After one month of no contact, I reached out. We chatted. We kissed and hugged. She clearly loves me still and seemed to have regret. Two days later, I went to see her again and she shut down again and ran away. They have to come to you. After no contact, they will regret it, but they have to come to you or it will just fall apart again.
You're a happy man! You've seen her feelings so just continue with no contact. I think she will come back. I wish my ex had such feelings. If I were confident she had, I would wait for her as long as it is necessary for her to realize that we must be together.
Coach Lee, can no contact work more than once? I took your advice last year and went no contact after my ex left me. Five months later, they came back. We were good for 4 months until out of nowhere, they just stopped calling/texting. So I responded with the same silence. No calls or texts. I'm back in no contact for about a month now. Will it work multiple times or just one time?
Better to be alone than be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Learn to enjoy your own space. Learn to be happy alone. You will attract a better person in your life.
It’s now been 4 months since my ex girlfriend and I got back together. We are happier than before the breakup. I stayed in no contact for 3 months, and after the first 3 weeks got the worst “friendly” bread crumbs. I remained calm and responded without being over pursuant, exactly what coach Lee and the love chat recommend. She asked if we could be friends and I made it clear I did not want that. I never reached out to her first, and after remaining in no contact we are back together. I had no faith because when we broke up she said she doesn’t see us getting back together for a long time if we do. But I stayed in no contact even though it hurt me like hell. Please don’t break no contact, it’s what’s best for your relationship and you. You might’ve seen this same comment on another video, but these are the comments I wish I had when I was really going through it, so I’m trying to remind everyone there is light.
How did you go about asking if she had sexual contact with anyone else since that breakup (because no one wants STD's). This is what I'm preparing myself for if she comes back wanting me back. I don't want to feel like a lesser choice after she's gotten the freedom to go try out other guys. I don't really believe she's that type of person but you never really know for sure. Right? 🤷🏻♂️
How is your mental state? For me it’s 6 months in a couple of days and I’m still going thru it. Gym, and self improvement is still happening but I’m still so emotionally broken
@@sawley121 i have good days but also still have some bad days. whenever i am having a bad day i try extra hard to take care of myself either by going to the gym, doing something for me, or going out with a friend. i think it will always be hard to not miss him because i spent 5 yrs with him. and thats a long time to just forget about someone. i also do believe that he cant just forget about me either. i also do allow myself to miss him and i dont avoid those feelings either. i think avoiding them just prolongs the hurt and pain of it all.
Wow that’s awesome . it’s been now almost 2 months since my almost 6 year relationship ended but only 21 days no contact . Some days are better than others and it does hurt she hasn’t reached out but the last time we talked she texted first and said how she misses me and doesn’t want me to think she just moved on . She also said we can meet up when we’re fully healed so who knows what that’ll lead to . I’m just focusing on being the best version of myself possible
Its been almost 4 months no contact. The hardest part and perhaps biggest learning process around all of this for me is to avoid my negative self talk, and learn to appreciate myself again.
Update: on the same day I made this post, i asked her when i could pick up my work equipment, she gave me a whole long paragraph about how could i ask for my stuff back "after what i've done". Which was leave her alone since she didnt want to see me when last we spoke 4 months ago, plus she has serious trust issues based on her past relationships, so i was always accused of, and apparent still am being accused of cheating.
@@zodiac909Wow. Tough experience, I'm sure. Yes, it's hard to let go of the negative self-talk and other self-defeating patterns. Celebrate moments of progress, even if you waver or backslide for a bit. I hope you have found someone you can trust to talk to and provide support. No need to go through this alone. And about this last episode -- sounds like this is important information for you about where she is in her maturity and growth. Hopefully you can begin to feel the benefits of being out of this and away from her dysfunctions. Stay the course on your own healing and growth!
