😮💨😮💨”Any man who wants to marry a middle aged woman with 7 kids wants to use her sons as workhorses, her daughters for his own pleasure, and steal her land” - A Fkn LEGEND!!!
You notice how it’s mostly women telling these stories right? Most men are still holding on to the idea of women being like their grandmothers 😂 lord we are living totally diff lives and mentally
I had to break that news to my brother a day ago when he said that ish. I told him I would hate to be like my grandma n her marriage my grandfather is such a bossy old man that expects her to wait on him hand n foot n acts like he can’t do nothing. He finally got the realization that marriage ain’t all it’s cracked up to be
@@farmhouseonthemountainthat’s not true being older doesn’t automatically make people good people or give them “no choice but to be nicer” they are just too old and disabled to be physically capable of hitting their wives
It didn't matter if they could afford them or not, that was just the only thing that women were valued for. In a rich family they might have given her more training, so she could be an asset to her husband while entertaining his business associates but, her only real purpose was to serve men. It's truly shameful how women have been treated. Remember that when males talk negatively about the women's movement, and feminism. This is why that came to be. It was absolutely necessary. We've had to fight for our right to be fully human.
My grandmother was 12 when her parents arranged for her to marry a man in his 30’s. She kept running away from him and her parents kept sending her back. She had 9 children by the same man. It makes me sick now that I am grown and understand how sick it is.
I'm sorry but the girl coming thru calling grandma a little victim got me cracking up. This is why I listen to the elders they got some wild stories. And they want us to live up to that madness😂😂😂 yeah right
I wish I knew the whole story of my mom's mother. But based on what I do know, it likely was just as bad as many of these stories coming out. RIP grandma😢
Brain washed by religion most likely.. Take care of yourselves ladies ❤ Get a tubal ligation ladies especially if you are sure you don’t want kid’s!! ❤
Not necessarily. Back then contraception wasn’t really something many women used or had access to and ab*rtion was illegal back in the day. So if a woman got pregnant 10 times well she had 10 babies because of lack of contraception and no access to ab**tion.
@OnlyLilynn44 also the fact that contraception was demonized and called a sin it's been around for a surprisingly long time if u look into the history
@@OnlyLilynn44 this but also people were more religious and women were taught to submit to every boner. Even if she was unwell or was fully aware they couldn't support more kids. There were many forms of coercion that contributed to past birth rates.
I learned mine, she told me as a teenager. It was not a Disney princess fairy tale either. *I love her for telling me the truth* Just to be clear: She birthed 13 and told all her granddaughters not to get married, *GET EDUCATED*
In México it was normal for men to kidnap a woman/girl if they wanted her and after...she was considered ruined so she had no choice but to marry the kidnapper because "what would the town people say?!" This happened to my grandmother on my fathers side. She was between 14 and 16. My grandfather was an adult...in his twenties. He kidnapped her and she was stuck. My grandfather had a home in the city and had a big ranch in the rural area and spent most of his time taking care of the ranch. My grandmother did not like staying at the ranch so she stayed in the city most of the time. From what I know my grandfather ended having an affair with a woman who lived onthe ranch and they had a son(my uncle). The affair woman from the ranch ended up dying from complications and so my grandfather brought his newborn son to the city so my grandmother can raise him. From what I remember hearing...my grandmother was furious about the affair, but more for having to take care of a newborn that wasnt hers. I remember my dad telling me that my grandfather told my grandmother, "Well, what do u expect? U never liked staying at the ranch....I got lonely. What do u think was going to happen?"
My grandmother's story was pretty sad. Her mother died when she was little. The relatives who took her in were jealous of her and mistreated her. They took her out of school when she was 15 and made her work the farm. My grandfather was a friend of hers and agreed to marry her to get her out the house. The plan was that they would get married and he would help her get to relatives in another city so she could finish school and become a teacher. Unbeknownst to her, he had been "in love" with her since they were children and he had no intentions of letting her leave him. He wouldn't give her any money and immediately got her pregnant. She never forgave him and mistreated my mother because she was the product of that pregnancy. They had a very bad marriage until she eventually died.
And they was married by force not by choice everything was forced on the woman! Every woman should be decided without any kind of pressure whether to be with a man or not! Or marry!
