Stop using us disabled people to shield yourself from valid criticism. You only care about us disabled people when we are convenient for your argument. YES, THANK YOU ABA!!!
As a disabled person who *as has hypothyroidism and Hashimoto's thyroiditis* and is not overweight, leave me out of your argument. Because you don't care a thing about me until for the disabled, female, SA'd veteran card played. And those can be used one, two, or all at the same time. We are not to be paraded around. GTFOH.
I second this. And some disabilities are 100% irreversible, like those without legs or arms. Legs can’t grow back but overweight folks have a chance to lose weight or get surgery done. I’ve even watched videos of people fasting for 10-20+ days to lose weight, the cheapest way possible.
Like both Aba and Preach said, 2 things can be true. There are a lot of people that claim they care about fat people's health when they really only care about people looking more socially acceptable because fatness has always been deemed as unattractive and disgusting.
@@smoothsavage2870 Do some people openly say that or is that an assumption? I have never heard somebody say they want people to be healthy and fit for social acceptance.
@@DamienYuen7718 Of course nobody is deliberately saying "I want these people to not be fat because they don't fit the social norm". Nobody is going to flat out say they hate ugly people either. I've grown up around fat people and we've all trashed them. Saying "I'm going to get on fat people because I care about their health", is just a politically correct way of saying "lose some weight fatass, you look disgusting". It has nothing to do with caring about anyone's health unless we're talking about relatives that we want to keep around. We have a standard of beauty and most fat people don't fit into that, unless they're the acceptable type.
@@smoothsavage2870 If you are willingly unattractive you are open to be called unattractive. There are some things we cant control and there are things we can control in terms of attractiveness and if you choose to not be attractive, yeah, you get called ugly.
100%. As a former obese individual, you stay invisible when you're overweight but the second you improve your health and speak against obesity, you become part of the problem.
Why do you have to speak up against people being big though? That's the problem. You can't do something for yourself without putting other people down. Not everyone that's big hates themselves.
Because at the end of the day I think the Body Positivity movement, in regards to being overweight or obese, is just filled with people with that crabs in a bucket mentality.
@@hotpockets69 advocating for being healthy is "putting people down"? Get real. It's okay if you wanna be fat but you (literally) can't outrun the health consequences of that choice.
@hotpockets69 you have every right to remain stupid as is your right. It is also his right to speak out against something. You don't get to pick and choose what people can support or speak out against because you see it as a slight against someone else.
I can’t believe that one girl in the tube top is dismissing critique on fat acceptance as it being a “preconceived notion about what health is.” My girl, there’s tons of evidence showing that obesity is not healthy, it’s not preconceived!! Survival of the fittest is becoming quite literal.
Please y'all need to stop pretending as if it's all about health with this fat thing it isn't. We have literal sports that cause Brain damage literally one of the worse sicknesses you can have and not only do we not care we cheer the people who engage in such activity. I am not saying this as a puritan I love MMA but the way we act as if this fat situation is based on hypocrisy. If they wanna fight leave them if they wanna be fat leave them. Now there's still levels to this things like fighters who take headshots that they can avoid to prove how manly they are or those people on my 600lb life that is too far but most of the time the people getting shit for being big like Lizzo and Jonah Hill aren't even obese and are a lot healthier than most people
I really wish it was survival of the fittest they can UberEATS their groceries. Imagine if they forced all able bodied people to walk up a couple flights of stairs to obtain food.
The first woman deserves so much respect for being honest and actually trying to help people now even knowing she's going to get a bunch of hate from ignorant people
She is right in saying that overweight is a health risk. But I think she isn’t right in saying that people get voluntarily overweight because of a movement.
Seeing overweight people in the gym is literally the coolest thing. I have way too much respect for people that make the hard choice to forsake their habits and push themselves every other day to go through the pain, for the sake a better future. Mad respect.
Yea, most gyms I have gone to over the years here locally (pretty rural area, so there isn’t always packed gyms) has been extremely accommodating and welcoming to anyone coming in that’s overweight just as they were helpful to me when I came in extremely underweight at 105. It can feel intimidating at first, but once you get to know most there, you start to understand we’ve all got our own issues and we’re all trying to do what we can to be healthier. Like I went one time and there was a girl who was extremely buff … she talked about weighing 370 and started going to that gym and is at 200, but is real toned. She power-lifts and even helps other women going there who want to try. She talked about how she had times where she wanted to quit because nothing seemed like it was working, and some of the guys there at the gym gave her a meal plan and she was able to lose weight while still putting on muscle. I’ll always welcome anyone at a gym. Just as long as you’re not sitting there filming yourself the whole time and getting more worked up over someone in your shot more so than getting worked up over your workout, then you’ll be fine at most gyms … and I hope anyone that is overweight that is looking to go to one knows that the majority are not there to pick on you or mock you. Trust me, we’ve got our own flaws to obsess over at times. If you go a gym and there’s people there who stare and laugh and they don’t get called out for it, leave. No gym is worth your money if they don’t call that shit out.
I lost weight for my wedding. The only people who were dismissive and had unkind words about my weight loss were all the fat people I know. I never bragged about my weight loss or tried to rub it in their face either. They just genuinely didn’t like me cause I did something they couldn’t and/or refused to do.
Wouldnt do* 99% of those fat lazy asses can get healthy, but choose not to. This is coming from a fellow "former" fatty too. Theyre just fat and toxic lazy people that want to bring people doen to their level to feel better about themselves. Fat lazy fucks.
As a former fat girl who was severely obese at 17 and couldn’t walk without gasping for air and ended up in the ICU once with obesity related issues. I have been there and made all the excuses in the world but when death came calling, I had a choice to make; Lose weight or die. Over 11 years later, I think we all know I made the right choice. They are getting upset cause the truth hurts. I lost my paternal grandmother because of obesity related complications. The truth is the truth. With love❤
I'm happy to hear that you realized and made a change. It's important that we acknowledge the truth rather than considering 'obese' to be a buzzword when it's simply a diagnosis.
This makes me really happy! I'm glad you were able to make the right choice and continue living, I'm sure you have a lot of great things ahead of you. This whole fatphobic movement is really harmful for people who were like you and I hope that at least someone sees this comment and makes a change for the better. Thank you and sending much love
It's like that time Adele decided she was tired of being unhealthy, lost weight, and looked amazing, and then everyone attacked her for being healthy. Misery loves company, and they hate when people demonstrate that you CAN take responsibility and make a change.
