This is excellent advice. People who disrespect you and talk down to you should absolutely be purged from your company. Don’t put up with it, don’t enable it. Get rid of it.
@Daves World...absolutely CORRECT!! Many people miss that basic understanding regarding respect. Men shouldn't disrespect women and women shouldn't disrespect men..its just that simple.
well in a way you're wrong. i agree avoid red flags. but everyone's damaged to some degree. so you have to take your choices and live with them its also not a womans job to fix men..
An ex and I were friends with benefits until I quitted a few days ago (bc of the quarantine and everything). She used to like a bit of belly in me, and today she saw a video of me (looking pretty much the same she has known for YEARS) and went on details on how I look old and unpolished and not like other guys my age or older that look good and… … that’s it. I’m done.
@wulfgar3000 LOL. No. Respectful and constructive criticism is the base for growth. If you're never criticized and everyone always cave in, you'll never grow. That's also the basis of knowledge and science. With that said, constant unwanted criticism can be a form of disrespect/bullying.
@@dankamp2872 Good for you! Family can be toxic and just tear you down and hold you back. If you do not enjoy their company why deal with them? Move on and enjoy life. Toxic friends are not true friends. They are acquaintances who bring you down instead of help build you up. Now that all these toxic people are out of your life, you can build constructive relationships. However, the common denominator in your toxic relationships is “you”. You may discover that you are the toxic person blaming others for all your problems. In that case seek counseling.
My ex girlfriend had a repeated pattern of disrespectful behavior. She didn’t reveal it at first, but about two years in to the relationship, it became more and more frequent. When I reflect back, I see that this was how her mom spoke to her dad. I loved her but I refuse to live my life that way. Despite my repeated warnings for 10 months, that I won’t tolerate it, she chose to continue; needless to say, I did break-up with her. I do miss the good times we had together but I have more self-respect than her beta father.
Dont feel bad, i have been 15 years in that situation, we have a son. I was so blind with the ideal of family that i couldnt dismantle my family, but i finaly break this cycle, feel already better, it still saddens me but im not going back to her.
3000 years ago, king Solomon wrote that it's better to sit on the roof than be in the house with a nagging wife... Must be solid advice cos it still holds true. Some things won't change.
My first wife told me she will never be with someone who is so controlling like her father was to her mother. Sadly, she was just like her father. Naturally, I had to leave the relationship and get a divorce. My 2nd wife is the exact opposite. 22 years together and still the most wonderful woman I ever met.
divorce is never necessary, simply get your sh*t together and teach others to choose wisely. divorce shouldn't be accepted in society, it's as bad as murder (kills a family) an prostitution.
@@michaelstrohmaier5456 I agree, divorce is a horrible thing, but when an abuser continues to behave like a narcissist with no end to her abuse after she made a promise to do the exact opposite. I had to leave. You cant convince a crazy person they need help. I recently saw a photo of her in a family photo. Her 2nd husbands face said everything.
@@swordofmanticore1253 why allow weak people? no good person would ever "ab*se" (whatever people see as that nowadays in this weak radical leftist fascist ho*-culture)
"It is better to be alone and Celibate than to be in a relationship with a low quality woman." I agree totally. "High Quality Women are rare." Again, total agreement.
There was a woman 😊 I was engaged to get married to, then she started being disrespectful toward me, and then she was showing how much she had contempt for me. Well, as the wedding dates got closer, I decided to end the engagement. So, I packed her bags and got her a plane ticket, and sent her back home.
@@UCorona87 What are you talking about??? This guy was going to get married. He understands NOTHING. It should be obvious to any man that marriage is a bad idea in the first place.
You’re absolutely right about respect. I was married for a long time. I blame myself for giving her the decision making authority on how our family and home would be run. In my mind, I had to be the bread-winner. I was too focused on that. Before I knew it, I was Homer Simpson to her and my daughters. Laughed at, tolerated, or ignored. When I tried to regain some respect, it was too late. Now I’m afraid I contributed to the world four more entitled, bitter man-haters. Young men, don’t forfeit your God-given authority as leaders of your family! They’ll thank you for it in the long run.
