Your Ex's Brain During No Contact Rule 

Awesome Josue! Thank you for returning to encourage people with your good news!

Hi, Congratulations on you getting back with your ex. Can you tell me more about that please

Awesome

@@josuerodriguez5991 That’s awesome. I hope no contact works for me. This is a tough situation.

Best of luck to you both

Well spoken..

😘😘🙏

Thanks for saying it so well. Im wishing I’d never crossed those lines from friends to lovers regardless I was supposed to fall in love with my “best friend”.

I did that for so longggggg...now I know better

Good thing she unfriended me haha, if not I would probably be there checking every day

I know. If one can't be honest with themself, how are they ever going to honest with another?

It's called infatuation and lust, hun, not love. Love is divine. This generation is doomed.

There is a 1% that is pure love, not just some mind game, but that’s only when it is with the right person (rare as f)

Sadly pure love is very rare. And in the end is all about psychology and brain chemistry not "love from fair tales". Sad truth.

So do I far too many Players far too many mind games

Badly need this advice right now 😢

Such good advice. Relationships are meant to be safe places and the way some of these people have ditched us is not safe. Do we really need that instability in our lives?

She broke up with me and i didn't even answer

I overpursued and then I pushed her away into the arms of another man. This happened over Holidays. She still wanted to be friends but I refused and told her I want romance only or nothing at all. The reality is that I still love her a lot. However like other's have said before, why should I be her backup plan if she does come back. It's always going to be a feeling of second option. I know I deserve better along with anyone else who has been cheated on, or used. Waiting for someone or taking someone back never ends well! I found out the hard way and it's a lesson I will never forget.

❤

I only been separated for 2 months and some days but we have children. 7 year relationship. Hopefully, it can get fixed like yours.

Sign a Common Law Contract or Marriage Contract, protect your asset, guys!

So very happy for you!!! :)

Super. You just need to focus on you. Well done!😊

Your career can definitely betray you.

He/She didn’t even reach out within those months?

@@shirleybragat2773 yes she did, every single day. Constant phone calls and text messages. Even tried to talk to me through various social media platforms. I guess in the end the no contact worked for me because I had no expectations. I let time do it’s thing and it gave me a clear vision of what I wanted and needed in life. Granted no contact works if you want them back, but it could also work when you’re ready to heal and move forward. Only you can decide what’s best for you.

@@emmah8343 she did

​@@limosan0stra Sucks when you really only want her. I don't want to move on I want her to change. Same principle I can't be tunnel visioned on her. I have to leave her alone and simply live my life apart from her.

I hope that I will be strong like you

He didn't contact me.. 😢. He called me 6days back. I called him. But he didn't respond me..I text him. He didn't reply me.

me too , NC and went to gym . it is also 1 weeks now but we didnot end good . We fight and he was rude but nvm anymore ,release

How are you now

Please give us an update. We’re all in this together 🙏

So, basically I fucked up.. he did come back very carefully.. sending me memes on instagram privately and very short conversations. Fun, but very briefly. But sooooo slow! I over-invested and in an impulsive moment I felt I just wanted him back in my life; even if it's just friends.. so I asked him to call me because I deleted his number.. he called me instantly and we talked for like 2 hours on the phone.. me replying my point of view as I didnt really do that when he broke up. But it was an overall pleasant conversation. But he wasnt there where he needed to be... yet.... And then last saturday I went out with friends, had a little bit too much wine and got frisky after he send me a flirtatious text.. I asked him to come and pick me up and we had a very passionate night together. But in the days after it more felt like a bootycall. So yesterday I send him a message saying we really cant do friends apparently... and that despite me having enjoyed saturdaynight a lot, its not what i want to settle for with him and that it makes it impossible for me to move on this way.. that i feel we are a very good match together and I do want to make it work with him... that all issues he had, are things we could have worked out. That all that was needed is us being willing to make it work..but that our issue is that he doesnt want to, so there is no point. And now I restarted my no-contact.... first 24 hours are done.... I really messed it up by wanting to go too fast! Like.. I do feel there still was no pleading and begging... and there still were no arguments or bad moments.. and I do feel I said things that could really make him re-think his decision and choice.. but I feel I also messed up badly by being too eager. I dont know I will get him back now.. kinda feel like i won't...😢

That's amazing! How long were y'all in NC for?