My ex reached out today after 11 weeks no contact. I never thought she would. I used to watch all these videos in the beginning and eventually got over it and stopped hoping. I came back here to tell people doing NC it works… even if you weren’t a great person in the relationship. Time does help things
@@LeeEverett1 mainly because of distance, we both live in different countries and also because of how I handled certain situations… I could have handled them a lot better. She reached by ringing me which I missed the call, and then she followed it up immediately with a text explaining why she was ringing.
@bwayne1458 i am to in a distance realshionship breakup in 2 different countries i am thinking about reaching out after 1.5 month of no contact i dont know what to loose she said she love me but she is mental ill and its not possible to have a realashionship now should i reach out what do you think ?
@@schander2020 I don’t know your circumstances, but if she broke up with you I wouldn’t reach out. Just be patient and try move on with your life and work on yourself and be happy. I didn’t reach out to mine at all and eventually she reached out to me because I hadn’t spoken to her in so long
@@bwayne1458you have me so much hope. Were also ldr (Europe - us) and he broke up with me via text after a year. He asked for space and I tried to give him space but wasn’t good at it . We even talked about kids and marriage and I was supposed to love there at the end of October 😢 I was so on the fence in the beginning and he pursued me hard. We spent three months together last summer and a week in November but that’s it. Then it was calls and messages … I felt him pulling away and I started chasing and after the break up the same day I begged and pleaded and apologised for my mistakes and the fighting. I explained part of it was me trying to have any reaction from him … I asked for a second chance but told him I would respect his choice. It’s been 5 days and it’s not getting better. I keep having hope. He blocked me that same day on every platform but he’s unblocked me already on one. We’re not following each other on insta or FB so I have no idea if he will be dating or getting with someone 😢 I never felt anything like that … before him I didn’t even want kids but he changed my mind … because I’d have them with him 😢
I found Coach Lee's channel the day of my break up in March 2023 as I was desperately searching for answers/ways to get my ex back and went into immediate NC despite the ex asking for me to stay in touch. It's now been over a year and I'm soo glad I followed Coach Lee's advice 👍Not only did I get to invest in myself properly for the first time (completely changed my body in the gym, left a horrible job and finally travel, moving from the UK to Australia) but I later found out the ex had actually moved on straight away to someone else/overlapped with myself. Had I kept in contact, I would have looked utterly pathetic and foolish. Thank you for keeping me right 🧡👌
Found Coach Lee about 3 yrs ago in the worst of my breakup, this advice is "extremely" hard to take as a man because we want to fix things with logic, most importantly we can get emotionally driven to do that, it's a disaster. . logic won't work and contacting her is chasing her which pushes her away, your emotions are your enemy driving your urge to do these things. It's confusing that logic won't work, it doesn't seem logical and you will get emotional tunnel vision thinking it will, in fact women do not lead with logic and emotional men are not attractive. You are watching this video because you don't understand this right now. Coach Lee does. There is a chance she won't come back even if you listen, it's guaranteed she won't come back if you don't listen, regardless in the long run if you do the work to improve your life you will be living an improved life. It doesn't matter what she thinks or how she feels about you past or present. It's not about her.
Thank you Coach Lee, my ex came back after 2 months of no contact. We are now rebuilding and going well 🥰 You have given me so much strength and helped me believe in myself!
@@RealCoachLee she dumped me but was not really a solid decision from her as i feel she loves me and her behavior after that decision was mixed. As consequence i took the advjce of a friend and reach out to her, after 2 weeks of no contact, trying to get us back, she said it may be possible but not now, after that day we exchanged a couple of messages, we hanged out 2 times, and she even kissed me and hugged me. And after few days decided that we should no more meet and talk. I don’t really know what should i do now or if no contact can make any difference now or i just ruinned everything and pulled her away? A response here is much appreciated!
@@narcisconstantinolaru999 just say goodbye and move on. Why you want to run around the person that doesn't want to be with you and plays games like that? Have some balls and just move on.
@@narcisconstantinolaru999yea go back to NC. and build on yourself in case she doesnt want to come back. Do what the Doc says. Trust in the process, and prepare mentally to let her go.
