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Interesting topic, because I find your channel and your work 100% perfect. Your editing, way of speaking, intelligence. I watch your videos, and when the animations come in, I think, "How did he do that? I have no idea or skill to do such a thing." So it's kind of disheartening to know that my best doesn't even come close to 20% of what you deliver. I feel limited, and often even think I'm stupid, even though I'm a teacher and author of Physics books here in Brazil. How can we improve to achieve something close to Ali Abdaal's standard?
Thank you Ali. Really good video... One thing that has helped me tremendously is to free myself from wanting to control the opinion of others. Also, I have come in contact with my inner critics and trained them to treat me better... totally life-changing. The work I did was inspired from Jay Earley and the Internal Family system... but not only. If you read this comment and you a perfectionnist, try IFS as well. ❤ There is so much I could say about the topic... I could write a series of books. 😂 Perctionism is a vampire draining the joy out life. Everyone deserves to break free from its grip.
Never too late you can start it now, you dont need to be perfect at start , you learn how to be more perfect after you upload your video and understand the mistake of your work Hope you to achieve sucess🌸🙏
Feel this. I just started something and I hope it works out. But now I'm somewhere in between "I love doing this" and "I hate myself for not starting earlier"
Blame school for being a perfectionist... they literally punish you for failure and don't let you correct yourself after making a mistake, but punish you instead.
So glad I did not go to your school, my school for how little attendance I had, encouraged you not punished you, for not being a perfectionist. Mostly home schooled due to having a lot of surgery as a child.
@@celtpro Every school that fails you and leaves that failure as a mark of your end result is punishing you for failure and want you to be a perfectionist. In the real world when you fail, you try again the moment you fail, with the knowledge you got from failing and with reading and learning on the spot afterwards. This doesn't apply only to surgeons, pilots and similar professions that actually require perfectionism.
Agreed. That much more so for those who put pressure on themselves to go to highly competitive programs to follow. Really messes with you, while also serving you in confusing ways. It’s not easy to unwind the good from the bad when it’s now a habit to view all output in that way, too.
@@dodgerea8639 The worst part is that the education system produces weak, stupid useless people in 12-20 years and wastes their youth, goes doubly so for STEM, ask me how I know.
I came across this video, and realized that I am facing this problem all of my time. I try to be perfect in every aspect rather than embracing myself and just start doing what I want to do.
That's such an important topic. I used to be such a perfectionist and put so much pressure on myself that I simply wouldn't look for help, in fear of disappointing the people who said they were proud of me or inspired by my hard work, which lead me to burning out, feeling isolated and overworked. I took some steps to try to fix my perfectionism and imposter syndrome and I made progress but there's still quite a way to go.
..I have been battling random anxiety due to thinking I have to be high standards , in a short period.....this is the video I needed....“ progress over perfection "😢😢
So many of us struggle with that feeling of anxiety in striving for excellence, you're not alone. You don't have to be anything than exactly what you are, then from there you will naturally start to progress because there is more self-acceptance!
Feeling myself as someone who is in the perfectionism trap and I think I am definitely at the part where I am feeling guilty. You publishing this video has helped by verbalising the way I feel..... I am about to just start what I have been avoiding. Thank you Ali.
SO much power in finally leaning into what you resist. I like to say that the Perfectionist Paradox is "what you avoid, you create more of" so it's finally time to lean into what we avoid!
Thank you for making this video about perfectionism. I have been in the perfectionism trap in the past trying to be the best. I'm recovering from my anxiety and depression and it's been going well that I can say I'm more comfortable in making mistakes and accepting them as learning opportunities.
Haven’t watched the full video yet, but this has been my whole life, even though I’ve recognised it in the past I still struggle to start because I don’t want to fail. Thank you for the solutions I know will be in this video!
This same issues almost made me miss the beautiful opportunity of baby steps. Picked up my channel this year and it's been a beautiful experience 😊. I'm not getting the traction that I want yet, but I'm so glad that i started. I'm learning so much along the way, and just remember that if there's no beginning because you're seeking perfection, there will also be no ground where you will even have to make an improvement 😊. There's actually so much beauty in imperfect things, because you will have the option of improving it and getting better someday 😊.
Thank you for making this video. I really beat myself up on something in my work yesterday that did not go as I expected it to go. This put me more at ease.
Ali, thanks so much for creating these videos! I was a perfectionist my whole life which pulled me backwards both academically and professionally. I decide to make a change today and tell myself that something is better than nothing.
To get started I much prefer focusing on the input (e.g. I will spend the next 1 hour researching the topic, bookmarking resources and putting interesting findings on this random doc/ppt) than the ideal output, and if it's outside my comfort zone, I will tell myself "let's do it, and if I'm not good at it (yet) then let's do it badly"
This is an incredible video Ali! I guess to summarize, getting rid of perfectionism is to allow ourselves to get motivated to "do the work" and not work so hard to the point of burn out. And ultimately, the key to success is to simply put in the effort - day by day, week by week. Amazing lesson.
