My husband and I are Christians and were virgins on our wedding night. I wouldn’t necessarily say nature takes its course. I took us 3 days to figure things out. Haha but when we did it was the most beautiful thing. We both cried and thanked God for making something so beautiful. That was almost 8 years ago and I still think about how special that moment was.
Age wise I could be the mother of you two, am an atheist, and have no idea how I ended up here, but you are so sweet and respectful towards each other and the viewers. All the happiness to you in your new marriage and journey in life❤️
This was suuuuuuch a taboo topic in my household. My parents never spoke a word about it. And my sisters took me to LA Senza to get some lingerie before my wedding. But still, NO TALK! LOL ! Thank you for speaking up about it!
@@aamirkhan6692They’re not talking about exactly what happened with them though they’re talking about things you need to know about marriage and it’s really important to educate the youth (teens) on this.
For a lot of guys like myself who are told by society and even women how they want to be dominated by men, it can get confusing. Women get it from novels and probably from experiences shared with them by their friends. That needs to be clarified as well.
Thats bakwaas. You dont need to make it easier on women. They like it when a man is a man. They dont want a soft husband. They like the idea of other men being like that but they dont necessarily want their man to be like that.
@wajdanali1354 It is the norm to go slow in the beginning as couple learning each other moves and body physically. Man don't realize they setting up the life and love will blossom or die with first intimasy.
Really appreciate that Dawood kept telling the guys to not force themselves on the women...to respect the women, their body and their emotions. Thank you for making this video 💕
There should be more videos out there by brothers for brothers in all languages because many Muslims still seem ignorant of the concept of consent and what intimacy is. The amount of ignorance and adherence to weird cultural traditions is scary. I can't imagine how any guy can even enjoy this when the wife is not into it, crying and forced.
In my household, to discuss such things is taboo to an extent that even though I am watching this video alone in my room far away from my parents, I am still getting uncomfortable just through listening. JazakAllah for the video and for openly educating on this topic.
Just don't force the girl bro. Form a strong bond before anything. But do tell your children when the right time comes by. If the girl did it before marriage, I guess it's still OK, or it was her choice. (Idk for you, what's your opinion on that, but for me I respect that). In either case, take your time, get to know each other and when the time comes, communicate.
@@diyashikha93 if they have done it before marriage, make sure they aren't Adulterous. Have a good convo on dis. At the end of the day, it's a personal choice if they want to marry a virgin or not.
Me and my wife we talking about all the dumb things that happened at our wedding day till 4 am 😂and it took us 2 months to get intimate with each other. U have to respect each other’s emotions and ur spouse should be able to confide in you.
@@lilianeumuhoza4993 it is because when your female partner feel pain or not comfort then male partner will skip doing intimacy, and try next day vice-versa. That is the reason it will take some time. And one more will be the reason why is both partner will be new for intimacy Hope you understood
@@nailak7948 oh you’re definitely not alone. The thing is that people need to understand that intimacy in marriage is a process. Its the little things that you do for one another that count and eventually lead upto the moment. Being able to share your thoughts with your significant other is key.
@@lilianeumuhoza4993 when you’re new to someone, it takes time for you to let your guard down and be comfortable to the point where you can get intimate with each other.
there shouldn’t be any taboo or disapproval towards muslims speaking about the first night of marriage AKA having s3x 🤭 halal sexual activity is one of the best gifts and pleasures from Allah swt and we should honestly have more influencers promoting halal relationships and marriage 🥰
@@withlove6435 well for one we're not saying to go into details of your wedding. But it's perfectly fine to talk about it in a respectful way to give tips on being gentle with your partner and to give ease to nervous couples. don't you think Muslims should be talking about this respectfully as opposed to looking on Instagram at twerk videos and brothers are getting aroused in the wrong way and having wrong ideas? Let's grow up. Promoting halal marriage and no sex before marriage is a great thing. Especially in the world we live in today and sexual images everywhere you look.
