Paying $800/dinner, I got so BADLY treated! 

Your wife was spot on when she said that "ordinary people will think they are doing something wrong", because this happens a lot, people save money to dinner in a special restaurant like this and they leave feeling like they don't belong to this kind of place

Separating the wine and food into two different bills was a very smart way to handle the two very different services you received.

I’ve watched 3 of your videos now and I love the dynamic between you and your wife bringing Asian culture and sentiments to the western world. And I straight up love the South African guy in this video. He’s so brash and straight forward which is the opposite of what we’re taught in Asian culture. So it’s nice to see a good balance and good conversation ❤

와.. 진짜 사람간의 문제에서 기분 상하고 얼굴 찌뿌릴 수 있고 충분히 화낼 만한 상황인데 항상 유연하고 온화하게 대하는 태도가 정말 대단하십니다..

“It’s his fucking job” I was dying of laughter Peter is the man

스승님이 제자의 마음에 공감해주면서 기분을 캐치하고, 제자의 마음에 쌓인 감정도 대신 표출해주시면서 풀어주시는게 이 시대의 진정한 어르신이시네요. 저도 저런 부분을 많이 닮고싶어지는 영상입니다. 두분다 좋은 분 같아요

I think this sommelier lost his job after this incident. The restaurant posted a job posting for the somm position on December 17th.

There is only one michelin star (*) Italian restaurant in LA - Osteria Mozza. It is commendable not mentioning it by name directly, however, I believe a healthy dose of accountability is good for any business to make the necessary improvements. In this case, it would mean getting rid of the Wine Tyranny.

There's so much to learn here about how to handle a bad situation that you should really be given credit for. Pure class.

There's always one saleswoman at Chanel who thinks she is a Coco, one salesman at Porsche who thinks he is a Ferdinand. They have little idea who puts the bread on their tables for what.

You actually handled the situation very well. I would have lost it, if I were spending that amount of money and gets shit from someone that was suppose to serve me.

웬만하면 직원 한 명이 잘못 했을 때 다른 직원들한테 까지 좋은 말이 나가기 쉽지 않은데 대단하시네요 기분이 태도가 되지 않는것에 감탄했습니다. 소믈리에만 잘했다면 완벽한 밤이 되었을텐데 아쉽네요 그래도 음식은 맛있었다니 다행이고 팁도 몰아준게 정말 멋지네요ㅋㅋㅋㅋ

Thanks for this very educational video! I didn't know i can split the check for wines only. Here's my story - I ordered a bottle of 2016 Chianti at a restaurant. When we realized it was actually 2019 vintage, we already emptied 1/3 of the bottle, but I still pointed it out. The wine guy sincerely apologized to us and offered half off or he would bring the new bottle with the vintage I ordered. So I took half off and gave him very generous tip because I think anyone can make a mistake but I appreciated his afford to make it right. Hopefully the sommelier in you video learned a lesson.

That’s why I love you guys channel a lot! You guys did what you have to do. Some people thought they know everything until they find out somebody know things better than them. But they still think they are god like Peter said. Thanks a again for sharing this Jay!

there have been a few times where i've forgotten to do table maintenance and never really recovered the issue, but never have i done so on purpose. i want to think that somm had more sense than to inhibit someone from drinking their wine. always love your videos senior wineking & peter! this inspires me to revisit the basics of service and shed more ego.

The waiter was so polite and handled the situation well also. Good service makes food taste better

Was worried at the start of the video when you said that you didn't tip, but separating the wine and food was 100% the right move. Only punishing the somme but still looking after the rest of the staff, and showing that the $0 tip wasn't because you're cheap, but completely due to the service. If I was you I'd send this video to the GM of the restaurant. Make it clear you don't want anything in return, you aren't asking for a free meal or a refund or anything, you just want them to be aware of your experience so they can correct it moving forward.

진짜 현명하게 대처하셨네요 저였으면 이게 맞는 건가 싶고 기분이 찜찜하지만 뭐라고 하지도 못하고 식사 망쳤을거 같아요

정말 최고세요:) 타이틀에 압도 되지않고 오히려 차분하고 현명하게 대처하는 그 여유와 깊이:) 영상보면서 에티듀드가 정말 중요하다고 다시 한번 또 느낍니다:)

정말 멋지고 젠틀한 부부네요. 문제해결까지 현명하고 알맞게 잘하셨습니다.

