My Older Sister Abused Me: Child Sexual Abuse Survivor Story 

My heart hurts for you, and for so many others like yourself. But my heart sings, too, in witnessing your valor and tenacity; to take something so despicable, which you had no control over, and actually rise up as you have - you are beyond inspiring- such a bright light for other’s to find comfort and solace in! I’m glad you found and turned to Jesus- he is the only salvation against this evilness and sickness that is so prevalent in our world today- and that you were unfortunately surrounded by. It’s hard to get your head around-- that there are those we call ‘family’, or our closest ‘friends’, who are actually filled with such darkness, and are so terribly lost. Sadly, they often prey on those not unlike yourself, who carry the brightest of light imaginable. May you NEVER doubt yourself, nor the beauty and healing gift that you have and are able to offer to the world. And please, never ever dim that beautiful light of your’s again.

I was also sexually abused by my sister. My is 8 years older than me. I have never met anyone else who survived abuse by their sister either. I’m 42 years old and whenever I tell someone about my past, they accept that my father sexually abused me. But when I talk about my sister, it’s always the same reaction from people. Disbelief and shock. Like it’s just so far fetched that a sister could be the monster. My sister has had no consequences for what she has done. She’s married has 3 kids and a grandkid. She destroyed my life. She was also abused by my father. My brother was abused by my father too, but my older brother always tried to protect me. My sister tortured me my whole life. She’s incredibly mean and evil to me to this day. She lives in Tennessee and goes on vacations and it’s not fair. She’s a monster and should be in prison. I can relate with you on this so much 💔😭 I kept my sisters secrets until I was in my 20’s when my father passed and she stole my inheritance. I don’t understand why this life has been given to us…. But I know that we are the ones who can help bring awareness to make this stop. All my love and light to you….

My oldest sister abused me too and no one believed me for years until she was sent to jail. My family owe me a lot of apology for not believing me. The things she did to me or forced me to do are unimaginable, just plain incest , something only a psychopath would do. I've bled out and got my face smashed in twice etc... life was so tough with her around and I'm so glad she's in a psych ward now.

My heart goes out to you for all you’ve endured. Your strength is humbling. 💜

You told my story. I'm 70 now and want you to know that Im thriving now, but it is part of me. You are so far ahead of me when I was your age so you are gonna eventually soar with the bones of steel you developed to survive. Dont give up. It gets better and better and better but takes work. P.S. you're a brave beautiful young lady. Keep sticking up for yourself when need be so bad people wont mess with you and let good people near you.

What a tragic story. She is such a brave strong woman to tell her stories in the hope of helping others. Bless you 🤗

Please consider this a supportive virtual hug. Your kindness and strength are amazing. 🤗

I have a similar story of abuse from a sister 3 years older from the time I was about 4 (?) to about 9-10. Again, similarly, I got this weird out-of-context apology, a random phone call when I was 18 saying I don’t know if you remember that “we used to play some inappropriate childish games” [gross understatement] and stating that her therapist said she should “take responsibility” and apologize. Although I fully remembered everything, like you, I didn’t really comprehend what I was doing when I quickly and easily brushed it off offering unequivocal forgiveness. It wasn’t until later that I began to understand the scope and impact of what had happened to me. Like you said, I much later began to understand the secondary aspects of the abuse, which may be even more hideous than the primary abuse. These things for me included: 1) established family myth/commonly accepted understanding of myself as an unreliable narrator-it was accepted “fact” in our family that any question of any event in our family history, no matter how trivial, would be misremembered or remembered wrongly by myself, and that my recollection of any family history of any nature would not be reliable-this was a carefully constructed, crafted, and curated myth perpetrated by my sister so that I would never feel I would be believed and, in fact, I would never be believed. 2) perpetrated myth of myself as a devious little golden girl who may have the parents snowed as to her perfect behavior but is really constantly sneaking around looking for ways to set the sister up to be framed for misdeeds (for which I was “really” at fault and my sister was the “victim” of such persecution). This taught me that I was the one responsible for my sister’s wrong behavior. I endured rehearsal after rehearsal of incident after incident explaining why I was at fault for her misbehavior. 3) commonly accepted family lore undermining my strengths or gifts. We’ll-accepted and commonly repeated phrases like: she doesn’t get straight As because she’s smart, she’s really no more intelligent than average or less. She just gets straight As because she’s a people pleaser and is unhealthily under compulsion to please her teachers (and bonus she has fooled her teachers into believing her golden girl act) . . . and she may seem smart but she’s really not-she’s only book smart, not street smart, not actually intelligent . . . and on and on. Obviously this secondary abuse has had much more far-reaching impacts than even the primary (direct/sexual) abuse. The mental and emotional manipulation and gaslighting and carefully crafted family myths so that I had no point of reference that didn’t also buy this narrative has had significant impacts that I am still unraveling today at age 49. After that “apology” when I was 18, I was oblivious to the scope and impact of both abuses-I just thought I could let it go or ignore it and move on. My first clue that there was something deeper, darker, and farther reaching in place was years later when my young niece (like 4) asked me for a story of when I was growing up with her mama. I carefully thought out a sweet humorous story that portrayed her mother in a positive light. After the story, my niece gave me a very puzzled look and said, no no no that’s not right, I wanted to hear the story of when YOOUUUU [insert reference to story of bad-me/victim my sister] . . . and when YOOUUU [insert another story of bad me] . . . and on and on. I was shocked that my 4 year old niece had a well-rehearsed library of stories about bad-me and how I supposedly victimized my sister by faking being the golden girl and setting my sister up and framing her to get in trouble. That was the first chip in the veneer-that stuck with me for years more before I began to recognize and address the issues. Meanwhile my sister has been protected for decades-I have never told what she did to anyone except my spouse and my therapist.