I'm a Muslim man living in Canada getting married to a Muslim girl this October... I've grown to be more Canadian and never gave a thought or considered the girl's situation, I'm glad I'm watching this video b/c now I'm like "wait a second... The reason she acts so strange is because she is terrified..." So thank you and yes more videos like this, please
i love how respectfully you guys approached this topic while at the same time being real, honest and hilarious. You guys are great role models! lots of love!!!! xx
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
My husband and I were both virgins and we waited a week just getting to know eachother and our bodies. Our relationship was strictly halal during your "dating" period. We held hands for the first time on our wedding day, we were never alone together. That's why it was so much sweeter after. So not rushing on our wedding night was important. Pray together make dua and relax.
So you can educate your kids. They shouldn't learn it by watching inappropriate stuff. Discussing this thing with children in decent way shouldn't be considered Taboo.
aight, im an 18 year old dude.... why was this on my recommended page and why did i still watch the whole 26 minutes. lol... But on a real note, like as a guy i never really watched porn or been in any realtionship (keepin' it halal), so it was kinda cool hearing u talk about the whole thing and how we should talk to our wives about it... this is some good shit, keep up the good content :)
@@Krl03 - Never too young to learn. Everyone over the age of 14 should know this stuff. Knowledge helps protect you against unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and people taking advantage of you. Personally I am flabbergasted to read of 15, 16, 17 year olds knowing nothing on this subject. Do schools no longer teach sex education?
I was a virgin when I got married. So was my husband. I actually didn’t have the pain folks often talk about. I’m not saying this to brag but rather to bring a perspective different from what me seem or be normal. I was nervous. But hubby calmed me down. He had read a lot of books and in premarital counseling our pastors talked about it.
It’s not even the fact that it’s scary I just feel nervous because I feel like it’s extremely awkward like “hey we’re naked now and stuff is happening” like how do you even face your partner after that I heard most people like to turn the lights off but a lot of people like some sort of light because they want to see their partner but like it’s so awkward and I feel like all your insecurities will come to surface because I mean come on you partner is looking at you naked uggg Idk for me I feel like it’s awkward
Nah it shouldn’t be awkward. Just make out with him and things will go with the float in a natural way! You gotta love each other! You don’t need to just stand there naked looking at one another.
@@killuaswaifux1041 - Your partner should be the President of your Fan Club. If they truely love you, then superficial things like that won't matter. And if anything nasty is said, they are not the one for you.
If you are getting married to them, and (hopefully) they are a nice and caring partner, they’ll love you exactly for what you are. Everyone had imperfections, it’s normal. I’m naked around my partner all the time and even though I have insecurities, I feel comfortable around them. Just start slowly
@@blazewarriors4360 hahaha I guess so if you think about it but what makes me more embarrassed is like on the wedding night when it's night time I'm like wondering what my family are thinking like cracking jokes or something😂😂😂
you're totaly right even for our period the mothers dont talk about it to their girls, like i was freaked out when i have it for the first time i didt know what's it, that why i told myself in futur if i had a girl i will talk about these topic and prepare her well so she want be lost like me lol hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
That's kinda true and false at the same time, cause Muslim moms (being Muslim and living in a Muslim country) sometimes talk about it but unfortunately only like a week before the wedding for her bride-to-be daughter never before or to the other daughters, I feel it's tougher for the guys since Muslim dads would never talk about it and intimidate their son when it comes to the "talk" so the guy would get into it with just his imagination and fantasy about it, cause literally a son can't walk up to his dad to ask him what to do about the wedding night
Non-muslim here learning more about Islam. Just wanted to say two things: 1.) I thought you two did a fantastic job of reassuring and being open without being too TMI. Loved it. and 2.) for the people who feel naive/immature compared to Western ideas and culture...take it from someone who learned and experienced sex in that way...I wish I had waited until I met the person that Allah meant for me to be with. You are missing out on nothing and gaining a beautiful experience many wish they had had.