@Ray03595 if she did I'm sure it would be catastrophic. I doubt she'll ever do that though, cause her fatness is basically the only reason she's so popular.
I loved the fat acceptance movement at first. I liked being able to find cute clothes most places. It actually helped me lose weight because I loved myself where I was but still I made a change. You can love yourself as a fat person and still lose weight.
interesting. if you dont mind me asking, what exactly do you mean when you say "love yourself" in this particular context? Is it the admiration of something in specific? if so, what is it/like what?
I had a classmate that was extremely overweight. She struggled to go from the first floor to the second and would need her inhaler while barely being able to breathe the entire class. One day she fainted and we "the class" had to call the paramedics. She died at the age of 22. Obesity is a real killer and those that suffer from it are slowly dying and many do not realize what’s happening.
@@Cee-G I mean its hard to ignore because a lot of obese people struggle to do simple task like walk up the stairs. A lot them constantly reminded of their poor health by others and by their own body ceasing to function.
My mom was an ICU nurse for over 25 years and told my siblings and me that an overwhelming number of her patients were there due to complications with obesity. She was extremely strict about what we ate; at the time, I thought it was over the top. Now I'm an adult, I am thankful she didn't indulge us.
Heart disease is the number one leading cause of death for Americans. (Cancer is 2nd) That's not accounting for other leading causes of death that correlate with unhealthy eating habits such as strokes and diabetes. Now you don't have to be heavy set to die of these conditions however it has been proven that a heavy set person would be at greater risk for these diseases and less healthy than the same person would be if they lost just a few pounds. However we do often eliminate them from our dating choices and/or say mean things simply because we find visual cues of unhealthiness unattractive. It's actually related to us subconsciously seeking out partners with more desirable genes to pass on to our offspring (even if we don't want to have kids). This goes for a lot of people with less treatable disabilities too. It's kinda cooked into our DNA.
@@kiranmkota It sort of is, even if unintentionally. She said it herself: she pioneered the whole 'big is beauty' movement, she just didn't expect it to go overboard. And sure, adults are responsible for their own behavior, but we're also easily influenced by like-minded people, to the point of validating delusion. It's a problem most movements face at some point. I gotta say though, mad respect to her for putting it out there that she wasn't proud of what the movement had turned into, even at the risk of getting blowback from that same group of people.
As a woman who went from 120lbs soaking wet, cheerleader athlete to 220 lbs after seizure meds altered my chemical balance then after 6 yrs of depression diagnosed with diabetes, pcos. I stood up and started losing weight down 185 lbs on my way to 160 then got pregnant and now back up to 200lbs .....I fkkn agree that your health is super important. I'm on my journey back down cause my health is hand and hand as important with my daughter. Please everyone get healthy. No need to deflect, let's just get healthy yall.
Thank you for sharing your story and I pray that everything you said inspired many other women to pay attention to their health and get better. I experienced similar things too from being athlete to overweight after I gave birth to my kids. I’m on my fitness journey to get back to my healthy me 😇💕
You are lose weight again beautiful woman,take care for yourself and stay positive..i tell you from my experience ,you will get whatever you want if you want ❤ greetings from Greece
We all gain weight after having a child. For some it's easier to get back to where they were before. But a lot of women struggle, your body goes through a lot of changes for years after sometimes. Be kind to yourself, try to keep eating healthy even tho it's not convenient, and he active with your kiddo. Even getting on the floor for tummy time is exercise. And toddlers keep you running the second they walk lol good luck on staying healthy and being happy in yourself ☺️
Hats off to that woman for admitting her mistakes, and attempting to share that knowledge in spite of knowing how vindictive the fat community can be. She put herself out there to save lives. Respect.
She actually made a great point of something I never even thought of. How the "love yourself" movement people are always poisoning themselves with high sugar, high calorie food but if you actually did love yourself you'd try to get to fit or at least get SOME healthy habits. You can even replace ice cream with frozen fruit blended up and it's just as good.
She seems like she might be genuinely plus size as in over 5’8” with a big frame. Some people will never be skinny skinny and that’s ok but like, don’t hurt yourself.
Yeah, she's speaking on her own experience. Idk why the reaction vids are bashing her for not mentioning that anorexics are also unhealthy, we all know that, but that isn't her situation! There are plenty of people on social media talking about their eating disorder recoveries, they should go find that content, not bash this woman for not listing each and every health problem on the planet. These same young 20 something influencers will be making this vid a decade from now when they start having problems, and the cycle will just continue. No one wants to listen to their elders.
Not too much respect. Like Tess Holliday, Lizzo, and the rest, she knew what she was doing when she was doing it. She was making money, so she did it anyway and she's keeping that money. Doesn't matter if she feels bad after the fact when she deliberately talked people down this path. I can't even imagine these activist don't know. Tess Holliday, for sure, is sleeping with an oxygen mask like so many people as obese as she is. Lizzo probably has an oxygen mask backstage she sits down with and puts on between songs. Everybody's probably under NDA to protect their images. They know what they're doing.
As a fat woman, I'm glad that my Dominican friend spoke about this. We're starting to get our health and weight in order because we don't want to be 50 and bed bound. All we ask is ya'll not fat shame us when you see us in the gym, a health food/juice spot or any other place in order to make better choices!
Whenever I see larger people at the gym I have enormous respect, the first steps are always the hardest. Even the gym bros are looking and cheering on.
I think the pendulum often has to swing to both extremes before finding a balance. Shaming fat people for merely existing or making fun of them at school or the gym definitely just makes a person depressed and more obese. I’m glad that cancel culture at least got straight up bullies to think twice about what they say. But cancel culture itself is extremist and encouraging obesity. Let’s find a middle ground lol
So proud of you and your friend! I assure you, most of us 'fit' people might be looking, but its never out of malice. It's definitely more admiration, but it also reminds us of ourselves, that any of us could be in anyones shoes, and to have respect to those who are brave enough to make change. And to anyone who stares with rude eyes, they are ugly, and no amount of muscles or weight loss will make them attractive. Keep up the grind!
Anyone shames another person for trying to exercise is an asshat. Going to gym is great. I love fitness and found the gym was not the best for my fitness jourmey. I love hiking/ walks, pilates, weight lifting , cardio . My body feels best doing a variety of exercises. Find something you and your friend love doing and keeps your body moving.
She wasn’t lying about how things hit you as you age. I was obese in my 20s and felt fine and dandy, or so I thought. Now I’m 70lbs down (so far) and I noticed there’s things I felt were normal but were just a sign of my declining health and mobility. When you live a certain way for so long you don’t question things. You get used to not being able to bend down, or take the stairs, etc. In my eyes her message about taking care of your health first is important, and in no way hateful or harmful - just honest.
