OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION | Ingrid Nilsen 

I added this to watch later. If this is not procrastination i dont know what is

I procrastinate too much, but I also excel under pressure so I can’t stop 😂

I feel like procrastination is just the result, it’s not what we need to deal with. Instead, what we need to fix is the reason WHY we procrastinate. Just like you don’t want to fix your insomnia, you want to fix your anxiety(that causes your insomnia)! You have to ask yourself layers of questions to know the root causes. And then you can finally come up with/use specific methods to release them!

A little over a week ago I watched your video where you recommended the Artist's Way book. After reading it and starting the tasks, in addition to some other stuff, I have noticed my anxiety not having such a grip on my day. My struggle for a long time has been fear, and lately, the fear of the fear itself has taken its toll. Something the author talks about is also allowing yourself to be led. Somehow I ended up watching this video in the exact moment I needed it - hearing you say the thing about how staying in the fear is scarier than doing the thing you're afraid of gave me tears of hope! If you read this, thank you so much Ingrid!

Often, I also take baby steps, but really tiny baby steps. As in, ok next I’ll get up, next I’ll open the door, etc. etc. because sometimes I get so overwhelmed with anxiety that I freeze and don’t even know what to do. So if I can just focus on the next couple of seconds even, that helps me because eventually I’ll reach the point I was afraid of and it won’t seem so far away and daunting anymore since I did all this other stuff to get there. I know it might seem like a no brainer to most people “just get up” and “just do it”, but when your mind is in chaos, being logical is very difficult.

Thank you Ingrid, I felt very identified with this video. Your gentle approach with out gilt and self loathing helped me tackle a few important tasks, that I had put off because I was afraid of the outcome and ashamed because it took me so long to handle them.

Hi Ingrid! I love if you could make a video about your relationship with finances. Which steps you take to have a healthy relationship with them (specially now that you bought a home!)? And a little bit of your financial journey as a millennial woman! Thank you 🙏

This spoke to my soul and I’m 33! For me, procrastinating comes from fear. Working very very hard on it. A year ago finally left the job I hated and went back to school. I think about where I was and where I want to be when I start procrastinating. This has helped me so much! Thanks for another great video Ingrid!

I didn't realise how much I needed a show starring Ingrid and JVN all about self care. I always feel better after listening to them 💙

I love this video! So much resonates with me. The way you explain things and your presence is so calming. Love all you do Ingrid!

Great video and thoughtful topic as always. For me, procrastination has always been about fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear that i'm not capable of the thing I'm trying to do. Fear I'm inadequate. Fear that I won't be able to handle whats on the other side, or I don't deserve it. I know this is not the case for all, but for me, it is. I also noticed that procrastinating has a snowball effect - I start procrastinating on the big life projects, and then soon I am procrastinating the little things too - even the tiniest thing like sending a text, or putting away laundry, or moving something from one room to another. When I felt like this was getting out of hand, I put myself on a "procrastination challenge" where I made a huge list of every single thing i'm procrastinating on - big and small. And for 30 days I made myself do just one thing every single day. After the month was over, my sense of strength and self worth had increased exponentially. I got into the habit of DOING and living in the zone of discomfort and growth. It changed my life. Now I do 2-3 things from my list almost every day, and it's not nearly as scary as it used to be.

Right now struggling with it so much! I also go from 0 to 100 with my thoughts about things I need to do. Love your videos! You have been like my older youtube sister since 2011 😄❤!

Ingrid! You are just hitting the nail on the head for me each week with your topics. I love your videos and being able to watch them and use them! They’re so helpful to me. Thank you thank you thank you.

I love this Ingrid! I saw someone else request this in another one of your comments section and I thought it was interesting. The request was, "How to accept and not seek approval from parents or family members." You've shared you only have a close relationship with certain family members. With one particular family member my relationship has been very rocky and tumultuous. How do you come to accept that not every relationship with your family is perfect? To me, this expands beyond friendship in the sense that you choose your friends. You can't choose your family, and there is this pressure sometimes to make it work, but in reality, the relationship isn't good for your own well being. How do you come to accept that? Thank you, Ingrid! Watching your videos for years and I love seeing your maturity and wisdom shine through each video!

Ingrid your videos always make me feel so much better without fail. Thank you for the energy you put into this world.

I think some of my procrastination comes from lack of setting intentions for the day, not estimating my time properly, and not including tasks or time for myself to do things I want to do. Also I found it has helped me to remember to not be so hard on myself if I don’t get everything done that I wanted to. I think mindfulness has also helped by not letting thoughts of fear and failure not get in the way from the present moment. It makes the days clearer.