Saving your virginity for your life partner and then enjoying the marital bliss is a grand and beautiful experience. Its like sharing your heart and soul with only and only your life partner. It is beautiful. I feel sad when I see people becoming more and more ignorant of that because of accepting the so called modern sexual freedom.
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
You guys were on the point. First night it was painful, so people out there please don't have any expectations. Be respectful of each other that's what matters. Marriage is about respect, happiness, caring for each other, understanding, likes and dislikes and so on.... I have 2 kids now alhumduillah, everything changed for us. We were 2 but now we are 4. Your attention divert. You have to take care of 3 now. But please girls and guys don't think your wife/husband doesn't love you anymore, they still love you the same but they got more people to love too.
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
Polygamy marriages are corruption... """And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance. To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire. In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire. Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.) Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it. This verse reminds us of the danger! Polygamy marriages come under desires!
As a muslim, I felt so uncomfortable watching this. Because of the stigma around "the first night" and how in almost all Middle Eastern cultures its 'forbidden' or 'shameful' to speak about. On the other hand, as a girl that is also about to get married I understand and support the ideology and support you both giving advice to those girls who are actually freaking out (me being one of them). No hate on my behalf. But glad your both speaking about the 'forbidden' topics to assist those most in need.
@Tara Kanaan dr is nothing to b uncomfortable n speaking about ds subject v made more difficult bcoz v people thinks v cn learn ds all when d time comes bt it's actually wrong parents shud talk to children's as dy grow up n v shud ask our besties such as chacha mama khala phupi bt it's actually not happening
honestly I don't undrestand thrm when they or you say it's forbidden because our contemporaries don't behave like a couple of decades ago. these days almost 80 perecent of young people have by-choice marriage. So I really dont believe that they aren't comfortable to talk about those kind of things with each other. to tell the truth I didnt expect that this couple hadnt had any sex before marriage,because Islamically it's ok...even before their wedding party.
Honestly I mostly blame Muslim brothers for not teaching the value women’s needs and the level of respect they deserve concerning intimacy it’s almost as if they’re afraid of the act that created them.
Its not forbidden it's rewardful even in religion of islam when it is done in right setting(halal), you might as well know the hadith of a sahaba who used to pray all night and then his wife compined about it to the prophet and he said it's better for you to spend the night with your wife than praying. It's a cultural thing I am an Indian even in our society irrespective of faith parents never talk about it, NEVER.
Polygamy marriages are corruption... """And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance. To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire. In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire. Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.) Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it. This verse reminds us of the danger! Polygamy marriages come under desires!
Before watching: like of couurse ❤❤❤ I'll write my opinion after watching the video 😉 After: seriously guys I've never excpected such a topic on your channel wallah I thought you will never talk about this .. I don't know even what to say but just THANK YOU so much for talking about this topic in such a respectful way .. So much LOVE .. MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL ❤❤❤
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I seriously love how you guys are very open minded to talk about things like that. It’s such a taboo topic in the Muslim community and I feel like it shouldn’t be bc it’s part of life. Keep it up guys❤️👏🏼
I was born in Iraq and now I live in Australia being Arabic and not knowing anything was hard but I learned in school. I think it’s just a hard topic to be open about with family specially if your not as close with them as others like your friends.But I agree
When it comes to pain, every women is different. Some experience are great and pleasurable the first time, some do experience severe pain, some don’t feel anything at all, and some only feel minor pain. All our body is different and our body react to foreign “things” differently. So yes please communicate, be patient, be respectful, and be kind. Eventually we will learn each other’s body, and everything will fall into place.
