Put a man in a small apartment with some food to eat and he's the happiest man ever...put a woman in an expensive mansion and she'll find a way to feel miserable
Amen. I've had both and now i see why my dad stayed single in an apartment after my mom divorced him. He chilled the rest of his life, had girlfriends but no cohabiting. It all makes sense to me now
Aw, come on, man! It sounds like a wonderful idea: entering a business contract with someone who has the legal advantage over you. Wait a tic! That sounds stupid. Never mind, carry on.
@@smellmybush this show has shown you the true lack of options men have as far as finding a lady that's not delusional. So in essence it's easier said than done. And marriage is unnecessary at least to me. You don't need a marriage to have a successful relationship.
Not just black men btw. I was married for 28 years, but now divorced. I grew in to a high income tax bracket. Always provided a comfortable lifestyle. Wife was never satisfied and made me miserable. I finally left.
Man that's terrible to hear, and unfortunately it's not nearly the first time I've heard it. I'm 32 and I'm so turned off the idea of marriage bc its nothing but bullshit for men. It's like you can't win no matter what you do, modern women are out of their minds.
I realized this in my dad. He had a lifetime of doing his best, it wasn’t received as good enough. Things could always have been worse, but people always focus on what more could have been done. That’s always a losing battle. I remember before he died, I told him thank you for all his sacrifices and now as a young man I understand the shoes he walked in and realize the gravitas of his character. He cried. From what place it came from, I felt was in part a release of hurt. Men, always remember to thank your fathers as others may not.
I admired my father so much! I pattern my life after him! Military:great government job: wife and kids: been married for 33 years! Miss my father so much
IKR? If she could resent a father who stayed, provided for and educated her because he wasn't "like my grandfather" (that was some bullshyt!), it's scary to think what she'd do to a boyfriend (or a husband) found wanting in a comparison to a man that she *never* even met.
Congratulations to that guy. He dodged so much bs from this chick. She can not and shall not be pleased. Her own father who raised, provided and guided her couldn't do it. (IN HER EYES)
@@sagatuppercut2960 thats not good enough, hes supposed to walk on water, but then she'll criticize him for not being able to swim. He could give her the world ,but she'll say such and such dad bought her the galaxy and the Sun
This is something I’m beginning to feel in a sense I have three sons and a wife whom all fight for me to do more regardless to what I feel or think..... and it’s very draining yet I continue to give them what I don’t have always: strength and courage and will to fight on
Like the reason that she’s not happy is because she’s 26 and she’s realizing that she’s almost 30 and after 30 not really a lot of men are going to date her at all especially with that attitude she has what she think she like deserves some thing from a man she doesn’t deserve shit if she’s not willing to work on herself she’s going to be alone angry inside the rest of her goddamn life
Have you guys noticed that every time Kevin ask these women "who broke off the relationship." They are all too proud to say, "I did." They say it with glee and joy.
So true. And 99% of the time it's them who did. They're never happy and think the man is there to make them happy. Nope, I'm happy, you get happy. Your happiness is not my responsibility.
Don't just cry. Get angry whenever you hear any of your sisters talking bad about men, (especially their fathers) and correct them on the spot. Even if it costs you their friendship. Your children will thank you for it.
As a white man I can attest that just going to work at a factory ain’t enough anymore the things that were high value good job, benefits, loyalty, kindness don’t work no more now you need to be beyond extraordinary, people’s entitlement nowadays is a real problem this everyone deserves everything for nothing mentality has to stop
As a Black woman, " working at the factory, on a jobsite, as a trash man, farmer, auto-mechanic, etc. is enough to the right person, the job should NOT make the individual unless you choose too. Just be a good person. I agree unfortunately in today's society SMH relationships and the image their of have been destroyed by music, TV, etc.
By the way, WHITE men don't have it any better. And you try and be a white man who likes natural looking women without having a Lambo. Good effing luck. We need to remove the ridiculous skin color issue. Speak and act politely, like a human being, and racism will no longer have a foothold because it is a fake lie today.
I teach and the question I ask my students, when they say they want to be married, is: Are you ready to wipe his ass, if he gets into an accident? That shuts a lot of that dreamy, romanticized way of thinking about marriage down and gets them thinking realistically. Marriage is for better or WORSE and some of them have never given any thought to what worse includes.
