I had a date once while, driving through an exclusive area, he said "there is black family living here,I wonder what they do for living" just because its a high earn area does not mean black people can't live there and to question their source of income?😠 I told him right away turn the car around and take me back home and he thought I was joking. But I meant it and he took me back. I won't take such nonsense. Our people work hard too and we deserve a good life.
It is a John Crow reverse psychology they use calling us angry black women..they know it stings at us to get us upset to validate calling us dat, because they want to spread propaganda that we are not humans with feelings like them, BUT ..HELLO, God made us with thick melanin that can handle and survive anything, and that is part of the jealousy of them hating us. Black people psyche and physique is sexy and built like Teflon.. black don't crack..our hair can be styled in so many different ways, our beautiful endowed buttocks is making them want the same, our melanin pops and they go to tanning beds. Young black kings and queens--know how others wished they were created like us. RAW TRUTH, that they do not like to confront, but use racism and prejudice to keep us down, yet we still rise in all circumstances. . .ironically, we respect all races why many blacks marry all races and endure the racism from their inlaws and extended non black family members..love, peace and happiness to all mankind on God's earth. 🙏🙏🙏🙏 💘💜💛
You're right Adanna... I don't think people understand the violent psychological, mental and emotional impact racism has on us.... Sending soo much love to all Black people.
When will blacks understand plain and simple that there are SOME people who DO NOT CARE, it doesn't affect them. There are ppl who love to EXPLOIT black pain also. This is true.
Adanna....every Black woman who watched this video has experienced SOME racism in their lives. There were NO words needed when you rolled your eyes....I felt it in my soul and the sentiment resonated with so many of us. No words were needed.....your message was loud and clear. I could feel and see the tears of hurt well up in my eyes, and as you were sharing your experiences with racism, the tears were flowing and I couldn't stop them from falling. The hurt is REAL, but we still rise and live out our God-given purpose and destiny through it all. I wish I could just give you a hug to let you know I share your pain. I respect you so much and praise God for the blessings He has bestowed on us as strong Black Women. We can do all things through Christ Who strengthens us, and I have faith, the Most High will make things right in His own time. Thank you so much for sharing this and allowing us to see EVEN YOU....that none of us are exempt from experiencing this sickness and mental illness of Racism. Stay strong Sister....we shall overcome!! I love you!! ♥
Not by hate or bitterness or trying to get even. Humility comes before honor and God forgives those who forgive others. Hanging onto resentment or trying to get even is not the way Christ tells us to be. Love overcomes hate and casting our cares on the Lord -- letting go and letting God have it causes peace and prosperity. Otherwise youre helping the devil
@Autumn Chambers Your idea of beautry must be Caucasian features, a light complexion and straight hair. She is a beautiful black woman. Regardless of what you think, she has what is important, intelligence and a proper education and has been able to acquire her medical certificate. I wonder what are your qualifications?
The weirdest thing here in Kenya is we as Africans treatings whites better especially in hotels....another thing is even among blacks,light skinned people are treated better than the darker toned people.
I heard that from a white friend of mine who visited Kenya for work. She was a bit shocked at how the employees at the hotel were proud of the colonial history and making some cringe remarks about the colonial history of the hotel.
I have a friend who went through his residency forced to work so many hours. He got the weekends, calls schedules, that others should have gotten. He worked and worked so many long hours. As we know, the Devil means things for bad: but God means it for good. He became the head of that medical university department, the number one Doctor and instructor in his field. He is now in his seventies and is the most respected and known Maxillofacial surgeon in the state. He is Ghanian!
God sees it all. Sometimes I feel God just allows things to happen just to teach everyone a lesson. I am so happy it ended well for this man, it warms my heart and gives me courage.
David, don't be naive, that receptionist was very rude to Adanna. She knew exactly what she was doing. It was deliberate, not "unconscious". Next time, please defend your wife. Adanna, you are so beautiful, intelligent, funny and accomplished. You radiate confidence and class. I salute you both for doing this video.
Man...I was thinking the exact same thing. I have to be honest, I am so disappointed in David for making any sort of excuse. There is no excuse for anyone to be callous to the woman you love.
Please defend your wife more David . The reality is part of being married to her means you addressing these issues with the people that do this . You could request to speak to the manager and formally complain after attending to sweet Kian’s needs . I love you both all the same!!
