My Wife Is a Completely Different Person Now (Can We Make It?) 

1. Met her after a very recent divorce. 2. Got her pregnant in 6 weeks. 3 . Married her right away. 4 . SHE’s crazy. Dude feels no responsibility for THEIR situation. I feel so bad for that child.

Never build a relationship on lust!

6 weeks isn’t enough time to marry someone and it definitely isn’t enough time to raise a child with someone. It’s okay to take a little time to get to know someone.

BPD is no joke. Its extremly difficult to have a lasting relationships with someone with BPD. Its like a constant contradiction in feelings.

I have a BPD mother & it was absolute HELL on earth for all of us - I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy

I married and divorced someone with BPD many years ago, he couldn't manage his emotions at all. Years later, he got so angry at a woman who broke up with him that he murdered her. Be very, very, very careful. BPD is very serious.

Dated a BPD girl for 4 months. Will never do that again. Lesson learned.

Got pregnant six weeks after they met….. good Lord…!

People gotta quit fu$king when lust knocks on the door and making babies! Its the kids who suffer the most! Two people getting together need time to get to know each other personally and intellectually, long before they become intimate! And when you do become intimate, you need to use every precaution known to man to avoid pregnancy! Foam the room, use a heavy duty, lubricated garbage bag, put a picture of your grandma on the headboard, have motion detectors that turn on speakers with your mom and dad yelling for you, etc.

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient

When you fall in love with an open wound, the healing process seems to take away everything that is familiar. You need to be willing to love the scar just as much if not more than the wound. I hope he is up for it.

This comments section is so sad… as a mom with BPD- it made my stomach turn reading how some people have suffered so much from having a parent with BPD. I have been married to my husband (both of our first relationships) for 7 years. We married pretty young, had 4 kids, and we both are discovering things about ourselves that we didn’t know prior to getting married. I found out I had BPD when I was 24 (I’m 27 now) and my husband was diagnosed with OCD (among other things). While we did start a family before knowing ANY of this, the important part is recognizing that we have the help and the resources to get therapy and be treated appropriately. It actually inspires us to be better parents than the ones we had (I had/ have a narc father). While we still were forgiving of them not treating their own mental health due to lack of resources during their time... as well as some ignorance. We (now) have no excuse to put our kids through the generational trauma

I have BPD. I'm almost 40 years old, I have 2 kids, & have been married for almost 10 years. I have also done DBT to help with my emotions. What I can say is that the best thing a spouse can do is just be there for support. Not judge or run away, but either give us space & time as well as the support & understanding. No one is perfect & we all have flaws, whether you have mental illness or not. Just do the best you can & keep pushing forward. 💗🦋

The craziest part is that this dude thinks he's the sane one. He, recently divorced, didn't learn and heal in his own right before going out into the world trying to scratch an itch better left alone. It's no shocker he picked her. He's as much a drama king as her BPD had her searching for triggers.

I think he had sweet, normal ex wife, but wanted drama and crazy sex, he found crazy sex, however if you want crazy in bedroom, you have to take "crazy" outside of bedroom

I know a girl with BPD. She got pregnant after dating a guy for 2 months (he was a felon and fresh out of prison so he was having the time of his life) she lost that one, they broke up. Got with a new guy and was pregnant within 3 weeks. Wrap it up. You don't know who you're having a baby with in 3 weeks and birth control falls on both parties.

I grew up with a mother with borderline personality disorder. It was extremely hard then and it's still hard to deal with her now. It's very important that this man protects his daughter when his wife acts crazy. The kid should not have to deal with an unstable mother. I'm not saying that a person with this disorder is always crazy or that they can't live normal lives, but in my experience they can do quite a lot of damage to their children. This man needs to protect his kid above everything else.

My brother has BPD and it was really tough living in the same household. My mother said at one point "this is what hell feels like" because he was very impulsive and emotional and suicidal, she was worried that everytime the phone rang, it would be someone notifying her he completed suicide

The last advice was gold: be sturdy, be for her, take care of yourself and keep that kid safe.

I’ve just turned 69 and divorced for 5 yrs after a 43 yr marriage. Caller, I wish I had a husband who cared about what I was going through to love me as I healed through my past. The woman you love is still in there! Sometimes all we need is a long hug which lasts until she lets go first. For me, I needed to know I was loved and protected by at least one other person. Your marriage can be stronger than ever with knowing it’s the two of you together helping her heal. You are her support. Make sure you have support for yourself. Walking each other Home. 💜

the fact that Codey reached out and was willing to talk - on air - with Dr. John, shows the sort of man he is. I'm trusting he'll listen and help his wife - his family - grow strong. Blessings on this family.