@USMC DEVIL DOG it’s a phenomenal I see often and it’s sad. I’m not Christian but I take a Christian perspective on this. In the Bible it says “he who finds a wife, finds a good thing”. You need to find your wife, she doesn’t become one during the relationship. If she ain’t wifey material now, then she ain’t ready.
Black men if you think she's ungrateful: Most women say that they want a tall man that is handsome, rich,, and yet loyal.Ayesha Curry has that and still was depressed because she wants men to flirt with her
Chuuuch!!!! You give em the world, they want the sun AND moon. Give them the stars, they want the heavens. Give em heaven and they'll hate you for not being GOD.
Seriously that’s why you’re absolutely right she should but how much you wanna bet she’s not going to because she’s harboring so much resentment towards him that I guarantee you she’s never gonna talk to him again
I literally just watched a short where a young couple (boyfriend, girlfriend college aged) were asked how much they had in bank. The guy "$1400. The girl "40,000" The guy "WTF?!?! You have 40G and you've been making me pay for everything. Where'd you get it?" Girl "My dad gave it to me. You're my boyfriend, you're supposed to pay. It's not my fault you're broke." Guy "I just payed $400 for our date, and you have 40G?" Guy walks away, dumps girlfriend. This is real. The level of cognitive disconnect and narcissistic self delusion is beyond repair with "modern independent western woman." It affects all races and social/economic levels. It doesn't matter if you go passport, moment she steps into a western country she's already a lost cause. They will defend the "sisterhood" to the death, even when they know their position is indefensible.
I heard about that story. Man!! The sheer entitlement and bold deception. It didn't even involve me, and I was pissed. Then some women wonder WHY men go Mike Tyson on they *ss.
I’m a black woman saying this: Black women have been allowed to get away with so much for so long - unchecked that it’s resulted in these types of convos where we have not seen our hypocrisy and deeply rooted issues.
Y’all are viewed as a threat for no reason just based on your skin. N also desired for your physique. I pray for my husband and my sons every day they go out into the world. I as a black woman don’t know the hardship y’all face but I’m thankful for y’all. My father was intelligent black man n my brothers are wonderful black men n fathers.I’m praying there can be healing in our community. Kevin makes me appreciate my husband even more. Much love black man.
Kevin I just want to say that as a man “I love you man!” . Thank you so much bringing this to everyone’s attention . Through you and your teaching i now see how women think and lack of their thinking . Also how unjustly we are treated as men. Thank you for your red pill 💊 awareness !
I’m glad I started to listen to this guy. He made me realise it’s stupid to leave your man because you FEEL like you deserve better. if I want more from him, then I simply need to put in more effort myself.
Or ask less, the less you ask for a palace the more he considers it. And If he can't he will still give a mansion for the price of feelings he asks for in return
Communicate first pls, don't do a bunch of extra stuff, then get mad when he doesn't read your mind about what you were expecting in return. Not trying to project that behavior onto you, its just so damn common.
This hits home. You can tell that Kevin took this personally. "Damn, woman! I'm taking care of you and all your NEEDS. Why are you shitting on me because I'm not in a position to take care of all of your WANTS?" The desire for that "Hollywood lifestyle" has a lot of women losing/missing out on a lot of good men.
Yes I had to correct myself bc I was acting like that w my mom. Even though she had done the work of a father and mother (she’s a widow) and I was acting entitled bc I didn’t get my wants!! Phewww thank God for reality checks!
@@pln4679 few ever recognize the selfishness in themselves. They always want to project and point fingers. Glad to see that you looked in the mirror and didn't talk about someone else's reflection but your own.
This is exactly what happened to me. Showed this girl everything. Helped her out with her problems. Gave her support in all areas. Made things safe. Literally took months for her to fully open up and say she’s in love for the first time just for her to tell me in less than a month after that she lost feelings for me and was bored. Whole time she couldn’t even do the bare minimum for me and she was the boring one. Now she’s on Facebook saying she won’t settle for less after I broke up with her👎🏾 how ironic
I hope you moved on not in anger but because you realized there’s more to life then trying to get someone to fit in yours my brother. Again hope all is well
It already starts with all the foolish dads with them so called little Princess. I blame mostly the fathers for this entitlement. They raise ther daughters and call them daughters always a Princess. So tbh... men are to blame for this alot as well. Cuz it start from there.
