Passing Her Jealousy Tests 

Tests often seem disrespectful...but whether you like them or not, they're going to happen. Getting angry about them is failing the tests.

If a woman fear of losing you she would never do things like that so if you wanna pass the test just make her always aware that you are not afraid of walking away.

Good response!

@@SkillofAttraction I learned from the best man. Thanks for everything you do!

@@Secretary.of.Education Thanks, man! Glad you;re finding it helpful!

Just say nope. Just makes me move on faster babe. Lol

You can't escape women's tests. It's part of their instinct to ensure they have a strong man.

Most likely. If she's crossing the line, then that's different...you should certainly speak up. But if it's harmless flirting she's most likely doing it to see if she can get a rise out of you. Emotionally reacting to it is what you want to avoid. Respond, but never react.

@@SkillofAttraction I just keep it moving

@@SkillofAttraction and I chase $$ not chicks, I’ll teach her who the losers are and who is not

@@Stop-loss-BoSS Good luck!

There is a beautiful narcissistic woman I used to flirt with for months at the gym. "It def has cooled off" but now the real games have begun..She told me she's working on her empathy lol. I told her I've taken many psychology classes in college. She asked me how old I thought she was cause she's insecure about that. Hot and cold this..women are supposed to be smarter with this gameplay I thought. Ehh maybe I'm a tad narcissistic too and can see this shit. It's definitely something to witness. Makes the gym more fun tbh. She is trying to make conversations with people besides me out of nowhere..lol kk.. Let's go. Shit I'm I'm the prize in that John Deere gym. She's knows it. Ah well. Pull more shit I just deadlift more. Thanks for the boost

All women test. It's best to understand this & learn how to "pass" these tests.

All women test. There's no way to escape it. It's part of their instinct.

​@@SkillofAttraction even if their man isn't around?

@@JuniorWitter-vz4mh They test men they feel attraction for. Men that take offense to this just tell women that they don't understand the game, which causes her to lose attraction immediately.

Everyone has boundaries in respect of what is acceptable and what is disrespect. Asian women for example will never do this type of shit testing because on their culture there is absolutely no doubt flirting with other guys is disrespect.

@@sobrouesselogin All women test...it's built into their DNA. And often, women don't even realize they're testing. They may be much more subtle about it due to what's culturally acceptable, but it still happens. This is one of the many ways women test a man's confidence & emotional strength.

You can't escape their tests...ALL women do it. However, it's a sign that they like you. You might want to check out my latest video, as I go into the importance passing their tests: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-0r-dYgk6vck.html

@@SkillofAttractionfoolishness, you dont have yourself a woman when she goes out of her way to get a jealous reaction out of a man

@@hardonmymotor9743 Jealousy is a great look on a man. let us know how it works out.

There's a time & place for that, but this isn't one of them. Handling it how I say in this video is how to handle it...it shows you're unaffected which tells her that you're confident & emotionally strong.

Good response!

Easy when you're not attached....much more difficult when you are. It's better to learn how to pass her tests, because there will be a LOT of them. Besides, "passing" those tests really ramps up her attraction.

@@SkillofAttraction I'm very attached then how I come off. II'm just not showing her or the world how I really feel cuz at the end of the day nobody cares about a mans feelings. Pillow talking is what makes most women disrespect us anyway

@@isaiahrobinson5746 Nope, no one really cares how men feel. As a side note, have you seen my video on jealousy tests? ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-QmUk06vwNGk.html

It's a test of your confidence, like I said in the video. You get upset & leave, you failed the test. Follow what i suggest here & you'll be fine...most likely never testing you in that area again.

@@Elonmuskateer You can't avoid women's tests. It's as certain & as uncontrollable for women as it is for us men to check out a nice rack.

Until you learn & accept that women will always test you, whether you approve of it or not, you're always going to have trouble with women. It's best to learn how to recognize & pass these tests, because they aren't going away. It's simply part of their instinct in looking for reassurances.

@@SkillofAttraction I agree with you 100%. I've always had trouble with women. That's one of the many reasons I checked out of dating and dealing with them years ago.

@@brentrosencrans3968 Yes, it's easier to just give up.

@@SkillofAttraction That's exactly what I told my friend who gambled most of his money away and stopped gambling.

