Oh yeah, as an INTJ mom that was hysterically accurate....especially with letting them wear what they want and lettng their grades be something they learn ownership of...
Keep the INTJ stuff coming, please. What about a video with INTJ bf with INFP gf? Yes? (Or INTJ bf with INF bf - or INTJ gf with INFP gf, gender doesn't really matter)
As an INFJ, this is too relatable. INFJ’s do have that lovey-dovey energy, but we can also be very realistic and judgmental to the point that it’s comical
As an INFJ wife, I've done the "we're having a disagreement, but we can stop the conversation because it's probably something I just need to work on myself" response to my husband many times, lol!
@Flavien I'm an infj and my husband is an intj, and is awesome, thank God when we argue it is something like this, or like a conversation more on detailed about something we are annoyed about, but there is never yelling or making feel the other one bad, just a process of growing for each of us. Making the other see what could need more work in other to be the person God wants him or me be.
I adore you. As an INFJ female, I can say everyone I’ve ever dated has found me to be refreshingly weird. Once I finally embraced my weirdness I became much happier.
'I only have the emotional capacity to watch *insert show/film* for the 3rd time' and skipping over stressful parts is hilariously accurate 😅 I feel so seen 💕
Yessss that was soo relatable it was spooky. 😅 sometimes i watch new shows but look at all the episode descriptions to prepare myself for whats to come if the show is too suspensful/stressful.
literally me if there's too much stress in the movie I'll probably try to distract myself because it just gives me too much anxiety and I can't stay still and that suck for me as a film editor T_T
I love your videos about INFJs. I am an INFJ and I have felt misunderstood my entire life. My family has often shamed me or made me apologize for being an introvert (they think I'm rude or aloof because they are all extroverts on steroids). You actually seem to understand what I am thinking, how I feel, and why I am how I am. I know that I'm "weird" compared to other people, but at the same time people gravitate toward me. Strangers will tell me intimate details about their lives, then confess that they have no idea why they told me their secrets. My family calls me a "freak magnet" and belittles me. I cannot help who I am, nor can I change who I am.
Yo. Please consider setting up a little more distance from folks who are judging you in a hurtful way. You don't need that negativity. My suspicion is that you may be young and think you have to take it. You don't. And you don't have to fight either. Just see them less often, for shorter periods. It may help you to stop reciting their judgements. It may help to practice with friends or strangers how to politely correct assumptions, while not engaging about the mean thing that was just said to you. Good luck.
No te sientas mal, yo también me he dado cuenta que atraigo gente que necesita ser escuchada o comprendida (autistas, síndrome down, personas ansiosas, etc).
I totally relate. My family teases me too but mostly for being absent minded bc I am always thinking so sometimes I feel like I do things on auto pilot so I forget where I put things 😂 I finally found the perfect career as a hairdresser bc people don't get as freaked out that they're telling you their entire life story (trauma dumping lol) bc everyone expects their hairdresser to be a counselor as well. And I really don't mind. When I worked at a grocery store however, it would get real awkward when they'd open up like that in the 2 minutes it took to check them out 😂 Also I'm pretty sure most INFJ are neurodivergent (in the best way)
I am an INFJ Female and this is 100% spot on. I own 10 of the same shirt in 10 color variations of blue and green. My husband teases that as soon as I find a shirt I like I just buy all of them and wear them for 10 years until they are rags and I need to go find all new ones. I love your videos. I binge watch them int he corner of my screen while I work.
SO relateable! I'm wearing the lavender version of a blouse I bought last april! I've got navy blue, light blue, lavender and just bought the deep purple one! ✨
Mine is all white. I didn't know it was a thing until I came across this video. I just thought I have zero fashion sense. But that's probably also true.