This is so true and I've struggled with weight loss a long time. It's so amazing and wonderful to me how immediate some of effects of exercising, hydrating and eating properly have been. Increased stamina, energy, eliminates back pain and exhaustion. It's scary to see people celebrating being unhealthy. My aim has always been to be healthy and obesity just isn't.
Bianca N congratulations on your weight loss🎉❤ I’m trying to lose myself, tired of being tired, waking up in my sleep because my knees or hips are in pain, being dizzy and out of breath or constant heartburn. Hope you meet your goals!!
I was accused of fat phobia, (by a woman who'd never been overweight), and minimizing fat people's feelings when I shared my experience gaining 100lbs and then losing it. I was "canceled" at the time, about a year before the term came to the masses. I found it odd that when I began to lose weight, most people were afraid to say anything because they didn't want to offend me by noticing me getting healthier. WTF world are we living in now? I worked my ass off, legitimately, to get healthy again and then had to defend myself for doing so.
I can tell you in what world/time we live in....in a time where every single one of the seven deadly sins is encouraged or excused. Wether its glutony, vanity and fakeness, lust and perversion, greed etc. ...the very best of "human ego out of control" is whats promoted. Discipline? Accountability? Hard work? Nahhhh this is just "toxic"...this all just an evil "social construct" meant to oppress us...I cant with these folks.
Its the fact that adults are thinking and acting like that which makes thos whole thing even worse, theyre not children being stupid but grown men and women. Theyre gonna be in charge soon, and educate and raise the next generations. So congratulations for your weightloss!
I also lost 100 lbs. and being fat gives you an interesting perspective on the issue. It gives you twice as much distain for fat people because you know how lazy some of them are. Some of them struggle with medical issues and it’s impossible for them to lose weight but then there’s the voluntary fat people who never looked up from their plate to evaluate how their life is going.
The fact that she thinks what she says is "controversial" is scary. This is how messed up US society is. Its not controversial to speak the straight, objective truth. Most cultures never bought into this bs to begin with.
dude as a western european looking into all this stuff i think "wtf happened to America in the last 10 years" ya'll used to be modern and logical, now it's just modern
@@nazul9502 we’re in the midst of a shift that’s putting mental and emotional health on a higher platform than it’s been on. It’s effecting a lot of things like disciplinary and parenting styles, communication and work conditions, everything really. The issue is not the shift, but the fact that people who are too sensitive now have a platform. That in and of itself comes with its own slew of problems, but I’m hoping this all regulates itself in the next 5 to 7 years.
@@GumBeatingTV the west is hyper anti-intellectual. Emotion and feelings are put well ahead of data and logic. I mean data can be wrong, logic can be faulty and it's ok to identify that but emotion and feelings should NEVER take front and centre in how people operate. That's the fast route to absolute chaos.
My aunt was obese her entire life. She tried really hard to loose weight in her late 40s. She joined group fitness and weight watchers. She was loosing weight but still obese, she was trying and being consistent. At age 53 she got severe pneumonia and died. Her underlying cause was sleep apnea due to the fat restricting her neck and airways. All her organs had been compromised and could not be donated except her eyes. I have another friend who is very obese as well, I fear for her life everyday
@@Willie_Wahzoo They won't be around that long to shame you for it anyway. ''That's so dark.'' Good. Maybe it will wake some of them up into not letting things get out of hand.
Because it's real fucking easy. You gather a bunch of justifications once and for the rest of time all you have to do is repeat them often enough to convince yourself and those around you. Actually fixing your behaviour takes constant effort. IDGAF if people are overweight and want to stay the way they are. Good for them if they're content with their lives. Just don't go around lying to everyone about what it is. Just because non-overweight people can be unhealthy, or because you can have a bunch of healthy habits while still being overweight, doesn't change the fact that being overweight is in itself an unhealthy thing. Convincing people it's not is downright evil.
I'm a massage therapist. I don't judge the people on my table because I don't know what caused their weight. But, it is extremely difficult to provide these clients with deep tissue work. The muscles that need to be worked (such as in the low back) are covered in adipose tissue. I also have to stand on my tip toes (sometimes for 2 hours) and contort my hands unnaturally just to cover the whole area. It makes me sad to see them come in and know that I can't help their chronic pain. Their knees, low back, pecs, feet and glutes always hurt because of their size.
Massage therapist here too! I see a lot of overweight people with sleep apnea too and it really freaks me out when they stop breathing. I'd love for all these fat activists to try to give each other a good, EFFECTIVE massage. They wouldn't last ten minutes
It also means you as a massage therapist have to expend more energy to try to get to the deep tissue muscle and also risk injuring yourself in those sessions.
Just decline clients who are way too fat to be properly massaged and, most importantly, straight up tell them it's just not possible because the ridiculous amount of human blubber covering their actual body is simply too much to get through. Then refer them to a good dietician and tell them to come back once they're massageable again, maybe sprinkle in they probably won't because their problems will most likely be gone with the blubber.
Don't try to reason with the unreasonable. It's a lost 'cause. They will just mock your wisdom. Proverbs 29:9 If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet.
I guess she also missed the entire pandemic and the discussions around demographics most effected and the inequalities in the US Healthcare system that made it worse that were highlighted.
Makes me very sad, as a fat person, to know that that girl was harassed to the point where she had to get out of social media, simply for telling the truth and encouraging ppl to care about their health AS A FAT PERSON HERSELF. Smh
I hate when they say it's only fat people who get talked about in health settings. In school they taught us about obesity AND anorexia. And they worked much harder to teach us how to identify and report people with signs of anorexia and bulimia than they did obesity. Gym teachers told us that basketball players have had heart attacks and it doesn't matter how you look, you need to eat right and exercise.
That’s awesome! when I was in high school they did not teach that. I hope they still are!!! And while we’re at it they should have nutrition as an elective.
Exactly there was so many things back in the day address bulimia and anorexia. They made special films 4 it n everything. Showed it ppl in gym class....The only diff between now n then is the fact that there was no pushback back then. Everybody pretty much accepted that it wasn't healthy....There were no fuccking "Anorexia Acceptance" back in the day.
yup, i remember our school had a whole lecture in anorexia because some girls had eating disorders. Some people were fat too, we never had a lecture about how to help your fat friend become skinny or whatever. lol
I mean, there is talks about alcohol, drugs, STD, mental health... To say we juste talk about fat people is disingenuous. Plus, usually those issues goes hand in hand.
