My girlfriend of ten years passed away unexpectedly on November 12th. Papa Roach was her favorite band and this was her favorite song. I go out to her grave sometimes and play this for her. Love u Felecia now and forever baby.
I used to think this song was cool when I was a freshman in high school but now that I'm in my 30s and I have enough life experience under my belt... This song hits you like a punch in the gut. Much respect Papa Roach!
When I was younger (14years) I used to feel so powerful with this song and calm but now I am 21 years and actually I am fighting with alcoholism for past 4 years. I am so proud of you and cannot wait to be in your place cause something what was once helping is destroying my life
@@sylwia6856was 21 when I realized I was a hardcore alcoholic. Was going through a handle of vodka or gin a day and couldn’t function at all. Still drink beer but at least I can do normal day to day tasks
Alcoholism and Drug addiction is an epidemic right now. We need to pray and seek help for our friends and family. Addictions can be overcome, but it's a tough road that needs love and support and God.
Goes to show you how careless and free we are as teenagers. Belting this song out in the car with smiles on our faces. Now we listen to it as we ugly cry in the mirror thinking about our life. To be a kid again..
Makeupbykayla I didn't mean literally. I meant I used to be total drunk, and I lost a great boyfriend and lots of other friendships because of it. But now I'm sober married and have a son. So everything happens for a reason I guess. But it definitely wasn't something I'm proud of. Being sober, being a mom and wife, now I'm proud :)
Never listened to much Papa Roach and the first time I heard this song was when I saw them perform at Louder Than Life in 2022. It was my first big concert experience, and when they played this song I remember looking all around at a sea of thousands of people in all directions just singing while either holding back tears or letting them flow, and I'll never forget seeing this huge 6'5 grown man bawling while head-bannging and singing the lyrics. Papa Roach ended up being my favorite set and I've been a huge fan ever since. This song is incredible and has moved me from the very start
This is a long shot. I'm not sure if you actually read these messages, but I wanted to let you know how much your song, Scars, has meant to me. It describes the toxic relationship between me and my son perfectly. He had mental health issues his whole life. I was a shitty mom while he was growing up and didn't know how to deal with it. He was hateful and verbally abusive to me no matter what I tried to do to help him. I finally had to throw him out. When he died in a car accident at age 33, we had been estranged for a year. He had just started getting his life together and his friends tell me he would have been coming to reconcile and apologize any day. I heard the song playing on the radio shortly after he died and had to pull the car over and cry. And scream. And pound the steering wheel. I still play it when I need to get those feelings out. Thank you. You touched my heart with that song and I would love to see you perform it some day.
Damn.... everyone goes through things in life that no one has any clue about.... what they deal with, how they feel mentally after being through such things, and the impact it has on who they are and how these things change them forever. Its hard helping someone no matter who they are or how close they were to you if they cant truthfully help themselves. The older an individual gets, the more they have to "really" want to change for THEM. Just being his mom was really all he needed. Its easiest to take things out on who we hold dearest. and to him... that was you. My wife lost her mom last summer to an overdose and blames herself for not being there, not always caring, being hard on her when she relapsed etc.. She goes through the same feelings and its tough. Hang in there.. do it for you and your inner peace. much love!!!
@Michelle Marley You know what? You are not and we're not a crappy mom. It takes a lot to realize your shortcomings. A crappy mom wouldn't care at all. No one knows exactly how to deal with things in life. We were not born with a manual on how to deal or how to feel. I'm sorry for the loss, I lost my mom at 19, I'm 35 now and it still hurts. I'm telling you this because I know you blame yourself but no one could prepare you for what you faced in life. Being a mom is hard enough and you did the best you could especially dealing with mental health on top of everything else in life. Please don't be hard on yourself because if your son was here today he would not want you to feel bad for what you didn't do, rather he would want you to forgive yourself and treasure the good moments you shared. When someone is gone, we tend to focus on the things we regret, instead of focusing on the beautiful moments we shared. ❤️ I pray for healing for your tender heart.
It was a little shocking to read this message right now... I am going through a messy moment in my life :( But getting to know your story has really touched my soul. I hope you read tis Michelle, and I hope you can heal those wounds in your heart.
