I just said that to myself, like this ain't knowledge lol. You make her have to go through 10 years of KNOWING YOU DOING WRONG and when she done, you FOR ONCE feel ALL the ish you put her through lmbo. Men need to grow up and be HONEST with what you want in your life and how you want to live. Women are WWWAAAAYYYYYY MORE honest with what you want from a man and in a relationship NOW and in the future and the feel it. Most men say what they want in the future with fake real feeling in the now... meaning....... it's truly said with genuine feeling in that moment while that butterfly feeling is there (y'all know what feeling in talking about lol) BBBUUUUTTTT asssss soon as it sorta becomes normal. Dumb shit starts lmbo. Fix yo shit and truly communicate all your thoughts and feelings in real time to your partner so they understand you better and to people in general. Like why we even going through dumb shit, talk my nigga. We say everything else but what we really feeling and thinking. Make it make sense lol 😆 🤣 😂 how is this behavior of the self proclaimed smartest species on the planet. We can think to say everything else but the OPEN. HONEST. TRUTH. #bruh
These are facts. I spent 5 years out of a 10 year marriage communicating my minimal needs to my husband (date night once a month/keep your mom out of our marriage/remember my birthday/ be affectionate) He wouldn’t budge. FIVE YEARS. I left, he lost his mind. Literally acted like he had no idea why. Happily married again now. Have never looked back. P.s. I cooked, cleaned, kept fit and waited on that man hand and foot. I was frugal as well. He didn’t get it until I was gone.
Preach f these fools in the comments 😅 They still won't take accountability for losing the love of their life. That's why you always hear men telling stories about the one who got away....yet I haven't heard a girl tell that story about no boy.😅
When someone tells you that you don't want to be married to them or you're not the person that they would like to be married to is pretty much over at that point but if you love them there's always hope...
@@ericprater8335 No there isn't. Love is verb, an action word. If a man loves a woman, he wouldn't give one man a chance to steal her away. He's entertaining other options and he don't want her to leave his ass before he lands the one he really wants
Riggggght I’ve had men look me dead in the eye talkin bout “you’re so COLD”. Man please after everything you put me through? You’re lucky I even act like you exist.
That was me...married for 18 years. And when I didn't cry, I knew I was done. I even asked him for an open marriage. Needless to say he was shocked and appalled and said he couldn't do that so I said ok and have been divorced now almost 10 years.
When he says enemy in this context, he is meaning we WON'T give energy at all. Most don't give energy to their enemies. So what he's stated in this context is truthful.
I will tell you what a relationship therapist told me ..when a women is done and she leaves her partner...the reason that you cannot win her back is because she has already mourned the loss of the relationship ,made her peace with it and moved on ..THEN thats when she leaves ..not only is the man blindsided but he stands NO CHANCE of getting her back because there is no longer any feelings left towards him left. What gets me is WHY why do guys think that we will always stay and take their crap?
@@merotygi1213 Heck yeah, Mel. And Jewel's reply doesn't even belong in these comments bcuz dude in the vid is talking about how men mess up. Not about us messing up
That quote had zero to do with this clip....and that's not even what she said 🤣🤣🤣 it was "never make a man tell you he doesn't want you more than once"...
When we have emotionally checked out, when we no longer care, it’s over. And usually that’s when they start to “care” and want to “change.” But they don’t care. It’s their ego that’s talking.
💯. You can't trust your enemy so if she can't trust you and you wasted her valuable time then you disrespectful of her so: Disrespectful + Untrustworthy = Enemy. Simple. Strangers are treated better cause they haven't proven to be enemies yet. 🙄 Duh....
When people show you who they really are, believe them! No second chances because when you give them a second chance, a third chance, a fourth chance etc, you are telling them that you are okay with their horrible behavior. And the behavior gets worse and worse! Pick yourself off the floor people and stop being a doormat! Protect your peace, keep your legs closed and stay single. Stop breaking your own heart!
I left when I was told he say I know he cheats an if I want to cheat I can cheat because I never leaving him, after all I caught him 3x in 3weeks with 3 different chicken head each time 😆🤣😂😹😆🤣😂😹😆🤣is he OK 😆🤣😂😹😆who does that but he didn't expect it to come bk to me word for word an the stranger he say that to is a person who knows me since we was kids SMH #17years....single one year an one month now
@@awatifhassan9365 my ex told me. “I have you wrapped around my fingers. You’re not going nowhere”. As soon as he went to jail I blocked him and moved to another city so he won’t find me. I changed the kids last name so he won’t trace us
When we truly get to that Breaking point -- Bam! It's a done deal. Out of here, goodbye, good riddance, don't wanna see/ know you anymore. Especially the woman who do not have low self esteem.
Here's a bit of advice. Each time she gives you a chance, a piece of her heart closes. Also each time she tells you, the intensity of her voice changes. Then finally she becomes quiet and then she leaves.
Most women need drama .. a real man don’t need chances .. we need to be understood… if not let another chump deal with that.. I got real shit things to do..
My ex husband messed around & found this out. 25 yrs later he’s STILL reminiscing on how much I loved & cared for him but not about how poorly he treated me.