Bless u girl - my sister also abused Me and I asked her last year if she remembered and why she did it , hoping for an apology and acknowledge ment and guess what.....she told Me no sorry. I don't really remember yesterday, I have 2 kids bla bla bla 😮 busy life !! I told the family as she's very much seen as the golden child , as she is a good conformer ....no one supported me. Not 1 of them and there's 5 of them These ppl ain't my family. 💯

My heart goes out to you. I feel your pain, I too experienced this with a parent and recently remembered. You are a genuine soul, who is spreading awareness that is so desperately needed. Hang in there, it gets better. Sending hugs💛

Thank you so much for allowing us to hear your story. I hope to one day speak about my own struggles and the sexual abuse I faced as a child ages 5-12. There is a darkness in life that only we can know, but you are strong and I'm happy to hear that you have found empowerment through this journey.

God bless you sweet girl. And thank you for speaking up. You have inspired me to get tested for my symptoms. I never thought the abuse that my family endured at the hands of our monster might have affected me up to now. You are a very brave and kindhearted woman. You deserve all good things and wonderful people in your life. We all do. I wish I could give you a hug. You are loved

You're insanely strong thank you for staying in this world and helping heal others who deserve to be believed and comforted

God bless you. As someone who was also abused for a couple of years early in life I know how hard it is, also how we blank out memories only for them to surface up later on in life. You are so sweet and strong and deserve the world.

Just want to say. You're awesome. This was so pure and human. I know it took a lot of strength to make this video and become the person who could make this video. My heart broke a hundred times hearing your story, but I am left with so much hope. You are so strong...and just...awesome. Keep fighting the good fight.

You sweet girl, you are so brave to share this. You don't deserve what has been done to you. They are messed up people. It's so heartbreaking to hear your story. I am so sorry you had to go through that. This world can be so unfair.

I have lots of similar trauma in my family. Something to consider may be that your father and sister likely have also had similar trauma. Your sister had to have learned that from someone else. It’s almost guaranteed that your sister endured something very similar from someone older then her. Not saying this is ok by any means but Perhaps you can find a shred of peace from knowing this. This is extremely common, you’re not alone. I applaud you for sharing this openly! Very brave! ❤ your past does not define you, you’re not that person anymore. 💪

Thank you Alex for alerting us. All my best on your healing journey.

i'm dealing with abuse from a family member and this is really helpful. I also spent so much time chasing the person around and wanting their love and approval while they just pushed me away. I have never heard anyone share that experience. i feel less alone. thank you

I’m so glad you tell your story, your truth. It’s unbelievable how the ones we are raised to love, family first, are the abusers.

Oh Sweetheart!!!❤ THANK YOU for sharing your story!! I felt so much empathy for you…Believe it or not, there were SO MANY Parts that I related to EXACTLY! You have a pure, sweet heart, and I am so sorry it was trampled upon so horribly by those who were supposed to Love and Protect you.❤

Siblings can be so evil. Living under the same roof is torture. God bless. Time is a good healer. I can relate to several aspects of your story. Let out the pain/cry whenever you can; it's a good thing.