I do the same! I was goth in high school, which I loved, but --ain't gonna lie -- there is a part of me that was just happy all of my outfits matched 🤣
I've NTENTIONALLY told myself to add more colour to my wardrobe in last 5 years, but here I am wearing a navy blue top and black pants . I have to be more intentional next time
I alternate between black and navy blue. But recently I've tried to add a little more colour to my wardrobe while somehow still managing to squeeze in something black or navy blue.
Not the "Im upset but it has more to do with me so let me just process it" and the "I don't have the emotional capability to watch certain movies." That's too accurate 😂
My husband is the normal girlfriend, and I am the infj. This is literally every day when he gets home from work. After 25 years he actually says, "You don't have to fix it, just listen. You can even zone out if you want, but act like you are listening." I do actually have to listen, though, because every so often, he ends with a heavy breath and then says, "Okay, tell me how to fix it the fastest way possible."
Omg the cry about the anniversary is hilarious 😂 that infj girl is so me I can’t remember things my friends told me yesterday or at the beginning of a conversation
The "thinking about stoicism while driving" made me guffaw out loud to any empty room, because it's Sunday, and honestly, why go out where there is people when I can stay home and be alone whilst wearing no pants?
I don't even have a boyfriend but this is 300% me. The "I'll just work it out in therapy next tuesday" made me wheeze, scream and cry at the same time 🤣🤣🤣
One time I was in my feels, and my husband at the time said why are you mad at me. And I legit said I’m deciding if I need to be mad at you I’ll probably work it out myself so just let me have some space for a minute. 😂😂😂
@@cherieswannhanson1482 😂😂😂 Like... I mean... isn't it just logical? Why would we start an argument when it's probably just a matter of perspective??? 🤣🤣🤣
Most of the time if I'm upset or irritated with my boyfriend, it's a "me" problem. And we usually work things out on our own. He's an ISTJ and I'm an INFJ
As an INFJ male, the gf one was pretty similar. That's gotten me in a lot of trouble though. Maybe if I knew I was an INFJ back when I was younger, I could have explained myself better. However, I do like your suggestion. I'm also a dad.
@@FrankJamesthis is the most INFJ response down to the amount of exclamation points so the asker knows we come in friendly lol. (Ps: I’m also an INFJ) hehe 😊
Lots of relatable points in here. The most relatable is when the INFJ pivots from sympathy to "now here's what you should do" - I always have a game plan for everyone.
I love INFJs. They all are so self aware and also very caring while standing their ground and not confusing being selfless to sacrificing their own space. Also, they are really like cats lol they feel your sadness or stress and immediately know what is the best for you to do. Best advices by INFJs.
Aww🥰 How sweet! As an INFJ being described as a cat would be so cute. I either get ignored, called silly, screen saver, or weird. My Bosses are irritated by me and my co-workers like me. My family and friends are used to my "quirks".☺
Kinda got the first part wrong…. I am not self-aware and I most of the time think being selfless means the same thing as sacrificing your soul to whoever's around you’s mercy..
As an INFJ I can relate to the antique store. I was in a museum which held ancient dead bodies they dug up on display and while everyone else was enjoying the morbid display all I could think about was how disrespectful it was to put them poor souls on display instead of giving them a respectful buried plot 🤷♀️
As an INTJ I can’t understand why u want the shells of humans buried instead giving up the treasures of discoveries they hold for us now. The human has been gone from that sac of flesh for millennia. They don’t care what u do with it.
@@YeshuaKingMessiah well I guess your more scientific then spiritual. Some people believe the nature of the type of burial that a person has decides on how the soul sleeps. How do you know that the person slaying on that slab is at peace with people staring at them day to day in a museum? You wouldn't know that unless you could speak to their soul
I relate too! When I was a kid I loved the little house on the Prairie book series. Well I found the first one at a thrift store and bought it to re read. Well after finishing it there was a family tree of the linage of the Ingalls family etc. From the 1860s I think, well it hit me how long ago they lived and how they had lived and died so long ago, and how one day I am go to die too... yea it triggered an internal crisis. 😭
Lmfao the antique store! I felt that to my core, I went into one with my sister in Florida a couple of years ago. I said “geez they sell dead people’s stuff, I wonder if any of it is haunted… how would you know?” And the staff just looked at me like what I said was dark 😂😭
But people are very annoyed by this. And they dont listen and it i have to watch it going vorher Down the road.. how do yall do it that they want your advice?