Just what I needed, thank you Ingrid ❤

Ingrid this is amazing and exactly what I needed to hear!!! I’m studying to get into a PhD program and I’m finding myself get in my own way more often than not. With your video and some deeper thinking, I realized that it is something I joyfully want to pursue but none of the people around me are in the same boat so that solidarity aspect is missing. Thank you making me feel less crazy and lazy. It’s always a joy seeing your videos and hearing your wisdom

I am so happy about this series ! I couldn't have put this in words if I tried, thank you for being so transparent! I feel the same way about procrastination.

This video is amazing. Both the topic and your way of talking about it are on point! Thank you so much

This video was great ingrid! I think you explained procrastination so well and your tips will definitely help me as I also have a lot of fear and overthink absolutely everything! x

This video is so helpful! The way you broke down each “island” of procrastination and what it really means for you is allowing me to do the same for myself! Looking forward to more Intentional Living Fridays! ✨☺️

I really enjoyed this video. I am in the same situation now, because i am living abroad since May and i have a lot of fears. I will follow your instructions and try to help my self more. Thank you Ingrid 💛

Thank you so, so much for sharing your thoughts and insights about this.

Ingrid, thank you for being every Saturn return millennial’s much needed internet therapist! Sincerely, a barely-out-of-her-Saturn-return millennial ♥️

Omg this make me feel so much more normal, I procrastinated for over 6 months to get an appointment with psychologist for my ADHD, and just picking the phone was so stressful, I felt like I was about to jump from an airplane! I agree saying things out loud does help. Whenever I need to do things that I found dreadful, I try to do them right away before I go into procrastination mode, and ounce it’s done I feel better about myself which motivates me to keep going. Thanks for sharing what you’re going through and please keep theses videos coming ❤️

Love this video. Thanks for sharing all of your steps and being vulnerable!

I can't lie, I stopped watching your videos for the longest just bc I was going to RU-vid more for food vids and like super comical content and tonight I just decided to click on this 1 bc the title struck my attention and I just wanna say thank you so much for sharing your life with us. I know it isn't easy to just let others in and bc I know that, I can relate to someone else who kinda is going through the same thing and it doesn't make me feel so down or alone and that feels really fucking great and relieving. So thank you Ingrid🙏

I just discovered your channel yesterday morning and honestly I love you so much. You’re so motivational and empowering. Thanks for being you and putting out these videos. Much love being send your way my friend. ☺️💗

I'd LOVE to see a video on how you keep organized with a busy schedule!!

I added this to my list and took me two months to actually watch it

Thank you Ingrid for making such thoughtful and meaningful content! I really needed this today.

I loved the island and boat metaphors. They resonated with me!!

@Ingrid you always post the things I need to hear at that exact moment! you magic witch!!!!

Thank you for this video! Was the motivation to finally do some stuff that I've been putting off.

Thank you so much for this video! I'm usually bored with procrastination videos in which having this bullet journal is miraculous whereas it is not if you're an hardcore procrastinator. I'm entering my last year at uni in two weeks and I'm happy to have finally found a video in which my fears/anxieties were told to me. It's so hard to get out of the shaming boat. Thank you xoxo

Thank you, Ingrid. I really needed this right now.

WOW This so resonated with me. Like everything everything about it. The procrastination, the poor self-talk after the procrastination, I so so hear that my oh my. Thank you for sharing!!

I didn't know other people procrastinate on finding new doctors..it is nice to know you are not alone.

This video couldn’t have come at a better time for me! It resonates so much with what I’m dealing with right now (writing my graduate thesis). Everything you said about the problem is totally how I feel. I am totally in my head and getting overwhelmed by the things I need to get done in order to finish this project, but ya the baby steps is key, and I’ll remind myself to focus on the tasks of today and maybe tomorrow rather than the next few months. Thanks for this video and the ideas!

This was such an awesome video with such a great message, Ingrid! Thank you for sharing it! I struggle with and suffer from such strong fear that doing little things send me into a place that makes my mind cease up, but like you said, little steps to make things seem less daunting is a helpful way to approach it! 💛🙏🏼😚

I’ve been procrastinating on starting my RU-vid channel because I fear negative comments. Can you make a video on how to stay true to you while haters hate. I started watching you since 2011 and can’t help but to think about how much you’ve evolved as a person & how that could’ve also been me.

Super helpful video, rewatching right away ❤

Thank you for posting this video Ingrid, it was so helpful! :)

Very helpful! thanks for sharing your process. I am a huge procrastinator and when I learned it was actually due to being overwhelmed, it made me feel much better because I know I am definitely not a lazy person so I couldn't figure out why I procrastinated so much...stress and being overwhelmed, fear, etc. is the reason. xo

This video inspired me to finally send out my invoices for the last few weeks! 🙌

So perfekt! That video is exactly what I needed! 🙏

Such a good topic! Really really liked it!

