Great steam to release. I resonate with you about SOME people (seems like most) crappy ways of responding to you. I usually laugh back at them or shrug it off. Had a few tangles & close calls myself. Lite is funny, friend.
Great video Man! So many points that relate. The hardest part of living Home free is dodging the cops all the time. My Neighbors burned down their house in the most retarded way possible after 5 years of terrorizing the town. With work I always found myself being responsible for more then I was being paid for while other did nothing but dodge work all day & call in all the time. The world could be a dream if so many people didn't make it hard.
Wow Earl what a great video. I can tell you've been to therapy, you are doing better than you think I think. Very positive and Buddha-like discourse. My life is great now; I have a partner / boyfriend I'm dating now since July, and I take Cymbalta, lol, - that's an antidepressant. I wish I would have started taking it ten years ago, it really helps, people who poo poo it are bullshitters - the chemical imbalance postulate is super plausible - you just beat the neurochemistry into submission with trauma over and over again, eventually, I mean the brain is an organ - it eventually just can't produce chemicals like it should. That's why I'm glad I can take that medicine. Anyway. I now have two dogs, Siegfried and Gina, along with the 3 cats Suki, Neiko and Pearl. You are a great friend!
As someone who only knows you from what you present on RU-vid, and who's checking back in after 7 odd years (no pun intended but I'll take it) I can say that I don't notice any dramatic change in your persona. You've always had what I can only describe as the serenity of resignation. It's not a surrender it's a wisdom gained from experience. I see so may people almost deliberately refusing to learn from their experiences only to fall victim to them over and over again. It's frustrating to watch. And in extreme cases that pattern of (unanalysed) behaviour really does change a person's personality. Mostly for the worse. They become bitter, unpleasant and harder to reach. You don't seem to have changed that much to me other than by whatever new set of circumstances you're in right now. I wonder why people say 'you've changed', as though being static was natural. I, too, finally started getting paid well for my skills in my 50's. It was lucrative and exciting and it made me stand taller. People noticed it and commented on it. I remember that needling me a bit inside. It wasn't a compliment on 'the new me' but a criticism of the old me. The one I secretly knew I still was. A huge benefit of your 50's, thankfully, is a diminished consideration of other people's opinions because they're just, like, opinions (man). It makes it way easier to say, "Thanks for noticing, how are you?".
Pretty heavy Dude. IDK how I found this channel years ago but glad I did. I may been directed here from the "Drink malt liquor with the Label out" videos. That's was years ago and I put the bottle down. Just one thing I learned for myself, too late, "Never Explain". I would find myself stuck in "explaining loops". Whathefcukin waste of time
Two errors of anger that both do nothing to fix a situation are the idea of retribution to restore some sort of balance, and the idea of raising some status that has been lowered. When you really think about it none of these responses will actually improve the situation. It makes more sense and it’s more practical to instead channel that anger somehow into something that will improve the situation. I don’t think we can pretend and ignore the phenomenon of anger when it comes, but you can try to understand it and shake it off in the moment when it gets too overwhelming. When the sensation of anger comes at you you can try to manage it in your mind only as biological sensation, and don’t even let any emotional attribution get in there. And if it does, start to think about all the imperfections involved in being human and remember that famous line “never attribute to malice that which is explained by stupidity”, and think of that Aesop fable about the Tree that doesn’t bend in the wind, will snap.
I think as far as the neighbor thing goes, that’s just the luck of the draw. I thankfully have good neighbors who are pretty respectful. I still can’t believe your neighbor approached the situation like that right off the bat. There just are entitled assholes out there. I think it would do you good to maybe start a new activity and join a group on that meetup app or something like that. Get the social juices flowing. What I’m saying is get some positive energy around you. Even just casually. I think you may be absorbing too much negative. The ying yang is unbalanced. That’s my 2 cents from this update anyway.
you make a very good point. have been inside my house for weeks and my only interactions now are at work or seeing my friend now and again. I shall try to reconnect with others. thanks my friend.
I wonder if your parents got into any trouble for throwing you out. Why don't you want people knocking on the door? Does it always come to no good? I remember you said you planted flowers so he couldn't park there anymore. That was a great response. It's all luck really -- what kind of people you wind up in the middle of. You could just have easily wound up with good neighbors. Well, not quite all luck. We do give off signals, many being so subtle that neither the broadcaster nor the receiver is consciously aware of them, but the receiver still picks them up and is affected. Maybe you're giving off "easy target" signals. I'm pretty sure that's what I was giving off when I was a kid -- or maybe just "fun target". Adults react differently to that one since they're less likely to want trouble, so if I'm still broadcasting the same as when I as a kid, it might be that. Your expectations may not have been quite realistic, but they got you a house. I still think it's best to moderate one's expectations, though. You can still wind up with crap for neighbors in a house, but you get fewer of them.
This channel is like a giant emotional black hole. I can almost feel my life force and contentment slowly wither away with each passing second of watching your vids.
