I can relate to this as a kid. i was told many things, subjects were changed n the I was stupid 😂. I m doing so well in life my relatives cannot believe I m this successful. Now all I hear is praises. My nani was best, i fell n spilled milk n she said it's okay beta u didnt get hurt. I still rember, my nany was not officially educated but had wealth of wisdom.
Sir it is very difficult to maintain ur indivduality in society and family ,even an old man is not wise as to say.Even old people uses subtle tricks to derange a young men(23-25yrs old) especially when he is unemployed. Even women who have known u since childhood or long time ,they seems to be cruel after reaching this age ,if one is little conscious he can catch this subtle violence that society creates .I have made it a point that I am not going to lose my freedom at any cost under any circumstance. Sometimes i feel to broke into fight with these kind of people but i choose to remain quiet and don't react.
Me being an asthamatic from childhood, my father didn't bother much when he lit cigarettes at home. After he had heart attack, I was in 5th grade and used to sell those same cigarette packets for pocket money which he got from friends. I felt shameful to not ask and trouble for money but took it to heart. It did hurt a lot doing it for money and ruining others lives selling those! Thank you sir. You brought back old memories which I totally forgot. Dhanyavadagalu sir!
Mai bhi apne bache ko bohoth baar hurt kerchuki hu aapka video dekh ke bohoth guilt feel sambhalna padta hai ghar or bacho ko tho mera frustration mai kabhi kabhi bacho per nikalthi hu..bhai please guid kare
You are really leading good life giving importance to relationship and keep on learning new things and accept your mistakes openly hats off to you sir keep going
So true, These hurtful words sting like needles and leave a deep hurt in our souls. This is the reason why many of us have to go to therapy because of all the emotional and psychological abuse we endured during our childhood from these so called "wise" parents and teachers.
You are the only person who is the perfect reflection of my mind thought. How can you be so perfect to deal the tragic life history of school students? I can better Co relate with my conclusion that I deeply analyse within myself. Hat's off to your higher consciousness 🙌
I am a Muslim and I too have experienced this childhood trauma that too from my biological mother wherein, in Islam, it is said that the Paradise is beneath mother's foot but unfortunately same mother would demotivate and degrade me since my childhood and she still continue to do so.. Teku dhanya lane ko kaha to karipatta lata hai.. Anda lane ko kaha to toota hua anda lekar aata hai.. ye kaam tujse nai hoga...wo kaam tujse nahi hoga.... and the list goes on... I am still an introvert.. I can't sit and talk with any elders especially jo apne aapko bade dayaalu samajte hain. bachpan se saala daraa daraa k rakhte jo thay....Wo darr aaj b hain and this fucking darr is now a biggest hindrance in my growth from all aspects of my life. Thank u sirji koi to hai is dunya me jo apne dukhde comments me hi sahi share karne k liye ye avsar diya hai apne dil ko halka karne ka..
Thank you for sharing. It is really very difficult to give feedback to parents who refuse to introspect and even consider the feedback that they might be guilty of wrong parenting.
Sir, I don't want to dumb all my childhood trauma. But had such experience in my childhood 2000s kid got called name's like abnormal,useless ,manhus . My parents kept me away from them for 9 years. Since I was 6 years tell teenage so, i got tortured at matranal grandfather its was hell. But after following Osho ❤ I just realised moving forward and letting go is the best thing
I have been through some tough times in my college and lockdown and osho's words and insights are what have kept me stable till now. Glad to see people discovering his work.
Mere sath bhi esse hua aur mene apne parents ko maaf kardiya per jab me issi topic me apne parents se baat karta hu khete he " humne toh wese kuch kiya hi nhi" toh mujhe aur gussa aata he
Rao saheb you are so humble and honest. It would be great if you could pen your experience thoughts and outlook into a book. People reading it will surely get to learn a lot from it.
@@KrishnarajRaoUrbanNaxalbook koi nhi padhega par woh rahegi hamesha ...ek book likhne k baad aapko bhi kuch milega ...koi padhta nhi woh ek alag topic hai par itna Asaan nhi likhna woh ek alag baat hai ..
Mere school mein v kuch teachers the, jo sirf bakwas nature ke the. Afterall they are humans so they always have flaws. Teachers are not God at all. Treat them like humans don't make them King or Queen.
Allah aap ko sahi salamat rakhe aur tandurust sahatmand rakhe inshallah❤❤❤ aaj kal k so called gayani motivational youtube ka gayani aap ka 0.001% ve nahi haan sir .......
I can also relate to this video many times as a kid we hear these types of comment like - u r stupid, u will do nothing in ur life, u don't have a brain etc, it gives us tremendous trauma and fills us with guilt but our Indian parents never take the responsibility they always blame this on their children, and says parents are god, and teacher also justify their crap by saying we are guru bigger than god and so much crap this topic needs to be discussed in our society. Thanks sir for bringing such vedios
this is all a little subjective though. our temprament dictates how we deeply we feel things, especially the negative ones. To anyone reading this, dont think that its a lifelong thing though... a litlle self awareness and awereness of how you feel and when you feel it and what made you feel it, coupled with therpay and the determination to not wallow in those feelings and stay stuck can go a long way, especially if you put in the work.
Hi sir , i am Abdur Rahman..i lost my father 5 years ago when i was 13 , currently i am 18 n studing in class 12th..please make a video on how should be a life of 12th class student , I know the topic is damn confusing but please make it so that how should manage my emotions and improve myself..