Yep! I left my husband after 32 years marriage. I’m a good woman , wife and mother but he put his hands on me for the last time , I left this past September. And I feel delivered and peace . I was healed a long time ago , just waiting on God and I booked . Done!
What happens is, we begin to lose respect, unfortunately once that happens all feelings are gone and we’re all the way done. It was starting to happen with me towards my husband 10 yrs ago, I was about to give up, thank God our Pastor stepped in and talked with him. He got it together, We will be celebrating 39 years of marriage.
She's giving you chances because she loves you and she's fighting for the relationship but once she gets tired it's a wrap. And one thing about it she's going to move on in your face because a woman don't need to hide and sneak.
I agree. no matter what what that man does..he can do everything right...but once that woman has made her mind up that she's done..it's over. I'm a man & I know this.
@@Ronnadie As it should be because a woman will come to you with the issue but majority of men don't like to have conversations sometimes that's all it takes for you to hear what she's saying, understand, and come to a solution. 9 out of 10 the problem is always about cheating/ disrespect.
The man that callously takes advantage of the heart of a woman and then attempts to discard her like trash IS an enemy. She simply learned to treat him accordingly.
My uncle used to say " as long as she's crying and fighting with you you're good but the moment she's not fighting and crying and everything is okay...you're done"
And men then say we used them and are heartless or someone else better came along. When in reality, the woman is just tired and has nothing left to give you. … we often are seen moving on with someone else after the relationship ends because the new relationship requires less heartache and we can be at peace and feel safe.
100% correct. I went through hell and back with my ex. I gave him a million and one chances. Hell, I gave him two million and one chances! I went through, and took SO MUCH MORE than ANY woman would have stuck by any man through. And one day he says to me, "you'll stay with me no matter what I do". I stopped arguing. I nodded and told him, "I got you" and stepped out of the room. It was obvious that there was nothing left to say and nothing worth fighting for, anymore. That was over a year ago. Guess who didn't stay..
I don’t think it’s because she’s “stopped loving you”, it’s more so because she’s realised you’re no longer deserving of her love… it’ll never be the same.
Never has a truer word been spoken. After allowing myself to be manipulated for off &on 6 years (Because I fell in love with his potential) I prayed for strength and the courage to break the soul tie and take back my dignity and self worth and live for me. I’m happier, not stressed living for the Lord. Time heals all wound IF you do the work to heal the hurt in YOU. 3yrs single celibate and focused on God and what He has planned for the rest of my life. I love this channel. ❤God bless
My then-husband pushed relentlessly & admitted if I treated him like he did me, he would've left . Toward the end he defensively claimed, "Ive changed". I calmly replied, "So have I". Shortly thereafter I left him. Done.
I changed my number and moved.i always wonder about the look on his face when the call didnt go through, when he drove by and saw my car was gone and the place was empty. I heard from friends he was looking and asking. I learned to take care of my self first, i do still miss him though.
this is true. my partner before my husband said, "How can you be so cold?" when I finally walked away. I said because I spent six years falling out of love with you, and you didn't even notice or care. I was done.
Yep, I did 7 yrs of waiting and hoping I was "the one." I finally got tired of wondering and asked, "Where's our relationship going?" Well, I was told something like, "I am not sure I can live like this. " Wtf was I thinking. Well, that was ALL I needed to know. I went in to shock and severed my ties. There was no begging or pleading that could sway me otherwise. Well, I found a good man, and we are living our best lives. I wish my ex-bf the best and hope he treats his next better than I was treated. Ladies ... move on!
That's what happened to my little brother. Him and his wife were married for 18 years I think she fell out of love with him 10 years ago. And he didn't even know it🤐😬
Mentally I'd left my first husband 2 years before I actually packed up and went back to my mum's. After that I shut down when it came to him. He was an emotionally abusive bully and deserved my silence. He had 9 years out of me. Fast forward 22 years later, I had a relationship with a friend, who was always late, hard to make plans with, and I mean even to gonout for a drink., 8 weeks later I dropped him by text ,stooped answering his calls and then it hit me, that I love, respect and honour myself too much to put up with that kind of foolish behaviour.
It’s best for any man that I stop respecting to depart from me . The amount of disgust that incubates in the pit of my throat ready to latch onto his audacity activates
It doesn't happen overnight. Emotions slowly start to shut down until that day you just feel numb towards that person. No hate. No love. Just numbness towards you like they're a stranger on the street. Can't even try to fake it, once the love dies, it's over 💔
@@Ninikyu95Yes!!! Everything he did made me feel like John Wick did when they hurt his puppy..lol... I would have never had put hands on him but wanted to scratch his eyes out several times a day
Perfect description of what happens. And they seem oblivious to what is happening, they are usually so self absorbed and are shocked when you "all of a sudden" walk out.
If she leaves, she leaves! Obviously yall were better off apart! We gotta stop giving ppl so much power & authority over our lives! Life goes on & so should you😎
I raised my daughter to leave when he fks up the first time. It's not her job to raise a male to be mature or build him up or breathe life into him. The first time he fks up or disrespects you LEAVE and don't look back, NEVER settle and since she been living by this she hasn't deal with struggle love and I love this for my baby
Yes you taught her right, Why do so many women think they should stay through all the BS!! Think about it, men would not stay around to allow you to drag them through the mud.