"Just be kind, caring and understanding". Honestly I love how you guys weren't embarrassed, awkward or clinical cause that energy transfers into the viewers. You mentioned points I hadn't considered or found the answers to. The comment sectioned is so wholesome and helpful just like you two. May Allah bless you with abundance of health and happiness. Ameen
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
I don’t want to watch the whole video and I obviously give my brother and sister here the benefit of the doubt, hoping they dont go over forbidden matters but I just want to leave a hadith here The Prophet ﷺ said: Among the most evil of people before Allah on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who comes to his wife and has intercourse with her, then he spreads her secrets. (Sahih Muslim 1437)
I am not Muslim, but this goes to show that everybody feels this way at some point, even “westerners.” I agree with everything you said and I think it’s important to talk about these kinds of topics, especially to people who don’t necessarily have the right information or the right people to go to. One thing I wanted to add to what you guys talked about is consent! Always always always have consent from both partners before engaging in any kind of sexual activity!
Thank for sharing your experience. I'm a.100 percent with you guys, it is a process and it doesn't have to happened on the first night. My husband was so gentle that he waited 7 days.
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Most people underestimate how tired you are after a wedding! I'm thrilled you'll talk to your kids about these subjects! It shouldn't be embarrassing. In the west we don't always know all this. We just pretend too!🙄 Your a sweet, cute couple! I'm glad your helping other couples.
I think a couple that's nervous should crack jokes and be silly about it the first few days. They don't have to take it too seriously. What would help getting in the mood is first of all getting used to touching the partner. Play with the hair of your partner, hold hands, kiss. It doesn't have to be as intense and it shouldn't induce stress. Be nice and enjoy the new "unlocked" part of life. Use protection if you don't want kids yet. And girls shouldn't pressure the husband just like the guy shouldn't pressure the wife.
I went to a gynecologist for the fist time in my life to prepare psychologically for IT. I think it's good to have a medical professional, to have them explain things to you in a very scientific way. This reassured me a lot. Speaking about our sentiment about it is also good. I think everybody speaks about what they expect for their spouse but they don't talk about what they expect about this specific situation. Talk is everthing.
You are sooo cute love your videos. I’m not Muslim or in my 20’s but the two of your are very happy and clearly in LOVE and you make my day when I see a video. You are teaching in contexts about modern Muslim young people. Wish I knew more Arabic terms but there is always google. Keep making videos!!!!
Non Muslim but here's my experience. My partner and I were both virgins but knew everything there was to know about sex. Despite that I was so tense and we were both so nervous it just wouldn't 'happen'. After a couple of failed attempts we decided to stop trying to have sex and instead focus on the intimacy and getting comfortable with our bodies. The next time we tried it just happened. We now enjoy a healthy physical relationship. My advice - go into it with NO expectations and don't forget to laugh about it after :)
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Hi Anne. May I know how often do you engage in physical intimacy? I'm going through hardship and have physical intimacy perhaps once a month. Is that common? That is perhaps 10 times in a year.
@@darkhaven87 Hi there. I believe it is different from person to person (probably depends on age as well). My husband has a very high drive and seeks physical intimacy daily. My drive is not as high so we have spoken about it to reach a compromise that meets both of our needs. We are very open in our communication which I think is essential. I also try to look at the positive..that he finds me attractive and wants to be close to me so I will make time for him. But I don't want it as much or as often as he does. On average we are initimate 3-4 days a week. Honestly though I would be perfectly fine with less and he would be delighted with more :) I have heard it is different for other couples, especially if you have children for example. Do you want it to happen more regularly? If so have you tried talking about it?
@@annefrank7005 Hi Anne, thank you for replying. This was particularly devastating information to digest. I realise it's such a personal thing. No one really talks about the normal average frequency of intimacy. I believe my husb has some medical condition? But it's not being treated immediately. Months turned to years and now its 7 years. Horrible really. It's great that you are happy with each other and it's great you have open communication. You and your partner are truly lucky.
