The Science Of Personality Change - Christian Jarrett

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Dr Christian Jarrett is deputy editor of Psyche and an author.
Most people believe that they are their personalities. That it's an immutable, unchanging, central part of them as a person. But psychologists and neuroscientists have been studying the science of personality change for many years and have uncovered strategies to change your personality for good.
Expect to learn why most personality tests are basically useless, how genetically heritable our personalities are, just how much of a change we can make from where we start off, how to stop being shy or introverted, the best strategies to become more ambitious and conscientious, the most effective strategies to maintain personality change and much more...
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00:00 Intro
03:26 The Problem with Personality Quizzes
07:46 Physiology of Personality
16:10 Can Personalities Truly Change?
23:59 Developing Different Admirable Traits
33:21 Extraversion v Introversion
39:07 How Life Events Impact our Personality
48:17 Making a Personality Change
1:02:02 Becoming Emotionally Stable
1:06:10 Improving Confidence
1:12:47 Where to Find Christian
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4 авг 2024

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@ChrisWillx Год назад

Hello beautiful people. Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 03:26 The Problem with Personality Quizzes 07:46 Physiology of Personality 16:10 Can Personalities Truly Change? 23:59 Developing Different Admirable Traits 33:21 Extraversion v Introversion 39:07 How Life Events Impact our Personality 48:17 Making a Personality Change 1:02:02 Becoming Emotionally Stable 1:06:10 Improving Confidence 1:12:47 Where to Find Christian

@GetCaught Год назад

Chris I thought you are taking diction and speech lessons! Purge the damn accent, it’s not YUR it’s year, it’s not YUURS it’s YEARS

@kbc1883 Год назад

Thank you so much for the time stamps! It is work to put them in and they really make a difference. I appreciate it so much.

@spybot6697 Год назад

Bro, stop drinking carbonated sugary drinks! Even the diet ones.

@GetCaught Год назад

@@spybot6697 he cannot control himself, and it is socially acceptable to do it so he’ll do anything that wouldn’t get him into trouble (including bashing Andrew Tate and using him as a bad example)

@yohaizilber Год назад

"It's only after you've lost everything that you're free to do anything." - Tyler Durden.

@juliatobiason3932 Год назад

Very true. I experienced this at around 3-5yrs of age. I barely survived back then in Korea and I’m still alive. Ever since then, I look and see thing’s from a whole different perspective

@GetUnlabeled Год назад

People forget that when you have nothing left to lose, that's exactly when you have EVERYTHING to gain - me

@juliatobiason3932 Год назад

@@GetUnlabeled. Touché 🤙

@jameshall9402 Год назад

I agree. One of the best days of my life was when I landed myself into a men's shelter for the homeless. I remember thinking that for the first time, I only had to worry about "me". My whole life, even as a kid, had been about others.

@az9498 Год назад

Horrible quote. Ever try doing anything with no money? Ever try to take a shower without a shower? When you lose literally everything good luck getting a job and getting to work without a way of transportation.

@Evie-bz1lr Год назад

I like this Chris dude, he actually let's his guests speak. I'm surprised he doesn't have more subscribers

@mudcoff Год назад

Chris Williamson is underappreciated. The most interesting guests spill their wisdom in half of Joe Rogan's time and without substances (allegedly).

@user_-qg6yd Год назад

And with better questions (no offense to Rogan as I love him, but he doesn’t have the same intellectual thickness)

@seanatkinson6677 Год назад

Chris such a 'machine' of content creation. I'm impressed by quantity and quality.

@prodigygod1 Год назад

Why take such an angle? JRE is exactly what its supposed to be and Chris seems to be hitting his stride.

@craigwillms61 Год назад

Agree that Chris has very good guests and is able to ask pertinent questions. Really enjoy these podcasts. Rogan is that guy who will ask the obvious or even off the wall questions, questions people might wonder about but would never ask themselves. I used to do that in meetings and people would thank me afterwards for asking a question they would feel dumb asking. I was glad to play that role.

@paavilainenelias Год назад

Great content Chris, I’ve been lowkey enjoying your show almost a year! Keep up the good content, it is such nice thing that you have so different kind of guesses from various fields/topics. It keeps the show really interesting

@andymerkley7087 Год назад

Loved what you said around the 53min mark about setbacks and how to deal with them. Seeing them as resets is a much healthier way of framing them.

@dalerobinson1604 Год назад

Still in the adverts before VT starts … already excited. Just completed my MSc in Behaviour Change and it started with this man’s second book and I got his 3rd on Be who you want to be, last year. Excellent man with easy communication style - looking forward to this now

@CessGreen208 Год назад

Man, you just keep pumping out great content. I'm starting to become a regular 'full episode listener' here which is rare for me with this type of content. Super interesting subject with some great insights, Christian seems like a very down to earth and likeable person also.