As an INFJ female, I can confirm the 100% accuracy of this video. While we might've dated emotionally unhealthy people, as we progress in life, we're intuitive enough to sift through hours of content on phycology and childhood trauma work so that we end up with healthy partners. 😅 I can also confirm British television is mostly all I can stomach because it's relaxing. Intense or violent stuff is too stressful. 😂
This is female INFJ,Noone knows how happy an INFJ feels being something relatable to them and so accurate. That stoicism and social media diet is so real. Frank, looking forward for more INFJ stuff Thank you so much...😊
I’m an INFJ woman who got engaged to my INFJ fiancé last November. We have the most analytical, logic oriented, pragmatic relationship. Our first conversations were about the biggest things in life and then slowly we began to work our way down to small talk. I was definitely this type of girlfriend 😂
Congrats!! I was lucky enough to find another INFJ friend recently, starting at the secrets of the universe and then working our way down is SUCH a mood 😂
As an INFJ, I can confirm that eliminations and just endings of TV shows make us nervous. We always expect the plot twist and also end up hiding our eyes for half of the show. Edit: thanks for the likes!
I have entire C-dramas (40+ episodes) that I have watched to their entirety with the exception of the last episode because I don’t want it to end or I know the ending will upset me so I put it off for years now… now I have to watch them all over again because I feel ready 😂😂
I have so many clothes but I stick to my favorites on a cycle but I love colors but choose to wear neutrals have the time because it’s less effort most days
Funny, as a woman engineer, all my clothes are navy (lol). Now in my late 50s and with remote work, everything I buy is pink, lavendar, or red (with frills, lace, and ruffles...)
I have been on some radical clothing journeys… I think, really, I am trying to appear normal. I would only wear grey if I could just be left alone and didn’t have to go places.
As an INFJ that was so accurate in each part. You showed the struggle very well About forgetting the days of the week That's so true, I constantly have to check what the day is. btw thanks for the effort you put in, I love your content.
I think the people in the drugstore yesterday were 200% more INFJ than me - they said it's already the 6th of April (it was the 4th) :) But maybe it was actually the 1st :)
Frank! THANK YOU for the best laugh session I have had in years. When you said, "It turns out all my clothes are Navy Blue" I completely lost my sh**t for like 10 minutes. I seriously have not laughed this hard since I can remember, so thanks for that, I needed it. (Here's a clue: I would NOT be the normal girlfriend.)
@@e.j1997 I haven't seen that but even if it's true, it doesn't mean is right representation. I do have seen a lot of stereotypes. Edit: Also I've seen much more "representation" of men, not women
@@sonyastephens7583 Me too, and I feel most INFJs like quality things. But even then I feel like it is not something shallow or frivolous, but rather we have certain motives/deeper reasoning behind it.
