No Steve, not all guys are running around trying to bang everything that moves. I spent about two years celibate after a really tough breakup just to get my mind straight again.
@Matthew Coast - but I'm sure you were also single. This man has been (what sounds like) exclusively and seriously dating this woman for 2 years without physical intimacy. He has not stated to her any reasons such as former heartbreak, religious beliefs, etc. This is an obvious red flag that something is going on with this guy that he's not communicating to her.
Some of us men actually do put off dating so we can become better men and work on our character and get things set up and stable for when we're ready to get back in the dating game.
That's what I was thinking. My boyfriend and I were best friends for about 8 years before we got together, and both knew we had feelings bit it wasn't the right time or circumstances for either of us. He dated around, but about a year before we got together he stopped because he said he was tired of lowering his standards for people he didn't really want, and decided to be alone and work and improve himself. I love Steve but I think it's a little detrimental to paint all guys as "always being involved with somebody". Real men aren't like that.
Steve Harvey is usually on point with his advice. Sad to see him miss the mark so badly in this one.... I remember a day when saving yourself for marriage used to be the cultural norm, and it still is in many cultures..... How has the fabric of society been eroded so much? Sad.
Ask again bob mann, I am surprised the wrong thing has been endorsed as the right thing in this crazy generation. I have dated women for longer than that without sex and I was proud of that.
No, that's not completely the case. Men are biologically designed to procreate at any moment. Which makes them more desperate for sex. If a man says that he doesn't has desire for sex, for two years, one of two; he's lying, or has a medical problem.
@Bruno Zegarra Virgin men are other case. Once a man has sex, he can't live without it or he would loose his mind. But if he is virgin, no action, no effect.
I've had zero sex in 7 years. I've been thru hell with the last relationship and burnt out from it, made me broke and crazy. Life is not a cookie cutter of events that " must happen ". There is no right or wrong about it. As long as your happy and content with your life, that's it. We come into this world alone and go out alone.
Same here. Sex is dangerous. It can make someone sick in the head. Espescially if the other person is sick in the head. Game over for many many years, probably for the rest of my life.
She didn't talked with him properly that's for sure she just asked him and he just replied once. He might have something inside him or he will get too attached to her after that or something else he might be feeling insecure down there may be.
I know it's stupid but sometimes I think (during late night sleepliness) that sex is initially meant for having kids and not for our fun and adventures
@@funtioz123 fdepends if you are a man or a woman. I have never been with anyone I have been in love with and have never understood the meaning of sex. Having sex with a guy I am not in love with is not satisfying at all and I have never had an orgasm during sex. Having been mentally ill long term twice in my life because of something to do with sex: sexual harrassment and sexual assault by my dad from I was 13 to 16 and then PTSD due to a "boyfriend" who frequently was quite scary. I dont like having sex. Being 44 soon and still single I think time is up for me and life can be enjoyed other ways: I love making money! "Love" is not healthy for me!
Yeah it is but making love is a very important part in a serious relationship, y'all can wait till yall married, which is fine. But y'all better have the best sex ever during the honey moon
All the men on here misunderstood. By me time, he’s talking about the period of time a woman chooses to be single and abstain from any romantic encounters with men to work on herself. He’s not talking about alone time...
@@nessparadis6948 I'm doing that right now. Other men do it too. Sometimes if you have low self confidence and personal problems you need to take time to improve yourself. Steve seems like a great guy, but he shouldn't assume all men are like him
I’m always alone, not necessarily because I wanna be but well that’s just the way it is with me! I’m not that good lookin, & I’m not as confident as most! I try 2 be but!
He might be tryin to set up marriage... It take years before really know someone... You puttin in time like them.. You wanna make sure your relationship is very strong and very lovin before you have sex. A relationship built on sex is a hollow one.. Somethin go wrong in there. Ya whole relationship in trouble.. That easy...
There are countless guys who aren't seeing anybody and not necessarily because they don't want to. Men have standards, too, which Steve apparently does not know. If a guy hasn't met anyone they're not really into, it can make a lot of sense not go out with anyone. And as you say, there are are guys who prefer to be alone at least for the time being. They could be out of a taxing failed relationship or they could have something else that is time-consuming going on in their lives.