The stories in the Puerto Rican community are wild too and worth a deep dive, except it’s not just grandparents, it’s current day! It’s not everyone, but it’s common for young girls (12-18) to be preyed on by older men and in some cases, married off before graduating high school. I’ve literally known girls who brought their husbands to prom, I’ve known women who straight up married their daughters off to get rid of them, it’s crazy. I knew a girl in high school that lived downstairs in a two family house with her parents, got into a relationship with the 27 year old man in the apartment upstairs and her mom told her “ok you live with him now and he better take care of you and buy all your school supplies and school clothes this year.” There’s so many layers to this topic! My bd was a predator too, I was 15 and he was 22 when we met 💀
Both of my grandmother's were around 15 or 16yrs old when they married and both had 15 or 16 children each. Both lost a few babies but most lived. One grandfather was 19 and the other was in his early 20's. Both grandmother's had no options other than keep having babies. There was no birth control back then. Both of my grandfathers were considered good men back then but all I can see is selfishness. Both of my grandmother's suffered during childbirth. Both of my grandfather's just kept getting my grandmother's pregnant with the next baby. Neither grandfather helped with taking care of any of their own children. Both grandfathers worked and provided for their families but both of my grandmother's did all of the housework, gardening, cooking, being a mattress for their husbands, along with taking care of all of those babies. Where is that bear when you need one 🐻
Sadly a lot of these stories still have happened in more modern times especially in outside rural countries. My family comes from a different country and as a kid I use to go visit my grandparents for summer break one summer break I had made a friend who came from a big family of girls, my friend was 10 I was 11 and that summer she told me she was going off to a big city to live with a man just like her sisters had when they were around her age. I was confused and started asking her more about her sisters and about the particular man she was leaving with and if she knew this man she said no but that he had money and would help her family out financially once she went to go live with him. I was like wtf so later on when I went back home from hanging out with her I told my grandma and she told me that her family had actually sold her to this man as were her other sisters the only reason she was still in town was because he was waiting for her to have her first menstrual cycle to then take her with him when I heard that I was so disgusted as I had barely had my first period at the time. I asked my grandma if she could take her in and she said she couldn't and cops wouldn't get involved because they just didn't care. It was so sad. My grandma even told me this man was well into his 30s so even more of an ick. I remember when I saw her again the next day I asked her how she felt about living with the man and she was acting like she was going off to live some magical life with him in a big city and stuff. Last I heard from her was that she had a couple kids and I think some of the daughters had been sold off as well some years ago so one big vicious cycle just sad and disgusting.
I understand why I was born when I was cause I don’t think I could mentally handle any of these situations without ending up on snapped, though that show wasn’t on back then. Ide definitely make the cut cause I just can’t. The lady with the purple hair had a great story. I’m glad her grandmother knew to choose herself! The best story I heard yet.
Same thing that happened to my great grandmother.She never told anybody but me.When I told my mom about it ,she was shocked 😂😂.My great grandpa was her big brother’s best friend and used to stalk her ,trying to give her gifts .But her mom had always warn her never to accept gifts from strangers ,especially men who were not part of her family .One day he followed her in the forest and convinced her to get a pair of tennis shoes ,promising her nobody would know.She finally gave in after his relentless pursuits.As soon as she had them in hand ,people’s came out of the bushes congratulating her on her engagement;carrying her to her future house.She didn’t know that according to tradition,accepting a stranger man’s gift was like offering yourself in marriage.She ended up telling me how she was lucky he never hurried her and how we were to get to pursue education nowadays.Because of that s story ,I laugh off men who have desillusional talks about their parents and grandparents.I m also a medical doctor pursuing a PhD.She s till today(18 years after her death) still dearly missed .A very strong woman who ended up raising her 2 children alone after my great grandpa s early death.RIP great grandma.
And they have a plan......... Look up traditionalist workers part in America Golden Dawn in Greece And, well lol I just realized that I didn't have the name of a specific white supremacy and separatist group in Russia........ And then I realized you just have to Google.... Russia lol The founder and former leader of the traditionalist workers party, who has had multiple cases heard before The supreme Court on issues such as affirmative action and race-based separatism....... Has awesome match with like-minded factions and politicians in both Greece and Russia. Remember that brouhaha in Charlottesville where they were marching with the torches Yeah that would be these guys above. They have a plan. They have leadership of nations. They have the war machines😊 of apocalypse.
I'm not a granny, but as outrageous as these stories are it's not very different than how my "love story" went, except I was not a teenager but a young adult, and we didn't marry immediately. I liked him at first, but when the horns came out after about a month, it was already kind of too late. He knew where I worked, lived, and would show up there uninvited and stare down any of male coworkers who talked to me. He even dropped out of his school and signed up for my school, so I had to see him everyday throughout many breakups and flirting with other women. It took me decades to leave. This was in the early 2000s! I didn't have any acces to social media at the time to tell me this behavior isn't cute and is not normal or a sign of true love.
