PLOT TWIST?! How we Really Feel about Becoming Parents, Fun Weekend in Nash! | Julia & Hunter Havens 

I love that Hunter said seeing you as a mom will be a new attraction he has for you. It is so important to remember how much your woman goes through to bring that baby into this world and reminding her how beautiful she is, is so precious. I’m so happy for you two ❤

You should press some of the flowers, if you still have them! They would be so cute for a baby book! 💙💙💙💙

The sleep is definitely a hard adjustment, especially if baby will be breastfed. Every kiddo is so different and you never know how it will be until he is here. It is definitely instinct and you will know what to do right off the bat. That is the biggest thing that I realized within myself, is that I have good instincts especially when it comes to my son. Asking for help is the main thing especially Julia, for the sake of your mental and physical health, it’s important.

My first baby is 19 months and just got pregnant with baby #2… one thing I will say is, don’t listen to people that make the newborn stage sound miserable 😂 every experience is different but my son has actually been super easy and it truly is a precious time! I hate the mindset people try to throw at new parents where they tell you you’ll never sleep again haha it is a beautiful journey!

Your face Julia when Hunter made that sweet comment about you being the coolest mom was so heartfelt and priceless I’m beyond happy for the two of you! You both are going to be such great parents that precious boy is blessed already and so are the two of you!!

You guys seem like such solid people with great communication, a big love, considerate of each other’s well-being. You’ll be amazing parents to your baby boy! The truly worst thing about having a newborn is being overtired and therefore irritable and stressed(aside from the hormonal shifts and healing your body after delivery.) Finding shortcuts like securing yourselves ready-to-eat balanced meals and having people to help clean/do laundry. Do not underestimate the amount of laundry with all kinds of leaking that happens from mom and baby 😅 ESSENTIAL: always asking for help whenever possible: even if it’s a family member or well rested friend to just sit and watch the sleeping baby/the monitor while you catch up on sleep without panicking to check on your baby every second.(maybe that was just me! But like they’re a miracle you’re obsessed with them and worry all the time to make sure they’re good!) Like you, Julia, I was blessed with a supportive partner and he really stepped up from minute 1. Don’t overthink anything and enjoy every second of the newborn bliss when the time comes ❤

I knew it was a boy from the get go!! Booker is going to be the sweetest big brudder 💙🐶💙

I became a mom at 23 and the biggest thing for me was being a team with your partner. It’s easier said than done. Mom will make a ton of sacrifices but so does Dad so it has to be equal. Remember to take turns doing things, not just one person doing everything. Don’t forget to take of yourselves. 1000% finding a good healthy balance. ❤

The number one tip I would give for new patents is go with your instincts. If you want to cuddle your baby to sleep. Then do it in the safest way of course. Get a very comfortable recliner/recliner/ rotating chair and your are set! Human babies are totally helpless. None of that crying out stupid mentality is gonna “spoil” your baby. They need love. And mamas always know best!! Never doubt that instinct with your baby. Even when experts tell you other wise. Everything else will be depending of your baby’s temperament and then you’ll adjust accordingly. You’ll probably have a very calm baby. I have that feeling! ❤

I know this is a tip for a little bit closer to the due date but I wish we had prepped healthy meals like things we could freeze and throw in a crockpot/oven for a couple weeks while we adjust! Sending you guys so much love, patience and confidence in your new journey as parents! It’s such a fun new chapter! 🤍💙

I just had my first baby in December the one thing that you can do now is prep freezer meals!! Having food prepared is legit the most helpful thing in the first couple of months and I wish I spent more time doing it.

Loved that you talked about your goals for the week! Thanks for including us! It has motivated me for the week! WOOO! Hope you guys give us an update on how you did next vlog! Cheers!

I think the biggest adjustment is the newborn stage when you’re stressed and overwhelmed and happy and exhausted. That is the biggest time of change and adjustment. It’s hard but it’s so good. Just make meals in the freezer to have when you need them, sleep when you can, naps are wonderful, and make mental health a priority. So excited for you guys!