I was beginning to think something was wrong with me cause I haven’t been in a serious relationship since my divorce in 2011, but I’m starting to realize I’m the smart one. 😂
Don’t ask me why ... for whatever reason your comment stood out so I went to your page . You are inspiring 💪🏽 Your video of you talking about your battle with anxiety resonated with me because I’ve dealt with anxiety all my life. It wasn’t until I began to understand the root cause (childhood trauma) that I began to control it. Anxiety is rooted in fear much of that fear can be programmed in us as children. Know that it’s your own thoughts and fears that fuel anxiety. Become more aware of your thoughts see if you can connect that feeling or emotion. Ex: if you have social anxiety do you have a fear of judgment? If so Why? I had anxiety so bad it effected my ability to drive but only when I had a passenger 🥴 turns out that fear came from fear of judgment. Lol when I first learned how to drive my sister taught me but she would always yell telling me how bad of a driver I was and that stayed with me subconsciously. My social anxiety stemmed from being “left out” as a child and bullying. I always felt like ppl were judging me because I experienced it so often as a child and wanted to just be invisible lol as an adult that anxiety comes along in social settings because yet n still I was expecting to be ridiculed .. I had to learn to not give a damn what others said but most importantly that those negative thoughts and expectations had to be tweaked I had to change my thoughts to change my mindset to overcome the fear that was fueling my anxiety..... anywho best of luck to you on your amazing life transformation n journey you have the support of a black woman and new subbie !!! Keep pushing ❤️
Because a happy marriage requires more than money. Money is not a solid foundation to build a marriage on, because it can leave as easily as it came. Values are.
I thought she said "with myself, it wasn't him" though 🤔 Did anybody else hear that? That's a great reason to end a relationship 💯💯 She'll end up making the man miserable!!!
The freaking NERVES of this woman. I've worked 12 hours a day during for the last 11 years to provide to my wife and 2 kids to the point where my legs are now swelling because of the stress and also get the occasional chest pain and migraine, dealing with difficult a boss, and now the pandemic. My work has taken a toll on my health and my biggest fear is that my wife and kids wont even appreciate that.
I have that part posted on my facebook and instagram Of Aries Spears when he said man are not afraid of commitment WE are afraid of divorce .. ... always been a fan Aries Spears ever since mad tv
You never ever heard a MAN complain about paying for dates before the modern era. We accepted reality & were happy to do our part; for a lady. No ladies; no dating; no marriage. Where did all of the old fashioned ladies go? . . .
03:28 "I have to work three times as hard to get half the credit. And guess what, that's just my lot in life. There's always going to be prejudice and discrimination and unfair treatment to any human being. The difference is that you either going to work to overcome it or you going to let it overcome you. That's it."
Here is why I am afraid of marriage........ In 1990 I lost my house, furniture, children, savings, retirement funds, tax return, pets and had to pay child support for 16 years and alimony. Her new man moved in my house in 30 days. The court system would make any man afraid of marriage.
True i was smoking that loud watching.. like i imagine if my son ..his name beloved maxwell johnson and he 2 grows up and say u didn't show me attention, after i worked hard 😥 But then i thought i was denzel Washington in Fences & repeated his " who say i gotta like you , i put food in ya belly and roof on ya head" like you😕 ?
I'm a white guy from Switzerland and I've been watching KS for a few months now and I must say I'm shocked . I thaught our women in Switzerland are the worst . . . now I know better ! Compared with what you guys have to put up with, I live in paradise. Good luck brothers, much sympathy and respect from Switzerland
A few years ago I called and thanked my father for drilling discipline in me. I was very much an ungrateful son and became grateful after becoming an adult with responsibilities. This video just reinforced that people that have the luxury of having the guidance a d support of a father should count thier blessings. Thank them while they are still here....and not just on fathers day.
That’s because patriarchy has defined what marriage is. Submitting is easy. Submitting to nonsensical patriarchal definitions of marriage is difficult, especially in this day and age.
Her mother's father was so great but her grandmother couldn't keep him and she has the audacity to compare her own father to a baby daddy grandfather. Wow. You can't make this ish up.