@@user-tw7zg6ko6e for 8 months

@@moytheboytech616 I've been in NC for a little over 2 months. And I'm right there with you. Some days/nights are hard as hell but I always come back to these videos and comments to give me encouragement and hope. Just keep going and improving yourself! You're not alone in this

hopewanjiru5560, Coach Lee is very proud of you both. He has a Workshop which he and I recommend you join. It's excellent and it has EVERYTHING you need to know about yourself and so much more.know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

I’m happy for you both! This did not work in my case. I reached out after a year of us being broken up and within that time 8 months of NC. And his poor choices led me to breaking up with him again and walking away for good this time. There are no third chances not when he hasn’t shown me he’s changed and worked on his issues. It’s heartbreaking but I know my worth. Wishing you the best! ❤

How are you handling it? It''s been almost two weeks for me and I'm already feeling guilty and preoccupied about what happened.

90% of Women today are horrible I’ve just left my wife after she said she’s not happy wants a divorce all about her we have a child in a great husband and great dad her on the other hand has been messaging on social media a lad she works with I’ve gone no contact with her now for 1 week and I’m going strong the love fizz has gone and I’ve thought what was I thinking she’s been awful to me all through our 12 year relationship no going back for me I’m gonna concentrate on me and the child

@@craigy691and I feel all men are horrible. How about we just accept that a lot of people aren’t healthy..

Wow. How did the RU-vid youtube algorithm bring me here. I finally escaped a 27 year old relationship. Finally reached a point were I thought I could survive without the person I devoted myself to and genuinely loved. So unconditional that even when it had become toxic and abusive I couldn't break free. Then a few months back I told her I will leave now. Just as she had told me to do so many times the last decade or so. This was met with this ridiculous notion that I was cheating and I was leaving for someone else. No. I never thought I wanted, needed or deserved someone better. I just wanted her...but she made it impossible for it to be. A lot of things caused the relationship to fail. But to some degree bad advice and videos like these plant ideas in minds of people who are easily influenced. Who is this advise for? High schoo? But then again the older I get the more I see that people act as foolish as they did in their younger years. Damn, I guess relationships are just wars and battles.on who is the better manipulator. I'ts never ending. My advise for a man or woman, son or daughter. Never fully open your heart to what you think is love in a romantic relationship. The absolute only that will accomplish is give one or.the other an ultimate weapon.

Same bro. Except she tried to tell me we were gonna go on a break. So the next day I called her up and broke up with her. She said she needs attention and affection yet wanted a break and limited communication. I told her we don’t have to break up but we need to talk about everything. She said she has a lot to think about. I’ve not replied to her since. She’s looked at my Instagram story. Alleged I blocked her too when I didn’t, I’d archived my profile and deleted our shared collections and unfollowed her. She’s the one who wanted the break. Seemed to me she just wanted to breakup without the responsibility and accountability of the action. Women today can have exactly what they said they want and still play games. It’s female nature, and social media as well as dating apps have made it tenfold worse. Better to just be alone at this point.

I’m with you

How you doing these days?

Hey what happend did it work?!

It’s my first day … it’s so hard 🫠

@@missmania4561 Hang in there, im almost a week in. It sucks it really does. Keep this in mind though, every day that goes by, you get stronger and they actually get weaker if you stay in no contact whatsoever. These stages in the video do actually happen. When this person comes back, make sure you have the high ground.

Glad you found yourself and the love you have for yourself ❤

@@Liz-dragon-street. yes, thank you!!! Coach lee is right!! Your ex never forget you, even when they married or have kids. So stay strong if you ever get dumped.

@@antilaw9911 no, I learned how to live without him. I’m glad he asked for the breakup.

How long was ur relationship? It's been 112 days of no contact and it's been torment for me 24/7/112.

