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My story of love and loss as a transracial adoptee | Sara Jones 

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A mysterious tattoo on her forearm was all that linked Sara Jones, adopted as a child by white parents, to her South Korean origins. Searching for her birth family taught her that transracial adoption stories often frame new lives abroad as strokes of luck that call for endless gratitude, obscuring a far more complex reality. Through her experience of loss and discovery, Jones offers guidance on what adoptive parents can do to protect their children's unique cultural and personal narratives.
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@maymiller3639
@maymiller3639 4 года назад
It was amazing how she repeated about being grateful in the end to show how gratefullness is something that grows within children with the parents actions instead of being forced upon or reminded of like she was.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Exactly, thank you so much for picking up on that. The Gratitude I have now in people understanding more deeply about the experience of adoption is not the same type of gratitude I was expected to have growing up.
@SaranyaMano
@SaranyaMano 4 года назад
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. I cannot imagine what you want through, but I hope that transracial adoptions these days are more sensitive to the children's emotions and identity.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you, I believe many people are much more aware and working harder to understand the experience through the perspective of children.
@marietremblayartiste
@marietremblayartiste 3 года назад
Thank you so much. ❤ I got emotional, I felt like finally someone was telling a story that kinda look like mine. I'm so glad for you to have been able to reunite with your biological family. 🙂❤
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you Marie-Josee. I really appreciate that.
@queenmisanthrope
@queenmisanthrope 2 года назад
Her father was smart for putting that tattoo on them. I would’ve never thought to do that
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 2 года назад
I am grateful for my father's ingenuity.
@queenmisanthrope
@queenmisanthrope 2 года назад
@@SaraJones-InclusionPro happy that you reunited with your family. Thanks for sharing your story. God bless you ❤️
@anelysemowery1348
@anelysemowery1348 4 года назад
Being adopted internationally this meant so much to me. Thank you
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you, yes international adoptees have very similar experiences.
@yingchang8407
@yingchang8407 4 года назад
i am crying. Thank you for your sharing.
@jaeheechong5123
@jaeheechong5123 4 года назад
Thank you for sharing your powerful story. Sara, you are an inspiration! 👏😍
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you!
@Smollish
@Smollish 2 года назад
Being a transracial adoptee this hit me so hard. She talked about something being wrong when on the surface everything is fine has been one of my depression struggles for years. Hearing her voice all these struggles, similar ones that I went through but didn't really tell anyone because the wouldn't understand or made me feel guilty for feeling made me cry.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 2 года назад
Thank you.Expressing vulnerabilities can be incredibly difficult for children who are adopted. I can identify with you and hope you know you aren't alone.
@notanartist9908
@notanartist9908 4 года назад
I'm not even adopted but this was very inspiring and insightful. Also, heartbreaking yet beautiful ❤️
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you, I am glad my message spoke to you.
@notanartist9908
@notanartist9908 3 года назад
@@SaraJones-InclusionPro The idea of adopting and raising a child one day (once I'm finally able to) has been on my mind for a while now and this was really eye-opening. Thank you for sharing your story!
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
@@notanartist9908 As a realist, I know that adoptions will continue to happen. There are a lot of groups that work to educate prospective parents about the realities of adoption, you'll find some great support.
@godnkr236
@godnkr236 4 года назад
It is a real courage for this woman to share her story. So strong💪
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you, it was a very difficult talk to give.
@Mer680
@Mer680 4 года назад
Thank you so much for sharing this! I think about adoption issues frequently. While I always admire the courage and commitment of adoptive parents, I also feel heartbroken for the adopted kids. Even adoption within your race is not easy, not to mention transracial ones. Why do kids have to go through this in the first place? Of course it is better than not being adopted, but still traumatic.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you, hopefully this generates some ideas for solutions such as 1) how do we build economic stability so children do not have to be adopted in the first place, and 2) if they must be adopted, how do we create emotionally safe environments for children to adapt to their new circumstances and even stay connected with their families of origin. Children who are adopted do not want people to feel bad for them. The economic circumstances and environmental circumstances they are raised in are very much out of their control.
@itouchtheskyslowlifeitaly
@itouchtheskyslowlifeitaly 4 года назад
You're a lovely woman. Thank you so much for sharing your story as an adopted child. I love listening and watching you here on the top of the mountain Italy.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you so much.
@itouchtheskyslowlifeitaly
@itouchtheskyslowlifeitaly 3 года назад
You're welcome.
@pattyihm8099
@pattyihm8099 Год назад
Wow. This made me weep, Sara. ❤️
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro Год назад
Thank you Patty.
@johnjohnw1716
@johnjohnw1716 4 года назад
Amazing story, it's such a large and small world at the same time. It should be made so kids in this situation to be shown about their background so they can identify more easily. What a smart father as well.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Yes having your identity and background erased is tough for so many adoptees. There has been so much shame tied to parents who have their children adopted outside of their families. My father was smart, yet it was a very unpopular thing to do. I am grateful compared to so many adoptees who search for years (decades in some cases) to find their families.
@user-hl1gc2xx7l
@user-hl1gc2xx7l 4 года назад
A very very awesome speech ! I would like to share!!!
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you so much for watching and sharing.
@sreekumarpk08
@sreekumarpk08 3 года назад
From Kerala "gods own country" want you to give a hug. Your childhood photos made my eyes fill... Finally i am happy that you found your family. I really appreciate you to for sharing your suggestions to adults in the world who have adopted child.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you for your generous and lovely note.
@ruru2235
@ruru2235 4 года назад
Thanks for your sharing.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you for watching!