How courageous! I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through & hope you continue to heal & help others. Sending virtual hugs 💙

Brave lady...I salute and honour you for you bringing this in to the light! You'll open the doors for others! Bravo! 🙌🌟🌈

My heart goes out to you and all the other women that have been abused like this one. ❤❤❤❤❤

Be that lighthouse. You will inspire many. 🎉

You are not alone….I feel your pain & thank you for your courage & inspiration. Continue to share your story I pray that you can heal in the process & overcome your addiction. We all deserve happiness & peace….& more

bless u and thanks for sharing, you are helping so many others with your honesty and truth

Thank you for sharing this. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Please forgive yourself you’re not alone. Much love to you.

Sweet LexMindset, you will never loose the memories, but it will become easyer when you get older. I have C-PTSS, so i now how it works. Keep fighting. You are so worth to live. Find yourself in yourself and forgive. Thanks for reading my message.

You’re very strong and I admire your courage even when you were a child. You helped me feel not so alone in my similar experiences. Thank you, warm regards friend 😊

Talk about brave. I really hope you find piece and can enjoy your life. Youre a very strong young woman sharing this and bringing awareness for others. God bless you ❤

Your story is so painful and I believed every word. I can identify with parts of your story. Thank you for sharing.

This was heartbreaking. Know that you are an amazing young Lady with great beauty. Be strong and please keep close to Faith. Never blame yourself and treat yourself with kindness and love.

Wow I admire you for your honesty and strength Lex, that's a really harrowing life story, and thanks for revealing it to us so that everyone can better understand.

May your story be spread to all in hopes that child victims know they are not alone and parents learn the importance of protecting all children. I share in your pain and hope that one day the ill effects of your childhood are put to rest.

I'm so sorry that you went through all of this! I hope you are well and recovered and living a happy and healthy life!

You are an amazing and inspiring survivor. Thank you so much for sharing and I'm sure it will help others. You had so much forgiveness and did not receive kindness in return; there is a side of your sister which is not a good enough person - kind of callous. Perhaps your Dad is like this too. You will have a good life I think because of your strength and good heart, alongside having to heal from all this. Sending good wishes.

Thank for speaking out these things should be spoken about praying for your healing 🙏🙏

So sorry you had to go through this without any support. The child in you will heal. There is nothing wrong with you , you could not help what happened to you as you had no control as a child and did not understand. I pray that you will have the strength to forgive your sister also your father for his indifference. Wishing you every blessing for the future.

You are beautiful and beautiful for making your suffering something to help others with I don't know you and im so sorry you went through this... you amazing soul. Keep fighting for your life you deserve happiness

Thank you so much for being strong enough to share this horrible trauma that you endured. It definitely helps others feel that they aren’t alone.

thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing. trust me, i think we all have a story to tell, not to diminish in Any way yours…just meaning the more people who open up and share their stories, it just lets us all know we aren’t alone. our stories may not look the same, but just different people and circumstances. years ago my family went through some Really hard stuff, and i remember initially right after it calmed down, i laughed thinking, there is no therapist or psychologist that would Never believe me in a million years of what we all went through…and that right there is the lie…and u sharing your story is proof!! i pray peace for your life, and not sure how your relationships are w/your dad and siblings, but just always take care of you first.💕💕💕

Lex - you are awesome! You posted this with the intent to help others. What a spark of light you are!!! You are courageous and you are strong!! Look in the mirror and know you are beauty:). Your family has issues, it is okay. It is what you do with yourself and what you choose to believe that matters. If you have a negative belief about yourself, please throw it away. You can heal.

My heart goes out to you, bless you for your bravery.

This stuff is so sad. My mother and grandmother are. I had a friend who went through this. I am so sorry this happened to you! It makes me cry. I pray you get help healing and peace. I think people who survived these horrible things are the strongest people in the world

Sounds like you have suffered the travails of so much from so many. Thank you for your tremendous courage in coming forward. The world needs you to share this. We who have run the gauntlet of torture from our families must survive to warn the rest: Here....this is what you have done. Go and sin no more.

Girl you are so brave. I can't even imagine what happened to you as a child. I could never tell my children that I disown them. ❤

Almost five years ago, I was also sexually abused by one of my childhood 'best friends' and it absolutely tore me to shreds and still does, because not only was this person my 'best friend', they are also related to me very closely by blood, so I can never truly escape them. This person is less than a year older than me, we were so so close, until they started the abuse. It hurts so much still.

Just wow. You are strong and amazing. This did not look easy to film. Thank you for sharing. Keep doing what you’re doing, it will make the difference for many 🙏🏼

My heart goes out to you. Hopefully, your sister isn’t around anyone else she can victimize.