I got dumped end of January. Lots of tears and drama during the break up. I went no contact for 2 and half months and greeted him on his birthday April 20. He said he regretted everything and that he still loves me. I asked him if he wanted to work things out since I’m still in love with him too. He said he have to think about it because he doesn’t want to hurt me in the future again. I can’t wait for a response so I asked him again after 3 days. He said that he can’t go back to the relationship because he did a lot of damage and he hurt me a lot. And said he’s not a relationship material. I’m so embarrassed of myself. I deleted his number and won’t contact him again. I love him with all my heart but it was too much to bear.
That must have been hard. Stay strong. I too got dumped at the same time and coincidentally my birthday falls on the same date, I was kinda expecting a message from her but nothing, still in no contact. Getting better everyday but her thought always lingers. Take care.
I'm sorry about that. You did all the things Coach Lee said not to when you first start talking to them again, also 2 and a half months is maybe just not enough time.. Never ask them about the relationship, keep it casual.. let them come to you.. Don't break Nc. Go back into nc for you this time. Such a traumatic thing to go through and you will survive it regardless. I've been in this position as well. It only gets better with time♡
I'm sorry .. god is watching over you .. 🙏 I got dumped Jan 1 never heard from her .. this one of the reason I don't want to reach out .. I still love her but it seems like she a different person now
Stay strong. Be patient, I know it’s hard we might be far but we are with you. You’ll be okay and this too shall pass. One it will become something funny to talk about.
7 months NC and I've refound myself. I'm not with her nor has she reached out but I'm happy with that. 6 months ago I was a wreck. Just remember NC is about you not necessarily them. Good luck
100% agree. He asked for it, he got it. I gracefully bowed out and didn't contact for a number of months. Once I stabilized myself and healed, we had a brief, friendly exchange when we bumped into each other, and I still took a few more months for myself. Things are going great now. I'm not the same person I was before.
I’m at 2 months no contact. I’m sober 14 years. I survived Hurricane Katrina. I have been through everything. Doing the right thing can hurt like hell. Courage is doing the right thing in the face of fear. lt has been a very painful process with no contact. In the past I chased. Worst mistakes I ever made. I love and respect myself. My girlfriend wanted a break. Out of love I gave it to her. It’s the worst pain I have ever felt. Life is to short. I’m still living my life taking it one day at a time. When she ended I was calm, peaceful, and poised. I’m keeping the faith yet I’m working towards complete moved on. My life is to awesome to chase. I love my girlfriend with all my heart. Thank you for these videos they are motivating
I've been off and on sober for 10 years. was in the middle of a massive health kick when breakup happened. Despite knowing what an idiot move it is, I bought alcohol and have been drunk for 2 weeks. I'm 10 hrs sober and I'm sticking to it. no the alcohol didn't help. thanks for your post I needed it.
Have a request to people who read this and going through it. If you reunite with your ex and it goes well please post it. A lot of us are here, sometimes feeling the situation is hopeless. When you reconnect with your ex, you’re flying high so likely not watching these because you’re happy. But I think hearing your story worked out will give hope to others who are struggling. I promise I’ll do the same if things work out for me. Hope things work out as you hope.
They usually don’t come back because they are enjoying life with their person. But some do. You can also see success stories at www.lifecoachhub.com/coach/lee-wilson
@@RealCoachLee thanks coach Lee. Yeah, I figured people wouldn’t be looking at these if they are enjoying life with their person. Thanks for link, will check it out!!!
@@RealCoachLee I thought you said in most cases they DO come back if you stick to no contact? That's contradictory to what you say in your videos. 🤔 Please explain...
@@Texas_940 coach Lee was referring to a comment about once someone gets back together with their ex they don’t come back to these videos to post updates.
Going on 2 weeks now with no contact. Each day gets better and am realizing how strong I truly am and have no need for a man who is not willing to work things out.
