Right brother 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 my son father left me and I cried but I said good bye 👋🏾 at the same time LoL but then I had to pray my way out of my hurt and pain. I made it out but till today I still feel the residue but the pain is nothing like how it used to be 👍🏾 thanks for posting
A man will move mountains if HE wants to be with you. Don't chase him, ever! If he doesn't want you, there's really nothing you can do, other than making a fool of yourself. Let him go!
If someone just says No, I do t fancy you. I don't want you. I don't want to know you. Goodbye etc then most would just say fine, bye. No, they say rubbish such as they need a little time one, that theyre really into you bit too busy with family , work etc. People rarely chase nothing, thru chase because they're lead to believe if they chase hard enough they'll catch. That's gaslighting, committed by narcissists. Love bomb you then retreat, pip up an be your perfect person, then retreat. It's called treat them mean, keep them keen. People who believe in that will the person who dies catch them miserable for the rest of their lives. If you e gotta chase, to here's nothing to there worth having, just a facade, a game. No one real at the end
@@kheleecebrown1799 but not all ladies can attract all kind of men, a man who has everything to offer won't chase then as a lady what will you do to get him as there are already many ladies that want him?
@@Marcycat7 I made that statement bc I once did that, and it got me nowhere, but an ultimate betrayal that I never saw coming. So if a man can't give you that same love bck then you already lost him.
I always do this. Communication, balance. We all should just be ourselves and transparant and if two decent ppl match it will be succesfull. Users and abusers, female and male are of sll tlmes and there are decent people looking for love too. They just have to find eachother ❤
Don't men first chase a lady before they start dating then before they start acting stupid? So regardless, the man started chasing period. Rest my case!
That's why my mother my grandmother told me never chase a man if you want to leave and he'll go right on out to you cuz the grass is never green on the other side baby and wish him the best because I know what my worth is
I can definitely relate to overlooking red flags. I had to learn to stop letting partners gaslight me into thinking my needs are not important and I had to stop gaslighting MYSELF as well. Self-love is a journey. Let’s work on being the best we can be, on falling in love with ourselves during the highs and the lows and date (if we decide to) with the confidence that we are deserving of true, authentic love ~ Candace RU-vidr and Poet Covering Self-love
I just said this to myself because that’s all the guys that kept coming to me; like I gave no hint of sexual anything - the only thing that I love is music. I’m tired of meeting guys who are essentially broke but don’t take me out expect sex.
If we have to wonder and chase it's a sign of being mistreated. Attraction and affection keeps us in but it won't keep it together. We accept less then we need bc what if we won't meet another person who we will fall for. Speaking for myself 😁
Never chase a man and never chase a woman loooool, what pathetic advice, the advice should be, put in as much effort as the other person is and not a ounce more, if she texts first one time, you text first the next etcc.. chase is the wrong word, persue is the correct one, if nobody persued, there would be no human race
This totally describes my 20+ years relationship/marriage with my husband. I don't know why I was so attracted to him. I didn't really chase him but gave him tons of room to pursue me. I did overlook all the red flags that I see after 15 years in.
Do forgive yourself and congratulate yourself for moving on cause I am struggling with this so badly it's not funny and indeed, Like Stephan says, I am stuck in the tunnel vision tunnel, lol
You are correct! Most do not even want to listen or take your advice. They'll learn from the million tears they'll need to shed to freaking open their eyes
I just bought your book. I was in a relationship from 19 to 30 years old. I left him in July of 2020. I don't miss him one bit, but I hate being single. I recently started dating again and almost found myself accepting behavior from someone just because I didn't want to be by myself again. I caught myself very quickly and completely cut that person off. I'm truly yearning for a mate. I like to cater and serve and but I need reciprocation. I miss sharing me. I feel like I need to slow myself down though... I know I can't give certain parts of myself to just anyone, but I dislike not being able to be me with anyone at all. Anyway, I'm going to get started on your book tonight 😊.
Justme...I know the feeling but this time in your singleness is a time to get to know you more and totally heal. Let God send him to you, can't go wrong there🙏
I get you, I feel the same, im so desperate to have a family with a good man and have tons of great memories and build together. Im so fun to be with and im a good woman, I can handle a whole house on my own. I just really sad that I haven't been valued in my past relationships. I don't have any kids, im well put together, I have a career and I take care of my health and my body. I pray to God that a good man comes my way because I really really can't wait to be happy with my family 😔🙏
SMH.. this is so true. I’m a late bloomer in every sense of the word. Been married 20yrs come April the 12th & realizing this to be true for my hubby & myself. 2 lost souls merely existing in the same space to raise our children 🤦🏽♀️
You know that quote is so true. Men definitely expect women not to change and women a lot of times think that the man will change. I used to have a shirt back in 2015 that I made that said, "I don't chase." 😅 I still stand by that I have never chased a man.
