OK PLEASE READ before you comment! I acknowledge in the video in the part about cure all’s that meditation, mindfulness, and breath work can be helpful regarding the things talked about. I did not say they have no EFFECT. I said there’s no evidence they are CURES (because thats what some people claim they are). (sorrry- im not yelling i just don't know how to make it bold) I do not need everyone to tell me that mindfulness helped with their anxiety- I believe you! and said in the video that I agree that those things can help. I feel like I'm going insane- everytime I post a video, there's always people disagreeing with things I didn't even say or are telling me things that I myself said... but as if I said the opposite. Idk what I can possibly do to stop having my words be twisted every single video? I suppose this is just part of youtube so I should get over it, but please someone let me know how people can watch this video- and actually listen to the words I'm saying- and think that I said meditation etc cannot at all help anxiety etc when I said the exact opposite. ALSO I am not claiming that anything talked about in the video are core aspects of new age, they are just things that some people promote! ___ let me know your thoughts on this cuz i was thinking about it while editing: do you think that a lot of people take things to extremes when it comes to new age and have black and white mentalities or do you think it’s just those who do who are the most polarizing and therefore get the most attention and are the most well know because of that?
Anna's Analysis Majority of narcissists either are into extreme spirituality or extreme religion and they use it to feed their ego and use it against others.
Black-and-white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking (Splitting) "in Psychology is a defense mechanism. This leads to omnipotence and refusal of dialogue found in destructive narcissism. Splitting contributes to unstable relationships and intense emotional experiences. The obsession of only wanting positivity like Law of attraction forces the others to revolve around them. In the meantime, they are being very negative towards others.
I'm leaning towards the latter. I wonder if the extremes are coming from influencers and people who are making money off of talking about new age spirituality on social media platforms rather than "normal people" (non-influencers). With normal people there's likely no monetary incentive, as well as not living in bubble and interacting with people of differing beliefs. Granted, most of my experience with new age spirituality comes from influencers rather than people I've met in real life. Edit: The toxic positivity I've seen online seems very performative, which can come from both influencers and not, regardless of religious or spiritual beliefs. This could come from the role of social media in everyone's lives, and feeling the need to only show highlight reels.
There is plenty of evidence they have cured people from depression, drug addiction, and other mental illness. I’m one example! I don’t know where you did your research? Plenty of studies on this from reputable scientists.
That's unfortunate, but I'm thinking the problem may actually stem from modern American/western culture more so than spirituality itself. If one looks for the sake of comparison at contemporary American evangelical Christianity, there is a emphasis in many churches on using prayer and Christian spirituality to achieve prosperity and "blessings" like wealth. This mentality is mirrored in much of western New Age thinking because our capitalist culture glorifies "success" in terms of material wealth and possessions. This mindset filters through into our spirituality. If you use your religion or spirituality (no matter what it is) in a self-centered way to manifest your desires for the purpose of self-gratification, then this egocentric pattern of thinking WILL manifest in your life by turning you into an egocentric person. But if you visit India where many New Age concepts like chakras and the third eye originally came from, you'll find that so many traditional Hindus are very kind, warm-hearted, people who are far from egocentric and judgmental.
I believe the basic principles of the New Age movement like holism, our connection to nature, monism (the unity of all things) are valid, but it needs to grow up and make empathy, kindness and compassion towards all living beings central. Belief in these basic principles SHOULD make us want to care for our planet and its environment, and do what we can to help those in need among us. Because we are all connected and ultimately we are all part of the same Cosmic Consciousness, the practical application of these beliefs should be to make us want to use the life we have been given to accomplish the greatest amount of practical good we can towards others and our planet.
I’m a spiritual person and I agree. When I first got into spirituality, it was portrayed as this destination of enlightenment and awareness. Over time I realised that I was using spirituality as a coping mechanism to deny reality. Which is the opposite of awareness. I found a spiritual teacher who really woke me up to this and taught me that emotions are not “unspiritual”. That was the day when I truely began to heal.
No, you got into it with the wrong mentality. Spirituality is all about being aware of ALL your emotions (so both good and bad) and learning how to deal with them the right way, so you basically accept them all instead of being scared of them. It takes time to understand and know how to really do that, which is why doing spiritual practices can help a lot if you continue to do them :)
Yup! & sage/palo santo and all other “trendy” tools that are creating this industry pressure. All for the same people who abuse it and spiritually bypass their shit 😩
My boyfriend brings this up all the time cuz so many of my friends constantly are giving me crystals as gifts! 🙈 it really is weird no one talks about it.
Leonor Teixeira it was really easy to google that one ;) www.theguardian.com/global/2019/jun/16/are-crystals-the-new-blood-diamonds-the-truth-about-muky-business-of-healing-stones
The way spirituality and “wokeness” is being peddled by influencers leaves a lot of depressed and anxious ppl feeling even more lost. Law of attraction can lead to toxic shame for ppl with mental health issues blaming themselves for not being able to “manifest” and “keep a high vibration. All of these things have their place but there’s too many unqualified coaches giving advice on complex topics (like trauma) that they have no business speaking on.
Yes! I couldn't agree more. I work as a therapist with people who are working on their trauma and some of the life coaching things and people without any education in trauma talking about this is really concerning to me.
I have an "autoimmune" disease and many mistery symptoms and have suffered chronic illness in the past. Ive heard too many times that I have manifested my illnesses. Im not denying that supression of my nwgative emotions has contribuited somehow to some of my suffering like keeping stuff bottled inside, never talkin about it, but it is super shitty and dangerous to tell someone they are suffering bcs they manifested or created their own disease. It takes their power away. I have been working with energy healing to heal some of my traumas and also did therapy but tweaking my diet has helped the most.
Absolutely. I have a friend who wants to be a “life coach”. A lot of the material she is using from her own coach is based loosely on CBT and DBT. However, they have no training on how to safely support people through this. I asked her, “ what would you do if your client disclosed trauma, abuse, suicidality or self harm”. She had no idea that would come up. She thought that people would have an epiphany that they just need to have a vision board and that would magically achieve their life goals. She is very uncomfortable talking about these topics or the idea of gaining education in counselling.
I was born with a physical disability that gets worst over time and mental health issues such as anxiety and depression come as a side effect for me, and my experience was that new age stuff helped me take more accountability for my thoughts and actions which in turn helped me be a better person (once I stopped victimizing myself so much, people began to react better to me) and I became happier because of it. But, I feel new age stuff still relies on a lot of faith based stuff, and they feel we have a reason we are here or some shit, and as a person who got out of a cult at 23 years old, that's what pushed me away.
tbh, as someone who has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer last year at just 18 and undergoing chemo it feels really invalidating to hear stuff like “mOdErN mEdIcInE iS bAd” and to believe that I did this to myself, as if being sick wasn’t bad enough already. I’m really glad you talked about this !! 💕
Its ironic how the moment you stop to worry about being your best self and come to terms with who you are right now,is the starting point of you actually becoming better
Most of these teachings are just fluff. They promote not doing and just being which doesn't make any sense at all. It's a religion for the lazy. I fell into this trap and in ruined my life.
Agreed- and critical thinking is hard work whilst belief is easy- which is why so many people choose belief in nonsense over being aware of their own biases.
New age is just repackaged Hinduism. The reason why New age feels a bit incomplete or overly positive is because they just took some philosophies and practices from Hinduism and made it look a certain way to attract the westerners.
