Overcoming Anxiety | Jonas Kolker | TEDxTheMastersSchool 

The worst part of my anxiety is that i dont know why i feel fear, i dont know why i feel anxious

Anxiety causes you to be at war with yourself. All of you are warriors.

Anxiety is caused by constant stress. You brain gets stuck in a fearful state. Then you fear your anxiety and all the symptoms it causes. You end up in an endless cycle you can't get out of. Once you stop fearing anxiety and stop fighting it. Then you'll start to heal. You have to overcome your fears daily. Just remember. It takes time. Little by Little you'll feel an improvement. Stop being afraid of being afraid. It'll get better.

He seems like he's educated at Harvard rather than 9th grade... Amazing

Anxiety can be one of the most scary and hopeless feelings 😢

I want to hire this kid for the non-existent company I own.

My anxiety has anxieties

Embrace the succ. Ok but seriously this kid is better at presenting that I ever will be I’m proud of him

This kid is really good at presenting.

*"The fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself"* - Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

I have horrible anxiety, but it’s unexplainable. I don’t have an enormous amount of stress. I just want to be normal again.

This made me realize I don’t need medication and I don’t want medication I need to keep going to school with my anxiety and deal with it I will make progress

Here are 10 tips I have for dealing with anxiety: 1) Find the trigger and confront it. Running away from the problem rarely solves anything in the long term, but confronting your problems may help reduce the effects of a potential trigger. For example if you repeatedly but yourself in a situation out of your comfort zone, such as with public speaking, then the stress reaction elicited may reduce over time, and as a result it will not be as terrifying to do a class presentation or such (exposure therapy). 2) Harness anxiety by turning the negative into a positive, e.g. if stressed about workload, get it done rather than procrastinating. Or use your experience of anxiety to help others with similar problems. 3) Find a distraction. If you are plagued with negative thoughts, then do activities which prevent you from focusing on negativity, i.e. keep yourself busy. 4) Invest yourself in a hobby, read a book which you feel will enlighten you in some way or start a routine of going gym or playing sports to build confidence and increase endorphins. This also links in with goal-setting. If you set a goal and achieve it then you will get a boost in neurotransmitters responsible for a good mood. 5) Maintain a social network. Often anxiety can make you feel isolated so discussing these problems with a good listener can help you feel connected. Some people may shy away from this in fears of upsetting the recipient. If this is the case then only give a limited account of what is wrong. For example, if you do not want to say that you are suffering from depression/anxiety because you feel they wont understand or will find it distressing, explain it as being worried but not being sure what the cause is. 6) Act as a self-therapist. Personally I wouldn’t want to pay for a therapist as the money I lose may increase my anxiety - because I’m cheap lol, but you may not even need a professional to listen to your problems. Talking to yourself about your problems and brainstorming ideas out load regarding what may help alleviate negative symptoms may help you. Personally I found it useful to go over my thoughts out loud while having a shower or lying down (provided you’re in a private and comfortable setting). 7) Remember other people (even celebrities) are going through the same thing 8) Understand that life is full of tests. Maybe these trials happen for a reason? 9) Music can help, especially when artists discuss issues relevant to what you’re going through. Personally I find Kid Cudi a good listen (Soundtrack to my Life, Reborn, Cudi Montage etc.). 10) Spiritual contentment. Perhaps religiosity can help relieve feelings of emptiness. -Emre

I have been struggling with my anxiety a lot lately, I’m just here to let you guys know it does get better. The few tips that helped me move through it were. 1. Anxiety is an emotion not an illness. It’s ok to feel anxious sometimes, there is good anxiety. 2. Sit down with yourself when your anxious and write down why, now face that fear. Mine started with, I am anxious because I don’t want to always fear everything. This slowly started to go away because you physically cannot feel like this 24/7. Lastly, prayer helped me the most. Remind yourself you are strong, you are not alone on this journey, and all things are possible with God on your side. I love you all who are going though this, keep your head up. You are needed here, you are loved, this too shall pass. ❤️

i have anxiety disorder and this video is one of the best talk I've seen so far. good job jonas

Young people like this man give me hope for the future.