Love your content as always ❤️

I loved this video so much thank you 💓

I Needed this, thank you! 💛

I'm watching this video as a means of procrastinating the work I have to do. Soooo.... gotta go.

I REALLY liked the ending music!!!!!!

Yayyy Ingrid! Love you💖

I'm new to New York as well. How did you find your book club being new-ish to the city? Love the Intentional Living series already!

☺️🙏🏿Thank you for sharing Ingrid. Very helpful for me.

Thanks for this video! Needed to hear this. :)

I really like the concept

You would make an amazing therapist❤️💪🏻

LOLOL I am cracking up at the whole overthinking things taking a lot of time: days, weeks, years! It's true and I feel seen and also I'm crying.

Every word of this is a small treasure:)

I've been feeling so much fear lately and I've been procrastinating so much but I couldn't wrap my head around the fact the two things were related....

Loved it

I'm literally watching this while procrastinating from studying for my exam in two days :')

I’d love for you to do a video on budgeting.

100% relate to this. I "prcrastinate" (I hate that word actually) all the time. Literally about everything...things that I know if I don't do now will be worse off later....like not paying parking fines or bills to little things like not sending a quick email or not going to the gym. Then I get to a day where I try to get all those things done and I obviously cannot because it's a mountain so then I feel worse and end up procrastinating more. It is a never ending horrible cycle and sometimes I feel very alone in it and people are just confused as to why I wouldn't just do this easy task. I am working on solutions but I do not feel i have found one that works for me quite yet so thanks for this video !

I learned from Mel Robbins that procrastination is caused by stress. This completely changed my perspective and helped me get to the root of the problem.

*i’m a peace corps volunteer currently residing in a rural area of west africa my counselor told me that whenever i feel stuck, i should start by doing one small thing, like sweeping my house (i live in a one room hut) or fetching water from the communal pump. then i can move onto another small task. then another. and before i know it i’ve accomplished everything that i set out to do. it’s become an invaluable tool that i’ve leaned on when struggling during my peace corps service and i know it is a lesson that i will carry with me for years to come.

One way I have procrastinated in my life in the last few years is also in avoiding regular doctors visits. At first I began avoiding going to the doctors because I didn't have insurance or a lot of money, and it didn't feel wise to rack up any possible debt when there was no pressing need to go the doctor. But then I did get insurance and a better job, and I started feeling anxious about using the insurance I had because of the fear of the doctor telling me something I didn't want to hear about my health after being out of the loop so long. I have been so proud of myself in the last few months that I have had a physical, three dentist visits to straighten out some dental issues, and an eye appt to get an updated glasses/contacts prescription. At some point, burying my head in the sand started to feel scarier than just confronting any possible issues.

Needed this

Wow Ingrid. What. A. Video. ❤️

LOVE YOU ❤️

So wise advices Ingrid! Love these kind of self-growth videos. :) And we are so similar I am still surprised sometimes. :D

Thank you

maybe a video on how to determine your priorities in life for now and ditch what in reality is just noise/ someone else's ideas and goals

How did you find your book club?? I’m so curious because I would love to join one. Did you use an app?

I’d love to see a video on how to live within the world we do. You touched on it at the very beginning regarding our generation (millennials)... I find myself going down spirals of negative, hopeless thoughts that my anxiety builds on because a lot of those fears are realities (such as housing crisis, low wages, high education fees, climate change, etc etc). How do we find the hope and joy in the midst of all this chaos, especially when we’re bombarded with information all the time? Love this video, btw!

Agree with you. This is me.

I know this is for more general life advice but I'm going to try and use it for uni assignments this semester. I have a few big ones over the next 10 weeks and I know I need to start now so I don't leave myself with no time. So I guess I need to do as you say and break it down into the smaller processes. Any other advice for school specifically? Thanks Ingrid :)

You may have a video on this already but I would love to hear about your decision making process to move from LA to NY. I may have the opportunity for a long distance move soon but I am so terrible at making decisions anyway, I have no clue how I will be able to decide to stay (family, work, comfort zone!) or go (away from family, new job, waaay out of comfort zone) x