There were some stories where the grandmother was 12-14, playing with the husbands daughters (from prior marriage) and would have to go service the husband in the bedroom and go back to playing with his daughters. smdh 😞.
I wouldn't exist if the real grandma hadnt died after birthing her first child. So her sister had to follow up and take her place. She is hence my grandma.
My grandma told some wild stuff. She told me that she knew a woman who still breastfeed her son at his age of 42. When he wanted to nurse, the man would say in a high-pitched voice, " mamaaa teh teh! Teh teh!" This woman would go into the woods with her son to nurse him. I don't know if this is true. How is that possible? I think my grandparents used to screw in the woods. My grandma talked about the woods a lot.
Funny you should bring that up. There were some videos on here about some African men who were forcing the mothers of their children to nurse them before they could nurse their babies. Actually stealing food from the child. These males are, and have always been selfish and sick. OMG!
I never got to meet my biological grandfather, but he married my grandmother while she was pregnant with another man’s child when they were 19 years old. This woman will take the name of her eldest child’s father to the grave. Unfortunately, my grandfather died 5 years before I was born, but I got to meet him in a dream. He was a flock of birds that woke me up bc I was having an asthma attack in my sleep. On my dad’s side, my grandfather was 19 and my grandmother was 12 when they got married in Mexico 🙂↔️🙂↔️🙂↔️
I’m so scared to ask my Grandma about her marriage because while I don’t know the details, I know she had a hard life and her father died when she was 7 and my Great Grandmother was raising 4 children under 12 in the 60’s and 70’s as a single nurse…
Most of these stories are beyond horrific... From little girls being sent away to marry grown men the moment their first menstrual cycle starts, folks being forced to hide in the closet, grandmothers being stalked and raped, and the list goes one... None of these are romantic...
I guess having your life STOLEN FROM YOU, and NEVER SERVING YOUR PURPOSE FOR GOD, was less important than being a CHILD BRIDE, A BREEDER, and a HOUSEKEEPER… ASK GOD ABOUT THAT…
My great great-grandmother was an eleven year old little Mexican girl when she married my grandfather. He was a thirty four year old Irishman. My dad's mom found this out when she did her DNA ancestry test. We're Louisana Creole so we always knew we were mixed but THAT was shocking.
This is why most grandmothers donot talk about men or their husbands for that matter to their own daughters or grand daughters... Often when you ask women over 70 or 80 and older, they donot want to talk.
I can understand their feelings of not wanting to talk, but how are the daughters and granddaughters supposed to know. A lot of us have grown up with romanticized versions of males in our heads not understanding how a lot of males really are. Mostly everything they do is motivated by xes or money or some kind of benefit. So if you get the wrong male who doesn’t care about you and is ready to be committed they will use you for every benefit while you suffer.
@@marya3823 i agreed with you. If enough women have spoken. Most women today would not have these problems. But it was because of the time they were living i think. They were not taught to talk about men. I did ask both of my grandmothers how they got with my grandpas and it was in a good way.
On my dad's side, I didn't know he used to beat the Hell out of my Grandmother. Looking back it makes so much sense how quiet she was! She never said much, she just loved us grandkids. And on my mom's side, my Granny was a fun time grandma! Loved to party and was a hustler. Always with a man with money and getting his check! 😂😂😂 dressed sexy and had big weaves! Lol she loved to fight for the people she loved. My cousin told me a story that they all went out and some girl pushed her and my grandma grabbed the girl and my cousin walked off saying "well, I guess I got security tonight!" 😂😂😂 and they got free drinks from the bar! Hahaha
My father was a Nigerian immigrant dating my mom while she was in high school and he’s 8 years older. As soon as she turned 18 he married her. They stayed together for 25 years and it was such a traumatic experience for my mom. He was very financially and verbally abusive. He eventually remarried. His now wife was born in 1980.. he was born 1959 🙃
@@NettieBonner Yup, mine (Nigerian) is 20 yrs older, shorter, earns less, less intellectual/educated , less attractive. I was forced into this simply because I was young and my parents wanted the money (US dollars) that he gave them. I am stillwith him because he is a gentle, kind person at the core but it's been quite a journey in incompatibility and patience. I just turned a very healthy, fit , cute 50 while heis now struggling with enlarged prostate, retired, living off my salary. No pension, no health insurance.....nothing. Some of our parents really did a number on us simply because we came out of the womb .......female.