Kept my heart guarded since day 1. My now ex of 5 months completely blocked and ghosted me on everything after one simple disagreement that we should have been able to resolve within minutes. Never told me we were breaking up, taking a break etc, she just said she "needed time talk to you when I can" then boom blocked. That was 2 weeks ago. I'm not heartbroken but I'm absolutely blind sided. Never saw her as the type to do this, she even just started saying "I love you" and telling her friends and family about me 1 week prior. Even if I weren't blocked there is absolutely zero chance I'd break no contact and chase her, she messed things up and wouldn't take accountability.
Sir i don't know how to thank you. I didn't recognise my self respect until i saw your videos. This is a important topic because lots of people out there are destroying their lives . I will be forever in debt for your motivation and encouragement. You taught me to be mature and in times when i felt like i am broken i come here and see your videos Your voice is calming and absorbs all my sorrow May Lord give you a long life❤❤❤❤ I love you sir ❤❤
I saw this channel after 2 years after my breakup. I used to watch his videos at that time.. Guys i am doing great now... Listen to him and get out of toxic relationship.. You will be perfectly fine ❤
I made a lot of mistakes, I was so upset with my ex that I told him he did not have to call me anymore (said out of anger and frustration) then did the worst after that by turning right back around texting him again speaking of how disappointed I was and did not deserve how he was acting and he did not respond to any of my texts. I decided to go into no contact and that was a month ago…this video was very timely because I had been struggling on calling him and blaming myself, just completely emotional. I am so thankful that I have not reached out to him via text or phone. This video was a great reminder for me to maintain my dignity and not reach out to someone who doesn’t even have the decency to respond. Thank you Coach Lee.
I am so happy Coach Lee mentioned the part of not taking them back, reality is even if it might feel good that moment you take them back but there will be negative psychological consequences in a long run.....getting a new person might be a better option for your dignity, sanity, peace ,self respect and a lesson to the other person, actually is more like breaking up with them now😂 and you watch them dance, but after all this work on yourself bcos if you don't same will happen in your next relationship, working on yourself starts with being comfortable to be alone for sometime,rediscover yourself and develop your spiritual, intellectual, physical and emotional faculties then you will be a magnet to the opposite sex! All the best and thank again to the coach!
Every single word is nothing but the truth!! Coach Lee, this video is priceless!! There's no other way to handle such difficult breakups! It's been more than 2 months since my no contact and I realize now that you were right!! Actually, it's beginning to pay off!! I feel better and You!! You've been right all the way!! You are a true master!! Congratulations dear coach!!
my buddy told Coach Ken on their last call that hands down, in her opinion, THIS is your BEST video ever! I agree. I also let Coach Craig Kenneth know it wasn't cool if he was dissing you on your ideas on clean slate letters.
It's been 5.5 months and I've finally decided I don't want her to come back. She treated me terribly. Thank you, Coach Lee, for your words. You soothed my soul while I grew strong enough to finally put this behind me. I'm taking my ball and I'm going home.
I am the one walking away from Him. I let him go. But the pain of leaving someone you deeply love is so much harder than when they break up with you. I’m in 10days of NC and I promise it gets better. After one week, I don’t wake up with him on my mind. I feel more free. If I got this You got this 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
@@bhello99 I cannot speak for @cupofLizzy, however, sometimes you can love someone as much as humanly possible but still not get what you want, need or desire in return from them. It hurts to leave someone you love but sometimes it hurts even more to stay.
I have discovered this channel while i was dealing with a very hard break up. Now after a couple months later i don't even want to get back with my ex but still watch these videos because Coach Lee gives really solid advices to keep in mind when starting a relationship
Hey for anyone going through it. It definitely gets better, had an ex reach out and say everything reminds her of me after about 13-14 months of no contact. I’d completely moved on and did not respond but if you’re doubting no contact, don’t. It “works” whatever your goal is.
