described earlier are very similar in Hindu weddings (with a few differences) and I thought that was very interesting. Culture plays a big role in those regions and it overlaps with religion in some ways but not in others! I'm glad you went with a wedding that was right for you in the end though
You have the sweetest most positive attitude. 💜 I’m Catholic and I love learning about Islam through your videos! I find the similarities and differences between the Book Faiths so fascinating! 🤍
I am also Pakistani girl and know about the typical culture of Pakistan but one person can change the mind set of the society and INSHALLAH my wedding will be like yours
I grew up in sweden which has a lot of muslim imigrants but grew up in a family and neighborhood with quite conservative values and i didnt learn a lot about islam and i just wanted to say that im so happy that you are so open and talk about both your own views and general views and spread the right image of islam as a loving religion not hate based or sexist. its really intresting to learn and i think its really great! so thank you for sharing your life with the internet and educating all of us who are taught only one small side of a big world
I’m not Muslim, I’m Catholic. I want to get married at church, but this video encourages me to look more into my faith. I love how you talk about your wedding. You sound so sweet.
@ATHEIST BHAGWAN excuse you please be respectful when talking about someone’s religion. If you don’t like it at least be respectful about it and just don’t associate yourself with videos like these (I don’t understand why you would click on this video if you hate Islam) from your name I guess you’re atheist, and I’m pretty sure you won’t like it if we talk like this about your beliefs. No one told you to become Muslim, and who are you to try to shame someone on doing something they wanna do? Who are you to try to stop and influence them? People like you need to learn manners. Please think about this and try to be more mature and more accepting. Thank you 😊
I'm not Islamic but I love how much truth and spoken words you have for Islam. It's truly inspiring and your such a peaceful and kind soul. 🥰 I'm sorry if I spelled anything wrong or said anything wrong dont mean to offend anyone💕
I have argued with my cultural mom sooooo much over this topic I’m not even engaged 😭THANK UUUHH U R SUCH A BLESSING, I’m a Americanized simple Muslim girl who’s parents are cultural and I relate to u so much u make Islam EASY TO UNDERSTAND AND DO
Same here, sister. I'm from Bangladesh.. & a practicing muslim.☺️ My parents are so much social.. It's really amazing & encouraging to see your wedding mashallah🥰its my biggest dream to marry according to sunnah.. pray for me sister.. 💞
Im not hijabi or niqabi but still I had an Islamic wedding Alhamdulillah. Like you I belong to s cultural punjabi family. My nikah was done in the masjid then rukhsati aur then Walima. No mayun, mehdni etc and no dowry( Jahaiz) involved. Living in America and doing an Islamic wedding is a blessing. Alhamdulillah my mom was so supportive. I love watching your videos. Recently found your channel and subbed right away.
Im Christian, but like lately Ive been so interested in other cultures and religions. You are so great and hearing you explaining your love for this is so inspireing. Lots of love❤️
I recently went to a separate wedding and loved it! I felt so much more comfortable just being around women and it was one of the most beautiful weddings ever. Allahuma barik
Thank you for sharing your story! I love it! I am an American Christian woman, but I even find similarities in our wedding stories, especially in relation to honoring your family while pursuing your desires. I also love how easy Islam has made getting married! That's how it should be!
Muslim weddings are probably the most beautiful, special, and incredibly stunning weddings in the world.❤️ I go to my best friends wedding soon (she is Muslim too!) and I am so excited to be a part of something so wonderful❤️ Much love from a Jewish viewer!💕
@@amberdhillon7586 It is not wrong. But she is so traditional on one side, but talks more like an American and not her mothertongue. That is little contradictory. I don't mean it as criticism, it's just unexpected.
@@miramauckisch6412 may be because she was raised their lived all her life there so she is just got adapted to the environment and the accent because everyone around her talks in that accent 😊. Like this happens here in India too when a person move from one State to another state he/she get used to the culture, accent and the daily used words. They start using the same words as the people of that state do because its a human tendency. We learn from people around us😊. I understand your thoughts sister and hope I was able to explain a bit more in a humble way.
Thank you for taking the time to share these parts of your culture with us, I grew up Christian but don’t practice any religion now and I know how personal it is to share your religion and culture and I just appreciate the information! It’s so wonderful that you’re so passionate about where your family is from and about Islam, it truly is so beautiful.