I overthink at some extreme levels, and I do that so much that it exhibits physical symptoms like shivering & vomiting. Also, I'm a victim of anxiety, self talking, and imposter syndrome, and I take everything so personally that my eyes get filled with water due to outrage, but people think I'm about to cry like a baby. I have had all these problems since childhood but only during covid I discovered about these issues.

Finally just got out of my few month stint of anxiety and depression. It’s like it never happened when you climb out of that funk. Grateful to have those stairs to climb when I just wanna crawl in a hole and give up. Glad to see we’re all in this together. I love you guys

Telling yourself its just Anxiety when started to having panic attack really helps !

When I had anxiety I didn't even know I had it, I just thought that I'm just not feeling good or having a bad time. But when I came to know it's anxiety I was kinda surprised because I thought that I was that kind of person who is strong and can never have depression or anxiety.

He did a brilliant job of underscoring the importance of cbt and exposure treatment not only against most common anxiety disorders but daily stressors that we all deal with in one way or another.

im on anxiety meds and it helps me amazingly, plus i learned to realize the next day at night when your in bed and worried about the next day is 90 percent wrong what really happens

From the day when I had my first severe anxiety attack I am never the same person as I used to be....I am changed now but I try to look all this in a positive manner. My senses get sharp and I am more sensible. It is hard to accept that u have anxiety disorder and the worst part of all this is the physical symptoms of anxiety. I keep telling myself that I am a fighter this is my battle and I only can win this battle. Fear will feed anxiety and I won't let that happen. I hope we all get better soon.

He was so clear and informative about this disorder, whilst at the same time showed his strength in fighting through it.. amazing talk :)

an 80's movie is missing its kid

Awesome poised talk. Embrace the suck shows the practical love of a dad and the wisdom of the son to understand. Great job.

My anxiety is everything except leaving my room/house because I know I will feel nauseous/vomit

Brave guy to engage with all those people, good job!

Lucky he had not panic attack while he was presenting in front of people

Oh my goodness!!! My years in school was the same!!! My childhood was a horrible experience with anxiety attacks!!

Amazing proof anxiety can be overcome...... + 2 those still struggling- it took a super lovely clever child with support + loving, helpful parents 25% of his life 2 overcome.... + unlike older anxiety sufferers his habits hadn't been conditioned 4 decades. Bless U all.

Absolutely incredible. Wonderful speaker, provided terrific examples that all of us can relate too and backed up his point with statistics and rationality. And only 9th grade! Got a lot out of this. Well done brotha

Thank you tedx for a talk where the guy is actually addressing anxiety disorders and best way to overcome them❤

I honestly want to thank the person who made this video, it has helped me so much with my anxiety. When I will like i'm about to have a panic attack, I watch this video and it makes me feel better. Thank you 😊

Loved it! So young and so much experience... Well done

This kid is an amazing presenter, I'm a college student and cant even present in front of a class without stuttering all the time

This was amazing! I'm so glad to see that you're doing better and that you taught me something new

he has a soothing voice

Great presentation by a young but very experienced person. Nice job Jonas!

Thank you. I've been searching for a video on anxiety to show to my year class and this looks perfect.

i need exposure , but i’m so scared

This helped me so much I thought I was a psychopath I thought I was crazy. Just turns out I had anxiety being educated about this and educating other people about this helps me so much. It makes me feel so relieved.

Very cool talk from such a young guy, amazing to see people like this.

Thank you, thank you! I appericate you sharing your experience

I get this so much so blessed and grateful some speak on this topic for those who struggle to have a voice or the confidence to get on stages like that hope I can be like him one day!

This was so well presented and helpful with the same issues my teen faces. A very impressive young man. Thanks!

Epic video Jonas, I am glad you have got over your panic attacks. This kid is 100% right that exposure therapy is better than drugs or talking therapy.... But that is really only scratching the surface, the rabbit hole goes far deeper than you can ever imagine.

I'm confident all of us will have moments where panic will take us over if we aren't prepared to handle it. Heed this young mans' words; they may save your life or others.