​@@antilaw9911 what a weird comment. You sound bitter jealous. Seek professional help

Please what if you have never laid hands on your girlfriend for 2yrs and this particular time you lose self control after she was physically assaulting you by pulling your dress and u lose self control a slap her just that ones, can you forgive that person after he has beg for forgiveness so many times genuinely for hitting u?

So accurate. I think it hurts more when it's abrupt.

It's sad but honestly I have even been willing to deal with the physical stuff on multiple occasions

@@aundavioncook2131 never allow anyone to put hands on you for a violent reason. Love yourself as God loves you.

Exactly.

Do you still want to get back together?

@@annabylina no, not anymore. I found out that he had a 3rd party while we were still together. That hurt, but it took a lot of healing to pull myself together. There's also a new person which is "knocking" on my door, so will see how it goes.

Don’t start new relationship until you get over your ex that’s good for you and other person

Time is a great healer

More power to you 💞

Update?

Just give that shit up bro that’s insane 😂

It's a long way brother but after a year you will feel a lot better, sometimes you'll miss her and have nightmares about it but those things will fade away.

@@Markdaamannn it’s over, man. Sorry.

The dreams are so painful. Especially ones when he comes back and everything is good again. I wake up and for a moment, I’m so relieved. And then I see the emptiness on his side of the bed and my heart breaks all over again. I am glad you’re feeling better. Wishing you all the best. For me, it’s been 3 months since he left (my fault), and 11 days NC. Take care 🙏🏻

@@annelily1883 I feel you, sometimes I dream about getting together, fixing the problems, even kissing and having s3x but it's just a dream and it won't be real again. And I'm over a year of NC, geez! no stalking or asking for some info about her. It takes a lot of time to heal.

@@JoshP86 holy cow!! That’s a king time to keep this up. I respect you. 🙏🏻 I’m hurting but I’m still hoping. I’ve pulled my tantrums and dumb sh*t before, and he’s come back. This time I outdid myself on the tantrum (a misunderstanding, but it’s no excuse), but it’s also the first time I’m actively working on myself with therapy, counseling, exercise (to relieve stress and take my anger out, and general good health), and I hope and pray he understands I’ve changed. He’s not the only great man in the world, but he’s the one I want and love. You’re so tough! Good luck to you, I genuinely hope you stop feeling any pain about this and move on to a happy and healthy relationship! 💚

How's it been

@@JJ-dw4lz We are back together. Going on strong. The no contact works! Thanks to coach Lee.

@@ao5624any tips on not losing hope during nc?

@@Eleodyne77all you can do is work on yourself so that if she does reach out. You have an edge if you’d except her back or not

How did they contact you. Was it like hey how you been? Or just checking on how u been?

That’s awesome 🙌

Dear it's 3 years she has blocked me .Even I dnt know why just because she got some 3 rd person in her life all the faults all the negative things was pointed on me...Days are passing by..But it's ok to be honest and cry then to be selfish ,betrayer

Me too! 15 months and hes just made contact. 10 yrs we were together. I went straight into no contact after being dumped. So so hard to do. I hope hes hurting as much as I did. I've moved on! Thanks coach Lee for all those videos, you don't know how much they helped me!

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Its there use absence to create respect and honour law number 16

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I hope that you could reconsile

@@joasok3642 sorry I could have made that clearer, we broke up, she left me. (as I said, she moved out)