Just so everyone knows, mixed gatherings aren’t haram if you are dressed appropriately and are not alone in private with the opposite gender. But your family should respect your wishes😇
@@aviadeloi498 An example would be if you’re at a mall, a restaurant, work, movie theatre, graduation ceremony, etc. You cannot barricade yourself from civilization. That’s why Islam has rules on how to act and dress when the opposite gender is present, and to not be in private with or touch the opposite gender. There will always be scholars who disagree with each other. But this is the bottom line. It’s a nice idea like the lady in the video if ppl want to relax and not have to act proper for a day
Your positivity, the happy tone in your voice calms me so muchhh. It's so therapeutic tbh. I'm a Hindu frm india n I couldn't be more thankful to hv found you. You made me realise how beautiful Islam really is n how uneducated ppl are around the world. Love you so much honey❤️ keep going✨🥺
I have to admit ... at the beginning of this video I was thinking that all of the Muslim guidelines were just too strict. Thankyou for telling us all about how you made your wedding work for you!!!! The traditions that you observed were truly beautiful!!!!! Beautiful!!!!!
I love that you had a little date mid wedding. It’s nice to be surrounded by your loved ones, but to have that time just the two of you sounds like a respite.
My brother's wedding was amazing I loved that He did nikah in a masjid Then after 2 years his wife and he started living together and the wedding day was so good.... No music.. No wastage of food... No extravagance... Seperate place for men and women Bride wearing jilbab on lehnga and my brother simple white shrug... All girls wore mehndi in one room and then gave a banquet which is an important sunnah and that's it Bdw that's the first wedding I saw so simple and peaceful In kashmir we have so many functions.. The wedding seems endless
Wow her hijab and niqab look stunning! And that abaya too! I’m loving the whole outfit. I never thought anyone could pull of brown and baby blue but I was sooo wrong
I like how you described each and every step of your segregated wedding. I am also a niqabi and would like to have a segregated wedding when getting married in the future In Sha Allah. Alhamdulil'ah after watching this video, it gave me an idea of how I should do mine in the future when I get a proposal teehee In Sha Allah. Thank you, Ninja Mommy. This video was really helpful, especially for us niqabi and hijabi brides. Love from Canada. 🥰😘
Your mum is amazing for eventually agreeing to have the wedding that you want. I loved hearing your wedding story and the pictures are gorgeous MashaAllah! I also had an Islamic wedding Alhamdulillah. 😊
The fact that you went on a mini date on your reception day is the cutest and funniest thing 😅 and that sister who helped you at the Masjid and waited for you, Alhamdulilah that's so sweet of her.
I'm kinda confused.... Your caste is "rajpoot" , I always knew that it's a hindu caste , and the cultural practices in wedding in your family is pretty similar to hindu cultural practices. It really astounds me how cultures are similar across the states. I really have a lot to learn lmao.
This is similar to the wedding planning process I’m going through with my own mom. She’s a bit more cultural than I am when it comes to weddings, and I’m wanting an extremely traditional religious (Christian) wedding. Though, we haven’t had much back and forth on a lot and we’re just trying to enjoy the process. (Those wedding photos are beautiful!! 🤩 😍)
I relate so much to your story. Being a revert, my family didn't allow me for a complete muslim wedding & I had to compromise some things but the nikah was done in a totally muslim way. I felt so blessed. And after listening to her, I thought to myself that I am not alone❤️ To all those who're still struggling to be on the right path due ro cultural influences, may Allah ease your struggles & do remember you get ajr on sabr😊
My wedding was without a Mehndi for the same reasons Alhumdulillah and Nikkah (which was a Friday aswell 😊) was at home but the only thing I regret is skipping my Hijjab at the wallima 🙁 I really become sad just thinking about it ... Only if I was outspoken enough to speak up about it ..... Edit: though im really proud of you ... MashAllah may Allah swt reward you, bless you both always 😊
This is so different than the weddings I've been to, but I really admire how much love went into the day. I feel like no matter what faith we have, a very beautiful part of any wedding is love. The love you have for your faith, family, spouse and friends really shines bright!