I think it's right that a person should assume autonomy in the sphere in which they have taken responsibility - I don't think you were wrong about that. Undermining and dismissive behaviour is another thing. With a mature partner it should be possible to discuss issues of the children and home without pulling the head of household card. Nipping disrespect in the bud is a tricky balance; I liked a comment above about how "banter" can shade into abuse and no-one wants to be humourless or oversensitive
My father was very similar to you but my mother ran the household the way she wanted and was a narcissist (cerebral but lacking empathy) .. I don’t know anyone who didn’t like my father but includes my siblings .. that enabling by my father made the entire family dysfunctional .. I saw it early on so became the black sheep as I’d say things
If you are religious and its your religious belief that men have God-given authority over women, then what you need to do is find a woman who believes what you believe. Don't assume that women will just roll the red carpet for you on the account of your beliefs. Have you had that conversation with your wife prior to the marriage, about who is going to be the leader?
they live in this because they allow it. its their lack of understanding of relationships and women it is their parents who failed teaching them what women and men's interactions are supposed to be ALSO the parents failed the women. in teaching them that they deserve everything for nothing etc etc
@Tyler Durden i know i just always see you post on these videos and think its funny i learned a lot of lessons from you ;] that i apply in real life. ^^
@Paras finn I really feel pity for you're girlfriend, you're boring and don't have balls. and then you wonder where the meme: nice guy's finish last comes from.
This was my marriage. 12 years and ended in divorce in February. The disrespect and the endless power struggle of being competitors was my everyday existence. Thank you for this video it added clarity to my past. Now to figure out how to stop looking back and start moving forward.
My mom gave great advise when I was young. She said “never cry in front of a woman, she will see you as weak”. And it’s true. Woman are not companionate towards man.
Yet girls say they have a thing for men who cry because they show emotion and aren't all projecting a false menly persona or whatever I heard. However, they always go for the "badboys".
I rememeber a feminist admit hypocrazy when she and a friend passed a mens group meeting where they talked about their feelings and hardships. And she responded, well I would never have sex with that kind of guy... only to realize what she just said XD
Nah I don't agree, if you wanna cry go ahead and cry, much better to let your emotions out... But you need to own it 100% and have to be confident in yourself that you made the descion to do so
As a female, I find it hard to push back when other females start to disrespect me. I am not saying I hate other women but this is how most women were taught when they were young. Thank you for the video.
@UCBQC9YTAmYyAR5BX275N4gA I don't think a war like that will end up well. Bad women (most of the time bad feminists) are bullies. You can't fight a bully even with passive-aggression. I am all for setting boundaries and offering cold treatment or even walking away. There is no need to add toxicity to toxicity. Honestly, I tries war and all I got was anger and resentment. I have learnt from my experience. Thank God that I am not attractive to women.Brother, I wish you the best.
that's because in the old days we were told girls were "sugar and spice and everything nice" while the boys were "rats and snails and puppydog tails" who were to hold doors open and put females first. Males were never encouraged, to god forbid, push back but to accomodate. Now their is a generation of abusive manipulative witches, and their will emerge a generation of males to grow out of this to show it is not to be tolerated, who will not attach themselves. Romance is dead today. A shame on the culture of feminism; they didn't appreciate a good thing when they had it
Every kid is treated poorly when they are young. Just look at Alexander's advice to punish a kid having a temper tantrum. So much superstitions dehumanizing mentality creates dehumanized people.
JUST LEAVE. Take your ball and go home. That is always the best policy. You're wasting time trying to change them, and mold them. They only respect you if you leave. If a woman says you are too controlling and she can't breathe, give her the space to breathe... and never come back.
lmao my sister said I was a misogynist for saying I don't think bald women are attractive while she turned down my fat friend years ago instead she is dating a regular good looking guy with a doctors degree. My sister has always been a nice person but she has learned me that women in general really always have double standards and they don't even realize it themselves. Also saw a girl on tinder with a meme picture saying that Fiona from Shrek rather dated an ogre instead of the short prince but in her biografie she stated she doesn't like people who think in a box....!!!?? How do men even have the will to have relationships these days is beyond me.
Anglosphere women in particular, Aussies etc would rather date an "ugly" brutish but manly ogre than a short Prince (until they need his money). Then they go to Asia where the opposite is true and are ignored on the dating scene by western men and get all bitter, but aren't attracted to Asian men
...We must get good at reading between the lines and not accepting bs, no matter how pretty she may be. Like they say, it's better to be alone, than tagging along with bad company; even more so, obviously, in a relationship. Let's be wise.