Very true words, spoken extremely well. Thanks.

Useful information and excellent presentation skills! Thank you.

Great talk Jonas. I agree with the exposure method is key. You have to really analyze what is causing the anxiety to properly use the exposure method and benefit from it

This was great. What a brilliant and wise young man!

He’s right, for some reason, each morning before school, I get worried, but then when I get to class, I’m not worried anymore

As long as I have my senses i will never give up, this is what i always tell to myself when i get anxiety

Your resilience and perseverance through tough times are truly admirable. Keep fighting, and know that you are never alone. 💪🌟

greattt jobb thank you so much for giving a new meaning to life hatss offff!!!!

I was trying to describe to my psychiatrist what I felt like when I had anxiety attacks. It was so hard to describe. He described it perfectly!

Jonas I had the exact same feelings, that u experienced when u went to school. I experienced it throughout my college days and even now at my work. I did some research and found the same things that u talked about to combat this i.e do it anyway, and don't give a lot of damn about yourself. I hope these anxiety attacks stop, but it's not in my hands. A very informative talk indeed

Anxiety is killing me

I am suffering from anxiety since very long, having panic attacks for 3 years, i simply love to share my story , you all are warriors , i can feel your struggle, i know its like a war with yourself, but i must tell you that deal it with as your body part,

Him telling the story of 3rd grade actually gave me low key anxiety because that’s how I feel when we have to do some type of competition on P.E regardless if I’m good at what we’re doing or not or when the teacher starts asking math questions around the class....I don’t cry but like I can feel my heart beating so fast,and the fear!

From a recent psychology graduate in the UK, I commend you going out and speaking to people about Anxiety and treatment methods

This helped so much, the waves really worked with me it calms me.

Your explanation of your experience was excellent It's hard to put anxiety into words especially for those who don't understand it

Great job!

This is awsome what a confident guy I wish I could be able to do this

Great content. It isn't easy to be so vulnerable. Nice job!

oh gosh, I was the same too, since 3rd grade.... I would feel a terrible pain in my chest and they all thought it was milk intolerance and I had no idea it was anxiety... but my parents never considered ( or maybe did not want to consider) I had social anxiety, but it kept getting worse to the point at high school I could not talk during exams anymore. My family and I normalized it, labeled it as "insecurity". You were lucky your parents did help you. Last year I went back to school and I am in so much fear every time I have to face an exam I start shaking and I paralyze. I started therapy now that I am 30, and I feel more accepting of myself. But I have no balls to tell my family I was diagnosed with anxiety.

I gotta be honest. When I heard he was in 9th grade I instantly was very sceptical. Some kid talking about something he thinks he knows about. But I was very wrong. His maturity is very high for his age and more importantly I really thought there was wisdom in his words. The evidence he provided was easy to digest but also made you wonder a little bit. I think he will go very far if he chooses to pursue mental health in any field.

Anxiety hurts you deep down and there is hardly any moment in a day where i am back to normal but again something starts in mind.I think being communicative with friends and family and being in every moment helps.But there is a thing that everyone has their different way to calm down anxiety and fears.Its been 3 years i am going through anxiety,ocd and overthinking.But i try to be in my shell and not compare with anyone.When feeling and fears control over it sucks.but be positive and do the things that makes you happy.

"Don't be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart." - Roy T. Bennett

This is so similar to my persona anxiety experiences. I've been working on it for 3 years now

My anxiety has to do a lot with feeling like I am worse than everyone. I always feel like I’m just a sub human entity that doesn’t deserve to be alive. I can’t even go out for a walk with my mom and walk in the opposite direction of a stranger because I just get so much anxiety from literally just being seen by others.

I understand this I have anxiety myself. this is my second year having anxiety. you are not the only one. don't forget help is always out their.

Anyone feels like their heart stops? Or just me

Thank you so much. Great help to me.

Something being assumed with exposure treatment is that there an object of your anxiety. Sometimes, there are those with anxiety not attached to something in particular.

This is what i needed, someone my age to actually understand.