I am also interested to hear that! Also, I find that all old religions/worldviews are well-rounded in sense they include the fact “yeah, life sucks, sometimes big time”. For some reason I don’t like Orthodox Christianity, I feel like it’s ALL about suffering and being judgmental and not too much about not giving an f. Don’t know about catholics, tho. And maybe I feel this way because it’s the main religion of the country I am from, and the people I’ve seen who have claimed to practice these religion (some of them were not good to say the least).
Анна Синецкая When it comes to those, I think it's more on the how they practice it and how they interpret the Bible. Regardless of religion or irreligion, there are hypocrites everywhere. Ignorant or manipulative people who'll just twist the word of God to suit their agenda and used His name in vain. Even though that breaks the 2nd commandment, they still do that.
I really feel bad for those who really practiced Hinduism and Buddhism. I noticed that New Age spirituality also repackaged elements of Buddhism and other Asian religions. And possibly, even Western paganism, depending on how it was applied.
Agree. It doesn’t take away the fact that depression is very real and debilitating, but I’ve always wondered if those living in developing countries with limited access to food, water, medicine, education get depression too?
@@rirmgigs people who have food and are wealthy have complex issues people who need food or water have only 1 problem and thats fill up their belly and all is great
Taking any of the two opposite stance are both radical ideas. Depression could have been manifested or simply cause by the person itself, or by another person or situation, or actually both. There could never be a strict answer to that. Even psychiatrists cannot figure it out, because they do reside in the minds of their clients. Some people are attention seekers, and they use depression to attract attention. Others have gone through traumas, and it can be complicated to get out. Saying either you caused to yourself, or is ok is not your fault, is both patronizing.
I'm a spiritual person but the whole "love and light" personality that''s so focused on is ugh. I have seen some post on instagram saying that diving into spirituality is not always love and light by those who are spiritual ppl and it's awesome to encounter those kind of post. This "love and light" problem needs to be talked about more often! edit!! omg thank you making this video!!
I think "love and light" is really a badly twisted version of something that _is_ good: what it _should_ mean is that that is how you should endeavor to treat others ... not that people talking about their trauma, say, frankly, means they are somehow _not_ being "love and light". Love and light, if properly followed, would command you to listen with an empathizing and acknowledging ear. But somehow some people have made it into "never even talk about something negative, even if the intention behind doing so is absolutely positive, like seeking healing"! Which is just plain ludicrous!
Yes yes yes! I was in this new age bubble and I definitely found myself victim blaming without realizing it. I felt like I manifested/attracted my own abuse, and only suppressed my trauma and focused on "positive vibes". I have since started doing shadow work to really dig deep into my abuse and trauma to truly heal instead of blaming myself. Thanks for sharing!
I've been there too. What is even worse is the belief system that you choose your own life, family and abuse here in some sort of pact with your abusers, who incidentally tend to get off scot free because we're all actors in some big play. That is the ultimate in victim blaming. I'm referring to Robert Schwartz - Your Soul's Plan. Don't get me going on what I think about that book.
Yeah i would say going to a therapist doing shawdow work is still a new age idea. Dealing with abuse is something that can be very tramatic i would say going to therapy would be the best option
Although I've come to the conclusion that manifestation is BS, I like the idea of shadow work. I can no longer get with "my thoughts create my reality" nonsense because it puts every adverse situation I find myself in on me. I got fired from a great job so it was my thoughts caused that to happen.
Not everybody can be a social media influencer. And somehow I even see this digital nomadism bad. Why do people only feel like they are living, when they fly to another (less developed) country to experience it? Instead of flying to Peru to meet local people, why can't they help homeless people in their own town? Or have yoga sessions for single mothers in the city park for free? Because it doesn't pay much. I cringe for social media influencers who glorify poor people's "authentic" lifestyle in poorer countries. They use "new age healing methods" because they don't have access or money to go to the hospital and not because they are more in touch with themselves.
This is not “new age” these practices belong to cultures that has been being practiced for a long time. I think the problem began when corporations began to capitalize off of spiritual practices of indigenous cultures.
A lot of this New age things havent been practice at all by older traditions! Specially the supressint of feelings or only focusing On positive. When We meet to batle We batle. Natural law
Dana Le Fae well those parts you mention I feel Have been a part of the manipulation definitely not from MY ancestors, but they sure do appropriate a lot of older traditions and rituals. Masking it with this spiritual gaslighting
This video is spot on in many ways but the one thing that’s been bothering me the most, is the way influencers look down on having a job. This can be whether it’s a 9-5 or something more traditional. They act like anyone who works for a boss is a corporate slave selling their soul. Like anyone who doesn’t work for themselves must be so miserable. Well to be honest I was trying to start a business on social media for a while, then realized working for myself as my main gig just wasn’t for me. There was no job security and I felt uneasy not having a steady paycheck... plus I like having a job I know is in demand and I will always be needed with my skill. I may want to work for myself on the side one day, but I like having a secure job I can go to then come home, where I can compartmentalize what I do from who I am. Because I feel like influencers who make a living off their “business” also tend to make that business their entire identity.
So agree with you! Don't they also make you feel like if you don't become a life couch/LOA coach, as if this is the only next natural step once you become acquainted with the law of attraction? Doesn't it feel like now teaching how to live in alignment with yourself is the only job to aspire to?
Completely agree. Like having a job is also great for your social life, I've met amazing friends though my 9 -5! And you can make a difference in whatever job your in. You can stack shelves in a Walmart and still have a beautiful impact on the world, why? Because it's called being kind! If I was only doing yoga classes and yoga IG post all day long 7 days a week I would be so bored and lonely. I love going into my kindergarten 9 -5 job!!
I got into new age spirituality when i left christianity. I found it just as toxic, manipulative, and deceitful as christianity often pushing the same beliefs only worded differently. Even thier idea of heaven gave little hope or comfort. Rather it gave more fear and dread.
Please come back to Christianity.. im sorry if you have had a bad experience some of the denominations dont half give it a bad name *cough* Catholicism but non denominational Christianity is non judgemental and accepts everyone as they are. No hate only love 🙂👍💖
Question: What kind of message was taught to you as a Christian? This can make all the difference. What sort of gospel were they preaching? Were they implying that you had to earn God’s favor in order to be saved and/or loved? And would you be open to reanalyzing those things if you were told that what you got was most likely a false gospel?
Meditation, especially mindfulness is actually a very effective technique used by psychiatrists. It is actually a method of therapy that can be studied, scientifically showing to improve those with anxiety disorders and clinical depression.
Leah de Boer I was going to comment about this! There are really important studies by Saeed and Alderman that show that meditation, aerobic exercise, and yoga are all effective treatments for depression. There’s a whole course on wellness at Yale that dives into these. Otherwise I agree with the video but this stuck out to me as incorrect :)
Of course they are useful. How about chopping wood, lifting weights and a prayer? A quiet walk in the woods, a game of soccer with neighbourhood kids and a youtube video? Anything can be useful as a method of therapy. Has it been clearly shown that mindfullness is _more useful_ than those other things?
@@AnnasAnalysis I understand what you are saying but I do think you are speaking in a way that's slightly undervaluing it's effect.. Technically, nothing straight up cures anxiety or depression. There is no pill you can take to cure such an illness. However, I do agree someone shouldn't promise a 'pill like effect' for their practice but I think most people with anxiety or depression know this. Most people don't go to therapy expecting to be cured instantly... That doesn't make it less effective in my opinion..