She expresses Shame for her previous ways, holds herself Accountable for her previous inputs, discusses and accepts the Consequences of her outcomes -- and look; they treat it as oppression, aggression, and violence. Anytime they see a woman accept one or especially all three of those things they treat it like it's problematic. Many women HATE seeing other women grow.
You can somehow get cancelled for encouraging people to live healthier lifestyles in order to avoid weight gain?!? These people would rather rant & complain online instead of trying to improve themselves.
Death: "Ooooo, an early arrival!" But seriously, there needs to be nutrition classes starting in schools and more access to healthier foods across the nation because of impoverished children.
@@summerrose8110unfortunately the movies that need mo get though, get pushed down. The love guru was a great movie teaching us the power of distraction.. guess what, it bombed. Nothing wrong with it, it’s a very typical Mike Myers movie.
I was never obese, but I have been overweight and I fell into this movement for a while and it caused me so much confusion. I would eat whatever I wanted and when I felt bad, I would excuse my eating habits by using "self-love". I would gain weight, feel bad then lose it, and gain it back because "ohhh self love" .. this repeated a few times until I finally got out of that vicious cycle 😩
What makes this crazier is about 4 fat acceptance influencers recently died from weight related complications and the people in the community still don't want to listen. And Preach mentioned it, those who responded to her ignored 90% of her points. There were so many responses and all missed the point. They are so angry every time a valid point is made. They won't listen till it's too late like Aba said cause the community keeps trying to mix body image and self image. No one is saying hate yourself or be depressed, just eat healthier. You can love yourself and eat an apple.
@@WonderfulParody you’re right I had her confused with Jamie Lopez. I watched another video that had clips from both women and got them mixed up. Thank you for pointing it out I don’t wanna start internet rumors killin people off 😅
I was fat. Now, I still kinda am, but I'm on a normal BMI now. I'm currently working on building more muscle mass while cutting fat. And let me tell you one thing. I'd rather be me now than the fatass I was 2 years ago. I get tired less often, I have a more positive outlook in life, and I feel much more rested after sleep. Live healthy, ladies and gentlemen. You will love yourself for it.
Theres a huge difference in being happy with your body even if you’re not the ideal human form, thats a good thing to accept. Its that these people dont set a standard of when its not ok, and when you need to be considering your health.
My sister is developing a heart condition at only 23. It’s not healthy and it’s so scary knowing that this could’ve been avoided. I’m currently working with her to improve her cardiovascular health by going to the gym and doing lots of cardio. She’s finally getting sleep, getting hydrated, building muscle, and most of all, her heart issues are slowly going away. I’m so proud she’s making this change because she used to be in denial about her health like these girls were. Only until she started feeling arrhythmias in her heart she scared herself straight.
When I was in high school I barely drank any water. I was very dehydrated constantly and felt perfectly fine. Eventually I took better care of myself and now I’m almost always hydrated well. When I’m even slightly dehydrated I can feel the discomfort it brings to my body. It’s very uncomfortable. Sometimes you don’t realize how much your body is suffering until you take care of it and give it a chance to truly feel GOOD for once.
This is so true. For a long time i didnt eat much healthy food like fruits or veg. I felt fine. But when i started incorporating even the TINIEST amount of fruit i felt so much better. My body was crying out for it and id just gotten used to the feeling. Now sometimes i get this feeling and immediately go "man i feel like i need some fruit"
I always drunk a lot of water and I also notice whenever I need to drink, even if it's just a small amount of water. But I never meet anyone feeling the same, whenever I ask my friends they can never refer to it. So it's kinda nice to see someone else feels it too!
@@snowsun3942 The only way i could describe it would be, You know the feeling when you are full, or when youve eaten too much, or when youve eaten somthing really greasy and your stomach can feel a bit crap? Its a bit like that. Its a feeling and once youve felt it multiple times you understand what causes it
Bro, whenever these FAs people try to place black people in the same category as being disabled, that $hit is infuriating. I just got through benching 275. Don't ever come at me like that.
@Chidiogo Ikeh 🥀🍫 That's what I'm saying. Most of Africa isn't and was never fat. Even the "fat black womyn" they keep referencing in history probably weren't fat either. They probably just had bigger hips, thighs, and asses than Caucasians we're used to in the 1700's
As a nurse, thank you for bringing awareness to this. People are ignoring the consequences of their health decisions and while it's our job to help, sooo much of this can be prevented. Stop the insanity.
Exactly! I don’t understand celebrating being morbidly obese these days. It’s like celebrating someone killing an entire case of beer and a pack of smokes on a Saturday night.
I am all for providing nice clothing for overweight people, as someone who has struggled with weight my whole life finding well fitting clothing can be difficult and when I had decent clothing I felt more confident and was more likely to go outside, go for a walk and exercise instead of shutting myself in and feeling ugly. So there is definitely a benefit to helping overweight people feel more confident, but confidence can be gained without denying reality. Nearly everyone I know who has struggled with weight the core issue was not the obesity but self esteem issues, depression and motivational issues, we can argue about chicken and the egg but generally when you deal with the underlying mental health crisis usually the weight reduces. Denying there is an issue, denying there is real longterm consequences, denying science and medical knowledge is beyond a joke, you help no one by just denying there is an issue. You need to acknowledge the issue, find the underlying cause, and then work with that person to rebuild their image of who they could be.
In high school I was a very skinny man almost anorexic. I would wear long sleeves 365 days a year. Later I got into lifting weights and eating healthy. This had the most positive impact on me.
Aba is speaking the absolute truth 💯about the health risks of obesity! At 5'7 (woman), between the ages of 25-36 I went from being overweight to Morbidly Obese (BMI @ 50%) with my highest weight peaking at 332 lbs. My labs were all off the charts (i.e., hypertension, diabetes, etc.); however, I disregarded all of that because the whole Fat Acceptance Movement was 'in' as I continued "doing me." It wasn't until I was dropping my then 6 yr old son off at school one day, and right before he gets out of the car, he turns to me and say, "Mommy, I think you're getting bigger because you keep eating food and I don't want you to 'pop' (lol) and die." The look of distress on his little face when he told me that was heartbreaking and that's when I knew I had to change. Needless to say, he is now 10 and I'm down to 185 lbs. While I still have roughly 30 lbs more to lose, I can't tell you how much of a difference losing the weight did for my overall health & quality of life. 💫
I'm proud of you. The mind is a powerful thing. You are showing your child and the people around you the amazing things one can do with discipline and determination. You are a positive light.