Long distance relationship, I felt her distancing herself and she came up with excuses to not meet, texts started dwindling and she was saying she has a lot of stuff going on. Every day started being shaped around her texts and it was becoming clear she was backing off. I asked her that we didn't communicate for awhile because it was too hard to watch it dwindle away, I think she was talking to her ex, so I'm not sure if I qualify as the breaker or not but today is 21 days. It's gotten better, I hope she texts and we can rekindle.
Had this one give me the silent treatment months later I havnt come back my dignity is more important and her wanting me to lose my dignity is a red 🚩 🚩 flag
Coach Lee helped me in October 2019. He so helped when I couldn't get out of bed for 3 days. Anyway, after 30+ days she did reached out but I moved on regardless. Improved my body (yoga), guitar practive, Spanish language, budget. And later I found treasure girl who is so differenlty different (better different) than the previous relation seems that was not-normal now.
Your content helped me tremendously about 2 years ago when my ex-husband discarded me overnight and blindsided me. I went no contact with more than a few slip ups in between. He reached out after 2 years saying he made the “biggest mistake of his life.” It’s what I wanted for so long, but no contact helped me realize that he is not the one for me. I am still on my healing journey due to his betrayal. Thank you.
I had to write a letter in my notes with everything I want to say just to get my thoughts out. Now I have to get the balls to delete it before I get a mind to copy it into a text message 😂
Thanks for your videos really helping me. My gf ended our relationship end of Jan, 5 1/2 years together and been engaged for 6 months when she ended things, saying didn’t see future for us. Didn’t see vids till after I’d tried and tried to resolve and help her with things, and know should have walked away straight away, but I didn’t get to begging point thankfully. We had great relationship mainly just few things I did she didn’t like that were important to her. I’m doing NC now, get odd text now and then that seems pointless but mainly nothing. Prob is I don’t think she’ll come back and I love her, she’s strong minded, stubborn, was independent before we met. She said if barrier between us which she says is now there she’d never change her mind. I am using NC to improve myself and getting on with things rather than overthinking.
this is by far the best type of video. people spend so much time blaming themselves and being sad for letting the relationship fail but in reality, it was both parties who caused the breakup. communication is a two way street. recognize your AND THEIR part in the relationship. Dont be with someone who will leave you. you just want them back, and I get it but they dont want you. you will only regret it later and realize your worth. please more of these videos.
That should be your first video at the begining. Somethimes we need to step away and to see with who we are and what happening. At the beginning of my non contact ,that was was for my ex and now the no contact is for me 4 weeks latter. It is verry important to work on you and to understand what is happening to you! Thank you for that video and i think you should do more video like that one. We need to understand that the break up is important for 2 sides
I used to come here to watch your vids. I now master the dettachment style so I have moved on. No longer dettach to attract but dettached to move on. 😊I’m happier now. And let me tell you, no contact does works. Your ex will come back to you but it’s too late since your heart has already moved on. Hahahah. He did contacted me even after I said I didn’t want him too. So I just left him on read, don’t even care what he feels as what he did to me. I just know my worth now and how I can attract better people.
@@natural91LC Hi, yeah it is kinda savage but I went through a lot with him so he deserves that. It is his loss, I hope he realised I am that gem he took for granted. Moving on was hard at first but I told myself, let this heartache be the last one. Such a relief. If I could turn back time, I wish I wouldn’t met him. Despite me leaving him on read, he still text hello to me and I just repeat the same steps😂. There was one time we accidently met, he talked to me and I just look at him as if I don’t know him(stranger) and I can’t hide my hatred towards him. I actually feel neutral but I need to act that way so he wouldn’t pursue to talk to me. lol. If you are having the same problem, I hope you get through it 🌱😄.
Couldn’t have survived the breakup without ur advice coach lee ..I broke and begged her to get back ..all it did was remind of the negative things I have done being in the relationship..post breakup is a different ball game ..they see u as a threat to their life ….and will push them very far ..lost dignity lost her ..lost so many things but had to learn the hard way …I think in my case no contact would not have worked either ..I messed up totally during the breakup ..