Exactly! I had to listen to that a couple times to clear it up. This vvoman had to search for a reason to hate her own father. The brainwashing of Feminism is real.
Where is the baby daddy grandfather that left the family. Where is that section of the video. Can someone time stamp that part. Can't find it anywhere. This is all I heard 10:58 concerning that.
After listening to Kevin I am shocked at how little society knows of the struggles that African American men go through. In the Persian East African culture a Man's income has little to do with the loyalty a woman renders. People often think submission is a position of weakness, however true submission IMO is the essence of femininity which is the art of humility deep seated kindness and delivering a man's needs without ever being asked. That is more powerful than any verbal stance could ever be.....
Majority of black women think that their ability to nag or stress out men makes them strong women. They think that by being argumentative instead of submissive is how to earn respect.
As a black woman who was raised by my father I couldn't ever! My dad was hard but for a good reason. He kept me in the good schools and pushed me though college. I am beyond grateful. Truly blessed
Before, i loved having nieces more than nephews, to be honest. But after looking at what my nieces were taught, i honestly don't want to have daughters anymore. My nieces were taught to hate men by their own mothers, including their own fathers. Jesus. Now, if i will have to get married in the future, i don't want any daughters
@@hunggamerofficial3252 If you do have daughters, bring them up to love and respect men. Don’t let them be possessed by the Jezebel spirit, so to speak.
Woooweee!!! LADIES!!! If we (to whom it applies) really receive the message and not get lost or distracted by the delivery or deliver , he’s providing powerful points and facts!!! Facts are not to dismiss your truth or what’s true but to challenge your perception and properly process it. IT IS ON ME to change the narrative of MY life!!! 💯
Yeah man her mom did a real job on this girl. "Your daddy ain't as good as my daddy was" These are not the words of a loving wife and mother. They are extremely selfish and destructive. Thanks Mom !!!!
@Jay Fisher no way possible we should fall for that over some cheeks. you know its going to slow down anyway. dont even play with yourself my guy, continue to grind.
Because the role these women grasp the weakest is being a WIFE. They’ll romanticize their relationship with their daddies to the point of confusion. Your husband ain’t your daddy and what you were to your daddy ain’t what you need to be to your husband!
@The Blengineer brother take it from a father of three you can never satisfy a black woman just focus on yourself and your children and everything else will take care itself after that
@The Blengineer more like her momma settled for her dad.. so many marriages are like that. I dated a woman briefly and she told me many of her friends are in marriages like that.. and they only in their 40s. Funny thing she still single and no kids with so many regrets and full of hatred towards successful men
wahmen have only one weapon... and that's their tongue they can turn and paint any story the way they wish(am ana Afrikan male and have learned this the hard way) ...in my community theirs a saying you can "never judge the dead"... this lady has the audacity of using her grandpas life as a yardstick on her fathers life... pathetic!
@Dale Hemme hmm.. interesting.. you're probably right, the reason she doesn't appreciate her father is because her mother didn't appreciate her husband...this is a dynamic that is also part of the problem (even when there is a father in the house)..
Whenever Kevin asks who broke the relationship off, I'll hear the words in my head before each woman says them. "I did." It's crazy how much of a pattern it's become.
My 1st wife was constantly telling me I was not a "real man" because I wasn't her grandfather. When she ended it, I told her I wouldn't be back, then she got angry-er.
@@senseilecuck7974 4 When that time comes, seven women will grab hold of one man and say, “We can feed and clothe ourselves, but please let us say you are our husband, so that we won't have to endure the shame of being unmarried.” Isa 4:1 The last days are the reference, and we are fast approaching them.
Facts! Damn your favorite color, food, movie. Fellas better pay close attention to the relationship she has with her father. I’m teaching me son if not father was present in the home full time I wouldn’t consider anything other than smashing.
........wow and if the dad was not there ...or in and out....that could be extremely triggering for the woman...and if you were serious about her ...really serious...asking her about it...could seriously impact her ....emotionally.....going to her mom and asking about your concerns around her relationship..or lack thereof.. could be extremely triggering for the mom in law...and the daughter...this is so ...deep that its almost amusing ...and i would absolutely recommend doing so as i am processing this while i am typing because women...and their moms.. wouldnt ...and dont hesitate to put a man through the third degree....hmm..this was ...amusing...brilliant statement on your part...i have other observations stemming from this too...but ...i will ponder on them alone for now...