I've just asked in a very calm voice. "In what world do you think it is acceptable to talk to me that way?" Her reaction determines if she will be around another 2 hours or not.
@@CapnMadelyn Usually it takes a woman some time to calm down and start to understand the depth of her error. She needs to try to maintain her pride and try to contrive someway to phrase her contrition to act like she didn't mean to say, when she clearly said what she meant. Children and women are very much alike in this way. But women have been conditioned to be more stubborn, enhanced with a sense of undeserved entitlement.
I would end the date on the spot, especially if I was out somewhere with her. Cancel any food or whatever and tell her to hop in the car because I'm driving her home and next time she'll reconsider before acting out like that. Immediately enforce your boundaries with 0 tolerance for any of their BS. If they're into you, they'll apologize later if you deem they're even worth it.
@@wtcvidman I am coming from the position that I wanted to spend time with this woman. Just like capital punishment does not teach the person anything, doing more does not teach the child like woman.
All that nagging also shows how unsettled and unbalanced she is. Ever notice how the people who are comfortable with themselves are at peace with everyone else?
I learned this in my teens and it has served me well in my mid life when I actually learned to apply it correctly. If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything. Nothing drives a woman more nuts or eventually lets even the dimmest understand, eventually. When she starts nagging or talking trash, most especially in a derogatory stance, speak not a word, nothing! Turn your back to her and walk away. If she follows, continuing to nag, keep walking, if it takes you going into a room and locking the door, walking outside and up the road, into your car and driving away, just do it, not a word! Give her hours to stew, stay away. After a few hours, return, if she starts up again, shake your head, speak not a word and leave again. Repeat this as many times as it takes to either have her remain silent on your return and ask you to speak, she to listen. Tell her you are waiting for an apology for being treated like a child or animal. If she don't. repeat the walk away as many times as it takes to get the results you require. Once she is primed to actually listen and not berate, calmly, I mean calmly and firmly, explain that you don't respond to being talked to as a child or being berated as a errant dog, you are a man. You are a man and expect to be treated with respect, nothing less will do. She may hate you in the moment, she will respect, however. You, as a man, don't need love, you need respect. Until she learns this lesson implicitly, repeat it, she will get no results she wants until she acts in a respectful nature to you. THEN you can work on whatever it is she was nattering on about, never from position of subservience.
It's actually pretty sad when you have to apply this in a marriage. You will win 100% of the time and she will eventually respect you. The problem is if you manage to cow her into silence, and if her ego is so huge that she resists apologizing, then relationship becomes irrecoverable. You're going to be in control of the marriage though fear, but sex won't be happening any more - at which point the marriage is dead anyway.
If a woman is nagging it means she has taken on a motherly stance in the relationship, she no longer respects you as a man, but is treating you like a child. When Nagging happens she no longer sees you as a equal.
The irony is she might not work, not own her own home her car or make a positive difference in the world. Yet, she can view less of you when you put forth so much.
@@kasmidjan Screw that, I like equality, my GF goes out to work, she earns the same as me. I don't want her to sit at home while I waste my life at work. Me and My GF are equals, means she has to pull her weight and we don't nag each other. Throught out history the stay at home wife has been the most priviledged in all of society, feminism convinced stupid women that working like a slave for other people is a priviledge and they should give up the real priviledge of being a kept woman.
Exactly , that’s why there’s a rise in lonely men, because men are generally more dysfunctional than woman because they are taught to be invulnerable , that why the data says men commit more suicide
This is just the sad truth, that even in marriage, it's a never-ending battle of a man fighting for respect. Expose yourself and show weakness even slightly, and you will be backstabbed by the people you trust the most.
Had a girlfriend that used to put me down and complain but if I drew her attention to this bad behaviour, I was accused of being 'insecure' because I couldn't handle it. She got kicked to the kerb.
nah they arnt. men having no clue HOW to have a relationship and having to LEARN it because they didnt learn like normal humans are supposed to THATS a hassle teaching yourself how to have self respect when dealing with women THATS a hassle but a good relationship ? its not a hassle its easy. the hassle is the self teaching you need to do to get to where its not a hassle. the hassle is the part where you're clueless and you dont know how to read fed flags.
45, same. I've had lots of female friends throughout my life: very glad they're are just friends and nothing more. I get small slices of sweet behavior instead of a raging complain monsters stealing my joy.
