Parenting Tips - Behavioral Signs That A Child Has Been Molested 

I'm trying to let go since it was in the past, but every time I try to, it keeps flashing back in my mind.

Me too I was 11

I was by the the school councelor

EMDR Theraoy is so good for this! It has helped me tremendous

@@tobierenee3212 You are not alone 😔

i'm the same age as you and experienced sexual abuse through the same ages by a close family member. you know, for the longest time, i thought i was completely alone, that was i was the only one who'd been through something like this. i didn't even realise it was CSA until i was 16. i don't know, just reading this made me feel better and worse at the same time. i'm so sorry that you went through something similar to me but it also makes me feel less alone. i hope that we both heal from this and live our best lives.

Damn girl thats effed up lmao

Prayers for your healing. I still get flashbacks. Most importantly is you understand that you have the right to physical love on your terms. I finally found a trustworthy loving Christian man. I hope you get the Prince Charming you deserve. Is this man dead, in jail? Or on to his next victim?

that is incest

Yes, agree

That's God awful! I feel for you.

@@jolanhowes3604 we're slowly working through our relationship

@RU-vid Sucks I tried to explain to my dad that his friend groomed me for a long period of time which prevented me from wanting to come forward. He said I just made up the term "grooming' and he's never heard of that and that a true victim doesn't feel shame if they've done nothing wrong, so I must have seduced him. I was so furious that I hung up and called a pregnancy crisis center and explained to them what happened and what my dad just said and had their counselor call my father and explain what grooming means and how victims DO feel shame even though they have done nothing wrong. My dad was born in the 1930's and his feelings and beliefs about certain things are very antiquated and not appropriate

I agree with you, and your dad has shown how much it means to him by his response (0%). He's complicit, if you don't mind me saying so. I'm sorry for you and all children who have been treated this way. ❤

Shit man. That's the worst thing he could've said.

Wait what

Especially by your own family!

True

Hug😭😭😭

I call bull for the simple fact that where one remembers an act of that caliber accurately, one certainly remembers who was responsible without question. Thats like saying you remember seeing someone shot but you dont remember who fired the gun- its a rather unconvincing story when we consider the standard of "reasonable doubt".

No.

Being neglected can cause these things, I was starved and beat and neglected as a 9 month old. Memory leaves you so you can survive. (In my case anyway)

being neglected or simply abused in any way can cause these things. x

​@@chemeoklein2943what ? 9 months old thats harsh what kind of evil parents did this i am so sorry to hear that It makes my problem look small compared to yours

@@Mr-vengeanceyour problems are just as valid and just because someone has it worse, does not invalidate your experiences xx

@@ruthcalderon7201 DELETE THIS. I don't hate you, but people are not forgiving, (I'm not) and the whole thing is horrible all the way around. Say this to a therapist, not a void of hateful strangers. Don't expect understanding from people. And a FATHER'S job is to protect his family, not abuse them. I would rather die than hurt my own like that. Don't shame your family and yourself by putting this on the internet and expect a pat on the back. Talk to Jehovah or a therapist about it. Not here.

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Zulma Z are you ok

eggo gecko I use to think they were crazy too but there’s actually a lot of evidence... can’t unsee/hear it

Bash Monkey you need help & Jesus. Lmao

I would go to the police and CPS smh

Amber Alexander - from what I’ve heard it may be quite common that others don’t believe because the abuser makes an effort to seem irreproachable, the nice guy ☺️/👺that’s how they get access to the one they’ve targeted to abuse- Talk it out with someone so you feel heard & believed - I wish you well & to find relief & peace ☮️ 🤗

this happens alot, my close friend had a similar situation. know one in her family believed her because the abuser was a wealthy family member who payed for everything. im sorry this happened to you

I understand you girl

I feel you, when i tell people my story I’m not expecting them to go crazy and do something about it, but at least act like u give a shit, i can’t say the straight faces i have faced everytime i mention the numerous times this happened to me.

I'm almost 60 and still affected by my mother not believing me. It's harder to get over than the abuse. I'm sorry you had to deal with this.

I’m 24 and I still do this to this day . So sad man .

😢

Me to dawg

in a good way? Thats such a hard conversation to have, how did you approach it?