@@asiachestnut4210 True. But it’s on you to do the work before getting into a relationship with person. Get counseling and work on it so if you do get a chance at a man you wouldn’t blow it.
@@asiachestnut4210 ....miss...there is nothing wrong with getting counselling...the world bends over backwards to help women around issues with relationships...and you can use the internet to educate yourself too...do not be afraid or ashamed ...put in the work..it will make you a better woman....and change the world around you for the better...
I grew up with no father in the household and I barely knew my dad. I learned everything about being a man on my own and to hear this woman complain about her dad and she was able to go to college and get a degree and make a living for herself kind of made me upset.
Well, I think the fault is with the mother. I also had my mother say things to me that were designed to make me hate my dad. I think it was all power grab. So I always resisted it. Besides as I grew up I began to observe my mum try to control my life in ways that were suited for her benefit or just to dominate, not necessarily for my own good.
@@insomniad2514 I agree with your assessment. Especially the Boomer simps. They failed to check this mess when modern feminism got its start in the 1970s. Been a train-wreck ever since...
That was deep am a parent and I would say I wasn't a perfect son my mom raised me good alone I didn't do enough to appreciate her but I did try now I know how it feels when you raise a child do everything for for her then ask her to wash dishes and she has tantrums like you asked her to climb kilimanjaro it is not a good feeling
30 years old, happily married and we are building our lives from scratch and doing therapy. It's not easy to communicate and be vulnerable but my marriage is my most important investment, more than my job and my education. My colleagues will not wipe my bum when the time comes and vice versa. 🙌🙌🙌
Before the divorce, my ex pressured my kids to stop calling me dad, and call me by my last name! I worked, came straight home, never cheated, tried my hardest, but still wasn't good enough! Never again!
When I hear “I feel” a lot in a convo...it’s already over. Why? Because that’s not something you can prove or disprove. It’s a woman’s Big Joker. And feelings change like Tennessee weather. So...good luck.
I’m not stupid enough to sign a legally binding contract that allows for the woman at any time to go to a lawyer, say the words “Irreconcilable Differences”, and get my life savings, my house, my retirement money, take my kids away, alimony….. AND I would have to pay HER lawyer fees. No thank you!
"I hate having to work against the narrative that black women are unhappy and angry...." OK, you just got out of a relationship, why did you break it off? "I was unhappy".
That was spot on. I'm a Black Father who has 2 Beautiful daughters, a son and grandson. All 3 graduated from high school. My daughters both work for a hospital and my son is in college. I've been married for 27yrs. And my children love me so much for being there and supporting them.
I'm glad for ya dude sounds like an enviable life. You did mention married for 27 years I'm certain your wife was working for that success too. Give her a large thumbs up!
You are a good person, growing up with out a dad has always be my biggest hurt. And I know him but he never has said happy birthday to me I don’t think he knows my bday
guys, as a man, this call made me very scared, it is scary that u can get married, work hard all day and ur wife can just say "im not happy" at any time and leave you
As a single woman, I’m sorry that is a legitimate fear that men have. I hope that all the good men get good loving women and they stay in a happy relationships. Sending love to you and yours! ❤️
I have a brother whose wife said she'd leave him to my face over some small stuff. I shook my head. My brother works hard. Graduated college, degrees.....DJ's...works at the college he graduated from. It is scary. He was raised very well. I don't understand it myself.
My ex girlfriend was exactly like this. She had so much hate in her heart and such amount of crazy anger issues in her. She tried to play the victim in literally every argument we had. We use to argue over the dumbest things ever. She had it all. Mom, dad, and a great sister great home, her dad bought her a brand new 2018 Jeep Cherokee. She was going to a private college in LA. I on the other hand. Father in prison, trying to make it right with my mother because of some drama we had when I was younger . I was also raised by grandparents. Both passed away. Doing what I can to make ends meet. I’m glad she broke it off with me because things could of gotten worse by the way I’m listening to this conversation.