@marcusp905 Год назад

@Unknown we love the unknown

@blindianajones Год назад

This reinforces a common sense approach to change. While there are many programs, methods, books, etc, the most effective and lasting change occurs when one actively is aware of input and output. Aware of how one feels seems to be the best indicator for change and tracking change.

@shusrutorishik8159 Год назад

Some practical notes and tools (according to the video) that are applicable immediately in order to start shifting personality traits. - Shake things up. Change won't happen by itself. - It's going to take a long time - Having lots of different strategies is important. Tailoring them based on circumstances is also crucial. Tools: Improve Trait Conscientiousness: - Adopt the mindset where "The more discipline I exert, the easier it is to stay in that state" over "Discipline is a finite resource and if I use it up too quickly, I won't have any left in a day." - Engineer environment so you aren't tempted to do the thing you're not supposed to do to begin with. Improve Trait Extroversion: - Do "Best Possible Self Exercise" to improve optimism. The Best self exercise essentially involves imagining things going perfectly in the areas of your life you really care about over the next 5 years. Can be repeated each day. - Fake it to make is really important. Really put yourself out there. Even (especially) if it makes you uncomfortable. You'll re-calibrate and learn the skills. Improve Trait Neuroticism: - Cognitive reappraisal. Re-frame negative emotions in a positive light (when appropriate): "I'm not scared, I'm excited to do this." - Affective labeling. Label emotions to dampen negative effects. - Do "N-back" brain training. Improve mental control to handle anxiety better.

@Carroty_Peg Год назад

Growing up amongst people who blame everything on circumstances outside themselves and wonder why they reach 60, overweight and haven't come close to realising their dreams....it's a hard mindset habit to break! I wish more people talk about family estrangement and the methodology of making adult friends that aren't trauma bonding!

@azhivago2296 Год назад

I can speak from authority here. The key is to under (almost) no circumstances (practically speaking) accept any toxic behaviour in your life. None. Look for the red flags in others, and be ready to leave at the first true sign of toxic behaviour. Equally important: hold yourself to the same high standard. Strive to be a healthy force in peoples' lives. Celebrate and encourage peoples' victories, and feel genuine disappointment when a friend fails or is going through a hard time. Tell the truth, have integrity, don't bad mouth people etc and follow a good bit of JBP's advice when it comes to being a responsible, healthy adult who looks after those around them. But, again, don't be a pushover - decisively cut out, block and remove any malevolent actors...

@DKM.23 Год назад

Smoking effects levels of extroversion? That’s crazy!

@johnranalletta9249 Год назад

"Personality" is how we behave (seen by others). Persona = what we show to the world. One can choose to behave differently, Jarrett's "shake things up", but it's damed hard to do. IMO, personality is a function of blood chemistry. How? For centuries, drugs have been used to alter behaviors all the time. Change personality? Take drugs.

@PeterSodhi Год назад

Incredible the best content out there

@seedsman02 Год назад

Life is a situation thing, governed by where and what they’ve been born into. Outside influences and the intellect of those around them dictate the awareness of the person, the intellectual ability to make personal changes so to speak, the emotional strength to take on the challenges. Finding the internal fortitude to attempt to change, to take on the challenge, must be seen as the driving force, as the most important thing in your mind. To add value to the change you seek is the key, and it must be as valuable as your future life itself.

@MichaelAlberta Год назад

Thanks Chris!

@michaelweber5702 Год назад

Some people are more reticent ... Some outgoing and gregarious ... Chris , you do a damn good job !

@flowmovementtherapy2096 4 месяца назад

My master's degree was partly on quantifying personality types in a bird species and then assigning each individual to one of those categories. The early literature includes a test for boldness/shyness (essentially extroversion/introversion) called the 'novel object test'. They used an object that would never occur in the species' environment; a stuffed pink panther doll. They tested how readily an individual explored this novel object as a test for relative boldness. In my personal life I've stumbled into a lot of the techniques discussed in this podcast. I've also had tremendous success using the methods of Dr Joe Dispenza.

@eliterun6214 Год назад

You should have the Objective Personality System folks (Dave and Shannon Powers) on here if you’re trying to get a handle on personality, what they’re trying to do is very interesting.

@sononi4798 Год назад

Adapting sociopathic traits is not just a male conundrum. I'm looking for a job and I've been forced to become the biggest bullshit artist. Customizing my resume to make it through ATS and writing cover letters to appeal to the company values. One day I'm passionate about ethically sourced alpaca and the next I'm an expert on the acid balance of rare olive oils. Holy shit I just want to make earrings and have an etsy store but I need a job.

@missshroom5512 Год назад

Having even just an experience can change you drastically and forever. Think of a hunter that has hunted for 30 years and then runs into Sasquatch…then decides to never hunt again or even step in the woods again🤔. I believe everything and everyone changes In some way everyday

@joshtalks1611 Год назад

That thumbnail looks awesome

@kenjikyochi2348 Год назад

I found that is easy not to smoke or drink if one is a introvert because of the lack of social interaction and so the lack of need to do things that done at a social gathering like smoking or drinking.