It's was not easy mate

I overvcame my fears

@@Olwethu63 cant imagine it would be, good on you. I definitely will when the time is right, just gotta prepare myself a little bit

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@user name it really does leave you traumatized and it will have an impact on your life forever. It's not worse than being molested but I'm telling you from experience: Being exposed to pornography during childhood really messed me up, my relationships growing up or lack thereof, my self-esteem, my academic performance and social behavior. and I also have flashbacks, even after almost 20 years. It's a kind of trauma that *BUILDS UP* subconsciously, and you might even miss to point it out as the source of some of your issues like depression and anxiety. Hope this helped open more your mind :)

@@Sara-bq9dh u can see it in a movie or a magazine they may have left out. Ofc PURPOSELY showing it to them is one thing. But mistakes are made and at sometimes parents can be careless. Kids was sleep but walks in while they may be in actions. Careless uncomfortable and embarrassing but no where near the same as being touched

@@zulmakarnacha keep up the good work

Kids have cell phones and computers, they can see anything they want whenever

Did you leave them with any family members (am not trying to be rude)

Well I'm not accusing any one here but I personally often don't believe it because I know that being a victim of abuse myself I know personally that most abusers even more commonly sex abusers often lie and say they didn't do it just pin it on others so I don't know if I should believe it or not but if you suspect that that your kid was exsposed in anyway to inappropriate stuff than I would try to talk to someone to investigate and get the kid some help and if you have sexually abused it in any way or no some else who could have then please stop lying and get some help and tell the police what happened these things could help you figure out what is really going on and if you are or have abused it it would be advisable to not post that you have on the internet because people on the internet won't help you if you did you would receive alot of hate by some very unqualified people who would probably verbally destroy you so if you did we don't want to know about it tell someone who is qualified you don't want that type of backlash beleive me but yah either way I would talk to a professional and investigate and be truthful

@@someBody-bp1vc Most Child Molesters are family so that's a good question.

If your child has a phone or laptop there's no telling what they've seen so the first to blame might be YOU

@@davidtichborne2912 There’s really nothing wrong with using commas and periods…something I like to call punctuation!

tell any teacher or anyone who works at your school

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Tell another trusted adult.

Keep telling anyone in authority.

What if it was a parent???

Keep them all away from her. My oldest grandfather used the soap on her v too.

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i was at a sleepover last night and caught the man trying to caressing my backmside, i scared him off because inwoke up i freaked out, vcalling my parents and telling them everything

I have been

i’m gay and 25 i just came out to my mother that i was molested when i was 6 years old by a guy who we were living with at the time when i was little. pls be patient with him idk if he has told u guys yet.

I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s such a horrible thing for any child to deal. Thank you, I’m trying ti be patient but this definitely breaks my heart.

What is the result? You know your identity before you molested

It definitely can. There are more signs than just this, and looking into signs a child has been groomed specifically can help, but much of those signs are difficult to notice if you aren’t looking for them. The older a child is as well, the less likely it is to be drastic and noticeable. If you or someone you know is going through this, I’m so sorry and I hope whoever it is can get help. If you’re concerned about a child, it’s always worth trying to get to the bottom of it. Remember that it’s not your job to know for certain if something happened before involving CPS or the police - CPS mandatory reporter training makes very clear that it’s their job to investigate, and your job to report a suspicion that’s based on a good faith concern.

The police should be involved

Sorry to hear... I’m the same age and I have been sexually abused at a very young age many times... it’s also created a monster in me around age of 13 or 14 I believe.. idk how to heal

Nasser Alsallum ❤️

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U Might consider that if one child was sa that they could in turn start to sa another child themselves. Child on child SA… 😢

Trust your instincts

I understand, it's abandonment.

Tell her. As a mother to sons, I would want to know. It isn't her fault and her reaction isn't yours. Tell...it will help you

Please tell an adult that YOU trust. The same happened to me as a kid by an older cousin and I was afraid to tell my parents because they’d be angry that it happened and I’d get in trouble or something big with the family would occur. I never told her until I turned 18 and was ready to leave for the Navy. I LITERALLY just told my family now after finding out my little nephew has been molested by a family friend. PLEASE TELL AN ADULT THAT WILL HELP YOUR SISTER AND REMOVE HER FROM HER FATHER SO THE ABUSE CAN STOP AND HE CAN BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR HIS ACTIONS. NO CHILD DESERVES THIS!!! 💯💯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🚫🚫🚫 Not me, not my 6yo nephew and DEF NOT YOUR SISTER!!! If you lover her and care, TELL SOMEONE!!!!!

