Most people would think this man couldn’t teach them anything. As a 24 year old black dude from Houston I’ve gained so much perspective and insight watching this man’s videos. You can gain so much knowledge from anyone if you’re willing to listen.
You hit the nail on the head: "If you're willing to listen." People who don't or who won't listen, they will never grow as people, and you're wasting your time trying to talk to them. Like for example, I was going with this woman a while back, and my truck broke down, it was a major repair and cost me a lot of money that I couldn't afford to spend after buying the parts, so I decided to do it myself, and I explained my situation to her, and yet all she did was criticize me, like when I would update her on how the repair was going, and she just continued to mock me when I told her the certain issues I was running into trying to do it, saying, "you don't know if that's the problem you're not a mechanic," and stuff like that. Well, through diligent research, patience, and with some help from my dad, I was able to get it fixed, in fact when I took it in to have it realigned, they told me they couldn't find a single problem with job my dad and I did. During the course of that time, like Dwayne said: "Pick your battles," I finally realized that with her attitude, her scorn, not just directed at me but also my dad when I talked to her, the latter which is a huge, "HELL NO," in my book, I realized there was no point in dealing with her anymore. The point is, you have to know which battles are worth fighting, and when it's best to just walk away.
I'm a black man from NC and I agree. He actually reminds me of my uncles and grandfather with the way he presents information and wisdom. No way in hell someone with his years will go unheard around me. That's a goldmine.
I'm a 26 year old transsexual from the UK and I watch too. Originally it was because his accent is so exotic to me lol but tbh he usually says helpful stuff as well...my faves were the advices about their marriage. Wish I'd found those in my last rship but oh well. Better luck next time.
I began changing recently. Wasn’t particularly even focused on trying. I just was sitting quietly, reflecting on some choices, and habits I don’t like, and just as the snake sheds it’s skin, I put down pot, some other chemicals, and told every “friend” I had, that wasn’t living a clean, healthy life, to lose my number. I’m used to being alone, anyways. It’s no shock to my system, but I’ve been a walking chemical dumpster, for the last two decades. What’s strange, I haven’t craved for anything, but more positive change, and chances to improve my character. I’m not going to dive head first, into the shallow end like I normally allow myself to do, instead, I’m going to make improvement, my lifestyle. I’m going to start my own channel, and be as raw, as I can, and find a healthier support system, than the drugs have left me with. Hope to see y’all, soon.
Good on you, it makes me think, I hear all the time people saying once an addict always an addict, and that, put simply isn't such a black and white statement, its a statement made by people that dont consider more perspectives it is down to the individual and you can't pool a whole group of people by such a saying, there are better things to life. You know the right decisions to make and it looks like you have, good on you, keep it up.
My dear sweet wife of over 34 years (God rest her soul) always said to me when I would get upset with one of our kids, she would say honey you need to pick your battles. It’s gonna be okay. We can deal with this when you’re not so upset. Of course, she was always right. Unfortunately, she was killed while out on an afternoon walk by a hit and run driver who left her in the ditch to die. I miss her terribly and I miss her wisdom. BTW… she loved her horses and we rode trails together often. Thank you Dwayne for your wisdom and soft spoken words of encouragement.
I'm so sorry for what happened to your wife. A cruel loss. It's nice that you have those good memories of her, thank you for sharing some. It keeps them with us when we remember. ❤
@@charlesstepinski9327 they know who did it but he has not had to go to trial. There’s another hearing coming up in July so I can only hope that the judge will decide to let the case proceed to trial. It’s been 490 days and I’m really starting to lose faith in our judicial system. Thank you for your response….
@Gene Dove i wish you well, and hope for the best outcome. continue being persistent. Even if the court system fails, by not having enough to prosecute. Well then, we're it will REALLY MATTER is when that person has to face the man upstairs. Hopefully he'll find in his heart to wanna answer to the crime
I really needed this today. My alcoholic brother is destroying my life with his behavior. Im having to choose between living in my car or being enraged by his despicable actions every night. It's unreal how awful it is living with an addict. You can't ever win the battle with a drunk. It feels like dealing with an elderly person that has dimentia. All you do is repeat yourself and all they do is forget and act confused.. it's sad. He's 42 and drinks 14 beers every night. Everyday drinker for 18 years. Ironically i suffer for his alcoholism more than he does. The irony.
If something is killing you - stop doing it. I went through a lot trying to help two opiate addicted brothers. I finally realized my problem was self chosen. You can't change someone else.