I don’t know if I’m the only one that feels this way, but I definitely don’t think you can prepare for the sleep deprivation. It will be tough, but you can do it and we’re all here for you! Once baby comes you guys will get in a rhythm and it will come naturally. Especially for momma, you’ll never fully be asleep pretty much ever again and that’s just our instinct, we hear everything! Love you guys so much, can’t wait to meet baby boy 🫶🏻✨

IM SO HAPPY FOR YALL!!! I love you so much 💙💙💙💙💙 y’all are going to be the best parents!

These guys are my fav!! Who else hits that 👍 button before the video gets started?!?! Put out literally the best quality content and put so much work into them! And can we say how awesome they always deliver by adding links to so many products and clothing?!?! Which is such a huge help! ❤

Congratulations on the baby boy! New mom over here, and I would say the hardest adjustment was the sleep… it’s tough!! Just hang in there! and honestly shocked how much babies eat and how quickly the amount jumps from month to month! As much as you can try to prepare you can’t, however as long as you have a supportive partner you guys got this! Love your videos!

I have 3 adult married children that have young kids, so I’ve been there when grandbabies were newborns. Plus I can clearly remember bringing home my babies. So I just want to pass along some new parent “hacks”. You’ve got time to complete the baby’s nursery. Having a changing station in your bedroom for the first few months while baby sleeps in your room with you is nice of course but having a nightlight that you use in the middle of the night is wonderful. A device of some sort that rocks baby that is plugged in so it keeps going without stopping until you stop it. Since nursing a baby is an ‘art’ it’s important to be calm, relaxed and comfy when baby is nursing. Have daddy bring you a nice beverage and put your feet up. Enjoy bonding and try to stay in the moment. Drinking a lot of fluid helps prime your body to make milk. One of my babies wouldn’t latch on because he was distracted by every little thing. I finally took off my nightie, turned the lights down low and laid down on my side to nurse him without any distractions. Only had to do that a few times until baby caught on and didn’t want to miss out on a drop of milk. Then I could nurse him in any position I liked. The best advice I got from my husband’s grandmother on nursing successfully in the beginning was to not introduce any nipple other then your own and don’t give up. You have everything your baby needs in your milk, it’s the right temperature, it’s convenient, no bottles to wash. Once nursing is fully established after 6 weeks, then you can introduce an occasional bottle of your milk that you pumped. A good breast pump is important. Make up your mind that you are going to nurse your baby and don’t listen to people saying he’s not getting enough milk or he needs some water or a pacifier. Those actions will deplete your supply. Mother’s milk doesn’t usually ‘come in’ until day 3. So baby will be fine with just your colostrum (liquid gold)until then. Read now about how to successfully nurse a baby. SLEEP as much as you can because you’ll wish you had once baby arrives. You’ll do great Julia because when you make up your mind something is important to you, you get it done. Nothing is more important than giving your baby the most nutrient rich start in life that only you can give him. 💙

Things that helped me (I’m 31 and my son is 21 months old) I was done with the nursery before he came (I know people say it’s not important but it made it so much easier because I felt like I had no time after he was here to do it) preparing my hospital bag was major by the time I was 33 weeks. I’m anal retentive 😂 also we took the taking cara babies sleep class (this was the biggest thing I would recommend, it helped us create a proper schedule for us and our son. This class helped us figure out how to get him to soothe himself to sleep and he’s been sleeping through the night ever since which is a dreammmmm come true) having everything setup and prepared helped ease my mind. I had my bedside table prepped with a diaper caddy. I had the bassinet setup next to our bed. So when we got home with him that first day it felt weird but also calm because we had setup and prepared before hand. Honestly it felt like a little vacation because my husband was home for 5 weeks with me and we created such a beautiful time together. Enjoy it for everything it brings! 🤍🤍

My husband and I are also eating really clean and laser focused on health. We have been most of our lives but now really focused. We just turned 60 and living our best life. I have been watching Bobby Parrish's channel FlavCity and he is awesome with all the clean eating videos. congratulations on your baby boy. We have five grown children and the number one thing you have to do is take care of yourselves. Do not give up the self-care, but cherish every minute because is goes soooo fast. You are entering the best part of life. We are now empty nesters and loving our new found freedom but miss our kiddos everyday! BTW...Sleep when baby sleeps!

Omg so happy for y’all! Cannot wait to see this next chapter of your lives unfold! You are truly going to be incredible parents! 💕 PS I love when Hunter wipes the camera & makes that sound - makes me laugh every time, brings me back to quarantine!

