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Hey Shelby! I just wanted to chime in about some of your concerns about living in NYC. I’ve lived here for 2.5 years, and I’ve stayed out til 4am exactly once. 😂 The cool thing about New York is that you can find whatever it is you’re looking for. There are definitely tons of chill dive bar type places around, as well as people who are more that speed. As far as the not eating healthy and not going to the gym much thing - I bet you would adjust your routine after living here for a while. It’s easier to push those things aside when you know it’s a temporary situation. Not saying you absolutely should move here if you’re not feeling like it’s for you, but I bet a lot of your concerns could be fixed if you were here a little longer and had time to adjust. Really enjoyed your NYC content, and excited to see what’s next! 😊
Listening to your financial freedom advice, it reminded me of a song by Luke Bryan called "Most People Are Good" that has a line in it like: "I believe that youth is spent well on the young". In other words, part of being younger is exploring and self-discovery and it wouldn't be fun to do that at a much older age like you mentioned. Paradoxically, you can't know what you like or dislike or where you would want to live long term in this example without experiencing at least several different places first. So I commend your attitude and your spirit, and it's nice to know that at least some people can still think and consider things from multiple perspectives and not just a shallow glance.
Yeah, I don't like that kind of bar/club life. I like being able to sit down and actually have a great convo with someone. When you add in how expensive drinks are and everything I would rather just have some people over to my place, make a meal and hang out, lol.
The thought of you returning to NY is just incredible. I am from NYC and my only complaint is the high rent. I personally don’t drink or do the “Night life” anymore, but I still have fun and find cool things to do in the daytime. LIke you I like to be in bed by a certain time, and only do night events that support a friend’s business or something on that line. Otherwise than that I love the energy of the city and that I am never bored. Looking forward to your next location and what new things you will get into.
Sad to see you leaving but you'll be back. I loved my 5 years living in NYC. The cost of living can be expensive - espeically rent... which is what drove me out of the city. It has that big city energy but sometimes you need a weekend getaway up to The Hudson Valley or out to Long Island to unwind. It's a great city to live in when you're young and can financially afford to.
Totally know what you mean about being too old for that bar/club scene. I'm 27 and feel the same way. I went to a halloween party last month and was so exhausted by 11 and left at midnight haha
Ahh I loved hearing your reflections on your time in NY. I totally relate to wanting chill nights at bars and not wanting to stay up until 4 AM, I just feel so unproductive and lazy that I never think the night before is worth it! I'm definitely down to sleep earlier and not go to a club like I did when I was 21. Sure that has it's time and place but so does my bed at 10:30-11 PM 😂
I think this is the most honest and best way to figure out your next path, it's so organic and intuitive. You are really taking your time, listening to how you feel, looking at how different environments will affects you personally. I think because you are always so well traveled and still young, you're approaching this without fear and it's really gonna broaden/enrich your choices once you decide where you want to live. Kudos to you, I just had to let you know how refreshing watching your process is and that you are doing fantastic.
I think once you live in NYC for a while you can learn to find balance and say no to people. I think you need to explore the bar and restaurant scene. I'm 28 and i have no interest in going to clubs and late bars anymore but there are so many cool chill options to go to. I think you can get caught up in wanting to do everything all the time in NYC but when you live here for a while you learn to chill out more. Also i'm all about the getting home early don't let anyone stop you from going home early, you'll miss nothing and feel better the next day like you said.
Agreed. With a city as big & dynamic as NYC you tend to try everything at first, then you find what you like and stick with that. But also break out of your shell every so often and try something new. I used to go clubbing all the time when I first moved here but now it's only for special (rare) occasions. Locals just visit their favorite neighborhood bar or meet up with friends at their apt. Less hassle
Yes. Basically it's called balance. Sometimes you party, sometimes you chill out, sometimes it's a Broadway show, other times it's a day in Central Park. Variety is the spice of life! Have a great day!
Definitely alot to consider when it comes to NYC! Ive always wanted to live for like a year in the best city! But underneath that I found I'm quite suburban. LOL. Just so cute with all the ample parking and manicured lawns. lol About close on house in suburbia! But I'm already looking forward to my next trip somewhere.
