Abby really had the audacity to hit Op with the "Youll never be a real mom" comment.. The kind of mom that abandons her son when he's having a hard time after losing his best friend?.. Mother of the year over here 👏👏👏👏👏😒....
@@shadoutExactly.. Not the one who abandoned her child or the one who berates the daughter that stood up and cared for that child.. Crazy how the grandmother is pushing Op to get the son to be in his "mothers" life.. But she didn't push her daughter to not abandon him.. Disgusting....
The latest (ex-)partner of the "mother" sounds like a great guy. He sees a red flag and acts correctly. If she can abandon her own child, how bad can she be as stepmother? Good for him to look out for his daughter.
I am on OP and Sammy's side. But something seems to be missing from the story. There has to be more to it than LJ died. Something else must have been going on. Still doesn't make what Abby did right. But there just had to be something else as well... Else, Abby is just evil or crazy.
Not excusing it but my guess is that she had some sort of mental breakdown. Either she really cared about LJ or she just didn't want to deal with her kid. There's also possibility she was using this is an excuse to leave as we know that OP mentioned that her sister had Sammy Young. My guess as well is that the mom is probably feeding BS into her ear about how OP will take care of Sammy and oh you can just pop back into his life whenever if you choose. I wouldn't be surprised if she was the one who gave her the idea about winning Sammy over to get her ex fiance back.
Abby is a narcissist, like OPs and her mother. Pretty sure Sammy spent a lot of time at LJs house and whenever the two boys were at Abby‘s, she did not have to parent much bc the boys were just doing their thing. Then LJ died, and damn, she had to actually be a parent, which is hard work, and did not fit her own needs.
@@brotherhoodofsteel4751Or that when Sammy struggled after his friends death he was no longer upholding the image of the son she wanted and thus he was humiliating her. This would be backed how she wanted the appearance of the good mother at his graduation party but didn’t bother the act in private. She may only care about the appearance, thus not even fixing her relationship with her son but faking one for her ex
Look at how Abby just ditched her son out of nowhere. This is a perfect example of how you never really know people until something _forces_ them to show their real personality. It's like Abby only tolerated her son because he brought LJ into her life, and once there was no LJ, she didn't need her son anymore.
My cousin lost his best friend (since they were toddlers) when they were 19. Friend was swimming in some of the local quarries with some friends. (This is illegal and very dangerous). It was also drizzling, making the rocks (cuz, quarry!) slippery. And it was about dusk. Kid jumped in, as far as they could tell he slipped and hit his head on the way down. The friends who were there made a frantic attempt to find him (they were all good swimmers but this was shit conditions). I don’t think they ever recovered his body. My cousin has never quite recovered. He had to drop out of university for a year or so (he did eventually graduate). Despite having been a motivated kid, he was directionless. And everyone in the family, and his friends, rallied around him in support. It was not something anyone should (and many can’t) deal with on their own. I am at an utter loss at how a parent could treat their child in such a way. I just lost my best friend- it wasn’t sudden, but she was still only 41. I know I will never completely get over it. My family and many other friends (she was well loved and touched a lot of people) are supporting each other. Grief is not a voluntary emotion. It is a very human reaction. I don’t have kids, never will for many reasons, I can’t see how that has any bearing on the issue. Thank you so much for being there for your nephew.
We are raising our grandson,but to be fair. His Dad “son n law”, is divorcing my daughter. He is really torn but honestly just wants the best for his two children. My grandson is very ADHD and basically needs to be basically an only child. We let our grandson know that his dad and even my daughter loves him. They just literally want him to be his best. Honestly to my shame. I think this is more true about the son n law. I think my daughter just doesn’t want to do the hard work. I feel like I can answer questions honestly. Once he is grown and if he wants to know
You’ll never know, because you’re not a mom? You’ll never be a real mom? Tha fuq? You ARE a real mom, and you have a kid of your own. She just gave birth and ran away.
So when things got the slightest bit tough, Abby did not want to be a parent. And she only wants to come back into her son's life when Sammy is an adult. The dude lost his best friend, it was a bit depressed, but Abby acts like Sammy turned into a delinquent. This is somebody who was never equipped to be a parent if she could ditch her son over a little hump like this.