Sometimes you have to let the people closest to you go. It sounds like it would be worth taking steps to move out and get away from the situation. Even “small battles” at a time, gradually getting things in order for you to move, maybe a storage unit to slowly get your stuff out without him freaking out, find work that supports living on your own or with other roommates, then make the move. It may be a good idea to not tell him where, and make it far enough away that you won’t cross paths. If you’ve done everything you can to help him, it’s not right to let his decisions ruin your life too
Put yourself first and you will be better off for it. Learn to love the way you now have to live to get out of that situation,chase all opportunities that assist you in improving your own situation now,good things take time,you can't help those that won't help themselves.
Ego is the problem in most things in life. Drop the ego, and most of everything will sort itself out. If all else fails you won’t have the headaches and frustrations that ensue.
I had one horse. He was like my dog. After I broke him in, I didn't even know anything about breaking in horses at all..., I was very slow and easy....took me a week to put a blanket on him..I could be out in the woods , I could jump off , take a pp, never tied him to a tree. He would follow me around like a dog. My buddy said tie your horse up he's gonna leave you out here one day I said nope he won't. Then his horse broke his rope and run off, true story!!! He was more like a buddy than a horse. Great vids.
Thank you Dewane , for this important reminder, best wishes from the stormy middle east ,near the sea of Galilee where Jesus walked on the water, you too,be logical ,be reasonable , be safe and be kind ❤
Hello sir. Im from india and i know nothing of cowboys and horses but i appreciate every bit of wisdom from you. Thank you. Please continue to post and blessing to your family.
This is a modern adaptation of an old, old story. A theme we too often neglect, if anyone has taught us in the first place. Don't get me wrong, that's an interesting lesson about horses, too! I, for one, needed to be reminded of this theme *today* Kind regards.
Yep. I heard Buck Brannaman one time say something like; If a horse went to bucking he was disappointed. Not in the Horse but in himself. Dissappointed that he had failed to find a way, to see a way around that horses problem, without, a fight.
Looks like she was saying ‘come on, you know you love me’ when you mentioned that sometimes there’s things you don’t prefer.😁👍🏻Good afternoon Dwayne and RA! Your words of picking one battle at a time certainly ring true for me; as I’m hemiplegic from a stroke; I’m 56 myself. God bless you sir.
So true. I was so overwhelmed the other day with stuff I need to fix, I just wrote down the list, and there were around 10 things. So I started tackling one thing at the time, instead of doing it all. Thanks God, I feel in a better place, and things are moving :)
Hi Duayne, I'm spectator from South Brasil. I used legends for translate. Sorry my English is really bad, but I trying. Thank you my friend. I really appreciate your's videos.
I owe my life to this guy right here and a guy i met and work for thats just like him, just a little older. God bless these old cowboys. They can fix a fence, a truck, a tractor, a hay baler, and even a man. Im gonna live my life to your yalls example and pass it on.
Dwayne I’m watching these amazing videos. Have posted before. Everyday empowers me. Pick the battle for the day. NOT in a book or video. One thing you and I can tackle together and fix. When I feel like we have tackled this one thing, then Move on. I have been stressing about everything for 3 years. It’s not working. I have a very primitive herding dog a belgian tervuren. He is absolutely awesome with a quick thinking brain between his ears. wants to be the boss. (Bred for protection and working) before automation and genetic research. Late 1800s Early 1900s. Thank you for this video. Overwhelmed and over powered is too much. One step at a time.
Maturity, Life lessons, lead you to this mind set.He is is right, it seems daily that there are many battles, but as you live and learn, you realize you have to let the small stuff go and even some of the big issues, But there comes a point to which you have to make a stand and deal with this issue and resolve it. Thanks Dwayne.
You always upload after I’m going through something; now I kinda just hear you first before I’m about to do something stupid, or anything. Thank you for just be you, I needed to hear your words today
You posted this at just the right time I thought that everything was falling apart and I got overwhelmed many times these past few months where I felt like I don’t wanna deal with it at all. I don’t wanna address it. I just want peace and quiet but watching this made me realize that in order to achieve peace and quiet, I have to know that in myself, I can handle these battles that are coming my way one at a time. Thank you for sharing your wisdom
Story of my life. Where I live right now there is a lot of hostile stuff going on while a lot of people are ignorant about the realoty lf it. There is a battle to fight but it ain't mine. Thank you for sharing that story.
