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Navigating Broken Families // The Nona Jones Show // Episode 7 

Nona Jones
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I cannot begin to tell you how many people contact me everyday to tell me how grateful they are for me sharing my story about my childhood. So many of you are being shamed and guilted into carrying the pain of family dysfunction on your own. BUT, one of my goals for this podcast is to create a safe space for you to explore the dark cracks and crevices of your life without fear of being told you’re wrong or crazy.
Today I am honored to have a super special guest with me who is going to help us zoom out a bit and see how broken families are always the result of generational trauma. And we’re going to use our own family as a case study. Let’s talk about it.
0:00:00 Introduction
0:01:12 Welcome
0:03:40 When Aunt Brenda came back into my life
0:04:59 Her memories of my father
0:10:28 Discussing her childhood
0:11:45 Talking about her parents
0:19:16 The relationship between my mom and her dad
0:21:39 How her upbringing shaped who she is now
0:27:55 Why she became the "responsible" child in the family
0:34:18 Sibling relationships and how her parents influenced their connection
0:36:41 Life after her mother's passing
0:41:20 How a dysfunctional family affected her as a wife and parent
0:49:24 Moving to Florida and attempting to rebuild relationships with siblings
0:58:45 Something I've learned from years of trying to love dysfunctional family
1:00:07 Her advice to those struggling with broken families
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@mchlrae7
@mchlrae7 Месяц назад
This story is so common among Black families, even now. Awareness and healing is key. Thank you for sharing
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@TAEssex
@TAEssex Месяц назад
No apologies ~ that's what hurts ~ but I have apologized to my daughter for the way I treated her for the first 13 years of her life. Although she's still healing I changed my behavior in how I treated her and talked to her.
@tenishakelley9757
@tenishakelley9757 Месяц назад
Love this! ❤️❤️ I had to do the same…thank you for sharing. 🙏🏾♥️
@Nnaligiselle
@Nnaligiselle Месяц назад
@elisaross5257
@elisaross5257 Месяц назад
That's wonderful. May you have a healthy and loving relationship with your daughter.
@healwithmusic93
@healwithmusic93 Месяц назад
Well done Mommy 💞
@IAmTheeRaquiB
@IAmTheeRaquiB Месяц назад
That is amazing! ❤❤❤ God bless you! And if you keep at it before you know it you guys will be closer than you even imagined and you guys can move forward as a family even when she has her kids if that's what she chooses!
@TAEssex
@TAEssex Месяц назад
I appreciate Auntie Brenda for sharing her story.
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@CrystalFoster-vm5gn
@CrystalFoster-vm5gn Месяц назад
Thanks Aunt Brenda!! I am she!! I’m also in that I’ve done all I can place in my life! No repentance and no changed behavior from family! No longer giving family permission to show up negatively in my life! The impact has been costly to my physical, mental, and emotional health! No more!! This helped so much on my current journey! Bless you for sharing your truth!
@Ahjaiyah24
@Ahjaiyah24 Месяц назад
When Auntie Brenda said Love who’s around and pray for those who aren’t that thing blessed me bc I always say that so hearing someone with wisdom repeat it let me know I’m on the right track. Thank you ladies soo much for your vulnerability 🙏🏽✨💜
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
So true
@Brianna13Rose
@Brianna13Rose Месяц назад
I am 62 and have not connection with my Mom, Dad, two older sisters, my nephew, my niece. I only have a connection with my younger brother & his Son (nephew). I finally had to create boundaries for the sake of my Children & my peace of mind. I can say I did everything I could to mend broken relationships. It takes two people being honest🙏 I am at peace and now I am a Gramma🤗🍼👍🏼💜 I have forgiven but I cannot allow them to continue to hurt me & disrespect my kids🙏💜
@Mssummer362008
@Mssummer362008 Месяц назад
Same
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
🩷🩷🩷
@07ikkin
@07ikkin Месяц назад
I resonate with this. I'm in my 30s. I have 2 older siblings along with nieces and nephews. It's clear my siblings don't want me in their life. I've prayed for years. I've tried to do things with them. But we've never been close (8 year age gap) so maybe it wasn't meant to be for me to have my biological family in my life. I've changed my prayer to have whatever God wants for my life and to bring supportive relationships into my life. I cannot wait for the prayer to be answered
@user-zw9ki6lk5t
@user-zw9ki6lk5t 14 дней назад
I’m a 62 and have dealt with mother issues and rejection from cousin’s all my life- I have done the work of forgiveness and friendship but for the most part it’s always some issue that comes up/ I’m tired and just ready to move on- setting boundaries is very therapeutic- sending prayers of healing ❤️‍🩹 peace and happiness amongst you and your children ❤
@DomoniqueHarrisWork
@DomoniqueHarrisWork Месяц назад
This is my first time here and I loved this conversation "ima be greedy with you" is such a message of love. I also loved when auntie shared how important it is to wait for the other person to open the door. Knocking down doors regardless of the intention is intruding.