@seedsman02 Год назад

My mother, the darling, gave me some advice as a youth, “jealousy she said, is the closest thing to insanity” and she would have known, she was gorgeous.

@randomnameindeed Год назад

Easily my favourite podcast! I love your work, Chris!

@shadows-xn3ed 3 месяца назад

Most people cannot self motivate, that’s why our bodies had such a powerful sex/family building drive. It was a way to get people up and moving that has been completed undermined by our culture.

@danaakon7633 Год назад

When my friend stopped smoking, his personality changed. He became less friendly and outgoing. He no longer smiles and he doesn't talk freely anymore.

@phoenixkirchoff5268 Год назад

Yeah. I know when I smoke I become much more extroverted because of the relaxation and happiness factor. Any generalizations are just that...generalizations. There is value to it, and we all fit some generalizations. However we also don't fit all generalizations. That is, we can be outliers in some areas.

@knowahnosenothing4862 Год назад

Deep breaths, even smoke laden breaths relax the body. Amazing how that works.

@colinb8332 Год назад

He probably relied on it as a crutch to help him out. You can’t just take something out and not replace it with something else. I had a friend who stopped smoking cigs and he seemed miserable for weeks. Started building random stuff in his garage as a new hobby, seems like he’s found his joy again.

@brandonguerrero1110 Год назад

Important notes: Extroverts respond to external stimulus, while introverts respond to internal stimulus. There is little overlap for people who are on either end of the spectrum. These people live entirely different lives with entirely different preferences, habits, strengths, and pitfalls. If you want an extremely accurate personality test, especially for your career, social life, communication, and overall habits, go do a DISC profile, thank me later.

@knowahnosenothing4862 Год назад

Myers Briggs is better and free

@ryadh456 Год назад

What do you mean by internal stimulus?

@dumdum8880 Год назад

@@ryadh456 Your thoughts and feelings.

@ryadh456 Год назад

@@dumdum8880 okay gotcha yeah that makes sense

@brandonguerrero1110 Год назад

@@knowahnosenothing4862 free yes, better definitely not. I'd highly suggest checking out DISC. if you're price sensitive many institutions offer it for free or you can easily get your employer to pay for the whole company to access it. if that happens, you get kudos for introducing it to your bosses guaranteed.

@kevin.skorupa Год назад

Personality change is an interesting idea, but as Jordan Peterson has stated many times, there really isn't such a thing as a bad big five personality trait (unless maybe it's at an extreme). Because of this, I've always thought of personality not as something that should be changed, but something that should be embraced and exploited. My thought is that if you try to make yourself more conscientious than you are, you will not be true to yourself and you will burn out quickly. if you understand your personality and find out how to use the aspects of your personality to their full potential, then you'll be more satisfied. Maybe our personality is what it is because that's who we want to be at a fundamental level.

@akramer6015 Год назад

Agreed. Reminds me of the idea of incorporating the shadow. Carl Jung stuff.

@ScooterCat64 Год назад

My personality is to be a hermit and interact with no one in person

@ufink Год назад

@@ScooterCat64 😂..

@moneylaunderer6313 Год назад

45:24 - threat mindset vs challenge mindset

@patriciacole8773 Год назад

Character/ disposition/ personality Ambivert/ omnivert…. I believe we are to overcome our weaknesses through our strengths. And mental health is better in those choosing to live from the strengths of their personality. And that criminals are choosing to misbehave from their weaknesses. May I recommend two volumes of compilations from Ellen White called Mind, Character, and Personality.

@angelcandelaria6728 Год назад

Great episode gentlemen!

@AmeliaBodilia Год назад

You can change your personality and still love the same people, but will they love you back?

@rossshiell2670 Год назад

What I most enjoyed about this episode was seeing you adapt to the needs of your guests - some just need that bit more enabling. You could see Christian growing into a role that perhaps wouldn't be his first choice for sharing his thoughts.

@akumacode Год назад

I think personality is the Big 5 on a gradient. Much like color in Photoshop, but instead of a combination of RGB it's a combination of OCEAN

@ready1fire1aim1 Год назад

Nobody seems to be aware that there are two different YHWH's and two different Old Testaments and it's weird... The Kuntillet ‘Ajrud inscriptions mention blessings by the names of YHWH of Samaria (Yehowah) and YHWH of Teman (Yahweh). Like all ancient Near Eastern gods, these two regional gods must have had central temples. This article examines their possible locations and suggests that the combination of the Kuntillet ‘Ajrud inscriptions with the eighth-century prophecies of Amos and Hosea holds the key for identifying these. In light of a detailed analysis of Hosea’s and Amos’ prophecies, it is further suggested that YHWH of Samaria was the name of the major God of the Kingdom of Israel and his main temple was located at Bethel, and that YHWH of Teman was the name of the God of the southern desert regions and his temple was located at Beer-sheba. Israelite traders who traveled southward probably visited the latter god’s temple, offered him sacrifices, made vows to repay him if they succeed in the expedition, and thus turned him to be their patron god during their travel in the desert region. This suggested identification explains why the Judahite cult place of Beer-sheba appears in Amos’ prophecy alongside the Israelite sanctuaries of Bethel, Gilgal, and Dan.