I just burst into tears reading this. In my situation, I’m the one at fault. My ex fiancé broke up with me on New Years Day, and it was wholly my fault. No cheating or anything, but I threw a huge dumb tantrum over a complete misunderstanding. I’ve done this before, and he was sick of it. He moved out that day, though he still has stuff here. I went through cycles of begging and pleading for him to come back, and then getting angry at him and texting mean things because in the moment I felt like he was overreacting. I was so SO wrong. I’m on 11 days of NC, and in the last three months I’ve started therapy, grief counseling (a lot of my temper tantrums were because I am still having trouble getting over losing my father to illness), and two weeks ago, I started seeing a psychiatrist too. I’m exercising almost every day, and I’ve paid off all my debt. Basically I’ve done everything he’s been wanting me to do the 4 years we were together. A few weeks after the breakup he suggested we can be FWB, because I contacted him late at night on Snapchat, though he likely should have known that I would decline. Which I did. Maybe it would have led to us getting back together, it had once before in exactly this situation, and but I think what happened is he thought I was getting back with my ex husband. But I can’t allow my heart to be risked that badly. Anyway, I’m praying for you and your ex, and all the people hurting on here. And I pray my ex comes back. I worry that since I’m the one that caused the breakup, maybe the NC advice would be different for me. But I said all I need to say, and the last contact I made with him (to which he didn’t reply) was just saying I love him and wish him well. 11 days and still no contact. I’m not blocked, but he doesn’t interact at all anymore, way before I went NC. I hope I can have him back, and not because I’m desperate or unattractive or anything, but because he’s wonderful, I love him, and I’m doing all I can to be better, for both myself and for him. Take care 🙏🏻💚

​@@annabylina thank you, I'm ever so pleased to say that we met up and it went far better than anything I was expecting. She was blown away with the work I've been doing on myself over the past 3 months, not just the physical change, but she picked up on my energy and my demeanor. We are now in a relationship again, taking one day at a time, but she has made it very clear that she wants this just as much as me. I never thought this would happen, but it goes to show that good things do happen when you least expect it, and if you put in the work it really really does pay off.

@@annelily1883 I was the one at fault too, for pretty much the same reason, tantrums, over reacting and saying things that I instantly regretted. It wasn't the first time either and she'd just had enough of it and no wonder she moved out. Well done on putting all those positive steps in place, it takes a lot of strength. And also well done on refusing the FWB thing too. That was totally the right thing to do. My ex didnt block me too, and it was so tough to leave her alone. But when we were talking the other night she said she was so amazed and appreciated it so much that I gave her the space and understood the strength it took to do it. Believe me it really makes a difference. We are now back together and that is because she saw the change in me, was grateful for the no contact to give her space and time to heal. If I'd been the same person that she last saw 3 months ago I'm sure this would never have happened. Hang on in there. Give the NC a chance to work and stay positive. Focus on yourself and trust me, when the time is right and he sees the amazing work you've been doing for yourself then there is a really good chance that it will work out. I'll be praying for you too 💚

But 6 months are a very Long time isnt it?

update?

@cuscos1866 I wasn't prepared for when she returned and didn't do the self-improvement necessary so she quickly disappeared again .. Fortunately,I moved on with life and don't care anymore and just made a better life for myself for the next person who comes a long 🙂

​@sebm8075 similar situation but yet she says she cares and the other talked sweet n said she loved me was that how your kinda went?

I guess I been a month out on my NC and my ex is going nuts I won't chase

M. Alexander, Coach Lee is the best!

So sorry dear friend 😭😭

❤🙏

One day at a time.

how long you been with them?

@@ravanjanae from 2019 until 2022

Beth, most of us went thru the same feelings. I was also in a horrible relationship with a narcissist, and it nearly killed me. TIME is the essence. Go out with your friends, pick up a hobby, and read. That took my mind off him and it DOES work. Get out of the house. Take care of yourself. You will be fine! ❤️🌷

I once had such 😭😭😭

Thank you for the update and encouragement for folks Don!

Did he/she come back or you’re still on no contact terms?

@@akankshatalwar5307did yours come back its been a month since you made this comment

no contact means you blocked him also on social media?

Im in that situation.. mother of my child moving on.. I do want to try no contact but inquire on my child. Best way to go about it.

Yup. Hell she moved away to a place closer to him, if not moved in with him directly. And that was before the breakup after I finally caught on to what she was doing. I won’t lie, even months later it still hurts. I’ve come to accept it on some level, and if she ever tries to come back she will find I’m no longer there.

Not always it is cheating..

Womyn invented "friend-zoning"; Men are perfecting it. Womyn unhappy. Too bad. Womyn are the ones who NEED 'closure'.