Ask GOD to reveal it and give you the strength to do so if necessary.

Interesting

Hi bubbli, I am a father of two young kids age 4 and 10. The 10 year old is a girl, 4 year old is a boy, I can tell you there is no reason a father would be alone in a room with his daughter with the door locked.. just no good reason and the bath thing is very weird too if what your saying is true I would advise telling a teacher at school and hopefully they will take care of it or maybe the mom but tell someone what’s happening

Tell a friend teacher another family member wrote it down send to cops

NEW WORLD ORDER (agenda 21,2030) WAKE UP N KEEP YOUR KIDS CLOSER … CHILDREN N HUMAN BABIES.....SATANIC CANIBAL PEDOPHILIC GLOBAL ELITES love to eat,rape, torture human babies too..... POLICE DEPARTMENTS KNOW THIS n they cannot deny, human sacrifice murders are happening..JEFFEREY EPTEIN & pedohile island...RIGHT KILLARY CLINTON?????

Have you reported it yet? Please do, I know he’s your cousin but he won’t stop. It’s evil, and my cousin did it too in my family... I’m here for you. I know some in your family might not believe but report it anyways.

Report him so he can’t do it to anyone else.

@@makegreenteanotwar thank uu I reported it 2 months ago after he did that. And my family didn’t really believe me but then they started to believe it. The bad the thing is I still see him everyday. But hopefully one day everything is gonna be put in justice

@@clwhite1127 thank uu and I did :)

You need to see a therapist for your own healing

@@PatriciaAllen-dn7ix you have my grandma first name 😭😭😳 and she was the one who knew I was touched at age 6 but didn’t want to get in it she was scared and feel guilty something told me to come out and ask her if I was and she knew the whole time I just found out April this month I was touched at age 6

Talk about living hell....that's a generational problem!

@@allesasmart thank u

So what? 1 in 6 children are. 1 in 4 girls, 1 in 8 boys. Your friend's cousin is nothing special

@@xinpingdonohoe3978 what the actual fuck is wrong with you??

@@xinpingdonohoe3978 wtf's wrong with you to reply like that?

@@jankorthorst89 two years ago, I'll assume disinterest or perhaps alcohol. You choose.

Do you have more information or can you lead me to a more informative video?

Indy Peach I was molested as a child, when I was around 8 multiple times. From experience, I suppose some of the signs I displayed was yes, I become aware of sexual things even though I had never in my life seen anything slightly sexual as I grew up in a very conservative community. I didn't even know what the word kissing was till after I was molested. I closed up a lot personally, I became shyer and that lively, funny sassy part of me was really pushed back. It caused me to feel depressed, I felt sad and alone. I became a little more nervous around males no matter who they were, even though my father has always treated me as a princess and been a wonderful man, because of the fact that another male had molested me even innocent things like hugging my father who had done absolutely nothing to me made me uncomfortable. I didn't like the dark, or being left alone. I mentally matured a lot faster than children my age and was able to understand adult problems quite well. All these little things are little cries of help. I haven't told anyone till today, and my family never noticed and sometimes I hate that they never picked up on it and other times I'm thankful. My mothers always telling me to " open up " and " be one of the guys " around my guy cousins ( who are really great❤️ ), and " not be so shy " etc and, I really hope no one has to go through what I went through. I had to heal by myself and I had to go through the pain on my own as a child, and it's so frightening and simply awful. So, i don't know. I think it's easy to miss these things, but not all kids are that obvious with their signs and sometimes parents pick up on them but brush them aside simple because they think " oh that could never happen to my child ". I think the only reason that I haven't said anything is because of who it was, that's something I'd rather take to my grave because of complicated personal reasons, and I think that's the issue most children face when it comes to telling people. As a child, I couldn't keep a secret, I was a bubbly, open little girl, and i loved listening in on my mom and her friends gossip😂 but, somehow I managed to keep what happened to me a secret, I've never even hinted at it. I don't know how I did it, because I was a loud mouth but somehow, I mentally refused to mention it and ever tel anyone. Also, now that I really think about it, as a pre teen I was overweight at like 5'0 ish, and 65kg, and I just realised that I started gaining weight when I was 8, that's when I started piling on the pounds. Also, I had a nasty temper growing up, and I don't think it was because of the molestation, because I'm pretty sure I had it long before then, but it certainly... made me more prone to snap and freak out if someone bothered me or annoyed me or something like that, I had a terrible terrible temper then.