That "its Friday??" Part its totally relatable as an infj....there was a time when i even forgot my marriage anniversary and my husband was very upset at that😂
Oh yeah, definitely forgot a couple anniversaries myself , but my husband was right along side me forgetting too. My mom was amused she remembered before we did. 😅
I forget my own birthday. (And I get really anxious about other people's birthdays, because I forget them too, but they get upset about it, and I hate the upset. WAY too much responsibility for me. 😄)
@@Littlebird11 omg haha 😂 I try to be friends with people who know that I will probably forget birthdays and such, but won’t hold it against me. Oye though I beat myself up for having an entire conversation with a new roommate and not once remembering to ask their name or introduce myself 😅😅😅
I’m actually embarrassed how I’ve said or done almost every single one of these, my friends comment on my grey and navy wardrobe, and I skip any game show to the end elimination cause it’s just too much for me 😂 My parents also banned me from antique stores cause I wouldn’t stop commenting on the “dead people’s junk”
Fascinating. You can sense different energies from these old items if you try to feel it after salt cleansing your hands. (Check quareia for more) Not all dead people leave bad energies behind. - enfp
@@heavnxbound Lol, I knew a science sceptic would turn up. You can call it a sensable mystical aura if you prefer that instead of energy. Energy for me means all types of energies, physical, non physical and multi dimensional (interpenetrating emenation of creation source) Cross dimensional is not measurable for the time being, might never be. But its all an aspect of moving(energy) mind. Which does not fit well into the post-modern reductionistic paradigme no. I am well aware.
i don’t know why people want to pass stuff on, i’m missing the reason…my mother saves everything, has journals from her trips….and she’s sent them to us, why would i want to read about someone else’s vacation? yes i relate to dead peoples stuff
Ha ha, I’m like that. If reality tv, movies, etc get too intense I’ll look it up online to find out how it ends. “Oh good! She survives, yah she didn’t die.” Or ,” great I’m glad he won the competition, I’d be upset if that other narcissist guy won.” Or, good I can finish watching the movie because she does end up with him! 😂
I'm an INFJ and I really relate to watching the british bake off for the third time without elimination parts because I love repetitious activities but hate it when people get isolated/cut out of the program 😂
I have been obsessed with Food Network ever since high school, at least. It's just so neutral and nice to have on in the background. Plus, I've learned a surprising amount about cooking and baking!
Hi, INFJ here! That last part brutally wounded me, cause yes my ex had the same toxic traits as my father, and yes I broke up with him when I came to the realization that the relationship wasn’t going anywhere. Good night, shoutout to all my fellow INFJs’ who went through the same dilemma glad I wasn’t alone!
As an INFJ female, it is so nice to know there are more people like this. Two years ago I met another INFJ female and being friends with her has been like slowly uncovering we have this type of thing in common 😂 In my case, I only share my weird side with people I trust I guess :)
As an INFJ male, I also think it is nice to know that there are more people like this. Do you often wonder what the world would be like if the whole world was all INFJs? Hang on wait, what day is it?
I would love finally meeting another INFJ , it can get pretty “lonely” sometimes especially bc I am so ridiculously good at being alone but I also want to communicate with like-minded people or people that can bring value into my life and are themselves interesting and “weird” ( in a good authentic way) and yep I relate to the trusting part !
hello! im an INFJ female, age 19. i struggle to make friends and struggle to relate to my peers, although i have a deep need for connection and intimate conversations. i feel empty during small talk but i can't seem to find many people who feel comfortable discussing the topics i ponder on every day of my life. i feel lonely quite often, even when i'm around others. people often tell me i go off on tangents and even make jokes to try to "get me to shut up", i always laugh and quite down but i'm curious what it would be like to have a conversation with someone just like me, someone who isn't just trying to watch the movie but also pause, reflect and talk about the little things that happen in the movie, i know this is a bit weird, like someone reaching out to you through a comment section on youtube weird but if you'd everrrr like to perceive each other's existence and maybe even talk about what it's like, my instagram is @xcybersamx but follow my personal if you'd like to see a closer look at the way i see things (linked in main instagram bio), tiktok is @cybersamm, i would LOVE to follow back so please let me know if you do. again i know this is weird, because even i think it's weird, but i am seriously so desperate for someone to ask "what're you thinking" and not be surprised or dismissive of my actual answer, it would be nice to be honest of what im actually thinking for once, and not always actively trying to simplify it in fear of intimidating or making my peers uncomfortable.