I had the same situation at a dealership. I bought a car at a different dealership. I went back to that dealership and asked to speak to the manager. Showed him my sales receipt and said this is the amount of money you missed because of your racist employee. He called that employee over and questioned him in my presence. The employee stumbled. I did not stop there. I wrote the manufacturer. They bought my contract and gave me a very substantial discount on a new car. Economic power is something we have to show them.
Thanks for sharing this and I'm sorry you had to experience that. I'm really inspired by you and know exactly how to respond if this ever happens to me!
Yes, I have said that it is all about economics. We spend 1.3 trillion dollars and if we come together collectively, we are a force to be reckoned with and the racist muzungu will be groveling at our feet.
Two things: 1. Do not give your hard earned money to racist - you never should have bought the car from that dealer. 2. Adana, you never should have sat down when the receptionist told you to sit down. You allowed her to be in control. You are a beautiful couple - I love your honesty. Here is a story: I lived abroad in the 70s and was going to be disrespected in a butcher shop, I am a Black ( Afro Caribbean) Woman with an Angela Davis hairdo and this white person comes into the butcher (to whom I am speaking with; ordering food for our home with three servants) and orders two chops, like I am not there! Now, since I had a large order, under normal circumstances, I would have said to the butcher, go ahead and help her. No, I said to her in her language, “ look at my face and never, never forget it” and continued with my order. She left the butcher. On another occasion, she came in, saw me and turned around and left. Fast forward, a white colleague who was returning stateside, had a farewell party. Where? This same woman’s home. When my colleague introduced me, this same woman said, “oh, yes we have met, how are you and welcome”! This happened close to 50 years ago and I learned a lesson - people see your black face and immediately designate you to a subservient. ADANA, YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE UPSET AND ANGRY!
Claudettr Lewis Yes! Do not give your money to a racists. I'll go a step further and say that we should look up reviews of places and if the reviews do not match the service , then walk right back out...
And Adanna trust me when I tell you, you are NOT overreacting. I cut so many people off because they can not understand the significance of our struggle. Someone even stated “white privilege doesn’t exist.” I had to stand up for myself while so many are used to us being down.
I still remember a white guy spitting on me while i was waiting for the train... i was so confused and dazed for days! I had micro aggressions at my work place and it was weird to me cos I'm coming from Nigeria...not familiar with racism. Sigh.
This guy I dated give one guy a blow to the ground because he said something racial....lol...I didn't even hear it, it was so quick I o ly saw the guy on the ground. I pulled him away real quick.
Yes and also this is more reason for why Addana needs christ in her life. Inorder to help her children and husband David and herself. Through challenges like this
This video has made me reevaluate my life as the only black person in my job. I have been overlooking alot of stuff but this has triggered some deep emotions. I understand 100% how Adanna feels.
Realizing it's because you're black is the worst disillusionment. And then you want to go back to how life was before realizing you're hated by the whole planet because of your skin color. THIS is why the bleaching industry is poping like it is. Trillion dollar industry.
They ask those questions about the house car etc because they don’t expect the average black person to have money because they withhold the good jobs from us. Just like they thought you were the janitor Adannna because that’s as far as their expectations of us go. Not because we’re not capable but because they intend to keep us down. My 3 rd comment. Sorry
Amazing how things are exactly the same even in South Africa. In our previous residence that we owned they used to ask the security guard about the new black couple and the cars we have. Ever so subtle but we see the racism all the time.
No matter how much education and job experiences you have had they still think you are poor and not smart if you are black, especially if you are dark skin. The intention is sinister and 100% planned. I agree. This is worldwide.
I have been soo reluctant of telling my stories because they’re plenty ... I’ve been loosing sleep and feeling down also.I feel for you Adana ... I had the experiences with visiting appartements,also in my studies and work... Being born in Belgium and grew up there I felt like I belonged there but then I was hit by harsh reality of racism!! It made me move to London and leave my family behind ... It is still raw!! To David just pls be reactive to any comments made to your wife so she doesn’t have to fight this alone ! Thank you for sharing
She certainly was! It goes to you! Even your fame and fortune does not matter. She the most famous women in world. But still get treated as a 2nd class citizen. This is why.we are protesting. We will not be silence. For your stupidity!
0prah changed. She went and joined the globalist cabal. That trouble she got into about her orphanage and school for girls in africa wasnt a coincidence. And she was aware and in charge. Just like with Weinstein. She changed from her early days self.