The idea of "best self" is personally damaging, especially when you start comparing your thoughts and actions towards others and forgetting that everyone's lives and experiences are different (specifically in your early to mid twenties). You get this idea that you have to be perfect before you turn 25. In my experience if you go to community college you're already a debt less disappointment . Then you see your friends who haven gone to universities, have double majored, worked several internships, plus multiple jobs on top of that, earning high grades while being able to enjoy their college experience, and traveling all over. You feel inconsequential in comparison. But they didn't have to put their lives on hold to constantly take care of elderly family members; they aren't/won't be entirely debt free when they graduate, they already knew what their dream careers were and had a plan (whilst you're still unsure and trying different ideas out). Some people are already engaged, having kids, buying homes, etc. Its hard to remember that everyone is on different paths and some can handle certain things while others can't, it doesn't make you a lesser person. It just means you're figuring out what works with you and what doesn't. Iif you're someone who hasn't hit all those "impressive qualities" just yet then you just kinda feel that any accomplishment you have achieved isn't good enough even though it probably is.
You're fine and you're doing a noble thing by taking care of your relatives. Not only is life not over at 25...it has barely even begun. There's nothing wrong with going to a local college- it saves money, it gives you some time to sort things out in a less pressure filled and less expensive environment, and usually your credits are transferable to a university if you feel that you want a university name on your degree. I knew plenty of people who chose this route, and lemme tell ya, they are in a lot less debt than people who spent four or more years at a university. I didn't really travel until I was close to thirty, and by that time I had work experience under my belt and had the money to not eat beans from a backpack for six weeks while I was doing it. You keep doing you, and don't even think of caving to the pressure of doing something different to look good on the outside to people whose opinions on you don't even matter. You've got plenty of time to live.
The trick people need to realize is, all that stuff is show. _None_ of it makes one a "better" or "worse person". What makes you a better or worse person is ONE thing and ONE thing only: _how you treat other people._ (and animals and whatever) So simple!
I'm a hippy Pagan yoga teacher who casts spells and reads Tarot, and I agree with everything you said in this video! Thank you for calling out the bullshit. *Instantly subscribes*
I went through a phase when i was 19 where i bought into this kind of black and white spirituality. Like you said meditation and other spiritual practices can be beneficial. In my opinion a lot of people use spirituality as something to define a large part of their identity, therefore questioning the legitimacy of such beliefs can be uncomfortable. In uncertain times, the idea that you have complete control of your destiny is an attractive idea, especially if someone perceives their life to be chaotic.
As someone with diagnosed anxiety disorders and fights my way through the world....👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻... yes, of course, meditation, breathing etc will help but they won’t fix the broken pathways and chemicals in my brain. I do all the things. Exercise. Breathe. Talk therapy. Medication. And all of them combined are how I leave the house each day. I’m so sick of people saying “you just need to meditate more.” If only it was so simple. Thank you for saying this and saying it loudly.
Thank you for covering this topic!! This is something that I encounter a lot with my chronic illnesses and disability. A lot of people are uncomfortable with the idea that you can get sick... And never get better. My medical problem is genetic, so it's literally hard coded into my DNA and cannot be cured or even treated. But I've had so so many people tell me that if I just stay positive and try the "right things" that I'll be cured. I've been vegan for years before my health problems caught up with me, but I've still had people tell me that it would cure me if I "did it right." There is also a huge pressure as a person in chronic pain and witha disability, to be happy literally all. The. Time. A lot of people want to see me as an inspiration for just going grocery shopping and doing normal activities. Additionally, as the person in pain you don't want it to negatively affect those around you and yourself by thinking about it too much. But I'm in constant, constant pain. I cannot possibly be positive every second of the day. I've been meditating every day for several months and have been really enjoying it. But there are a lot that I try and stop in the middle of because the teaching is that positivity can get rid of any problem. It is victim blaming and it's something we do in society at large. It's very difficult not to let this aspect of toxic positivity and ableism into my life.
I’m having the same experience… living with hEDS and being neurodivergent. My ex was and still is into this new age stuff, he used to tell me all of these things you talked about and more, I’m so glad they’re not part of my life anymore.
"These are the same people that call magic mushrooms sacred plant medicine, even though mushrooms are not a plant." That's one of the most solid burns I've heard in a long time, really made me chuckle :)
They are considered sacred plant medicine because of the use it has had in traditional rituals, not because some white girls who has crystals named them that way
Mya Json We’re laughing at them calling them a plant. I fully support medicinal mushrooms but the point is the people that call it a plant medicine make themselves sound ignorant and therefore people disregard what they say.
Resurrect The Night The problem isn’t the mushrooms (which I fully believe have benefits) the problem is it being called a plant when it’s not a plant.
They call them plants because they grow naturally from the ground, have been used for 1000s of years AS medicine, SCIENTIFIC STUDIES PROVE THEY ARE MEDICINE, and lastly,, they have not learned the word entheogen yet so they fall back on their limited vocabulary and use the term "plant medicine". Get your holier than thou head out of your ass.
At some point, spiritually isn't the final solution to all our problems. We've got to get up and take responsibility for our life, our actions, who we surrounds ourselves with, etc.
Toxic positivity and actively trying to focus on everything “good” and thinking “good thoughts”, triggered me into a manic episode and also made me think i could change my abusive relationship into a healthy one. i stayed with my abuser for months longer than i would have had I not been coerced into thinking law of attraction could make my abuser could change and we could be happy together forever. he encouraged me to get off my meds and mania was a nightmare. finally free from that relationship but still struggling with victim blaming and wanting to use LOA to get the healthy relationship with my abuser ive always dreamt of. 😞 it is exhausting and LOA is so ableist… I am diagnosed as autistic, i have adhd and bipolar disorder and lots of trauma. LOA gurus make it seem like I attracted those chemical brain functions and I have attempted to use “positive thoughts” to not be affected by my disabilities and of course never works…
Omg when you brought up twin flames i got so triggered. I believed my abuser was my twin flame… I used to see 11:11 in my relationship a lot and so that being the twin flames number i was obsessed thinking i would be happy with this emotionally abusive asshole just because of “synchronicities” it is so depressing
@@joybird144same!!! And I stayed for years being in the narc cycle of abuse bc of this. I’m seeing a lot of comments about this topic. Sad that many people go thru that. I want the years that I lost back to me.
Thank you for making this video, this is how I've felt about the New Age community lately, especially the past 3 years. As you said, the victim blaming and non-dualism (no good or evil, all is "love") are very damaging, especially when those things are told to vulnerable individuals who've experienced trauma. It's abuser-focused; instead of empowering people to take their lives back and heal, they beat people with distorted and destructive platitudes like "you choose what you manifest, so you ultimately caused this to happen", "it must have been in your soul contract to experience that", "on another plane, you and the abuser are friends and this is just roleplay in the Earth School", "everything is love through the eyes of the universe", blah blah blah, I could go on and on about the garbage I was told or heard others being told. I want to see spiritually minded people empower others, and the fake gurus of the New Age community have not delivered on that. Instead, they've made victims feel worse about themselves and obsess about their own faults when they get harmed by someone. No one needs to be rushed to forgive, slap a smile on, or find the lesson in the cruelties they've experienced from others. What these so-called gurus should've been doing is supporting those individuals who came to them for help, teaching them how to get to a safe and secure place (physically, mentally, spiritually, etc), validating that abuse is ALWAYS wrong and NEVER the victim's fault, and helping them regain their self-worth and sense of belonging so they can thrive in their life. That's what they should've been doing. Glad we're all starting to see how messed up it all was. TL;DR For anyone reading this, no matter what anyone has told you, abuse is never your fault, it is always wrong, and it shouldn't have happened to you. I hope you meet safe, compassionate people going forward who can help you heal.