Loved the song since it came out. Never personally associated with the lyrics and the video till now. Im 32 and im now living it. The words " i can't help you fixe your self, but at least i can say i tried. Im sorey but i got to move on with my own life" have never ben so true for me in my own life. Thank you much Papa Roach. Over 15 years of music and it's still helping me, love and apreciated you guyz till i die 🤘🤘
It's hard to watch someone we love destroy themselves and we can never do something to help them. Damn, it's hard to try and save someone who doesn't want to be saved.
Dont bother if you understood those kind of people which I am one of suffer from past trauma and pain maybe once you get that through you're head you'll understand
This song reminds me so much of my best friend in her addiction, and me trying to fix her. The good news is, she is approaching 7 years of sobriety. There is hope!
I've been there. I tried to help someone that I cared about and loved deeply in high school but in the end I couldn't save him. He ended his life a year and a 1/2 later after I told him that I loved him. Although, he never said a word to me after I confessed to him, I hope that someday in the afterlife I could find him and reconnect with him again.
I loved this song as a kid. It really hit nerve as a young kid growing up. It is weird to have it hit you as an adult as it still rings true for life experience.
I once saw an interview with Country Joe McDonald. He said that music has always been a part of his life. As a child, he would go visit his parents while his parents were working. They would be singing together. He came to realize that sometimes people think what they are feeling is a totally unique experience. That no one else feels the way they do. But then they come across a song that shows otherwise. That music can unite people by giving voice to the feelings we bury inside us, and in doing so make us feel a little less alone.
Kalitas Bloodchief of Ghet okay at least in my opinion, I think it’s probably about both. Relationships get very toxic when one is an alcoholic. And honestly, however the song hits you is the truth for you and so it’s still okay to believe it’s about relationship. Just my opinion though
@@UnicornSpoonie yeah i agree i think its about them both being rly bad alcoholics then him wakeing up then trying to calm her down cus she isnt slowing down soo he realizes he gots to let her go i def ben their
Going from 2014 to now. The song just hits you differently. Like you understand it and can relate as well as the artist understands you and knows what you’ve been through just like linkin park. Now that I’ve had a lot more years to go by and a lot of shit to go through every word just hits. Every time I can’t help but sing my heart out with him.
Letting go of a toxic person in my life. It was hard I kept tearing my heart open for her and she filled it with negativity and manipulation I'm finally free. This is my life and how this song relates to it.
Ya know, I used to like making fun of papa roach just as much as the next guy. But after getting a little older, I see Jacoby really is a great artist. My boyfriend left me recently and all I can do is listen to this song and think about his touch.
Yeah bro I’ve been there before. If you haven’t listened to their other songs I suggest you do so. “Leader of the broken hearts” just touches my soul better than this. If you’re single I would love to take your mind off his touch. Just gotta get out in the world man.
Heh, I've just split with a girl I was seeing. I've been thinking to myself that, no matter how old you get, it never seems to get easier. And it's something that sucks, when you're young, it seems natural, but hell, I'm almost 40 and I'm sat here miserable but have to pretend I'm normal to everyone around me.
Please bring back rock... i miss it. Your all awesome man. I love all these rock bands you guys got me from bad breakups, losing jobs the time between that....through losing friends and family members lost dead. Man I love all rock music. In the last 15 years you all disappeared you guys helped my life so much.... thank you from the bottom of my heart❤
I’ve loved this song since it came out !! I just realized I’ve remembered all the words and it’s exactly how I’m feeling right now. Love you guys!! 94 baby here ❤
I tear my heart open I sew myself shut My weakness is That I care too much And my scars remind me That the past is real I tear my heart open Just to feel Drunk and I'm feeling down And I just want to be alone I'm pissed 'cause you came around Why don't you just go home 'Cause you channel all your pain And I can't help you fix yourself You're making me insane All I can say is I tear my heart open I sew myself shut And my weakness is That I care too much And our scars remind us That the past is real I tear my heart open Just to feel I tried to help you once Against my own advice I saw you going down But you never realized That you're drowning in the water So I offered you my hand Compassion's in my nature Tonight is our last stand I tear my heart open I sew myself shut And my weakness is That I care too much And our scars remind us That the past is real I tear my heart open Just to feel I'm drunk and I'm feeling down And I just want to be alone You shouldn't ever come around Why don't you just go home? 'Cause you're drowning in the water And I tried to grab your hand I left my heart open But you didn't understand But you didn't understand You fix yourself I can't help you fix yourself But at least I can say I tried I'm sorry but I gotta move on with my own life I can't help you fix yourself But at least I can say I tried I'm sorry but I gotta move on with my own life I tear my heart open I sew myself shut And my weakness is That I care too much And our scars remind us That the past is real I tear my heart open Just to feel I tear my heart open I sew myself shut And my weakness is That I care too much And our scars remind us That the past is real I tear my heart open Just to feel
So much of the music I grew up listening to, that I thought I understood, has been such a gut punch and a comfort at the same time. 60% of my teenage music brings me to tears while speaking volumes more then it did when I was younger.