I left my permanent post as a nurse because of racism. It's mentally and psychologically draining. I was having panic attacks going to work. I couldn't stand it anymore
Schooling in Spain being the only black girl in the class was so difficult sometimes I have no body to do group project or class group activities. Now am working with kids in holiday hotels and I still receive this question from the kids or even from some adults"why is your colour black? " i dont like blacks and some will be like Mummy am not going to kids club because I dont like black , some perents will not bring their kid to kids club because am there but when my workmate (white)is there you will see all of them in kids club which really hurts a lot. The same thing with the adults when I coordinate activities for adults they will give you this bitter face (I will say in my mind "men you are on holiday and am here to make your holiday fun") which always make me to ask my self questions . Do I smell ? Is anything in my face? What is wrong? .Sometimes when I got home I will cry over it and it really make me stronger and face whatever tomorrow brings No body deserve to be treated differently. We are all ONE ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽✊🏼✊🏻✊
Sad to read about your experience and I can imagine how emotional you must have consumed. I am happy you are able to find peace and intentionally feeding your mental mind positive vibes.
You are foremost a child of Yahusha our Elohim...the Bible is about our history. You are a chosen race by Yahusha,and the hate that you are facing is written in the Bible about our disobedience to The Father...but just know that when He returns...what was taken will be placed back in our hands. Just keep reading and studying your Bible and doing your best to adhere to His Laws and commandments. Yah knows everyones heart...but let Him know yours. Love you and keep your faith and love & trust in Yah.
The S&F Life lmao I can’t relate I went to a certain university in England and projects and assignments was the worst coz I was picked last , lonely sometimes but when you’re black you get used to it ... coz u can tell that people are not interested in you !! I can see know that although I overcame, I am not really bothered out making new friends cos I jut fill like no one really cares about my emotions lmao, So yes racism comes in all shapes and form. Now I know being left out intentionally is not ok 👍🏽.. But in the other hand it’s also hard to fit in when you know people don’t want you there ..However I learned that sometimes you just have to be your own best friend and enjoy your own company, it’s sad but hey 👋 that’s our narrative well for most of us !!
Thank you guys for this! I have been crying at the drop of a dime. The little kids in my neighborhood organized a peaceful protest the other day...I sobbed! I am in Texas, let me tell you, Never has our race had so much obvious support. Thank you to all of the people of other races who are fighting with us.
Imagine: The older people being told by the Little kids that Racial Discrimination is evil and it is Cruelty to another human being- for no reason at all Except for her/his skin colour! God bless those little children. - I wonder whether they were all races or just Black.
It is a blessing Adanna, to not be saddled with the baggage from micro aggressions and implicit racism in your formative years. Side note, I still remember when Kian was hurt as preschool. I thought, she better watch her kids. I was even worried about your care when pregnant. I just didn’t want to add to any negativity. I’m saying it now. Even as they grow up. Watch those damn teachers too.
Talking about teachers. Schools are the worse for any black boy who speaks his mind when he is not happy or feels offended in school like my boy. I had to tell them that I am a social worker so please no.lanelling my child as the problem but the school is as his classmates are making fun of his African name to which the school did not do anything about it. I told them off and follow with a complaint. Please we should not under any circumstances to subject to any racist behaviour.
The damage racism has caused in the lives of Black people, “saddled with the baggage” is the effect that Black people will carry, until racism is eradicated. Adanna may wear a beautiful smile, but that woman is hurting. Take off the blinders.
Adanna, your raw emotion during this video is so amazing! Every eye roll and heated moment was needed!!!!! Glad you two were able to express your experiences 💞 loved watching this!
So true. You two keep your family together and strong. Continue to support and be honest with each other. Let your love and family be your bond which gives you the foundation to fight racism.Don't let it poison your family's life.
Adanna, I felt your pain. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m a black man from Southern Africa who trained in medicine in North America and is married to a Latino. We also have biracial kids. I can only say that your experiences after med school were horrific. I have not had it as bad as you have, but I want you to know that I am with you and with all other black people like us. Enough is enough. Please continue to take care of your mental health. I also have a very supportive spouse, like David. Aluta continua!
this made me tear up. Adanna you are the epitome of strength, resilience, and grace and I admire that about you so much. As a black- American, it is extremely tough daily but I always try to shake the table and to make people be comfortable with the uncomfortable. Enough is enough and we are simply tired of being tired. This was incredibly necessary!