In Hyderabad India , Muslims having separate halls in weddings is very common thing , Alhamdullillah. & Also hijab & niqab is practised by more than 95% of Muslim girls... Alhamdullillah Alhamdullillah ❤️✨
The wedding you had is very similar to the weddings in our Arabian countries. I live in Jordan and our weddings are pretty much what you guys did, but the only difference is we put music on. Girls and guys never party together even in the Henna party. And the groom walks his bride to the girls haul, they have a little dance cut the cake dance and then he disappears for the rest of the night😂 and then the rest of the girls take off thier hijabs and abayas and dance all together. At the very end when it's time for the couple to leave the bride covers up and meets the male side of both her close family and his close family and then everyone is back home. I'm happy you've got a comfortable Islamic wedding and hopefully they will get ,ore common in Pakistan! Also thank you for helping about the music thing. I had always worried about if I should put music in my wedding or not. But now I'm more confident about it, thank you♡
I think a small wedding always speaks for the couple wanting to be a wife and husband, not bride and groom , nothing against big weddigns but small weddings are so cute
Hi Ninja Mommy :) i wanted to say thank you for creating this safe space for everyone. I’m not muslim but i still feel so warm and comfortable watching your videos. You have a great positive energy💖 bless you ☺️
Wow.... In South Africa how we usually do it is , we have the nikkah in the morning and the reception in the evening all done on the SAME DAY guys done and dusted .... Lol I find it so weird that so many people in the UK and the US have sooooo many cultural wedding events
It's depends what type of wedding you go to I also live in SA but the weddings I have been too are hectic But again I have mostly attended traditional weddings
I just got to know about your channel while I was scrolling on RU-vid.. I was thinking of all these things and you spoke each and everything what I thought! ..and I was satisfied that it's not only me .. many people have the same dream like you did..I really appreciate each and every word of yours and now I am completely confident about doing this in a sunnah way Mashallah 😍 Keep up the good work and make many more videos related to "being covered" in Islam I would love to watch it and get motivated In shaa Allah 🥰 Many people need guidance for transforming themselves and I always try to pass on these kind of messages in a small group of people like in my family and friends.. May Allah guide me the way he guided you😇 Ameen ya raoul aalameen May Allah always bless you and make you a person who spreads these type of messages in this islamophobic world Ameen!
I'm glad you had a wedding that you wanted and not bowing to your mother's wishes. And I'm glad your mom got her parts that she wanted. I hope that girl who helped you gets a life blessing. P.S. LOVE your wedding dress!!!!
Hearing the emotion in your voice as you recounted your beautiful wedding and your face reveal to your husband and his reaction ! Wonderful 😢❤ your happiness and your husbands is endearing and fantastic! ❤
"Log kya kahenge?" Is the biggest fear of some people... I don't seriously care about people saying negative stuff... because some people say and there's no way they will stop this so ignorance is bliss for such annoying people
It sounds like you had the wedding of your dreams. I’m so thankful you are sharing this knowledge with us who know nothing about your religion. May God continue to bless you. I’m a Christian, I always worry about saying the wrong thing or being rude, unknowingly. You are such a beautiful person.
Thank you for sharing this. I wore my hijab for our henna party and have been going back and forth about the wedding day.. To me I don't want to spend money we don't have on one single day but take money and feed the poor of his city (Morocco) as long as we have the Nikkah done that's all I want in my heart. So thank you for this.
you have no idea how much this video inspired me to stand firm on my beliefs even if my own family may not agree with it. I'm from Yemen and we have separate hall for males and females so free freemixing it not much of a problem for me. I completely understand how difficult it may have been for you to do that tho. jazaki Allah khair
I love your videos. I'll admit this right away, I was an idiot to what I knew about your culture and what your religion stood for. I judged before this and girl I was wrong for that! I find it beautiful now that you have taught me its exactly opposite what I thought it was all about before and I thank you for that. I'm sorry for any judgement I have put out there in this world and because of that, I will teach my kids differently and show them the true beauty of many different religions out there because at the end of the day, we're all beautiful in the inside and out. Thank you for helping me grow as a person and as a better parent. We need more ladies around like you. Stay blessed.
In Serbia its norm to have huge wedding and when I said to my grandma I want a small wedding she said:"but what will people say", we also have tradition to steal shoe and ask money for it. I ended up married to a Balinese man and we had to make big wedding cus it just "had" To be done🙈 like 500 people on our wedding 🙈
I live in Pakistan and somehow I have never been to any wedding with mixed gathering, there are separate halls for men and women and it's so convenient and when the groom comes to the women's side they first announce it that Parda kr lain mard aa rae han 😄
I’m a muslim From punjab pakistan but Alhumdulillah such wedding traditions are not practiced by my family. You are blessed sis . It’s not easy to convince your family not hold non islamic wedding traditions. And i like how u changed into a naqabi by the way I’m also the one . May Allah be always with you
This is the single MOST romantic thing I've heard! 💜💜 U r so sweet, kind, and beautiful in religion and in character. May Allah bless u and ur family and may we meet in Janah inshah'Allah sister.
I love the way she wears her niqab. I've never liked it before but she makes it look so cute it's changed my attitude. I'd love to see how she arranges it.