@@brentrosencrans3968 I was being sarcastic. Masculine energy grows with challenge. Giving up is for the weak.

Sounds like you "passed"the test with flying colors.

It's not "trying to get a reaction"...it's testing to see if he's emotionally reactive, which conveys weakness. And no, men don't unconsciously test women. Women's tests are part of her instinct to ensure she has chosen a man that makes her feel safe to fully embrace her feminine energy....& she occasionally continues to test him for reassurance, especially if he has demonstrated some weakness.

You're not overreacting. How you handle this really depends on a few things...is she your exclusive girlfriend, like you have agreed on exclusivity? If not, there's not a lot that you can say here. Did she meet your friend through you, or did she know him before you? If she met him before you, then again there's no a lot that you can say. However, if you're exclusive & she met him through you, then you're in a position to speak up. I'd say that her rubbing it in your face is a test, but the fact that she's talking to him regularly & dating you exclusively, that's somewhat disrespectful. I mean, you have to draw a line in the sand at some point. So, you could calmly & confidently tell her that you're not going to tell her who she can be friends with, but private chats with your buddies isn't cool. If she puts up a fuss, you could always ask her how she'd feel if you were talking to her girlfriends. Just know that you can't force her to stop & at some point you may have to either accept that this is who she is, or walk away if it's something you can't tolerate. Personally, I wouldn't be cool if my girlfriend were texting my buddies.

@@SkillofAttraction Thank you for getting back to me. We have not explicitly had “the talk”, however she has stated recently in the past that she doesn’t want to start anything new. We have been improving the toxic situation we had before and although she hasn’t asked to be my girlfriend, I believe she does view us as exclusively dating and getting there. We are somewhat in the same circle of friends but she only started texting him after her and I had been talking(but not yet dating). They had originally exchanged contact info for something related to school. I suppose this would entitle me to speak up for this.

@@stephsmith5959 First, be sure that you let her initiate "the talk" no matter how long it takes. This is her job & if you bring it up before she's ready, you'll either get rejected or she'll see you as lower value, which means a lower attraction. You always want to put women in a position where they must earn your heart & commitment (as well as earn your attention & praise). Men are the gatekeepers to commitment, the same way that women are the gatekeepers to sex. This situation is a bit of a grey area. I would imply that you're not comfortable with this, but don't overtly say it. So, you might say something like, "Is (your buddy) providing you with something I don't give you?" If she pushes you to elaborate, then just mention that you've noticed how often they text & you were wondering if something was missing between you two where she feels the need to fill that void with your buddy. This way you're not controlling her & you're not accusing her of anything, but she SHOULD get the hint. Of course put it in your words, but I feel this is a god way to tackle the situation without stirring up drama. Just remember, you never want to give your girl the impression that you fear another man is better than you, which is what jealousy often does. But, like I said, you have to have boundaries to some extent. Just stay calm & collected.

It's not his fault.

@@SkillofAttraction yep never blame the guy if she invites it

@@jimdaniel4412 Exactly! What guy wouldn't engage a beautiful woman coming up to him & start flirting...especially if he doesn't know she's with someone?

That's how a gentleman handles it.

Lol

She'll do it much less in that case, but women will always test you & it's important to be prepared, because tests come when you least expect it.

I agree but it's disrespectful and emasculating to flirt right in front of you

pls

Thanks, man! I have a bunch in the works...

I can't say what that means, but have you asked her, "Why do you always walk ahead or step back to talk on the phone?" Just don't continue to ask her or try to control her to do it in a way where you feel comfortable.

That seems like blatant disrespect & not really a test. You did the best thing & just left.

You handled it like a king. Now you need to stay strong and don't take her back. That's the hardest part.

Damn

Tease her a bit like I suggest in the video...

You don't have to apologize to me...I'm just explaining how it works. You're free to choose to ignore it...

I'll take that as a compliment... 👍🏻

@@SkillofAttraction yes it is

Yeah, that's rough...feelings resurfacing. You're most likely still grieving the loss, so it will be a while still before you're healed. When you run into an ex the best thing to do is that you don't try to avoid her or ignore her....BUT, you don't go to her either. So, in other words, if/when you see her wave, smile, or say "hi"...but if she wants to to talk to you let her initiate conversation &/or come to you. Keep your frame & do your best to not allow your own emotions to take over you.