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@TAEssex
@TAEssex Месяц назад
That is so true ~ Many people thought our family was the best family on the block but they did not know the trauma that was happening behind the doors of that house because it was not a home..
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@TAEssex
@TAEssex Месяц назад
Nona I went through the same thing ~ My aunt's and uncle's and my Mom's friend would tell me to call my Mom. I would feel so awful that I would walk right back into my Mom's verbal abuse and her horrible treatment of me. I am 51 years old now and I am just now placing healthy boundaries for not just my heart and mind but for my sanity. I cannot endure that type of treatment anymore. Thank you ladies for sharing. I'm so appreciative for your obedience to share. May God bless you both 🤗 HUGS 🤗
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
Thank you for sharing 🩷🩷🩷
@michellegreen4230
@michellegreen4230 Месяц назад
Lady Nona and Aunt Gwen, your transparency is such a healing agent. Thank you for walking in obedience.
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@ItsWhittlove
@ItsWhittlove 27 дней назад
i'm in this place right now. I made an escape plan and God has shown me that sadly I cannot take anyone with me. I started right here where I am. I tried to literally run from this in the past.
@VC-pq3ui
@VC-pq3ui Месяц назад
No longer navigating family. I’m out. Starting my own path. Healed and living life!
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@questionresearch8721
@questionresearch8721 Месяц назад
I'm with you on that.
@user-zw9ki6lk5t
@user-zw9ki6lk5t 14 дней назад
Aunt Gwen is an amazing woman, Beautiful, patient, kind, graceful and funny in spite of her hardship and trauma- she is so sweet and transparent but strong at the same time-God Is Good All the time- sending much love and peace upon U ❤️ Aunt Gwen
@cynthiasims6722
@cynthiasims6722 Месяц назад
Aunt Brenda thank you for the transparency in sharing your story. Love this ❤
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@HelloAlundra
@HelloAlundra Месяц назад
This video gave me so much reassurance! I struggle with the length and close proximity of certain relationships. I am learning to love from a distance and protect myself!
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@algerthataylor4955
@algerthataylor4955 16 дней назад
Wonderful podcast. Not every detail but Auntie Brenda is also me. Blessing to me as well. ❤️❤️❤️
@TAEssex
@TAEssex Месяц назад
God moved me from Chicago, IL that's where my family is to Dallas, TX. God told me I would live in Dallas, Texas in 2013 but He did not move me here until 2019. I had to forgive and repent within my heart before God opened the door for me to move.
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
Glad to hear you're where God wants to be now! 🩷
@p.d.6888
@p.d.6888 Месяц назад
This is beautiful, if more families put pride aside and just spoke honestly there would be more resolution and togetherness ❤
@myhunny2006
@myhunny2006 Месяц назад
I agree 💯
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@carolmatthews5935
@carolmatthews5935 Месяц назад
Wow!! I can relate to so much of her experience. God has blessed me to be my own best friend & family. God Is…
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@Gurlbyetalli
@Gurlbyetalli 9 дней назад
Thank you I could totally identify with this story cause alot is mine God bless u both my healing has begun years ago & Thanks again
@frankieallen4900
@frankieallen4900 Месяц назад
Great sincere interview. It was many layers but it had so many gems. When 2 broken people come together, it can leave lifelong damaging trauma. We have to be careful who we marry. It's unfortunate Aunt Brenda's dad chaotic hateful spirit damaged 2 generations, 3 counting her mom. He left an awful legacy. Blessings to this aunt and niece who were able to secure their peace, move on, and still have love for each other.
@shejots
@shejots 24 дня назад
I’m auntie Brenda, I left home at 18 for college and never lived with those people again.
@CeCeMe1
@CeCeMe1 Месяц назад
Why do I have a feeling that Nona's Mom and Grandfather had an inappropriate relationship???
@elisaross5257
@elisaross5257 Месяц назад
Same here??
@naomieverett8301
@naomieverett8301 12 дней назад
Read the comments before I watched and I am definitely seeing it the more I watch.
@Brandi_777
@Brandi_777 Месяц назад
Thank you for letting us peak into the “family business” it definitely reminds me of my own. It’s necessary to gain perspective.
@adejahmichelle
@adejahmichelle Месяц назад
Thank you for these series, this is really blessing us. We appreciate your obedience to God!🎀💗
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
You are so welcome
@tetwanagiddings-dover7181
@tetwanagiddings-dover7181 Месяц назад
Two beautiful souls,Thank you for sharing...God is faithful.