I think what this video is trying to go after is a binary call>response logic. However the science proves that the nature of this sort of thing isn't binary at all. (li.e. binary supposing that a predetermined stimulus = an absolute response or most of a determined set of responses.) But is rather, exponential. (i.e. exponential meaning that a predetermined stimulus = a random cluster of a group of multiple sets of responses.) Hence, with exponential effects observation is not everything, because not all is what meets the eye. Hence, you can take no "symptom" at face value; but rather must backtrack a rather large call stack to trace to an arbitrary input. This stems from the fact that the human mind is very much like a microprocessor in a computer. The only real difference is that microprocessors have many times the speed of the human mind.

John Doe english pls

@@samarasha6806 I think I have a ‘somewhat’ similar situation. Someone who is close to my family, who I refuse to mention to anybody or tell anybody because honestly, the person who did it is somebody I’m very close with and don’t want to see get in trouble. Aka: I don’t want to cause drama. When I was young I started displaying very sexual behaviour that I shouldn’t have been. I was looking at inappropriate images and videos at an age way too young. I could understand most sexual humour in tv-shows and movies and would often have to hide sexual innuendos I understood from my parents because I didn’t want them to think differently of me. I have three older brothers, and the youngest of them who is only two years older than me, is someone that I would -I don’t want to say ‘express sexual behaviours I didn’t understand with’ but that’s basically it. (Lol I didn’t have sex with them, this isn’t an incest thing.) but we would be experimental and touch each other’s private parts when we really shouldn’t have. I understand though, that we were both children and didn’t understand that stuff, and so, I don’t really hold anything against him. But it was the (other person) who would sometimes sneak into my room when he thought I was asleep and touch my private areas. And I’ve noticed now that I’m older, relatively speaking, that I’ve, since a young age, have had fantasies of rape. Now, to be clear, I was never raped. ... what I mean is, is that something about that messed me up a bit and somehow gave me a distorted version of what love looks like I guess? Like logically I get it? But psychologically my brain doesn’t? (Also wanted to note that I grew up in a conservative household where sexual things weren’t lying around (on the tv, found in magazines etc.) so there wasn’t any real way for me to have known about the things I knew about.) Anyways, I don’t think this next thing you mentioned, in mention to myself is something I experienced to the extent of what you did, (very confusing sentence but stick with me) but now that I think about it, I have always felt uncomfortable whenever I’m alone in a room with an older man. Whether it’s my father, or a few teachers from school. I know it’s always me just freaking myself out. I know they are good people, but I still get obtrusive thoughts like “what if this person isn’t the way you imagined them to be? What if they hurt you?” Even though logically I know that this person in front of me would rather cut off an arm (talking about my father, who has always been amazing) than hurt me in that way. Something else I’ve just noticed somewhat recently, (or I should say remembered and connected the dots,) is that I didn’t stop wetting the bed until I was eleven. Maybe a bit older. It’s really... all these things I mean... they’re really... I don’t know... validifying? ‘Makes me feel valid’ seeing these symptoms in myself. And I know that shouldn’t make me happy, it doesn’t really. But there’s something.... almost satisfying in knowing that I’ve actually experienced pain from these events. That sounds weird. Sorry. I mean- I’ve always felt like I was never effected by it. That I was weird for feeling indifferent to what happened. Sometimes believing that I had made it up entirely to, I dunno, pity myself more or something? It makes me feel valid hearing other people’s experiences and knowing that what happened was real, and that it did actually hurt me and that I’m not... messed up? Even though I kind of am? *sighs* What I’m trying to say makes sense in my head... not on paper. Anyways... I know it’s been a year or something since you posted your comment and I’m not entirely sure you’ll ever read this. But if you do... thanks? I think this might be the first time I’ve ever actually shared this with anybody other than myself.... (I think I’ve shared on some random comment on RU-vid or whatever that no-one will ever read) anyways. I wish you well, and hope that you’re getting the help you need :)

Took way too long

You still fucked up

You pedophile

Trash

All done by lds

Not true at all

When I was kid I hated this one teacher I had....needless to say my 11 year old self came up with a story that got rid of him for good

It should be both. A molested child will have issues that will affect their live for the rest if their live. It could interfere with the success in life too. Harming their ability to have successful careers.