It becomes easier once you begin to recognize her tests...& this will make your relationship(s) so much smoother.

Of course you're free to do what you want...I'm just teaching you the psychology behind it & how to fundamentally handle these situations in order to maintain her attraction. "Dread" will work once or twice in this case, but not long term. Eventually she'll perceive it as butt hurt & test harder. As I explained in this video, women will continue to test you if you're not passing them in order to push you to be a stronger man....but she'll stop (at least for a while) once you pass them & she realizes that you can't be rattled.

@@SkillofAttraction It's too disrespectful for me that she will be doing those things in front of me because I wouldn't do it to her , but thanks

Women are children pretty much huh ? They still want attention and validation even though they're in a relationship? One time ,my ex girlfriend was taking to this guy and I told that he like her . I don't know if she was playing stupid or what but he tried to made his move and I dumped her for allowing him to keep texting after that happened .

@@carlosdixan112 If it makes you that uncomfortable, then it's best that you don't hold that back, as long as you remain emotionally centered. Women want authentic men & they can sense inauthenticity if it's too consistent. However, it's still important that you understand the fundamentals behind this.

@@carlosdixan112 They certainly can be childlike emotionally. I believe that it's mainly due to the unconditional worship they receive for simply being female from childhood into adulthood. One of the reasons men struggle going into adulthood is because they no longer receive praise unless they provide value.

If she's doing it continuously, then it's not really a test anymore. Once or twice it's a test, but continuously is either because she doesn't realize it bothers you, or it's just disrespect. It's probably time to speak up about this. Perhaps start off by asking her if she would be okay if you were talking & flirting on Facetime with other girls, then take it from there.

Thanks for the advice. I was told from a friend that because we are not really confimed gf and bf that i really can't say anything about the situation however I did find this disrespectful even if we are just casually seeing each other to be sharing my time with another guy. I did give her the impression I don't care and even act friendly to the guy.

@@jaybody5926 Your friend has a point. You have to be careful with these kinds of things when you're not official. And as a side note: be sure to let her bring up the topic of exclusivity. As a man you never want to be focused on relationships/commitment: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-t-PGbUo462k.html

@SkillofAttraction yes she is giving hints she wants commitment but hasent said it directly. To give context to the situation I'm living in a foreign country and so my smv is way higher and she knows that. She also seems to be insecure about it. When out she gets jelousy looks from girls way more attractive than her and we both discussed this so that being said it seems she's trying to raise her value by facetime this guy and show she has options also. Could that be a reason?

Exactly! Refreshing to see that someone gets it!

Simp and cuckhold

@@carlospita6442 No, he's right.

It could be either one...or perhaps she's asking for one of her single girlfriends. I wouldn't stress about it at this point.

I wouldn't say anything at this point, but I'd watch this. Your friend is more at blame, however. He should know better. He's dangerously close to breaking the "guy code"...you never get involved with your buddy's girl.

Why, thank you!

It sounds like she's complimenting your photography, no? Regardless, I wouldn't even acknowledge it. A big mistake lots of men make on social media is giving their girl too much attention...they "like" almost every post, comment on every post, etc. It over-validates women & after a while she almost feels entitled to your attention.

Not a sign, but anything is possible.

That's true, humans are not naturally monogamous. We can do it, but it's fighting nature. But relationships don't have to suck. Understanding intersexual dynamics & female attraction will help immensely in navigating yourself & your girl through a successful LTR...IF that's what you want. If you're only interested in short term relationships, of course that's fine too.

@@SkillofAttraction and that's why youre the coach and this guy is not

@@shenanigansfckery7753 Thank you, sir!

Jealousy communicates that you're afraid that she may find another man better than you, which exhibits a lack of confidence. Of course you also cannot tolerate her rubbing other men in your face either. So, initially it's better to show a woman you're unfazed...but if she continues that's just disrespectful & you want to pout your foot down. At that point, it;s not about jealousy, but about her showing you the proper respect.

@@SkillofAttraction okay coach thanks makes sense now

Also it can be very tricky because the female might be cheating on you in front of your nose but you being confident might think is a test , do you see where I’m coming from . How do you handle this things yourself?