All she said was to love yourself no matter what size you are, but also be diligent about your health and well being. Absolutely nothing is wrong with that! I had a wake up call last summer. I was diagnosed with hypertension. Needless to say, I made a lifestyle change that very same day and today, I'm healthier and have dropped over 40 lbs. and still losing. My motivation is my children. They need me.
I used to be chubby and was tired, my knees hurt and everything else haha. Until I made a change and started hitting the gym hard everyday and lost 50 pounds.We all want to be accepted, but let's not lie to ourselves. Happy and healthy is the way to go !
Man, I'm not overweight or anything and I'm in my 30s and almost everyday I wake up there is something that hurts. So I can't even imagine what it must be like for people's bodies with all that extra weight on their bones and that fat around their organs.
@@SeethingSimp you don't know me sir but I am an English teacher, I love puns and reading and I write a lot too. Well, I never realised until now that my last name has the word ache in it. Cheers for that hahaha
jesus christ. It happens at 30???? You prolly just convinced me to change up my habits cus god damn. Thought i would have longer. i have 12 years left before to unfuck myself
You can be certain that it takes a big toll on their mental health as well. Hopefully they one day see the link between their poor physical health and their poor mental state and start making changes, instead of projecting it out on the world and blaming "fatphobia" for their suffering.
My mother in-law who is 5'7 280lbs just recently visited our family in Germany. We were so excited to show her Europe. Nothing went as planned. Almost every activity we did caused her so much pain she would need a day, to two days of recovery. I really wish I could say it's because of age but that is furthest from the truth.
i remember i went in a elavator with a obese women and she was huffing and puffing.. sounded like she could barely get air.. damn.. being obese sucks! i know i was obese as a kid.
The deflection is real. Take responsibility and stop blaming others for your own weight issues. I personally don't care that someone else is fat. I just look after my own weight and when I occasionally put on weight I get rid of it quickly. I take responsibility for taking in too many calories/ eating too much of the wrong things/ not getting enough exercise.
Fat acceptance is so destructive and evil. Be healthy and fit. Being overweight is like being a prisoner in your own body and you don’t have a clue how restrained you are until you get fit and see how much more miserable you are Moment to moment when you’re overweight. You have one life, live it well.
They seem just unmotivated to me. Going outside and walking is free. Parks and open-air gyms are free. People don't need to dish out money to work out.
Being overweight isn’t always THAT bad though? You could be 1-5kg overweight and still live a completely normal life. Being obese on the other hand is never good thooo
I’m sure you mean obese when you say overweight. That’s the part in all this over the past couple of years that have bothered me. I was seeing overweight ladies and gentlemen stop caring about their health (mainly ladies) because they had other obese friends going “yass qween” in the background. I’ll NEVER condone bullying someone over their weight, but I especially won’t condone supporting an obese lifestyle. Like someone above me said, walking is free. That shit’s so easy.
Honestly be fat if you want to but don't promote it and exercise i used to be fat by European standards at my heaviest i was 98kg at 170cm and just doing light calisthenics has improved my quality of life by 10x your body is not supposed to hurt from just going about your day Now i weigh 68kg at 180cm and i feel great you don't need to become a roided up monster or even be thin you just need to realise you are your body and take back control
I really don't understand why it has become a trend to berate others for wanting to live a more healthier lifestyle, when these are the same exact people who will complain about the same thing happening in turn when it comes to personal trainers. Just as you don't want to be belittled for being overweight, people also don't want to be belittled for also wanting to lose weight. Or maybe I just go to the gym regularly, so I must hate fat people. I don't know.
Because berating others for wanting a healthier lifestyle removes the accountability they should have so that they can live a longer, healthier life. That’s it. There’s no other reason behind all of this nonsense.
I was in a fat acceptance reddit group during my high school years (I was bullied and a nerd lmaoo leave me alone), and they were so kind and supportive up until I started losing weight. That's when the hate messages started, and it wasn't until i started finding irl friends and putting myself out there did I realize that my reddit "friends" were insecure people just wanting others to join them in their miserable little corner rather than working on improving themselves. No matter what, working on yourself and improving is never a bad thing, and while I don’t condone outwardly bullying bigger people, saying things like "healthy in every size" and "all bodies are healthy" are just objectively wrong and they should never romanticize unhealthy eating lifestyle and eating habits and obesity
Noticed something similar with Star Wars reddit groups. At first it was fun to sit around talking about deep lore shit, and everyone was always talking about fighting toxicity in the fanbase and "the fandom menace" who hate Star Wars for 'no reason,' I finally get around to watching the new Star Wars shows and they were absolutely terrible, I voice my complaints about the nonsense plot and character assassinations and suddenly I'm being called all sorts of names by the "anti-toxic" people and I'm part of "the fandom menace" (which is really just a collection of extremely different people with nothing in common except criticizing Star Wars a few times).
The woman said the truth!!! That's the problem. Nobody wants to hear the truth! I've struggled with weight for years. So taking care of myself is a big priority! And less stress helps to!
My great grandmother lived to 100 and gardened well into her 70s and only stopped because she didn’t have the yard space at the house my grandfather built. Movement throughout life is key. Never stop moving.
Also that is often sth that keeps older people alive , being able to do stuff, having a passion, or just an activity they can do. My grandfather isn't obese or anything, but once he could no longer take care of all of his animals, you could watch the life slowly disappearing inside of him. The fact that he still can do some things keeps him barely alive. Now imagine him being severly overweight. He wouldn't even be able to get up and go feed his chickens etc. He would have been dead a lot earlier. But that is sth all those influencers in their 20s don't want to hear. They wanna live in DeluluLand.
" *African American women have the highest rates of obesity* or being overweight compared to other groups in the United States. *About 4 out of 5 African American women are overweight or obese.* " -Minority Health | Obesity and African Americans I truly believe this "body positivity movement" has contributed to these very real results.
When you check carefully, you see that's also the cause for the high mortality rate of black women in child bearing. Yes, there is an effect of racism in the medical industry, but a normal healthy pregnancy should not require major medical intervention in the first place...a midwife should be able to handle it. The question is: Why are black women not having normal healthy pregnancies that don't require major medical intervention? The answer is: Obesity.
This was something that was started by BW to combat the skinny white aesthetic. Being “thick” is celebrated in black culture. I honestly believe it was started w the best intentions , this whole body positivity movement is now out of control.