Nagging is often used as a means of making you undesirable to other women. It erodes your self confidence because you're always guilty of doing something wrong. It is also why you shouldn't listen to your woman if she says she loves your 'Dad-Bod' or beer gut. she doesn't. She just loves the comfort it brings her; knowing that another woman isn't going to pursue you and steal you away.
Yeah I really don't feel like that's the case books are definitely on the low end for women I mean sure women who want to hookup on Tinder but not relationship there is much more important things to women then looks
Sneakers O'Toole WOmen r attracted 2 dat which othaz r attracted 2. Especially, young damez. So if u take a hot piece of azz out 2 sum place u frequent, chancez r, it will bcum a place u CAN FREAKquent, bcause all DUH silly beeyatchez will take notice dat dis hot WOman, iz draped on ur arm & want u, azz well. Datz WOmen. They all want da same 100 most dsireable men. ( Men disirable 2 otha WOmen. ) Men, sexually, r like a guy who iz hungry & seez a buncha food. He will gobble it down, BUTT quickly git full & b done eating. So both sexez, have their silly quirkz. Any WOman, SHOULD b able 2 keep da sex appetite of a man, n check, BUTT they often fail, bcause ur not Brad Pitt. If ur were da type, dat she'd wanta open her legz 2, then u would already b satiated by da time u git 2 her, bcause 5 otha WOmen done all ready let u drain ur nutsack, azz well. SMH @ DUH squalor, of human life.
Nagging is a sign that sometime before the nagging, some smaller less toxic behavior wasn't nipped in the bud. When full blown toxic social behavior occurs, it usually occurs because you didn't control for the small stuff before it got big. Perhaps some of the banter your girlfriend engaged with has some veiled hostility or veiled disrespect behind it. I honestly feel that banter is the number 1 problem in our modern socialization, partially because it is poorly understood, and partly because it can very easily be used for veiled hostility. Banter can snowball into nagging, banter can snowball into social bullying, banter can be used to express disrespect or hostile emotions towards others under the guise of "busting someones balls", banter is arguably the most problematic of all the social behaviors, not because it is necessarily bad in all instances, but because it can be used to easily turn into something very bad because banter blurs the line between what is and isn't bad. Expressions like "I'm just messing with you", "I'm just busting your chops" are symptoms of the fundamental and very problematic problems with banter. Where does one draw the line between someone messing with you and disrespect. A person can very easily disrespect you and then lay the line down "I'm just messing with you". Banter is often used to blur the line between disrespectful and respectful play between adults. If someone has to explain what they are doing is not disrespectful, while they made you feel bad, they are actually just making excuses for their toxic behavior. I don't have patience for these sorts of people. And banter often operates as a vehicle for both friendly good natured fun, and as a vehicle for snowballing into toxic social bullying, nagging and other sorts of toxic behaviors at the same time. In my experience, I found that getting rid of banter actually gets rid of most of the other really toxic social behaviors, except for passive aggressiveness, which operates on a different strategic social strategy. It's not like I don't engage in banter at all, but I only engage in banter on MY TERMS, that way I have much more control over the social dynamics of what is going on and my social environment doesn't get crazy or out of control.
As with my ex, she was used to being spoilt by her parents. She always got what she wanted. As time went by she could not deal with the fact that she can't have everything. Her way though life was to scream and have tantrums. She emptied my business bank account and instead of paying bills she bought luxuries and horded them. She was and is a compulsive liar. I should have taken note of the early signs and gone with my gut feeling.
My live-in girlfriend started reneging on what she agreed, got shitty when she was called out, took it out by nagging and throwing disrespectful jabs. Now she’s my ex live-in exgirlfriend.
I think that's the key word, take you for granted, in my next relationship I might put this in the table, to never take each other for granted take for granted that we love each other, but that we don't belong to each other and we will stay in the relationship as long as we both are happy
Both sides too, I had a bf who tried to stop me speaking to lifelong friends, my brothers, neighbours, shop assistants, I had exactly 30 min to get home from work or there was war, even if buses were late, he said I was lying, and I wasn’t allowed out except work. I was young and put up with it for a year, then packed and left when he stormed out because he had counted the sweetcorn kernels on our plates and I had two more than him. Imagine flying into a screaming rage for that, like anyone counts food pieces. Glad I got out when I did. He’s still the same to his present gf, she looks like a terrified broken shadow of her former self. Never be with people like these.
