NO WIN: Narcissist Sees Himself in You (Projective Resonance) 

Yep. They appear all charming and the next minute, hour, day or week, they go back to their usual self. Never fails.

Same. Completely blindsided by it.

That means you're a narcissist magnet

Yes

Absolutely. Damned if you do damned if you don’t

Seeing this video and comments like this makes me feel both sick and relieved. To know that this disorder is real and affects many people on the planet is one of the only thoughts that helped propel me out of the constant shame, guilt, and confusion. The constant circles of obsessive thoughts that tell you “Nope, you’re actually just a deeply hateable and wrong, ugly, bad person.” Knowing that it is not just my brain, that what they have done is real and based in evidence and years of research, is a godsend in its own way. It’s just like being turned upside down, and you can’t make heads or tails of whether you’re to blame for everything until you’re completely removed from the situation.

@@jeannem3874I can relate. That confusion and obsession is real.

There is no point in clinging at a solution, mediation or diplomacy- any exchange whatsoever with these people will be utterly parasitic, because someone so much as paying attention to them, whether positive or negative will always fuel their hunger

Getting pregnant had nothing to do with your decisions as well? I can never imagine describing getting pregnant as something that was done to me unless it is describing a criminal act.

@@sloftyremember woman love to call everyone else a narcissist while deep down they are the true narcissist

@@MrHDProd why are you even on this channel? A channel made to educate victims so they can heal and overcome this specific type of abuse. Your comment screams poor social skills and low emotional intelligence.

@@sloftydid you not read where she said “terrible decisions” meaning she’s aware she played a role in the decision? Although being manipulated by definition tampers with your freewill so you’re not making an informed decision. Read to comprehend instead of just respond

I’m so sorry you experienced this😢 It’s devastating how evil and manipulative these people can actually be. I hope you’re able to fully recover and find peace from here forward

Same.

Im so sorry for what you’ve been through and I hope you’re doing better and doing all that you need to to heal.

I experienced the same thing.

😊😊😊😊

Same story, I've used different words trying to explain it. My father is still actively destroying everything good on my life... I'm on the run... Nobody understands or believes... Therefore no help, no support... I keep trying to explain I won't make it... I won't last this way... Health deteriorating & scheduled to get an MRI... FUKIN KILLING ME AND GETTING AWAY WITH IT 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

No Contact.

It's a calculating energy transfer /Game

Different levels/different devils and a lesson from the blessings

Stay strong.It,s better for you to be alone,cleaning other people,s houses if necessary,but regain yourself again,than be diying silently inside .Trust me, the feeling of relief and liberation is beyond words.Sending you my strength and support.Cut him off.Hope is our worst enemy.They are beyond help or hope.

I am in the same situation. Sending you hug 🤗🌷

I’m in the same situation. Married almost 35 yrs.

scary how mental illness people mind control other people with lies.

I disagree. If that so, then there’s narcissism on both sides. Non narcissistic and non-codependent people see people for who they are, for what they’ve been shown from them, while the narcissist is making a lot of efforts during that same time to hide themselves, to manipulate their image the way they want it to be, to be perceived much positively, agreeable and trustworthy than they actually are. Once you’re married, aka ‘you’re done, you’re going nowhere, you’re his for 125y’. Gets only worst at each kid. After the 2nd or 3rd, he becomes his full self, but for everyone around “oh.. it’s just a phase”, “he’s stressed, since the last baby”, and “Calm down! Nobody gets divorced over a phase”, so you’d be an incredible AH to leave him like this, and painted as the monster to your kids. Being fragilized, it only gets easier and easier for the manipulator to control you, and destroy you if need be. All this time he’s been playing a game, he’s planted seeds all those years, and it’s harvesting time the second he needs it to get what he wants. Having your sense of reality completely shattered like this for someone who’s well connected to reality is forcing them into insanity. It should be illegal. You wake up one morning not knowing who you even are, not knowing where has gone the person you know you once were. If it “goes both ways”, then there’s same toxicity on both sides.

Thanks for your hard work at this topic.

😂😂😂😂 I can’t with them! Whatever you do is wrong

@@AllergictoIdiots-gd9ev Não tem jeito! Corram para as montanhas!

Yup! Exactly like this!

😂 this is the best knock knock joke ever

Search the channel for "uncanny".

Thank you Sam.

Search the channel.

​@@samvakninThis is answer to every question. There's literally no topic or angle you haven't covered , no stone unturned. At this point when I read questions I already immediately remember multiple vids on subject.

they are fake , the jealous , envious not an ounce of moral ethical behaviour 8n the8r D N A . if its a man find out if he loves his mother , if not run for your life , because he is a qualified 1st rate misogynist. , & u cannot change them & anyway why d8 u want to take on such a futile project , people don't change , people reveal themselves , either they learn through philosophy how to be better people , or they never look further than what they can grab 100% of the time for their greedy inflated self.

@richardander..... In the interests of absolute clarity - Are you referring to a current or former significant other of yours or Dr Sam ?

Watch the shared fantasy playlist.

Search the channel.

Watch the NA Healing playlist.

@@samvaknin P.S. I love how you tell us to "get a grip." Self agency/efficacy has been the most healing method for me.

No.

Why not pls?. Much too far deep rooted?

Yes. Narcissistic style. Search the Mind playlist.

Yes, the Narcissist acts Borderline. It's obvious but society has brainwashed us to only think the borderline as being female and histrionic. Not true. I've run into way more borderline acting narcissistic males than females. We live in a clown world ... everything we've learned is wrong.

Can develop emotional dysregulation, like BPD.

Hide?

​@@samvaknin 4:35 you said the victim and narcissist have experienced similar traumas and can recognize each other in seconds so the question is how to avoid this recognition

Search the From Child to Narcissist playlist and search the channel for "gene".

Where did you get this strange idea from? All human being cathect, narcissists or not.

Only childhood abuse and trauma (ACEs).

The True Self is dead. But people delude themselves into believing that they are interacting with the narcissist's "inner child". It is a dangerous delusion.

@@samvaknin Thank you, seen a Narcissist in a helpless and utterly powerless state after being fired and humiliated. He wasn't able to decide or do anything useful for 2 days and then turned against his family who tried to help him.

Sounds like a borderline.