I completely agree with you. A predator is a predator, and predates ON PURPOSE, consciously……and whilst we are still engaged in this system where blame exists, in spiritual circles the predated one seems to get the blame - every time - whether they are physically, emotionally, mentally or psychically raped. We don't overcome anything by simply shifting blame around.
I love manifestation and mindfulness but there is some toxic to it. I see a lot of new age influencers are gaslighting and it’s annoying. Feel all your feelings! Thank you for this video
I've been applying manifestation practices for over a year and my financial and job situation did not change. The only thing changed was the goal post. I didn't receive my desires because I didn't believe enough. Trying to directly manifest desires is just like prayer.
"the majority of people who want to be able to get a good job and support themselves or their families are gonna need more than a high school diploma to do that because we cannot all be spiritual Soundcloud rappers" lmfaoooooo Good God, finally someone said almost everything I was thinking. To be completely honest, I'm not open about my anti-new age beliefs because so many around me are so into it. I read stuff on FB and am absolutely blown away by the nonsense. People put certain words together to create a specific spiritual image or feel but it doesn't make any sense!
My family is very into LOA stuff so I just keep my opinions to myself because I don't want to get in trouble, but yesterday my uncle was spewing some horrible victim-blaming crap because I brought up how many domestic abuse victims are suffering during this quarantine. I just told him to shut the hell up, went to my room and cried a little lmao I was so angry and disgusted, I'm so sick of hearing stuff like that.
@@shantiaum5774 the arrogance of new agers. The fact that they actually think they are better than us common folk lol. They have no humility in them. Their stupid conspiracy theories, their reasons for going vegan to reach super enlightenment, them thinking that people who have jobs are mindless robots, the fact that they always talk about ego death yet they are the most arrogant of all people ! They think they have some superior knowledge that you don't etc. Law of attraction, silly crystal manifesting, I mean I can go on...they are lost people for real
"It's just so insensitive and disgusting and harmful that anyone would promote [the law of attraction]." THANK YOU!!! ❤️ (CW: suicide) The most positive and optimistic I ever was in my life was the period when I my mental health got gradually worse and worse and I became suicidal with an attempt. That's when I knew the law of attraction/manifestation was a bunch of horseshit.
Totally THIS. I used to be very New Age and there was almost no positive aspects to that part of my life. Like, was the Holocost anything to do with LOAT? Hell no. I also went to Art School for my master's degree at this time - ALL of my work was 'intuitive' and I never listened to any of the theory because I thought I knew everything. Ended up getting a really low grade - logic and theory are important folks.
I agree with everything you said in this video! when I first started my channel I wanted to be a "spiritual channel" like all the new age spiritual RU-vidrs i have been watching recently, and then I realized a lot of the videos I watched had a lot of egotism and an aggressive nature to them... like if you don't believe in EXACTLY what they believe in you're a "bot" "brainwashed" "sheep" etc, and now I realize there is no RIGHT way to be spiritual, everyone can believe in whatever they want and why should we try and change their beliefs?
I actually do have diagnosed anxiety disorder. Mindfulness has helped more with the “side effects” of the anxiety. Mainly that I experience stress as anger. So being mindful about how I ACTUALLY feel vs my initial response has reaaaally helped with improving my relationship and making me feel more in control. I hope that makes sense.
It pisses me off too as a actual spiritual person who has done loads of research on spirituality and our beliefs. People who victim blame are not actual spiritual people. And I just wish others would debunk these harmful things people are saying about actual spirituality....
Another thing that I find really unhealthy is the " self healing journey " ..... As an ex New Ager, it never ends ! All of a sudden your back to a time in your life that you went through something thinking that your finally healing when in reality your re opening a wound and really hurting your mental health.
man, there is quite a bit in this video really hit home for me. i grew up for a time with a very poor single mother, met my dad for the first time in prison, and struggled with severe social anxiety for a few years before getting help. it feels incredibly invalidating and borderline infuriating to be made to feel like my lingering trauma and depression is wrong to feel and that what i've been through is good for me (and, by extension, good for immediate family members who have suffered in more extreme ways), especially by someone who i perceive to have experienced comparatively few struggles in life (though i do readily acknowledge that everyone suffers and that suffering is relative, and that outward appearance is often very manicured). i've worked hard to be where i am now and am very grateful, but on some level will always carry pain and sadness as if it were branded on to me. i feel like a lot of this toxic positivity attaches more stigma and shame to those who are suffering when that is exactly the last thing they need.
I used to believe a lot of this hocus pocus like astrology and "law of attraction". When you take a deep look at your life, you can see how your actions take you from point A to point B, and how dumb luck or misfortune affects you. I am spiritual but I dropped the metaphysical stuff - not only is it impossible to believe without wishing hard, it's actually useless and unnecessarily confuses people.
EXACTLYYYYYYYYYY. I’m spiritual and I always say (and real spiritual people) that these practices help reduce our symptoms for a little while but they never cure them. (And this isn’t a battle of who’s the wokest it’s tearing apart the lies and stereotypes about spirituality)
Spirituality as its mentioned in this video and most of the communities (I was involved in Tarot/Psychics and LoA) creates a literal hell for someone who tends to be psychotic. It has lots of reasons but for example: all the signs and angel numbers bs is a taught version of a symptom of psychosis. The chosen one crap? It's also a side of psychosis. The victim blaming in LoA community? A torture for someone who has PTSD. I mean, the people who have these mental disorders or more already have a thought pattern who tells them these things to the point of self harm. This hell of a community gives these thoughts a voice and bullies these people unknowingly or knowingly. I can make a whole video about this. It really is cruel and certainly not beneficial.
I've taken a number of geology courses, worked in the oil and gas industry, and did geology research. It pisses me off when people who can't even define what a mineral is, tell me about how this mineral has this healing property. The only minerals I know of that can manifestly effect your health without consuming them are literally radioactive such as uranite. Meanwhile if I state even modestly that there's not really evidence for the healing properties of minerals, believers often look at me like I'm a huge asshole. I don't bring it up in normal life, only if someone sees my rock/ mineral collection (I have a few specimens displayed in my office) and comments on this healing property or that.
Your comment on radioactive minerals made me laugh so much. You are def right. From scientist to scientist: do not expect that many people who are not trained in using the scientific method will understand what you're talking about sorry. They still prefer to believe that rocks can cure something, rather than doing the hard work of finding real solutions. Good luck with trying to convince them!
Fellow geologist here. I’m also a meditation teacher. I can’t stand the community’s obsession with “crystals” either. People will regularly ask me what crystal to use for what, and then I answer by defining what a mineral is and explain they spent all that money on quartz when they could have just taken a jar of sand from the beach. But you’ll get a kick out of this: there are so many folks in this community who think souls spend whole lifetimes as rocks. 🙄
About 13 years ago or so when “the secret” was huge, i read the book and decided it was bullshit... ever since, i have gotten pissed at people who say “you just have to manifest a good life” or “being poor is just a mindset” and all that crap. Also, you are not going to get a 5 bedroom detached by just printing a picture, pinning it to your wall, and “manifesting it”, you have to WORK for it. Things like meditation and mindfulness are very helpful for clearing your mind and having a few moments of peace for yourself, to get to know yourself, and it helps with anxiety. But i’s not a cure, it’s a helpful tool. Also, it pisses me off when they dismiss science... i am a “scientist” (food science), and yes, science has been wrong in the past nd new evidence can completely change the way we understand the world, but trust me, the universe doesn’t give a shit about how much you want a new car, the universe doesn’t listen when you say “i want a new car” for the law of attraction BS. Oh, and i actually need the routine of a 9-5 job, i thrive in routines.