I believe it may be reversed i think the fact that with those ratios more content creators in the AAW demographic were plus size and to be noticed pass their weight they inadvertently began a movement promoting to a larger audience
@@rdkirk3834 it’s not that…a lot of discrepancies in the prenatal and postnatal services received that result in Black women dying during and after childbirth….hell Serena Williams almost died and we know she’s not obese, however her concerns post birth were not taken seriously. That being said obesity is a very REAL problem in the Black community and needs to be addressed. Just be careful with correlation equaling causation…it’s not, in this particular case
I'm a small petite woman who reached close to 200 lbs. I agree with that woman! I started getting acid reflux like crazy. Also lots of headaches and turned out they said I have pre-diabetes. That and the minor things like stretch marks everywhere. Pushed me to want to be healthy. I was not feeling good at all. I wasn't doing the whole movement but I was being careless. Thank God I turned that around! Much happier now. My family isn't used to thin and diabetes runs in the family, but I don't care what they say. I always make it a point to bring up the health issues when they try to talk about my current weight. It all comes down to self control and thank God for giving me it.
This whole fatphobic shit pisses me tf off because my mom used to be a bigger women and she was always so sad and depressed and it was going to cause her to be in a wheel chair…I would never wish that on nobody… and she even agrees after she lost all that weight she’s so much happier and healthier and feels so confident and can do everything she couldn’t do before. And now we don’t have to worry about losing her at a younger age.
Yep, i still remember that feeling of being light, feeling like i can walk for entire day and not get tired. Fuck i need to loose weight again. Happy for you bro!
Good one...then to keep it off for good...is your next big challenge. ( I have kept mine off for over 25years.) Read up on Intermittent Fasting as your way to keep your blood sugar balanced and your weight in check. Intermittent Fasting helps with our appetite, To not return to your old habits....will help to stay healthy. Goodluck 🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
I have PCOS and a slow thyroid, and I started dieting and working out! I lost 13lbs in a month. NO excuses, get out there, be disciplined and let’s get healthy!
HUGE respect to that woman. Coming forward and speaking the truth isn't always an easy thing to do, especially if you're speaking out against something you helped build and ESPECIALLY in this modern era of cancel culture.
Its ironic that tiktokers dont see how something can be trendy and demonized at the same time when tiktokers are still faking disorders for views, making it still trendy while also romantacizing AND demonizing mental disorders all at once. There are some things in life that should just not be promoted/accepted, this is one of em.
100%! I am a disabled woman and I have fought through freakin hell to be able to walk again and be a part of society. I can’t go to the gym like some of you can. I have to watch what I eat and try to bring movement in when I can and on the level that I can, otherwise I will be paralyzed again. I’m plus-size yes, but I never weight over 220 and my family has the getting fat gene. 220 was the max I got to when I was paralyzed and couldn’t sit up for more than 20 minutes. Even then I watched my health. Don’t you dare to use disability to make your point when it’s convenient. Unless you go through that yourself, don’t mention us at all. Because I can tell you for freakin sure that when you lose control of your body, you will do everything to get that back. Everything. And I didn’t get sick because I was plus-sized. I got bigger because I got sick. I have a neurological condition similar to MS and Clarksons disease which makes you literally swell up with fluid. It’s life threatening actually and freakin scary and there is almost nothing that I can do about that, except take medicine and pray it doesn’t get to that place. I’m doing everything I can to work on my health to get that down again now I’m able to walk again. And the fact that some of these people use disability and health problems in such a casual way… that really is fucked up. The fact that you want to be 400 pounds does not mean you get to use us as a shield to excuse yourself. Being obese is your decision. These people are so ignorant… it baffles me. But until they feel what it’s like to not be able to depend on your body to get you places, they won’t care. But I’m indeed done with disabled people being used. Thank you Aba!
_"Because I can tell you for freakin sure that when you lose control of your body, you will do everything to get that back. Everything."_ I am 29 suffering from amnesia, cognition issues, inability to feel things or remember things from years of PTSD and CPTSD. This sentence resonates very much with me. Others don't understand or dismiss what I'm going through, and don't understand why I'm trying so hard to get my health back.
@@Un1234l yet here you are, communicating and fighting like a boss. Even when it feels like everything is falling down, you are still here! That alone means that you have won another day. And you can be absolutely proud of yourself! You are getting back up when many would have never been able to. To survive that and still fight, I applaud you! I’m sorry it took me a while to respond. I was dealing with some health troubles, but know that I see you! Know that you are not alone in this fight! No matter how ugly it gets sometimes, i know… You are not alone. In addition: So many people will never understand what you and I go through. What we and many others like us have to do to just be able to do the normal things. Walking up the stairs feels like I have already walked up at least 10. Yet I get up, do my thing and even managed to get back into college this year. My doctors told me in 2016 that I was done. I would never be able to work again and would be sitting on disability checks for the rest of my life. I was paralyzed in both legs and bound to a wheelchair in agony every day. I’m 28 now btw. I sure as hell showed them 🤣. I did not accept that that was the end. The truth is, I might not be able to finish. I might lose more function permanently, but that fire inside that keeps you going is stronger than anyone can predict. Don’t let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do. You are the one who can set those boundaries or decide to cross them. In this day and age, the options have become much more achievable. Even if my body fails me tomorrow and I do end up back in that wheelchair, I can still accomplish a lot of things. It will be hard, but with adjustment it can be done. You have more power than you think. Just know that and carry it with you if you ever are ready to use that power. For now, you are already absolutely killing it! Trust me on that! Lots of love from the Netherlands ❤️
Years ago I messed around with a woman that was overweight. we discussed it and she said that her doctor said physically she was ok, her numbers were good, etc so i said ok In 2-3years she was complaining about her blood pressure and pains. I tried to tell her that in your mid 30's (and before!) you are slowly getting worse unless you work at it. slender or fat, you HAVE to work at your health or you will seemingly fall apart there is no one who is very overweight who has a good quality of life as the years go on. Either they have lost weight, or they died: Monique, Big Pun, fat Joe, Gerald levert, Anthony Anderson etc
I appreciate her for being honest. Coming here as an African I was shocked with how much people let themselves go and blame American food and even soul food as being the cause. As if you can’t eat the fried stuff and increase the veggies. No one mentioned people with medical issues, if you’re overweight and capable loose the weight if not for yourself for the children you one day want to have and watch grow old. Even the disabled people watch what they eat smh. There’s literally RU-vidrs eating to death for views and money. IT IS A DISEASE
I have to disagree. Soul food and the large portions of it are a large cause of obesity among African Americans in the south. Increasing veggies when eating fried food does not offset the fact that you ate fried food. Large amounts of fat are a big part of southern cooking.