My fiance is borderline this is absolutely accurate. There is an incredible benefit to their intense emotions... they're genuine, they're dedicated and they're very loyal. Also their symptoms are far more capable of going into remission w therapy than any other type of personality disorder bc they aren't high in narcissistic qualities. Because they can experience intens regret; that can fuel their desire to change their behavior.

Whew, I walked away from a girl I really liked who sounds like this woman. After a 20 year marriage of dealing with a narcissist, no way was I gonna sign up for this. NO WAY IN HELL……..

This is why sleeping with someone you dont know well or want children with could really destroy your life. Pregnancy is a possible consequence of sex. Choose your sexual partners well because they could be apart of your life forever. Both women and men have the choice who to choose as their partner. Take your time dont rush things. I have a family member with BPD and she can be very difficult to have an open honest relationship with. She can be hurtful intentionaly when facing criticism. She has since destroyed her entire family and life. She had past sexual trauma as well. She did similar things in her sexual relationship in her marriage. She accused her husband of rape when she later openly admitted he never raped her or coherced her or did anything against her will but she had a severe trauma response during sex she didnt ask him to stop or say anything but was still severly emotionaly disturbed. Now after the divorce she is struggling with severe depression. After speaking with her this man is going through a very similar thing and he needs to tred carefuly. After thte fact and therapy my sister felt horrible and recognized thhat she falsley accused her husband of rape. It shattered his trust and even though she didnt want to get divorced he was hurt far more then she realized. It was heartbreaking to watch her go through this. At the time she was angry and went out of her way to hurt him and one day woke up and she was a wreck. God bless yall.

Thank you for being kind about BPD.

I dated a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder, ADHD, and depression who had trauma from childhood and sexual trauma when she was older for about 2 1/2 years and was about to propose to her but the relationship turned into the most difficult thing I’ve done in my life. I knew her for 10+ years before her and I got together and we were really good friends on and off since high school. I thought I knew everything about her and took the chance to be in a relationship with her when her and I were the same age as the caller here was when we got older. I was in for a hell of a ride to a level I never expected. Over the years I knew her she bounced between guys which she now blames for all her trauma and everything else she is dealing with. She ended up having a kid with her last ex and blames all of her current financial and trauma issues on him (the financial issues were caused by her manic episodes of extreme spending or stuff she did that I've seen her do) and did everything possible to keep her kid away from him in court while her and I were together. She absolutely hated her ex and everything about him but I actually felt sorry for him since I knew a lot of these things weren't true or over exaggerated. Everything in the video this guy was saying is exactly what I dealt with on an intimate level with her and later on there was very rarely any intimacy because her mind was always worried about something that really didn’t matter at all. When she was in a good mindset it was the best thing in the world with her and that's what sucked me in. She was in therapy and on medication early on in our relationship and things were working well but she eventually stopped going and quit taking hers meds and things went downhill from there because she refused to get the help she needed again. No matter what I did to emotionally, physically, or financially support her it was never enough and eventually she got to the point to where she hated me because I couldn't fix the mess she got herself into before we got together. I thought I could get her through it if I was with her long enough but I realize now that I was kidding myself. Once she kicked me to the curb one day I felt so much anger and hurt from it because I know I wasn't the person she made me out to be. I had time to myself to think about it all I realized she did me a favor. My life is peaceful and stress free now. I still do love her and shes one of the most beautiful women I've seen in my life and deep down she’s a truly sweet and amazing person but all the mental instability made it unbelievably difficult to have a relationship. I loved her daughter and she was my world. It's not worth the trouble to chase after her or deal with this stuff if she refuses to get therapy and get medication to help with it. I feel terrible for her daughter because I was the only guy she had to look up to as a father figure in her life since she was a baby. I'm more hurt by the fact I can't see her anymore. There's nothing I can do since she's not my blood. My biggest advice to this caller is to make sure you focus on giving your daughter a stable upbringing like John said and make sure you focus on your own wellbeing. Your wife is going to need to do her own thing to help herself but everything is up to her. If things get real bad make sure you have a good attorney saved on your phone that you can talk to asap and cover yourself cause if it doesn't work out and have some money saved away that she doesn’t know about because you’ll need it. She will do everything in her power to make your life a living hell. I really hope what John says can be accomplished between you and your wife but it's going to be a lifelong struggle. For any guys reading this that's thinking about entering a relationship with a woman that has BPD and other issues I highly recommend you don't and move on. It'll be great at first but hell down the road. It's not worth your sanity. I dodged a bullet and see it now. It would have just landed me in the same place as her ex if I ended up having a kid with her or got married because it wouldn't last. It doesn't mean you should treat her any differently but just keep it on a friend level at the very most as hard as that is or just move on with your life.