@@MaSa-bp5qe it's been 16 years. I'm sure he's accepted it. Most people I know in relationships > 10 years "Cheat" on each other, but it's "Don't ask, don't tell"
That's good! I've known a few who never nagged for the years I've been friends with them, but that was just in the capacity of friends and I can't account for what they may have possibly been doing when away from me! If they are out there, I would suspect that those are the type of women who have actually earned what they have. Or are at least the grateful type. Because they aren't just looking for free gimmies. That can be nag-city central!
I had a gf who used to do this. I got rid of her. You know, how much money I saved and how happy I've been in my life? The rare women that are worth it are rarer than anti-matter !!
A big problem is that while we have started talking publicly about men being abusive in relationships we still have a long way to go to address abusive women. Too often feminists excuse, disregard, dismiss and demean male victims of female abuse which in a way is abuse. Thanks for the video and pushing the conversation forward.
I just got out of a relationship like this, but it wasn't always so, and it creeped up, as she tested my water and realized I wasn't being confrontational, and honestly didn't even notice because they were never really harsh, the worst one is she called something I like stupid, once. It ramped up really fast, and was more manifested in the form of sighs or frowns when I requested something from her. Towards the end it was constant, and once she left, I felt so free, mentally.
Alexander, you are spot on with your advice! As a woman who had issues that I hadn’t completely solved and ever man I met before my latest bf let me have some toxic behavior. I was damaged. I wanted, I needed a loving, strong man who respected himself enough to tell me that in no way would he tolerate my behaviors. Believe I wanted to get better and once I knew he was serious about drawing the line, that moment made me decide to finally face my issues and get help. Today I am a high value women along side my high value man, where respect, communication and kindness are the main virtues of our relationship(with also ALOT of LOVE:)))).
Here's the recipe guys: 1. Work hard to become a rare and desirable, high-quality man with self-respect. 2. Raise your standards with regard to what behaviour you expect from women and reinforce them. 3. Adopt a zero-tolerance policy with regard to her nagging and complaining. 4. At all times remind her that you have standards that MUST be met. 5. If she cannot abide by your standards - dump her.
@@S9999Frank Better single with standards than in bad company and miserable. A lot of guys think being single is a mark of shame rather than it being an opportunity to focus on what they want in life and to focus more energy on their goals.
Just thought that zero complaining was a rather harsh standard. Must admit to never have been in such a relationship where there is no conflict at all, and zero complaints. No shame in being single, but when you have a family you try to keep it together.@@_Gandalf_The_White
No woman will ever love you and show you that love without respecting you first. That respect has to be maintained for however long the relationship lasts. No exceptions.
"It is not virtue to be highly tolerant of disfunctional behavior" Wow this quote blew my mind! I can't even express how true it is. It instantly reminded people who suffer with abusive, heavy drinking, cheating partner (man or woman) for many years and think it is virtuous, but they are actually not only ruining their own life but also life of their partner, by enabling his/her destructive behaviour.
This video hit home with me. I grew up being yelled at, scold , bullied, disrespect in all aspects, and as a young adult man I felt that my feelings and ideas or way of thinking wasn’t important to no one. That affect lots things in my life as a young man. until I start getting some counseling therapy to build up self esteem and be respected, Even today ppl who trying to put me down for no apparent reason even if it’s family I’ll eliminate them from my life!!
I’ve elimated 95% of my own family for negativity. My older brother constantly puts me down when I visit from out of town. One day he decided to insult me so I fired a few back. Don’t dish it if you can’t take it. He got upset and I cut him off. Same with both sides of my family and many former friends.
It is good that you’re strict in regards to the treatments you receive. But do your best and never cut your kinship ties it is sinful. You could ignore them at the very least.
I will no longer tolerate disrespect of any kind for another day, hour, minute or second. I was asked one time, why so surly? I said, sir you haven’t seen surly.
@Sesshomaru Uzumaki listen to what he said if people persist to disrespect you they are toxic to your emotional well-being and must be surgically removed like cancer from your life if you want a meaningful existence.
9:00 Not living up to her expectations may be one of the things that angers a women..... but...... I've noticed these two things seem to be at the top of the list of, things that anger a woman. 1. When a man is happy and enjoying his life. 2. When a man is sitting or relaxing in some way and doing nothing. Bonus: When he is well liked by others around him and especially if those others are her family members.