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@jawaunagreene5227
@jawaunagreene5227 Месяц назад
Thank you! This episode touched my soul. I can empathize and see my own family trauma in some of the memories your aunt shared. I’m happy you have her in your life.
@mariestacey643
@mariestacey643 Месяц назад
The beginning was sweet when telling the story of your father.
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
He was a great man 🩷
@user-hb2qf1te9e
@user-hb2qf1te9e 28 дней назад
Truly a great interview, thank this is so needed for families today ❤
@recipebandit3563
@recipebandit3563 Месяц назад
So happy that your aunt has been such a blessing to & for you
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
She's the best! 🩷
@TAEssex
@TAEssex Месяц назад
Nona my Dad was shot and killed when I was 5 years old and I always want to hear stories of my Dad because my Mom never shared stories about my Dad with me..
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
So sorry to hear that. Praying for peace 🙏🏽🩷
@jeanjeang8914
@jeanjeang8914 Месяц назад
Wow this is awesome..I identify w so much..talking and releasing the shame that secrets possess is the beginning of healing. Yasss serenity prayer..12 step programs have helped me and my family heal our relationship s and pass on a healthier relationship to my dgt. In hopes of breaking future dysfunctional relationships. Keep the conversations going.😊😊❤
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
This is beautiful! Thank you for sharing 🩷
@simonejdevone
@simonejdevone Месяц назад
"you let me in" so beautiful 💖🙏🏽
@nobuenobrujo
@nobuenobrujo Месяц назад
I recently cut my ties with my father and he is similar to her father abusive and suffered with alcoholism. He won’t hear from me again. No apologies either about the torment he put my siblings and mom through. He won’t change. So I changed and left him behind. I also will change my last name soon. I don’t want any identity to him whatsoever.
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
Sometimes that's what you have to do to protect your peace and future! 🩷
@PrayPraisePower
@PrayPraisePower Месяц назад
Thank you for your story. So many of us can relate. I feel like I stand alone but I know that God, the Fatter, the Son, the Holy Ghost and his guiding Angels are with me. To God be the Glory! Amen!🙏🏾🙌🏽👏🏽❤️
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@laurawharton2836
@laurawharton2836 Месяц назад
Mom was right to set her insurance policy to the beneficiaries of her choosing!
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@The1KEKE77
@The1KEKE77 Месяц назад
Beautiful interview ❤ Thank you both 🙏🏾
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
Glad you enjoyed it!
@lolitaowens484
@lolitaowens484 Месяц назад
We can love family to the hilt but we have to come to the conclusion that they are like people who are not family. .We have to let go and let GOD ..Now there may not be be any restoration restoration you have to learn to love them from afar I know that may sound cruel but it is what it is and if you do t let go you will eventually go under yourself ..Please give family to the LORD and take care of yourself
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@patricegrows
@patricegrows Месяц назад
This was really good & resonated deeply 🫂
@Fabtruluv7915
@Fabtruluv7915 Месяц назад
Loved this, thank you
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@ritathornton1741
@ritathornton1741 Месяц назад
Your Aunt is amazing ♥️♥️♥️
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@TAEssex
@TAEssex Месяц назад
Good Morning 🌞 from Dallas, Texas 🤗 HUGS 🤗
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
🩷🩷
@ImTalithaJohnson
@ImTalithaJohnson Месяц назад
Awesome conversation🙏🏾
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@Babysuggs-holy
@Babysuggs-holy Месяц назад
I’m new here, but this was very good. Thank you both.
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
Welcome!
@louanneevans767
@louanneevans767 Месяц назад
Wow what powerful story
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@brendahenderson-zk8qn
@brendahenderson-zk8qn Месяц назад
I moved home after twenty five years my family is just like that I be the same way I had to just let go do it by yourself 🙏🏾
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
Sometimes all you need is God! 🩷
@ritathornton1741
@ritathornton1741 Месяц назад
Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@amatwa4328
@amatwa4328 Месяц назад
Beautiful episode Nona, you do take after your aunt her poise and class. Painful story but inspiring at the same time ❤
@lolitaowens484
@lolitaowens484 Месяц назад
Good morning 💗
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@elianeaziza954
@elianeaziza954 Месяц назад
Nona u look just Like her❤
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
Thank you! 🩷
@itcbychipo
@itcbychipo Месяц назад
Good morning
@natashalee7565
@natashalee7565 Месяц назад
Real recognize real🫂🙏🏾💫💯
@NonaNotNora
@NonaNotNora Месяц назад
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@questionresearch8721
@questionresearch8721 Месяц назад
Even family still need to mind their business. How do you really know how a parent is behind closed doors, especially towards their children.
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