Peter is saying something I totally agree with - most people (not just Americans) avoid confrontation. This leads to a situation in which often people who behave poorly do not get the feedback they should receive (and neither do the people surrounding them). In my view, you did very well by rewarding the type of behaviour you appreciate while at the same time making it clear that as a customer, the kind of treatment you received from the sommelier was unacceptable and should not be rewarded in any way. Both from your order and from the way you approached the wines (and how you formulated your request) it was clear that you are knowledgeable enough about wine to explain how you perceived the Barolo and that you'd prefer to drink it differently. No amount of knowledge of a sommelier can change that if you don't enjoy the tannic structure, as it's a subjective thing. Peter was right to call him out as arrogant.

선생님의 돌직구 말씀 진짜 대단하구요, 와인킹님, 사모님(아내 분) 정말 대처 잘 하셨어요 보는 제가 기분이 좋습니다

유명세와 본인 커리어에 취해서 다른사람을 우습게 본다는게 얼마나 위험한지 저분에게 처음으로 제대로 알려주신분이 와인킹님 같네요 ㅎㅎ 저 소믈리에분이 다른 분들이 오셔도 겸손한 자세로 다른분들에게 좋은 서비스를 해주셨으면 좋겠네요 😊 영상 2년이 지난 지금에서야 보게 되었지만 너무 멋진영상입니다 👍🏻🙏🏻

I don't know how I stumbled on this video but what an interesting find! The cuts with your friend are awesome little bits of storytelling, your wife describing how customers get "overwhelmed" by fine restaurants. I know nothing about fine dining and even less about wine but this was so interesting.

Great video, the cuts between you and Peter, and you at the restaurant made for some great story-telling. Good work :)

와인킹님 영상 상당히 오랜만에 보는데 대박이네요. 아내분과 침착하게 말씀 나누시는거 보고 엄청 서로 위해주는 것 같아서 멋있어요! 기념적이고 좋은 날을 한사람 때문에 망칠 수는 없다는 말이 엄청 와닿네요. 저였으면 괜히 웨이터한테도 퉁명스러울텐데 웨이터한테 감사표시하는 것도 진짜 멋있네요 영상 감사합니다^^7

I too as an Asian American went to Dine At this OSTERIA MOZZA restaurant in the Melrose/Hollywood district... Unfortunately, I too received horrible rude service....If most of the staff are struggling actors the least they can do is apply that expertise to be gracious towards the guests .... It was as if it was more of an anoyance for us to be there.... I wold never ever go back and steer everyone away from that place.... Btw, I've owned and managed restaurants for nearly 30 years and even was a corporate trainer for restaurant guest service... Sorry but Osteria Mozza failed big time here

Thank you for sharing. I’ve learned so much listening to you both!

This was a well justified critique. I took the waiter's suggestion and google'd him and see the restaurant now has an opening for a new somm. Nothing like the power of social media!

"I'm always so intimidated in this kind of places" -> spot on! I have enjoyed great food and service on various plaes in the US. But the few times we paid more than usual, it was just because of the 'name' of the place. We should be honoured to eat there, or something like that. Well shown here!

I am a sommelier in a small hotel in near my home town and I would never think about treating any customer like this. I have met many different people at all levels of the hospitality industry and I do think there is a snobbiness with some whom work in michelin restaurants. Many are good down to earth guys though

컨텐츠가 안 올라와서 걱정되네요 ㅠㅠㅠ 와인킹님 영상은 항상 제가 같은 공간에 있는 것 처럼 몰입해서 보게 됩니닷..! 좋은 컨텐츠 감사드리고 앞으로도 더 보여주세요!! 좋은 와인처럼 향과 피니쉬가 안 끝났으면 좋겠어요

Great video! Loved the way you and your wife handled the situation at hand. It’s unfortunate that this happened at a so called Michelin star restaurant.

감히 북두칠권 마스터에게…

정말 현명하게 대처 하셨네요

I love how you responded to the situation. Although the man put his ego before his stewardship, you didn't name names, stayed respectful, and gave credit to where credit was due. There are so many people nowadays that think that they have some power because they got a Yelp account. People want to cancel a person for such trivial things. Ego is king, especially in LA. Hopefully, the sommelier will have some humble pie in the near future and allow his patrons to have their own opinions without getting offended.

