Thank you for your help Coach Lee! When my fiancé broke up with me a month ago, I was devastated and couldn’t believe that he left me. After a month of your videos and absolutely no contact and radio silence, 2 days ago, I lost hope and went on my very first date with a friend from work. I casually posted on social media some pictures of the view from the restaurant (didn’t show anything other than that), my ex reached out and started apologizing and said he missed me and didn’t want to lose me.
This is such a good video. None of it is really shocking or new information but it’s simple facts of life that that are too often overlooked, forgotten or misunderstood. I hope it gets more views! More people need to hear this.
I'll say it again Coach, you are the GOAT!!! You have no idea how special you are! I'm forever grateful for your spot on advice & how you touch people's lives!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
My husband and I are separated after 23 years this came out of the blue for me. One minute he was telling everyone how much he loves and the next thing you know he wanted to separate. He claims he’s staying with a friend but then he back and forth at the house. He keep denying there’s someone else, he says he needs space and he just have so much going on in his head. To me we were fine he seemed a little withdrawn but we were still talking, laughing, going out with the kids, planning vacations. I’m so confused and hurt this feels like a slap in the face. It been 3 months and it’s gradually getting worst. I feel like this is a mid life crisis. Any suggestions?
Sorry to hear that. I would advise not to chase him. Keep your ground but don't be rude or confrontational. Let him approach you when he's ready. He could be manifesting avoidant personality. It could be a mid crisis as well. I don't think it will escalate past that. Men don't typically initiate divorce unless is something major
So why do women divorce more just curious ! And when women is having a mid life crisis what are the signs .. cause my ex wife moved on the same day I walked out the door … but it was same guy from work and it was going on your about 8 months any advice ! Thanks 🙏
@@RealCoachLee I have paid for the breakup kit however cannot login. I've tried several different things over a week and it won't work. I have also emailed bt had no reply. Please help. Thanks.
I reckon I was in the top 10 of the 1st people to see this posted & it was such a co-insidence as just 2 days prior I'd sent an email to Coach Ken and it included a MLC situation. I don't think I've seen another clip where its mentioned. I resent this morning with a suggestion for Coach Lee.
Coach Lee, pls do a session on cheating partners' behaviour and how they try to evade trying to be caught, esp a serial cheat. Also, pls do a session on why some people grieve for so long after a divorce despite knowing the relationship no longer wanting the marriage anymore. It's been over 5yrs since our divorce (30yrs together). Deep down, I know I need to move on and is trying to do so but still seem stuck.
I think I'm abnormal. I don't really feel limerance to the extent that most people do. I feel interest towards someone, but what I really love is reaching the long term stability with a partner. When they become family. It feels that most people seem the other way around
My ex (dumped me 2 months back) posted pictures of herself in a hotel room with her new lover. She looks so happy & that destroyed me. Not that I don't want her happy but because that's how she used to smile at me. I don't know if I'll ever get her back but I'm in NC.
I don't understand my husband we been separated for 2 years. He says he dont love me anymore or has no feelings for me anymore. But he doesn't want a divorce when I mention im going to file for it. No sense being married if his love isn't there for me anymore.
20 years of marriage and then out of the blue my wife said she no longer loved me and she filed for divorce. She did not take up my offer for counseling as an attempt to salvage our marriage. Now in the middle of a nutty long divorce (10 months so far, and many more months to go); where she wants everything (house, 401K, retirement etc…) she has hired/fired her attorney and things are not going as she envisioned. Our 2 teenage college kids are just shaking their heads at her short sighted decision making and they’re trying to do their best under these ugly circumstances. … I chalk it up to midlife crisis, emotion-only decision making where she will eventually regret.
Thanks Coach Lee. My husband has numbed himself to me, is hiding away in an apartment, spending time with someone else and giving us very little opportunity to connect. I’ve tried all these things and he is just like a different person and thinks he’s gone past the point if no return. He has held his ground we are done for 6 months. I would appreciate some videos on immense stubbornness and how to break through fear of pushing someone to even have a coffee with you. Maybe I just let it go for good.
My husband just told me he is divorcing me after 25yrs of marriage & is calling a lawyer immediately. He wants to be divorced by December. This is not something I want, I knew we had problems but I thought we could work on them-he doesn’t want to. I’m in shock & very dependent on my husband-he knows that too! I have no time to help our marriage it seems inevitable…so lost. What else can I do besides go along with the divorce?
Run. Get your financial affairs sorted asap and be prepared for the 3rd party to appear. Then be prepared for you being to blame for everything. Ugh, been there done that 🙄
Hi Lee...I saw reviews about you in a daily mail article. They were so negative about you....but those reviewers never listened to your content....Individuals appreciate your valuable and valuable advice.
Yes, in that article they said that I taught people how to manipulate their exes. Funny how letting someone have a breakup without fighting it is considered manipulation. It was a hit piece in my opinion.