I am crying right now because she bashed me up so bad and made my self respect go down the gutter. Don't know how she became so full of poison and negativity😢
Same way. We both wanted to work things out but the conversation just never came. I started doubting her intentions and felt led along like she was pursuing someone else and just got so frustrated that eventually I told her “you have no right to feel that way” straight out of the narcissistic abuse textbook. I felt awful and tried so hard to apologize while dealing with the uncertainty about her intentions. Eventually I gave myself a time limit of 1 more month before I gave up and told her that and she told me she was pursuing someone else and that I was manipulative for getting her to say that. I couldn’t hold myself to my decision even though I never saw that side of her and I ended up begging her to tell me if there was anything left for me and she said no. Self-respect sacrificed for someone who went from talking about our future kids’ hair color to not wanting to work things out. And still all I want to do is make amends for my bad behavior. Love is messed up sometimes.
Thank you Coach Lee. An excellent message with a fresh take on things. Your message was very descriptive with details sprinkled throughout. This message is so good as it addresses so many issues including the healing process . All of your coaching messages are good. This is one of my favorites of your messages. “Guard your heart and emotions! “Let it all come crashing down.”🎯🎯🎯
5 month nc with my wife i am so strong now tq sir , i am into my personal growth no love no emotions nothing invested 9 years into my life finally my wife cheated i am moving on i have two children my hear broken into mixture of pieces i am collecing back and making strong tq coach lee ❤
Coach Lee i want to thank you for everything you're doing and i am sure i can say thank you from thousnds of people whom you've helped with your content . You're amazing man keep doing what you're doing. I am going through a break up just like thousnds and thousnds other people , if you were not here on youtube and didn't share with all that great knoweldge . Once i began watching your videos on daily basis my anxiety & mental health became much better. If not for your videos i would of been cryi g to this day everyday and night . Thank you man.
Mine is 8 weeks no contact, and now 6 weeks in the gym. I know after listening to the most recent coach Lee's (The odds of getting your ex back) short, that she will likely never reach out to me. I also had a great chat with Coach Lee, got some amazing advice. Between that and the gym. I am in a much better spot mentally and physically. Whether she regrets it one day or not... thats not on me. That short made me realize I was part of a revolving door. And if its shut, so be it! The bottom line is work on you, and be a better person for someone who deserves you!
4 months no contact not a word but I finding myself and feeling good. He left me in the middle of fighting breast cancer stage straight and I’m good with that now.
We were together for 2 years and 8 months, she broke up with me 17th April to get back to her ex, I didnt contact her since then (2 weeks so far) and I will persist on no contact.
I seperate from ex, and hurt like hell to have no contact, in other videos you explain the phases if you keep trying to have contact, i made almost alll of the mistakes, and she even go in a rebound relationship. So i thought my case was over, but for 4 month i was here watching you, and you gave me sooo much straight in the beginning i thought was a "fake hope" But i realized that i needed something to hold on to. You're amazing man thaank You very much for all of your videos!!!! We're 5 month seperate now, we lived together, but i managed 2 months of no contact even tho, that circumstances were there, She contacted me again, we met, we had sx, she wants that we start slowly again. Buuuut i don't think i'm there no more! Or maybe is just everything so fresh and i need to forget the pain it cause me. Anyways thank You very muuuch again!!!!!!!! Honestly You helped me heal my heart.
I was dumped by my girlfriend after a two year relationship. She we're in our early 50's. She said I treated her nicer than anyone she had ever known. It's been 3 1/2 months since she told me that she "just couldn't do this anymore". She said she "has to grow". She has a long history of past trauma, including a 10 year abusive marriage to a narcissistic ex who still torments her. We still text and talk a few times per week but every time I ask her to get together for brunch or something she comes up with an excuse. I can't stop thinking about her. I feel like I did something wrong and she won't tell me what. I wish we had had an argument or she would just stop being nice about it and blame me for something or call me an ars hole for some reason. Not knowing where I went wrong is very difficult. All I ever did was try to make her happy.
