Northernlion loses his mind at redditors. 

“Let a kid rot in foster care if you can’t afford vacation” most sane redditor take

The best way to solve this would be to immediately put their daughter up for adoption.

Redditors be like: "Yeah I was raised middle class, I'm basically the biggest victim of childhood neglect." None of them have mentally matured past the age of 14.

Lois: "Here is your birthday cake, Stewie. And here is your equal attention cake, Peter" Peter: "YAY!"

Everyone jokes about this, but honestly it scares me that people this insane have a safe space to congregate their ridiculously out of touch takes on reality.

Redditors on these subs love to imagine they're some sort of genius detective/psychotherapist, by which I mean they invent a load of ancillary details the OP never provided out of whole cloth because they think they can soul read someone over the internet. Then everyone else joins in the circlejerk because they see the orange arrows.

I figured it out. They literally think the son is Harry Potter and the daughter is Dudley. That's the only book redditor's have read so its the only story they have as a point of reference to adoption

reddit has a lot of people like "poor people dont deserve kids" and yikes , that kinda thinking leads to some dark shit

Reddit is right. Favoritism bad. They should have treated jada exactly the same way as they treated the adoptive kid, no matter their financial differences now or increased parenting knowledge, just to avoid favoritism. No more “failed pancake vibes” if you deliberately ruin the second pancake too.

"let's call him T. Bundy" had me laughing out loud in my cubicle 😭

I am adopted and my parents were not wealthy. I am now 32. They were my foster parents and ended up adopting me. These parents are not the asshole. I genuinely don’t understand this mentality. If my parents were now wealthy enough to travel, I’d be happy for them! Why should I expect my family to live like they are destitute forever just because they were once not able to afford something. They raised their son, I expect they treated him as well as they could with their means. They’re acting like the dad said their son grew up eating cockroaches and dust. This is so confusing to me.

Holy shit i don’t think I’ve ever disagreed harder with the AITA comments. I grew up poor never had a vacation and my parents now go on one trip a year. Doesn’t mean I’m super salty I’m actually happy for them that they can finally do that and get some rest.

The practice pancake thing is just reddit in a nutshell

I said this on the original video but its just absolutely insane that reddit is like this kid is better off in foster care than too have been raised in a house that couldn't afford to go on vacation.

The amount of people in that thread who certainly don't have adopted siblings, siblings, friends, or contact with people outside of a screen....

Classic. Reddit adults that still stay with their parents are defensive over another fellow manchild.

this is batshit insane. I'm 23, and my Father just had a child last year. When I was a kid we were pretty low income and didnt vacation, but money isnt as tight now. I would hope my Father is able to give my baby sister a great life as she gets older, I do not understand how a 30 year old could have so much jealousy for a child

It helps to remember that most of those redditors are actually children. It's so obvious at times.

the hell is with reddit man? everyone is so goddamn unhinged on there on almost every subreddit

These comments are acting like the parents were living in squalor. They just couldn't go on vacations, ffs.

"how can you become a parent with prior knowledge?" man that's a good point

the amount of projection that goes on in the reddit comments is astounding

I love watching a bald Canadian, arguably the least human combination, use critical thinking skills and incredible people reading skills to accurately pick apart redditors. I would argue that NL and redditors both teeter on the line between human and not

7:00 i never noticed until now but the "ScienceNotKids" username is so apt for that comment you'd call it overkill if it was satire

I could see the 30 year old being annoyed that he was asked to go after the fact, but he shouldn't expect his parents to hold out on the sister because they are better off today.

I see we’re still waiting for the greater reddit community to learn humanity, context or empathy. I love watching NL freak out at the inability for Reddit to think critically, it’s the best.

I watched this live and I genuinely couldn't understand how he was the asshole. Like I grew up some what privileged, but the privileges I would give for a more loving and understanding family are astounding.

I don't look at AITA very often, but I usually agree with the verdicts. It's only when I watch NL that I see all these psycho redditors haha

Jaded older siblings will really go on AITA and give a stranger shit rather than go to therapy and it shows

One thing I've noticed on Reddit AITAs is that no one is ever happy about the good things that happen to someone else (i.e. the adopted older son being sour about the younger sister's good life)

"Brady Bunch astrology" is such a crazy line. It's the one thing from React Court that's always stuck in my mind.