Let me put myself out there I'm a Christian, I'm a PK [Preacher's Kid], I'm a Man Of God, I'm a Musician, I'm still a Virgin, & I haven't kissed a woman since April 17, 2013...God knows that I would love to have sex everyday but here are my 4 problems: 1. I don't have a woman. 2. I'm not married nor have I found Mrs. Townes yet. 3. I have a commitment to God. 4. I'm scared of catching HIV.
Wow. The standard has fallen, to where it's suspect that he has standards for the relationship and self control. My wife and I shared our first kiss when we got engaged, and second kiss on our wedding day. We were celibate the entire 2.5 years dating/engaged. Now, if she takes their advice, she will challenge this standard in him, and he will see their values don't align, and will walk away.
No sex in 2 years and that's a red flag!?!??!! Ughhh, I hate what this world has become. I must have red flags all around me then, lol. I take pride in my body, I am a woman of integrity and I'm not having sex. I find it a red flag that a person sleeps with every Tom, Dick, and Harry that they date. Integrity is lacking these days.
+PharmD2be1 If her beliefs don't line up with his, then she should break up the relationship. I am considering breaking up my engagement because of the same reason, except the roles are reversed. Then again, my situation is occurring due to my Christian beliefs. She should find out why he's not being intimate with her; if the reason is personal beliefs she should know now so she can decide if she can deal with it. It could be something else, just like Sanaa mentioned, he could be gay. I doubt a man would be wining and dining a woman while he sleeps with other women without getting anything from her. She could be his beard, it happens.
But, I bet this is a conversation you have. The fact that they have not had sex is not the red flag. His reason is the red flag. They have been dating for two years, and he feels their bond isn't strong enough?!! Not buying his reason. I think he is impotent. I do agree with you regarding not giving yourself to everyone. If I'm not worth marriage, then he isn't worth this precious gift I have for my future husband. I am saving myself to honor my future husband.
I'm not religious and I still don't see it as a red flag. I respect people's beliefs though as long as they don't harm others, and quite frankly not having sex isn't going to harm her. (I'm agreeing with you)
He meant that no man is totally romantically uninvolved with anyone. Even if you're single, you're still flirting with someone and catching someone's eye.
Daniel Y even that isn’t true. I would say at least 50% of single men are doing them time and are in a moment of having zero interest in women. I did that for two years and it was a time of massive growth for me
+Duffy Dee I agree, its funny how the 1st lady they didn't agree that the ex with pics up on social media wasn't a red flag but yet the couple who is saving sex is a red flag come on this was bad advice
+Duffy Dee Yes y'all are feeding my spirit I said the same thing. I was like huh??? I am waiting myself and I been celibate for so long I lost count. It's not right to #shame people for keeping themselves til marriage. People who sleep around are sometimes quick to shout " don't judge me" or " it's my body" . But yet they are quick to wag the finger and make fun of people who keep themselves I never understood the hypocrisy of it. SMH
+Duffy Dee he doesn't have to be, but it was my first thought and I consider myself a Christian.. and I bet it has crossed Eunice mind whether she admits it or not.. even the most religious men that I know wants to have sex.. my cousin married his wife in a few months because he didn't want to wait too long, his exact words was.. she was the one and I didn't want to fornicate.. so it is normal
@Love 23Amazed That's actually false. I'm religious and I will only have sex after marriage and not before. There are also many more people like that all around.
Steve, man, I love you and I respect you but I'm gonna be real with you. This segment is the most 'off' that you've been since I started watching you. First off, I had a really messy breakup about 6 years ago because I wasn't ready for a relationship. I told myself that I wasn't gonna break any more hearts so I wouldn't date anyone until I was ready. God help me, I've been single and celibate for 4 years straight. Only started a real relationship when I got a job and moved out of my parents house because I finally believe that I'm ready. Then on the subject of sex, I told my lady that I wouldn't want sex until I marry her because before I take a woman's honor, I feel obligated to honor her first. And what greater honor than to make her my wife?