I had this woman pursue me and we talked/hung out/ were together for a month and a half. All of a sudden she said she wasn’t going to have time for me and I’m devastated. I’m on day 2 of no contact
Your words are always so reassuring. Even though I'm happy with my break up since it was a toxic on/off relationship, I just like to listen to you because somehow it is hard for me to make wise decisions when it comes to dating. Your words mostly feel like a "dad-advice" and since my dad has never been there for me to teach me these things, I like to listen to you. Any chance you will start a Podcast or other videos about healthy dating/relationships?
My specific person talked badly about me when we argued, and I'm felt very bad and told her to leave my house. When I reached out here to your channel of no contact, I applied it. Just the next day, she apologized and called every day until now. But I don't answer her calls every day, too. We are both cheating on each other, but we still love ourselves for 15 years, too. That's the point. It's hard for sure, but her choice isn't me but someone. She's left now and lived with her friends. Reason to easy for her to go out dating with the third party. I just thank her for her love for me and let her go even though I still love and think about her. Now, I'm a prayerful person. BTW, nc works, thanks alot.
It's been a year now. She hasn't reached out. I made a mistake and she ended it. She had a part in it too. I reached out once a couple of months after it happened. Nothing came out of that. She said that I continue to cross boundaries. What makes this hard is that I made a promise that I would always be there for her. I feel like I failed to keep my promise.
Actually, I messed it up and initiated the breakup process. She finalized it. I am not happy about this at all, but am honoring her obvious no contact.
It's been four months now, he butt dialed me the other day and when I answered the phone and said Hello he didn't say anything. So I hung up on him and blocked him. i just got to the point where I wasn't thinking about him now since that call I can't get him out of my head again. This is terrible!
I recently went thru a breakup and was the one who got dumped but I seen it coming days before but thought I could sway things in another direction. But to no avail... 1) It doesn't matter if ur in great shape. ( A lot ppl talk about hitting the gym but sh** happens to anyone and everyone) 2) I tried to surround myself with women to avoid the mental hell I was going to have to deal with. That didn't work and aftera weekeverythingjust fell flat ( You really can't replace a loved one in a week or 2.) We have to go thru some type of pain or discomfort to get to a better place ( def easier said than done) One thing that I've noticed is even with our best efforts some of the ppl we choose to have relationships with were broken before we met them. So sometimes we can't put too much blame on ourselves. None of us is perfect just a work in progress. To close...NC works! It did 4 times on the same person but have to ask yourself is it worth it to go back.
I have to thank Coach Lee and it’s contents because his advises made me strong and understand the meaning of dignity and strong mindset. Yes 3 months gone and yet she is not back but I won myself respect. Thanks Coach Lee
this may 4 is gonna be exactly 3 months since he broke up with me and since our last contact. since then im doing no contact. im okay but sometimes i still wonder if he will ever come back and a part of me still hope that he does. thank you coach lee for this video. its like a slap in the face for me that i really need haha ❤
You'r not alone, im in No Contact as well and broke on 29th day. The result is not best so better let the day comes that he will reach out to you. Its a trick but better to follow Coach Lee's advice. Stay Strong❤️
Great video Coach Lee! It really gives insight into how unattractive people can become to their partner; when "1" person becomes unattractive in the relationship by allowing it to be "1" sided to the point of acting desperate (rather than reaching out to yourself) to attract or re - attract someone.