Nah it's more like *calls band mates* "hey y'all I might or might not have burned my house down with that bitch in it y'all wanna come over and make a video" Band mates: what Lead singer:what Band mates sure bro......
You can tell he wrote this song from his heart. I would love to know the story behind it. I’ve been in a situation exactly like this. People we try to help can completely drain us if we let them. They can be very ungrateful and take our compassion for granted 🙏🏻♥️
@@NightimeLofi no offense taken. I guess the simple way of putting it is, they gave a severely depressed and suicidal 14 year old me a reason to continue waking up every morning just by making songs, like Scars. I had loved bands before but before PR, I truly felt alone. None of the music I listened to at that point was anything I related to. Then I heard Scars, and for the first time someone else was singing the feelings I felt. It changed everything for me.
This and Getting Away with Murder were the songs that my Mom loves so much because it helped her quit drinking when she started aging in her 40s and realized she wanted to live a longer healthier life. In addition to this being a timeless song it will always hold so much personal value to me.
This song will always be relevant. It not only speaks to alcoholism. Unfortunately, there will always be people who "care too much", putting their own happiness last...thinking they can "fix" and change others. When the fact remains..."I can't help you fix yourself, but at least I can say I tried. I'm sorry but I've got to move on with my own life." Words to live by...but, how many people do? I love ❤ when Jacoby screams...GO FIX YOURSELF!!
God damn it. This is currently my life. Sitting here crying, knowing there are others who know this feeling helps. I may not be alone with these feelings but God the pain is so real. Having an outlet to scream my feelings out with inwords I could not have expressed myself does help
Yeah.. It hurts.. Ever seen a heart just lay there and just crack up and peel slowly turning as dark a possible?? Sow/ stitch it up.... Scars can disappear if you let it. Even though things get harsh. Say,, F-it. Live on. 🙃🖤💜💚❤
@@adamburnett4761 Then, wear those scars with pride because you will show that you are still strong enough to handle the weight.. Just smile and wave. 🖤🙂
I'm a 2006 kid, and the thing that ALWAYS hurts me most in this song is the line "The past is real", reminding all those good 2000's times listening to these kind of songs a lot. Damn, I wish I could experience them again, even though I was still a little baby back then. 2000'S ROCK, THE FINAL ERA FOR THE TREND OF ROCK N ROLL, BEST ROCK ERA EVER 😢😔❤️
My weakness is that I care too much. I have many scars and trauma from trying to help someone 😢where I ended up being heartbroken 💔 torn down by their feelings because they wouldn’t fix themselves.
Eu nunca vou deixar de curtir esses sons, fizeram parte da minha juventude e simplesmente gera um sentimento bom que não gostaria que esse tempo tivesse passado! Mas agora é só lembranças de um tempo que já se foi!