Hallelujah I respect tht and we receive those beautiful words in the mighty name of Jesus! May the lord continue to bless your life and ur future marriage to come in Jesus mighty name amen amen and amen👏
So according to Steve, every man is seeing some woman. Apparently there's no such thing as a guy who enjoys time alone where he can catch up on his personal hobbies or interests. I think that Steve forgot to take his medication this morning.
Yeah I think Steve is a bit off mentally. His logic and matter of fact speaking on things goes beyond being strongly opinionated it's some type of damage at work.
+TheNewRiflemanBob I agree with this, there is also the fact that if you have not found the right woman you aren't going to be with someone. I was single and didn't date for about 3 years and I'm glad I didn't because now I'm with someone who is worth everything to me.
Bruh America is so hypocritical first women complain all guys want is sex but then when a man is trying to build a strong foundation based on love and not sex it’s a problem 🧐🧐 ok was nobody else raised to wait till marriage it saves a whole lot of heartbreak
I agree one thousand percent when did it become a problem to wait and built a foundation on love and respect etc before sex. I guess since its a man all that doesn't mean anything
I Just met a guy that was in Such a relationships of waiting cool But standing next to me he was having a BIG problem IT Will ends UP with cheating anyway
Still tryna wrap my head around this lady telling her that a guy who wants to wait till marriage is a red flag. Should be the biggest green flag you could find😂
Literally almost every woman that goes to steve harvey show talk about men who mistreat them n who are only interested in sex. This woman found an incredible guy who respects her, her kids and her mother so why can't they respect his decision to wait for sex.
@@moongazer9891 It makes a woman feel undesirable, so Brannan told me. Its a moment of emotional venerabilty, so I thought finishing school was priority. Securing financial stability is of great pride to a man, proving to myself that I was enough for the woman I've held so highly.
This is hollywird we are talking about! . Because they all do wrong that don’t make it Wright tho . Every one is doing wrong having sex the day after he started seeing someone or they can do it one night stand.that is not make it Wright . They are crazy people u can’t come to them for relationship advice.
Maybe he just wants to wait till he is married to have sex and he sees sex as something sacred between a husband and wife. Why didn't anyone think about that ?!
Sexual urges in men can be strong. I admire a man who does not force or pressure a woman to deal with his sex problems. Takes more balls to wait than to try to get sex from anything that moves.
In all likelihood the guy is an asexual. For them, sex does nothing. They are likely to get as much pleasure from it as they do from cutting their fingernails. Just like psychopaths are born without the ability to feel emotions, asexuals are born without the ability to be sexually aroused or have sexual desires. Relationships with asexuals are very stressful for non-asexual partners. Asexuality has only recently been clinically recognized and is believed to represent up to 1% of the population. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality
He is a geek/gamer. I am too. He actually wasn't having sex. He isn't your "typical" man. Even now, he isn't hounding me for sex all the time. I'm hounding HIM most of the time LOL. He only had sex with 1 other woman besides me, and we've been married for 11 years now. He grew up very sheltered, in a super religious household. Sex isn't on his list of top priorities. He is focused on work, outdoor activities, and gaming. Now the kids and I are added in there too. He doesn't even hang out with anyone. We're both very introverted, and have no desire to have a ton of friends. Most people would think that we are boring, but I don't care.
No sex is not a red flag ! My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years and we haven't had sex. We want to wait till we get married and there is nothing wrong with that. We are building a strong bound and great memories without sex. Disapointed in both answers :/
yes but it sounds like your bf at least let you know that it's going to happen in the future. sounds like hers is saying wait and she has no idea if he ever will.
+Rosedale1 I don't beleive that "no sex" is a red flag in a relationship. I think that the advice that was given was inaccurate. There should be a conversation between the two of them about the subject. What is he is a Christain and has morale values that he chooses not to have sex before marriage? I really expected for Steve, being a Christian to speak to this, but sometimes even we as Christians can get soo caught up in what society dictates as right and wrong that we fail to uphold our Christian values.
I think that he probably is looking at the fact that this woman had children from a previous relationship and it didn't end up well and because this woman has children he is probably a Christian guy trying to treat her like a lady and exhibiting Christ like behavior by waiting for sex he could be waiting for marriage you never know.