I love this man because he saved my life, gave me emotional support after being paralyzed, co-signed for me. He's committed now. I hope we will he together soon. ❤
I have been pouring into my partner for 4 years. Almost going on 5 years but now I’m at a point to where I want to leave and I am going to leave. It is true everything you explained especially about the 50/50. When I know he is capable but not willing to. As far communication, I do shut down and feel as though I can not express nor communicate anything to him because he is so dismissive. As far as the title, he would refer to as his wife but have not even proposed. To where now I realize everything I went through in the relationship is not even worth my health to keep myself in a toxic relationship. Overall, I been through all of the above. I feel so relieved that I am finally going to leave and start a new chapter for myself. Now that I made the decision to leave all of sudden he wants to communicate and wonder why I am leaving.
I have such a hard time with this and I even convince myself that this man needs me to take initiatives. Then wanting anything too much, as you say, it blinds us to red flags...what can I do cause I really feel stuck & unable to move on cause in my mind He is the right guy but as time goes by I realize maybe not...Thank you so much Stephan for all these videos that really, really help. If course it is up to us to enforce this needed change of position.
Quite frankly chasing someone is an exhausting process. Honestly I think men and women need to just throw themselves into themselves at this point. A person that clearly is interested would have no need for you to chase them they would be chasing you too.
The best relationship that ever was was Joseph and Mary God put Jesus in Mary's womb but Joseph did not choose Mary to Mary God shows Joseph to marry Mary he was not going by who she was and what she had done he went by what the spirit told him to do that's the greatest love story ever told I know you don't believe it but it's true
I would love to Marry You Stephan And I Vow to not only be your Person, I damn sure will , guaranteed, w/O A doubt, NEVER (I rarely ever say that word, it's not kind, healthy or hold any reality.. in this case, I'm assured, I will not say: I want to marry him Moma, and I'm counting on him (Stephan) Never changing , LOL TRUTH: love your pods, im learning and often being reminded of some things from long ago behaviors, current behaviors-which I'm sincerely thought I did my work and Ka-Bamm, I still pick the same type of men ie: I am forever (used losely) reminded that I'm missing something, more than "just" thus or that time. Thank you!!! for All you do! feedback Welcome
Im giving up. What i thought was great isnt. Just a huge mess. When i try to reach out it turns messier. I need to wash my hands and rid myself of this foolishness. LORD PLEASE HELP ME WALK AWAY
Im giving up. What i thought was great isnt. Just a huge mess. When i try to reach out it turns messier. I need to wash my hands and rid myself of this foolishness. LORD PLEASE HELP ME WALK AWAY
Man, I feel sorry for today’s society and all the mind games being played. Good luck on finding a good, healthy partner. My husband pursued me consistently and I showed him interest. Pursuing is a masculine thing so QUIT pursuing ladies!!!
I don’t think that’s true. I would marry my bf hoping he never changes but he will marry me even though he’s been trying to change me for 10 years. It ain’t happening boy.
How do you handle the fact that he has assumed you are chasing him? It's truly so far from the truth in every way. We live down the hall from each other. Ironically, when I come out of my door he happens to come out at the same time or he comes out then I do. I can't hear his door open and he swears I listen for him. Never thinks about it the opposite way around. He's got a very large ego. Definitely comes from a Mother who assumes and sister . They assume or profile people and base whether the talk to them or not. I don't know if it's easier for him to think like that so he's not hurt first maybe? He's only been divorced less then 5 years now. I self sabotage but he was already assuming things so I went in self defense mode immediately. It's a shame because in every other way we were clicking. It's like he mirrors me still. When I wear certain colors he then tends to always match me? It's bizarre, cause as long as I'm not looking, he's starting at me then. I don't know but I have no time for childish games or bs, how should I even begin to handle this situation. We'll see what happens next? I gave all to God years ago, I promise there soooo much more back story that he doesn't even know about. I thought God was driving for the first 3-4 months. Now he's made it something it never ever was. Now it's been a year or more later. I do not know what to do?
What's your definition of chase? Cause I really wanna know if that's what I'm doing, like em yearning to hear his voice which sometimes make me be the first to call, cause when he didn't get to hear from me for like days, he then reaches out. I really hope that's not chasing.
shirley help me, please, Shurl + Jim, helped to hear this message, interdependent, my mind over matter you cant change him dont trust what you dream for
What to do if he apologized to shut you up and he isnt coming in with pure intention. But you find out later on that his apology isnt being serious. How to walk away then without the guilt feeling.