That’s the way I have felt in Seattle always gloomy in the winter but the last few years the weather has been so unpredictable and sometimes warmer and sunnier. I grew up here too so I’ve seen it change a lot.
Yeah I live in Oregon when my husband and I first moved here his friends always criticizing people from LA. We’re native Californians so I finally got mad and said “it’s a free country! I’ll move anywhere we want!!!” They just don’t understand how expensive and stressful it can be to live in LA. They kept telling me “don’t tell people you’re from California” I said why lie? I’m proud!!!!🤣😍🥰
The constant Seattle grey is why we had to finally escape (first to LA, then OC, and now Nashville). People who aren't affected by the weather very much don't get it, but just seeing the sun every few days makes a HUGE difference. If it weren't for the climate, I'd love Seattle, but as it is, I will never move back to the PNW (and I was born in Portland...).
Hey look into getting a sun lamp for cloudy grey days, check your vitamin D levels too, may need supplements. Am totally one of those people whose energy level, mood etc is affected quite a lot by weather. Cannot live in gloomy cities at all!!
Totally hear you!! Maybe look into putting your business in Atlanta, Georgia (or like 30 mins away in any direction) If you look at property prices there, they are skyrocketing! Plus they have tax incentives and lower costs, and it’s essentially the next top city ( L/A & NY then ATL usually is next up, especially with how much filming and set work that’s been going on there!) :) just an idea!
i totally agree with you on the whole going out til 4 am thing. I'm so not into that lifestyle either (even though i stay up late at home chilling hahaha). i rarely drink at all and that lifestyle never appealed to me, ever. and i just love getting dinner and like you said maybe a drink or two and just talking with friends playing boardgames or something!! i also think theres soemthing in new york for everyone though and you certainly don't have to take on that lifestyle!!
I lived in NYC for 1.5 years and it was the perfect amount of time. I loved it! I also never went to any of the clubs. When you find the good chill spots, you'll love them! I'd much rather have an early night and scope out all the incredible coffee shops the next morning.
Cool to see the LA to NYC change. I lived in LA and then NYC for a Decade. NY was more exciting then LA just on the fact you can get to things so much quicker without utilizing a car. I wish I did NYC first before LA, but honestly at my age going to LA would be ideal now. Enjoy the Journey!
I visited NY in 2018 and I loved it! Everything is up to you to decide. Healthy food or something not so healthy. Keep yourself grounded and work without friends around or work with people. Also, it’s going to be hard to find something or some place you like that isn’t L.A. You had routines there, certain places you liked to eat etc. A month is a long time but not long enough to plant yourself in a daily routine. Give the next place you go some grace and either have a ton of fun and work a little, or vice versa. Either way, you don’t stay in places for too long to make set choices that are part of a routine. I’m born and raised in Cali and I love going to new states and seeing what they have to offer. Also, everyone I met in NYC were so freaking nice! It was just really crowded so it was a culture shock lol
Always a treat to see your notification pop up about a new video. Thanks Shelby! Happy Thanksgiving 🦃🍁🍽 Oh, when will your Air B&B be ready?!?! A few of us “girls” lol will be going to Palm Springs soon.
Why not try Nevada? It’s business friendly here, it’s 4 hours away from LA and Palm Springs, AND you can buy a huge house at a responsible price. Plus idk if you’re into the night life but Vegas has a pretty lit night life.
Nah. She said she likes to hit the sack by midnight. It appears she's an early bird. Some people are just wired like that. I'm a night owl myself naturally. But, for an early start I just hit the sack super early like 10pm and then I can be up at 6-7am.
Nevada Airbnb could be very profitable. It has a lot to do. Go to casinos for entertainment, easy parking and places away from the strip are nice. The local restaurants are really good quality.
State income tax is a non-issue. Cheaper living costs, buying and renting costs, are for more significant. Texans famously boast of no state income tax but they pay other taxes and real estate tax thru the roof.