I grew up dealing with things like my parents stealing my Christmas presents to give them to my older brother. Or getting beat while my brother laughed at me. Actual favoritism. The insanity of the Reddit comments comparing OP’s situation to mine just makes my blood boil lmao. I’d be lucky if all the trauma I had to deal with was my younger sibling being taken to trips my parents couldn’t afford when I was growing up.

I remember I asked a question about string gages on a Guitar subreddit, which caused about a dozen people to talk down to me. This culminated in someone bringing up a specific song and me saying that it was an easy song to play . The entire subreddit informied me that it's actually way harder than I would think and it's an endurance test. It was then that I realized Reddit is just a bunch of people who barely have any idea what they're talking about answering questions for people they assume have no idea what they're talking about.

Part of being an older sibiling is understanding that your younger siblings might get to do some stuff earlier than you were allowed to. I understand 9 year olds having a tantrum about that fact, a 30 year old however...

I watch this live and it really felt like the original post had been edited. The comment were so insane compare to the story. I know there some "reddit moment" but it was one of the worst I had seen.

The comments in that thread are actually unhinged, even for that subreddit. I refuse to believe that isn’t his son’s 300 alt Reddit accounts.

Reddit is full of people who have let trauma stunt their growth and now like to lash out in "vengeance" or whatever and it's really sad. Horrible headspace to stay stuck in eternally.

My highlight was all of chat simultaneously going apeshit and spamming 'HE'S 30' when that top comment was revealed.

yo lol NL was spittin in this clip god damn

Me when reddit: 😡 Me when NL reacts to reddit: 😲😍👏

The brady brunch astrology bit is so good, people honestly talk so much nonsense about the older/younger/middle child shit. For the most part parents are just trying their best and adapting their parenting to the lessons they've learned and the changes in their life and circumstances. People just love to be mad

The fact that the redditors writing these insane schizo posts with a completely warped perception of reality are real human beings who I can and will come across in regular daily life is terrifying. Like the people writing some of the most insane takes are just walking on the sidewalk outside instead of in solitary confinement...some things almost make you wish for a nuclear winter.

I'm very happy that NL strayed from that family friendly no swear words style he had there for a while. Back to the roots.

these redditors are truly insane

My grandmother told my father and he told me really soon after. The older we get, the more we should respond rather react. Quite alot us are very quick to knee jerk how things happen, but the real adults slow it down.

The main problem with AITA is that you need to ask redditors for their opinions

ty for vids and context

I don't understand not wanting your younger sibling to have a better childhood than you did. The best possible outcome imo is that the parents actually learned from all the sh't they screwed up the first time with you and now they're not screwing up baby sibling in the same way because they know better

This isn't so black and white. The fact that the older brother wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend at age 14 but the daughter is, that's weird and I have to wonder what other arbitrary rules he had that the daughter didn't. The lack of trips do to money is clearly not the dad's fault and the kid is being way too whiny about that for being 30 fucking years old, but something tells me that there's more going on that the dad is not saying.

Ngl, there wasn't a singular reasonable take on the entire reddit post :D

The 30 year old is obviously putting all of the issues in his childhood-life on his adoptive parents when a lot of it just has to do with he was a foster kid till he was 12, and all that comes with that.

I think most if not all of chat was on NL's side for this one lmao

It was the opposite for me lmao, my parents went on a lot of trips with my older brother and sister because the had money bach then, but when i was born we basically stop because the economic situation at home wasn't very stellar, when i was younger i kinda resented them for it, now i'm 27 i don't really care anymore, i'm going on my own trips alone and it's awesome

Insane comments

Omg AITA gives me brain damage

I don't think people realize but this doesn't seem like a monetary issue on the son's part. People are complaining saying the son doesn't understand that things can be better for the daughter, but it seems much more like bad framing on the father's end that makes it seem this way. In the post the father mentions that the son didn't find out about the trips until talking with the daughter, meaning he hadn't been invited that whole time. The father assumes the son just wants to go on the trips, which is what some people and NL assume as well, but I take it as being upset that he wasn't included in these trips, and being part of the family. I can see how being an orphan and then finding out your family has been going on trips you didn't even know about can be very upsetting, and to then assume it's just because you wanted to go is very out of touch especially for the parent. It also explains his reaction to then being invited; he CAN go on trips alone, but that's not the problem. He wants to be included and feel part of this family, I'd assume someone like him being an orphan for 12 years would feel that way especially, and explains his reaction. It's also very upsetting that the father doesn't think about it in this way, but also doubles down saying "well the daughter agrees with me!" which, being a sibling would make me even more upset if I heard him say that.