Molestation means raped. Anyways revenge seems more likely or justice which I know I'll never get my justice since they released my Rapist.

@@khaos5085 molestation doesn’t necessarily mean rape. It can mean that you were touched in any of your private parts by a person who doesn’t have any right to be touching you there. Or shown inappropriate images or videos purposefully by a person who knows better.

Or to stop it from happening to others, mostly.

They can absolutely have both. Molestation is being touched in a sexual manner. Doesn't have to be full on sex but touching or asking a child to touch them

john doe is a good name to use for this comment. looks like you've been to the "pedophilia is a sexual preference" school of quackery shoved down the throats of the psychiatrists who allow these monsters to still feel human. i'm of the "chemical castration and lifetime ankle monitoring or death by parents choice" school. stay away from children please, their sexual prowess may be too much to handle. (you're sick, bud. very, very sick.)

Freud and Kinsey are not reputable, Mr. Doe.

also no where in this video does it say or even infer that way, that gay parents would make gay kids, like what?? lmfao

@@SunShine-ye6ik Not quite- Rather the current research presents the notion that "pedophilia is a learned behavior". The problem with that in theory is that it quickly introduces a monkey wrench into the scientific method: being the "chicken and the egg" parodox. Rather, the question becomes that "if pedophilia (or any other sexual phenomenon for that matter) is a learned behavior" Then it follows where did the "first" individual exhibiting that behavior learn the behavior from if indeed there was no one to "learn" from? Rather, the only way to solve this problem in the purview of common sense is to hold that all sexual behaviors are distinctly innate. Otherwise, all you do is inject more questions than answers in terms of theory- and thus the result is no concreate usable information in terms of all practicality.

@@EBUNNY2012 you would be incorrect- Freud laid the framework for child psychology as we know it today. Modern child psychology relies extremely heavily on extensions of Freudian theory. Kinsey likewise, has never been proven "incorrect" in terms of modern research. e.g. modern well-controlled and well-randomized studies tend to confirm Kinsey's study as opposed to refuting it, as the general rule. Rather the supposed "problems" introduced into Kinsey's design really don't hold water in the real world. While "volunteer bias" does exist - given Kinsey's design and what Kinsey's experiment was seeking to answer (e.g. Kinsey was seeking to identify the null hypothesis) it follows that the supposed bias is inapposite to begin with, AND it also follows that the volunteer bias would have also existed in the control group as well, thus canceling out any effect on the data in terms of the scientific method, meaning it's simply not a scientifically valid objection. Basically, the people that have "problems" with Kinsey are simply people that "don't like what the data shows" due to their own political bias, and therefore come up with completely bunk objections, which tend to pass simply due to the political climate on the subject matter. e.g. what is known as confirmation bias- no one in the here and now is willing to seriously entertain the scientific hypothesis that "pedophilia is a normal variant" Therefore in modern studies, the researcher always has a serious problem with confirmation bias that dooms the experiment from the top, because there is no way to introduce a "double-blind" into these types of studies. Rather, even if there's a problem with bias- it still doesn't "confirm" the null hypothesis anyways- meaning that even if Kinsey was flawed in methodology that flaw STILL doesn't confirm a null or alternate hypothesis- meaning it doesn't show that Kinsey was in any way wrong in terms of conclusion. Rather, if a researcher has a problem with Kinsey's study, then the onus is on that researcher to at least present solid conflicting data without any glaring holes in the methodology that tends to refute Kinsey's results. This hasn't yet been done to this day. Simply put- the modern so-called "experiments" on the subject attempt to equate the alternate hypothesis to the null hypothesis such as that the hypothesis that "pedophilia is a normal variant" has zero chance of being proven by the experiment- and therefore such experiments fail the scientific method because either way the data points go, the results will prove the exact same thing making the experiment itself a useless exercise of semantics.

no, no it is not.

It was absolutely not crap.

People who get defensive like this . Denying the facts . Obviously has a need to want people to think this could never be true