Wow, I can see your pain still! Kudos to you for having the courage to share your pain with the world! In these difficult moments, you are breaking free and getting your voice back! Never forget that! I went through sexual abuse from a distant Uncle when I was young but I had a very dysfunctional family and didn't trust my parents to tell them! When I was in my early 20s, I started going to a psychiatrist and it took 9 mths to get it all out. I had to face my demons and one of them was my Dad but I just couldn't do it. So, the doctor said to write him a letter explaining everything I felt about how he treated me, how I felt, what he put me through. I did that but never heard anything from him on it. Well, yrs later he died and I was at the house one day and happen to find my letter to him, in my Mom's sewing table and I asked her about it. She said he was really hurt by it. I was like are you serious? I couldn't have written those things if he hadn't done them! He didn't molest me or anything like that but he didn't love me at all and made sure I knew it every day! He was not to be trusted with my emotions or my well being. I blamed myself for yrs about being molested by my Uncle because I didn't tell anyone! When I told the doctor that, he told me that at that moment in my life, I made the best decision for me and I was blaming myself because I was thinking that I should have made a decision based on what my adult self would have done but I wasn't an adult then so how could I blame myself? That changed everything when I looked at it differently and stopped blaming myself! Sorry for the novel but if my story or experience can help this young lady or anyone else who reads it, it's a win-win for all of us! God Bless!

Keep healing. My heart goes out to you.

I listened to every word you were brave enough to speak and I'm so sorry this happened to you I love you thanks for sharing your healing journey in a way that can help many begin theirs own

I am deeply sorry for what happened to you. I hope you are in a place of great happiness. Sadly there are bad people in our lives sometimes they are our family. I wish you well and may from now on your life be wonderful.

Wow. Give yourself credit for having survived all that. You made it to the outside world. Just take things slowly. Your new life is just beginning. Hopefully at some point, you’ll realize that nothing your sister did to you was about you. If anyone needs therapy, it would be her. Sending you a little prayer of guidance and healing. ❤️‍🩹🙏

I’m so sorry for all that you went through. 💙

So proud of you for telling your story. God bless you. My sister and me wete abandoned by both our parents. Life was hard but we survived although there was a lot of abuse and trauma 😢😢😢

Saddly alot of ppl hide there abuse first time I heard of a sister being the abuser. You are such a strong person Thank You for sharing Prayers amd huggs.

This is heartbreaking beyond description

I come from a family full of generational abuse on both sides. It's a really, really hard journey. Don't give up on life. Don't give up on yourself. Don't fall prey to the victim mindset. Just keep working on yourself and know, really know that you will make it through this. We are not victims. We are survivors. 💗

Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are very brave and generous.

You are a true warrior to survive to the point where you can share your extremely painful experiences to help others AND forgive them. My heart and hugs and respect go out to you 🥹💓💓💓💓💓

You are strong and beautiful, keep healing!

Thank you for bravely sharing your story

This....this is exactly what happened to me 😔 I'm 23 now and just now getting help because of it. Thank you for telling your story, there is not enough stories about sister-on-sister abuse.

Wow. It's something you never think of, a sister would do something like this. It's very rare but it happens. I'm Very sorry to hear this happened to you.

This is so moving. I was abused by a family member too. It does get better.

How awful may the wings of the universe wrap LOVE &PROTECTION ❤

Thank you for being so courageous.

Thank you! I truly appreciate you!

I am so sorry you had to go through this 😢.

Thank you for your courage and for sharing.

❤ Dear you are brave keep up your inner work it makes you stronger and stronger. Never say sorry for your tears. I see you I hear you I know your pain ❤❤❤

You have a sad childhood . .please know you are LOVED beyond measure. Your in my prays❤❤❤❤❤

You don't know me but I wanted to tell how proud I am of you. I just came across this video today 10-4-23. I didn't have the best childhood either and after so many years the mental abuse part still goes on to this day 60 years of it.. you may not see my message here but you never know I guess. I'm always here even if it's a light chat about something completely different. Pretty much isolated myself at this time. So I'm always able to chat. And would talk with anyone else who might want to also

Because of you I said something....I will always love you...I'm sorry for your pain and grateful for your strength

You are a brave, strong and amazing person. God bless you

Thank you for sharing your story❤

You need to tell the authorities so your sister can pay for her crimes. So sorry for all your pain. Your brave, your strong & you were wronged. Keep moving forward & keep telling your story.

your strong women ❤if sister is the sick one if ur family don’t talk to u so what u can conquer and be strong 🫵💯are a survivor ! it’s sad that many of us have been victims of sexual abuse thank god this generation we speak out we have a voice we are no more silent 💪🙏

I was sexually assaulted by my neighbor when I was 8-10. I'm so sorry you went through this. Thank you for sharing.