This issue transcends race. This hurts every man that's a father or may want to be a father someday. No father that a stand up guy wants an ungrateful child(ren)
Yea it ain’t as bad for you or maybe it is because this is a white people problem that BLACK WOMEN JUMPED IN TO FIGHT our women had major roles in our African society and was leaders in they own right not leaders of men but leaders of health an womanly things while we were the leaders of the land and manly things we eventually became slaves took on a western society that never valued women and white women would eventually stand up but just like slavery y’all got the black woman to fight the white womans battle but yea it does affect y’all to bud
thanks for this Kevin, this is missing, the institutions and everything else have taught us to be like this woman, I'm finally growing out of this and wish everyone to do the same!!!
I'm Moroccan and i'm watching the entitlement on these American women with a whole lot of amazement. This makes me appreciate it even more that we still have traditional values in our own society.
@@theraphachukwu I'm a South Africa and my wife is a traditional woman from KZN. I wouldn't say that our women are entilrd but rather some women like to copy black American culture rather than sticking to their string African roots and culture, alot of South Africans like to copy and mimics black Americans and its quite annoying but black Americans don't copy any africans throughout the continent.
@@theraphachukwu This entitlement is slowly creeping in our African culture. Even here in Kenya young women are on Onlyfans but call themselves Queens.
Remember it isn't always his choice. Most often it isn't. Usually that is all he wants from you. Not taken care of in his old age, or a y of that. He managed to be a Dad, though a bad relationship, he can handle anything. That you appreciated his efforts, and hopefully learned how to make a good life. That is a father's dream.
@@sweet_beginnings_2740 that's the issue, that a lot of people go into relationships broken and not happy with themselves looking for their partner to fill that void in themselves and it's not fair to either party. The key point is that you are happy with you and your spouse adds to that and is not the source of it, that's a mountain that no one else is responsible for but you male or female you have to do the work or it just won't work out.
I have to agree with that statement. I think people are responsible for their own happiness. My husband and I realized that years ago. He is not here to make me happy but he definitely contributes to my happiness ❤️❤️
I'm actually curious where he's getting the idea that black women are mostly unhappy. It's news to me! 🤯 I genuinely trying to research this silly and baseless ideology and seriously can't. Nothing even close comes up. Personally, I'm one of the happiest people that most my friends know😂
Sir, the key part of your address is to be greatful of what you got, sometime we got things better than most, greatful to your parents and other people who provide that. Thank you sir ! Much appreciated, I am subscribing to your channel 👍
I have hope she'll reflect on this and one day - not too soon, and before it's too late - she goes to her father, apologises, and hugs him. And he sounds like the kind of man who'd be man enough to accept it.
I feel your pain, these black women are on a level of entitlement I never thought possible. Your women seem to have all the problems ours do, to the extreme. But at least it's only your women who slander you. As a white man, it's not just feminazis, it's BLM too.
"What the french toast..." Wowser. Also a Kevin here. This Kevin is truly raw, honest, insightful, and gives it to you straight up, no cola, no chaser.
As a single man with no children, more and more I hear from many married folks from all races who tell me that they ‘love’ their husband/wife but if they had to do it all over again, they wouldn’t get married. Profound man.
@Attila Steele Wow your truth was refreshing! And this is coming from a black woman. And what’s crazy is this is not the first time I’ve heard this from BM...including the cheating part....
@@DivinelyMadeCece the discussion is currently speaking of your group.. can’t stay focused on that tho. Unbearable crop of childish women. ** u remind me of the famously spoken quote by children (I know u are but what am I) ... what are u twelve. I pray the Most High returns quick. The world will continue to regress would your definition of accountability.
@@steeleexec.647 Loyalty is not a gender issue but a moral issue. Broad statements about "all" women do this and "all" men do that- are offensive and only bring strife. A good woman is like a diamond in a backyard full of weeds. You have to cut the grass, uproot the weeds and push through the rocks to find her. But she is out there.
My dad came and picked me up from my mom's house and never took me back and I'm so grateful for it. Was he a perfect dad no but I seen how much my girlfriends wished to have a present father.
When you are the best version of yourself you age both a gift to yourself & society. Men cannot fix broken women if they are not willing to take those first few steps.
The part that I don’t get, after listening to many of these red pill websites, is how can American women expect an amazingly accomplished man when they are lazy & nothing special.