Some of these comments are so sad. She is deserving of love.

You didn’t know who you were “falling in love” with. Does anyone else out there see the wisdom in not sleeping together before marriage?

This account has gained 100k subs in the last like month, that’s INSANE

I am so happy she is seeking help and thank you to this guy for supporting her

Wow as a woman who lost her partner & much more due to this illness I found this so good & true . I have since changed but I never knew why I started getting tramztised at end of relationship during intamcy n so true bout baby girls too wow your knowledge and way of talking about bpd is more on point than I've ever heard. I've stayed out of relationships since as I don't want to cause harm and am still healing but I've come on so much . Thank you fir this video & I want to commend that man on his standing by her I know it's so hard its a horrible illness but we do heal with the right help and no one loves more but yes we have/ had behaviours that cannot be tolerated so stay safe and I pray the best for you both 🙏 ❤️ she is blessed to have you

I appreciate how he said that a survivor who has a daughter raises issues. As such a person, a lot of issues came up when my first child was a girl. Lots of nightmares, night terrors, fear, and bad memories. I'm so grateful that unlike my own mom, I was able to double down, stick around, and be the best mom I could be with having had very little modeling. My daughter is a well-adjusted adult woman I admire now. There is hope!

Many of these diagnosis have become common language, but it is still very important to stop the conversation and define words and diagnoses. Thank you for making conversations clear as you proceed.

I feel like theres so many responses from people who dont have bpd or people who have not witnessed someone with a bpd diagnosis turn their life around for better. Ive been in emdr trauma therapy for 3+ years now and my husband has been as john says a "sturdy" man. By unpacking and understanding the childhood traumas that caused a bpd reaction, and by being with someone who has fully 125% demonstrated what healthy love is to me, my life has completely changed. But i had to allow it to change i had to give up my baggage and understand that the way i viewed the world based off my childhood was not healthy or helping me any longer. The past 3 years have been absolutely exhausting to constantly remind myself that i dont need to react the way id normally react, i dont need to even react at all in some situations... its really really tough to teach your body to be different than how it was naturally wired by life circumstance. My husband is an angel given to me now by only what i can believe is god, and im not a religious person but my husbands love has convinced me that there is a god and that that god loves me too. We have a baby girl on the way and im scared as hell that ill be able to regulate appropriately around her but im going to try like hell. I am not the woman my husband married five years ago, i am a thousand times better. Thanks to therapy and the love of a "sturdy" man. What does that mean to be "sturdy"? It means being predictable, even tempered, unwavering, to have a routine in every aspect of your life, etc. My husband showed me the man i had expected my father to be but my father never was. He proved that that health and happiness and reliability can be real. He was always, underneath the surface, agitated by what i did but never showed it in his mannerisms and allowed me to learn by watching him day in and day out show the exact same consistency of a person who meant what they did and meant what they said. Now i have someone i trust with my whole heart and seeing/knowing that has allowed me to observe other people and really ask myself "if theyre not as sturdy as my husband, do i genuinely need them in my life - confusing my perspective and my fragility?" And the answer is no. If theyre not like my husband i dont want them. Be it friends or family. I know what real love is and that gives me an ability to walk away from anyone who disrespects me by giving me less than that. Maybe a lonely existence, but i have significantly less triggers and moments where i question myself or my reality. Hubs and i got this. Hes my ride or die. Now i just have to learn to emulate his sturdiness in myself to my daughter when she arrives. And ill do everything i can though i know it wont be perfect. ❤ i know ill be a great mom, better than my parents ever were and better than even some of yall on here dogging out people with bpd.

It takes a very patient and loving person to deal with someone who has BPD

Yes these are the changes no one talks about in marriage. One gets more rich the other loses money. One loses weight the other gains. The opposites are pretty much inevitable.

No you didn’t fall in love in 6 weeks. That’s lust. And you reap what you sow.. now you’re with someone unstable.