I really enjoyed this style of video with the casual talk with Peter sliced with video footage from the experience. Hope to see more like this!

와인킹님 예전부터 영상 보고 있는데요 스스로도 대단하다 생각하여 남들에게 엄청 뽐내거나 하실 수 있음에도 불구하고 항상 겸손한 모습이 멋지다고 생각합니다!

마음이 진짜 넓으셔융 !! 영상에 나오는 대화들이 항상 값진 것 같아요 !! 😌

맙소사... 그냥 고개만 끄덕이고 눈만 깜빡여야하나요? 소믈리에 태도에 문제가 있군요... 하지만 멋진 저녁을 망치지 않게 노력하는 모습에 더 큰 충격?을 받았습니다. 만약 제가 저 자리에 있었다면 이렇게 아름답게 끝내지는 못했을 거 같아요...

저 상황에서도 잘 대처하셨네요ㅋ 푹 주무시고 잊어버리시고 앞으론 좋은일만 가득하시길요.

I love how you were classy and didn't show off your credentials but I totally wish you schooled that sommelier. Having his face drop when he realises you are a more knowledgeable and bigger wine professional than him would have been hilarious. Love the videos and would love more wine tastings with Peter! More content please!

마인드 너무 좋으세요, 새삼 다시한번 놀랍니다. 예전에 비슷한 경험이 있었는데 같이간 일행의 기분이 풀리지 많아 끝내 즐거운 자리로 마무리 되지 못했습니다. 같은 상황에서 더 유쾌하게 풀어내시는 제이님과 와이프 분의 반응을 보니 두분이 좋은 단짝인것 같아 부럽기도 하고 보기 좋습니다. :)

I dont drink nor plan on every drinking, but this video was oddly entertaining and very relaxing. Completely agree on how you handled the situation, loved the video thank you!

현명하지 못한 사람에게 현명하게 대처하는 법이네요. 피터옹이 같은 곳에 가서 같은 행동을 하고 소믈리에의 행동을 보고 싶네요. 그리고 피터옹의 찰진 피드백까지 곁들이면 좋은 컨텐츠가 될거 같습니다.

I love this series!! ❤️

You handled the situation so much better than I would have.. I’m from New York City and I’m in the wine business. I’ve met many sommeliers, some with the actual vintner and you’d be surprised to see some of the reaction that wine makers make when the somm tries to describe the wine. In a nut shell, these so called snobby restaurant somms give actual knowledgeable sommeliers a bad rap.

형님 진짜 멋있어요..! 저는 엘에이에서 매번 어디 갈때마다 부당한 대우도 가끔 받고 기분 상하는 일들도 생각보다 많아서 언젠ㄱ가부터 비싼데 가서 돈 쓴는게 너무 아깝게 느껴지더라구요.. 와인킹님의 지혜와 너그러움이 정말 멋지네요

내용도 내용이지만...이번편은 와인마시는 분위기랑 배경이 너무 멋있네여~~~

피터의 말에 100%동의합니다. 그런 값을 지불하고 먹는데, 그들은 그만큼의 값어치를 해줘야해죠. 미국은 팁으로 조용히 표현할 수 있는 것도 괜찮은거 같아요. 한국에서라면 메니져 불러서 컴플레인 했을 거 같아요.

Man I thought you held yourself very well. You encouraged your wife to enjoy the time and experience with you despite the circumstances. That shows immense wisdom. Splitting the bill was a master stroke. I am super impressed with your character.

I love this video so much. Despite paying so much for a meal and getting terrible wine service, you found the best way to deal with it. So glad that waiter got a nice tip while the sommelier got no tip for his lack of service. Just what we can hear from the table waiter, he sounds great, I'm glad he got his. To be fair to the sommelier, if he'd simply recognized he was dealing with someone who knew more (or at least as much) about wine as he did, he could have done a much better job. Unfortunately he didn't, and your mentor is correct, he screwed up royally.

Glad to see you split the bill and didn't let the bad somm affect the tips for the server and chefs

This video made me thing quite a bit about what distinguishes good or excelent service from 'normal' or bad service. And how to react to the latter - you aimed not to ruin the mood on the table, you articulated your concerns, you tipped separately (great idea) and you showed your appreciation to the other server. Seems to me very much the right thing to do - thanks for sharing!