This is spot on. I was brought up in a narcissist family and therefore married a narcissist. I have a low self esteem cause of a lifetime of neglect and abuse.
Same, thankfully I caught on pretty early on (when I was about 17) and have been curbing my own behaviours and recognizing my families' so that I don't emulate it in the future. I hope you're doing better now brother, I wish you all the best.
I'm 17 and I have very low self esteem, and I'm afraid of ending up like what you mentioned. I'd rather stay single for my whole life than end up like that. If you have any advice as someone who is more experienced at life than me, I'd love to hear some advice from u. Ik this comment is pretty late, but i hope you see. Wishing you luck for your future.
@R V worded differently, same meaning. That's why bible study consists of searching multiple translations. They always have the same meaning, or carry the same message. It can help one to better understand by reading multiple translations. (Not from scripture) "I'm a rambling man across the nation." "I rove aimlessly around the country." Same meaning with different wording.
here's another one: “There are three whose life is no life: he who lives at another’s table; he whose wife domineers over him; and he who suffers bodily affliction.” - Talmud
Years ago I told a girl to get herself a dog if she needs someone to boss around. It's unbelievable how good it feels to leave a relationship like that!
This is an excellent video. It summed up my marriage completely. My parents had a dysfunctional relationship and this contributed be to accepted nagging from my wife as normal. Not long after our child was born i once told a colleague that my wife shouted a lot and he told me that i should threaten to leave. I felt i couldn't leave at that point because of our child and i endured 9 more years of disrespectful behaviour until she finally cheated. The lesson is that unless you want to set yourself up for this kind of relationship you need to watch carefully the womans behaviour. He's exactly right as well that i suffered from low self esteem and getting a girlfriend was difficult in the first place.
@Mr X did y'all even watch the video as to why she nagging in the first place?. It only proves that people dont take the time to know their women. How is it that a mans girl/wife is all sweet at stuff in the beginning them all the sudden starts nagging?. That doesn't happen over night something has had happen between the couple or relationship and it doesn't haven't to be something obvious it could be something subtle.
@@athenasjustice66 a lot of woman carry baggage from past relationships. That can trigger them into a fit of rage and anger because they're are having PTSD and putting that all on their current boyfriend.
This makes me feel much better about getting divorced. She was constantly verbally abusive, and now I understand what hell looks like. Unfortunately, as we all know apparently now, the court will reward her as a victim even if she's treated you with a protracted slander and libel campaign against your character and worth by awarding her money in the divorce. Ah, "equality". I absolutely hate it when women prattle the aphorism that "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" because they don't tolerate men at their worst for a heartbeat. A woman who demands that you accept her as she is and demands that you become what she finds acceptable is not a good woman. I dont' care how cute she is or what she thinks of herself, because that kind of arrogance cannot possible create a healthy relationship.
Before you devorce, transfer all your assets into a trust fund and then see her face at settlement time when on paper you own nothing in the world. After the dust has settled, transfer the assets back to yourself. : )
I used to think that expression was uplifting and inspiring, until I met a woman who had all these negative traits stemming from her insecurities, and when I tried to talk to her about it everytime, she stood so tall behind that idea that I needed to accept her at her worst, even if she was treating me terribly. I now hate that expression.
Best advice I was given: Never let a woman climb on your back. Once there, she’ll get comfortable and then want to climb on your shoulders, then climb up on to your head. You’ ll never get her off you after that, so never let a woman climb on your back! Keep her in check from the beginning.
I completely agree. There are women that want to care for a man, which is completely natural and healthy, but there are also women that nag and try to correct what a man does, which stems out of disrespect and lack of confidence in the man's ability to play his role. If the disrespect enters the relationship, there is a lot to be examined about why its happening and how to fix it. It should not be tolerated and tolerating disrespect makes it acceptable in the relationship.
I was one of those childs who got mistreated by his own parents psychologically and I thought that it was normal. But fortunately for me, in the age of 21, I met a fantastic woman who opened my eyes and really showed me respect and made me feel comfortable and secure with myself. There are many good women out there, as many good men. It is not a question of sexes, but of morality.