@vasd8706
@vasd8706 4 года назад
I am very happy , that you found your birth family.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you, I am so very grateful.
@kjam4236
@kjam4236 2 года назад
Sara was a guess on WBEZ today her story was intriguing so I wanted to hear it for myself...awesome!
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 2 года назад
Thank you, was thrilled to be invited to share more on NPR TED Radio hour. Thanks for listening and watching!
@bhupendradwivedi8775
@bhupendradwivedi8775 4 года назад
In this video there is a lesson to those kids who are adopted from somewhere..she openly explained every ins and outs which has happened with her after adopting by someone..those people also live respectfully life without any shame.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you, children who are adopted did not have a choice. So I hope my talk empowers them to honor their feelings and journey.
@gabriellelaroche7641
@gabriellelaroche7641 2 года назад
Thank you for sharing your story. I don't know if i'll have the courage to find my biological parents one day, because I am scared of failling. I was left on an building entrance with a note, which the orphanage never gave to my adopted. parents.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro Год назад
You definitely have to decide for yourself. There are many hard stories of people who seek their birth family only to find a lot of disappointment. Good luck in your adoption journey, wherever that takes you!
@romulogustavo9591
@romulogustavo9591 4 года назад
Even though most adoptions happen when children are still babies, I think that some memories prior to adoption remain with them throughout their lives, and their new families need to know how to deal with it.
@venkataramarajuilla
@venkataramarajuilla 4 года назад
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@danemortensen8243
@danemortensen8243 4 года назад
@@venkataramarajuilla what?
@A--PhucLam
@A--PhucLam 4 года назад
Stupid
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Yes and really I was 3 years old. Many three year old children are quite verbal and intelligent at that age. I am sure I knew what was happening.
@timothyzakaria7397
@timothyzakaria7397 Год назад
@@SaraJones-InclusionPro could u at least write me do u have an email? Please understand my birth mother looks nothing like me of course she didn't care. I don't have any money to give u but I need your support
@lunaj5499
@lunaj5499 3 года назад
It’s a heartwarming speech! 언제나 행복하시길 바랍니다💙
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you!
@thenobleone-3384
@thenobleone-3384 2 года назад
Sara is a lot older than me I didn't know neither one of my parents. I want to meet her but she lives in Utah and I'm planning to move to Europe. I love the culture in Italy and trying to work there
@Jax-jx5uu
@Jax-jx5uu 4 года назад
she looked so sad and scared in the adoption pics. so sad.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you, I wanted people to understand from a child's point of view that the adoption experience can be quite traumatic, different from the adoptive parent narrative I grew up with.
@TV-qr8lc
@TV-qr8lc 4 года назад
Great
@TelleyJay
@TelleyJay 4 года назад
I just love this story!!!!!!!!
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you so much!
@thenobleone-3384
@thenobleone-3384 2 года назад
She was born in South Korea. I wasn't born in Afghanistan so I'm very much American. I don't hate the United States every country has its issues.
@HH-kg4fq
@HH-kg4fq 3 года назад
To all the non adoptees watching this, please know that Sara Jones only speaks for herself, not for all transracial or transethnic adoptees..... Signed, a Korean-American adoptee.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Thank you for saying that. Yes my journey is my own and I advocate in my talk for each adoptee owning their own story.
@kevinmilburn4995
@kevinmilburn4995 4 года назад
“I don’t want to be reminded that I am adopted I just want to be a normal kid”
@lckbe4804
@lckbe4804 4 года назад
Exotics that enjoyment is great thing. To experience new lifestyle is so marvelous.
@kathywang3126
@kathywang3126 4 года назад
who here is watching this because ur parents r forcing you to
@burqaabdu6434
@burqaabdu6434 4 года назад
In Islamic religions it not allowed to change father name of child adopted
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
I was very lucky that my name was not changed. I did not know until I found my birth family. Many children from Korean have different names so it is hard to find their birth families.
@joylandpublic
@joylandpublic 3 года назад
What difference does it make to one if they were abandoned or wanted by their former life? It's not a rational pain.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
You speak as if emotions are rational, and yet they are not.
@TV-qr8lc
@TV-qr8lc 4 года назад
You look sa
@HH-kg4fq
@HH-kg4fq 3 года назад
Transracial adoption doesn't include the adoption of a child of one ethnicity by a parent of another ethnicity if the 2 ethnicities fall under the same race. In fact, in the adoptee communities, Asians adopted by Caucasian families do not like Asians adopted by Non-Caucasian families.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
Yes I believe everyone agrees that transracial specifically refers to when a child of one race is adopted by a parent of a different race. No one disputes that. I am not sure where your observation of conflict between adoptees who have different adoptive experiences comes from. But my hope is that we will be empathetic to all adoption journeys as being unique to the individual.
@sohamvij1
@sohamvij1 4 года назад
First
@vger5857
@vger5857 4 года назад
I thought we are all the same race, the human race.
@devnerdgirl4638
@devnerdgirl4638 3 года назад
We’re not all the same and that makes life beautiful and interesting.
@vger5857
@vger5857 3 года назад
@@devnerdgirl4638 No, we are all humans. Nothing special.
@liltugboat6932
@liltugboat6932 4 года назад
I learned to smile without smiling :/ pretty sure thats everyone your not speaciel.
@SaraJones-InclusionPro
@SaraJones-InclusionPro 3 года назад
I agree with you. I am explaining my experience growing up. I don't ever say that I am the only one who experienced that. And by sharing common experiences, we better learn to empathize with each other.
@TV-qr8lc
@TV-qr8lc 4 года назад
Great
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