Thank you guys for this video. I had a job with a reputable company in England and after six months my boss told me that they don’t have anymore funding for my post; so they ended up getting rid of me diplomatically 😄 However when I was working for them, they were using my pictures to promote diversity. After I left they offer the post to a white lady and afterwards they contacted me asking if it’s ok to continue using my pictures on their websites and posters. I simply told them no.... if I’m not good enough to work for you then my black face is definitely not good to promote you business. The thing that upset me more is when I found out that they got rid of me because I’m a refugee from west Africa 😢. The boss told another colleague that they should not allow refugees in the company. That really broke me because I give my all in my work. Thank you for this video.
So sorry this happened to you 😔 what is the name of the company? The problem is when we keep silent they continue to get away with it. And I for one don't want to be potentially putting my money into a company that behaves this way.
I could not imagine being married to a white man and him not being able to understand what we’ve been through as a race. He could only sympathize but never empathize. With that being side this has been one of the best videos I have seen from an interracial couple on racism. Thank you for addressing it!
@@luxelife2863 facts !!!!!!!!! So people always quick to jump down white man throat for there lack of true meaning and knowledge but fail to realize they don’t treat women the same as men of color and if they do it still doesn’t compare I believe smh
Adanna I feel your pain. We as black people have endured so much despite the successes we've had. We as a people have been mentally traumatised by our oppressors and the systems they left in place. David thanks for being such an honest person. Our world is a much better place because of people like you. May God bless you both.
I’m from NYC so you can imagine everything that I’ve been seeing, experiencing and listening to. I’m 57 years old and while I haven’t dealt with active racism on a daily basis, I’ve gone through enough to know that people, Mankind, need to wake up. Racism in any form is intolerable but there’s also religious persecution happening. Racism is a problem world-wide, but in this country, it’s rooted 400 years going back to slavery. I’ve always found it difficult to reconcile that the US is big on talking but not practicing what is preached. The first few lines of out Constitution mentions that “all men are created equal” but when it was written; blacks weren’t seen as equals. There are still many white people here who still believe, in 2020, still believe that blacks aren’t equal. I’m tired of it. Just speaking my mind. I love you guys! ❤️
Philinda Bell..كم هو مُؤلِم تعليقك..أنا مسلمة مُتحجٌبة لا أشعر بالأمان عندما أزور أبنائي في أمريكا و أمشي في شوارع الحيّ..أخاف أن يطلق أحدهم كلبه عمدا عَلَيٌَ ثمّ يقول كذبا : انفلت منّي الحبل.. لاحظت أنّ الأغلبيّة من الأمريكيّين يكذبون كما يتنفّسون و لا ضمير لهم
David, I do not agree with the "subconscious" argument. Racists know exactly what they are doing! But, I applaud you for having the courage to talk about it!
@@aaisha5985 it was every bit intentional AND HE'S SMART enough to KNOW exactly what it was. Also he should ALWAYS be physically by her side wherever they go so he can SPEAK UP for ANY disrespect shown to her. He's not speaking up for her at all it seems. There's things I picked up on this couple from yrs back and stopped watching. He married a black WOMAN adanna refers to herself as a black girl and him a white MAN. SHES a WOMAN not girl. Sorry abt this rant. Im like am I seeing and. Hearing what im hearing, is it me? Is anyone else picking up on some things going on here?
Talking about it? Just recount of racial experiences that breaks her down or make her said?, BUT what should he THE HUSBAND, the WHITE PRIVILEGE MAN really need to do?? SUPPORT WHAT IS RIGHT AND SPEAK UP for his Wife immediately. Use his prividege. Just my opinion.
Strong Topic! My advice; as your children get older be very careful what schools they attend. The people you leave then around. My mother died when I was ten I went through hell. I learned to be strong, resourceful and a source to be reckoned with. I'm just saying.