@@carlosdixan112 Absolutely! You want to look for signs or red flags of potential cheating. As an example, & I learned this one the hard way...is she accusing you of cheating? Usually (not always) whatever someone accuses you of, they're often doing it themselves. Does she lie to other people close to her? If she's lying to them, the chances of her lying to you are pretty great. In this case, you want to look for signs of integrity, or lack thereof. Plus, your gut instinct will tell you a lot. Every single time that I suspected a girl of cheating, & I felt it in my gut, she was. I had no real proof of anything, but if you feel it in your core, the chances that she's actually doing it are pretty good.

@@SkillofAttraction all jealousy tests are disrespectful tho...best thing is to deal with women who dont disrespect you and to keep improving your life i prefer respect and money over sex

Most tests from women are completely unconscious...& understand that you cannot escape women's tests no matter what you do. It's part of their instinct.

Thanks, man!

This has nothing to do with monkey branching...it's a test. But I do have a video on signs that your girl is about to monkey branch: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Tx61230x2eI.html

Yes! To a woman, it's attractive & it makes them feel safe.

In this case, I would definitely confront her on the kissy face picture. Do not lose your cool or composure...calmly, yet firmly, ask her what this is all about. If she tries to turn this around & make you the bad guy(as women often do when they're confronted), then tell her that this is getting dangerously close to crossing the line with you & that there are no second chances if that line is crossed. Distance yourself from her a bit for a while...let her work a bit to earn your investment again. And be sure to keep an eye on this. There IS a thin line between tests & disrespect. It's not always easy to know the difference...so, whatever you do in these situations, do NOT lose your cool, but always see yourself as the prize.

@@SkillofAttraction well I took your advice and tried to play it cool... Made a joke how they would make a cute couple and how I should give her some flirting tips then the next thing she got all defensive saying how does her posing with a guy mean she wants to flirt with him... I fucked up and backed down and apologized and told her I was being sarcastic... That same day while we were chatting her replies were all single words and jusy in general like she didn't care about the conversation, she even put me on read and kept coming online and even posted memes on her status... It wasn't until 5 hours later she replied, and she didn't even acknowledge the message I left... She just told me she had gotten home and I still talked to her like nothing... I didn't bring it up cause I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt that she was tired from the long journey... All that was yesterday but at this point in time I've decided I'm going to break up... I don't deserve to be treated like that.. Like you said I'm the prize... I'm gonna bring up her leaving me on read like a chump and end things

@@bryanwolf5468 You had the right idea by making that comment, except I wouldn't have brought up 'flirting tips', as it sounds a little passive aggressive...I would've left it at 'cute couple'. I'm glad you realized that backing down was a mistake. You want to keep that playful vibe going. Breaking up isn't necessary, unless you really want to. She was testing you further, because you failed the test when you backed down. When you fail women's tests, you get more until she's satisfied that you're being strong again. I would write this whole thing off & begin to back away a bit until she begins to invest in you again. But if you do decide to breakup with her & I would NOT bring up being left on read. That's showing weakness again. She's testing you.

Well I guess non of that matters anymore... We broke up 2 days ago... She was giving me low energy in our conversations and acting weird and I just skipped all the bullshit and told her how she'd been acting, and how it's been making me feel... Then I asked if she was tired of the relationship... And she told me yes... In truth I was happy... Cause honestly she was never my ideal kinda woman... She's a super loner, I can't have deep conversations with her because it just ends in her saying "I don't know what to say", she's an emotionally unavailable woman... She's always had trouble expressing herself and her emotions, she has insane mood swings...she doesn't value her relationships with people.... Like all the fights that we ever have had her reaction has always been to just pack up and go old.... After a week or some days of not reaching not I'm usually the one that ends up reaching out... I have sent her money so many times and she has ever gotten me jack shit.... All the times she needed emotional support, I always there to help in every way I can but because of her emotionally unavailable she is, when it comes to her supporting, it just ends up lackluster... And to top it all off... This was a long distant relationship... I found myself always asking myself why the fuck I was still dating her... Why the fuck I was still subjecting myself to so much stress for someone who had so many qualities I didn't even like... I mean just 3 weeks ago she's the same person that told me not to ever leave her... Only for me to ask her and she says she's tired.... Of course once she said that I didn't even bother trying to fix anything anymore.... I just told all that's left is to break up and that was that Now she's making different posts trying to make me seem like the bad guy... Saying things about how people promise you they won't leave but end up leaving.... I mean WTF.... I don't even know why I care... Us not being together is a blessing.... I can focus more on my life and end up with a girl who I can rest my mind at ease with, that fits into my life... But here I am... Pissed and somewhat upset...... Siiiigghh I don't know.... I'm sorry for ranting coach... I guess part of me is just pained that I put up with so much of her bs.... Hoping at the back of mind that she would change, the relationship would work out and everything will be alright and just like that..... 1 year and 4 months of dating.... Poof Sighh