3:06 when the hell did she say any of that?.. She never said she was “mad” about having more fat ‘content creators’ Literally all she said was being fat is extremely unhealthy, and it’s being glorified and made to seem like no big deal, when in reality, *it is* a very big deal esp later in life
I'm 26 5'1 and was 199. I couldn't do it, i couldn't handle the thought of breaking that 200 pound barrier. I have 2 kids and it got to the point where I couldn't pick up my 4 year old without feeling out of breath and having to set her down not even after a full minute. I couldn't handle the thought of not being able to pick up my toddler anymore. I've now lost 30 pounds and can handle picking up my daughter way better and still working towards my 130 pound goal. Please if not for yourself stick around for the ones who need you most in this life 💜
As a person with Thyroid disease, and have been struggling with my weight due to it, I can honestly say there's not a day that I regret trying to take care of my health. Even people who are disabled do their best. It's not insulting to try to be your healthiest
@MetalGearPuff and that's WITHOUT there being a movement trying to tell girls looking like her is healthy. BTW, your comment is being hidden on RU-vid. I can see it in my notifications, but I can't see it in the comment thread Edit: based off of comments below, it would seem there ARE pro anorexia movements because of course there are 🤦🏽
My dad was an obese man till the day he died. Well before his death, my brother and I both clued into the fact that a lot of his behavior was suicidal. That, "Hey if you eat like that you're going to die much sooner" sounded wonderful to him. All addictions are a slow form of suicide. Is it a question of what food the people have, or which people are eating it?
That's what I'm struggling with, I can't have a healthy body with a suicidal mind, I don't know where and how to start, I'm too young to have these issues
It could be a chicken egg situation. Trying to make positive changes and hit the gym (we all love that you are there!) will show if it is actually mental.
@@ud3mare When I was in highschool, I started getting fatter and more depressed at an alarming pace. It occurred to me that I had WAY more control over my weight than my depression. So I figured, I could be fat and depressed, or just depressed. Life is all about picking the prison you can most tolerate. You could be imprisoned in a failing body that nobody wants to look at, with the "freedom" to eat whatever you want. Or you can be imprisoned by a regular healthy routine. You can't have a healthy mind with a failing body. It's hard to dream and hope when simple motion and endurance is out of the question. Most of your hormones are regulated by your fat and gut cells, when you're too fat, those cells mess with your head. It's not vanity it's chemistry. Start with your body. When I got my weight under control, my mind naturally improved along with it. Btw check out "Atomic Habits" by James Clear. Laziness and procrastination are a human's default settings. Willpower is a finite thing per day. You don't get things done by eliminating your laziness. You get things done by harnessing and working with it. When you're depressed, it's easy to get distracted on what you can and can't _feel._ Focus on what you can and can't _do._ Feelings won't be very helpful guides till your frontal lobe grows in. And for your suicidal thoughts, try "The Myth Of Sisyphus" by Albert Camus. Sisyphus was a bad MF. It's a tough read, but worth it.
My Grandma was very obese. She lived up to 70, but her last 20 years were more surviving, than living. At the end she couldn't play with her Grandchilds, had to buy a stairlift and couldn't fit in the car anymore. One time she fell in the shower and neither herself, nor her husband could help her standing up, so she had to call two people, to help her in this vulnerable situation. At the end she died because of the consequences of her obesity. We loved her and that's why we wanted her to change, but it was too late.
That life is line "life is gonna move you or remove you" hit home. Mf Preach my dudes. My great aunt growing up was 450+. It's a miracle she's lived this long tho I wouldn't really call it living. Take care of yourself people. You deserve to be happy and healthy.
I applaud her for having the humility to admit she was wrong. Very few people, especially when they are in the public eye in some way, own up to their mistakes. She's also 100% right. Last year I started to notice pain in my knees from climbing stairs. I'm 29 years old and, at the time, was 'only' 30kg overwheight. Still, I was feeling the effects already and that was my wake-up call. It's pretty telling that all the reactions are from people, who seem to be in their early to mid-twenties, so basically the exact age group the woman was trying to appeal to and they're completely shutting her down.
My cousin is one of those disillusioned individuals the first girl spoke about. We were at her for years to get healthy, she instead sought acceptance with these crazies. She has tried to change her lifestyle recently. She was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. She can barely walk and is in the hospital every three months or so as she's having a hard time breathing and has to have fluid taken off. She regrets all of this madness, but I'm afraid it's too little, too late.
The fat movement needs to go. I believe body positivity are people who don’t have limbs, mobility issues, cognitive issues or disability but manage to stay fit. My co worker lost one of her breast to cancer. But I think it’s very inspirational to know she’s trying to stay fit and walking without prosthetic in public. That’s the true definition of body positivity
@@jeSuisbar THIS. Body positivity is for those who has deformed physical appearance or disabilities. NOTHING to do with obesity. These people hijacked it and made it all about themselves
I have been bigger since puberty and continue to struggle with my weight. I have NEVER been under the impression that it is good for me and healthy because it’s simply just not! And this whole argument that we only talk about health when it comes to fat people is just insane! Like you said we talk about health so much and there is just as much talk for the health issues with to being super underweight.
Exactly. Fat people don't *hear* the talk about underweight people because that is not *for them.* But it definitely happens, being under weight is literally no better than being way over. And the people that need to hear it, do.
One of the earliest "fat-fluencers" I can remember was the actress Monique. She single handedly told a generation of girls its okay to be fat "Phat". Now can't stop posting on Instagram every time she shed a pound. I'm sure those girls who grew up regret taking her stance & wish they took their health seriously before the health problems & wasting their prime years being obese and struggling to lose weight in their 40s, 50s etc.
I remember getting cussed out because I brought that up when she did a body reveal after she initially dropped weight. Folks wanted to say people are allowed to change. Which is true but she refused to acknowledge how she behaved, what she excused and encouraged. That’s my issue. Sure, grow and change. You’re supposed to. But part of that growth is acknowledging where you were wrong.