I feel you my brothers and sisters. I feel your pain, I hear your cries and I see you tears. In this time and moment we are not alone. Our ancestors are we us. The are hearing us. And they are letting us know not to give up hope. We are the descendants of KINGS and QUEENS. We are FIGHTERS and we are RESILIENT. We always RISE and we will continue to RISE. Let's support each other, do not leave anyone behind and let's not allow anything or anyone trying to divide us. We are all fighting for the same cause no matter where we are in this world. They call us BLACKS. And we are PROUD to be BLACKS. We are WORTHY and we are now ready to let the world know that. We are so so PROUD to come from a long line of GREATNESS and UNIQUENESS. We are not saying we are special. However we know that we are UNIQUE. Let us rise again brothers and sisters. TOGETHER IN ONE!✊🏿🙏🏿
Agh!!! Thank you Adana for capturing this! I’ve been feeling super sad and emotional through all this. I’m African but have lived in the states most of the time. I’m so frustrated about all of this and it’s wonderful to feel reflected in your struggles with this too
I am a Kenyan lawyer I once went to buy a phone in a town in Europe all of a sudden my debit card was not working because the lady doubted my ability to pay. When I asked for the supervisor the card suddenly worked. Being the Africa I am a let her know.
I know this may be hard to say ,but will this kind of behavior ever change completely? How can it be that you treat me differently because I have a different skin tone. We have so much in common "WHITES AND BLACKS " we laugh, cry, give birth , eat ,we have all the same organs in and out of our bodies, we are the same and the tone of my skin says I'm not human? ??, you are better than me.? MY GOD ,this is pass IGNORANCE I don't think there is a word that is fitting enough to capture this nonsense.
Thank you Adanna for being the voice some of us need. I am a nurse working in an Irish hospital, trained in Nigeria. It was so difficult during my first few months, so much hate, meanness, bullying, I couldn’t complain to anyone cause they will encourage me to quit. I remember one particular month, I cried almost every shift, I lost my self confidence, almost lost myself. Things are much settled now but I was only strong and kept going back cause God gave me strength.
I live in Dublin. Do you mind sharing where you work? I am Nigerian btw. Every workplace must have an anti bullying policy. Plus the open disclosure bill protect everyone who complains.
I hope you are undergoing therapy for this presently? Don't ignore the damage. Left untreated, it can flare up anywhere & st anytime likely causing further damage!
@@Lisimbika What's wrong with that term? I'm a Black woman and I've never heard anyone be offended by that term. So I'm just curious as to what about that term is offensive.
I’m now watching this in July of 2021 and you both are so refreshing. I wish I could sit with you both for a personal conversation. Your platform is necessary. Please, keep on being the change we need to see.
I’m glad you had the circle of friends and David. I left Nigeria at 19 for my first degree in Italy. I was very shocked when I experienced my first discrimination. I would go to class and no one would sit on my row in class, no one wants to be in the same group(the prof was frustrated one day and asked them why, they said because they don’t think I know the material, aka I am dumb). My class mate would marvel each time I got a cum laude and ask how I did it. We were only 2 blacks in a class of almost 60 people. I was depressed for months in a row. Stopped attending classes and just came during exams. Fast forward, I finally got out of there and moved to Canada. Things are better now. I know subtle racism exists here because my friends complain a lot. The saddest part is, I have been so used to discrimination that even when they complain I start to wonder where the racism is. This is mainly because my mind have seen so much racism in life that I am now numb to it. The defence part of my mind goes: I have seen worse in Italy, what else can you do, if they didn’t succeed in driving me crazy, you can’t. When I reflect now, it seems like a very sad thing, it is a very sad thing.
Yeah in comparison North America and Canada are the least racist in the world i believe. . . Yet these political forces are using all their media platforms to try and push race wars here and genderism ageism sexism all for their agenda. They own all the biggest media platforms so the globalist progressives think they will overthrow our nation but we are protected by the most high God.
Hello bad as it seems at least you lived in a country where you didn’t experienced racism for a while it’s a black woman in her 60s I’ve experienced it all my life and now they’re finding out the different things with trauma high blood pressure paranoia can be caused by systematic racism all your life and also passed down through your family if your parents were living in an area where they were fearful for their lives because of the color of their skin so at the age of seven I experience through a plan, call the finger plan integrate the school system we were taken out of our neighborhood and bused into an all white school cold turkey there were great positives and negatives and then things seem to get better but now it but I can see Newhope new change eyes are really being open worldwide truth is being revealed and and great change is here🙏🏾😇
Very powerful shares of your experiences, Adanna and David! How stark the differences in treatment sometimes are is astounding! It crushes the soul and the spirit for sure for us who go through that
This was a great start to getting conversations started. I will share it with other people, because some very examples of systemic racism. Much appreciated!