It’s so fun to get to watch you guys become parents 🥰 at the same time that my husband and I are just starting the same phase of life. Never feel bad about baby content cuz I’m eatin it uppppp

ALWAYS give juj the 4-7am sleep stretch. It’s invaluable ❤

A baby boy.. Congratulations.. Your love and excitement is precious..😀😀

I love how you both keep me in check. I'm very healthy continuance most of the time but love hearing you both talk about staying on track. I can't wait for your little baby to arrive. I'm so happy for you both you deserve it. 🫄👶💐💕

Absolutely love that mind set. I’m 26 and I have always gone back and forth with having kids, but you both opened up my perspective. Especially you Julia bc I’m around your height and always feared carrying a baby, but you make me feel more comfortable about it one day. Love y’all xoxo

So happy for y’all. In my experience you cannot really prepare but I will say in these last months, enjoy quiet time, EAT OUT, hang out with friends. I always said I’ll just take the baby with me … but it’s not the same.

So beautiful! I said boy the whole time! 🎉💙 yay! Also- I love your friendship with TT. You’re so cute & sweet together.

Congratulations on baby boy!😌💙 I'm excited for you both to share, if y'all decide to, this part of y'all, as I'm a mom of two and its always great to have community in that. Becoming parents will definitely be humbling and change your hearts in a good way. You'll love in a way you never have to your significant other and love for the baby. Remember you can't take care of baby if you aren't taking care of yourself first! Also, use your resources, if you have friends/family or those medical emergency hot lines!

I know the photos will be beautiful!! Congratulations on the baby boy❤️

Congratulations!!!! The pictures are beautiful ,You guys will be great parents❤

Just like another person said, you can prep and prep and you just don’t know until baby comes because they truly are all so different. I think it’s good to try to be go with the flow mentality. Sleep deprivation is hardest to adjust to. Maybe taking shifts with waking with baby. With the first we took baby everywhere and tried to be out of the house. With the second, I’ve tried to keep more of a routine with naps and keeping to a schedule.

Congrats! I am 31 with an 11 month old. My advice for going through that first year… Everything is SO temporary, that includes the bad/hard. Enjoy each other the most you can, and individually. Your life won’t end and you’ll still get time, but it will be different. Enjoy the get up and go at your leisure❤ try not to listen to the “just wait” comments… I was terrified of losing sleep and the struggle of being tired…and then my baby came out sleeping through the night since a month old 😂 also, getting yourself new treats for in the hospital and postpartum (favorite lotion, new comfy clothes, any type of mood booster) is helpful and fun for YOU, since life is about the baby so much that first 1-2 months. It’s such a beautiful experience, and the love you have for that tiny human is unlike anything you’ll ever know. Enjoy it ❤ congrats again!

I think you you guys have a great mindset going into it! It’s definitely different when your in the driver seat! How much love your going to feel for this child is goin to flood in and you will do anything for that baby doesn’t matter how exhausted you are. You both will fall into a deeper love when you see each other as parents its so amazing! give yourself grace the first couple of weeks and be in the moment which I think you guys are good at, just enjoy it because he’ll never be that little again! It’s hard to see past the sleep deprivation, take help when needed and if you can do night shifts! There’s no reason that both parents should be sleep deprived! 💙💙💙

My number one tip, I had 2 under 2 is to go with your instincts as a mother. Do less prep and research. Don’t worry about what the “experts” say you should be doing with your baby. Respond to love, love them, hold them, sleep with them, rock them, kiss them etc. do what feels right to you. It’s your baby and no one else will know them better 🤍 soak it all in bc they grow up so fast. They’re only little for so long

You two will be the best parents for sure ❤️

Love you guys! you both are going to slay as parents !

we knew we wouldn’t be able to workout together anymore (except weekends if grandma comes over or something) but it’s been an adjustment to lose my gym partner and have almost separate routines in a sense. We now have to compromise who goes in the AM vs PM. It’s more so tough for me bc I feel like I don’t push myself as hard without him 🥲😂 just something random I don’t hear a lot of ppl saying. As for prepping, making dinners or even just pre chopping sides + blanching veggies and freezing them is super helpful when you want to avoid eating poorly bc it’s so easy to get everything cooked up super quick. Congrats you guys!