“Are you exclusive? Have you made that agreement? ” Man, I’m 25 and I didn’t know there’s something like exclusive dating. I just thought that when dating, loyalty is tacit already. After all, when they want you, then they want you and only you. Love shouldn’t be that complicated.
Exclusive dating means you’ve made it official that you’re bf/gf. If you haven’t, then you can’t expect someone to be loyal. That would be based on what? That’s why it’s important to not get caught up and define the relationship before you start investing in it and doing couple stuff.
Some males do date multiple females and will not let you know, this is why the question of “are you exclusive “ needs to be asked. My dating experience this has happened i assumed just as you said above, i was completely wrong. Therefore wasted energy, time, love etc on someone dating, seeing, being with other females. I was 1 of many. I left of course once i found out.
+falconfan1990 It is a problem because he hasn't given religious beliefs as his reason for not having sex. His vague response -- especially considering that most men are pretty upfront in their desire to have sex with a woman -- is the red flag. It would be perfectly acceptable if he said "I don't believe in having premarital sex." But he's just being very strange.
+The Effortless Naturalista Eunice's description of her man was vague its not enough for you to conclude that her partner did not give her religious beliefs as his reason for not putting out. Secondly you mentioned "especially considering that most men are pretty upfront in their desire to have sex with a woman". Maybe just maybe he is not most men.....
@MadDilla ATCQstarr what does bad boys have to do with the fact that most guys over 25 r seeing a woman and not single? As for the other lady she needs to see y he doesn't want to touch her or stay over after 2 yrs. (unless he's religious)
@MadDilla ATCQstarr read it again..... Ive never changed my stance from saying most guys over 25 r seeing a woman and arent single (at least in my area of the world)
Wow! Steve's advice on this is so shallow and really disappointing. For starters he said "men don't have me time" and went on to say that a man is "always seeing somebody". I've never heard a more untrue statement. I have friends who have done this. People that are mostly spiritual and I've done it myself. When I've wanted to achieve something, my time was often limited. To the point where I only had one free day a week. That was my day of rest. Sometimes a relationship can be a distraction. It also takes a lot of energy, time and money. Secondly, the guy who's waited 2 years doesn't necessarily have something wrong with him. I once abstained for that long. Again it's perfectly normal for the spiritual person to do so. It's really disappointing that Steve and Sanaa fail to look at life from a different perspective. Something that any good counselor must be able to do.
Which why I didn't fully agree with his "Think Like a Man" book. My present boyfriend was single for almost a year before we met & I was for two (celibate). It was a cleansing period. Both sound shallow & close minded. I appreciate your candor about this. When I saw it on the actual show, I was very disgusted. Sad. Poor advice & unfair. Steve has been married 3 times & Sanaa none, just a thought.
***** I pray in the future they try to say, " For me & what I've experienced, not speaking for all..." I thought their statements were sadly general & very one-sided. It is always up to those to choose whether to accept the advice, not all advice is good advice.
Steve gave lousy advice. Men who have a plan always have 'me' time and retro speck. At 22, there is no law that you are always seeing someone, what the hell?
I don't think he is . She did not mentioned is because of his faith. It's not a red flag to me, but it's a concern. She said that he never says overnight. I'm hearing a need here. Remember she has kids. So, she knows what's up. She needs to have a conversation with him about their future together.
But She is already has kids, so doesn't make sense this man do this. He must understanding people in the past wait, 'cause they marry so soon, they used to marry with 17 and 18. different situation !
I think Steve & Sanaa are making the mistake of dismissing that some men practice abstaining from pre marital sex. I was a virgin until I got married, am I strange ? & I dated beautiful women & had make out sessions but sexual intercourse was something said no to. Society makes the mistake judging people by the same expectations .