@@MrFreeman0179 Probably, but don't you think that good women are rare as good men are? I do not think morality is based on sexes. I stopped thinking that women are all the same because the relationships i had were bad and they betrayed me. Think about this: why would you be with someone who is not as good or intelligent as you are? Why would you be with someone who does not appreciate or love the way u really are? Some people do not see this and end up in disastrous relationships, because they are selfish, and cannot see outside the box.
@@santa173 I don't know but I'm very certain that feminism has poisoned and ruined the relationship between men and (especially Western/European) women. The divorce rate would decrease if daddy government (men very often get "raped" in divorce/family court) was less or not involved.
I literally removed everyone I know from my life except for my mother of course. So many people are toxic. Living the dream with my son now. Thank you for the video.
Women can be unhappy with their lives or their own psych issues, even if the man is decent and respectful. If they are taking out their garbage on you- you are wasting your time.
My first relationship, the girl who took my virginity, brought me into “dating” who I was with for years, was extremely toxic and mental. This gave me the worst start into the female dating scene picking up The pieces of a broken heart while Dealing with this for years. Took me out of the scene for years, thinking that the mental nag and abuse of a women was the norm. It’s mental abuse and I refuse to Commit myself to another women who has these symptoms
I'm in the same boat as you. Any time a first time experience is terrible you rarely have the heart to try again. I hope you do find someone who makes you happy.
Absolutely. Most men accustomed to believe that tolerating constant nagging arguing blame shifting is normal. It's not. In healthy functional relationships such behaviors are non existent. Hence it should never be tolerated.
Thanks, I loved this video. Every point was spot on. It's true, you're her husband, not her therapist. If you find that you're continually exhausted from your interactions, then she's draining your emotional reserves like a leech. Drop her. The term "codependent" was coined for situations like this. You're addicted to "fixing" her, she's addicted to being "fixed" and coddled.
My relationship from before was like this. The amount of disrespect I got given was a real eye opener. Literally these days I won’t put up with anything and it’s thanks to channels like these. At the end of the day I want a good life and I need team players. Romantic and non romantic relationships. You’ve helped me big time.
I told my wife before we were married. Marriage is a partnership. But in every partnership one partner has to be the majority stockholder. I will always have 51% of the shares when it comes to a vote because someone has to be in charge and break a deadlock. She didn't like it when I said it and I have had to remind her of it from time to time. But, someone has to be the ultimate decision maker, and have the final say, and in a healthy relationship it is the husband.
Your point on family life leading to accepting disrespectful behaviour is 100% on point but i want too add that this is also often pushed by tv shows with the "lazy father" stereotype and the nagging wife, it does really normalise this sort of behaviour especially for young people...
I feel like I'm running into these videos after all these things have happened to me this year for a reason...and it's almost the new year. A sign is a sign.
If I have the option between a girlfriend with the same personal traits as my mother (nagging, disrespect, total absence of interests, and so on), I think I will rather be single for the rest of my life.
They don't. They're like children who didn't get any rules to live after. Never satisfied, nothing is good enough and it's never their fault. My life is perfect since I keep them out of it!
Same advice here is for your friends too. If they constantly and everytime you see them disrespect you even in a joking manner, they really aren't a friend worth keeping around. Sometimes for jokes it's ok, but if it starts to be constant you either tell them to stop it or just cut them off from your life.
When it gets to the point when i am crying or angry , or cussing her out that means i am getting ready leave the relationship. Because i have tried reason and softness and she is the one who is clueless and selfish and doesn't know how to treat people . To think you can maybe change a clueless or disrespectful woman is like thinking you can fix a relationship with a chronic cheater or drug addict. I have my limits and if my conversations about my reasonable boundaries how you treat me don't sink in then i know where the door is.
This video is amazing! It summarises very well the values of your channel and what you try to transmit and teach. Thank you for all the work you are doing and spreading!
this is your best video yet alex, why? because it addresses the real fundamental problem that starts ALL of these issues we're experiencing. poor parenting.
Validation at 5:00 where Alexander says "negative consequences for negative behavior" regarding parenting of children that I learned decades ago in college. I told my wife about it at the time and it went in one ear and out the other, because she wanted to be their friend. Excellent point he makes about not tolerating dysfunctional behavior. Problem is too many of us had an upbringing from one or both parents letting dysfunction reign at home. But his teaching here helps all of us become a much better person. I'm binge watching.
My wife has bipolar disorder and can sometime be an emotional rollercoaster for me. I do tolerate it because her kindness and caring part outweighs the bad traits.