But are people really surprised? I mean this is the exact reason why Rkelly got away with what he did for so long, because at the time no one saw a issue with it and the few that did, did nothing about it. Even as little kids we're taught that if a boy hits a girl " its okay because that means he likes her" like WTF?!! Its just only now that the younger adult generations are waking up and speaking out against these things that now the older generations are realizing what they endured was wrong. It's pretty sad when you think about it.
My great-grandmother saw my grandfather singing in the choir at church. She told my grandma about him and left it at that. About 2 years later, my grandmother brings him home to meet her and my great-grandma was elated! They were married 53 years before my grandmother passed away.
"Often when you ask women over 70 or 80 and older, they donot want to talk"..........so true! When my mother finally spoke, she narrated a horror story about sex at age 15 (married) with my dad . her account of sex did not include any form of fun or pleasure for her. It was something she was subjected to, her "job" as a married woman. I wept for her! Of course th men will call this a love story because the greatest fantasy for any male is to disvirgin a YOUNG , INNOCENT girl. It is the highest high for most men. Thank God for laws protecting young women now.
i cant remember if my mother was 18 or 19 when she married my father, my father was in his 30s when they married. My father is an abusive POS now a days claiming to be saved and a changed man. (not the first time he claimed he has changed and will not be the last im sure) Sadly my mother is still with him and refuses to leave him because she thinks divorce is bad.
I'm from Jamaica and there was this show on TV called "The Love Zone" years ago. One episode featured a couple where the man told the little girl's family when she was 9 that he was going to marry her when she got older. He was 30 at the time that she was 9. On another episode there was one couple where the relationship started when the woman was a 16 year old high school student and the man was a taxi driver that would sometimes take her to and from school.
I think she was maybe mimicking the grandma's tone to make a point about how crazy the story was if the grandma told her in that tone. Don't think she meant to come across as callous but it was in poor taste.
@@abellabarbie True. I have hidden mine so well over the years but it shows up as auto immune issues, Fibromyalgia, depression and Chronic pain/insomnia.
These women could've left and didn't. Plenty did. Why pity someone who pops out 10 kids. You mean after no 1 you didn't get a clue? Then they abused their kids. No pity.
Quit victim blaming women in a time where they were young naive, less thought of, WITH NO GUIDANCE OR PROTECTION!!! Ask why there was no access to BIRTH CONTROL during that time that religion demonized to prevent them from getting pregnant from lecherous grown men!!! Ask the grown ass filthy disturbing men who KNEW wtf they're doing why they married a literal child who didn't know any better and go set up by their own families into marrying them!!! And speaking of ask the grown ass adults why they didn't step in saying "this is wrong" and didn't bother to protect the women as little girls around that time but instead throw their daughters to the wolves without a damn care in the 🌍!!! If you're a man behind that account despite its feminine sounding name then I know for a fact you'd say some f*cked up mess!!!
Women back then couldn’t even have a bank account. Are you really blaming girls who were groomed for not leaving? At a time when women had no access to money. No education.. some of these were literal children. Yeah. You don’t have to have sympathy, but it’s no point in blaming women who were groomed as children. That’s part of the reason why this persists.. we blame the victims asking why didn’t she leave? How? With what money? Women couldn’t even have a bank account without a husbands permission.
@Hopdog230 Men were like this around the world. Still are in some places. Those some places the women refuse to leave, just like these women. Entire countries changed who had awesome women. After baby no 1 she could've left. To stay and have 10 babies. To stay for decades. Most harmed their own and fed their daughters to their hubbies. They were no saints because they didn't care what happened to forced birth kids. Most didn't get an education back then, didn't stop all the women who got free, rights to vote, etc. If we only left it up to these types, we'd still be like all the places in the world where women have less freedom. Women are as free as they want to be. These women didn't want freedom. Zero pity.
@Hopdog230 And it's 2024, why don't all women leave? They still stay to this day. What's your excuse for that? If they're doing all th3 cooking, why hu bies still harming them? Why do entire locations of women sell off their daughters? Are they still uneducated and helpless 100 years later?????
@Hopdog230 Some places they're like, we just got the right to drive, we just got the right to divorce....oh...wait...nope....why hasn't every woman left every state that took their rights away? Many did leave immediately. Those who stayed, were they not educated? Like get real with the excuse factory.