Just a suggestion, maybe try staying a month in Texas or wait it out and try New York in the new year again. I do see what you are saying about New York and LA, but maybe Texas might be what you need and to try to compare to see if Seattle, LA and New York to call your future home. (I do know Seattle is where you are from and if were you grew up but what I am trying to say you might want to move back there for good in the future.) Good luck on your next move. 🥰
I knew from the buildings shown when you were walking that you were in the financial district but didn’t want to mention it until you left NYC. Can’t wait until you return 😊
It doesn't sound like Shelby would want to live in NYC permanently? Maybe she should try living in Florida next in a city like Miami? There's lots of sunshine, beaches and no state income tax?
I don't know about Miami (I'm from and living in Miami). I have lived in NYC. But Florida definitely has a lot of sunshine. But based on her personality maybe more like Clearwater, Sarasota or even Naples or Virginia Beach , Va. These cities are more chill. Shelby appears to be a chillout kind of person. Nothing wrong with. I like Jazz music and most of my friends don't . I like to read books and most of my friends don't. Have a great day!
It must have been kinda hard to leave, especially if you don’t have a place to call home. I would feel sad too and being here in sunny CA does have those gloomy days every once in a while. No matter where you go, I love the way that you are always down to earth just doing what inspires you. Your happiness rubs off on people - just saying.
If you are able to get Cowboy (Oliver) & Teddy back to a future NYC visit. They will probably enjoy the Dog park near the 59th Street Bridge. I love walking from around where Costco is on 116th down to there for the relaxation. WNYC & All of it with Alison Stewart featured The Great Mistake Book by Jonathan Lee for their virtual book club selection. It’s about the namesake of that dog walk, Andrew Haswell Green.
I knew you were in the financial district. Yeah for NY it's all about the expense, and whether the fun there is worth the expense. It is at first, because it is all new. But after a few years of, been there, done that, it's not as exciting. And at that point, it's about whether you really like your job there or are maybe in a great relationship there. And that is what makes it worth staying. Not exactly the city itself.
It sounds like you’re making good choices with your money for the future. Save/invest a percentage and then live the life you want to with the rest!! 😃
I also like to hang out have dinner and good convo and like you when I was in my late 20’s and busy with work life staying out late till the am’s was fun in your early 20’s. Shelby you’re busy as busy as those New York lawyers or consultants combine, since pandemic last 2 years if you can work from 9 to 6, you need to chill relax on the weekend. I think its not an age thing but people now are more to want balance lifestyle and work-life. Does that make sense 😁
🙏 Hi Shelby, Wishing you and your family a very Happy and Blessed Thanksgiving Holiday and always. 💛 Best wishes to you whichever path life leads you. 😎
There's always a cost exchange. Fake people do exist everywhere, you're right, the issue with LA is everyone is trying to make it so if you hang out with that crowd that's what you get. I work in SEO and I don't know people like that, though I know way too many people with depression issues. Anyway, I was just in NYC I think it'd be better for my social life, but I realized I'm definitely a SoCal type at. the end of the day. I just don't think I can ever face winter again, but yeah NYC is great for content. Just don't move and call different cities sh*tholes because something bad happened. I'm super disappointed in Casey for his outburst to be honest because as someone who volunteers within politics it's never as straightforward as people think and it's just not fair to go after a city when you're from a city like NYC which also has it's own issues.
tbh & no hate but i think the lifestyle you live is totally dependent on your priorities & who you surround yourself with! ya NYC is always busssssin but it’s ok to say no! i’m going on 5 years here & in my late 20s & have never felt healthier & found the spots that i love to go out casually (breweries, wine bars, tap rooms etc.)
Regardless of where you are, your community is online and if you ask your community, they will come through for you, even if they aren't necessarily there in proximity. They may still know someone who might come through. All you have to do is ask. If you ever roll through DC/Northern Virginia/MD area, shoot me a message. There are some decent hole in the wall eateries that I think you might like. Now if we can only schedule you on an episode of the Iced Coffee Hour Podcast, LOL!!!! ;-)
All that is needed is more sunlight during winter! But that applies to anywhere in the world really. Colorado has a long winter but the sunny days are great even in the cold months!
I somehow have come to follow all of the Korean YT’ers in NYC lol. So I’d frankly love it if you lived in a different city as I feel NYC’s actually being overdone right now. I’m curious if anyone else feels the same as me.