Your comment is great and I totally agree. I also feel like the positive mindset, meditation, and visualizations are useful tools and not cures. I'm still not completely dismissing these practices. I can see both good things and the bad side of this stuff. I also agree with the law of attraction beliefs and New Age beliefs that we are powerful people and that we are part of the Universe and vice versa. Like you stated, I don't feel like the Universe cares about us. Someone told me that the Universe just mirrors our frequency/vibration back to us. Like whatever we send out comes back to us. That everything that is happening to us is a result of our frequency/vibration, the like attracts like. Honestly, I'm not sure that happens either...I guess it can but not always, idk!?! In my experiences sometimes things work the opposite way. When I thought something would work out, it doesn't, and when I thought negative about something it worked out fine...sometimes it's like that...it confuses me🤷♀️. I like science, if science is wrong about something, so what, we're human! Do we really have to strive for perfection can't we just live our lives as best as we can? Nothing wrong with improving oneself and being responsible but I'm done with the toxic positivity.
To your first part about manifestation. If they looked at actual paganism and actual witchcraft they would realize that yes they can manifest it but you also have to work for it. You use manifestation to help it along a little but regardless you have to work for it.
I agree. I’m spiritual but some of you guys are just stereotyping us and making the fake spiritual toxic people out to be the real spiritual people. Which they aren’t. And this isn’t a battle of who’s the wokest this is debunking the negative comments about spirituality.
yup i tried to read that book and never quite got thru it.... ended up researching some quotes, especially an Emerson one because i love him and many are bs...
And also, even work _guarantees_ nothing. Failure to realize this turns that, itself, into a toxic cudgel that can be weaponized just like the "laws of attraction" against suffering people: the familiar Republican refrain to the homeless person, "well you just ain't working hard enough!" instead of admitting that maybe your political system, cultural values, and social institutions just plain fucking _suck._
Personally, I am beyond grateful for finding new age spirituality. While I don't believe ANYthing in this world is 'one size fits all', finding spirituality is the only thing that I truly felt like I understood and related with. I don't think meditation, manifestation, or crystals will CURE anything, but they sure help to make me feel better in a *natural* way. Placebo effect is real, people!
i agree! and even if things like the law of attraction arent real, they can help motivate you to reaching your goals, like if youre trying to manifest a car you wont wake up to one on your driveway, but you might work overtime or accept some more shifts at work which you wouldnt normally do, and see it as the universe giving you that opportunity. plus its just fun and you can meet some cool new people
Placebo does exist yes...that's why before releasing a new drug to the market, they do double blind study that control for its well known effect. However Placebo has a limited effect and none in more serious illnesses such as cancer, or diabetes, etc etc. So it's OK if it makes you feel good...why not...just please don't count on it for serious illnesses because Placebo ain' t gonna be enough for those cases
I’m SO glad you brought up point #5: Manifestation. I was just thinking this EXACT thing the other day and it really got me questioning a lot of things. I hear no one talk about this!! 🙌
Yay! I've been waiting for this. :) As always, appreciate your ability to differentiate even in the details. Having been around a lot of spiritual people myself, I recognise so many things you're referencing from the spiritual community. I think it often really comes down to the 'black and white' thing - spirituality often tries to make easy distinction where easy distinctions are not possible. The dangerous part is that some of it is almost always true, so on the surface it's hard to argue against it. Unfortunately this apparent plausibility is then used to justify a lot of expensive or harmful (or both) stuff.
Anna, I love this video. Especially the discussion of black and white thinking that can lead people to being so hard on themselves. Just yesterday I was feeling discouraged because I'm trying so hard to maintain a positive mindset and I feel like a failure when I don't. A lot of spiritual content on the internet can really make people feel bad about themselves and I think that's super important to talk about. I'm really looking forward to part two :) and as a sociologist who highly values research, I really appreciate you going out of your way to talk about the importance of it in your videos. Great content, keep it up!
I know your comment was for Ann. I just wanted to say that I also struggle with being positive. I know that's how we're taught to think. It's strange how trying so hard to be positive can make someone feel worse.
Yes! It makes one feel like if there's a single negative thought in the mind then you'll attract bad things! If something bad happens then, oops, it's all your fault! You did it to yourself! The most positive and optimistic I ever was in my life was the period when I my mental health got gradually worse and worse and I became suicidal with an attempt. That's when I knew the law of attraction was a bunch of horseshit.
You are so Bang on girl!!!!!! I've met so many far fetched new aged self proclaimed gurus. As soon as I questioned anything I was slammed! It can definitely be toxic if taken to extremes.
everytime I watch one of your videos I actually feel like I'm learning something and using my brain for critical thinking, it's so refreshing, thank you!
Hi Anna! I've seen several of your videos - I love them! I also saw the one on criticism. For what it's worth, I think you always remain kind and respectful. Keep doing what you're doing. ❤️
Modern medicine is bad? Well, I don't think so, and hearing this makes me really mad. Modern medicine made my grandpa survive 3 heart attacks and (although he died on the fourth one) and it made my auntie fight cancer. She's free of it since nearly 10 years. But when I would tell this to a conspiracy theory believer they wouldn't count it as a story of success for modern medicine and would tell me some bull shit.
Modern medicine gave me heart surgery at 16 which kept me alive. Modern medicine also told me that eating a plant based vegan diet would kill me and surgery/drugs was the ONLY route to go... years later the evidence suggests plant based vegan diet will REVERSE heart disease completely. While they can suppress inflammation and slice people up properly, that doesn’t make them good.
@@calvinbailey4756 I think the point of this is that there's balance required for both modern medicine and western medicine and both have their place for different applications. If you have cancer, you should be undergoing chemotherapy etc but you can also pursue a healthy diet and meditation to help your mindset and keep your spirits high and treat your body well while western medicine kills off the cancer cells.
Chemotherapy doesn’t only kill cancer cells. It kills good cells too and this is something that is already well known. The problem is that modern medicine shutting doors to herbal medicine and homeopathy is almost ridiculous, since their pills come from herbs in most cases. The day they start working together will be the day we all going to think differently. There is no such think as black or white in modern medicine and alternative medicine. There are many gray areas in both. That is why people need to do their own research instead of blindly relying in external brains. But what can I say… we live in a comfortable ages where everything has to be immediately served and solved.
This video is so balanced and logical, and I appreciate it. I have a few things to add onto the positive thinking point, as someone who has studied a bit of psychology in college. Most psychologists agree that gratitude is beneficial in moderation, but focusing on gratitude all day every day can actually lead to feeling of guilt and indebtedness. It might lead a person to feel like they do not have a right to be angry or disappointed, like they have more positive things in their life than they deserve, or like they own someone something when they do not. As for my personal experience with positive thinking, I have definitely made some mistakes in my life without letting myself feel guilt or negative emotions afterwards, which led me to not apologizing or trying to fix things when I otherwise would have. It's crazy that so many influencers promote ignoring negative feelings like guilt that can actually be really valuable and helpful. As for the point about manifestation being self serving, I think it's funny that the people who practice manifesting lots of wealth always claim that they are empaths who focus too much on helping others, even if they never seem to give any wealth back to the community. Maybe they are donating lots of money behind the scenes, but I would be surprised since they don't usually advocate for donations, and since they promote the idea of poverty mindset. But in my college, we actually do have a local meditation group that meditates in order to manifest positive changes in society such as reducing poverty and violence. I don't go to them because I personally don't believe in LOA, but I thought that was interesting.