@@anubisgod23 studies show more sexual partners you have more likely ur marriage fails. More likely that fails more likely children live in single parent or divorced households which statisically show more adverse effects if both parents were together. Which means people are just being borned disadvamtage at mass. Also the destruction of the family has been heavily linked to psychological and loneliness problems with people. So yh.... it has beeen proven to have negative effects :p
@@jordanjones3850 none of that is true, like at all. Going into marriage as a virgin gives your chances of divorce a big boost compared to if you've slept with one or t two people prior. Most importantly the person you marry. Sexual compatibility is believed to be more important to an relationships than religious ideology.
at least you know 100 percent he is desease free lol...the one thing i dont understand about such a pro promiscuous society is there inability to care about the hazards. "oh this person does not want to increase their chance of an std oh my god what a loser!" like wtf with that logic? Why people who don't want sex all the time are looked down on is a mystery to me. condoms are not 100 percent effective also which is advertised so the more you do the more likely you become that one percent to get someone pregnant or get infected.
I am afraid that the girl is about to lose this wonderful guy who adore, care, and respect her because of her sex demand. I respect her need; that is natural but abstinence until marriage is golden gift from God. Most men doesn't have this courage. That man is a real man.
She said, He said that he believes a relationship shouldn't be based on sex, he did not give sex after marriage as his reason. If that's not the reason , then I think it's a red flag, because after 2 years he should know her well enough ,after that time ,how could the relationship be based on sex when they weren't having any for 2 years
Ro Ka He doesn't see her as a girlfriend only a friend the reason stated by the show are extreme even though they might be likely. Mental issues are more likely to be the reason e.g. when I was unemployed I didn't date or talk to women etc I was stressed and depressed had low confidence self esteem and low energy which makes you puruse less as you are broke and look at things more objectively.
Why would he have sex with her with her 2 kids (who aren't his) are nearby and can bust in at anytime? She should be grateful he's still around! Because everyone knows a single should never get involved with a single mother. If a mother is single, there must be a REASON.
The mother of a failed relationship with 2 kids is complaining that her guy is not banging her and making a bad example for her kids and risking another kid. After 2 years, she should know the exact reason of no sex.
My ex probably thought the same about me, I'm such an amazing guy, very respectful, tall, funny, nd handsome but I suffer from a condition called peyronie's disease, which makes sex almost impossible, nd it's just so sad to hear bc you can be the most amazing person ever nd still not ever be enough not even if you have a career or being successful 😥 I just hope one day I find happiness
Sorry to hear your story bro, but there is hope. God's word can correct that situation. God's Word is so powerful, it created everything, visible and invisible. All you have to do is believe it. BELIEVE IT!! And it will make you whole again. If you believe it, you can contact me so we could take it further.
In hindsight, I ve learned the same thing. We’ve learned a lot about him in the past year. Little ms thottie Lori is big time proof in the puddin’. He’s only been making a buck out of us women trying to figure it out
@@sdw86 It's really good that you see the truth. The truth is the only thing that lasts. Get in your feminine role and the masculine has its place to the feminine. It's a big step towards fruitful results. #WS
There is nothing wrong with building a solid foundation first. Because he doesn't sleep with you doesn't mean that it's a red flag. Come on. There are still some people out there who believe in marriage then sex. And, there is nothing wrong with that.
that is the problem these days many people are promiscuous..there was a time that sex before marriage was frowned upon for a good reason because look at what is happening now..marriages breaking apart people cheating allover the place since sex has become easier to get than a good realtionship...so when women find a good man who believes in no sex b4 marriage he looks like an alien to them since most have been used to being used .
Maybe his foundation is too soft. Hope he can hardened it, so it get solid of. Who says the woman doesn't have a need, that's we have deputies to fill the cracks
She also asked about the reason 🙄 i would question a woman too and think that the person doesn’t really like you unless they are celibate or waiting for marriage
I am a male i havent dated or had sex in past 30yrs its not that i dont have the urge but i just dont have the confidence and technique to chat a girl up By the way i am a NHS doctor living in UK But all this make me realize i am not alone or crazy i mean theres more like me
NEWS FLASH: Believe it or not, there ARE men out there who are trying to be righteous and holy and trying to obstain (Not all of us are successful but there are many that try to make an honest effort). Steve Harvey is a good guy and all but he is NOT a relationship expert and I can't believe that women are taking what he is saying about relationships as the GOSPEL. There are some things he says that are true but also MANY that arent regarding men and relationships and also not Biblical.