My mom too but I was mentally so strong this stuff it didn't mess up my self-esteem. I just understood that she didn't know any better. I dont get it how parents can be so cruel w words to their kids. I can never use these sort of words fr my kids.
Mental health awareness hai hi kaha india me... sabko bas kaam, mazhab aur "wo kya sochenge". Childhood trauma is one of the worst... older generation parents didn't take it seriously at all. On a side note, you might have been absent-minded in your childhood with that dawai story, but I am still absent-minded in middle age.... I try my best not to be, but I'm unable to avoid it. It still hurts my confidence. Keep doing your great work. And have you tried psychotherapy by the way? No age is too late for it, give it a try. I'm going to give it a try soon enough.
Maine ik Baar Majak majak mein mri Maa ko bol diya Tha k app Hume bhout Marti thi..Maa ne 4 din full emotional drama Kiya.. baat nhi ki or kaha k tumhare Bhale k liye hi marte hain Maa baap..baad mein mene hi sorry bol k ghr ka mahol thik Kiya.. ab kaise baat kare Batao jab koi ap ko hi guilt mein Dal de
Right, ma-baap ka habitual overreaction aur emotional atyachaar ek bohot badi samasya hai. Bohot sare families mein yeh problem hai. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏻
Hello sir, I have one question to you if you could answer me. I always have conflict with my parents whenever I say my truth or say No. Am I wrong or right and why they become offensive and degrade me and say rude words n they feel like a disappointment to deal with me. And I am so broken inside that kept on hiding my pain and do whatever they say or want from me then I become like a product of their choice. I have lowest self esteem right now and can't talk to them and my brother not even ask me even if I cry so badly yelling my soul. Why it is happening sir. I am literally dead inside.
Bad parenting habits are inherited from grandparents. It's like a family curse being passed on down the generations. You will have to take charge, identify and do the exorcism of the family curse/ghost, and break the spell. Meaning, you have to heal yourself so that the ghost stops with you, and isn't passed on to your children.
Toxic parents by susan forward . It helped me. Some people cannot accept their mistakes and short comings. You don't need anybody's apology to heal. They don't need to understand you for you to change yourself. Sab moh maya hai samjho.
Me being an early 90's kid can very confidently say that schools and their teachers really sometimes cross their limit! Not all teachers unnecessarily scold children or thrash them, but there are quite a few who I don't know may be are too frustrated with their own life or job in some way, that they consciously or unconsciously vent out their frustration on kids.... It's so shameful actually! Nowadays it's really good that students can even report to the police about teachers if they regularly harass the kids or thrash them, but at that time it was considered necessary and quite ok if your kid was thrashed by teachers at his school. Was considered important for imparting 'discipline'! 🙏🙂 Thrashing someone is one thing but repeatedly criticising and abusing someone for not doing his/her homework in front of the whole class and humiliating that student... This can really destroy someone's life! You never know... I know being a teacher is never easy, but then the teachers must accept the challenges of their job and act responsibly. Or should never do it. First 7-8 years of a child are very formative. Whatever he learns about himself in those 7 years, that predominantly stays with him in his subconscious mind for his entire life... Because kids mind are very vulnerable and they can be impressed in a positive or negative way very easily for his/her entire life!
Respected sir, since your childhood in your personality building you might have taken seriously mostly negative social behavior than positive because of your biological traits , which might have created a some type of personality disorder in your adult life in like borderline etc in mild form, whatever may be, you are concluding and living your life to fullest in later phase of life, don't you think as a child treatment we receive from our parents , as parents we transfer to our children, might be as our unconscious frustration etc, i have much to say from my experience🙏
Sir, have you watch "Acharya" movie🎥? Answer this question, otherwise there is no sense in making such videos. 3 idiots movie was a huge massive box office success. But, still it has changes many people mindset. Even, "Wake Up Sid" movie has came but did it change the mindset of people? Answer is always No & No. Because, people always want to get looted by someone. As "Rajiv Malhotra" already written a book on such situation, it's title is "Chalta Hai".#infinityfoundation
No, I have not watched Acharya. Consider the possibility that I am not here to change anybody's mindset. Maybe I am making these videos as a way of holding some people's hands long after I am dead and gone. My dad and I had some deep conversations decades ago, and after he passed in 2017, I still feel his hands holding mine. Happy?
@@KrishnarajRaoUrbanNaxal No. Because, you communist are hypocrites. Unless and until, you don't watch such movies. You won't have any support, especially from me.
@@shreeanshshukla148 Yes indeed, my mom has done much, for which I remember her with affection. But she also did much that caused me to remember her with anger, pain and confusion.
Do you feel any remorse at all for the physical abuse you inflicted on your children? You don't really acknowledge that you do. Besides you justify your actions on your circumstances. The fact that you don't remember many of these incidents indicates that you did have some deep-rooted mental issue caused by how you were treated as a child.
Woke (/ˈwoʊk/ WOHK) is a word which originally referred to awareness about racism and discrimination. It later came to include an awareness of other issues of social inequality, for example regarding gender and sexual orientation. Since the late 2010s it has also been used as a general word for left-wing political movements and viewpoints which emphasise the identity politics of people of color (those who are not white), LGBT people, and women.@@KrishnarajRaoUrbanNaxal in other words a left winger or leftist.
@@Joe-Brandon I think "woke" is a catch-all term used to bundle together many beliefs and/or habits of thinking. I hold some beliefs that you may call leftist, but also some beliefs that you may call right-wing or conservative. For example, I have no sympathy for LGBTQ activists and feminazis, but I also dislike incels.