Meditation and yoga really helped me A LOT with understanding my body (being in tune with my emotions) and with my anxiety. In fact, they're recommended by psychologists. But they are merely a technique, the same way as exercise is. They can help you and be a guidance, but they won't cure you unless it is mild for you in terms of brain chemicals. I still have a lot of mental health struggles because outside of "spiritual" practices, i cannot change the circumstances which deteriorate my psyche. Even medication cannot cure you 100%, they can only guide you to an extent.
I think the reason why, Anna, some people might get upset at some of the things you are saying is because it feels like you cannot accept something to be true unless it has empirical evidence supporting it. And your pursuit of logic and scientific truth is awesome, and much needed in the spirituality community and other alternative/alternative medicine communities that can often lean toward pseudoscientific methods. However, I can acknowledge that there is a lot of stuff that I know to be true that hasn't been tested scientifically. Most of what drives science forward are scientists hypothesizing about things and setting up an experiment to test it. And how did people develop medicine and other ways of life without using the scientific method, long before it was invented? They can know truth, too. Otherwise, you'd be hinting at that only a small population of people can know the truth--mostly white, mostly male, 20th-21st century North American and European population. My point is not to accuse you of this, but to point out that there is a lot more out there than just the scientific method and people had "truth" and proof/evidence for things for much longer than they had the scientific method. For example, if you tell someone that their God or religious beliefs are false because they cannot be proven via the scientific method, that's gonna be pretty myopic, and it isn't a satisfactory answer, and it will most likely just offend people. Just because meditation has little to no scientific evidence that it is a cure-all for mental illness, which i don't think there are any professional mental health solutions that claim to be cure-alls, doesn't mean that meditation cannot make significant progress on someone's mental health. I'm definitely biased because of my own experience--I have found it blocks almost all my ADHD symptoms and PTSD-related flashbacks. In addition, meditation has been used as HUGE part of Asian cultures, religions, and traditions. It has been adopted by white "new-age" influencers very recently. Just because it hasn't been well-researched in western medicine does not invalidate its long history of prolonged use, and that fact that it is a very sacred part of these cultures, and a practice of which there is a lot of evidence that it is a worthwhile practice. Basically I'm just trying to say that meditation and lot of other aspects of the spirituality movement have long histories before they were adopted by the New-Age movement. You're on point about people throwing around physics terms they don't understand. and the placebo effect is real :0 a lot of "spirituality" is about what feels good. What you said about the short-sightedness of the spirituality movement (aka lack of nuance and understanding) is very true and needs to be talked about. A lot of these people choose to avoid thinking about and feeling the weight of a lot of very real and difficult social justice issues.I think these people are often running away from something painful, and yet have the privilege to be able to do that. There's a reason why a lot of these people are white! and not working class! This reminds me of when I lived in Ecuador and taught English in a school in the Amazon, in an indigenous community. The school teachers, including myself, attended a pedagogical meeting led by an indigenous teacher who worked higher up in the Ecuadorian Ministry of Education. He told us how the Indigenous people wanted to be mestizos (mixed heritage people of Ecuador), the mestizos wanted to be white/Spanish, and then white people had no where up to go so they wanted to be indigenous! co-opting their tribal culture, taking Ayahuasca, feeling the "Vibes" of the forest etc. This really stuck with me and I think is probably my biggest problem with the new-age and spirituality movement that I think you missed. A lot of the privilege gets unchecked, cultures are appropriated, and there is no activism for actual social justice issues-probably because one of the main pillars of the movement is denial of suffering. There is a lot of racism present in the New-Age and spirituality movement and it's one of its major problems, IMO. Edit: wanted to say thank you for this video! We need one of these for every "how to manifest _____" videos put out.
Wow, firstly everything I wanted to say to Anna you have mentioned so succinctly. I love Anna and you kindly delivered this message with so much grace. I don’t know if Anna can look past the imperial evidence. I also have ADHD and insomnia, and my symptoms instantly vanished overtime with a dedicated meditation practise. I can concentrate for longer periods and I no longer am reactive to my family members who annoy me and invade my private space constantly. It’s just a DIFFERENT world when you can experience a new way of thinking. Although this video was relevant in some ways, I don’t seem to connect with Anna in the same way. I wish her the best.
She doesn't say that if something hasn't been proven meens it's not true. But accepting something to be truth with out evidence can lead to accepting problematic ideas because you want them to be true.
The thing is, even if something isn't obviously horrible like the LoA, you should still reject it if there's no evidence for it. Over time "wrong" inevitably becomes "harmful". It's just a matter of when.
@@MrCmon113 +I know your comment was for the person above but I just wanted your opinion on evidence for the law of attraction. I personally couldn't find much. It seems even the scientists don't back this up either. Some of the quantum physics stuff doesn't fit. At the same time I can see how some this could be beneficial. Like thinking positive to help give you some peace of mind and using the positive thoughts to help motivate us. I'm not big into this law of attraction craze phenomenon but I can some good in it...what are your thought on it?
@@mayphoenix4725 The quantum physics stuff is an ad-hoc excuse. But if we look beyond the LoA there is an interesting problem: Namely that delusional believes can sometimes be beneficial. In a way we are constantly biased towards optimisim and the absence of that bias is rather unpleasant. We can profit from placebos and get motivated by prideful believes about ourselves. I don't have a good answer on how to reap those benefits without getting lost in delusion.
Saaaaame. "You get what you put out into the world" like okay I guess my abusive family, trauma, illness, shitty people that come into my life, the place I grew up in, the world I live in... I did that. That was all me. Thanks guys! ✌🏾
My mom is into this new age stuff and has created/worked in mlms, is an anti Vaxx Karen and a narc. She dead ass told me that no one should feel bad for her abuse towards me because before I was born, I chose this life with its good and bad things. Aka I chose the abuse and she can't be hold accountable since it was bound to happen She used to tell me I must've been a bad person in my previous life which then allowed her to tell me to kill myself etc etc. I'm sure other people do that to their kids too and it's disgusting
Hey, this is a year later and I’m an internet stranger, but I’m here because I just met someone who espoused the “you chose your life” bullshit and I found it fucking despicable. I’m sorry that you had to grow up with that but I also really admire how you call it out now. Hope you’re having a good (hopefully) end of the pandemic :)
I'm anti-vaccine too but not because of spirituality but because I don't care about them I actually don't believe I need them at this point! Your mom should not back up her asumptions just because of your "past life"! I agree and believe we had past encarnations but I never talk coldly to people because they could've been bad in a past life, I do so because of the actual events and their actual behaviour! The actions they do in this life! Your mom is trying to brainwash you because she has low self esteem! Not a good mom!
Hey! I didn't know my mom had another kid! *HUGS*. Live. Don't ever take kill yourself as anything but incentive to rebel against authority when those two syllables come plopping out of a narcissist parent's talk sewer!
I am as woo woo as it gets, and I love Anna's practical approach while remaining open and humble in her delivery. Her thoughts are well thought out, well researched, and also open to possibilities. To be totally honest, seeing her live her life authentically and be in alignment with her ideals and what she preaches - that is the real practitioner of mindfulness.
i love how you talk about black and white in the new age community and especially the part about college... When I first started college I felt demonized by people I loved on RU-vid because “they thought college was not worth it”... now that I’m older I realize exactly what you’re saying. I think the new age community has a lot of valid, beautiful, life practices to share- but they deny the privilege that allows them to practice those things and have those feelings. Great video!!