Tell me about it. I once talked with someone giving me advice. He raised a question of how people wear all of these masks. I didn't bother to argue. But, if you're an INFJ, you know that it's less like a mask and more like a mirror. We shine back at people what they shine at us. It's not to be rude, or even to hide. It's more like too much effort to over share. We just stick with what we have in common with the person we are talking with. So, it's efficient. However, if you have to go into a more public sphere, then as an INFJ, you have a dilemma as to how to remain authentic in this bigger, more complex space. I haven't figured that one out yet.
Yeah, I felt called out by that one. 😂 I buy a 6 pack of t-shirts once a year. Same brand, usually all black but some years I have bought a pack of variety of colors 😂
@Raqlew No idea why, but yeah. Lots of navy blue. Sometimes I switch it up, and wear black. I amalso Italian, though, so my accessories are colorful. But they must match, and have a theme.
Haha I am INFJ I just recently learned- this is pretty hilarious. How nice to read all the comments and realize I’m not alone. I definitely feel like a stranger in a strange land with most of humanity.
Same I finally realised that all the contradiction in my head, not concentrate or lagging behind in conversation, the emotion attachment I have to something even it's small and a lot of stuff I couldn't explain before, I'm not alone
Have you considered taking the Raads-R Test? A lot of INFJ are very very High Functioning Aspies. Myself included. My iNTJ is also Aspie and he’s what led me to get my diagnosis, though a diagnosis is not required ;) He came at me talking about all the BIG things most people would never talk about. We dove very deep from our first conversations, onwards. It still continues 8 years later, endless conversation and theorizing ♥️
I'm smiling because a lot of these are so accurate 😂 "is this Tuesday...?" Realising that at least half the clothes in my cupboard are navy blue. "I can totally understand where you're coming from. Here's what you should do." Um yes.
I've seen INFJ skits in social media and usually don't think they're very accurate, but this is spot on in ways I wasn't expecting! 😂 Even though I'm always trying hard, I feel like I never have the thoughts/behavior that people prefer, which can be discouraging. But seeing things portrayed by someone else helps me realize there's nothing actually wrong with the way I work!
Being an infj female these three things fit me well: - forgetting the "special" dates (my memory is short and is willing to work only with super important stuff) - not paying attention to small things about myself (but I'm quite observant of others) - most on my clothes is neutral colored Because of that, some people think I'm mean to them. I'm really not, I'm just phlegmatic by nature haha
The reaction at the antique store is 100% accurate for me. I go to estate sales and get very sad when I see an individual or couple’s belongings laid out for sale, it’s so sad 😞
Although I didn't relate as much for the antique store but i do relate when it comes to abandoned places. Antique store just reminds me of how it used to belong to someone and makes me curious the story behind them. I never really thought of the death part.
@@hanayuuki790Same, as well that I don’t really see that Death as a bad thing, we don’t know what comes after it so i’m just fascinated by the thought as I see antiques where they are now, if that makes sense? And after that thought I go into a spiral how cool it is that it dates back to so many decades and that people from those times actually touched and possessed these things.
As one who loves antiques and estate sales I must say I feel the same. The death doesn’t bother me but I do think about the history of the item and what that person’s life must’ve been like when I go into these places. It also makes me incredibly sad to see photos and other certain things that I would have cherished from my family members but nobody else in this person’s family wanted at all at estate sales. I always thank the deceased person for their treasures if I buy something. Then I smudge before bringing it in my house lol.
As an INFJ: absolutely dead 😂😭😂💀 THE TEN YEAR LONG DRAINING TEXT CONVERSATION OMGGG😂😂😂😂 Also THANK YOU for making it honest and real instead of an "oh they're so mystical and gossamer" thing. I mean, we have our moments, but yeah it's mostly "all my clothes are navy blue" and "I don't have to hear your whole thing, I know what you're feeling, this is what you should do". 😂
I have a 10 year text conversation too. He's nice but, omg..crazy and I feel I need to be his friend. Sometimes I just don't answer the text messages because he bugs me so bad.