@@bryanwolf5468 That sucks, man. We've all stuck around with a woman longer than we should have. Emotional attachments aren't easy to break, & we tend to develop a fantasy of the person we wanted them to be, or thought they were. The important thing is that you stood up for what you wanted & walked away from what you didn't want. That takes balls. Now just focus on yourself...& grieve during your down time. The first few months are the toughest. And be sure to get out there & be social & talk to other girls.

They're all like this to one extent or another. Women test subconsciously just as men check out women's bodies subconsciously. It's best to just learn how to pass them & build up your emotional strength.

All women do it, and they never stop. You just need to learn how to pass them and identify when you're being tested.

@@philipramsden4975 You're absolutely right!

Thanks, man! Glad you enjoyed it!

Most likely a test. You can casually ask her who she went with...just don't show jealousy. You never want to give her the impression that you fear another man is better than you, that's why showing jealousy is a bad idea.

@@SkillofAttraction well if it turns out to be another dude (haven’t talked with her yet) then I’m gonna have to put my foot down and tell her I don’t like it. I get it women have guy friends and I don’t mind that, it’s healthy. But going to grab drinks with a random dude I don’t know and never met after work and not even have the decency to ask if it was ok with me is just disrespectful…thanks man

@@Rodeo-iz7cg Can you give us an update 2 years later? who was he? Did you move in with her?

@@jeroenyt9269 so I found out it was another dude and confronted her about it but I did it in a calm manner. She did try to hide who it was though and I had to really pull it out of her as I think she knew she was in the wrong. I told her I didn’t like that she went out one on one with another guy but She assured me it wasn’t strictly platonic. so I told her that I wasn’t mad and that if this dude was a serious friend that I’d like to meet this guy first before she hangs out with him again so I can judge what his intentions are (it seems girls are oblivious to the fact that most guys just want to bang). I told her that the last thing I want to do is control what she does but where I put my foot down is doing one on one dates with single straight dudes, not acceptable and that if I had done the same thing she wouldn’t like it. She agreed and told me that she understood and won’t do it again. She kept her word and I never heard about this guy again, he vanished and I never really figured who he was. She did end up moving in about a month later and now we just got engaged. Let me know if you have any other questions man.

Nah. That sort of thing doesn't bother alphas, because they're not threatened & don't take it seriously.

@@SkillofAttraction They're not threatened because they don't give a shit. Zero to minimal commitment. Aren't alphas supposed to be risk takers, so why not here? Commitment comes up, they become chicken as shit. At some point, an "alpha" may want to create an emotionally healthy family, and that requires some "beta" traits a.k.a. balanced human being.

@@smugforce7859 They're not threatened because they understand women, have a high self worth & many options...& they'll walk away & find a new girl at the first sign of her actually straying.

Lol...tell us what the masculine way would be.

Thanks man!

taching? Not sure what you're saying.

@leroy pope - Yes, exactly!

@Ger - It's challenging, but it can be done.

easier said than done..tho

@@abcdefghi_klmnopqrst__wxyz Absolutely! It takes real work on yourself.

@@SkillofAttraction that should be the focus everytime....me , myself and i..only that way you can become a better person..therefore create a better image of yourself and project that onto women...

You just lack confidence lol

@@SunshineSuperstar Ok...lol

@@SunshineSuperstar Getting emotional about women makes you weak af.

@@SunshineSuperstar Believing anything women do that you don't like is disrespect shows you're emotional. I've been coaching men professionally for close to 10 years now...I know when men are emotional.