Aba n Preach, I’m physically disabled from a genetic disease and can’t work. I’m in pain head to toe 24/7. I’m 30, and can’t remember a time of no pain. I grew up skinny. In high school to 26 I weighed only 115 pounds. Overweight people gave me so much crap about being skinny, and saying because I’m skinny I must hate fat people. I have no gained weight and now I’m 155 pounds. I no longer look like a skeleton. I hate people using disabled people as a fing shield! It pisses me off. I’ve lost great friends to being overweight. So please stop using us disabled people to protect themselves. Also, I take opioids for pain. I take Percocet and methadone and also Klonopin to keep pain in check, but I have had to deal with the opioid crisis making life harder for me, because I need the meds to just kinda have a little less pain.
As someone who has been fat, skinny, fat, skinny, fat. Let me tell you there is nothing better in the world then picking out a shirt at some random place and being able to fit into it without your fat hanging out.
As a bigger person who used to be small, I can tell you everything in my life has changed for the worst when it comes to health, as soon as i heard "pre diabetes" from my doctor I started to change my life style, and my body just feels so much better during this process, I even get better sleep...always love yourself, but it's not healthy
was it just food intake or did u also need the gym? I might start going to the gym and just doing weights. I dont like cardio, and i just wanna use the gym more to sink some time in.
@@honkhonk8009 it was food 1st and i pounds dropped especially cutting back on sweets, then I added walking for cardio (hate cardio) but mostly for my joints, but when I added weight training the pounds fell off plus weights get your heart rate up like cardio without the treadmill
I am a Nutrition and Exercise Science major. I’m currently a Jr in college. And the amount of disease and risks you have from being overweight alone, let alone obese, is crazy and people ignore the signs until it’s too late. They’re more likely to die early, heart problems, diabetes, you name it. What makes it worse is that they are all preventable for the most part. And people just hate to actually work for a healthy lifestyle if they don’t have a fast metabolism. It’s terrible.
I have a DIAGNOSED thyroid problem and 100% I HATE when they say that people with this issue can’t be healthy and thinner. Bruh I struggle everyday to maintain a healthy weight but it is completely doable and is not an excuse for someone’s laziness! So frustrating!
I'm 6'7, after graduating college and not playing basketball anymore I stopped working out and ate and drank like crazy cuz it was the pandemic when i left. I went from 230 lbs to 290 lbs and lemme tell you. I was 23 years old when i reached that 290 peak and I felt like shit. I couldn't sleep, I had GERD, and looking at myself in the mirror just made me depressed. It's a year now and i'm back down to 260 with just simple dieting and not drinking. I'm a start working out again but I can attest that obesity is not laughing matter at all.
Let's go baby, I'm 6'1 and went from 230 to 285. I'm sure you hold the weight better than I do because of your height, but last time I weighed myself I was down to 275. 250 is my goal for now and then I'll move the goalposts once I'm close. I have the same shit, I would glance at the mirror because I didn't like looking too long. I would look at my old photos and go "Goddamn I was good looking, I should've taken advantage of that more with the ladies" but I'm working out and even though my diet isn't perfect, I'm cooking all but 2-3 meals a week for myself and taking it 1 month at a time. I'll assume you're like me and hate running so if I can offer some advice, I'll say combat sports are a great way to get fit and have fun instead of running in a straight line looking at nothing.
as an 11-year diabetic. I wouldn't wish it on anyone
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I am 5 foot 3 and I was 240 pounds in 2017. Even being 100 pounds overweight had started killing my health that year, I spent most of my time indoors, and half of that crying for the pain my body was going through. I don't think I was respectable either, as I wasn't respecting myself to begin with. I got gastric sleeve surgery and lost 100 pounds. gained 20 back and I'm maintaining that 80 pound loss for 5 years now. if I gain even the least bit of weight that I see lowers my mood, I take care of things. I promised myself I will spend the rest of my life maintaining the new person I am now. I wish every people with the same goal to make it their reality. I'm thankful that I'm healthy.
My therapist says loosing weight is easiert than maintaining it I lost 90, holding it pretty good. Still loosing a bit. 1 pound every 3 months I havnt found my new normal yet. Dont wanna Slip into being too thin. Im trying to cut and bulk. 💪💪💪 bulking is way harder than loosing weight. That was kinda easy
Also just want to say this heavier weight on a shorter frame is more noticeable and it manages different than if the person who is taller has the same weight so it's more difficult to move when you shorter with the weight.
I have a friend over their in the the states that also got gasttic sleeve and. Lost like 150… but i think they have it back. Ergo proof it is Not so easy to maintain. Ergo much much respect for the struggle and the W in maintaining 5 years and counting Keep up the good fight, i hope its fun. Coz thats the trick so motivation Discipline is a finite resource, but fun is endless. Overcoming and discipline eventually run out and need refilling but fun. You can just maintain endlessly for me that was the biggest W in the process and the time after that, the last two years, it’s just fun to eat healthier to be more mobile to look in the mirror. It’s just fun and and us. It’s almost no effort at all. Almost, a little bit of discipline is needed. Atleast to remember why and get that motivation back. But its not a serious or frequent thing The bulking that takes effort and discipline, and on days I don’t feel like it Much strength and power and discipline and fun to us both 🙋♀️
I'm forty and all the excessively overweight friends my age and older family members I had that didn't do something about it are now dead. This is no joke, fat acceptance is a fail.
Its a damn shame how some peoples mindset is to blame it on something else and to never accept fault. My step brother was born with low functioning autisum so he'll never have a real life. Meanwhile my parents give him pills that affect his weight and his bipolar disorder. 20 something years later and he's 430 lbs 22 years old still getting chips, mcdonalds and wendys every weekend, they shallow fry EVERYTHING IN OIL and only give him processed shit. They dont listen to me and I can only hope he dies soon cause he is suffering internally, externally and unable to speak his mind in understandable words.
Making a kid/mentally disabled person fat should get you put in jail. What a horrible thing to do somebody. They rely on you and love you and you turn around and do something like that to them
The “you can be trendy and demonized” hit me hard. I told myself years ago I was gonna let myself gain weight and still be a bad bitch/hot girl and then I’d go to parties or meet people and noticed that being fat/obese was really only popular online. I have a nice shape but I can tell that the people that take fitness seriously aren’t checking for me. I’m in my 30s and in the real world everyone is worrying about health concerns or already have them. People are dating for partners who are fit and will live long. I’m making better choices but I still love to eat carbs and starches lol and I’m an addictive personality. It’s been so hard to lose weight at this age btw, I’m even considering taking my birth control out cause I think the hormones aren’t helping either.
The thing about difficult obstacles is that when you overcome them, the sense of accomplishment and satisfaction is off the charts. Also, positive progress and momentum will keep you motivated. Keep at it!