I don't know what triggers me I'm always anxious. I don't know what I fear and what should I face

Went through the same in grade 6and 7, thanks for sharing your story🖤

This is very informative, Inspirational and brave!

Everyday I get these constant thoughts through my head and always think about my heath it’s something I always am thinking about, it’s beginning to take over my life, I don’t know what else to do, it feels like my mind is always moving at 100 miles per hour, I don’t know who to talk to about this or what to do but I guess I just have to keep my head up

What a smart inspiring kid :) thanks for this

I am going to have my students watch this...great explanation!

Thank you for this video.

It was great, moving and touching.

One of the best talks, instantly puts you in a good mood.

Anxiety. Fear for my next test? Fear for what kids will say about me? Fear over nothing. Overwhelming, panic, fear, worry, self deprecation. Crying, hyperventilating, my depression mixing with my anxiety, my asthma worsening the hyperventilating. No clue why, no clue how to stop. I pray. I give my worries to God. I beg Him to take my burden, my yoke of anxiety for whatever happens, or for nothing. It's not immediately gone, but when I think about it and talk to Him, I feel it slowly lifting off of me. As if a heavy, immovable weighted blanket was being lifted off of me, allowing me to run and move again. Thank you God, please continue your work and show people your love and helping hands.

Amazing, actully a life saving talk

A well spoken young man Thank you!

My experience with anxiety : I watch something that wakes me up, such as stand up comedy (by laughing ourselves, we throw out stress inside the body. Remember: the best medicine is to laugh). Heal yourself by laughing out loud when you're alone.

I’m always so tired it hurts and feel like I’m gonna die at any moment you can physically feel the pressure in your brain and body it’s exhausting

I believe anxiety is a double edged sword, it can motivate us to do better,or cause us to sabotage ourselves. I for one have experienced both. I have stressed job interviews so much,I did not even go to them, and I have stressed jobs so much I have chosen to walk off even though I had no other income at the time. AND there has been times stress has pushed me out of bed and motivated to do something about my financial situation.

Perfect video thank you very much..

Great talk my man, thanks

Touching and impressive 👏❤️

Sometimes I get very anxious in social settings. Like to the point where I just either try to churn it out through being chill/quiet, being on my smartphone, and worst case, just to dip. I’m gonna make it a thing to put myself in these situations and use alternative, more engaging methods to get over this.

Anxiety has always been gnawing at me from the inside of my stomach. Waiting for me to be weak so it can take over. And that happened recently. I had my first, big panic attack. It felt like I was falling down a never ending pit of emptiness and I would never be able to escape. And I couldn’t stop crying. I was hyperventilating. I was stuck in a cycle of crying. I would think “they are going to see that I’ve been crying” which would make me cry harder, then I would think “What is going on with me why am I so scared?” And that would make me cry even harder. It was so terrifying why do people joke about this stuff?

He's so smart and well spoken

There are a lot of ways that social anxiety manifests itself. The #1 thing for us to start with is understanding where social anxiety comes from. It actually doesn’t come from society. And the label of SAD is a little bit deceiving. It actually comes from your core underlying beliefs about yourself. Let’s break down some of these beliefs. 1 - Unconditional Self-Love It is the sense of accepting yourself fully, being present to the moment, loving yourself as you are without guilt . Once you are able to do that you become immune to the SAD. There is no reason for you to be anxious. 2 - Your Individuality You truly are unique. There is nobody else like you in the entire universe. The sooner you are going to realize that and be able to combine that with USL the sooner you won’t be bothered by any social interactions or events. 3 - Your Emotions It is your ability to express and feel emotions freely and to not feel guilt about that. Emotions are a part of your individuality, your self-love. And be able to express emotions if you are alone or in a social setting. Without having to apologize or justify your emotions. 4 - Finding Solitude There are 2 spectrums. Being alone and longing for company or being always surrounded by people and longing for some alone time. Both of the sides to the spectrum have the same root that your core beliefs of USL, Individuality and emotions are miscalibrated. If they all were set right you would be happy, and not anxious right now. Master Kit is a clinically proven system to show results when working with a mental state. Thank you for posting ❤️