Love your videos! ❤ please do an updated morning routine and more grocery/what we eat for the week videos! I run out of ideas 😅

Trout salad 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥. Baby Havens is so blessed and lucky to have you two as parents. ❤❤❤ Praying for full protection over you mama!

When I had my twin daughters at the age of 26 my husband and I swore that we’d had our baby plan/schedule figured out. We were so, so wrong! My best advice is to prepare to go with the flow and gently transition so that you can actually enjoy the time of new change and live in the moment with your new life and family ❤

I cannot get wait to see you both flourish as parents!!! Your lives are about to be rocked for the BETTER!!! God is good!!! Sending love and peace your way!!! ❤ XO

My biggest prep is having TWO changing stations. One in the parents bedroom & one in the living room. Since those were the main rooms.. & it’s in a basket.

awe loved how you closed your vlog...wishing you the best times ahead with your soon to be baby peanut

Congratulations on your precious little one 💙

Love your vlogs!! 💗

Ahhhhhhhhhh I loved seeing the behind the scenes of the gender reveal it was INKREDIBLE as Julia would say💙 I can totally relate on the healthy snacks topic, and I would say check our Costcos freezer aisle. They have good little things you could put in the air fryer for 10 minutes and go.

I swear nothing can truly prepare you pre baby. When the baby comes being sleep deprived is so common and all of the things you planned on doing may not even work for you. Don’t beat yourself up. Taking care of yourself is first priority, take all the help you can get and enjoy those baby snuggles! Excited for you guys❤

Love your house! Congratulations on the baby boy!

29 year old mom to 1.5 year old, and I’ve been watching you guys since before I was even pregnant, I’m so excited y’all are entering this phase of life! Tips - be patient with eachother and support eachother through the breakdowns (they will happen😅), look into taking cara babies for sleep tips and tricks, go on as many date nights as possible before baby comes!!, & even though the newborn phase is hard it’s also a time where their schedule is actually flexible so don’t be afraid to leave the house! I also had a boy, you’re both going to be obsessed❤❤

I am so excited you both are getting a baby boy! They are the best. 💙

Super “Goal” Sunday! Lurve it!! ❤

So excited for you guys 🥰 My tips as an almost 30 year old with a 3 year old boy: as much as you want to give up your selfishness and care for someone else, make sure you don’t give up your own self care and the things that bring you joy. It may be hard to see in the moment but it’s so important. It’s natural for your whole life to be consumed by a new little one but it can be hard sometimes to find yourself again in parenthood. Also, the perspective that has helped me the most through parenthood, is on the super hard days with lack of sleep or an upset baby, just remember that whatever you’re going through is only temporary and things will get better ❤️ you guys are going to be amazing parents!!

Ok congratulations on baby boy Havens .. !! 😊 I know you will have a baby shower but I’m so excited for you all to buy the baby a few little outfits. Take us with you shopping!!

I knew it was a Baby Boy! Congratulations 🍾

Number 1 thing I wish we did was just spend more time doing things the two of us. And now that having a daughter for a year, I’m really happy we set up healthy sleep habits because she’s a great sleeper! I, excited for you guys because you are already such a great team and I know you guys will do amazing ❤ very excited to see you guys in your parenting journey

when spinner came on i cried absolutely beautiful 💙 congratulations

Congratulations to the both of you! I am so excited that you’re having a baby boy. May the good Lord continue to bless and keep you in His care.

Can we take a sec to admire how BEAUTIFUL Julia looks! Are you joking me!!!!!!!!! STUNNING! Congratulations, y’all!

I clicked on this so damn fast lol definitely excited about this vlog even though I already saw it on insta that it’s a boy.

Hunter missed the perfect opportunity for another nickname for Booker with the red collar…PAWtrick Mahomes 🤣

Love you guys!!!

I just love y’all!! Congratulations on baby boy 🤍 The gender reveal shoot was everythingggg! 😍 Tip for new parents, routine and schedule!! My son is 3 and we’ve kept a sleep schedule since the beginning! It’s important. Some may disagree but I do not break my sons schedule for many things if any at all. Those quiet times while they nap, or bed time, are important for parents too 🫶🏼

Congratulation on the baby boy!👶💙🙏

Love date syrup as a sweetener in my coffee, def try if you haven’t already!!