I was so glad that I was able to watch this. We are not okay. The covert/overt racism that I have experienced over the years does take a toll on your psyche. I’m praying that this will be the spark of change that this world needs. Thank you for using your platform to open dialogue on this issue. Blessings to your family. ❤️
Adanna sorry to to hear about some situations you have experienced. I myself have been through even more. I am so heartbroken of what's going on in the world today. I can feel the pain of my sisters and brothers around the world. We are tired. When will this end? David you are a man with wisdom. God bless.
Honestly, I'm tired... As an educated black woman (I just don't understand why), born in the late 50s raised in the 60s & coming of age in 70s! I not only remember the grassroots of social change, organizations like SCLC, NAACP, SNC, PAC, and men like Malcolm X, Kenyatta, Nelson Mandela and Martin King just to name a few... I also was involved in the integration of the Detroit Publuc Schools, because my parents had moved into a predominantly white neighborhood! I remember sit-in and peaceful protests to have African Studies class added to the curriculum of a predominantly white schools, or addressing the need for teaching staff to reflect our culture, or at the least comfortable with having black students in their classrooms! I remember being the only black student in my University classes, before we students got together and formed study and social activist groups! The limitations I've experienced in Corporate America, not because of my abilities, but simple because I happen to be a black woman, are far to many to showcase here... I've learn to work harder, smarter, and to push forward as much as possible in my life and career! I retired 5 yrs ago, reaching that illustrious glass ceiling! This pass week has weighted me down... I keep asking myself "Why, in 2020 are we still in the same place as 1960?" To watch those police officers kill George Floyd because he was a black man (I have 2 black sons) was simply heartbreaking 😢 there I said it! What didn't we do in the 60s, 70s, 80s, and 90s to change things? I don't understand, I'm tired, I'm numb, I'm angry!!! I am also holding on so tightly to Dr King words "We must learn to live together as brothers, or perish together as fools!"
I feel you Adanna, I live in Geneva most of the white people won't sit next to me/black... Lol I honestly don't give them any f I place my bag on the sit next to me and I enjoy the ride and let them enjoy the standing until they grow some fresh brains!!!
When people respond all lives matter is like people talking about autism saying all disabilities matter. They do but that is not what the conversation is about.
The fact you obeyed the receptionist and sat down is making me angry. Adanna you're a Nigerian and we're not known to take nonsense from anybody. You're a gorgeous woman, don't let anyone put you down
I'm so glad I watch this. I've been feeling a little bit guilty about how I feel. It was nice to hear you sing the exact same things that I've been feeling. Most of my friends are white because of the area that I live in and so many of them if not most of them are silent. I've just been unfollowing and staying away from so many people because of how I've been feeling inside. I don't hate them but I need to protect my space. Thank you for sharing so candidly with us. Here in the US it is a very sad time to be black. But I have realized that no matter where we go in this world we face racism unless we are the majority. That is very unfortunate. We have so much love, Talent, and so much more to give. From one black woman to the other I can say I'm proud of your accomplishments and you deserve much much respect.
A realtor once told me "you know this house is not cheap " its 170 thousand usd ? I said yes. Just to prove her wrong I bought the house stayed there for 1 yr sold it cheap 30 thousand dollars less . When this realtor saw the house being advertised she called me and wanted to sell it so she can have a cut. I refused. I sold it myself and she called me crying because she missed out on her percentage. That was when I reminded her of the statement she made and was so silent over the phone until I hung up the phone.
Kenyans are sharp!!!!!👌they are everywhere..I love this!!!just reading every comment everywhere and I see people commenting We are fighting this soo hard
Thank you for sharing your experience with racial injustice, particularly when you say: "...who do you complain to? or "...I did not have my audience to listen to me..." This is profound and compelling. ❤
These stories of interracial relationships, just tell me how it is so important to know what you're getting yourself into when you marry interracially, especially when the relationship is between white and Black. Your partner's problems become your problems, their battle becomes your battle, you cannot stand aside and leave the other partner to fight alone. Unless the white partner understands how racism works, the Black partner is the one left to deal with the psycological trauma of racism on their own.
Thank you for this raw, but real conversation. Its interesting that even within your relationship the dynamics of subconscious racism or level of unknowing. Adanna your eye rolls was everything. Keep educating, we know that love conquers hate, and knowledge dispels fear ✊🏽
I wouldn't have bought the car. The entire issue pisses me off. I had an experience with an Uber driver who didn't know I'm black before he arrived to pick me up, when he saw me he literally drove off almost hit me. This took a turn on me Emotionally. I sent Uber an email and they sent an email of apology. That was one of the most disappointing moment, can't believe we're dealing with this in 2020. Many more instances I can't even begin. It's jaw dropping. You look guys look great.