Very precious advice. Wish I seen this when I separated I could have saved my dignity. She mugged me of because I was trying to save the relationship that I have child with. Now I don’t contact her at all. Not even seeing my child. Now cann’t stand my ex at all or even my own child with her I don’t want because of the rubbish time I gone through for sake of save the relationship I wish I could have seen coach Lee videos 9 years ago 😢
I did no contact and she checked in 2 weeks in asked me to call her. She came by my work 2 weeks later just to say hi. The funny thing is I continued no contact and did some serious work on myself and all areas of my life. Part of it I decided to make amends via email to a few people I hurt (not her did that at the start of the break up). I actually attracted a precious ex back and we both had been out and dated other people. We are now together and I actually hope my ex doesn’t ever ask me to get back with her as it will be very uncomfortable saying no….. Exs do come back - it might not be the one you expect! Love strength and blessings to anyone going through a break up. Trust the process.
I struggle with no contact because my ex and I have a son. To be sure, I only “contact” her if the topic is about our child. I’ll admit, it’s been six years since the divorce and I still miss her.
Thank u coach lee. Our dignity (esp as men) is so important. After she left me, after dating for 2years , for a while i kept sending her gifts as a sought of olive branch so it would be easy for her to return. But i discovered it further made her take me for granted & gradually bred disrespect. As at may 8th, i went full NC & 11days after she reached out, as she was obviously curious on my silence. But am not toning it down, i will maintain complete NC (it hurts , cause i still do love her) but*its necesssary to save yourself, i will follow coach lee's instruction to the letter. Thank you so much coach lee, for making men like us dare to believe in our worth and value again. i Cant wait to be completely over the entire thing.
I’ve been in no contact for 10 months. Nothing. We lived together for 18 years, left suddenly and so unexpectedly . Went into some crisis but of course, made up stories to everyone and said I was the course. He Would constantly tell me he wants to be friends in emails. I responded once, I don’t need anymore friends. If he doesnt want to be in a relationship then we are done. We were best friends and did everything together but he totally discarded me as if I never existed and so has his family. Don’t even know if I ever want to see him after the discard feeling when we had been together for almost 20 years.
My wife of 11 years left me and our three kids, mine from a previous relationship that she has raised the entire time with me. She said when she left that we would all hate and resent her eventually and she has not reached out in 3 months at all. Coach Lee, could it be that she actually believes we hate and resent her and that's why she hasn't reached out? It's so hard for me to believe that she's so fickle that she gave up her entire life with us to find her identity or whatever
I am working on no contact. I was doing good which it took me years to be acceptable of the not quite no contact but barely no contact. Now I have to do it over because we reconnected again but are not communicating anymore. It's definitely hard but I believe in myself and I will do it. Keeping your mind occupied is key. I learned recently that I have to work on self control. I believe he has better self control than me from the outside looking in which is good for him. Last message wasn't too long ago but I will stay strong. I never thought we would be communicating again for the rest of my life after 6 years of barely no contact but we did and basically its just hard all over again. He goes down in history as one of my favorite people ever, such a beautiful man inside and out. I am in a dilemma and its not good for us to communicate at this time. It's partially my fault why we reconnected in the first place. Not fair to anyone involved and I have to come to terms with that. For anyone who is struggling hang in there. You can do it!
My ex ended the relationship about a month ago and we had spoken on the phone a couple of times she kept checking up on me over and over I didn’t text her she always texted me only on a few occasions I texted her first. I started doing no contact a week ago after she told me she is seeing someone but she texted me yesterday checking on me and on my mother who is ill and she was very close to my mother, she says she loves me and she will always be there for me, that she doesn’t want me to go away and and in the future she isn’t opposed to us being together but due to our current circumstances of being in a long distance relationship(I plan on moving there due to a scholarship that I start in a year) and my past mistakes she thought she needed time apart. She texted me yesterday I answered a day later politely but not showing much feelings, she says she wants to call me, I don’t know what to do because I know we are meant for each other but our circumstances are difficult. If I speak my feelings of not necessarily wanting to talk to her like nothing ever happened would I ruin the possibility of getting back together because it shows that I’m not mature enough? Or if I talk like nothing ever happen will leave an impression that I am desperate and that I’ll always be there?