Poor kids. They aren’t going to understand why mommy LOVES them one minute and HATES them the next minute.

thank you for saying what you have abt bpd. there’s a lot of people out there who genuinely discriminate against us so i appreciate your compassion!

My brother’s wife has BPD and has caused absolute chaos for my entire family for almost 10 years now. Very abusive. And the chaos became so much worse once they had a child which she has blatantly said to me that she regrets having RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE CHILD. She takes every chance to run away from her responsibilities as a mother. I think my brother is too embarrassed about being abused and being completely controlled by her to seek help and is scared that she will get custody if they get a divorce … I’ve distanced myself at this point and made it clear she is not allowed to contact me just to verbally abuse me for zero reason because I have given up all hope of anything getting better. It’s all so so complicated and sad.

Hang in there bro. My soon to be ex wife has it. I'm rooting for you

BPD is the hardest personality disorders to overcome. For many years it was considered one of the few disorders that were unresolvable/nonfixable. It is only fairly recently that there are theraphies that actually work at helping sufferers of this disorder overcome, or manage it - DBT, CBT, MBT, TF to name a few. Someone who has the courage and bravery to get help for this disorder is a superman or woman because they love themselves enough to change. Coupled with sexual trauma - really difficult. If she is working at it all the time and he sees positive changes, even small ones, then they may have a chance. If she is going to theraphy, but there are no changes, or so slight it makes no difference, then she is just playing a game. If there is little growth, too much toxicity and affecting the child - time to make some hard choices. At that point no matter what he does will never be enough. My sister-in-law was BPD and went for counseling for years. She went to a different counselor everytime the old one would disagree with her. She finally found one that agreed with everything she said. Nothing ever changed. Life in that house was a living hell. The ONLY way a relationship with someone who has BPD can ever work is if the person with it is actively, with their whole heart, working on changing.

I had BPD and spent 10 years in therapy and did two runs of DBT and the last couple years no one would ever tell and I no longer meet the criteria. It’s not a disease, it’s not a disability. It can be worked through. I had to work through it on my own. It would’ve been amazing to have a loving partner who was there for me. If this dude is there for her and supports her through her journey, things will get better for them both. I had an ex who had no patience for my sexual trauma. Dumped me after I wouldn’t “put out” for a month when I was struggling. Still recovering from her tbh but I deserve better.

Her issues aren't going anywhere. Get a divorce, show your kid what normal looks like. It's about her. When you stay you show that this behavior is ok

This also shows why one should wait to have sex until marriage. I could almost guarantee you they would not have gotten married had there been no baby involved

I would like to have an update in about like half a year to see how these people are doing, if possible. It's very hard to be in a relationship with someone that has a PD. Hope they are going to make it. Who says someone with a BLD doesn't deserve love? Most likely trauma-based response is anxiety. From that explodes the agression. Most people only see the evil side, not the underlying trauma. This man is brave, and the lady too, since she told him before they were married. Therefore, she cares too. It's hard, but Dr. John thinks there is a chance.

A lot of people in these comment sections need grace with people, yeesh. My husband has dealt with my trauma and me with his. Marriage is difficult like life sometimes. If you love a person, you slow down with them when they need it. You dance with them, you cry with them or stay strong. Life is a journey… the answer isn’t switch partners consistently. 😂 Also, as for the caller her healing is not about you but she will need you as support. I’m not familiar with BPD but I pray y’all can communicate and heal together.

Thank you so much for such a compassionate approach to this situation. I have BPD and it's really hard to dive into videos like these, especially when the comments seem to be a dumping ground for "Never Again with BPD," "what a monster she was", etc., but the way you validate both the caller and his wife feels much more productive and acknowledges the truth of both experiences. DBT really helped me to acknowledge that the intensity of my emotions was more of a signal than a statement of reality. I hope this caller and his wife can feel encouraged and empowered to go on this journey together.

Dang, fantastic advice, coming from someone who’s also torn up from past trauma. Subscribed!

Bro really picked a winner.

You can't have a relationship with someone with BPD. You need to run. Run fast. Your life will be hell. I married one who was medicated and didn't tell me. She went off the meds while pregnant. My life became horrible. She ruined me. Run now. You are in danger. This may sound dramatic but it is not. Delony should be telling you to leave. You are in for a lifetime of absolute hell. Just wait until she starts attacking you and calls the cops saying you attacked her. You WILL become the target of VIOLENCE.

she used sex to get your affection and attachment. She has never been a truly sexual person. She's merely used sex to get what she wants. This is so common of BDP. Men, if you're falling for someone with BPD. I would get out quick, i've never seen it work out well for the non-BPD partner. Their life is ALWAYS worse for it, not kinda worse. It's WAY worse for you.