Licia I am so sorry this happened to you, thing with people not being able to tell whether people are black on the phone half of us do not distinctive cultural tonalities associated with black culture . It seems you fall into that category, which is why this pushes you on the front line of hate.This is really brutal. He could have stepped out of the car and harmed you physically.
This is so sad. Thank you for sharing. I remember my first racism experience as an African, I was at the gym and a white lady was using the threadmill. There was an empty threadmill beside her and I was about jumping on it. Then she goes, oh! It's not working. My ignorant self thought she was being polite so I said, thanks. I moved over to another vacant threadmill and just for me to look back few minutes after, I saw another white person using that exact threadmill that was supposedly broken. Mhen, I cannot find the right words to phantom how bad I felt that day. I never went back to that gym cause I was shattered. The feeling of walking innocently on the street and seeing these ignorant people clutching their purses as you pass by. Dear black people, let's keep pushing, let's keep speaking up and let's never give up! Don't forget, the best revenge is your success ✊🏿. Also remember to lift other black people up when you get to the top! I will never stop hoping for a better world.
Aww Adanna. I saw episodes of Grey's Anatomy with racist patients. I am so sorry you had to endure such levels of racism om the job. You are a strong woman. We love you and your work. Bises from Jamaica.
Thank you Adanna for sharing your thoughts, wisdom and knowledge on your experiences on racial abuse. Am truly inspired and grateful to you for using your voice, speaking out about racial prejudice. Love you guys for speaking out so eloquently xxx
Hy Adanna and David, I’m new to your channel, this dialogue is so powerful and very true. I’m a black person living in the US and this racism issue is very dark. With the swearing of the new president in January, I’m hoping this racism problem will create a new change in the US and all over the world. It’s very very sad but let’s keep hope alive. I’m loving your topics and discussions.
I wish they had engaged another dealership and bought the car.Then casually drive into the racist dealership place and told them “Oohhh we are here to let you know we found the car.Remember the one that wasn’t available for a test drive ?” Sort like the Julia Robert’s (Pretty Woman)situation with the snotty clothing store lady😌
@Gena Bonds That attitude will keep you in bondage. God says pride comes before a fall. Humility comes before honor. Dont give the devil a foothold . QUASH IT
Me too my energy is off cnt sleep can barely eat just feel uneasy..i dnt let racism slide CHALLENGE IT..im not to be messed with my mind is my weapon..SPEAK UP ..ADANNA...N DAVID BACK HER!!! THE CHANGE STARTS WITH US..SPEAK UP!!!!
Oh, how I can relate as an International Student from GH, now working in Corporate America and the fact that it's still happening (this week) even in this current environment... smh. Still, We Rise!! We are Overcomers
Awesome, guys. It’s wonderful that you’ve addressed these issues. Adanna is so self assured, accomplished and educated, that I’ve always wondered if these issues had touched you, and have wondered if racism is as bad in Europe as in the US. I was beyond saddened and even enraged that your, no doubt, wonderful uncle (I’ve seen so much of your family, so I’m sure he was) was killed. I’ve been sick since I witnessed Mr. Floyd’s public execution, because that’s what that was. You are sooo entitled to your reactions to people’s and “friend’s” insensitivity. Enough. And, you are right that white people must educate themselves. It’s not the black communities’ job to do it. The onus is on us, the responsibility that comes from all the damage that has been done to black people everywhere. And we sure as h-- have no right to tell any black person how to feel. Many of us are working as allies and support the cause 100%. There are organizations which anyone can join to do this, such as SURJ (standing up for racial justice) here in the Bay Area, California, an offshoot of Whites for Black Lives from L.A., which will guide us to be true allies, and not come in like some “white saviors”, which is the last thing the black peoples need. I’m sure there are organizations like this all over the world. I will say that we really need to do something about these systems that keep black people down. We are with you. All the way.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. That's why I continue to say these occurrences have cause many blacks to unknowingly be suffering PTSD. How could you not be affected longterm after suffering these atrocities almost daily for life.
This is crazy, my husband is also German and we live in Germany. So many things that you have said have happened to us and I always think I am the only one who goes through it. Wow
David, in these situations, you need to have your wife at your side, and tell these rasists, that this is your wife, and that you do not appreciate the way they are speaking to her, or how she is being treated. We all must stand up, at all times.