I love this for the both of you. You know how heartbreaking it would be to watch the daughter’s you’ve nurtured and loved since birth get broken over and over again by someone undeserving of their love.? My worst nightmare.
10 months before I left, I started getting used to not talking to the person, getting used to seeing him with another woman, being comfortable on the days we didn't speak, detaching my heart, calling myself single and being okay with that. The day when I left was just a formality, I had already left.
Your story is my story. I already visualized my exit. All I had to do was execute it. I wasn't angry nor hurt. I was just DONE. There is so much Peace on the other side of the door.
Lol! Confirmation Brother! When he kept trying me, I tried to be patient! But, now, he thinks he can have our Children change my mind! THAT'S NO OOT, GOING TO HAPPEN. TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN, I'M BUSY! 😊😊😊
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Yup!!! I was always the type to cut ppl off after the 1st time and ppl used to try to shame me for it saying I need to be more forgiving and understanding.. Those are the same ppl who went through so many toxic relationships and now talking about being single and happy.. Meanwhile I found my soulmate and happily engaged .. I refused to waste my years with ppl who show me who they are the first time just to end up 40 yrs old, with numerous failed relationships.. I never stopped believing in love and put myself first and I don’t regret any of it..
You describe my entire divorce. I gave him 10 years and he couldn’t get it right. Once I let him go, God said, just trust me. Ever since then I have been blessed.
On purpose, like he said. Men know. They enjoy seeing you hurt, cause they think they're smarter than women. Until they feel dumb after you're gone and Happy without them.
I taught my sons and their friends, "If you cause a woman to become numb to you, there is nothing you can say or do to change that she's done!". Respect, loyalty and time go a long way.
@E CM As a mother, I give knowledge nuggets from a woman perspective! My children are adults now, and my husband (their father) and I raised our children together before he passed away. One thing you should learn is that children receive lessons from their mother and father! A balance of both perspectives is needed for a full understanding of life and interactions between men and women!
@Stephanie L Cowart I agree. If a child can receive any advice, lessons, wholesome words, and encouragement from anyone, it is good. Some people assume fathers are absent when advice comes from a mom/woman.
I also taught my sons what the male relatives in my family were taught,every woman has her own limits,standards & boundaries so make sure you learn the woman you have"..Not all of us want to be"loved on" constantly & we don't want a man in our face every day.Ask what our standards,boundaries etc are then act accordingly.
@@ladyoflove60 What’s funny is women are the same, no matter the culture. The only difference is what their threshold is. The American $ simply stretches more in certain countries, so they are considered “wealthy” by that country’s standards. “Rich” men get away with more, no matter the culture.
Thats so true......I'm done and gone. I left all those years behind me no more memories no more heartache 💔. Its a beautiful feeling to know you're completely healed 😊 I'm colder 🥶 than an iceberg!!!
My advice to All young women, Don't give them chances to keep hurting you, if it happens and you address it and they keep doing it, get gone. They know what they are doing and will keep doing it until you get to the breaking point, Break out. Don't look back.
Facts. My ex’s wonder why I block them and don’t look back. If someone took your heart and tore it to shreds why the Hell would you EVER give them the time of day ever again? Why hurt yourself over some chump? Exactly. Act right and you get treated right.
In reality she's just giving back the same energy that was given to her. But when the guy is on the receiving end he treats it like it such a tragedy and how could she do this to me.
Those feelings need to detached or disconnected from that toxic love/relationship, and connected to a real/faithful love(GOD), then you never give up on Love, and just live your life in forgiveness and understanding, and hope everything else follow
“You’ve got to learn to leave the table when love is no longer being served.” -Nina Simone Cold, but breaking inside. Switch flipped. Some of y’all don’t really want what you tell us you want, and you show that. Until you’re watching us walk away…
YESSSSS! Wow, I just said similar in response to your post about a man not fumbling a woman. So it bears, repeating, “I hope the man who hear you are listening real good. You will help them tremendously if they listen. When that “good woman” you are speaking of has finally decided that she is done; it doesn’t matter how many times they try to come back. It’s not going to happen.” even if we still love you, once we decide we’re not tolerating foolishness anymore that becomes the priority, loving unconditionally.
Those ten years DID mean something to her. They meant a whole lot of pain, hurt, betrayal, lies, disappointments. For the man , those tens years meant a whole lot of do overs and “Thanks Babe” and “I promise” etc…
The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. When you've done her so bad and she moves on, your pleas fall on deaf ears because she started detaching from you before she broke up with you.
He literally said those words, you're not going anywhere. Lo and behold I got fed up and I was able to file for divorce once I stopped loving and trusting him due to his infidelities. Long story short, the divorce was finalized January 3rd, 2023. The only thing I regret is that I didn't do it sooner.
I'm happy that you finally did it but I wish all of us women could take that decision sooner...it's our one big flaw... Staying in that mess for too long.