God help us all if redditors ever collect the infinity stones

Never have I sided more with NL than his AITA with the 30 year old man child. Not everything is the biggest deal in the world holy moly

I mean, everything said here is true. But Northernlion being an only child definitely shows. Jealousy between siblings is a huge thing, and sticks around for ages because of how formative childhood experiences are. Doesn't mean it's 'rational' or whatever, but I agree here that the tone of the post was "I can't change the past so there's nothing I can do" rather than "How can I show my son I care about him?". A lot of people have had that experience, and I think that's where you're getting all these people projecting their own trauma onto the situation coming from. When your trauma gets triggered you lose sight of the specifics and start painting the scenario as if it were yours. I hope the family reconnects with their son. Adoption is already rough to go through, I hope they find a way to stick together despite it all.

Killing it from the starting line with the jared name bit

"Brady Bunch astrology", that's a great phrase lol.

If you’re a grown ass adult getting upset because your sibling that is a literal child is getting preferential treatment, then “man up” is a very reasonable response in this situation

13:11 went a little goblin mode there for a sec

The reddit comments are insane, and the adopted son's expectations aren't realistic when they can't change the past. HOWEVER, it's not difficult to see why the child who was adopted because the parents couldn't conceive would be jealous and have some underlying resentment when they were able to have a biological child. Of course it's unrealistic to expect them to raise their younger daughter by the same standards when they've learned lessons and are more financially capable. But if he feels like the less-favored kid he probably grew up feeling like that even when he was younger because he was well aware of the circumstances, and it's absolutely the parents' responsibility to reconcile that. The fact that they're raising the daughter differently isn't an issue. It's that the adopted son seemingly feels inadequate in the eyes of his parents, and saying "get over it" isn't a great response to that. Even if you're 30, you don't want to feel like your parents favor your sibling over you.

Reddit is insane.

I agree the reddit responses are unreasonable but I don't get why nobody else notices that there's something wrong here. Of course the 30 year old son's response was inappropriate but it's also a red flag that he's feeling very upset and as a parent you should recognize that and figure out what the hell the problem is. Yet the father is dismissive by telling him to get over it. Both are assholes, but not for the reason the reddit comments are implying. There is clearly something that is bothering the son that is more extreme than just jealousy.

Jesus christ reddit is completely degenerate

Dude this video made me so tired, AND THERE IS STILL 10 MINUTES LEFT.

my favorite ones are where the redditors are unanimous on the WRONG answer

I love this so much. This is so clearly angsty, spoiled redditors who are pissed off their parents didn’t shower them with everything they every asked for projecting their own issues onto this and attacking OP because it makes them feel good about their own self persecution. Absolutely golden, I’ve never seen a more perfect example of a self entitled group of people.

brady bunch astrology is my new favorite phrase

I would just be happy for my sibling

Not having huge trips doesn't mean a shitty childhood, just means you did less.

oh god, i can't, this is so freaking good

this is so cathartic

It's crazy how many people in those comments seem to assume that the 6 years Jared spent with an actual family are what made him feel insecure about his standing with the parents, rather than the 12 years he spent WITHOUT a family at all. Those anti-natalist sounding manchildren make it sound like being adopted by a nice but overprotective family who can't take you on trips is worse than being stuck in the adoption system until you turn 18... I'm sorry, but unless your parents straight up abused you, if you're still complaining about your upbringing at 30 you're pretty pathetic. In Jared's case, if anything traumatized him it's those first 12 years, not the fact that he couldn't go on trips or date girls for 6 years.

sounds like the 'son' wants money

imagine getting adopted and whining that years down the line their own kid has it better because he has more money to spend, those people gave this man a fucking life.