Set up everything before. Have stations around the house, stock up on everything. Diapers, wipes and everything like TP, paper towels, etc...and the food I think is the hardest. If you can prep before great but I know that you want to cook food fresh and I think that is going to be the hardest for yall. BC we just stayed cozy and relaxed and rested during the day BC the nights were a bit rough at times. It does go SO fast and then you blink and they are eating solids and they are 1. ENJOY it. SOAK up the cuddles they are the best!!! Excited for yall!!

We’re both 33 with one heavenly three year old, and an earthly 19 month old and here are some of the best tips I’ve received or would give - 1 Enjoy your baby - don’t view them as something you have to be doing but instead a nugget you get to be loving on . Such a gift, obviously, but being sure to do things with them that you’ll enjoy doing too. 2 Kind of hand in hand with 1, but putting your baby into your life rather than changing everything about your life to fit your baby (obviously not talking about eating or sleeping schedules). Use your baby as weight when working out, take them on hikes, let them drop the fruit in the blender, etc… 3 Remember that everything is new to them so what feels like monotonous daily life for you is a whole adventure for them. Going on Starbucks dates (we love these), grocery store outings, trying new parks - these are all brand new for your baby. 4 Sleep. Sleep. Sleep some more. Getting on a schedule is admirable and i totally get where y’all are coming from, but schedules/habits are formed and then your brand new nugget comes and you’re up throughout the night and just sleeping when you can, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get on a good schedule yet. That’ll happen naturally in the first few months. 5 Cuddle that puppy! We love our first baby little pup Pepper, but she definitely gets less attention these days. 6 Accept help from any family or friends who want to watch your baby. Even if that just means you going to take a nap. So happy for your guys, sending all our love and prayers and good energy to y’all! Such an exciting new chapter!

I just love ❤️ these guys

Congratulations 🎉🎈🎊 You will be Great parents 😁❤️🥰

Mom of two little blessings, and honestly, every experience is so different. Get ready to take a couple of lines or chapters from everyone and write your own book. Baby H will create an entirely new routine for you all. "Let's Go"🙏🏾🥳

Love!! You are so beautiful. Congratulations on the precious little one.

The one thing I would change is having frozen meals ready for the newborn stage. Make meals and freeze them because it is so hard to cook when you are exhausted plus needing to tend to a newborn 24/7 for the first couple of weeks.

You both are going to be amazing parents 😊❤❤❤

hi! i’m 23 and my daughter just turned 1! just wanna start by saying becoming a parent is the most amazing thing and biggest accomplishment! the beginning is very hard but so amazing. sleep deprivation is real, i was awake for the first 3 days of her life. it’s so important to ask for help because that first week is just a rollercoaster of emotions that i wasn’t prepared for. no one told me how emotional it is to birth your baby and feel like you can’t protect them as well when they are out of your belly. i had the baby blues and had never heard of them before. these things are so common for postpartum. having a supportive partner and sticking together is how you will get through it but it’s so beyond worth it, happy for you all 💖

You can get advice but it’s true every body with new baby is different. I had 3 boys and not one slept thru the night. That changes soon, but it’s overwhelming going thru it. I thought it was so sweet when Hunter said he’d see you in a new way when the baby comes. Neither of you have seen the love you’ll have for your baby and the love you’ll have for each other will be awesome to see. Also the love you have for your dogs is a good sign of what good parents you’ll be. Plus you both have amazing parents and families, I’m so happy for both of you.

I love this chapter of the Havens 🫶🏼

Taking a prenatal class really helped me feel more at ease. My nursery wasn’t 100% ready before my twins were born because they arrived early and that stressed me out so if you can get it ready early and stocked with all the necessities. Also, if it’s important to maintain your healthy eating lifestyle, I would prepare a simple menu to get you through the first couple weeks, otherwise it will be tempting to order via meal delivery services. Y’all have got this!