Spirutuality to me, has always been a tool for me to understand my emotions from seeing them from the outside. A way to step outside my "autopilot mode". But this... this is just...weird. edit: new age just seems like an asthetic rather than real life.
I love what you do so much, finally someone on RU-vid being grounded, knowledgeable and actually forms arguments instead of just laughing at stupid people to make money out of it.
Breath work absolutely cured me of my panic attacks. I was diagnosed in 2002 and my psychologist taught me how to use breathing to disarm an attack. I havent had one in 15 years and continue to practice to this day. Breath work isn't new age spirituality, it's physiology. I don't want to sound harsh here, so here's a smiley :)
So I had a very brief (like 2 weeks) moment of believing in Law of Attraction because of people I was following but then I started to hear the sort of selfishness and oblivious nature these people “manifest” into their lives. But I started to think that Law of Attraction is really just positive conditioning of the mind. I think that once these people create a goal, they see that goal everywhere because they are hyper aware of it, and then they work towards that goal with a positive mindset, so when their goal happens they attribute it to manifestation when really they worked at it, reduced their fixation on negativity, and also privilege.
Its pretty much a goal !! Amd thats it but they say its manifestation and magical and it fuck people up thinking it will just come to them. And all in all it dosen't you have to work hard for shit
Looove the vídeo, it opened my eyes actually for some things that for so long I believed were black and white and more and more now I realize that thats not true, everyone have their journey, their backgrounds and theres no "one fit all" formula to cure all of your problems. Thank you for the work and effort youve put into making these videos
I LOVE this. I have a close friend who is just buying into it all... And then looking down on me a bit. I love hearing you speak lightly about this subject.
lots of ego in the new age gurus PS love your channel Anna. I'm a college student taking an untraditional path to avoid debt, and I love your videos and respect your viewpoints. Thank you for posting
That's strange because in a lot of the New Age videos I watch they talk about the "dark night of the soul" or ego death. I'm confused, is the ego bad? Are we supposed to get rid the ego? I feel like I'm going in circles sometimes. It's like they teach one thing but the teachers are not doing what they're teaching others.
Re: suppressing negative emotions - I spent decades of my life being miserable. I learned that applying tolerance and forgiveness helps me live in the moment. there are many positive benefits to not living in the past or in the future. I go past suppressing negative emotions and flat out eliminate most negative emotions using a simple technique; being tolerant, being forgiving and understanding when I don't need to give a fuck dgaf. I spent decades of my life in a discontent state. These days typically I go for weeks without having anxiety and major stresses. But these are solely my desires - I don't allow my ego to push my values on anyone
These videos are helping me a lot because I have unintentionally been slipping into this type of thinking/positive affirmation based life and it’s so comforting to feel validated when I found it unhealthy in some of the ways I’ve been thinking. The suppressing of negative feelings is a huge one. It kept making me uncomfortable to use positive affirmations as a way to push away my negative feelings and it just felt all wrong. I think having a positive mindset is something I will continue to practice, but I think it can get very unhealthy very quickly. This was a much needed slap in the face to snap me out of it. I think I just need to go to therapy or something lol
Well said. I have come to understand it's really a clearing process. Cleaning out all the abuse that has been done to us that we are still carrying. You don't need to be positive because you are already positive! Trying to be positive will only unbalance us even more. Not sure if that made sense.
I have so much to say about how much I love this video and the points you made. I talk about some of this a lot with my clients. I practice psychotherapy and work with individuals and couples. The piece about integrating logic and emotions is what I call the "wise mind" and that's the place you want to be. You can't just be in emotions and feelings and you can't just be in logic and cognition. They need to be integrated. And I wholeheartedly agree with breathing and meditation not being "cure-alls". They help many people tremendously but can be used as bypassing themselves as people will feel better using them and then not dig into the deeper underlying emotional issues of why they were struggling so much in the first place. I hope that makes sense. Again, so much good in this video.
This time and age seemingly takes many things to extremes, such as the conspiracy theories you mentioned, frequency of which you've probably noticed increase during the current Covid-19 quarantine, perhaps not as much in the vegan community but certainly widespread among those of narcissistic personality.
One thing i hate about new age and find it very contradicting is how materialistic it actually is. Like it is sickening to me that they destroy the Earth to dig up some crystals and sell them for 100$ or so, or all the healing courses, tantra massages...all very expensive. I visited Glastonbury in the UK which basically whole town full of new age stores (crystals, essential oil hindu simbols and similar) and let me tell you, it is all for money alone! God is a free spirit and we dont need material object to connect und worship Him! Love your video Anna
Yesss thank you. I have ocd and depression. My ex would constantly just say “just meditate!” But it’s like I physically can’t because my brain is different because of the ocd. I have to take medication to have no thoughts. And even then once it wears off the anxiety seems to be worse. So I have to kind of have a medium ground where I work to avoid compulsive behavior. Also with the positive thoughts I always feel better after I just let myself cry and experience the sad or angry emotion in a healthy way. Often those emotions are physical signs and reactions to something wrong in your life
You are so spot on with this, I have come to the same conclusions about a lot of these concepts, especially the victim blaming aspect of the “law”of attraction. When you think deeply about it, you realize it’s absolutely insane.
I'm so glad to see that the younger generation is really starting to question all this nonsense. I myself have gotten caught up in the whole thing and then gradually started to question it and mostly shun it all together. It's something that I've been feeling for a long time period it often feels very isolating because you feel like everybody's plugged into the matrix except for you. I'm so glad to see that I'm not alone in questioning all these mainstream media c*** and the toxic spirituality. Thank you for your video it really makes me feel like I'm not alone in the world.
For me, new age was full of deception. The deeper I got - the more unhappy I became. So many false idols, victim blaming, driving myself nuts trying to detangle my trauma by myself, isolation. Jesus helped me get out. 🙏🏼
Christianity is the ultimate victim blaming. Every good thing happened because god gave it. Every bad thing happened because human activity. Mainstrem religions simply stripping every positive thing humanity ever did and pile it on some sort of god, making as nothing but sinners. That is blame game on a next level.
@@marrs1013 Dont know what kind of christianity youre talking about, but God can do both good and bad to our point of view, but that doesn't mean it isn't just or right, the bible also says that our concience and morals were give by God, so we can do both good and bad, a lot of people help the poor, feed others, help others, build for others, donate for others, cook for others. You're just making up cheap excuses to avoid facing your own sins, quit hiding from God.
What pissed me off the most with new age is the miriade " healing technique" that never ends. Their promise you almost miraculous things to happen it your life if you do this and that, the right way and then years later you realise that you're still in pain or things has escalated to isolation. What you felt in the beginning could have Been cursed easily by counselling or medicine practitioners
I truly find this channel really unique and I'm super grateful I found your channel as it helps me to see things from other points of view. As for the law of attraction - I'm really into it, and I don't think it's about denying your emotions at all. As my mother tongue is foreign to you, and the person I take that teaching from speaks in that language, she taught me to fully accept whatever emotion I'm feeling: if I'm sad I tell myself that I am sad in that moment, but I know that that feeling isn't permanant, and just by accepting that feeling of sadness I feel much better later on as I try doing things that bring me joy, and out of that state of mind (I'm also super into fitness so I mostly get into a handstand or do something cool with my body to make myself feel good). I truly take whatever resonates with me from whatever new thing I find, and I also believe that taking all things to extremes isn't a good thing, for example I don't meditate or claim that I'm the happiest person ever all the time, I take exercise as my meditation. And what I'm trying to find with all these teachings is balance, as I think we all are, knowingly or not.
also, with positivity, I do use that for small things like when something breaks or when it rains and I find that incredibly useful because sometimes I have days where just three small bad things in a row can throw me off completely. but definitely not for deeper issues.