Knowing how (and when) to strike a compromise is a vital skill. Sometimes you simply have to give in because the world doesn’t revolve around your plans or opinions. A slow step forward is better than a big step back.
My father lives overseas, and looking for advice online I found your channel. I want to sincerely thank you for the words of wisdom youve made available to so many ❤ godbless
Found this channel by chance 7 months ago, right after my son was born. As a first-time mom learning on the go and wanting my kid to grow up to be well-adjusted, content, humble, respectful and wise, I very much value what I've learned here. Momma's channel is a goldmine as well.
"I decided not to engage in that battle." That applies to many things in this life. "Pick the battle that you can win today." Just following those two quotes will solve a good percentage of all of your problems. Excellent video from an excellent human.
Sincerely thank you for getting on RU-vid to share your thoughts in these videos. Your wisdom really inspires young men like myself to be better men. I aspire to be strong, kind and wise like you are. Thank you Dewayne
Thanks for the video! What you say makes a lot of sense. I would just like to add that sometimes there is a major battle presented to you. Just because it is major doesn't mean you should shy away from it. What I am saying is; pick your battles in the right order but don't be afraid to hold your ground when the war is at your doorstep.
This came at the exact right time for the exact set of circumstances I was facing. I’m a month in at a new job and it’s a start-up. Love the encouragement to fight the battle you can win today. Thank you for your channel and counsel.
Not sure if you'll read this or if anyone will, but this is more for me in the end; I didn't get to where I wanted to or at least I thought I wanted career wise, but did land a job that is pretty good. This job carries a lot of responsibility, especially in regards to other people's lives; some times I feel like can't accept the responsibility mostly because I am struggling with my own mental health, and this feel like my job is getting in the way of the work that I am doing to get mentally better. I always wanted to be a hero, now that I am in a position where I can improve the lives of others, I fear the responsibility of it. Mostly the reason of this fear is because I am very unforgiving with myself, and any mistake can impact the lives of people. I recently got a promotion, but the stress & anxiety far outweighs the pay. I've seen this job make people cry, and end up being worn out due to the stress. For the amount of responsibility, and workload you're incurring on, it almost feels like a prison sentence working 20 years into your retirement. Not sure if this is what life is, but I often tell myself that there has to be a better way. I've been looking into learning new trades even though they don't pertain to what I studied which sucks since I am still in debt for my education. How you are supposed to know what you want to do for the rest of your life in your 20s is beyond me. Hope everyone is doing great, and figuring their lives out.
Good advice, sound wisdom, sure enough. As a disabled veteran I had to relearn how to live my life day to day years ago, I still have problems wanting to do more than I am able some days, ALOT of day's, & I have to remind myself tomorrow is another day, & if tomorrow never gets here then I won't need to worry about what I have to do that day. GOD BLESS 🙏 GODSPEED.
Thank you sir for your words of wisdom, its serves as a good reinforcement and reminder of the things that deep inside we all know...we have to change.
We're so lucky that we can listen to wise people like this man, thanks to the internet, from any part of the world at any time. I'm far away from America and probably would've never been able to listen to this man if not for the internet.
Man! This content adds a great amount of stoic calmness to my life And a great amount of Drive to become the best and most successful version of myself. Thank you for your work 👑🙏🏻
I am very impressed with his prospective on teaching. I have a newly gelded 7 year old who's nature has always been on the gentle side that I have to ready for 2 young boys to take over and in turn teach them that they need to practise patience and self discipline. I want to use a hackamore because of the severe cold weather in the winter and I know that won't stop the more interested of the two from hopping on for an after school ride. I hope I can do this right so both the boys will bond and develope their relationship with Meho and create a bond that will last long into their young adulthood. Even a retired horse craves their time with their people and just like older people there can still be rides, just a little slower and more care at the end of the ride not to put them away without a good grooming, maybe a little linament and a lot of conversation. Thank you for all the lessons you have given us !!!
A Men Brother! My back is broken in two places. It can be fixed. I wish I had the wisdom to make my health the battle to win younger. The lord has provided. You are always encouraging.
Drove through a few parts of TN and that is a really beautiful State too, at least the rural and mountainous parts. I love that part that hugs NC near Asheville, NC.
@@Original-Juice TN definitely gets prettier as you travel west to east. West TN has very few vistas. The Memphis, Brownsville and Jackson areas have the least.