Ali, Thank you so much for your study and insights. And thank you for presenting it in a way that I can apply it to my own self. I live in Australia and am in my mid 60s. I’m working on my Feel Good Productivity in the workplace. … There’s a follow-on title for you. For me this means managing a hyper-critical supervisor. The more she is picks on me, the perfectionist and slower I’ve become, and I’m now considering reporting her to my manager, as some of my colleagues have done.
This is so important for me to hear! I am trying to work towards my dream job and it is so true that failing is such a great learning process! My soccer coach would tell me that success teaches us nothing, but failure teaches us and helps us grow! I still need to step outside my comfort and go forward! Thanks Ali! ❤️ I really needed this today!
I had this problem 4-5 years ago, when i was trying to start my youtube channel, but when I realized that i will never start, this year it was my year to start my channel whatever it takes. 💪
I was facing difficulty watching your videos 😢. Because all of your videos were in English. But this video I watched in Hindi😮. I think this is a new feature on RU-vid but this is helpful for me.
I loved the part of the video dedicated to Buddhism, thank you. I have been interested by this eastern religion/philosophy for several years, and as an occidental citizen (Spanish to be precise 😄), I found the book "Don't Take your Life Seriously" by Ajahn Sumedho superb. Have a good weekend everyone!
Im glad I found this video when I did. Yesterday was one of the worst days I have had in nearly a decade, and a great deal of that pain was from my perfectionism. I spent almost my entire work day yesterday just sitting at my desk and ruminating rather than working. I always beat myself up when I make mistakes and I spiral into negative thoughts fairly easily. I feel like I constantly let myself and others down.
Instead of waiting to get a good camera, recording system etc, like I've been waiting for all these years, I've recently completed my 75days. 75 videos challenge. I posted each video every day. Some of them were good and some of them weren't. Doing this challenge put me in a place to push my self and record, edit post my videos each and every day no matter what and now it takes only couple of minutes to do that. It became a part of my routine. I used to plan everything and put them a side, wanted everything to be perfect which eventually lacked consistency. Though, my videos aren't perfect for me they are to others and I posted consistently for all these days.
Perfectionism feels like the bane of my existence. This is why I currently don't have a job. This is not the perfect job, the perfect CV, the perfect salary... I'm not lazy, but this silly fear of not finding the best solution from the get go is really stunting my progress. Thank you for this dose of realization. 🙏👍
Great video but I also wanted to mention that I read your book. It is the book I needed! So many other productivity books have big ideas, lofty goals, or are just outright condescending. This book was a breath of fresh air. It is so practical, realistic, and relatable! It has actually helped and improved my productivity. I will definitely read it again regularly. Well done Ali! 👏🏾
It's a struggle. For me, I hold myself to high standards simply because forgiveness is just artificial. To have room for mistakes, another must be able to help provide that room.. it just doesn't come naturally, let alone do people do it willingly. Having gone through needing to drop out of a program of choice in college by my parents' command for not doing as well in my first semester, it's hard to believe that a mistake isn't the end of the world. Forgiveness comes at a cost, so unless someone is willing to provide or somehow you land in an area where your mistakes can easily be correctable, no approach to learning is viable. Then again, maybe I'm just too laser focused on the negatives here.
This video was literally all I needed. Cannot relate more with each and every word you spoke in the video. I am personally facing this situation and was scrambling to handle it. This video came as a ray of light! Thank you!
This really resonated with me, everything in this video and all the tips given in the video were actually the key to my liberation from perfectionism. It had become a loop in my life and was actually was what held me back all the more. It took me so much to go from all or nothing, to something is better than nothing. It is okay sometimes to just be. Also it becomes really suffocating when you're just focused on making something perfect that it steals creativity and joy from it, and you become the hamster on a wheel. Also you are NOT your accomplishments you're just you, society may not like that true, but unless it causes anyone intentional harm, it is okay to be just that. Another tip is to reward yourself a lil something after you're done with a task so that it makes it a Lil more enjoyable to begin. Also, really grateful for this video, I wish it had released before but I'll return to it everytime I need🌊
I don't know how many people even have an idea of this issue. I aced my first set of exams. I didn't attempt the next semester because i wasn't prepared enough (the high standards). I have attended everyday of the 3 years, never wrote the exams because i didn't study enough to ace again. Wasted that 3 years. Mental health issues said "Hi". So yeah listen to him, don't make the mistakes i have made. Just do it❤
Thank you for great job! Really interesting and educational video. If be honest, this video opened my eyes on term “perfectionism”, because all my life I thought it’s something positive and correct. But reality is another and our distorted perception makes a lot of problems for us… problems, that we don’t notice. I guess the main problem starts from school with stupid marks system, from childhood with old education methods. But later this problems transfer in other parts of our life and it makes it realy more difficult
Currently procrastinating on updating my CV for my upcoming job interview that has been set for nearly 2 weeks now. 3 more days to go and I feel this massive dread of not being good enough and to withdraw my job application just to get out of this feeling. I was on the fence so I decided to watch this video. So at least I started to get my laptop out and start to write things down.... and I am still on the fence. One hand I am grateful for the opportunity to even be offered an interview for a government job (quite a big deal where I come from), but on the other hand, it was too much pressure and I don't think I want it anymore....