100% I'm even more confused that Steve would make these statements since he identifies as Christian. I would have thought that he'd mention the possibility of that man being a Christian himself.
That's exactly what I'm talking about!... perhaps the best answer on here!?... but Steve can't give anyone relationship advice...sex is reserved for the married. People can play house if they want to!?... but that's sin!
What guy is not seeing anyone? *raises hand * Um, me. Been single for like 8 years. No sex, no dating, etc On next one, is he one of the rare people who waits for marriage before sex? Sad they didn't even think to ask that.
I really think it's sad how Steve refuses to believe that there isn't any man who's fine with not dating sometimes. When he said men don't say "I'm trying to get myself together right now" . . . the fact so many of them don't is part of the problem.
thank you i mean dang do we promote having sex before marriage. he probably wants to wait until hes married. men like him are hard to come by because instead of getting to know whats in your panties he wants to know about you and who you are. i think that's beautiful.
I was watching "Sex Education" series and I learned on a episode that if someone doesn't want to have sex that could mean that he/she may have something traumatic or euphorbia towards sex.
Default Email Don't freak out. Sometimes society's attitude is that being with someone is the everything. I know I am an older woman who is not with anyone . If you want a relationship don't be afraid to ask someone even if it means getting rejected trust me you will not implode upon rejection. Sex should not Be the main attraction. Enjoying the company of a like minded individual is good. You don't have to be soulmates to have fun together. Watching a movie, riding a bike whatever. Shared interests doesn't make a romance but it does teach you how be yourself around others. Accepting yourself and being aware of your standards makes life a lot easier .
Getting advice from a single woman and a man who has been married SEVERAL times. I hope these ladies didn't take it serious because it was terrible advice.
The problem is...she probably would've mentioned that if it was the case, which would've brought out a different reaction Steve and Sanaa. That would've made it make more sense. I think someone who practices no sex before marriage is very strong-willed and it's amazing that they're able to do it, having said that, in our modern society, hardly ANYONE does that and for a man to go years comfortably without sex and has an attractive partner and it doesn't even come up would make me raise an eyebrow as well. p.s. fornication = sex before marriage adultery = sex with someone else while you're married
I know some women have been engaged for more than two years and of course no sex .. So whats wrong with this .. And if he is a good guy and following the roll of GOD he is a good one and maybe he's waiting till when he marry her .
Um I partially disagree. I mean if both parties don't wanna have sex before marriage then it's fine. But if one wants to make a move and have sex but the other person doesn't show signs then it's a problem. Like unice maybe just wants to be assured if he will have sex with her. I mean she said he's old fashion after all. Which means sex is for conception in the minds of old fashioned people. But I feel like unice needs to get married quick and stop waiting for that douche to drop his pants and bang her. She needs a BBC to be honest.
2 Years without making love to your partner could be considered a red flag to one or the other. Like Sannan said " He sounds like an amazing man which is very hard to come by, but do you want to spend the rest of your life as a beautiful sexy woman with a man who does not make love to you"
To be honest i was single for about 2 years before i met my recent girlfriend.If i break up with a girl i like to be single for awhile before i get back into a relationship. I don't get people who go from 1 relationship to another straight after a breakup
jeviam I agree. You can't go around jumping from 1 person to the other. It's unhealthy and when would you ever have time to learn from and work on you as a person. Quiet time is quality time
jeviam some people are just not strong enough to be alone. They always need some type of validation from someone. I've been single for 3 years and I feel happy. I don't need a relationship I prefer alone.
Hell nah wtf married life is pg13 and boring. After a baby its survival mode and the focus is not even on the relationship. Wish someone would have told me that after a baby you lose sensation, i wouldve been hoeing for life. Its not all white and satisfying
I'm that guy. I needed time to get myself together because after being cheated on, I need to trust myself and love myself. Without this time for yourself you go into risky behavior. So I took time to myself so i can be ready to give myself to the right woman.