God,what a beautiful,beautiful angel........Hold on to sobriety like a last breath,cuz its worth it;know it and feel it in your soul-it`s a precious,precious fragile piece of life to cherish after that fight to own it....Never take it for granted....My last drink,after several hard-fought ugly and sometimes bloody battles,was on Nov.20,`94,and each and every day after,good or bad,have been godsends......Love and prayers from the coast of Maine......You are one gorgeous woman........

You are courageous. Respect.

I was SA by a sister too... There was all kinds of crap going on in my blended family that my parents didn't even realize...

'Tired of keeping secrets for people who didn't care about me." Heartbreaking to have that pain. Forces us to be the bigger person.

I'm so sorry that happened to you I hope you are doing okay today sadly I too was sexually abused when I was a child I was groomed by a family friend I was 4 years old and by a male doctor I blocked what happened to until I was 14 years old I turned to food because I hoped that nobody would see me like that but it only made things worse for me because I was constantly bullied for being fat once I started getting my memory back I turned to self harm to cope with the trauma in a way I blamed myself for what happened I had a full mental breakdown I'm now 32 years old I still have bad days but not much I know what happened to me will always be apart of me but it doesn't have to define me

You have a kind heart, for sure.

Stay strong girl 💙

Your video was 10 monthys ago. I hope things have gotten better for you. I just want to reach out to hug you. I'm so sorry for the things that has happened to you.

I’m sorry you had to endure this abuse. Praying for the Lord’s will in your life.

I wish I could protect all you kids from heartless senseless pain ! Please stay strong sweetie it's your life now and you can make it as great as you want now ! See it in your mind as a clear image and the matrix has to deliver ! No one can take nothing from you now and only live in the now! See what you want and it will come ( ;

Hello Terribly sorry. I have a friend who suffered object abuse from a 16 year old female abuser when she was 2. I'm trying to understand the best way to communicate with her because it affects her severely even though it was so long ago. It is just shocking to me how damaging this can be...no, i haven't been abused so i am struggling to understand. Thank you for sharing this. I look forward to hearing more.

It takes a lot of courage and fortitude to sort through an abusive childhood and I commend you on your efforts! I used the breakthrough coaching program by Lisa a Ramano,I really wished I had done it or something similar 40yrs ago, I am able to function in a much more positive and higher frequency

More power to you, you deserve to be happy now. Take care

I hope you're doing ok these days. What a world... xx

Sorry to hear your painful life story. I was sexually abused by my sister. People don't realise it can happen the other way sister to brother. I was 9 years old she was 14 and didn't know what it was about. Touched me in areas she shouldn't. This happened for 2 years. I'm 40 years old now and only starting to open up about it to professionals trying to deal with this. Took a lot of guts to open up as I didn't know how I would be judged by others. The support has been overcome and glad I opened up. Even t hough I have flashback a and nightmares still. Takes a long time if it happens to recover. I hope so it's lik R tourcher...

So very, very sorry that this has happened to you. For your sister to be doing that, at such a young age, I can't help believing she was abused. Are you on speaking terms where you could ask/write to her? It seems she hates, and is disgusted with herself, and knowing how bad being abused is, can't bear to accept that she was one. She would have been very young, at the onset, I strongly believe she was doing to you, what was being done to her. For example, her deliberately twisting your request to have your mum's jewellery, she would have known it wasn't the monetary value, but to treasure momento's of your mum's. Her trying to justify what she did, in her mind, by your a callous money grabber. Also her reaction to your friend, at your birthday, was it from fear her shameful secret would come out, if you confided in your friend. Something seems "way off", regarding your dad's reactions. The first, his rationing about the jewellery, ....extremely callous. Also his initial reaction to your telling him you were abused. As in "you!" , when, could it be that he was abusing your sister? Maybe, you two, are both victims, and she is carrying self hatred, and has hardened herself to what has happened to her, as a way of coping. Maybe, you two could end up being true sisters, as all studies prove children who act sexually, have been abused. A child doesn't have sexual desires, but will 100% re-enact what is being done to them. Your a beautiful soul, and I pray the truth comes out, with you both being healed. I really hope your okay, please do a new video, even if it's short, to let me know how you are. Sending you my love, and hoping the very best for you 💕

I've listened to your story countless times I know you are not alone ...because .....because of your story I know I'm not alone

You are so so strong and beautiful!❤❤️❤️