@@darkhaven87 I am really sorry to hear that things are difficult. Maybe you could discuss how you are feeling with him and explain you would like to be closer and spend more time being intimate. In most cases the issue is psychological or stress related, not physical. It's worth talking about it to understand if he is experiencing any of this. Tiredeness also plays a big role which could be down a number of causes such as lack of sleep or even a medical condition. Consulting a doctor might help tremendously. Wishing you both the very best.
The importance of intimacy communication with your partner is just as true 10 plus years into marriage. Especially how your body feels before after having children. Also, remember that your partner is also just as nervous as you are. Exploring together is part of the journey.
You two are such a loving couple:) and a good example of being respectful to each other. I’m a Christian, older woman, and grandma. My mother didn’t tell me anything! Not even about my monthly cycle. I thought I was dying! Keep up your good work here! I’m sure you’re a blessing to many people. God Bless!❤️
My advice is that please get Nikkahed a certain time before you're married, that way you have time to bond and talk about things and form a emotional bond before the big day and night. Me and my husband were in different countries and had our Nikah 4 months before our wedding and we had made a amazing bond and we became very comfortable with each other that we were nothing but eager to spend the rest of our lives together. Hope this comment helped someone going through the stress of marriage. May Allah bless you all and answer all your prayers in these holy nights Ameen.
How did you have your nikah different countries away? Was it over zoom? Or was it in person and just contract signing. Then the actual moving in came months later?
As the oldest sibling and living in a very traditional household, I'm expected to tell my siblings these things and I don't know what to tell them! This really helped, thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
I was having a faith crisis about staying a virgin when everyone doesn't,especially muslim guys who then hypocritically want a virgin but I did researches and watched videos like yours and I'm feeling better about my decision that wasn't even mostly faith based at first. I want to do it with someone that swore commitment to me,after we're married and because I want to do it. You're very helpful for isolated muslims,thanks and best wishes ☺️
Our whole lives we wait for our spouse from Allah, and that’s who we give our heart away to. So don’t give your heart to a man who has already given his heart away in past relationships because those are likely to cheat. Marry the one who gives you their heart. Bless I’m still waiting myself
Was soo refreshing to see somebody talk about this, its not often that we see this. Appreciate it the realness of this video.. Keep up the amazing work. Lov n duas faathima in South Africa
Lots of respect for you two! I have been married for over two years now and it was definitely nerve-wracking. You're right, open communication with your partner is important.
@@AishabintIdrissame I’m definitely not ready to consummate for marriage it scares me it gives me the ick too I can’t deal seeing another human being na d don’t care who it is. How will I deal with the embarrassment and showing my face , just thinking about it gives me the shivers. This is one of the reasons I don’t want to get married. As a Christian we are supposed to also wait for marriage.
@@vloggermum Thanks for this remark, because most people only remember the “back” and forget the mouth. Both are forbidden in the Qur'an. Praise be to Allah, who has forbidden us filth and made good things permissible for us.
@@cursedcnt661In the Qur'an, the penetration that is commanded is the penetration from which the newborn comes ( vaginal penetration). Otherwise, the rest is therefore a deviation. Penetration in the mouth, as you know, is only the result of pornographic films and not of human nature, otherwise it would not come to mind, and those who are addicted to this practice and watch pornographic movies are the only ones asking for it and they want it to be halal, and that's not strange, because an alcoholic wants one thing: alcohol becomes halal. Therefore, the best for these oral sex addicts is to seek healing of their addiction first instead of looking for someone who will tell them that it is halal. Remember that the woman who does this practice swallows incredible dirt: pre-seminal fluid mixed with urine, bacteria, fungi, dead cells, and sometimes viruses which is one of the causes of throat cancer which has increased in recent years. so do not expect Islam to allow this rot.