I remember you saying that people could be in Limerence for years. My ex-husband did this several times where he would say that he would fall in love with me again, and then he would fall out of love with me. So he went back-and-forth staying with me, and then leaving. If he didn’t, physically leave, he checked out, so to speak. I could no longer stand the roller coaster. So we separated, and finally divorced. I am now with the love of my life. However, I’m still listening to your advice, as I will never let my guard down on that front. My current partner appears to be in love with me and he swears that he’s never felt what he feels now . He said he loves me and he’s in love with me. All I can say is that I hope it isn’t Limerence. But if it is, I’m somewhat prepared. We have been together for a year thus far exclusively.
How to deal with this bcz I'm on same. Page ..we havebeen in relationship for 5 years..2.5 years were good bcz we were in clg and meet daily but now it's on off just according to his feelings..but he loves me very much and he also don't know what is happening with him..we both want to work on this..any advice 🙏
Yes he had limerance for me. I told him many times and he kept saying not, that he loved me. So I married him.. now he doesn't "love" me anymore... he despises me😂 I wouldn't care less if I hadn't invested in him 20.000 dollars that I will never see back uahauahauhaauha
Thank you so much Coach Lee, i watch your videos every time i think of my situation now. We are still leaving together, even if we are legally separated. I do not know if my wife is in limerence, she always tells me they are just talking, she met this guy through IG. I am still committed of us reconciling. Thank you again for this videos.
Yeah, it’s also makes it hard to when someone keeps showing up out of your life with no reason. When you deal with a narcissist abuse, it makes it hard.
Put your mind on ease and read about Attachment theory and understand yourself if you had attachment issues you are still dealing. It helps a lot to self reflect, You learn more about yourself.
I believe, strongly believe I never fell out of limerence. How can I know? We have been divorced 20 years, married 20 years. I had almost 20 yrs depressed. The month we split I never menstruated again. And also he continuously called me and several times tried to get me to do romantic things like drinking wine, slow dancing,making love. And at the same time he was caught by her husband and me.He continued having an affair,moved out and saw her regularly. Explain that. We haven’t hardly said ten words to each other the divorce . They got married. I am single still.
My ex and I broke up years ago and I used to watch ur videos all the time ab no contact and it would always work. She would always come back but eventually she got with someone else but she was also in love with me. So recently me and her were talking for a long time and her and her ex had broken up. One night we were fine and saying we love each other (we weren’t dating but tryna get back together) then the next night she said she lost feelings for me and went back to her ex. Any suggestions?
Question: I am in no contact (not wife) it’s been 10 days. We split because because my very long divorce had turned me into a needy reliant butt. I had moved to Florida from Ky a year ago. At the time I quit my job to do that with the intent of not leaving and finding work. However, I had to return to Ky to push this divorce through which caused me to just be destroyed. I have been in intensive therapy and have flipped myself completely. Should I break no contact to let her know I found a very impressive job and the divorce will be final in two weeks? Neither of which she knows. Our friend group is very different: her close friends aren’t friends with me on social media. She lived in Md, now we both live in Fl
What if they don't love me anymore, and she just wants to be alone with her dogs? She doesn't want to ever think about meeting someone else. Apparently I am the cause of her depression after a series of microaggressions
My ex is moved on with another women and says there’s no chance of us getting back together and says he’s happier. It’s been 4 months since the break up and he’s not wanting any contact. Can I get him back? We have a daughter together.
If you have a daughter together, I suggest you watch my video on strategic contact at ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-EcA47MmHP_I.html&pp=ygUXY29hY2ggbGVlIHNtYXJ0IGNvbnRhY3Q%3D
Should you date other people during this break period? She keeps telling me she doesn’t know if she wants to get back together and that she lost herself idk if I should wait or move on and maybe try contacting in the future?
I actually talk about that some in this video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-KZY_TA-ku8Q.html and also in my Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/
hi coach lee, i would appreciate your advice. my ex contacted me during NC and we met up once. but i got too eager and he is not initiating texts. what should i do? back to NC?
Hey so coach lee I got a question for you what if you are doing no contact with a x you stayed away for a month and she is saying she wants nothing to do with you and changed their phone number but still asks about you 2 do I still stay in no contact I find that she is battling with her self internally
Just keep doing what you’re doing. Stay in no contact and don’t react to anything except a direct message from her. It sounds like she is regretting what she did and said and doesn’t want to you to get too far away.
So I no it’s not fair to ask lee because you already answered one of my questions, but my ex just let be see she is in a relationship she is 24 and he is around 45 or 50 I believe she let me see this to get on her jealous side what do I do they started August 1st and let be remind you that it showed single for some time but I can see now she’s in a relationship so I believe she is trying to get me to react
@RealCoachLee ... My ex keeps offering to buy groceries for me. She gets jealous when she thinks I'm dating again. Yet she keeps her relationship that started 2 weeks after our breakup to someone she's known for 20 years. We were together 5 years. She said "if i could have what we had in the beginning, i would want us again." She doesn't trust my son's mother (for good reasons) and said "Get ahold of me when he's 18. I want to marry you then"... Cake and eat it too I guess. It's been 5 months almost.
Bull shot 10. years with no itamacy or sex. You think this is ok??? My wife advised I am worthy of sex or itamacy.i am lonely and broken. 10 years I am done - frustrated plus wife has had cancer. Bad advise from coach Lee