A month ago he send a friend request on Facebook then 1 sec later he block me so I text him said is over

​@@tdrive398Womyn? Wth is that?

@@Saranda4787 Aren't you a strong, independent f-enist who don't need men? Just describing them as they are: wo-myn, not wo-men. Bitter lonely losers.

Spent a weekend with one recently, known her two years. I’m the only guy that treats her right apparently and her daughter says she should get together with me, she told me she loved me. It’s not enough, she wants someone to argue with, I walk away from all that and would rather talk things through to resolve conflict. I went NC when I got back. The weekend was supposed to be about us getting closer together, it was anything but that. I wouldn’t care if I ever spoke to her again for the way she treated me.

@@richardcollins586 yeah, it’s like until they’re lying in a hospital bed somewhere when they’re old, they just take you for granted. You bond , and come to see the relationship as having much value, and being irreplaceable. That means you sit down together like adults,not go in to some mode where you have to be alone for a week or so as you convince yourself I’m not enough.. I have flaws… Guess what, so did she..That is unrealistic and immature relationship skills. I loved her with all her flaws.. That’s the difference.. I find this especially true of very attractive women, which mine was. The whole point I made clear to her when we first got back together after not seeing her since the 90’s , was I wanted real, and to be able to open up and not hold back. Unfortunately man, that’s the movies, as you kill attraction being too real. You have to keep them chasing and not get too deep. It’s not how I want to live, but I stepped out of being on my game, and I got gut wrenching heartache for it. Best thing you can do is what you did. Good luck to you

It's how woman phycology works to keep her hooked. you must put them on pedestal, strongly disagree with some case, some time bring tears her eye, make her very happy. Those old days are gone where masculine and feminine were respected.

So true bro. Sounds like my story. She played games the whole relationship, I played none. Breakup games, jealousy games, attention games, silent games....took me a while to understand she was very emotionally damaged. A lot of it was her fault and her doing though she will never admit to any wrongdoing of the smallest degree and points the finger at everyone. We were both so incredibly close. That was hard to get past.

Best comment ever! Couldn’t agree! Humans needs to grow up 🎉!

Same

What a weird comment

@@sloanmagnum5009 mind own business..stay away..

Thank you. 😌

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My ex went back.to.him after 10 years

no contact means you blocked him/her also on social media?

Jude, at this point, there is no rebound. Keep away from him and preserve your sanity. Take care!

You might have been a rebound but unlikely you are fully just a rebound since his life changed as much as it did. He is probably feeling the consequences of the divorce and missing the “mom, dad, and the kids” part of it. That can be very confusing. You’ll have to wait to see what he really wants. I would wait 3 months to heal and grieve and then do your best to move on if he hasn’t returned.

@@RealCoachLee he moved back in with her so its over.. the sad thing is we talked for the first time today and he said a day doesn't go by when he doesn't think of us and yet here we are. You were spot on about missing the family (kids are 17 and 20 though) but I have no choice but to close the door and move on. I miss him so much.

@@jude8602 never ever be with a man that is still married no matter how much he said they are separated he used you now he misses her and back with her. Take this as a lesson never be with a man that isn’t officially divorced

@@Blushcoco amen and better to be a couple years post divorce also.

It’s suppose to work for you not your ex bro. Improve what you feel you need to improve upon and she’ll see that shit (trust) they always find a way, especially women and then start questioning her decision. Women want men bro despite what the media or movies here in America tells us. So boss up and understand you probably just want them back to reject them and not saying you don’t love her, but lets keep it a stack and get on your purpose bro. Make the world a better place. It’s been a year and some months since my ex dumped me and I thought she was the “one.” Fast forward and I’m loving life bro and I still work with my ex lol. Man this shit gets better for real. Stay disciplined man. Let that shit hurt for a while and use that shit to level up.

Move on they obviously have

Yeah, most of the time girls have a back up plan so, if she got rid of you is because she wants to be with her new lover.

Guldham Style, I would move on. It's possible she has someone new.

@@bosslady991 fine by me i moved on started dating others the second she walked out

@@jannlewandowski5540 i already expect her to. I wasted 2 years

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