I find I procrasitnate the most when I know the end result is not going to be exactly what I wanted. Example I'm dealing with now: we moved starting a month ago, we had been looking for a place for a couple months before that and had found a BEAUTIFUL apartment that ticked all the must have boxes (closer to fiancee's new job, a separate room for an office/sewing room/beauty room for me, space for her desk, bigger kitchen, washer and dryer in unit, storage space, outdoor space, cat friendly) AND all my would loves (dining room, high ceilings, 2 floors, bigger master bedroom, fireplaces in all the rooms, historic - built 1850s, tons of big windows, hardwood floors). At that point after putting in the application I immediately started packing and cleaning the old place and then we lost that apartment in the cruelest way (realtor ghosted us and we saw it was taken down from the website we had been looking for places on - she still has never returned a call or email). I found another place a couple weeks after that hit the requirements and has 2 floors, a dining room, more windows than the old place (but no where near as many as perfect place), hardwood floors; but it is much smaller (and more expensive) than dream place, in not as desireable a location. And I've now been struggling to unpack at all (and took almost a month to pack things up and get them out of the old place). This place is not my style, doesnt feel like home or a place I could stay in for very long so its been hard to get settled into it. Whereas when we moved into the old place (as imperfect as it was it was great for the budget we had at the time and reminded me of the cabins/lodges at the camps I've worked at), I had everything unpacked and settled in within a week or two - and the second week was mostly looking for and buying pieces we didnt have and realized we needed - like another set of curtain rods for the bedroom. I know this place might feel more like home with the boxes gone, I just cant see it enough to do it.

Girl, you need to write a book.

I love that lip colour on you :D

i once read an entire semesters worth of reading for environmental ethics in three days :)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm procrastinating on quitting band because I'm already in one and I don't like the general feeling of the band. I always feel bad when I'm there and I absolutely am not comfortable with those people. It's just an e-mail I should write but somehow I can't...

Luckily I have just had to reacquaint with my physicians I am no where with community. Lost that with my Dad’s retirement with Air Force, so for decades. The harder you wait, harder it is, so, I don’t know.

I find that the main reason why we have a hard time doing the «adult things » is for two reasons: anxiety and the need to do more and more faster. Anxiety: like you said, we have so much more information now and it gets our brain in a constant state of stress and stimulation and advertisement know that they use that to keep us alert and focused on what they wanna sell... but at the end of the day, it only make us more mentally tired and anxious for no apparent reason. We also have so muuuch more pressure to succeed and more eyes on us than ever before... we are constantly taking to someone, we need to be reachable all the time, we need to be perfect like we see in the media. That’s what we are thought from a young age... compare to how my mother was raised, it’s just crazy insane the amount of pressure that we have that she didn’t... I’m not saying they were stress free I’m just saying that having the world open up to us through media and the internet is a magical thing but also is not easy to get a hang of and use in a balanced way. We will get there but we have fallen victim to the trap of every new invention: doing it too much or using it too much. Having to do more and more: The other thing is what I discovered recently. Why was I too lazy to do the laundry or the dishes? I wasn’t. I was willing to work none stop on other things that made me feel like I was accomplishing something. But the damn dishes? There is no shortcut... the laundry either.. you just have to do it and it takes a bit of time. But I realized that these task were annoying to me because I wanted to do them more efficiently and quicker! But they couldn’t be done like that... I wasn’t appreciating the time I took to clean my space. I was watching a documentary on animal (planet earth II) and saw the bower bird. A bird who spends literally half his day cleaning his space and making it pretty for his female. He doesn’t do it to do it quickly, he does it and appreciate doing it (you know what I mean). I thought, maybe we are not supposed to do it too quickly. Maybe we are supposed to actually appreciate the cleaning of our space. I realized that it actually made me more relaxed when I took the time to clean instead of seeing it like a shore, I now see it as a moment of self love just like taking care of myself, my body, my hair... my space is a part of me. Me life and how I take care of everything is a part of me. I want to try to stop thinking of doing more and more in less time but instead, doing what needs to be done for my life to be balanced and enjoy doing it, even if it takes time.

For the last few years I’ve been putting off getting my license because I’m scared to death of driving because I’m so scared of hurting someone if I mess up. I mess up things a lot so I overthink and I keep thinking that I’m going to end up hurting someone if I crash 😣😣😣

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why did i procrastinate watching this video🤦🏼‍♀️

that is me all week long jajaaja

We need to define goals and ideals We need to break the goal monthly weekly E and concentrate on one task one at a time and complete the job within time We need to you imagine our self doing the job best We need to focus on techniques that makes our life faster and better and

You have a face similar to Kourtney Kardashian! With this haircut you look like her daughter Penelope

Why would you be naked in the dermatologist?

I’m a gen X and I find generalizations about millennials being lazy is completely and utterly ridiculous. Where does the media come up with this nonsense? I admire the millennials work ethic and financial savvy.

Damn I forgot about Ingrid. This channel isn't doing to well anymore. She used to be so famous on yt.

Please part ur hair on the side instead of the middle. It’s more flattering. Not trying to be rude. Love u