I think the most important thing that people recognise after a certain age is that our parents are people too They are growing with us Im 26 and I know that my parents made some mistakes with me, but i can tell that they've grown up and learnd from their mistakes by seeing how they treat my younger seblings At the age of 30 I'd imagine he can put himself in his parents shoes and realise how hard it is to be a parent I can't imagine my self doing better than my parents ( because they had me at that age) It just sounds to me like he is a man child

I remember when nl was the one doing the weird takes, but now he is doing the most based ones known to man

Okay so the comments are actually insane on the post, they should try and include him but after him responding "I can do it myself" thats on him, buuuut like 99% of IATA post this could be solved by having an open and honest conversation

I think the unaddressed reality is that there’s some underlying worry/fear of more love/support going to one kid taking away from the other. They just need to understand that giving more to them now then what they could before doesn’t mean they won’t get any support they need now.

they acting like the parents abused him, reddit is getting dumber and dumber by the dayw which is impressive. hilarious

Parent’s aren’t the assholes, but I hope the dude works through his feelings. Could talk it out with someone, not take it out on his family.

I had to save this video as a reminder to never trust anything anyone says on Reddit ever again 😂

Redditors are acting on an extremely unhealthy level of hyperindividualism

I saw Irasutoya in the thumbnail and clicked instantly.

Another reminder for why I should never go back to reddit. Some people should get their internet privileges revoked

i think this whole debacle is why aita is a bad subreddit. the emphasis on impartiality and categorisation means all it does is attract people obsessed with fairness and “justice” instead of human beings. like yeah, from a morally “objective” standpoint, the 30yo is in the wrong, but is he a bad person? is he an “asshole” for acting in an unfair way? everyone’s been “the asshole” at some point in their lives; everyone feels emotions and everyone acts on them, even if they’re not fair. this entire thing reads as a kid who got adopted at 12 years old dealing with some emotional weak spots, and though he’s not being fair or emotionally constructive, it’s at least understandable. no 30 year old man picks fights at the dinner table over his teenage sibling getting partial treatment, nor does he say “guess we know who the favourite is”. that’s what seven year olds do when they get a bad gift for christmas. he’s pretty clearly just upset about something and has nowhere else to put it. and, like, fair enough? if i was adopted at 12 years old and had to deal with poverty and limited opportunities while i was raised, all for my younger sibling to suddenly have it a million times easier growing up, id probably be pissed too. not pissed they had it easier, mind you - the fact he rejected going on the trip altogether makes it pretty clear that’s not the problem - pissed my parents seem to love someone more, and their only response to me being pissed is to say “get over it”. which is obviously not what the parents mean, and isn’t a healthy response, but it’s understandable. i think the guy just needs to be told by his parents that they’re sorry his upbringing wasn’t the greatest, and that they made mistakes which they no longer make while raising his sister, but those circumstances and mistakes and the fact that his sister doesn’t suffer them weren’t the product of them not caring about or loving him

Brady bunch astrology is hilarious.

Im 29, I dont get salty when my parents take trips I just say 'hey good for you'. Even when I was 14 when my mom would take a trip and leave me and my brother alone I'd be like 'cool now I can play video games all day and raid the liquor cabinet'

17:50 Brady brunch astrology. 😂

Redditors try not to project challenge. Impossible!!

you dont even throw out the practice pancake anyway you eat it lol

They'd be assholes if they never invited the kid to anything or left him out of stuff. They invited them and the guy threw it back in their face

"everyone on twitch is agreeing with me, which is frightening because it means the RU-vid comments will be scary as hell" 😂

30 is a grown independent man. He should not be upset about not having a vacation paid for by his parents.

every commenter saying YTA on that post is projecting so hard and needs to work that shit out in therapy

What is this “I had to suffer so you should too” attitude, especially when the “suffering” was not going on vacation as a kid? lmfaoo

As the older child and having been told I'm the "practice pancake" I was almost always happy that my sister got more than me. (Sometimes I was less than mature but it was an exception) I would never expect mom to treat my sister the same way she did me because it clearly didn't work with me.