Yes yes thats exactly how ive been feeling. Ive been made to feel that all the bad thats happened in my life is all my fault and ive also been told my soul signed up for this because my soul wanted to learn these lessons. Ive never felt so anxious in my life. I felt way better and was more positive in life despite what ive been through. Its literally made me ill and im now at the point where i blame myself for my whole life and ive been told if i dont right any wrongs that ive done i will be blocked in anything i ever try and do for the rest of my life. Im at the lowest ive ever felt
I agree on the whole aspect on its unhealthy to suppress negative emotions whenever I would be in a position of anger, sadness etc.. I would allow myself to feel what I am feel and give validation to my emotions. I would also allow them to all come out like crying, and acknowledging that I am feeling a negative emotion because doing that makes it easier to deal with them. And when I try to suppresses my emotion is leads to a habit of feeling ashamed to feel that way.
sooo true. You are more aware and conscious of things than most of those pseudo spiritual gurus, Influencer and coaches! For real you talk out loud what I see and feel too about most of you topics. Love the content.
@Just Eric if u or someone else doesn't know about it ..... it actually is a thing some people do and promote for more or less reasons like that ...it's not just a joke ....google it
I recently started to question myself about this ideas i was getting too attached to. And although there are some beliefs and practices that had helped me and (honestly) will continue to believe in, like, astrology and mindfulness, I really appreciate you for what you are doing here. There´s an urgent need to question all those egocentric, ignorant and totally material "influencers" that claims themselves to be awakened and enlighten. I personally hate all those white, middle-class, first-world people that know nothing about social issues, economics or even psychology, and are in such big power and influence position. I´ve been watching almost all of your videos and really resonate with you. Keep going girl! (i know you don't need my permission, lol).
You know what, thank you. You helped me come to a conclusion I was slowly getting to in studies involving religion and mythology and spirituality. I find that all those magic books with spells and the like. They do help people, in some way it’s helping them. I know that certain rituals like mantras are actually very good. Infact a mantra that was made randomly by frank herbert. Is the fear mantra. “I must not fear, fear is the mind killer.” Its fascinating to say the least, the human minds ability to analyze and perceive things. Granted when you place each of them under a microscope they become… ridiculous. But each of them have some sort of means for one to help themselves stand up. By all means let them do as they please so long as their reality does not infringe of the reality of others in society. Also, when it does come down to it, in condensed chaos, there is mention that many of these methods/paths/spiritual beliefs, whatever you call them. All of them will fall into dogmatism sooner or later.
i’m like a 1/3 in and i have a few things i wanna comment on because i’m loving this vid so much ! i’m a spiritual person and hearing you talk about this is refreshing, i’ve never seen a video on someone really getting into the beliefs in new age spirituality that are wrong, and i feel that this really helps a lot of people feel less alone because a lot of people who turn to spirituality are faced with a lot of harmful beliefs, so i really appreciate you making this ! my experience : i got into spirituality about a year or two ago and i thought that i had to do certain things and if i didn’t then i wasn’t spiritual (which isn’t true at all.) i was suppressing my own pain and was telling myself that i was “okay.” (i was embodying toxic positivity towards myself for a while) from my experience, i’ve mostly seen victim blaming, toxic positivity, and the “love and light” thing (i’ll touch on that later.) and a lot of that is really harmful, especially to young and impressionable people. i was 13 when i got into it and i feel like for a while, it actually worsened my mental health. now, on the “love and light” thing, i feel like it also just encourages people to only show “pleasant” emotions and to suppress feelings that are uncomfortable amongst most, yes i think that spreading love and light is important but it’s just as important as pain, and darkness and any other emotion or feeling. conclusion: a lot of beliefs or ideals in new age spirituality are harmful, but there are definitely spiritual people out there that don’t believe those things :)💞. i think that spirituality is a very personal experience and new age spirituality sort of diminishes that. notes: i hope that i didn’t say anything wrong here, if there’s anything anyone who sees this would like to add, please do! i would love to hear peoples perspective on this 💞.
I like this girl. She's so honest and fair! Subbing! My thoughts: I think that a lot of people copy other people. Social media makes people very impressionable. Some spiritual idioms are overused by people who do not understand their true meaning but who like hippy slogans! Don't get tricked by Instagram models into throwing the baby out with the bath water. Also, good use of intuition should incorporate logic and scientific understanding.
Been with my soulmate, for forty years, a very beautiful part of my life, soulmates do exist, but it means respecting each other’s individuality, respecting the love that ye share, listening to each other, and giving the freedom to each other to just to be
I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that's how you grow. When there's that moment of, 'Wow, I'm not really sure I can do this,' and you push through those moments, that's when you have a breakthrough. Oh yes, the past can hurt. But, you can either run from it or learn from it.
I wonder will there ever be peace? Will there ever be a day where everyone has a healthy relationship with their own ego? People are always fighting against eachother. Constantly divided. It's a shame. It's tiring.
Your right it is tiring but luckily we get to live at a time we can express our thoughts and opinions. As a whole people are slowly breaking the programming...most of us feel like there's something's not right. We still got a lot of work to do...too much hostility, pride, selfishness, and greed. It would be nice to live in a world without wars, poverty, famine, racism etc...maybe in the future we will live on another planet and start over, idk! Hopefully it'll get even more better but it's going to take a long time.
I think manifestation is more like hyping yourself up to get your goals. Its like an internal thing, getting more confident inwhat you do and then you reach your goal and say manifestation works...
Mhmm yesss sister.. I’m a very spiritual person and I realized being involved with the online community kinda prolonged my mental health healing because I was seeing it as more of a spiritual issue than a mental issue. It’s up to us who have these issues to take matters into our own hands and not fall into the trap of being spiritually bypassed. Like you said, these people haven’t been dealt the hand and will probably never understand. Finding a balance between mental health and spirituality is so important!
I think one concept that can sum up all these problems you mentioned is that modern "new age" takes things often from all over that were sacred and about real meaningful change and self improvement and turned it into a product. Even the toxic version of your "best self" is about making you feel like you need to by more stuff or new "lessons". They believe in a product not a spiritual path.
There is no way to explain how much this touched me. It took me on an emotional journey that was terrifying but needed. I came with a question and anxiety, self consciousness. I am leaving with the validation I never received, the love and acceptance of myself bringing me to tears. Thank you for all you do. This means a lot to a teenager who grew up being screamed at for who i was
I think the idea that "you're exactly where you need to be" and the idea that you have a "best self" are both valid ideas that compliment and balance each other. The first one is about accepting yourself and your circumstances exactly the way they are, and the second one is about moving beyond that and growing into a better person. You need both ideas for either of them to fulfill its purpose.
I couldn't agree more on the manifestation thing. It kind of relates to the law of attraction too and I have come across the thought of "wait, why don't we manifest for the world to be at peace?" or something you know? It feels like no matter how "woke" we think we are, we still don't really see the actual bigger picture. :/
I philosophically believe that spirituality needs to be recreated to better match the individual BUT this form that you are criticizing is truly writhe with problematics that you address very well. Love it. Think new age could be way more beneficial if people weren’t so fixated on the outside aspects of it.