My husband and I married for 8 years and we still need to communicate rather than mind reading coz our whole life still not enough to understand 100% of our partner 🤣
For all the Muslim Queens down here, you have to listen to your feelings, if you don't want to do it on the first night, if you're scared or if you feel pain talk about it with your partner, nobody has the right to force you, if your partner really loves you he will understand. Please don't see sex as an obligation, if you don't want no matter how much time the partner has waited or will wait, you have the right to say no ❤️
@@lavish_1717 The hadith says that it would be the case if your husband is angry against you. If he understands the reason why his wife does not want to have sex, that he forgives her and renounces his right there will be no problems (if he loves you he will not be angry for such a thing that is moreover a right of yours, morally I mean) . I invite you to do research on this hadith by yourself but I confess that I find it very unfair that the woman must consent to have sex when she does not want to, this is what the hadith means actually (I just read that she could refuse because of a nuisance (disease?) or if it diverted her from her religious obligations otherwise she must accept). I do not see us being vaginas on command the rest of the time (we are worth more than that as human Allah be praised) and I don't think that a loving and respectful husband who truly loves us would see us like that too.
@@lavish_1717 i believe this is only when she does it out of spite and deliberately takes her husbands right. Kinda like how if the mans not providing for her hes taking away her right over him.
According to Hadith, Angels will curse on the wife who refuses to sleep with her husband! thats not a reason that she dont wanna have sex because she dont feel ready! this may seems Unfair to You but Remember Allah KNOWS BETTER THAN WE DO ....HE KNOWS WHY HE GAVE HUSBANDS AUTHORITY OVER WIFE!!! A MOMIN WIFE CAN'T POSSIBLY REFUSE HUSBAND NEEDS ! ALL HUSBANDS WANTS TO DO IT ON FIRST NIGHT! YOU THINK JUST TALKING TO HIM ABOUT , WILL CHANGE HIS DESIRE...NO! EVEN IF HE AGREES, HIS HEART WONT BE FULLFILLED, ANGELS WILL BE CURSING! READ SURAH BAQARAH VERSE 228...ABOUT WHO IS MORE SUPERIOR OVER OTHER....HUSBAND IS MORE SUPERIOR BECAUSE HE HAS TO TAKE ALL RESPONSIBILITIES OF HOUSE like financial and mental stuff....ALSO ALLAH KNOWS BETTER we just need to trust Allah words no matter if we like it or not....thats how a momin should be!!!! MAY WE ALL GET HIDAYAH AND YOU LIVE A LONG HAPPY LIFE WITH YOU FAMILY;)
According to Khuzeima Ibn Thabit (may Allah be pleased with him), the Prophet (PBUH) said: "Allah has no shame in the truth, and he repeated this three times; do not have intercourse with women through their behinds (*). (Reported by Ibn Maja and authenticated by Sheikh Albani in Sahih Targhib n°2427)
Polygamy marriages are corruption... """And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance. To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire. In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire. Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.) Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it. This verse reminds us of the danger! Polygamy marriages come under desires!
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
Dudes, it is really hard for me to hold back when I'm only 17. But I came up with the idea: Look at the Marriage as a reward for what you've done so far. Be worth the marriage, deserve it, try your best until that, you have to build up your education, career, and The most importantly, it's not the time to think about this. This is the main motivation for me, hope you'll find it useful. Man, I can't wait till the "Time" comes
Can't hurt to ' just cuddle up ' n sleep on ' a first nite '. Both are usually so tired anyway! What if the man is ' chivalrous ' n offers her a foot massage n backrub etc. with ' Aromatherapy Oils '. Ylang Ylang or Lavender in Almond Oil !!! Candlelight n Soft Classical music !!!!!!
my parents had an arranged marriage and had just one date before they got married. My Mother wanted more dates and said exactly that to my father like she wanted to get to know him more but my father said: you won't know me until we're married because I can always show you just the good sides of me but when we share every day life you will truly know me. So after that sentence my mother didn't want anymore dates and they got married.
I think it's actually a good thing for a couple if "it" doesn't happen the first night because it can be such a magical process, getting to know each other over a period of weeks or months. I like how they described it as a journey. I can see how it would build closeness, much much better than a "bada bing, bada boom" experience.