John would never tell a female caller to hang in there when they are the target of violence. My husband gets drunk and beats me. Oh just try to be understanding and tell him how much you love him. I'm in 100%. Oh, please.

The best way to reduce trauma response is make more memories of peace safety and love, the mind will reinforce this environment instead of the past trauma, more and more

I love this channel...when listening to these people's problems it makes me so happy I'm not married and no kids...no credit problems, no in-law problems. I'm a happy camper with a decent job living her best life with a great boyfriend and friends.😊🎉

He sounds like an unusually patient, compassionate man.

Thank you for your empathetic description of BPD. I was bracing myself for anything due to the stigma, but you described it perfectly. 🙏🏼

To much to soon. Married with a child didn’t really get to know each other. Fresh out of a divorce what a whirlwind. I feel his pain. I have an adult daughter who lives with me and my husband and everyday is a wait and see what happens next with her. Will she go off the deep end or will we have a pleasant afternoon. Please know that this is not all her fault. She’s been through hell and she needs understanding and therapy which she is getting. Yeah it’s a hard go. Give this time and keep going for therapy. I send hugs and I have great respect for you both.

She did not change, she was always that way.

The is the Dr John I like, really good stuff!

I'm so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed my life forever,hoping to retire next year.. Investment should always be on any creative man's heart for success in life

Loved this episode

Thank you for explaining BPD

Was here when this account had 100k subscribers 😐. He’s over half a mil now! Nice.

She's very lucky, I don't know if it's because of the baby, or if he's actually in love with her, but he sounds like someone who needs a big hug but isn't going to leave her

As some one with BPD the was he described it, wow that hit home, never had it described that way and yet it’s so accurate

Dr. John is a decent human being/good egg.

He will have a lifetime of struggles.

Im pretty sure I have/had boarder-line undiagnosed from how pll describe this behavior. Without therapy I changed who I was and my personality when I realized I was failing the safest and most supportive person to me. I decided I was gonna be different read lots of books/podscasts/ and stopped living in my emotions to be better. Emotions are temporary and everything isn’t the end of the world even if it feels that way. Change is very capable especially when you realize you’re hurting someone who’s only been there for you.

We as adults need to take accountability for our lives. So many times we jump from marriage to marriage dragging our children along for the traumatizing ride. Taking time from a divorce to heal with the children is the best way. Unfortunately i was married to an alcoholic narcissists. He hid it all very well until it was too late. Yes I stayed as I truly didn't know what I was dealing with and was told to be patient and understanding. If I would have none there is little hope for a narc to change i would have left much sooner. Looking back the truth is I sacrifice our children for him, for his well being. I left 4 yrs ago. The children saw him every other weekend. But he continued his destructive ways. I refused to bring another man home so soon after. We've been in counseling on and off. But more than that I have been enjoying my children. Having fun making a new life for ourselves. Unfortunately this Dec he took his life. So now more trauma left to the children. They need me now more than ever. They are 16 and 14. I wouldn't just abandon their needs and bring a man home as it would change the dynamics of our relationship. I will no longer sacrifice my children for another person.

What an incredible husband. I can only hope I meet someone who cares this much about me and my defects wow

Sounds like she is a danger to her daughter… so sad she needs to grow up with a BPD parent… John would your advice have been the same if the woman called about her husband!?!?!?

My brother has BPD and while he can be kind and generous he has also been horrible to our family. Fortunately he's very high functioning but he's unpredictable and can be explosive and violent. I love him but I don't like very much sometimes.

Wow. Suddenly I understand my old friend so much better. She was a BPD train wreck, sadly. Our relationship is long gone, but this was illuminating, nonetheless. I feel so badly for my former friend’s wasband snd son.

Recovered borderline here! What a wild ride.

Its encouraging she is in this intensive therapy but i was in a relationship with a probable borderline. At least my situation was much worse and i think this guy may not realize the abuse. Not to shame the Bpd partner, but i found i had no more relationships outside of her because of her resctivity. My being in a BPD relationship was like having someome else trying to think for me, while interpreting my thoughts, and reacting in the moment as if it was an emergency. I spent so much time listening to her accusations and claims there was no more me. I felt crazy. To all the BPD (or potential) sufferers, i wish you wellness and healing because you deserve it.