By obsessing over the 'perfect' result, we often overlook the value of the process - the learning, the growth, and even the mistakes that ultimately shape us. By focusing only on the destination, we rob ourselves of the joy and wisdom that comes part and parcel with the journey.
Just watched your video on beating perfectionism with Professor Curran's insights! It was super enlightening and totally resonated with me. Thanks for sharing those awesome tips! Can't wait to put them into action! 💪😊
I was just watching part time youtuber academy and then i thought i have to have the perfect lighting and upgrade my camera and then i found you have uploaded this video!! Thank you so much Ali for your advice and push you give us !
Pragmatism is the way to go. I am a pretty perfectionism with my work and I try very hard to be more pragmatic about it. It is not easy but extremely important
Amazing video. I’m trying hard not to be a perfectionist, but I find it hard to convince myself, and I procrastinate a lot because of perfectionism. As an Asian, though my parents are always supportive and they never put too much pressure on me, I still feel I have to be perfect. Looking at my friends, it seems like everyone has achieved something in their lives while I’m still struggling to find the right career path for me. Honestly sometimes I feel quite left behind
I know how distressing it is to be a perfectionist. We are people with a hypercritical mindset, low self worth, and an Obsessive Compulsive Personality (not to be mistaken with OCD). We painstakingly scrutinise trivial details and often miss the bigger picture. Ruminating over high quality in turn drains our minds and delays the outcome. The purpose is missed and most times we ourselves are not happy with the outcome because there is no more happy hormone left to access the reward ! One thumb rule to always remember - ‘quantity over quality’! Get the job done with mediocrity which is still better than never getting it done in time.
This is a wonderful video. It is not very specific yet value adding and that makes it very relatable, be it for a student or a working individual or a at home individual. Thank you! Definitely a video worth watching multiple times to get the most benefits out of.
I just started taking content creation seriously this year, starting with TikTok, and it is so hard to see videos flop and have comparison syndrome. I watch your videos every single day so that I don’t feel discouraged about my efforts. Keep making these videos, they help so much. You’re the best!
This is not a good idea lol he pushes over productivity and he’s biased as he had major success. It’s not reality. He’s an exception. Be carful with who you compare unrealistically too and it’s ok to unplug from hustle content if it’s hurting you
Making a conscious decision to celebrate small achievements no matter how insignificant it may seem can also be a step in right direction alongside stepping out of one's comfort zone.
Thank you for this wonderful insights! I feel very seen! Started my YT-Channel in February and I'm struggling to put out one video in 2 weeks (my goal one video in 1 week). My standards for my first videos are set way too high! Thanks so much! Now I now how I can achieve my goal of making one video a week 😍
My sports coaching degree experience makes me question why more people don't take the degree.... self-help/learning science seems to always fall back to the sports studies I read in my first year. The concept of periodization is what I am thinking about throughout most of this video. PS: Looking forward to hearing back about the PTYA student supporter application 👀
I love your book! I am a reading tutor for children ages 3 and up and I talk about parent mindset around learning all the time and how children thrive when they learn through play. I will be doing a series on your book on my IG and facebook community, on how they can implement the principles in your book to their child's education.
At your section about procrastination I admired your macbook so much I started googling 'apple mac wrap covers' instead of listening. Procrastination do be hittin real. TIME TO FOCUSSSS.
When I work on new menu items, it's never perfect the first time. We would go through dozens and dozens of iterations before landing on one that is "good enough".
I started my first blog in 2006 and perfectionism prevented me from achieving my goals, especially when it came to starting a RU-vid channel. It was only when I started working on perfectionism that I realized that there is never a good enough project or the right moment to start a RU-vid channel. starting everything over again was my nightmare....
Thank you. I am not that smart goal person , as I always think that life is full of unexpected things. I would prefer setting a clear open ended goal and thrive my best to see how far I would go.
I kind of needed this video. During the past years I lost so many opportunities just because I thought I was not ready enough for that. It is really sad when I look past. May I give you a feedback? For me you speak a little fast and makes it hart to concentrate and follow on what are talking. I do follow your content and enjoy it.
This is literally me,I tore more than 10 pages just before seeing this video just to write calligraphy perfectly just to track my study goals And wasted an hour doing so..