Bob Builder IN YOUR OPINION!! Did you not just watch and LISTEN to Adanna saying she allows David to take the lead, and represent the family, when she is being discriminated against??? (Which I’m not sure why she wouldn’t stand up for herself)....Nowhere did they say how David handled the situation, besides FaceTiming her the homes, pretty much, accepting the discrimination, or taking the babies in to the doctor, while his wife sits in the next room, 🤯. So, BEING THAT THIS IS AN OPEN FORUM, WHERE STATING YOUR OPINION, AND LEAVING A FEEDBACK IS WELCOMED, I DID!! PERHAPS YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS IRRELEVANT.🤫
Thank you for the most honest conversation I have heard so far from RU-vid vlogers. David, thank you for understanding as much as you do about our pain and Adana, my heart goes out to you for the pain and disrespect you have gone through as a professional committed to helping people who refuse to acknowledge your position simply because of the color of your skin. I love your hearts, and may God continue to bless you.
I live in canada. Happen to be only black person female who works in my work place. So we got a new director. A white male. On his first day, he walked into the room full of employees saw me ignores all other employees and starts to size me down, stares at my hair (braids) clothes etc for like 5 minutes. All eyes turned on me. It was visibly a racist attack. Left me feeling so small and unwanted. Cried on my way home. Meanwhile I'm a grown woman with a daughter. Sad sad sad the things black people endure. This is only one of many racist stories I have endured
Very sad but it's important to keep written logs.If you have a union please inform them. If not,there are groups who support human rights etc. Also, if possible please get another job. All the best.
You should not feel uncomfortable. I felt sad hearing you cried because you are a strong black woman color. You come from a culture of strong people no need to feel like you need to disappear. He is the one who proved he lacks the ability of security. You missed the opportunity to say hello good morning how are you. Never allow anyone to make you feel insecure ever. Especially a white male
I have experienced hate, discrimination, my mom was spit on in the bus multiple times on multiple days by a white American woman just because she was not American. Recently I was told by an older white man on the phone that my company needs to hire people that speak English, one told me that I need to change my name to an American name in order for people to understand when I say my name. I am not even black or brown, so I cannot imagine what people of color experience every day. This country (US) promotes their "democracy" and "human rights" around the world while they are executing and murdering their own people because of their skin color. I am disgusted and furious that I live in such a world!
I enjoyed your video, I am now in my 60s but am encouraged to know that the world will be in good hands with such wonderful young people like yourselves. Continue to use your platform for good and spread an awareness of these and other life issues.
David and Adanna, thank you both so much for this in-depth video. I could relate to your experiences, Adanna. It is very sad and painful to see that things have not changed for the better over the past few decades. I want to believe and hold on strongly to that belief, that this is the new season of change in society, going forward. There will be more conversations, a better understanding and greater support in rooting out systemic, institutional and person/cultural ingrained racism. All lives will only matter when black lives matter.❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry to hear about your experiences Adanna. I see you, I hear you and I empathise with you. The test-drive one particularly struck with me because the worst case of racism I have ever experienced was at Dublin Airport! I’d booked a holiday and a rental car, only to land at Dublin in the middle of the night and was blatantly refused the car I’d paid for!! I sat at the airport and cried and because the individual didn’t see me as a human being, I ended up leaving (nearly three hours later) without a vehicle! Most humiliating and horrifying experience of my life! There are some nasty people out there.
So sorry for your experience of racism. My father went through a similar situation with the church where his money went into. The man over maintenance basically interviewed and offered my father the job of lawn maintenance over the phone(my father speaks with good diction and vocabulary) My father shows up and is turned down the job. This was so painful for him he turned away from the church. This should be the main place where racism should not exist but instead it is very prevalent.
Good stuff, thank you for sharing a very relatable experience. I also didn't know I was black until I left Africa. Take some time off this highly emotionally charged space if it's taking a toll on your mental health. Unfriending friends who you had no issues with a week ago and having trouble sleeping at night since a week ago could be a sign you may need to 'step away' from it for your own mental health. There's something like getting over stimulated by the media
Yes very powerful conversation. A good place to start is with ourselves. I notice a lot of times I see blacks treating our own in a social and business setting not a great as they treat others of a different race. It’s time for a change we are a beautiful race and good and bad is in every race stop treating people bad just based on the color of the skin.