Jay, Peter and to all the subscribers: Happy New Year!

in my own, admittedly limited, experience staff at fancy restaurants get offended a lot more easily if you have a complaint than in normal restaurants. One time I ordered tea with milk after a meal in a more fancy restaurant and as I started drinking, I realized immediately that the milk had gone sour. I told the staff and he almost started arguing with me over it. As if I couldn't tell the difference 🤨Needless to say, nothing remotely similar ever happened to me in any "ordinary" restaurant. They'd always apologize immediately and fix it without complaining.

그래도 두분다 현명하게 대처하셨네요. 분위기도 망치지않고 팁으로 응징까지 ㅎㅎ

I live in LA and experiences like this are why I generally do not do fine dining in LA and why Michelin means nothing here. In New York many Michelin starred restaurants are easily on par with others in the world, not all, but many. In LA service as a whole in Michelin starred restaurants is not up to standard. LA has a culture of super casual restaurants and the service standards frankly are in-line with that. Diners here in LA also, in general, are not used to proper fine dining service and as a result don't demand it. It all starts with the service standards from management.

손님으로서 경력이라는 말씀 넘 멋집니다. 무례하지 않으면서 품위 있고 결코 흥분하지 않으면서 혼내는 법도 멋지시네요. 요즘같은 때에 손님의 품격이 무엇인지 보여주시는 것 같습니다👍👍👍

Your separating the food and wine bill was genius.

Perfect way to handle the situation. Well done sir. Our job as a somm is to create an experience, NOT to celebrate that we past a test.

日本人でも楽しめる本当に面白いワイン動画チャンネルです。続けて頂きたい。

This video made me subscribe to your channel. Very classy of you guys on how you handled the situation. Cheers!

Manager is extremely at fault for not dealing with this, just because they have 1 Michelin doesn’t mean they aren’t lazy and don’t have their faults lmao. Handled it well great job.

Splitting the bill is a great solution. Thankfully I've never had that situation, partly because I don't know enough about wine and partly because I've never paid for myself outside the UK...where I think service is decent, but not being a wine expert, I wouldn't know anyway! I can just about tell a Shiraz from a Pinot Noir ☺

후반부 영상은 소믈리에분의 열정이 화면 밖으로까지 느껴지네요. 어쩜 저리 대조적일 수 있는지.

These two guys will be great friends forever 😊💖

Very unfortunate! Thank you for incredible information!

파리에 있는 카페 콩스탕에서 미슐랭 원스타라고 하기에는 부족한(인종차별로도 느껴지는) 서비스 때문에 불편했던 기억이 하나 있네요. 저도 와인킹님처럼 여행의 좋은 분위기를 깨지 않기 위해 괜찮았던 부분을 열심히 찾으며 노력했었죠.

언제나 와인킹님과 스승님과의 캐미를 즐겁게 시청하고있습니다. 아이러니하게도 한국에서도 이런상황이 자주 일어나고 아니 오히려 더 많이 일어난다는것이 생각나는 영상이었습니다. 저도 와인은아니지만 '너가 뭘아냐?' 이런 느낌을 받은 서비스를 받은적이 많다보니. 다른영상보다 더 공감되었던거 같습니다. 식사비와 와인비를 따로 나누어서 계산하신것은 저는 생각도 못했던 방법이내요 저도 나중에 한번 사용 해봐야할거같습니다. 항상 잘보고있습니다. 건승하십쇼!

많이 보고 배웁니다. 상황에 연연하지 않고 유연하게 대처하시시는 모습 멋있습니다👍👍👍

Almost 80K views in just 5 days seems like this is a popular video on this channel. Personally, it really resonates because I've also felt the utter disappointment of terrible service for dining experiences that we had very high hopes for. Luckily, the pleasant experiences outnumber the bad ones. Jay, a follow up video or commentary in a video would be great if there are new developments in this.

저런상황에서 당황하지 않고 멋진 부드러운 대응을 하시다니 한수 배워갑니다 ㅎㅎ

We need you back Jay and Peter. I’m getting thirsty but don’t know what to drink ;)

I work in a small one Michelin star restaurant in California and my boss stresses to me that the most important part of service is humility. That you are no better than the man next to you and that guests in our restaurant deserve respect.