I just heard this song for the first time in years and this is probably the biggest nostalgia bomb I've ever felt in my entire life. Just listening to this brings back so many memories it's as if im dying and I'm having flashbacks. It's crazy. It makes me feel really sad because I see how far I've come and how much harder things have become and how much less carefree life is now. Everything used to be such a little problem but now it just seems like everything is escalated and stressful 24/7. This song used to be probably the most played on my iPod from elementary school all the way through Middle School (except for Eminem) back when I lived in Las Vegas. I never really could relate when parents said they wish they could go back in time to be young again but I actually kind of understand now. I wish I could have done even more with my than I did when I lived up there but so far my experience in high school has been liars backstabbers and assholes throughout the entire thing. I feel like I just don't belong here. I see everybody in groups and clicks while I'm just a lone person here by myself. Nothing that I'm interested in interests anyone else. I'm just alone. I'm even more afraid i won't be able to get a job after high school because i have such bad grades and I'm so slow at learning. I'm scared. I miss my friends. I miss my old life. The scars remind us that the past is real.
Hang in there! You are young, and have your whole life ahead of you! High School SUCKS! My high school years were some of the worst years of my entire life (so far, I'm 32 years old now). You are NOT alone. Even though I know it feels like that so much sometimes. Don't be afraid. Just from the little bit I've read here I can tell you have a good head on your shoulders. I had a hard time in school like you. I had bad grades, and had a hard time learning. At the time I felt like my friends were the most important thing in the world. When they would stab me in the back, or when my boyfriend cheated on me, I felt like the world was coming to an end. Part of it is just being young, and not knowing better because you haven't lived long enough to have all that experience under your belt. Don't get me wrong though, life is still full of struggles and trials after high school. But it's different. You learn to deal with the bad in a better way. I had no idea who I was in high school. It wasn't until getting out of that bubble, and into the real world, that I started to find who I really was. I was like you and had trouble making good grades, and felt stupid because I saw others doing it all with ease. Meanwhile, everything seemed almost impossible to me. I'm not stupid by any means, but I didn't do well in school because I wasn't interested in what I was being taught. I'm not book smart, but I am common sense smart. But even more than that I'm a very creative person. I've always been interested in music and art. After having my son I finally found my calling as a freelance photographer. It's awesome because I can be a stay at home mom to my son, and still do my photography on the side. It took me longer than most of my classmates to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. But I finally did! Now some of those people who I felt were so much smarter than me, and the people who seemed to sail through school with no trouble at all, are my clients! I've photographed their weddings, their babies, children, family portraits. It might have took me a little longer to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, but it finally happened. And I wouldn't change a thing. I love my job. I love being able to be creative and express myself through art, and get PAID for it :) Don't stress! I promise you will find your way to happiness in your own time. You just have to focus on the future. Stay true to yourself. Hold onto hope. Follow your heart. Dare to dream! And trust that everyone has their own unique path to happiness. Much love and many prayers always, Carrie
just be yourself ToneDef Hip-Hop . everything will be alright..just continue looking forward into your life.. Someday you will realize that being alive up to now is the greatest gift that we could have from God. :)
Dude, many, many people out there all over the world are kinda the same like you, you just have to keep being though and get through. All of my friends left me too but at a later point you realize you did nothing wrong.
This song still hits hard. Every time something shitty happens this song is a comfort. Been a fan of the band since i was given "Infest" shortly after it came out. This band has helped me through my shitty teenage years and continues to help me even now when I'm approaching my mid 30's.
I used to listen to this song When I was a teenager I have no idea what it was about fast-forwarding it 8 to 10 years I completely understand and is very much relevant in my life
yessssss since i was a toddler my dad always played this genre of music, at that time of age i dint know what it meant but now I DO! i listen to it frequently
you ever listen to a song when you're younger and you don't really relate to it but then when you're older going through old cds you realize you've been in situations just like this
@Go With A Smile damn I'm 18 if you're still having emo kid problems and teenage drama bullcrap still into your 30s, man, i guess life never gets any easier, but the music never gets any better which proof of that is both a 30 year old and an 18 year old who should be listening to nee music are both listening to a song the came out when i was a baby, my sister was emo and used to sing evanescence to me to go to sleep and play all American rejects and papa roach and mcr lol
Jessica Sizemore self esteem by The Offspring had the same effect on me once I started dating. As a kid the song was just bad ass but the meaning of the song changed a lot as I got older
I'm nearly considered AARP fodder and I can NOT get past this piece of work that has SO MUCH feeling and meaning in the words the inflection of the singer and the solid timing and groove of these guys... THAT is ART...Thanks guys🤘