@Critabble Год назад

51:50 59:50

@Peachesndkareem Год назад

Chris: ...and how is that adaptive? :D

@catdogfishdogcats Год назад

46:54

@AmeliaBodilia Год назад

Meaningful change takes time and continuous effort. You’re born with a certain personality, but your environment will greatly influence it. I enjoyed this conversation even though Christian is coming across as a bit “skittish” I find him genuinely competent.

@DeadManVlog Год назад

👏

@marcusp905 Год назад

Remember women want to push the buttons!the difference is indifference!

@raginald7mars408 Год назад

Herr Putin is an excellent student of this

@ilikethiskindatube Год назад

I'm sure a military man on the show can tell us about forcing personality change

@krittikachandhok4339 Год назад

One thing I do not understand is he makes the claim that personality tests aren’t robust, then goes to talk about Big Five in length

@KingRyanoles Год назад

Great comment on treating the mind through the body first. Mind and body are not separate things; they are so deeply intertwined. More time outside exercising and eating better is one of the biggest steps towards improving mental health.

@pottymouthmexican Год назад

just because people are educated. does not make them fun to listen too.

@DanValentineFilms Год назад

To dismiss Meyers Briggs as woo is too simplistic an answer. If you go look up a Meyers Briggs test right now it will likely use the OCEAN (big 5) model that this fellow is suggesting. For example, the E in OCEAN and in ESFP (personality type) is "Extroversion" which he talks about a lot.

@celesteschacht8996 Год назад

😍💝

@MrJamesdryable Год назад

Who's this "me" they keep referring to? Where's this "self"? The human is a wholly responsive machine, there's no free will.

@ScooterCat64 Год назад

You talk like an alien from another planet

@ready1fire1aim1 Год назад

What do Samaritans believe in terms of the Bible? Samaritans believe that the Jewish Torah, and Judaism, have been corrupted by time and no longer serve the duties that God mandated to the Israelites on Mount Sinai. The holiest site for Samaritans in their faith is Mount Gerizim near Nablus, while Jews view the Temple Mount in Jerusalem as their most sacred location. The Samaritan religion: Their principal canonical text and main norm of religious observance is the Samaritan Pentateuch. The Samaritan Pentateuch contains the basic text of the first five books of the Hebrew Bible, yet there are about 6,000 differences between it and the masoretic Jewish version. Why did the Judahites not like the Samaritans? The Jews called them "half-breeds" and sent them home. The Samaritans built their own temple which the Jews considered pagan. The feud grew, and by the time of Christ, the Jews hated the Samaritans so much they crossed the Jordan river rather than travel through Samaria.

@TarzanWannaBe7 Год назад

To "go full Andrew Tate" is best.

@phoenixkirchoff5268 Год назад

Just another podcast episode that shows how narcissistic we have become as a society/species. Why must we try to quantify and try to tweak everything under the sun? Why must we chase godhead than just live to experience what we have in our brief time here? I am not saying this guy shouldn't chase his holy grail, but stop trying to push it upon others. From what I have seen, the more we tweak with the mystery that is life and experience and want control over it, the more it will slip away. Get inside yourself and get outside yourself as it works for you. Just my opinion. Much love.

@grosbeak6130 Год назад

Did you have to say "much love"? I've heard that phrase from so many people and on social media. pfft.

@phoenixkirchoff5268 Год назад

@@grosbeak6130 I hear ya. Been using that phrase since the 90s, so maybe it has become lame now. But I also still use "cool" a lot also. I am sure we all overuse language in many ways, but your input is welcome.

@JdotCarver Год назад

Pretty sad when the host seems to know way more than the guest. Williamson knew every answer before even asking the questions, and seemed to even have more to say than the guest had.

@aks1993kumar Год назад

This guy doesn’t seem to be confidant in what he is talking about

@Mapleaple Год назад

You don't know that. I personally think that what you think is incorrect and would like you to know. I thought you would like this comment. It's not towards you. It's for the people that read this on your post.

@napndash Год назад

Rubbish, he’s confused. Personality can’t be changed by mood

@BasedChadman Год назад

I hate how difficult it is to change your personality. Some of us genuinely are dealt bad and good hands. Maybe ketamine therapy can help me or something.