I hope Eunice didn’t follow their advice. Contrary to popular belief, not every man is a horn dog. If this was the other way around and it was a man demanding sex as an ultimatum, they’d be calling him all types of names
They don't have a problem with him not wanting to sleep with her, it's the two years that's the question. A lot of people are engaged or even married within two years of dating.
I agree with you. It's a double standard. What if he is just practicing celibacy because of religious faith. When a man demands sex oh he just wants one thing. But when he waits to have it till he's ready oh it's a red flag.... That lady thirsty.
@Diego87 my thoughts exactly. And I hate when they try to project their beliefs on others. Nowadays I find it so rare that ppl fall in love without physical acts like sex. Again, nothing is wrong with sex like you said and in retrospect, nothing should be wrong if someone chose to abstain
My guess is because that could mean they are having sex with someone else. That's why its a red flag. And of course that could mean they are just highly religious too.
me.. sitting here single for a year and a half without dating games because i'm working on myself so i'm worth something... Steve: "Guys don't do that! lol who does that?" Bruh, those of us who are growing up.
my husband and I were together, before marriage, for 6 years, no sex with each other or anyone. that was not accurate advice. yes we all have our deal breakers but don't miss out on a potentially awesome relationship by using sex to gauge his love and concern. you're not married.
Son-of Black-King goal? no goal. I was responding to ur reply to my comment. you said you don't believe me. it's understandable that you dont. it goes against the mainstream ideal. that it all
Laddy Gibbions Abstinent as well. I met someone two weeks ago and he's already pressing me for sex! He believes sex should come before committing & told me I'm living in the 60s with unrealistic ideals. Smh.
newbeauty80 that's what usually happens it's called 3 dates rule. I don't think that you want to wait for 2 years, so what is your time period before it happens
Not a red flag to abstain until you are fully committed! But by 2 years we should already know where the relationship is going. She has every right to know. So does he. Communication is key.
Eunice said one important thing that proves she's not paying attention to her man...she said he's VERY old fashioned. If he is that old fashioned, then he probably won't be intimate with her until they're married. That was a total 'no duh' kind of moment for me.
The Moonlit Quill" that was a 'no duh' moment for me". . Not for me he's a grown man & if that's what he's waiting for than he should have courage to be upfront & honest about it so she knows what she's getting into. How can you be with someone for two years and not let them in on the fact that your waiting for marriage to have sex...come on that's not the reason
Killy Florris yeah that's because you're seeing your right hand a little too much! you got someone who likes you & you just may not be feeling them BUT you got someone's attention!
mzHipHop there are other reasons: I could say maybe they're on their way to their career and the last thing they need is a distraction from a relationship, I could say maybe he doesn't want to see anyone else right now because he probably gone through something traumatic and doesn't want anyone trying to help because he feel it'll make it worse. I mean there are other reasons.
Sometimes people just need a hiatus from relationships. They can be like riding an emotional roller coaster at times. When they’re good, they’re good. But when they’re bad, they are REALLY bad. Some people aren’t as adept at compartmentalizing their emotions, so it can feed over into your professional life if you’re not careful. You have to be careful to make sure you begin a relationship with the right person (for you) and it has to be at the right time. Sometimes just focusing on your personal growth and your career is exactly what you need. Nothing wrong with that.
did these people ever think maybe he is saving himself until marriage, sex isn't everything and maybe he just respects her and himself and God enough to wait on the Lord so what if they haven't had sex, he loves her.
ive been with a few men who were virgins and wouldnt have sex with me as they were waiting for the right one and I respect that. My ex husband stayed celibate for 12 years before marrying me for the same reason as the other men. My current husband didnt have sex in ten years before me. Some men just have good morals and walk with the Lord. I hope she didnt say goodbye to that good man without laying it straight on the table as to whats going on.. but yeah by two years he should know wether she is the one or not and either cut her loose or commit
after my bm and I split up I decided to work on myself for a while realizing my part in the failure of the relationship(we both played a part in the failed relationship). Not every man will always be seeing someone. You attract what you are, so if you want a better woman then you have to work on yourself and become a better man.
I am so disappointed in Steve Harvey's answers, he has given decent advice in the past but I am now wondering how genuine they were. What is wrong with not wanting sex before marriage especially as a man??