Unbelievable and unacceptable. You have been far too kind and polite. You are a gentleman Jay 👏👏

Hi Jay….missing you guys. Hope you will have new content soon!:-)

These videos are great. Thanks a lot.

I feel like you're a great person to hang out with. Always looking at the positive side. Cheers man!

I have no idea why this was recommended to me as I don't even drink wine, but i love how you handled this situation and i think you guys are awesome now lol.

its always a shame when the ego stands in the way of an enjoyable time. I am really enjoying your content! I am coming from the whisky tasting experience, having less experience in wine but i am all interested in different experiences, for example wine. I sometimes wish that whisky would be just a little more prominant in restaurants. For the most part here, whisky is just a product you order as shot or cocktail after the meal, but never as a full bodied flavourfull experience on its own.

hope you're ok! miss you guys!

Love your content great job guys

Wow, that is so unfortunate to have a Sommelier like that! I love watching your videos and I think you handled the situation so well.

참 매번 영상 보면서 유연한 대처능력을 또 배웁니다. 계산서 2개로 나누는건 생각치도 못한 싱크빅이네요👍와인킹님의 미소로 항상 계신자리는 온화합니다.

I don’t even drink wine, but y’all have such personality, I have to subscribe simply to see more!

I liked listening to this conversation, it felt real and natural.

Peter was so right about how fine dining in the US is so different than the rest of the world. I find this holds to be true in most North American major city centers (e.g., LA, New York, Chicago, etc.) where they get so many people coming, they lose focus on the customer experience. People also tend to have much lower expectations and feel they need to accommodate the restaurant instead of the other way around in North America. There are exceptions of course, such as Montreal, which is a food mecca of great dining and customer service. Michelin star ratings have become a farce over the years, and I no longer prescribe to them. Much better is trusting the experience of friends whose opinion you trust.

We literally started to look up each bottle in the restaraunt online ourselves and read reviews/prices rather than trusting the "sommelier". Most of them know nothing about wine or have a completely different taste/pallet from us. At least in the US. Sommeliers in Europe are generally knowledgeable.

I've never thought about splitting it like that. Thank you for the idea.

Hope all is well Jay we all miss your videos!

As always, great video. The bottle should stay at the customer's table, period. Michelin-star restaurants should always give elevated service..that's what you're paying for. If you wanted the wine decanted...it should've happened without the Somm having an issue. They are there to serve you and treat you to a first-class bottle service experience.

Sorry to hear about this experience! We don't have michelin star here in Australia but the restaurants considered to be 'the best' always have at their foundation - top tier service! If you don't leave the customer feeling like their every want and need is being taken care of (even some of those that they have not even thought of yet), why would they spend many hundreds if not thousands of their dollars in your restaurant!? Absolutely appalling. He didn't even make an effort to ask about your background in respect of wine. What a shame, but thank you for sharing your experiences!

영상 하나 보고 팬됐어요. 와인에 관한 것 뿐만 아니라 배우고 싶은 점이 많은 분이네요.

I'm sorry about your bad experience with the somm! His behavior and lack of attention demonstrates that his priority for having his own ego stroked is greater than his priority for offering hospitality. I can't stand this. Obviously you are a gentleman and not looking to tarnish anyone's reputation, which I respect. With that said, many restaurants at this level (most likely including this unknown restaurant) use a tip pool so no matter how you tip, it gets distributed to everyone on the team evenly based on their position. A suggestion is to leave a lower tip on the bill (15%) and offer your server a "handshake tip" and say something along the lines of "this is just for you". I'm so glad that you said something to the server! There are so many people that work in restaurants that want you to love your experience. Managers hold the keys to so many "fixes" when things arent going well, don't forget to introduce yourself if you can!

Jay, I'VE LOVED the last two videos in restaurants - it'd be fascinating to see you and Peter go back to that restaurant and see if the experience with the sommelier is the same!

소믈리에 팁 안주신거 사이다네요. 본인도 느끼는바가 있겠지요. "그게 지 일인데 그걸 안하냐 쉑햐?" ㅎㅎㅎㅎ 자막 정말 웃겨용!

When are we getting a new video this channel is so amazing you guys taught me so much about wine and made me fall in love with it

Love your videos. Getting to learn alot and having a laugh at the same time is wonderful. I´d really be happy if you wanted to do a video of your thoughts of Vivino?

Please post more videos!!!