Continue to be the great team you seem to be! It’s VERY important for the dad to step up and support mom, especially during the breast feeding journey - if it doesn’t go to plan. My husband was instrumental in my mental health during the hard newborn phase. You lose a lot of sleep, but, if you’re a team, you can incorporate breaks amongst each other, to a certain extent. Be mentally ready for things to NOT go to plan, don’t get hung up on a plan. My baby just turned 2 months and I’m just starting to feel like myself again bc she’s sleeping really well (I’m lucky) so I have much more energy to workout etc. If your baby is happy and healthy, newborns do sleep a lot so it’s just a lot of sleeping and eating. You can feel like you’re in a hamster wheel for a bit but remember it’s temporary. You both will be excellent parents and you’ll find your way quicker than you think - a lot of child care is very instinctual. You can research all you want but the main thing is the experience and your instincts will kick in. Best of luck ❤❤❤

That photo shoot brought me to tears💙🫶🏼lol

Epic bars are my go to snack!

Your going to be amazing parents ♥️♥️♥️♥️

Congratulations Julia and Hunter !;)

I love seeing you with your friends so precious and loving and sweet

Congrats again ! Love the blue top. Where is it from ?

Well im a married 27 year old boy mom they are 7 and 5....I think the sleep deprivation was difficult for me. Congratulations again so excited for this new journey for you two!💙

before baby, get sleeeeeeeep you will never get it the same again especially Julia, watch a movie because it will be difficult later, going out to eat for a nice dinner because that will be hard as well. but always trust your mommy instincts when people are giving you advice, you know best.

The biggest support from my husband was that he made sure every morning he made coffee and breakfast. He also tried his best to give me 30 minutes a day to shower or just unwind. #teamwork and just remember it's the first time you're both parents give yourselves grace.

I'm obsessed with plain Greek yogurt with ranch seasoning. I like to use it to make a chicken salad or as a dip with some veggies and sometimes salt and vinegar chips .. so yum

I’m 28 with 2 littles (4yrs & 2yrs) and I wish I slept more in the last trimester and rested during the days with the naps before the babies came! I woke up early and stayed up late naturally because my body towards the end was preparing for the wake ups 🥲 it’s the hardest adjustment but it’s just a season ❤️ the best part is having a husband whose super supportive and hands on!

3 words. Moms On Call. Buy the books. Game changer. Gave us a routine, taught us all the little things no one teaches you how to do & makes you feel like you’ve got a grip on things being new parents. Their sleep tips WORK

i had my baby boy june of 2022, and i’m so excited for you guys to have a baby boy, they are THE BEST!!!!!! 💙💙

The “coolest mom” moment made me tear up lol ily both🥹

One thing that I did with both of my sons when they were babies I limited my baby talk with them I spoke to them as if they were anybody else I of course did a little baby talk but when I spoke to them it was like they were going to respond back. I've always told my sons that and when my son turned 17 today he thanked me for doing that he says he thinks that's why he's so well-spoken and smart. I always felt that baby talk makes them think that's how they're supposed to speak and may make them have speaking issues. Everyone's always told me that my sons seem very mature from a very young age

Taking Cara Babies was key! You’ll hear that you’ll never be able to sleep again but you will def adjust and lean on each other to switch off w/ baby so y’all can each rest. Schedule a newborn shoot when baby is 3 weeks old Meal train with friends/fam for first couple of weeks was so nice. We did a huge Costco & TJs run before baby was here too🤍

You guys might have mentioned it already but where is Bookers Collar from???? I LOVE IT! I’m struggling to find a decent collar for my doggos active energy 🥰

Hunter, where did you get those glasses ? I like them !

My parents ate super clean growing up and obviously fed us the same. No junk. At times it was frustrating because being a kid you see your friends eating doritos and other "yummies" for lunch, but I am so so thankful now. I am in college and home cook almost all of my meals and eat clean. They also workout every single day which definitely motivates the whole family. I couldn't be more thankful for them raising us that way, so I really respect and encourage putting that at the top!

We’re 26 and have an almost 4 month old. I have just a few tips! 1. Give yourself lots of grace for the first month. 2. Play to each others strengths. Who’s a morning person? Who is a night person? Choose someone to feed in morning or night including diaper changes ect. 3. Make it a goal to each shower once a day😅 it’s nice alone time in the beginning and a time to take deep breaths. 4. Look into if you want to “sleep train”. We do baby wise sleep/ feed training and our baby sleeps through the night and both get to workout multiple days a week and get back into the hobbies we have ❤ we have a boy too! Excited for y’all. ALSO meal prepping and freezing food!!!!

I new it !! Yay congratulations boys are so good🎉boy mom club xoxo

Beautiful you two💙