It was because of my husband's continual, unconditional love, that I stopped believing that my husband didn't love me every time he was mad, and I'm not reactive anymore. Thank God for answering my prayers and my husband having much God given patience and genuine love for me. The best thing you can do for someone suffering like this is to REALLY truly love them. Unconditional love set me free. ❤ love you so much, baby ❤

I watched this video last night lol, I thought there was an actual new upload🥺😂

John's the best looking guy without even trying 😂

Sounds like a tough situation. I think I am with someone with similar problems. I feel like I am in the middle of a hurricane and can't take it anymore. My mother had NPD/BPD. I don't want go go back into this. We are just dating though and I plan to pull out but stay friends if possible. I'm an introvert and this is a huge hurricane every day.

Godspeed

I have BPD and have been dealing with it for over half my life, but I've been in a relationship going on 12 years. Best thing ever is that my partner chose to do his own research and reading on the disorder to better understand it himself and to better understand my brain. My own family hasn't even done that!

Wow, this diagnosis explains so much, for myself and for my siblings! Did they know about his 30, 40 years ago? Would definitely helped way back when instead of having suffer for so long!

I have BPD and constantly working on it in therapy and out of therapy. But the most interesting thing my therapist told me is an emotionally stable partner who will not trigger the fear of abandonment is the quickest path to healing. But please don’t stop therapy.

I was with someone with BPD for 14 years. Married for 10. Four kids. When I had finally had enough she did everything in her power to destroy my life. Acted like we had no history at all. Very scary people and you will never truly know them

Buddy missed several red flags. Stay strong for your kid.

BPD? He needs to run. It will be a disaster.

The wife shouldn't have sex until she gets coping skills.

He needs to stand in front of a mirror and see his own issues too. He isn’t the most sane person getting into a relationship with someone he doesn’t know and having raw sex six weeks in, says more about him than her. He really thinks he’s right, correct, and doing everything right. No wonder she is spiraling!

Relationships in and of themselves are part of everyone's healing process. We are constantly working out our childhood drama/trauma no matter how big, small, or the cause. We each choose people in our lives based on that baggage and how we precieve and deal with our baggage ourselves. Paid therapy adds a new layer and dimensions to what already exists for all of us without a label. These parts of our personalities never go away unless they were drug or prescription induced. We learn to adapt and desensitize by whatever survival means available. No one is "normal". No one escapes the process. Some seem to process personal issues undetected. That is life on Earth. That is the HUMAN expiriance. Relationships of any label go the distance or not, based on the development and usefulness to the parties of that relationship. Sometimes the relationship is for a reason or a season. Life is change In all phases. Consistency is not normal, expectations and phases are. 😅 Ask yourself what your choices say about you.

Try and have some compassion for those of us living with Borderline PD. It isn’t under our control and it is a tortured existence. Never feeling loved, accepted and safe, all because we were hurt and harmed by those who should have loved and protected us when we were the most vulnerable. All I read in here is nastiness and condemnation.

Another divorce… coming. Why do you do this to yourself? Why do you get involved with people that have so much baggage it just it’s just too much.

Soooo.....never ever ever destroy a family and make another one! The bond between husband and wife is spiritual,not just a paper work! We are not 17 anymore,we can't just getting married and divorce for another person like we just end up a relantionship in our teens

Dude was on a quest to collect all the red flags. Not the win you want. Choosing extreme mode after failing hard mode is wild.

Had a sister, now deceased with BPD. No childhood trauma trigger. Two of her five children have it. With the three of them, it has caused total devastation in our family. This man and wife are both divorced and neither have learned anything. It was wrong to bring a child into this. She deserves better. I hope she has extended family willing to step in.

Wedding cake and a ridiculous family court system will do that.

Resilience has been the secret to our 36yr marriage. It always gets better. And it's worth it.

"Well actually she got pregnant about 6 weeks after we met." She didn't do that alone buddy

My girlfriend of a year is a sexual trauma survivor. She has a wall up that she will not lower. It's very tough to remain in a relationship with three feet between you.

A good way to describe BPD is what people THINK bipolar means. People usually think Bipolar means up and down all within the same day, when in reality someone with bipolar goes through cycles (weeks to months) of depression, followed by shorter periods of mania. I have Bipolar II so my mania is more hypomania, and it’s awesome lol not the kind that gets me hospitalized